We Need To Be Done With Imposter Syndrome

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In this episode, Chelsea lets loose on the trend of "imposter syndrome," and how you're likely a lot more qualified for jobs than you think.
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[@unerevuese]

As a WOC in STEM, I realized how my environment did everything to make me feel othered. I AM different from a lot of colleagues. We weren't raised in the same class conditions and environments. I bring a different experience and perspective to my work and I am ok with that now. Tbh, I don't want to be like a lot of my colleagues now and striving to change the environment around me. So imposter syndrome can kick rocks!

[@haleymist09]

Yoooo appreciation thread for this woman! Wooooo! 💫✨️💖🥳

[@katielarsen2630]

That's amazing and hiring people with different perspectives is something that companies should be aiming for

[@awkwardatlas5623]

That's awesome Olivia. Thanks for paving the way for more women in STEM - you rock!

[@awkwardatlas5623]

@@Cellocurve No. She wouldn't have been hired if she wasn't good. She wouldn't have graduated without putting in the hard work (and paying for the privilege of attending university). Admissions committees shouldn't be thanked for doing the job they're paid to do.

[@faviolarobles-saenz2672]

Same!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@tiaraono7668]

The nail in the coffin for my imposter syndrome was when I got a new manager that was incompetent. He always acted like he knew everything and was so confident, but people in the organization started going around him (and coming to me) for answers to questions. When he did answer things I typically had to run after and correct at least half of what he said. I ALMOST applied for the job, but didn't think i was qualified. After seeing how qualified the man was who got it was... well... I know better now.

[@tiaraono7668]

@@marvinmallette6795 I was lucky enough to find somewhere new. It turned out our company was moving locations. I was invited to relocate (they needed me) and I was on the fence for a bit, but then after an hour long argument with my boss I realized there was no way in hell I was staying. I found a new job a few months later and I'm much happier!

[@guyguyver7552]

You are nothing take seriously.😊

[@TheLadyRochester]

Get ‘em, Chelsea! There was also an article published in the Harvard Business Review earlier this year called “Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome.” It argues that Imposter Syndrome can also be internalized misogyny and racism, which thus feels much more valid for POC, especially women, in corporate spaces like the ones you’ve described. I highly recommend that people who want to hear more about this topic check it out.

[@matildamatilda1836w]

Thanks for sharing about this article!

[@cellolotus8077]

Yes thank you for sharing! It gave me a new way to think about how we talk about imposter syndrome

[@Martina_E]

Checking it out

[@lijohnyoutube101]

I am sooooo tired of the imposter syndrome. Entire mountain ranges of tired of it. I grew up in a family business, I worked for Girl Scouts for a very long time before my ‘career’ path, I started working at 11, I was a part time nanny from 14 onwards etc etc By the time I started my ‘career’ I was incredibly confident in my skills, how to learn and how to lead. I have been told again and again my entire career that its off putting to be confident and vocal. That I should just be quiet as its better for relationship building etc. directly and indirectly. This imposter concept needs to be put out to pasture to die and replaced with a far more balanced approach to where people are at one their career roads.

[@guyguyver7552]

What a quack!!!🤣😂🤣😂

[@alexandramarkus9987]

You're so spot on about trust fund babies not having any imposter syndrome. I've seen it up close and personal. Meanwhile, I made it with no money and zero connections to a middle-management position where I finally broke six figures, I'm told I'm good at my job, but still feel an intense amount of imposter syndrome. It shocks me that these people don't even doubt for a second they can do it. Maybe they're raised to believe they're born for it. Idk.

[@pisceanbeauty2503]

I can say as a 30-something that this gets better with time. You see how many of the people working in your field of interest are mediocre in some form or fashion. Many people are able to coast for a variety of reasons. You have to learn how to navigate the system to get it to meet your needs as best as possible (it will never be perfect) and it never hurts to ask for more or push back strategically when necessary. All they can say is “no”. I also recommend early in your career building up as much of an “f you” fund as possible so you don’t feel like you need to stay in bad work situations for financial reasons.

[@NadiaPink]

Yup, as soon as I saw my work condition was not conducive I left. Granted I am a nurse and can walk find another job. But I was a new nurse and wanted a certain specialty. So I quit has enough saving to strategize and find a specialty I wanted. And I got it plus a 10 dollar raise an hour just from leaving a company and working in a new one.

[@70shalu]

I love how you talked about your parents. Too often parents nowadays are afraid of creating the next Miranda Sings by overflowing their kids' praises but people do not realize how important it is to instill in kids a sense of self-love and confidence. And that needs to be built (with avenues for self-reflection, of course) by parents and loved ones. This is coming from someone in an Asian household where everything comes with criticism given in love to help you become better. When you hear it all the time, you start looking for what is or can go wrong and that prevents you from taking risks, which can stunt your growth.

