Watch This if 2024 Was a Hard Year For You (5 Lessons)

[@tenpenthouse]

Only commenting after the first second, but I'm so sorry for your loss Elliott. My Dad died in 2024 as well. We can grow and recover together

[@lunacouer]

My dad did too, and then my childhood best friend's dad died last month. How did your holidays go? We were mostly proud we survived...and glad we never have to do that particular first again. I hope you made it through relatively ok (meaning not ok is perfectly fine lol).

[@bianka94825]

I lost my mum to cancer in the summer of 2023. Watching Andrew Garfield talking so eloquently about the death of his own mum helped me processing my own grief unexpectedly. Theres an interview w him thats even more heart shattering than this one with Elmo. I am so sorry for your loss❤️

[@rosebroady6618]

I'm sorry for your loss, cancer steals family far to far fast. Grief is a weird thing, it makes you reconsider who and what you are

[@yllowjcket]

It feels like so many people are struggling with grief right now. I sincerely wish anyone reading this right now a better go at 2025. There was a lot of pain this year, but i found some hope and i wish that for you too. Best of luck, and please dont forget to treat yourself kindly!

[@dylanstapleton4962]

Thank you so much for speaking about this so honestly

[@Frau.Kanzlerin]

My mom is gradually dying of ALS. It's awful to watch her lose herself. I would love a video on anticipatory grief and how to fight it, if you have the time. 😢

[@maybeinanotherworld]

So sorry for your loss. 2024 was a phenomenally difficult year for me too, albeit for very different reasons- my mental illness relapsed in quite a big way this year but I think it's a testament to the support I've had and the growth I've achieved that I'm able to look back on all that happened and not hate myself for it. There's quite a lot of shame that comes with negative experiences, an overwhelming feeling that you should just "do better" and "stop inconveniencing everyone", and I think it's likely that to some degree, that will never go away, but I'm going to hope for better days for myself and everyone I love.

[@frerejacques4391]

Thank you for sharing. May we all have a 2025 where mental health is a priority ❤

[@johnrichards2640]

Thank you for this. I lost my mum in 2024 too. Much love and hope for 25

[@SofiaPLikePhoenix]

Free hugs for everyone 😊❤❤

[@RCanadian]

Hello Elliot. My condolences. It isn't easy losing one's mom. It's one day at a time. One cannot ignore grief but has to pass through it. All your feelings are valid; it is best to experience and reflect on what you feel and why. 🤗 I still have not returned to my love of reading and writing since I lost my husband (it will be two years this coming April). I do some of both, but not at the level I once had. I am moving forward as best I can and on the mend. Thanks for sharing. Take care.

[@BK-pd1sq]

I lost my mom back in June of 2024. Nothing was harder than this holiday season though. Thank you for making this video; there was a lot in it that I needed to hear.

[@ellesaaltjejenneke5400]

Sorry again for your loss

[@lorettacrooms4398]

Enjoy the journey! So sorry for your loss. My parents have both passed. So I can understand some of your struggles. But in the midst of your grief I see you becoming more kind, empathetic and sympathetic ❤. Blessings

[@Hawkeye9165]

Just wishing you well. My dad died 2 years and still struggling with it. Had a very unpleasant Friday when I did the usual getting up, etc and then started work and looked at the date time to suddenly realise it would have been his birthday and I'd (sort of) forgotten. Also although it's brutal, discovered the song Monsters by James Blunt same day (random youtube pick). Amazing song and very impactful music vid but at the time is destroyed me for half an hour or so. Best wishes, hope 25 is way better. :o)

[@veteranclean94]

I've been following you for a while now and I have to say, this has to be one of your best and most useful videos I've ever seen. I've loved your reaction videos and maybe it's because I'm going through a very challenging time myself but this one hit different.

[@Nephistophelies]

Hello, Dr. Elliott. Thank you for all you do. I hope this new year finds you with much peace, comfort and love. You are appreciated and add so much to the world through your profession, videos like these and much more that is unseen, I’m sure. I’m very sorry to hear about your mom. May she rest in peace.

[@TribicalFonzo]

Elliot, I am so sorry for your loss, it’s true that it is completely okay to miss somebody and as you’ll know, grief is different for everyone, so I hope that you move forward in the best way for you. I hope that you know that you’ve helped so many people, myself included. I have ADHD and (in the process, still to be officially diagnosed) OCD and potentially ASD. It’s tiring every day for me physically and emotionally - but watching you just explain everything that I’m going through helps me to feel calmer with myself, that my own struggles are not my conscious choice and that I’m not alone in them. And I’m not alone in the help you provide - I’m sure you’re reading through the comments now and many people are saying the same, and it’s true!! You are a doctor and psychiatrist for a reason and the reason is exactly this; you help people, and it can be hard to appreciate it, but you should feel incredibly proud of yourself. And listening to your video today, you clearly (not surprisingly) have a great understanding of what you yourself are going through. It’s brilliant to see, despite the struggles. I know that you will be able to help yourself, you have a clear plan, and I hope that in helping yourself you can feel the same gratefulness that we all do. Take care now, we love you and your family and wish the best for you all. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@stmr394]

Thank you for this video. I saved it so I can refer back to it again. I’m so sorry for your loss. I can relate a little bit. My dad has dementia and has been declining rapidly. It feels weird to be struggling with grief while he’s still alive. Watching a loved one decline with dementia is soul crushing.

