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[@pulpted9937]

I texted my best friend “my mortician told me to tell you I love you” and now I’m receiving multiple wellness checks lol

[@rroes7319]

That's mean! 🤣🤣🤣

[@HotTakeAndy]

Whoops

[@JennaVago]

I’m dying🤣

[@Wistful77]

That's why I didn't do it. 😂

[@grrrlykat9]

It makes you sound rich, that you have a personal mortician on standby.

[@MichiHarp212]

"He can't see without his glasses" traumatized me enough that I made sure my mom brought my dad's glasses for his funeral after he died a few months ago. He needed to look like my dad.

[@eileenmcdonald1599]

I made a big deal about picking out the suit. Shirt and tie. As well as the hankerchief. And tie clip. And the shoes and socks. Mortician.. Did put everything on I wanted. No questions asked.

[@1rage17]

I’m glad my dad wanted to be cremated.. I don’t think I could handle a whole funeral, picking his last outfit.. my dad was a free spirit anyways he didn’t want to be stuck in the dirt he wanted to be anywhere and everywhere.I miss u papa

[@MichiHarp212]

@@1rage17 We did actually cremate my dad, per his wishes, but had a visitation and service first so we still had to go through the whole process. It was rough.

[@alexl.9602]

@Brittney Harper, You're stronger than I. I couldn't bare to say two goodbyes like that. Couldn't even with my dog. But I do feel a sense of something was forgotten or missing(besides then of course). Do you feel you got more closure doing a viewing before cremation? I'm sorry if that's too personal of a question! I just wonder if maybe that's what I'm missing.

[@MichiHarp212]

@@alexl.9602 It's not too personal at all. My dad was a social butterfly and did a lot in his life. My brother, in particular, felt it was necessary to let people come say goodbye to him and celebrate him in a way that honored who he was as a man. Nobody in the family participated in a viewing right before the cremation so we said our private goodbyes after the service and then left for the wake and got his remains back after everything was done. He had a stroke about 6 weeks before he passed with a pretty unsuccessful attempt at recovery before bilateral pulmonary embolisms took his life. His final day was pretty traumatizing because of all the medical interventions that were tried at the behest of my mother. The funeral home did a beautiful job of making him look at peace and I do think it helps that my final memory of his face wasn't as traumatic as his final night alive.

[@amandaj1367]

One of my best friends died in first grade and my mother refused to let me go to his funeral. I never got over that. So parents, don't lie to your kids about death. They won't forget, even 30 years later.

[@Naixatloz]

On the last weekend of eighth grade, my class went on a camping trip. We got home on Sunday, and my best friend came off the bus to the news that her dad had died. And that was my first real encounter with death. at least that I was old enough to understand or care about. It had happened around the time we were on the ride home. The moment he died, we were probably telling jokes or talking about music like normal teenage girls, none the wiser, and something about that just really fucked with me. My friend and her mom said I could go to the funeral, and I wanted to, but my mom wouldn't let me, and no, I haven't forgotten it.

[@brendar9363]

@14 my best friend ended his life while I was hospitalized having an appendectomy. I couldn't go and I have carried that guilt for my lifetime. Sorry we have a similar grief bond.

[@privard89]

My best friend's mom (who was basically my second mom) died when we were fourteen. My mom told me I couldn't go to the funeral and that she would want me to be in school instead. My mom is a wonderful woman but I still am deeply saddened that I wasn't there. I should have been there.

[@CatalinaFOIA]

😢 I'm so sorry. My daughter attended her 1st funeral with me at the of 6. I always try to normalize very real tough subjects. Age appropriate of course.

[@jamalbrown2770]

The exact same thing happened to me in second grade. I found out that my best friend committed suicide in what I feel was one of the worst ways: watching the evening news.😢 And although I begged to go pay my final respects, everyone said that I was too young. I’ve never forgotten that, and it still hurts me to this day😭😭😭

[@ElishavaMusic]

My cousin died in a car crash a few years ago, she was 26, and 9 months pregnant, her baby died too. Seeing the two of them lying in the casket together was heartbreaking. Morticians deserve so much more appreciation.

[@graciousme2258]

So sorry for your loss Elisha

[@ElishavaMusic]

@@graciousme2258 Thank you so much

[@anna-katehowell9852]

I have a severe peanut allergy (the kind that can kill you) and showing me My Girl at age 6 is how my genius parents thought was the best way to explain it to me 🤣

[@agent57]

Nooooo

[@grandmasgopnik9642]

Omg that’s like a way more extreme version of when my dad showing me Poseidon the day before we went on a cruise. Never before was a child so glued during a safety briefing. I can’t imagine them being like “THIS IS YOU ON PEANUT 🥜 “

[@petradegroot3578]

Oef😅

[@bsidethebox]

Oh God. Takes me right back to my first solo airline flight (at...12?). Inflight movie for some insane reason was...Outbreak?!?? (Ebola breaks out in multiple places including ON A COMMERCIAL FLIGHT). It...did not help my flight anxiety. 😬

[@staceydougherty4031]

But did it work? Lol. Because being traumatized seems to be a great idea when it comes to parenting. 😂😂😂

[@DamnWhoAsked]

When the world needed her most, she has returned.

[@frankiefranklin9761]

Yaaaas ATLA reference

[@tinas_hotdog_sophie]

with the best vid idea

[@breakeverychain7]

Our prayers have been answered

[@kaycep6819]

I felt the same

[@angelaneethling7008]

Amen to that!!!

[@KimberlysCreative]

That last line.."Don't worry about Thomas J, my mother will take care of him" had me bawliing everytime....

[@rachelleticzon7362]

How can Thomas j’s mom be so calm after that line

[@KimberlysCreative]

@rachelleticzon7362 I think she was in some sort of depressive shock over his untimely death. I mean any parent would be, you know? It was a sad situation for his mom, for Vada and for both families.

[@musicfeedsyoursoul8070]

I think the “ crying immediately upon hearing the news” in movies is more accurate when it’s an expected death. At least in my experience, when it’s expected I’ve gone straight into the crying phase at the news. But when I got the news that my best friend had unexpectedly died, I just kept staring in shock and repeatedly saying “what the crap?”. I was completely devastated, but it was like it couldn’t even process what was happening so the tears didn’t come. Now I cry for her all the time, just writing this comment is making me cry, I miss her so much.

[@snackbarqueen]

I know exactly what you mean, I recently lost my mom unexpectedly and my daughter was the one who told me.. all I could do was say " No ! No ! No ! " over and over again.. instant denial, I was in such shock that I didn't cry until I saw her with my own eyes.. it still somewhat doesn't feel real, it's been 2 months and I still pick up my phone to text her almost every day 💔😞

[@yungdracula1068]

When I found out my best friend died, I went on a thirty minute long drive down random roads before pulling over in a random neighborhood and screaming "what the fuck" as loud as I could over and over for like three straight minutes. I don't remember the drive there or where I was. I was just in shock and absolutely horrified at how he'd died. I wish it had been some dramatic, hollywood-esque sobbing. Instead I probably traumatized the construction workers down the street forever.

[@valbea9958]

Agreed. My only, personal, experience with death was when my grandpa passed away when I was 11. He had been in the hospital for about 2 months at that point, it was at the stage where it could be any day. I was just in the living room, dancing and doing my whole 11yr old thing when my dad (not related to my grandpa) came out and said he needed to talk to him. I literally remember the first thing I asked him was, "Is he dead yet?" (Crude translation of Spanish, my grandpa was my favourite person). He tried to be roundabout about it, but once he finally told me I just remember sobbing and telling him that he was lying. We didn't get to see him (I live in Canada and couldn't go back to Peru due to being between visas). It stuck w/ me a lot tbh

[@TehBuggy]

I found out my friend passed away right before going to work (a chef at the time). I hadn’t reacted much and it didn’t really hit me until I accidentally burned the gravy, and the other cook asked if I needed a hand. I remember blurting out “I burned the gravy and my friend died this morning!” and finally bursting into tears. Grief is just weird sometimes.

[@FucU4ever]

Guess what?? Ohio has passed laws for human composting!!

[@vallisdaemonumofficial]

I'M UNBELIEVABLY EXCITED! SO GLAD I'M FROM OHIO

[@Charlotte66666]

Fantastic news!

[@ninalove3044]

So has New York!!!!