[@luciidity_]

this right HERE and then they're confused by my low self-esteem and apparent inability to do anything 😂

[@amariafrost]

Working in academia breeds imposter syndrome on the Ph.D. level. Maybe I got into a doc program, but there is a pressure to get published so I can go for a faculty job. Getting constant publication rejections can be draining and make you doubt that you even belong in the program you are in. I appreciate this video's perspective.

[@jeannesutter4951]

@amariafrost, I worked in research admin and higher ed admin (MS/PhD) for many years and saw trainees have this very experience. Be kind to yourself and keep your professional options open. Faculty jobs are few and far between (and funding is a whole other issue), but your skills and knowledge are valuable beyond the publication metric. Please, whatever you do, do not accept an adjunct position. It's just complete exploitation, a dead end. Colleges and universities should pay a living wage. Best wishes to you!

[@l.d.8697]

Are you a good teacher? That's what matters (to the people paying the university).

[@everydaycarrytools]

Good discourse and insights on this topic. As an older millennial, I've gotten to watch the rise of this generational feeling that we somehow aren't good enough, and it's such bullocks. The people I know who are part of my generation have achieve amazing things, despite the circumstances in which we came of age. I appreciate seeing this articulated so cogently.

[@wheredmypasswordgo]

Yes, 100% this! Imposter syndrome is a major issue in so many fields! I was a TA during my PoliSci degree, teaching the introductory course to 18-year-olds, and decided to do a presentation about imposter syndrome and procrastination (I believe one leads to the other). I asked them to close their eyes, and put a hand up if they felt like everyone else in their course was smarter than them, and that maybe they themselves got in by mistake, and then to open their eyes. The whole class had their hands up. We worked out some ways to battle it, and several of them said it had helped just to talk about it. I wish I knew about this stuff when I was an undergrad, so much energy wasted on angst!

[@calindashay321]

This is a great approach and so important especially for undergrads entering university and feeling overwhelmed and out of place.

[@Amelia-pp4wm]

You might be on to something there - I'd say that a good thing to add is that procrastination is vilified more than it needs to be (reinforcing the feeling of inadequacy if you don't have *everything* done days ahead of time). I know I only work on things at the last minute, so I've learned my limits and schedule around them. I've done this since I was in 4th grade, and I still was valedictorian at a very competitive high school - by doing my projects when my brain could focus on them, which for me was usually the night before. My husband is the complete opposite and can't let himself relax until everything is checked off, even if he's working days ahead of time. If you're organized, either way can work! Your students should know that the important thing is to get the work done, regardless of the process they use to get there. Some people are sprinters, some people are distance runners - both can be highly dedicated and get good results. You wouldn't shame Usain Bolt for not running a marathon. TLDR: Similar to Chelsea's long vendetta against the "morning people are superior" mindset in our culture - if your brain doesn't work well without a real deadline and real consequences just around the corner, then that's okay! Figure out what *you* need to do to get the work done, regardless of if it looks like procrastinating on the outside.

[@brianapeters6190]

So glad I decided to start my morning off with this because those closing comments set something off inside me YOU ARE RIGHT I DO DESERVE A TASTE OF THAT UNEARNED CONFIDENCE THAT I'VE ACTUALLY EARNED!! THANK YOU! 👏

[@Quantyla1]

Thanks for watching, I have the best strategy for you, message the number to reach out 👆✍️

[@aimemaggie]

Having a college degree and 2 years of experience and still not being able to find a job has given me immense imposter syndrome. The number of times I've gotten interviewed then been ghosted is insane. I had one company sounded excited on the phone, then after the in-person interview, they said they are looking for something else then 2 weeks later I got a notification on indeed that they want me to interview (based on my resume).

[@mariamolatunji9269]

This is exactly my situation 😅

[@girlhoney]

In my experience they are looking for someone who will take this same position for a smaller salary that you are asking for. I'm going through the same thing...

[@aimemaggie]

@@girlhoney it's funny that you say that because when I saw the new job listing the pay went from 45k-55k to 35k-55k 🤣 When they brought up pay in the interview I think they could tell that I was hyped about even the low end of 45k (that's what I asked for because I've never done salary negotiation and for a single person that's good enough for me). Also just looked it up and they're still hiring "urgently" even though I fit all of the qualifications and the marketing manager that interviewed me on the phone said I was exactly what she was looking for. Also, I live in a small town where the competition for this position is really low.