[@mihajloobradovic8209]

Excellent video,it would have helped me if I'd seen it at the start of 2023 but since then I kinda learned everything you talked about and made extraordinary progress in my life.Great video and I'm sorry for your loss.

[@simonedesousa3140]

Doctor Elliot, I am so sorry for your loss

[@chriswright5230]

Very sorry for your loss. Exact same diagnosis, prognosis and timeline happened with my friend's dad. All very surprising and shocking. Sending love and support.

[@rafaelgarcia5797]

I got let go from two jobs in 2024. I finished the year surviving using my savings. I am living with my parents at the moment. I have no job currently and am working to get one. Life looks pretty bleak and it's hard sometimes to stay positive, but I know that if I focus on the bad things in life, that's all I will think about. I have to belive that things will get better, and if they don't, then at least I have to belive that it won't always stay like this. I'm trying to focus on the things that I can control and not let things out of my control bother me and I'm also trying to express my emotions rather than bottle them up like I used to. Another thing I'm trying to work on this year is to talk to more people and not alieante myself when I feel like a failure. Ultimately any negative thought I have of myself, I'm trying to prove myself wrong by attempting to do what I tell myself I cant do or am not worthy of doing.

[@Tania-xu7xe]

💜💜💜🥰🤗 Oh so sorry. My heart goes out to you.

[@sarahhollands5218]

I have really appreciated this pair of videos. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@mangantasy289]

Second comment, but I can relate so well to what you say about your nephew. I have two nieces (2 and almost 5) and they are very very dear to me. I absolutely love spending time with them, see them happy over the smallest of things. But I would also never visit them when I am in a "bad" state. I just want to protect them so much from all that what I feel is so "wrong" about me. That said, I'll see them this sunday. And since I was so sick over the holidays, they will get their presents only then. It was a real bliss to chosse these and I see forward to their reaction when the receive them. These little gems are so precious to me... And absolutely can be good role models to live life a little more, to value the moments and little things. That's really something children can teach very well.

[@johnkim6447]

Sorry for ur loss Dr Elliott

[@ayerhead07]

Your videos are always so comforting to me, but this one was almost hard to watch. I'm in the exact same boat. 2024 was already the hardest year of my life with my husband developing some very scary health problems and a few other really hard things. Then my dad went into the hospital at the beginning of October, and within 6 weeks he was diagnosed with late-stage pancreatic cancer, went into hospice, and died right before Thanksgiving. My dad was older than your mum, but I'm 35 too. I'm also my dad's POA/executor, which puts a very logistical wet blanket on the emotional aspect of the whole experience. There are some complicated family dynamics, and my mom (somewhat recently divorced from my dad) keeps asking me when I'm going to reschedule all the many things I postponed while my husband and dad were sick. Tattoo appointment, my own hysterectomy, and on and on. I just finally went to my rescheduled dentist appointment yesterday and that felt like a monumental achievement. I'm not in the same paralyzing fog that I was in November, but the mental load is truly crushing. I'll be following along with you and we will do our best together. The one truly incredible thing that happened in 2024 is that I learned how much of a found family my husband and I have built around us. We don't have any blood family nearby and I always considered myself kind of a loner, but goddamn do we have a community who showed up for us again and again. 2025 is the year of cultivating and nurturing those relationships. If we did this much by accident, I can't even fathom what we can do on purpose. Sending love to everyone who is struggling. We got this.

[@rebeccac6464]

My mum also died in 2024 I'm sorry for your loss

[@Kellydancer-333]

I've only recently discovered your channel, I enjoy your videos and insight. Especially this video 👏🏻👏🏻

[@paesitopaez4302]

This was very insightfull and moving as well. Thank you so much Dr. Elliott for your honesty, I really do hope we can have a killer 2025. Sending you a big hug and the best of lucks for this year🙌 Ps: I'm kinda glad someone else was as wrecked by that Andrew Garfield video as I was😢

[@ianoulton177]

Genius.

[@jemdax]

Wow Elliott you are such a good soul I love your content and wish you a stellar 2025. ❤

[@tonyburton419]

Seems you have at last absorbed ACT processes in part. 😊

[@CleoHarperReturns]

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