[@MorgueVOID]

That's some gross shit

[@jazzbrokenstumpurie]

Yayaya! So have NY! I'm so happy for your state, I'm hoping for my home state of Maryland to come through as well 🌻

[@Cunnilinguistics69]

I haven’t seen this movie before but “he can’t see without his glasses” made me break down in tears. When my grandma was sick I started to knit a schal for her because she was always so cold, and when my mum told me she’d passed my first reaction was “she can’t be. I haven’t finished her schal. I’m not done.” Finishing it took almost six years because I couldn’t knit after that, I just kept thinking about how cold she must’ve been whenever I saw a pair of knitting needles. Grief’s weird like that.

[@kme]

Something similar happened to me with my husband's gran - I was working on a tapestry kit she'd given me when I was in the hospital 18 months before she died, and then being there *when* she died... I was in total denial, saying I hadn't finished the tapestry kit yet, she *couldn't* be gone. I'd almost finished it too. It took years before I could even look at it again, but I eventually finished it. Haven't done anything with it yet, but... It's done.

[@torigroves1048]

I also started crying when that happened I gotta finish all the blankets and other things I’m crocheting for people 😓

[@davida5617]

Memento Mori. The best you can do instead of putting it aside is to honor it by finishing it. Embrace death, because she definitely will embrace you sooner or later

[@christineg8151]

I was knitting my grandmother a pair of socks when she passed. They were about 3/4 done, and I not only couldn't bring myself to finish them, I couldn't even bear to take them off the needles so I could reuse the yarn. I ended up sending them to a friend who knits who wore the same size socks, needles and all, so I wouldn't have to look at them anymore.

[@PeachPlastic]

I'm so glad that you managed to finish the scarf eventually! It took me two years before I could open the bag of my grandmother's clothes, and another before I moved one or two of the pieces to my wardrobe. It's an apropos depiction, I think, of how grief very slowly integrates itself into our lives. The loss has never become any less shattering in the last six years, but having held on to some souvenirs is greatly comforting, even though it's painful.

[@ldb10812]

My dad took me to see this movie, when I was nine. It was the first time I cried in a movie theater. I had to excuse myself to the bathroom, to collect my nine year old self. When the movie was over and we went to lunch, we had our first real conversation about death. It was traumatic and a bonding moment between us. My dad died three years ago, at home on hospice and that conversation played in jy head on a loop. It helped in a weird way.

[@andyny29]

My 12 year old neighbor died in an accident when I was a kid. The viewing was open casket. The mortician(s) did an incredible job. She looked like an angel and it’s something I will never forget. 😢

[@OhMJB]

"He can't see without his glasses" hits so much harder as an adult that now has experienced death and grieving. When my grandad past away when I was in college, there was a viewing of the body at the funeral. When I went up to say my goodbyes, all I could think when I looked at him was, "What did they do to his eyebrows? Those aren't Grandaddy's eyebrows." My grandad was known for his huge, bushy, long eyebrows - they were whimsical and so expressive! He'd even been stopped by a photographer in a grocery store who asked to take portraits of him, because they were so striking. But when I was looking down at his body, his brows were trimmed and neat and tidy. After walking away back to my seat, I sat next to my older brother and repeated my thought, "Those aren't Grandaddy's eyebrows." And then we just both started crying. Grief is just so strange and makes you focus on such specific things. Also, not saying the funeral home messed up his eyebrows. Since he'd been declining in health he had been in an assisted living place and they kept his brows and beard trimmed. It just wasn't how we'd known him, not how we remembered him.

[@squidgesaurusrex3974]

I know how you feel there. When my nan died and I was given the chance to see her before she was cremated, they had put a little bit of makeup on her, including a rather shiny lip gloss. I never remembered her wearing much makeup at all, let alone lip gloss, and it's one of the main things I remember from the entire day. It threw me completely and I felt unsettled, but grief does that to you anyway I suppose.

[@amiblueful]

I went to a wake as a child and they actually did put the glasses on the deceased because that's how people knew him.

[@johanvajse8410]

that line made me ugly cry at the theater to the point I had to get up and run to the bathroom. Still to this day I can't hear "Where are his glasses? He can't see without his glasses!" without tearing up.

[@amidthephantomsrose]

I feel the same way about this scene. For me it was my grandma's funeral. It was an open casket and I remember staring at her and thinking she was still alive and just napping. I kept staring at her, thinking that she was still breathing. when the funeral home was done and we're about to close the casket, my aunt flung herself over my grandma's casket and started screaming "don't go mommy! Don't leave me!" And she refused to let go. I remember sitting next to her and trying to comfort her and then the grief got too much and I got pale and began sobbing to the point I couldn't breathe.

[@ladyrepunsel4567]

@@squidgesaurusrex3974 thanks for mentioning this, my mom has not worn any makeup since the 80’s due to religious choice and now I’m worried some funeral home will make her up weird (for reference she is currently battling stage 4 bone cancer so unfortunately it will probably be sooner than later) now I’ll know to mention her preference if my dad decides to go with a funeral route rather than cremation

[@scottielise]

"I'm going to go eat some cookies... because I'm not feeling particularly upbeat." I feel like this should be my general out of office email reply.

[@TheVerucAssault]

I just ate cookies. I watched that movie two dozen times when I was a kid. 30 years later and I'm over here bawling not from watching it again, but watching the Mortician watch it again. Ugh.

[@emilynelson9174]

My fh had a family that lost a toddler to covid. I remained professional and respectful talking to the family, preparing her for layout... but when it came to placing her in the tiny casket, adorned in a fluffy dress with her favorite stuffed animal under her arms, and crayons between her fingesr, alongside some of her art in the casket...I totally lost it. I was relatively new to the industry and I'm sure it won't be the last heartbreaking situation, but over 2 years later, it remains the most outstanding one.

[@jeanettevandiver945]

My best friend died when we were 5-years-old by being strangled in a lawn chair. Just suddenly she was gone. The adults talked about her funeral, then told me I couldn't go to the service. I begged them to let me go see her one more time, but I was forbidden. That left a huge hole in my heart and a longing I didn't understand.

[@ktevans881]

My mom was a beautician in the 70-90's. One of her long-time elderly clients had it written into her will to have my mom do her hair and makeup for her funeral. My mother was so honored; she said it was simultaneously the most emotional and most beautiful thing she has ever done. Feeling my mom's emotions second hand (I was a child) has always stuck with me so strongly and effected the way I view death.

[@Iuxinterior]

that’s seriously so awesome, not only to be trusted with her final appearance for her friends and family but that your mom saw past the “omg someone i know who is dead” and realized what an honor being directly involved in someone’s preparation and burial is

[@ktevans881]

@ᓚᘏᗢ right! I think that was a pivotal moment for me realizing how awesome my mom is - the family expected her to come home an emotional wreck from the expirence, but she was super at peace. She said she was just happy to know that her Henrietta felt beautiful. 😭 I cry just remembering!

[@Critiqu3]

That's so wonderful and touching, thank you for sharing

[@realitysabsolute]

That is so beautiful & awesome. When I was in College for Cosmetology we actually had a day trip to one of our local funeral homes due to this same reason. In our small town many beauticians would be asked by their long time clients to provide services upon their passing. Our instructor showed us the importance of the relationships made while in the industry and the great honor that can come from providing such loving care after ones passing.

[@cathyhunnemeder3064]

THAT makes me cry!

[@laurawillits176]

My husband died in October. We were married when this film came out. Caitlin, thank you for your work. This channel helped me deal with my love's death, with washing and dressing his body, and getting him ready for cremation. When the mortuary people took him away, he was wrapped in a quilt his mother had made him, holding a Winnie the Pooh she'd also made, wearing a shirt i made for him when we were first together, comfy pants, and the socks i knitted for him last Christmas. His sisters were there to help us, both before and after he died. It was a painful time, but strangely holy, if that makes sense. I've got his ashes now, and a whole bunch of little glass bottles, so all his friends that want to do so can have a little bit of him. I'll be sprinkling little dashes of ashes at our favorite parks and other places. Not exactly ordinary funeral rites, but what he and i wanted. Thanks again, Caitlin.

[@GabdeVue]

There is so much loss and love, so much consideration in what you write. I want to be able to do the same for my loved ones. I am so so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing these deeply touching experiences. The idea with the little glass bottles is beautiful. There is so much love.