[@raeahthewriter8082]

This is sounding like racism and discrimination to me smh. I’m so sorry you’ve had to experience this kind of treatment

[@zucchinigreen]

Keep networking and applying, it's not you as Chelsea said the system is rigged. I recommend joining LinkedIn & Fb Groups around your field if you're not already in them. Look up people who have the job you are interested in and connect with them. Ask them what it's really like. Also tap your alumni network not just the "legit alumni organization" but people who came up with you. Let everybody know you're looking so you'll be on their radar. It is not you. Also, a job doesn't determine your self-worth. You are valuable in and of yourself right now. ❤️

[@MrinheartsOfficial]

This is precisely why I love you so much, Chelsea and TFD .. literally the best channel on finance, life skills, lifestyle on YT. Thank you, I needed this nudge and attitude shift

[@JaniVMD]

❤ this is 🔥 as a new full fledged doctor 6 months out of training imposter syndrome is everywhere. When I started residency I decided imposter syndrome does not really exist and it is a social construct that is perpetuated in certain industries to belittle you and make you fee inadequate even when you have all the proper training and qualifications to be in that space. Do I sometimes doubt myself? Of course. But every time the thought of feeling inadequate pops into my head I remind myself that I worked f-ing hard to be here and I have what it takes.

[@rebeccajesse4604]

same thing in pharmacy! I'm set to graduate this year so I'm competing with my classmates and every other graduating student for jobs and residency. I always feel that I don't measure up to my classmates. Working to stop comparing myself with others and instead focusing on what I can bring to every situation.

[@germanus7302]

Someone had to say it and i love that you did. Several of my coworkers and I joke, "network" is just another word for nepotism. And i wish someone had told me all this in college instead of some vague "networking is important". I do have the confidence to be proud of my work and see how far I've come even as im ahead of some and behind others, but it's great to just hear it!

[@Its_like_the_T-Rex]

I needed to hear this. I just joined a project and I feel pretty dumb in some of the meetings, but my experience isn't the same. Whereas I may not prepare presentations for City Council, I'm working in the trenches understanding software workarounds, work processes and developing relationships with our clients.

[@holybird0079]

I really lucked out getting to work for a large, privately held company that really emphasizes the learning aspect of the job. I am definitely not in the situation where my demographics make me feel othered or anything of the like, but I essentially learned 2 programming languages and a different skill set in my first 4 months (I was a political science major, this is not what I have training for ;-;). I still definitely feel like sometimes I shouldn’t be in certain rooms because I don’t understand what’s going on, but being in an environment where that feeling is recognized is sooooo huge.

[@l.d.8697]

What company and what location?

[@jettgalindo]

Thought I'd also mention how this rings so true with the latest book in the TFD Book Club "Rest is Resistance" by Tricia Hersey. There's so much weight towards institutional validation from our capitalist society, often with the intent of making people feel "not good enough". Just so we keep grinding and remain indebted to hustle culture. We ARE good enough and our achievements/successes are worth celebrating and shouldn't be diminished.

[@LindsPatz10]

I’ve been in my industry for six years so I have handful of different environments to compare. For me personally, I feel imposter-y when I receive no feedback on my performance. I’ve had hands-on managers and hands-off managers and I’ve determined that I prefer a supervisor who is engaged with me at a healthy capacity and let’s me know how I’m doing. Good or bad. Since knowing this about myself, I now make it known that I value and want that engagement.

[@JoyFay]

Me too

[@nervousbreakdown711]

Having a lot of learning disabilities give me a ton of imposter syndrome.

[@flightlessphoenix77]

You have to work harder than most people, at things a lot of people take for granted and are therefore a bad ass. Your perspective is valuable and your work ethic is admirable. Sincerely, a dyspraxic who has to tackle all kinds of shit that doesn't really come naturally- like being on time for stuff, not forgetting where I'm supposed to be, and not falling over my own feet, every damn day.

[@persephone213]

Chelsea’s confidence is inspiring. I’m really working on this with myself and I think I’m improving.

[@erima4270]

I really needed to hear this today, thank you Chelsea and the TFD team ♥️

[@cellolotus8077]

This really encouraged me. I needed this. Thank you as always Chelsea and TFD

[@VirgoLunaris]

That is a seriously fabulous shirt, and cheers to off the cuff!! That was a great rant.

[@zubizuva]

I was going to say the same thing. :) Blouse game on point.

[@katrinadavis2985]

Yes 🙌🏾 the people request to know where the blouse comes from!

[@dannelle17]

this is the wake up call i needed. thank you for always shaking the table, TFD!!!!

[@MitchMitchellStories]

Brilliant! Love this! I used to feel like this, but I've lost a lot of spirit over the last 15 years; life gets in the way sometimes. But I'm working my way back, and I appreciate the extra spark.

[@lyndabethcave3835]

I think I have the opposite of Imposter Syndrome: A deep frustration of "why aren't my efforts paying off?!" I have ADHD so that means it takes twice as much effort, energy and focus to see the same amount of progress as a Neurotypical person. So when I achieve some measure of success my reaction is "FINALLY."

[@RhymesWithSpark]

I so needed to hear this message. Hearing the recognition of those who clawed their way to the table hit home. 13:45 I started as a part-time assistant and now manage the comms and marketing for my office.

[@dianabaca7901]

Oh, Chelsea! I can't stress enough how amazing you and your job are, and how much I admire you and how much you inspire me!!! Love your channel!

[@anakarenfetzer6195]

Loved this one, Chelsea! I am a psychiatry resident and sometimes I go through the same feeling, while being irritated by some mediocre old men who retain power positions while not being the smartest or most prepared. You are right that there is a lot of internalized misogyny that goes into this, but it is time to turn the page! Thanks

[@aubreeslavik3283]

Thank you Chelsea for laying this out perfectly. Your confidence is magnetic and so is this blouse!

[@angelafairbanks3567]

I grew up with every white, wealthy, religious adult in my life telling me, "If you turn in a single project late at work, it will be easier for your employer to replace you than it will be for them to give you feedback." I'm not completely sure how that ingrained expectation of fear and hypercompetition works into things, but it's definitely contributed to my own sense of how I fit into my own workplaces...

[@pisceanbeauty2503]

That’s actually such a lie. As someone who has been on the hiring side, it’s better to work with people to improve their skill set (when they are eager to learn and have a knowledge of the basics) than it is to fire someone and then hire a new person with the “perfect” skill set.

[@katielarsen2630]

@@pisceanbeauty2503 As someone who helps with hiring and is the most senior employee besides the company owner (tiny company), this is 100% true. Not that we should slack on purpose, but my boss will put up with a lot rather than fire someone and have to onboard a new person

[@pisceanbeauty2503]

@@katielarsen2630 Yes, hiring is such an arduous process.

[@BellaGini92]

This is just what I needed to hear today. Thank you!!

[@7Unknown0]

Thank you for this video and your efforts TFD and Chelsea.

[@selenka26]

Thank you Chelsea, it is so refreshing to hear from a young successful business women and a public figure as well that IS does not bother her! healthy perception of yourself

[@cansofworms]

I’m just here for the blouse

[@cansofworms]

Ok nvm this is some good freaking content 😲

[@cansofworms]

Younger people are certainly more likely to take on their mental illnesses or their labels as identities. The younger generations genuinely look at their mental health to be concerns worth planning ahead of time for.

[@Rad.iantMoon]

Your videos are always so empowering. Thank you.

[@jmc1186]

Thanks girlie I needed this. As someone who has worked in 2 different repair industries? You're speaking truth.

[@Gfjancnslsdvv.ft1]

Really needed to hear this 💖

[@Wildmask123]

This was something I really needed to hear! Thank you Chelsea & TFD 👏👏

[@Quantyla1]

Yes, Thanks for reaching out. What is your name and where are you from?

[@Krissy_K888]

Growing up I was constantly told that I am not good enough, but if I was undeniably good at something then I was supposed to do that to please others. So most of my adult life I had imposter syndrome and then worked myself to the ground to prove myself to others. I appreciated the comments that approved of me but only really cared about the ones that criticized me. It was effing impossible and I called BS a few years ago and just work the hours I need to and at a comfortable pace.

[@ludiapap3528]

Chelsea and TFD thank you for this video, well said as always 👌👏👏👏👏

[@ysabeltabian6313]

This is so insightful. Thank you so much for your thoughts!

[@kendallstark4302]

Chelsea, this is your best rant yet. I applaud your candor and self-confidence, which should be celebrated. Good 👏🏻 for 👏🏻 you

[@ariwl1]

I'm not sure I've had imposter syndrome specifically, but I've definitely struggled with thinking I wasn't good enough to do things. And the thing is, like just about any mental health issue with anxiety at its base, the actual reality is probably very different then whatever your brain is trying to convince you of. If you managed to get yourself into a room, the good people who are seasoned veterans and already in the room probably aren't thinking too much about if you're good enough to be there. Just ask anybody who does employee hiring regularly and is good at it. Considering the deluge of applications any job posting usually gets these days, if you actually made it to the interview stage, they think it's at least possible you're qualified to do the job and are really hoping you are so they can fill the role and get on with things. Also, if you struggle with imposter syndrome, odds are you approach your business and personal life in an honest way. It would be quite a thing fool those around you who have more experience then you without even trying. Sometimes the simplest answer really is the best one and you simply are indeed qualified to be there.