[@tokiarven]

I lost my partner September 2021, we were/are both fans of Caitlin. I remember thinking about some of her videos while I was going through the grieving process, and you're right, how helpful they are. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you are getting by as well as you can, I know how hard it can be. It's been over a year for me and I still think of him every day. I carry his ashes in a locket everywhere, alongside a little silver feather charm, as we loved birds and had nicknames for each other surrounding that. Those personal touches, the unusual funeral rites and ways of remembering them...they're so important.

[@Wildflower-xe8sn]

Sorry for your loss and thanks for sharing your beautiful end of life story. Thank you ✌💜

[@kirabirb3365]

I’m so deeply sorry for your loss! All my love to you

[@Khakasa]

🤗🤗😢💕

[@Soilfood365]

Never seen or even heard about this movie before. When Vada cries "Where are his glasses? He can't see without his glasses!" I started crying. I should definitely watch this film in full. While thoroughly hydrated, for safety purposes.

[@Natthealleycat]

The, “He can’t see without his glasses line” always made me go “Huh?” Until my mom passed. I talked to her like she was still here before they took her to the funeral home. Grief makes you do things you never thought you would.

[@janetilmann5305]

When I was told my closest childhood friend had died, the exact words spoken were “she’s gone”. I had no idea what that meant. “Gone? Gone where? I didn’t know she had a trip planned.” That was my thought process. It makes total sense that a person would need to process that kind of information before reacting to it. What a great actress.

[@Songo555]

I had the same reaction to my FIL's passing. My wife picked up the phone and said he's gone. I said gone where, to which hospital? It still rattles me.

[@jensmith4005]

I volunteered for a grief support program for children-teens. We were to always use the word "dead/died so they would understand the permanence of death.

[@catstreat9434]

Sandi Brock is a KZbinr who posts her sheep farming activity. She lost her best friend to suicide. When they told her "Amy's gone" her immediate (concerned) reaction was "Gone where? Let's go get her!" 😞

[@MaternalUnit]

That must have been so hard. As the mother of five-year-old, when my FIL was terminal, I read what Mr. Rogers said about talking to children about death. His most important point was to tell children the truth and not use any euphemisms that will confuse children, who think in literal terms. You must use the word "died."

[@AnnieE2013]

I had the same reaction when my father's mother died. I was 10 (I think), and my parents told me that she'd "passed". I had no idea what that meant....My comment was, "we don't have to let it ruin our weekend." Clearly, I didn't understand the concept of death. I did pick up that my father was upset by my comment but didn't truly get *why* until later. I beat myself up for years over this "thoughtless" comment until I got older and realized that it wasn't my fault. Parents, PLEASE explicitly talk to your kids about death and what it means. Children are stronger than you think - they can take it if the concepts are explained properly and age-appropriately.

[@myettechase]

“You don’t get your money back, it’s a funeral home!” had me rolling

[@Fartowski]

😆

[@theangrygamer1008]

Actually you do when they give you the wrong ashes and don't notice for 3 weeks. But I'm sure that only happened to me

[@PetraElliottCreates]

It all goes in the ggggggrrrroouuunnddd

[@azuradawn5683]

@@theangrygamer1008 Omg! I'm so sorry you went through that!

[@DarkPrincessAly]

If you want to react to another movie surrounding death that will leave you in a weird mood, Miyazaki's Grave of the Fireflies is always a classic. Plus, you get an opportunity to talk about death in Japanese culture, which would probably be a fun research journey for you! And you get to judge animated corpses.

[@flayful]

+1 ❤

[@nataliebyers1052]

Yes please do!!

[@SouthCountyGal]

My husband was stung by Yellowjackets at a job site back when we were newly dating. He hadn't known he was allergic to wasp venom; he nearly died. When he came home from the hospital the next day, shaky and grey from head to toe, my roommate suggested we watch a movie together while he rested. She then pulled out her favorite movie ... My Girl. She had forgotten the bee part.

[@hrfme3667]

Man the glasses scene breaks my heart every time. At my mom's funeral the makeup artist didn't really do a great job. The biggest thing was she was missing her signature red lipstick. She didn't look like herself at all and people were even upset by it. Finally my aunt, my mom's best friend, grabbed some from her car and put it on for her. I totally get her meltdown now.

[@theprousteffect9717]

Anna Chlumsky and Macauley Culkin are so freaking talented. Child actors don't get enough recognition and respect.

[@cyd3716]

Because most of them are not nearly as good as these two

[@blackmumba111]

I was going to say... Generally child actors aren't as good as the two in this film.

[@elisejackson2854]

You are so right.

[@iananderson8363]

I was going to say that as well, especially McCauley.

[@Dr.BitchCraftt]

And I love how they went on to have pretty good acting career. Anna was hilarious and amazing on Veep.

[@jessicapatton2688]

It was awful when I had to tell my daughter her dad died. I waited till we were surrounded by loved ones. I just looked at her sleeping knowing once she found out her world would never be the same😢 I couldn’t watch this without bawling my eyes out.

[@silverishme8675]

Why, after 30 odd years, am I still bawling at these scenes?!! Give the boy his glasses already!!

[@dogables]

When I was 9 my brother died and I just remember how weird he looked, like a baby doll. Death is so hard as a child. This movie and the Bridge to Terabitha get me everytime.

[@blanchequizno7306]

Oh, don't even *start* on The Bridge to Terabithia!!! :'{

[@janethollman7894]

I loved my girl

[@forgottencoffee8589]

We were required to read the book for The Bridge to Terabithia for school and it was supposed to be a special "treat" that we got to go watch the movie when it came out as a field trip. Honestly, just compound the trauma. I read the book and I still wasn't prepared :(

[@LaraKalisz2007]

How old was he?

[@MsMC-vr1jd]

The Bridge to Terabithia wrecked me. 😭

[@SeanMcGuire92]

As someone whose first exposure to this movie is this video, I had two reactions: 1) "He can't see without his glasses" is a pop culture reference I now get, and 2) "Thomas Jay will be alright. My mother will take care of him," came out of left field and *destroyed me.* Oh my god. I burst into tears.

[@odangoatama98]

no fr i was like "i didn't even watch the whole movie why am I crying?"

[@minette36]

Right?! What a raw line. I have seen My Girl, once, nearly 2 decades ago (when I was very little), so I didn't remember most of the details. Was still a quick one-two punch to the gut and now im crying. ;n;

[@coffeemynt5289]

#2 hit me so hard, I also burst into tears 😭

[@roguecodes]

Literally same, I’m sitting here crying and I literally saw the scene out of context

[@clairechristy977]

@@odangoatama98 exactly

[@leoramichal.tattoo]

TW: Murder, Death, Grief I’m 33, my best friend of 20 years was murdered six months ago by her husband. Watching this broke me especially when Caitlin said, “go tell your best friend they’re your best friend.” Because I can’t either. But, the message is good. 💔❤️ I think I blocked the movie out from my childhood. 😅 I hope to show this to my toddler when he is around that age.

[@leoramichal.tattoo]

@@dirtyfiendswithneedles3111 1. not your trauma, not your business. 2. I worked as a veterinary technician where I assisted in countless euthanasia of companion animals. We always ask if there are kids in the family because it’s healthy for them to learn about death and being there when their pet is passing. We always recommend that any kids be there. Learning about death at a young age in a safe environment actually helps. 3. There are even Thanatology classes and books on the subject. As someone who was accepted into a MS Thanatology program (and turned it down cause I unfortunately can’t afford it), I’m not an expert. But the curriculum had classes on life stages and grief. THN 707: Suicide and Children, Teens, and Young Adults THN 703: Developmental Perspectives in Thanatology: Children, Teens, and Emerging Adults (3 credits) www.amazon.com/Best-Sellers-Children's-Books-on-Death-Dying/zgbs/books/3125 Learning about death at a young age helps develop healthier coping mechanism and grief. ✌🏻

[@snackbarqueen]

I'm so very sorry for your loss 💔😞

[@Chiller-pc1dv]

A childhood friend of mine passed the same way.....

[@Chiller-pc1dv]

@@dirtyfiendswithneedles3111 Wtf, dude?