[@JoyFay]

Thank you!

[@user-ox3wr6uz1q]

The rant around 14:55 - 15:17 reminded me of the girl from the parasite movie who straight up joanne scammed her way into an art therapist job and bought her entire family with her as well.

[@ChristyZilka]

Thank you for saying "I'm lucky enough to be raised by two parents who are supportive..." You are lucky or fortunate for sure. It can be a trigger for many, me included, to not hear content creators point out the kind of support they received growing up. I think it plays a significant role in this imposter syndrome and how we take on our lives as adults. Financially too, right? I'm sure you've addressed this in one way or another in the past, but I think it's safe to say that how we were raised impacts us in our careers and finances. The impact is obviously very different for everyone. Anywayyyy, long story long, thank you!

[@kionarandle710]

I needed this right now , definitely have been feeling some imposter syndrome lately

[@cloudyskies5497]

This was a really good one that I needed to hear, thank you! I work so hard at my job and am crushing it in terms of stats in our software but still I really struggle to believe in myself. I can pull up the stats and see that I am thousands of transactions higher than the next person. I'm the new employee sitting at #1. At my first annual evaluation my boss said "What can we do to keep you?" All of that and yet I still question myself each day.

[@Catsandcoffee123]

This is great stuff! I've also seen some interesting variants of late... Some incompetent people being lazy, and declaring that they have an imposter syndrome.

[@CapnGalaGuthrun]

Genuinely think this is one of the best and most impactful videos I’ve watched on this channel - and I watch a lot! Thank you for saying this. You are the voice of reason I need in my head. This month I’ve been part of a team that’s won a million pound pitch. But still found myself questioning my worth. That’s not based in reality and we need to stop normalising women feeling this way. You aren’t an imposter. You’re a badass.

[@sophiaosiris446]

I really needed to hear this.

[@ChloeTheePayne]

oooooooooh this is such a perfectly timed video, i really needed this reminder!!! i've got a small youtube channel (just hit 300 subscribers whooooot) and since i've started investing more time in that hobby i've been really surprised by the sense of impostor syndrome that has snuck up on me... i'm pretty confident in many other areas of my life/career/creativity, but this medium is newer to me so i'm falling into a terrible habit of negative self talk about youtube. well NO MORE! i'm getting ready to do some goal setting for the new year, and ngl now my visionboard might include quotes from this video or maybe even printing out a lil screencap of chelsea at the end being all ✌cuz hell yeah cool confident auntie energy for 2023

[@abbyabroad]

I became a teacher without a teaching degree via Teach for America and had massive imposter syndrome due to that-because I was truly unqualified at first. I then felt incredibly intimidated because I “just” had a degree from a state university, while my Teach for America corps member colleagues came mostly from Ivy League schools and oozed a level of confidence and entitlement that was a lesson in and of itself. 14 years later, I am the only one still teaching from those original colleagues and have hurled to the other end of the spectrum, having worked in many different cultures, with every age, with a master’s degree and a prodigious talent for writing curriculum and data analysis. I am now surrounded by arrogant men, mostly white even in an international school, and routinely see a myriad of ways that things are done incredibly poorly and could be done better. Men routinely also confidently say things that are flag-out wrong, laughable and so outlandish that I feel like I’m in a meme. My BFF and I here have opted a mantra: “I wanna have the confidence of a middle-aged white man!” I hate it when it hurts students, but I have ZERO interest in being a manager of such people. Education admin is a thankless career, and I have discovered the AMAZING truth of what Chelsea says here: “If you routinely find yourself the smartest person in the room, it’s time to find another room.” I am doing that now, buoyed by China’s high salary for teachers, and hope this time next year to be living my best digital nomad life. Of course, that means, at 37, that I am facing profound insecurity and fear-which is what imposter syndrome really is-as I move to start my own business. At least if it fails, I am incredibly confident that I have a job to return to! ;)

[@Macxermillio]

Thank you for this, Chelsea!

[@mash12372]

I absolutely loved this video. I appreciate your honesty about the privileges you did and didn't have. I wasn't raised with an emotional support system but I've gotten to a point in my life where I know my worth and the value of my work and yet I feel like I'm not allowed to acknowledge that and almost like imposter syndrome is the new humble or something.