[@leoramichal.tattoo]

@@Chiller-pc1dv I am so sorry 💔

[@robertandkristinhall5006]

My daughter is 12 going on 13. I lost my brother before she was born and I swear to God part of him lives in her. When she was about 6 or 7 her uncle on her fathers side died from an overdose as well. She was young so didnt remember much. At 10 years old I woke up to a phone call that her aunt, her fathers sister, had overdosed and died. I had known her since she was 13 and she had been like my own sister even after baby daddy and I split. My daughter was especially close to her. I was picking her up that morning and her father asked that I wait and allow him to be the one to tell her when I dropped her off that night. I had to put a smile on all day even when her name happened to come up and act like everything was okay. I remember dropping her off and squeezing her so tight because I knew what was coming moments after I walked out the door. 15 minutes later she called me and I will never forget the pain in her voice and hearing her cry knowing there was nothing I could do to make it better. My heart ached for her. I lost my dad when I was 12 and yet seeing my child hurt was still more painful then anything.

[@M2ofEMMM]

My mom grew up during the 70s and said that blue eyeshadow was a huge beauty trend during that era. So Shelly was kind of doing the 70s equivalent of putting winged eyeliner on the minister's wife.

[@jacksyoutubechannel4045]

I mean, we wore it in the '90s as part of that 20 year cycle, too. Somehow the 2010s seem to have been mercifully spared its resurgence.

[@gaiaoffline]

Great analogy!

[@M2ofEMMM]

@CCRider Wow, that's a trend with staying power then.

[@rhov-anion]

@@ccrider4516 Wait, so it was popular in the 1960s, OP said it was big in the 70s, my big sister's bright blue eye shadow is one of my few memories from the 80s, and someone else said this was popular in the 90s??? DID THIS TREND SERIOUSLY LAST FOUR DECADES?

[@EyelinerAce]

@@rhov-anion I still see some old ladies wear blue eyeshadow so maybe it never died off completely

[@sillygoosegoose]

i can’t believe you didn’t talk about the whole vada starting her period storyline. “don’t come back for five to seven days” is a phrase that lives in my mind rent free

[@jj-if6it]

hahaha

[@SaxyLament]

Right? That was a huge turn in Vada and Shelly's relationship.

[@kassieguffy8853]

I say it everytime I have my period. Bahaha.

[@bohemianvegan]

My own mother didn't know about her period when she started at almost 12 years old, on New Year's Day 1961. She woke up with her pajamas soaked and my grandmother (b. 1916) just cleaned her up and gave her a pad to wear, and that was it. No explanation given.

[@jj-if6it]

@@bohemianvegan oh dear, she would have been confused. She should have said something haha. My mum and grandma would have been almost the exact same age

[@rebeccaosburn554]

I will never forget seeing this in the theater with my grandma. She cried so loud. She wore blue mascara and had streaks down her face. I was pretty young.

[@300DBenz]

That line about how he needs his glasses absolutely wrecked me as a child. I know that movie trailers nowadays spoil movies and we all hate that, but a little warning back then would’ve been nice.

[@dittebakmlle4506]

Telling your child that someone they love has passed away, is so so hard. I had to explain to my daughter that her grandmom (my mom) was terminal and what that meant. Children "jumps" in and out of grief in a way we adults can only be envy of. My daughter was amazing doing the last period of my moms life. She walked around and told people "My grandma is very sick and will die because of it, but it's okay to be sad and cry." As a mom I'm proud of her being able to talk so openly about it.

[@chrismoss9060]

My mother-in-law was dying she was on life support and we were just waiting for them to arrive, and they brought her grandkids to see her, and I sat down and I told nyneve about it and she says will I cry? and I was like yes you probably will.

[@jacobopstad5483]

I really had to think about how to explain to my young autistic son when his aunt died. I wasn't even sure if he knew what I was saying but I wanted to make sure that he understood so that she wouldn't be just a vague, passing memory to him. All I can say at this point is that he seemed to listen

[@CarolineLurks]

You should be proud. You explained this the right way. There is a wrong way as well. I was told in words I haven't yet learned at the time that my dad passed in an accident. My sister who was 2 years older started crying so I started crying. I was very confused why we were plannin an event without my dad there, but everyone was too busy and as always I was sent to play outside. It wasn't an open casket, but my mom told me my dad was in there. And while I was expecting him to come out at any point, no one seemed too bothered by the fact. Imagine my panic when this box was lowered into the ground a few hours later (in my mind it took that long, I'm not sure). I was so pissed I stopped talking to anyone for years. It seriously messed me up.

[@bethanyoneal5789]

I remember losing my grandpa at the age of 7. I had a general concept of death, but I still had a hard time really grasping the situation

[@rebeccaosburn554]

I had to explain to my 5 year old son that his friend, our neighbor, had been murdered. At first I was not going to give the reason why he died. But it became clear he would find out more and I had to explain it or he might not understand it. As an adult, I didn't fully understand it. Explaining death and helping a child through the emotions is so tough and there really isn't any good way to explain it.

[@Interitus1]

I remember my friends mom rented this for us thinking it was like a coming of age comedy. After it was over she took us all out for ice cream to lighten the mood

[@Crocady1]

"Another heavy dose of maple syrup forshadowing. Spread across the pancake of this film." Caitlin Doughty. Another masterpiece from our Lady Headmistress of the Order ❤👏👏👏

[@badateverything5392]

I have been friends with my two best friends for 20 and 16 years respectively. During the lockdown, we started saying "love you, bye" on video calls, and now we just openly say it to each other. Life is too short to not tell the people that you love, that you love them.

[@infamouschipmunk5327]

The “he can’t see without his glasses” line will never not make me break down in tears. Even just watching this clip had me tearing up. I grew up with this movie too. I’m glad you did this reaction video. I haven’t seen this movie in probably 15 years. I think I want to revisit it.

[@oiNander]

Same. Good morning fellow old person 😂

[@NoDecaf7]

Just thinking about the scene by reading the line makes me tear up and my heart ache.

[@c.w.8200]

Same, I had it on VHS and it was one of my essential movies I kept rewatching, yes I'm old 😭

[@___Steinn___]

This is the worst and best part of this movie. I cry every time...

[@lucianabarretodealmeida5620]

Same. I was 22 years old when the movie was released, and had lose a friend 2 years before. He needed glasses too, and this scene break me every time.

[@robinhazen8034]

At my dad's funeral in 1990, the funeral home didn't have his glasses in time for the first viewing. My little sisters, age 8 and 10, remarked on how he didn't look like himself without his glasses. For the second viewing, he had them (all of the adults scrambled for them!). I was 20 & very impressed by how sensitive the funeral directors were to my little sisters' observations. I've never seen this movie before, but the scene with the glasses hits home!

[@SublimeLyfeNow]

Telling my 4 year old that his beloved dada was shot several times by a truly evil man when he was walking to his car after teaching a Bible study class was the hardest thing I've ever done and made my grief over the loss of my soul mate paled in comparison to the guttural wailing that come out of my baby when he realized he would never see his daddy again so this episode is quite difficult for me but your approach to explaining this topic is very helpful!

[@christhornycroft3686]

This is one of my favourite movies and I'm a guy. I had a huge crush on Anna Chlumsky growing up and looking back, we were really robbed of her acting talent over the years. I understand she's in a TV series called VEEP now, but I wish she'd been in more stuff in the late 90s and early 2000s. As you mentioned, she doesn't overact anything. When she needs to sit there in shock and take in that her best friend is dead, she does that. When she needs to have her emotional outburst at seeing him in a coffin, she's pitch perfect. They couldn't have picked a better young actress and her chemistry with Macauley Culkin is off the charts. Every time I watch this movie, it's like I'm watching it for the first time. I don't care what anyone says. The late 80s and early 90s were the best era for these kinds of movies. Now, if a movie is rated PG, I'm almost heading for the hills. It's usually another damn kids movie designed to make people dumber. With these movies, I'm never thinking about what the movie is rated or who the audience is. The sequel, My Girl 2, is worth seeing as well. Like any sequel, it's not as good as the original, and no one can replace Culkin as the love interest, but it's interesting seeing Vada search her past and learn about her mom. And that soundtrack. Unbeatable.

[@LooseyGoosey-ws1vb]

I remember watching this as a kid and then again in my adulthood, Veda’s face when she finds out what happened to Thomas Jay is absolutely haunting. When my son passed away due to a stillbirth pregnancy I didn’t cry or wail once, I was just silent and in absolute horror. I had a meltdown later at the funeral, a lot like Veda 🥺 love this movie.

[@Sixthedragon0720]

I’m sorry for your loss 😢

[@petradegroot3578]

❤

[@LawNerdAmber]

Wrapping you in love. That experience is one many will never know, I've experienced it too.

[@manyrainbows]

When my daughter was stillborn (13, almost 14 years ago), I vaguely remember me shouting "NO!" and asking if it was my fault, if something I did could have caused it. I remember going out to my car and calling my husband to tell him he needs to find a babysitter for the kids, and trying not to cry, but he asked what was wrong and I broke down. And I remember sitting in the hospital room, waiting for the pitocin to do its thing, nd i was just sitting, staring, totally dissociated from everything around me.. the numbness had set in and I just tried to mentally be anywhere but there. On the other hand, when my husband passed earlier this year, I was totally calm. He had been sick, we knew the end was near. I woke up and went to check on him, he was very still, and cold, no pulse. I called the hospice line and they sent someone out (took an hour). She then confirmed death and I had to figure out what funeral home I wanted, and call them. and it was a couple of hours before they could get out there to collect the body. In the meantime I woke my teens and told them, they came to say their goodbyes to their father. I cried some later that day, especially calling his friends. But at the memorial service almost 2 weeks later? i SOBBED. i just BROKE. It put Veda's meltdown to shame.

[@Deadman7600.]

@@manyrainbows I’m sorry for your losses.

[@sharonviksen788]

My daughter lost her friend at the age of 3 or 4 to cancer. It was hard because at that age she didn’t have a clue what I was talking about. During the funeral she looked down the aisle and asked if that was Jessica. I told her yes. She asked if she could get up and go play now 😢. People turned and looked at her and smiled.

[@proudcynophile1901]

🛐😢💔

[@monicawilliams1843]

Oh, and my best friend in high school lived above a funeral home which her father (a moritician and the County Coroner) owned. Maybe because my family was all nurses and medical people, living above a corpse shack never phased either of us. She had a sleep-over once and we all got in trouble for crushing the bedding in the display caskets playing musical caskets. Aaahhhh, memories.

[@Dreamsysmokes]

That was the saddest part of being a casket delivery driver. When you would have to deliver a smaller casket. It was always a sad day. No one should ever have to bury a child.

[@jacksyoutubechannel4045]

During The Stinging, I remember imploring the television screen, "Get his Epipen! Veda, get his Epipen!", and promptly starting to cry after my mom explained to me, "Honey, they didn't _have_ Epipens back then." I spent the next year compulsively checking to make sure I knew where my brother's and my Epipens were at all times. My brother and I had just lost a very dear friend -- my brother's best friend -- in a horrible accident, and I was already fearful of losing my brother, too.

[@healthycathy9782]

❤

[@blackclouds909]

Her yelling that he needs his glasses, murdered my heart and soul. Even now I sob.

[@paulieboy6644]

I was bawling as a little boy after watching that movie. When I came to school the next day I heard other boys talk about how the movie wasn’t that sad, it just had some boy die in it. I felt so ashamed of my tears.

[@tibb814]

Oh, I'm so sorry that happened. Real men feel. And they were either playing tough or were psychopaths in training.

[@tibb814]

@@Remle907 I think feeling shame is pretty deep, but thanks for the input dude. Carry on.

[@alleycat616]

I hate that boys feel they have to hide their emotions and tears. I’ll say even as a grown woman I don’t like to cry in front of others. I wonder why we’ve done this as a society to ourselves and others. Boys and men especially.

[@winstonmarlowe5254]

@@tibb814 "psychopaths in training" lol Jesus the fuckin melodrama

[@tibb814]

@@winstonmarlowe5254 hyperbole not melodrama. chill

[@JadeNut]

I lost a childhood friend around this age too back in the early 1990s. My friend Emily fell from horseback while riding and broke her neck. It was the first time I was ever confronted with death and it was a hard pill to swallow.

[@BornNoU]

I remember the way my heart broke when I watched this movie, but I forgot that it wasn’t the death but the funeral scene that killed me. “He was gonna be an acrobat” anddd I’m sobbing again

[@zprouk3091]

I've never seen the movie, but I've seen the "his glasses, he can't see without his glasses" in random clips, so I was prepared for that. And then she hit me with "he was going to be an acrobat" and now I'm ugly crying. Let¨s just appreciate what a strange yet perfect choice that is, though. Wouldn't work with "doctor". Wouldn't work with "singer". Wouldn't work with "firefighter" or "football player" or literally any other standard aspirational profession for lil kids. ACROBAT. Goddamn it movie stab me in the heart why don't you

[@NickRoman]

@@zprouk3091 , How dare you have not seen this movie. It's a good movie. Watch.

[@wendimiller8915]

YES! I started crying (and I’m at work!)

[@mime514]

25:15 ”Thomas j will be alright, my mother will take care of him" That phrase SINGLE HANDEDLY helped me beat my record for crying, the moment Veda finished saying this I was IN TEARS. Seriously, this was gut wrenching

[@fishtank39]

it got me this time. i wibbled a bit at vada's reaction to thomas jay's death, but thaaaat hit me hard

[@thehorriblebright]

Same. Was not prepared.

[@dorkydragon]

Same. every time i see her head tilts that tiny bit and her look on her face. i cry. bawl my eyes out so much.

[@jaceyrogers5244]

I always cry during this movie but this was the first time that part got me.

[@suzkstein]

In 1991 I was 34 years old and I took my 11 and 7 year old to see this movie having NO idea what it was about. I remember all 3 of us just bawling our eyes out in the theater. I'm STILL traumatized! Saddest movie ever. Great job reviewing it though, Caitlyn.

[@lizmullaney305]

Did the same with my daughters 11 and almost 8 to cheer up the 9 year old whose best friend and lovely sweet boy had just died of bee allergies. As we know it was pre internet and movie trailers never gave away the plot. It was more terrible than I can express. I do absolutely recognize all the amazing talent but there really should have been a head up for parents. It was very real-not fairy godmothers and witches and my kids were going through the real thing in present time.

[@juliaspoonie3627]

One of my favorite movies when I was a child… explains a lot. Probably also why I dealt with my dad’s death how I did when I was 13. My oldest daughter is now 11 and loved the movie too when we watched it together last year. I still cry multiple times throughout that movie. When Vada is receiving the news and later during the funeral, I can’t keep it together. These days even more so because my youngest daughter (9y) looks very similar to Anna Chlumsky, just with green eyes and I don’t want to imagine her going through that. She’s extremely afraid of death because of my multiple rare illnesses and because we had a lot of deaths in our family. I will never forget that the son of a friend of mine went wild after the funeral of his grandma where he was 4 or 5. Everything was okay until all tried to leave the graveyard, he yelled „No, we have to get grandma out of there again, she’s been dead long enough now! We can’t leave her here all by herself!“ It crushed her heart, and the heart of everyone around.

[@tracymckelvey8183]

When my grandmother died, I was upset that she didn't have her eyebrows penciled in. She always had her makeup done. Also, it was late October when she died and at the cemetery my aunt was crying uncontrollably that my grandmother would be so cold without a jacket...I think the scene regarding the glasses was very realistic.

[@iamwindchakra]

Anna Chlumsky's acting when Dad broke the news was so spot on. When my Mother called to tell me my nephew died in a housefire, that was my exact reaction. I had a house full of kids (mine, and my sister's) and I couldn't break down screaming and crying even if I wanted to. Watching it as an adult, I am blown away.

[@edsayshey3314]

I remember being told that my grandma had died unexpectedly and it was my first experience of death. I remember the only thing I could do was just to say “oh…ok” and just go sit down and stare blankly at the wall. I only started to begin to feel any sort of recognisable emotion about 10 hours later

[@mylovesongs2429]

@@edsayshey3314 I did the same thing when I lost my father to suicide. I just went into my room and sat on my bed in shock.