[@loveinseattle]

Fuck yeah! Great off-the-cuff content. If Elon Musk doesn't have imposter syndrome after all the vaporware he "invented", why should any of us?

[@starlightt4094]

Good point!!

[@ng.tr.s.p.1254]

well... Dunning-Kruger effect is on his side

[@juliekswanson]

Yessss!

[@pisces031372aj]

I'm so glad you mentioned the way certain terms are used. I'm Gen x, and I feel like my daughter and her friends make way too many molehill issues into mountains. I never know how to address this because I don't want to be insensitive but it irritates me so much because it seems like after a while it's a draining waste of time and mental resources dealing with what I consider just another bump in life. There are true traumas for sure, but not everything rises to that level. I feel like we overuse terms like syndrome and trauma, and that's a real negative.

[@KatrinaEames]

Anytime I have ever felt imposter syndrome it is because the environment I was entering was actively hostile to be people who weren't in the "in-group" - weather that meant being the only girl in a high school D&D group, a first-generation college student, the only non-white person in my workplace or the youngest person in a room - and just because people haven't tried to make me feel welcome doesn't mean I'm not needed in that space - because either I'm qualified and deserve to be in the room based on the skills I've built or I'm clever enough to trick my way in and honestly good for me

[@honorableman56789]

Absolutely love to see it! Keep going at it! I wish you and TFD the best :)

[@Quantyla1]

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[@saraj.6978]

I needed this pep talk 🥲

[@Sophmorical]

I always wonder how many people feel like they have imposter syndrome because they've heard that it's a thing and so it reinforces feelings of self doubt. A certain amount of self doubt or awareness of areas for growth is healthy because it makes us realize where we can improve, not a fan of pathologizing it. On an unrelated note, that shirt is amazing! Truly giving fun and fashionable aunt vibes.

[@emilyglass6625]

I have a PhD and taught at a university for over ten years. I think I had a lot to offer and was a good teacher, but I was constantly surrounded by what felt like impossible standards for *mere adequacy.* I often felt like I had done 750 worthwhile things by the end of the day and wanted to be proud of myself for that - but I was supposed to have done 1000. I tried to weather the situation by staying hopeful that my knowledge and experience would mount and compound in a way that would make everything a little easier, and I obviously did learn and grow - but mostly as a person and in non-quantifiable ways. Frankly I forgot information all the time. The topics I was prepped to have a sophisticated conversation about were mainly the ones I had reread recently and had perfectly fresh in my mind. Just staying fresh to that degree, on this week's worth of topics, was a huge time and brain commitment. I guess if you create a job description that requires someone to do 1000 fairly complex things a day, then anyone who can't do them is inadequate to the task, by definition. All you need, as an employer, is for people to exist who can do All The Things. And although they may have been keeping their own secrets, many or most of my colleagues at least made it look like they could. I don't think my job responsibilities or workload were decided 1) with fairness and work-life balance in mind, at all, much less 2) with input from adjuncts at my level. I just wish there had been someone in that environment, in my life, who admitted feeling the same way I did. I gave so much of myself but it wasn't enough to rise to the occasion, in that job's terms. I know I have valuable skills and have done good work, but I'm not sure I can ever feel "real," after seeing what that was supposed to mean.

[@wysegalloway4546]

Thank so much for this

[@lyasiaharris8016]

Needed to hear this! 😊

[@adventurousbec]

The timing is impeccable, thank you Chelsea.

[@adamwhite2641]

A thought on the sponsor; they even put a notice about it on their website. Refinancing student loans disqualifies you from other Federal benefits. The notice stated that refinancing would disqualify you from the 10k forgiveness. It also disqualifies you from programs like PSLF. And I believe people who refinanced before the pandemic never got the deferment offered to everyone with federal student loans.

[@AmyLongUS]

Truth. I refinanced right before the pandemic. Lower interest rate: check. Bad timing: also check.

[@Ashton205]

Thank you Chelsea 🙏🏻💙

[@courtneyshannon2621]

I saw some tweet a few years ago that said "All the wrong people have imposter syndrome!" (I can't figure out who originally said it), and that totally changed my thinking on this. I rarely feel like I have it anymore now.

[@Grace-jb7me]

You’ve articulated what I’ve been feeling. The only downside is when there are consequences for not living up to expectations. When I’ve gone above and beyond in the past and slacked a bit down the line because the work wasn’t my speed I’d get fired and all my hard work has been overlooked. Maybe I need to pursue the entrepreneurship life.