[@GhostGoth_Emma]

Yeah that scene really did blow me away, she really did a great job in trying to convey how kids or early teens take in death. I was 5 when I encountered my first family death. Yeah you just don't understand that you'll never see that person alive again. Then it just sinks in. It's a hard thing to live through, but to act it honestly, she did a fantastic job

[@Ana-tj5fm]

@@mylovesongs2429 me too. i couldn’t believe it was real

[@jessicadangerfield1539]

I didn’t immediately breakdown when I learned my grandmother was dead. I knew it was coming, but I still went numb & did the impression of a goldfish… I was relieved she was no longer suffering, unsure if I was glad or upset I hadn’t been by her bedside when it finally happened, nervous about what would happen next-ran the whole gamut before the sadness & tears made their appearance. This moment where she doesn’t immediately respond with tears hits differently as an adult who now has an instance where she remembers this moment & reaction of everything but tears.

[@PallidTrash]

17 BLOODY YEARS LATER AND I just cried like it was the first time I saw it. GEE THANKS MOM

[@birtarb07]

I haven't seen My Girl prior to watching your video and even though you warned a couple of times about the foreshadowing I am still wailing like a newborn over how amazing the acting/delivery and the writing is for this young girl.

[@jimmysgirl1029]

My daughter’s best friend died in a car accident when they were 12. Telling her was the most gut wrenching thing I’ve ever had to do. And yes her life changed forever. I was slapped by the reality of it every morning for months. It still haunts me 10+ years later. I couldn’t watch this movie after that happened. But watching the movie again this way was easier and it even made me smile and laugh several times. ❤ And yes I was also a teary mess. 😢

[@jessicadangerfield1539]

I don’t remember being able to watch this movie since my grandmother died when I was 11. (I think for a time I even forgot it existed because it just hits too close to home.) My grandmother’s death wasn’t my first encounter with death but it was the first I was really old enough to remember every step of the process with, the first time I had to actively participate in the hard discussions & decisions surrounding what came next even if I wasn’t always listened to. At times my own grief was put on hold so I could support my dad since I already knew what it was like to lose a mother & didn’t want to add to his pain. All my best wishes to you & your daughter.

[@laurielyddy4890]

My daughter had a friend from elementary school who died when he was 15 pushing his brother out of the way of a drunk driver. As adults we are used to pain and death in some ways anyways. Got to tell you when I had to talk to my daughter about her friend dying my understanding of the mourning process got much better because you have to help your kids learn to mourn their friend as well as teaching them that death isn't something you should fear every minute of your life and how most of the time it is a natural process. One of the harder things I've had to do as a parent

[@lillianward2810]

That’s the worst.

[@RockyGems]

Everyone always cites "he can't see without his glasses" as the line that got to them, but "Thomas J will be okay, my mother will take care of him" broke me.

[@cannibalisticrequiem]

I was already tearing up when Thomas went to go find Veda's mood ring because I've seen this movie hundreds of times so I knew what was coming. That escalated to audibly sobbing when she was screaming "Where are his glasses??? He can't see without his glasses!", then ugly crying at "He wanted to be an acrobat!" and more sobbing at "Thomas Jay will be alright. My mommy will watch over him!" 🔪🔪 🩷

[@OpalBLeigh]

I can be broken twice apparently. 😭

[@mcarp555]

I was in my 30's when this movie came out. Never saw it. Watching this video reminded me of having to tell my 14-year-old-daughter her grandpa had passed. Now I'm sitting here in a puddle of tears. Thanks, Caitlin!

[@a.kitcat.b]

💛I finally remember why I never asked my mom death questions, it was because of this movie. My mom told me the song and movie "My Girl" were something she picked for me because I was her first daughter. So when I was little I watched the movie by myself and it broke my heart. But it lead to an obsession with death and no need to ask my mom about it. I remember being like Veda as a kid, scared of every illness and dead bodies. This movie helped me calm down over time though.🖤

[@lindsaybear722]

I was equally traumatized by Vaeda getting her period and telling her father she was dying because she had no clue about periods as I was by the “He can’t see without his glasses!” part.

[@cholieandresa]

“He can’t see without his glasses” that the line, I loose it ever time.

[@ssjup81]

That glasses part is what got me. I do remember the period thing and Vada telling Thomas J. not to visit her in 6-8 days or whatever it was. lol

[@ssjup81]

@@andrewkash7273 This happened to my mother. She had no idea what a period was. She was born in 1956 (so older than Vada's character). She got her period when she was 12. She thought something was wrong with her too. It's a shame that parents don't talk about that stuff, but in Vada's case...I can sorta get why. She was growing up with a single father and that's a topic that's probably difficult for a father to even get on. Good thing Jamie Lee Curtis' character was around. I remember when my mother told my dad I'd had my first period...he was awkward around me because that meant I wasn't a little girl anymore, I guess.

[@roxanne410]

I also didn't know what a period was until I got mine LOOL It was a year or two before most girls got theirs

[@bluegirl278]

@Lindsay Hake Oof yeah that’s why it’s important for kids to know what puberty is preemptively. No need for them to be terrified or panic. I get how he would’ve overlooked talking to her in the movie but this really needs to happen less in real life

[@Aabrooke.]

Caitlin: my best friend died a year ago, I found your channel a month after. You helped me like no one else did. The mortician told them to them to tell them they were my best friend. I did.. and do. Thank you a million times over

[@lediona3996]

I found her a month after my mom died and felt the same way. Caitlin really helped me grieve. Lots of love to you and I'm so sorry for your loss.

[@minette36]

My best friend died last august. I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing

[@alaeniasharpe8881]

I'm so sorry for your loses A. Brooke, Lediona, Minette.... And so many others here. Please take it one day at a time, and please remember them in the pictures, not the casket - words given to me casket side of my own friend by his father.

[@CatalinaFOIA]

The movie "My Girl" has always made me cry. I was probably a child when I first saw it. 😢 My husband has anaphylaxis to Eastern Yellow Jackets and probably more flying stinging insects and I can't imagine losing him to a hoard of wasps/bees. 😢 I'd be so lost without him.

[@CatalinaFOIA]

I always carry an EPI pen. ALWAYS!

[@_letstartariot]

When I was 11, I lost my friend to cancer. I remember it vividly. After the shock, I cried for 4+ hours non-stop. I’m crying right now just thinking about it. I’ve lost other people since then, but that is my most painful memory from my childhood. I remember seeing him a few week before he died. The last moment I saw him. We talked about South Park, and then he walked into our school building. And that was it. I remember seeing his mother cry at the funeral, such profound grief. RIP Joel, I miss you.

[@jedgrahek1426]

23:30 That concept of "if you grew up with this, that line about his glasses is a fundamental part of your conception of mortality" is really interesting... while I didn't grow up with this movie, it reminds me very strongly of my favorite line in a movie I did grow up watching many times, The Last Unicorn. It's when she is transformed into a human, she (the unicorn main character) is acting utterly horrified and distraught immediately, and one of the first things she says, in a quivering, angry voice, is "I can feel this body dying all around me!" That line has always had a very profound effect on my perspective of being mortal. It's almost too painful and depressing to acknowledge or think about ever.

[@V.Hansen.]

Wow. That’s…. Really something. **emotional damage **

[@AroundTheBlockAgain]

That line really is quite the memento mori for the audience. I didn't watch that movie until I was a teenager - after recognizing and freaking out about my own mortality in my preteens. By that point, it was like "yeah girl, same"

[@rungler]

that was one of my favorite movies growing up too and i never realized how existentially devastating thar line was. i just thought, "yeah, i would be pretty mad if i was a unicorn and someone fucked that up for me"

[@squirrelwithaflute8512]

I recently re bought that movie as I remembered watching it over and over as a child, I'm nearly 40 now and can still remember the affect it had on me then

[@clogs4956]

What stuck with me was that the unicorn’s experience of both love and death while in a human form denied her the possibility of rejoining the unicorns she rescues and they ignore her! She is no longer proud, indifferent and immortal; she has been humbled, involved in real life and gained a soul. It’s a poignant and intelligent moment.

[@michellearamis]

My Girl and All Dogs Go To Heaven are two movies that can make me bawl just REMEMBERING watching them.

[@sarahrobinson3423]

Facts. I cried so much as a child. Even now.

[@openlybookish]

Same. 😭

[@FreonUWP]

Touch that clock, and you can never go back! He'll be back ;-)

[@happilyeverafterhanna]

😢there’s an equally if not sadder sequel to all dogs do to heaven & it had be balling!

[@smurfmummy3106]

I'm 42 and I can vividly remember sobbing at the movies when it came out. I'm now sobbing again. Even thinking of she saying "he needs his glasses" breaks my heart 😭😭

[@jeanine0125]

Me too. This part.

[@ekkorhodes8885]

It's so funny, because my best friend grew up in a small town funeral home where it was common for at least one employee to also hold an aesthestician liscence (skin-care/mani-pedi emphasis cosmetologist) and while she did do makeup on corpses, she mostly was patching up facial wounds/burns etc. Which sounds much more relevant to the funerary industry. weirdly enough that ended up being her transition to being a freelance SFX makeup artist for indie horror and scifi movies.

[@mcrchickenluvr]

It doesn’t matter how many times I’ve seen this film, I sob like a baby. It shows that kids Vada’s age understand more than we adults realize.

[@rightsarentpolitical]

Oh my, yes. I cried just watching Caitlin watch it.

[@drunkensquirrel7545]

Damn. I feel like the only person alive during the '90s who did not see this film - I was in my 20s & I do remember the 60s & 70s nostalgia though. OK, seeing this is now on my To Do List. I was Goth - before Goth was a thing - and I did want my own hearse during the 80s. Some of my family were small town morticians. Maybe that counts for something? 🤔 😉

[@teijaflink2226]

Right the movie is heartbreaking but so good, right now I'm just amazed what an amazing actress the little girl is.

[@aazhie]

@DrunkenSquirrel ha ha, I didn't see it either, but I have probably seen so many clips of it, that I may as well have seen it entirely. Just never in the proper order!

[@gggthsb]

I cry everytime when My Girl is as much as mentioned. It's not Thomas J dying necessarily, although very sad. But it's Vada's reaction and her breaking down at the funeral. Anna Chlumsky just gave an incredible performance all through the movie, it is really astounding given her age at the time.

[@Naturegirl1976]

It's also hee debut acting gig. She totally bailed it

[@OrdinisChao]

"He can't see without his glasses" When my grandmother died, before they closed the casket, I insisted on placing a shawl I had given her over her hands "so she wouldn't get cold." I was a grown man, I knew full well she felt nothing anymore, but still I felt compelled to gently tuck it around her hands, along with the Mother's Day card she never received, with a farewell note she would never read. I don't know what it is about grave goods, but something about including them with the deceased "feels" right. We know they won't need them, but still we feel compelled to include them, as if they will.

[@Biippa]

I told my best friends what you told me to, and one of them responded with "Well, tell the mortician through the screen that I said thank you for sending my best friend to let me know they're my best friend." 😌💕

[@bumblebee560]

The way Caitlin looks at the camera and says, "how do you tell your child that their best friend has been killed by a hoard of bees?" had me unexpectedly cracking up. I've never seen this movie and it was making me cry until she got all dramatic about the hoard of bees. It's not funny, it's so sad!

[@blanchequizno7306]

"horde" - "hoard" is something you keep

[@penjameson]

Oh Christ the spelling police are out….

[@mylovesongs2429]

Caitlin has such a great sense of humor that she can bring out the laughter in the most saddest times.

[@robertdeffenbaugh9004]

Being killed by bees reminds me of Ghost Whisperer when that Teen died of an allergic reaction to being stung.

[@octogonSmuggler]

@@robertdeffenbaugh9004 Oh my, I had entirely forgotten about that show. I was in middle school when it was coming out, and I remember watching it on tv for a week solid while sick with the flu.

[@meaghanorlinski8464]

My dad just died at home and I was able to be there holding his hand and helped the funeral home with his body. I was able to do all of this thanks to how you've taught me death positivity. Thank you so much for all you do. ❤❤❤

[@bridgetmadden5716]

Thanks to this channel, I was the only person who'd had the tough conversations with my mum and i was the only one who had that info when she passed. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad xxx

[@CGZ26]

I know it doesn't involve funeral home parts, but Bridge to Terabithia was the "My Girl" of my generation. The ending was shocking and for those, like me, who were young when we saw it for the first time, it introduced us to unexpected grieve and empathy in an easy yet heartbreaking way.

[@marie.1111]

I loved this movie so much when it came out!!!! ..."where are his glasses? He can't see without his glasses." 😭😭😭 OMG😭 such an absolutely heartbreaking scene.. Still, loved the film, was one of my favorites as a young teen. 💗 Edit: Awe I wrote this at the very beginning of the video before getting to that part & you are so right about growing up watching this film & those lines... All these years later and I've never forgotten, they still hurt & they still rock me to the very foundation of my being 😭

[@LeeannG]

I saw an interview with the adult Anna Chumsky and she said that during the funeral scene they told her to pretend that her mom died and that’s what she did. She also said that she doubted she would have been able to do it as an adult actress because as a kid, it was more simple inside her head, or something like that.

[@thebestwillow]

That look on vada's face when she finds out Thomas j died... that's the precise moment where she realises nothing will ever be the same.

[@mzdrizzle]

Anna acted it so authentically it makes me wonder if something had happened in her young life and she was drawing from experience.

[@mgzeeeb4747]

Spot on. I’ve unfortunately had to see this look on my own children. I can’t ever watch this movie again or anything like it. Was hard enough watching this video 😢

[@thebestwillow]

@@mgzeeeb4747 suspect I've had that look on my own face. Developed an unhealthy attachment to this film as a result.

[@ouji8809]

"he can't see without his glasses" is a sentence that STILL brings me to tears (i am sobbing as i type this very comment) ever since i watched this movie for the first and only time, i must've been...6 years old? maybe 7? my family rented it from the video store, as one does, thinking it would be a heartwarming childhood friends story, just a cute, childish romance, and i think i was the one who picked it out, too...needless to say, i was scarred for life by thomas j.'s horrible, gruesome, untimely death. ah, the wild west of 90's children's movies!

[@jules666.]

I went to my Great Grandma’s funeral today. It was my first open casket funeral. Thanks to your videos I knew exactly what to expect and it brought me great comfort and ease. I wouldn’t have gone if it wasn’t for this channel, and I want to thank you for teaching me about this so I was able to comfortably say goodbye to my Nana. So thank you. From the bottom of my heart ❤️

[@treefrog1018]

Me: *unexpectedly crying over Veda busting in on the funeral* Caitlin: I want you all to tell your best friend that they are your best friend...and tell them...a mortician sent you. Me: *tears turn into laughter* 😂 Man. Being a funeral director, you learn how to change the mood quick, I suppose.

[@stellastarfield1111]

Me: laughing and crying at the same time cause damn her commentary on the "glasses" line was on point 😭

[@jj-if6it]

I feel like My Girl is one of the few movies/tv shows to depict funeral homes in a normal and not scary way

[@HotTakeAndy]

Six Feet Under did too

[@ChocolateTruthFairy]

I fully appreciated the alternative ending where they run out of the woods holding hands and credits roll.

[@moel135]

Caitlin! You gotta do Bridge to Terabithia next! More childhood trauma movies! Two more things, you forgot to link the other criminally under watched cremation video in the I card and I NEED the link to future Caitlin's hoodie, that is legit the exact order I have my body disposal options written out on Cake. This video was amazing, heartbreaking but amazing, I'm in love with how you pause to interject factual commentary or just notes into the movie (I do that shit so much that they hide the remote from me).

[@azuradawn5683]

If you search on her channel it's called "America's First Cremation Was WILD". (And it has over a million views but imo all of her videos deserve more lol)

[@lh3540]

Last time our city flooded I saw some parents letting their kids play in the creek and no one got my Bridge to Terabithia joke.

[@moel135]

@@lh3540 Big oof... I'd have made the same joke in an instant thou

[@moel135]

@@azuradawn5683 oh yeah, no. As soon as this video finished I went right to that one... the queen says the video doesn't have enough views? I got you, your highness.

[@AdamMansbridge]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/a6HHopJqe6-oiJo America's first cremation was WILD

[@MrsBrit1]

The face Veda makes when she finds out about Thomas J is pretty much the face I made when I found out my friend died right after graduation. It took me a few minutes to fully register what my mom told me when she got that call. I think she said "she didn't make it" when I asked if she was OK (we knew earlier that she had been in an accident). I left the kitchen, wandered through the house to the bathroom, where my older sister was cleaning, and blurted out, "she's dead" and she had the instant wailing reaction you mentioned. The moment I said it, she screamed out and cried and I was literally thinking to myself "why is she crying? What happened? What's going on?" She hugged me and I left the bathroom, went into my bedroom, closed the door, laid down on my bed, and then the reality of what I said hit me like a ton of bricks. I realised what I said and who I was talking about because I honestly had no idea what was going on, like my brain just wouldn't let me understand it. The rest of the day was a blur of people coming to wish me a happy graduation and bring gifts and eat food, but finding out I was grieving instead, and I just found different places, both inside and outside the house, to stay away from everyone and cry. I have no idea how anyone else in the house was functioning or how mom held it together while dozens of people stopped by. I cried until I was sure I couldn't make any more tears. 1999 was my Veda face year...I think I wore it a long time. Also, I'll never not cry watching this movie. It's absolutely impossible....I won't even try.