[@deirdrebridge]

Possibly the most HELL YES content ever. Thank you

[@Investigator86]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@EmeliaSings]

Feel like I'm the 3rd smartest in a room with 10+ people, also a sign to go to a different room, which I am in under a month. Love that outlook on it. Can't wait to be in a room where I have a lot to learn!

[@user-vb1ur2xm5t]

omg just started the video and Chelsea looks AWESOME! Such good hair, clothes, colors

[@user-vb1ur2xm5t]

I mean, she always looks great, I just love this style combo in particular

[@eskimopie155]

I love this perspective. We need to address the institutional practices that promote the feeling of constantly not being good enough instead of treating it as solely an individual confidence problem that can be addressed by the self-help industry. I used to be in a hyper-competitive career path and constantly felt terrible about myself. A few jobs later, I realized it’s probably because someone/something is giving signals to make you feel that way. It’s the water you swim in making you sick. The popular approach to imposter syndrome is telling people treat our personal illness instead of clean the water.

[@Quantyla1]

Thanks for watching, send a Dm to the number above let's talk on WhatsApp . Endeavour to reach out! 📩👆.

[@Xpndable]

I'm a millennial. My highest education credential is a high school diploma, I've worked as a computer repair technician, accounts clerk, accountant and am now a software engineer on a low 6 figure salary, all with no formal training, only on the job experience and what I could research myself through Google and KZbin. I have never networked to find jobs, always blindly applying for open positions with my resume and impressing people in interviews. I've had my fair share of imposter syndrome over the years, but I haven't let it stop me from pursuing interesting jobs that I was confident I could be good at. And so far, I've been shown to be good at the jobs I've taken on, with recognition in the companies I've worked for.

[@almag0410]

This was great !

[@anon7057]

I was at a network event once where the guy presenting told us that they had decided to show up to my public university to give us a chance for job positions, but they usually went with the private university on the other side of the city for engineers. I work in an accredited field where the education is the same! Besides the fact that most of the training is on the job anyway. People are just attracted to expensive things and people, but it doesn’t make them more competent

[@dianev6180]

I am a boomer and I relate to everything you say, Chelsea. Love your work

[@chelseaa.vargas533]

These are my favorite kind of videos!!

[@Quantyla1]

Thanks for the feedback, send a msg to the number👆 above I've got something essential to share.

[@hannahwhite7227]

Based on my own personal experiences imposter syndrome stemmed from the people I was closest with throughout my life that reinforced those negative thoughts/feelings associated with it. Ever since I was a kid I expressed the strong desire to work in the creative industry, throughout my teens got into digital art, and in my early adult hood have been working towards making my art into a business. I was always encouraged to make art (which I’m very confident in my ability to do), but commonly heard, “you’ll never-“, “you can’t-“, “you won’t-“, etc. when discussing the business aspect. I’ve fought really hard to overcome those feelings and have been able to make progression towards my goals over the years. However have noticed that I felt unsure when making certain decisions, have had reoccurring thoughts/feelings that no one cares or appreciates what I do, and if I achieve a personal business goal I would instantly think that I didn’t deserve it. Fortunately I have surrounded myself with people who are reassuring, positive, and encouraging which has helped with it significantly.

[@sarieshakti1448]

Get it Chelsea! Always great content!

[@Quantyla1]

Thanks for the comment, for guidance ✉📩📊ꜱᴇɴᴅ ᴍᴇ ᴀ ᴅɪʀᴇᴄᴛ ᴍᴇꜱꜱᴀɢᴇꜱ ʀɪɢʜᴛ ᴀᴡᴀʏ!!✙𝟭𝟯𝟭𝟲𝟴𝟰𝟰𝟬𝟮𝟴𝟯♜

[@erinbrooke944]

Thank you for once again accurately contextualizing a pop psych term that’s been in the zeitgeist for a hot minute! So many young people want to be the scrappy entrepreneur but hide behind imposter syndrome. Embrace that shit. Learn and grow. Thanks Chelsea!

[@fran_ca]

That was an amazing video! Yes to everything

[@Quantyla1]

Thanks for the comment, for guidance ✉📩📊ꜱᴇɴᴅ ᴍᴇ ᴀ ᴅɪʀᴇᴄᴛ ᴍᴇꜱꜱᴀɢᴇꜱ ʀɪɢʜᴛ ᴀᴡᴀʏ!!✙𝟭𝟯𝟭𝟲𝟴𝟰𝟰𝟬𝟮𝟴𝟯♜

[@TheSecularMinority]

This video could not have come out at a more perfect time. I've been in supervision for 10 years. A manager position just opened up at my company and I've been on the fence about applying because I still don't feel like I've "earned" it yet or have the experience. I was going to throw my hat in the ring anyway, but I was worried about imposter syndrome and not being qualified for the job. This makes me feel a bit better about applying. So again, thank you for this video!