[@murphychurch8251]

Yes, a ton of bricks takes a while to travel when it hits you out of the blue. When my mom called me to tell me that my aunt, her little sister, had committed suicide, I first didn't recognize her voice as she was sobbing and wailing and screaming in a way I never heard of her before. When she repeated her words I didn't understand her because what she said just didn't make sense to me. Third time I kind of took in the words, but processing them took quite a while. After finishing the phone call, I went back to the living room to my housemate and a friend that was visiting. Told them what happened and then I started to shiver uncontrollably because I felt so damn cold and confused when everything started sinking in. My friends made me drink water and wrapped me in a blanket as I apparently was in a state of shock.

[@PRDreams]

Not even close, but my mom died when I was a baby and until the age of 6, I thought my step-mom was my mom. When my father left and she abandoned me and my sister on the steps of a family member's house (her EXACT words were "they are your problem now") I was so confused. What followed was the most insane weekend of my life. The family member read a letter. [Name of lady] mother of [name of three kids] was killed by a drunk driver on [day of the incident]. Problem was that our hyphenated last name had changed because our stepmother was in the process of adopting us. I thought "the two girls names are similar to ours", but that was it. My sister, who was older (I'm also autistic, so I guess that had to do with the time it took me to comprehend it??) ran out of the room we were in and into the bed we were given to sleep in and started sobbing. I went to her because I didn't understand why she was crying, but I wanted to hug her to make her feel better. She broke down even worse and I was clueless, but started crying because she was so sad and I said "tell me what's wrong so I can fix it" and she said, "that lady on the letter is our mom, our oldest sibling is missing, and our mom, the lady? She is dead." I just sat there... suddenly I couldn't cry. I just sat watching her cry. It bothered me for many years after I grew up. I went to therapy and my therapist asked the million dollar question: had anyone ever explained to you what dead meant? Was that the first time you encountered that word. Yes. It was. I cried that day like a child. I just didn't know what death was.

[@KellyLenior]

@PRDreams Wow. You deserved 1000x better than the behavior of the adults you were encountering... ❤️ (Also: your writing reads like a good book, I was hooked for a moment!)

[@MrsBrit1]

That is just heartbreaking. I'm sorry you went through such a huge loss and life upheaval with no real understanding of what was even happening. That must have been so difficult.

[@GrumpySheepGaming]

My 2 friends (one of whom was a cousin through marriage) died in a car crash on a morning we were all supposed to go to work together. I wasn't feeling well so I told them to go without me. I got woken up 2 hours later to my friend (one of their boyfriends at the time) saying "she's dead, oh my god, Taylor is dead. And Chey was airlifted to the hospital" my legit response was, "you're joking" as if someone would joke about that kind of thing with such sincerity. I'm still not sure what the hardest part of all that was, realizing they were gone after speaking to them hours before, or realizing that I was supposed to be in the car with them. It's been 6 years, and I still feel guilty that I called out but they went in. (It wasn't bad weather, just a horrible accident)

[@crysrose64]

Anna Chlumsky’s acting gives me the same reaction as Sally Field’s in Steel Magnolias. One line from each of them and I’m a blubbering mess. Love your videos and perspective, Caitlin!

[@KastKatt]

Have only seen this movie once, as a kid, and never forgott about it. The "where is his glasses?"-line send CHILLS through my body. A great but horrible sad movie

[@susanjanehayden]

So true, your observation about reaction to loss, grief. When my dad’s first wife died he fought with the ambulance drivers because they covered her face with a blanket. “She can’t breath if you smother her!” came to mind as the actress screams “Where are his glasses he can’t see he’s going to be …”. Yep. There’s a piece of our consciousness that cannot accept the absence of someone in our continuance.

[@hew2356]

It also reminded me of the similar heart-breaking line from "Rebel Without A Cause" after Plato's death: "He's always cold....:" Our nurturing instincts don't give up easily when faced with the loss of someone we care about.

[@amidthephantomsrose]

Thomas Jay's funeral scene with Vada crying over him makes me a sobbing mess every time. It hits me even harder as an adult now, considering how I've seen scenes like this play out in real life at families funerals

[@CMCGDavis]

Even during watching her watch it - I’m a sobbing mess 😭😭😭

[@amidthephantomsrose]

@@CMCGDavis same

[@alisonelliott5117]

It makes me a mess too. My girl, bridge to terebithia, beaches and the cure all do it.

[@harriet2114]

I just got teary AGAIN. That scene.....

[@mzdrizzle]

I uhhhhh got sand in my eye. Yup. 😢😭

[@EmsIsFab]

I was OBSESSED with My Girl and My Girl 2 when I was a child. Like genuinely obsessed. I think this may explain a lot about me… I’m not crying, it’s raining on my face.

[@MicahBell_1860]

"This was the era of Tammy Faye-Baker" ROTFPMSL!🤣🤣🤣

[@flowerboy4269]

I don't think there will ever come a day where I don't just cry uncontrollably at the funeral scene. I swear, every time it's like instant tears.

[@ashley-anne7043]

I literally can't even talk about this movie without crying. Actually can't say words without getting choked up

[@elizabethb7931]

Don't feel bad - my dad is a professional wall guy and painter and he's adamant that hanging wallpaper is one of the most challenging and infuriating things to do. So props for tackling it! Looks fine on the video!

[@shisurvives2635]

I'd rather paint the wall with detailed designs onestly

[@elizabethb7931]

@@shisurvives2635 after a few decades in the industry, my dad has the same opinion

[@frankiefranklin9761]

I thought you were going to say that you have a complicated relationship with painting and decorating 😅🤦

[@MrsJolene-]

The whole video I was looking at it, wondering where I might find it, or how to recreate it. It is lovely! Also better than looking at Veda lose it with the glasses tbh.

[@lavinamontoya8164]

I prefer wallpaper rather than painting. It is uncomplicated, looks much much better than a painted wall and it's not as dirty as painting. When you finish apart from a light cleaning it's done. The painting on the other hand requires a lot of heavy duty cleaning not only with water depending on the type of painting.Too much cleaning work.

[@andreareichenbach8637]

😂😂The cat doing the "he can't see without his glasses" scene. You are a genius.

[@rhyliemasons7957]

I remember my friend died in an ATV accident when we were 8. It was the last day of school, he went to the mailbox for his grandmother like he did every day. That day, his gas pedal got stuck as he was going down a hill. He got pinned under the ATV and drowned in a small puddle. His ilder sister found him when he hadn't returned. I remember a lot of my class just didn't understand the concept of death (which I'm grateful they didn't). One other kid in my class and I already had dealt with death, so we kind of understood it. That changed the whole grade's world. 17 years later, I still wish Patrick a happy birthday. This movie and Bridge to Terabithia really hit hard, especially for kids who lost someone at such a young age.

[@CareyHAuthor]

This is the closest I will ever get to seeing this film. When Veda says her mom is gonna take care of Thomas J, I broke. Even just that clip, let the tears flow!

[@pinkyuzu]

Yeah that line hit like a speeding freight train.

[@johanvajse8410]

actually seeing the whole movie, the worst most breaking lines are "where are his glasses? he can't see without his glasses!" I had never ugly cried so much at anything in my life.

[@crystalrowan]

Same here - there are few movies I refused to watch and this is one of them. I'm already a crier when it comes to movies so I've actively avoided this one and that Owen Wilson movie with the dog (Marley and Me, I think). I actually hesitated to even watch this KZbin video, lol. It did make me cry, predictably.

[@johanvajse8410]

@@crystalrowan same - I can't bring myself to watch Causalities of War with Sean Penn and Michael J Fox

[@CinnamonPinch]

Having seen the film as a child, you are making the right choice! It's been probably 30 years since I've seen it and this video brought it all back.