[@Jay-ho9io]

Going on the averages, you've probably earned it a long time ago. Considering that women are undervalued and women of color undervalued even more, it's depressing but you've probably been exceeding the standard of performance for the majority of people you've worked beside for a long time.

[@abbyabroad]

DO ITTTTT

[@monikaczng]

This was no script? Dayum, those presentation skills 🥰

[@eeris31]

😊 beautifully said!

[@Elspm]

Two things have really helped with my imposter syndrome: 1) ADHD diagnosis helping me understand my erratic success 2) Seeing other people be a bit shit. Turns out the perfection that I can't achieve is also the perfection no one can achieve..

[@Moundfreek]

I'm 35 and just got diagnosed with ADHD. I'm still working on treatments, but understanding my brain and how it's added to the Millennial uphill-battle for fiscal and professional success has been illuminating. When I've failed (in school, work, etc), I've hated myself. When I succeed, I've somehow managed to trick people into thinking I'm competent.

[@Elspm]

@@Moundfreek ooft that last sentence hits a bit too close to home

[@abbyabroad]

37 and just diagnosed. Both of your statements are SOOO true. “Selective excellence,” I’d call it. I’ve always been so good as a teacher at writing curriculum but egregiously delayed grading. Weird to have such high and low skill levels in the same career, but now, it makes a lot more sense!

[@Moundfreek]

@@abbyabroad That's a good term to describe it. I identify with having varied strengths in my career. I can be okay at small, bite sized tasks. But editing 600 page policy documents over a 4 year period with delicate word choice betrays my focus.

[@girlhoney]

I needed this...

[@theMad155]

To help me feel more confident in my job I try to help people as much as I can. If i can get easy wins and build relationships it is always helpful! I am of course always making sure that those actions are pertinent to my own work.

[@KakiT1]

I have never had imposter syndrome but I do have something probably related. I was raised to always prioritize other ppl's word over mine, even if I 100% know they r wrong. It leads to funny situations where at school I want to just pass, I don't care for my score, but I act like a straight-A student bc I'm terrified of magically not passing if I'm not giving my all at all times, even tho I can see everyone else around me barely get themselves to class and still easily pass. It's irritating. I don't believe that I don't belong there but I am paranoid that everyone else telepathically knows something I don't so if I don't work as hard as I do I won't pass while they do. I sure hope I can get over this before I start my career (less than a year from now) bc I would not be able to handle that in a less structured environment where if I'm not productive I might get instantly thrown out if the boss doesn't like me (ik, unrealistic, but that's paranoia for ya)

[@cronchyskull]

As a freelancer feeling like an imposter became downright dangerous and I didn't realise until then just how bad it could get. I had finished a job and was actually crying and saying that I needed to quit bevause I wasn't good enough and I was letting all my colleagues down. It was a very scary way to feel and if there's a way to shirk it, I'd love to hear about it 😅

[@doggydude4123]

It really is the huge barrier of entry that cause my imposter syndrome. As an Engineer, with all the competition in school and limited amount of engineering positions often due to offshoring, it just appear that the job you got make you feel unqualified or don't belong. It was when I started working and watching the incompetence of some of my peers that it's that not hard of a job after all and that many people can do this job. I even overheard from a manager that they only interview PHDs which is illegal because it's not part of the job description. That scumbag lady is retired now imagine how many careers failed to launch because of her. Literally, the hardest part of my job was getting it.

[@Naswillshine]

Omg yes yes yes! Everything you said was spot on !!!!!

[@tauIrrydah]

Oh SHIT I need to see the Executive Assistant subreddit/youtube scene because that content sounds LIT

[@anastasiasmolentseva]

"you are a literal princess" haha love that!

[@frappalina]

Woman, this was badass

[@markdavidofficial4274]

I’m a dude and a newer teacher. I got into education through an alternative certification and geez, I feel like such an imposter when I make lessons and leave a classroom. I just straight up don’t have the same level of knowledge and I feel out of place

[@jordanh.5182]

If you’re listening to this podcast then you too, have knowledge they don’t have! Comparison is the thief of happiness.

[@brittyh428]

I suffer from imposter syndrome in every aspect of my life, not just at work. The key is to give yourself grace and fairness. And stop effing comparing and contrasting yourself to others!!!!😊

[@Erica-en2qz]

Preach, Chelsea!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@vida2459]

Love the comment about you not doubting yourself in your job. Normalizing female confidence 🙌