We Need to Talk About This More.

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A girl working for the domestic violence and sexual assault (DV/SA) and Prison Rape Elimination Act (PREA) hotline talks about her job.

[@Devilsblight86]

Honestly, I'm glad more people are realizing that the whole "men can't get raped" thing is bs. And bless this young woman for all the hard work she is doing.

[@rootfish2671]

Even cops are hesitant to beleive male victims

[@thelovelybunny9012]

I also hate when people cite the statistics how many men get raped vs women. A small percentage of sex crimes are actually reported, plus social stigma makes men way less likely to report. So yes. Statistics, while useful for finding data patterns, are flawed.

[@Spartacus-4297]

sorry to tell you but in the UK a man can not be raped it is always classified as sexual assault. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse I can say this from first hand experiance.

[@PewPewCricket]

​@@Spartacus-4297 I hope the person who did that to you gets what they deserve. Also What the HELL is wrong with the UK!

[@Spartacus-4297]

@pewpewcricket6834 it's the same in most countries that the legal definition of rape is forced penetrative sex by a penis, and so men can be raped but only by other men otherwise it's considered sexual assault or sodomy.

[@FROGGKINGG]

I hope she gets into a job position where she can help people in these tough situations. I have a feeling she will do good work.

[@mckitty2628]

she now has the education to do so thanks to her self research

[@garaj1]

My girlfriend is a school-based therapist and a lot of this overlaps with the things she's told me about the domestic violence and sexual assault cases she's had to mediate as well as with her job in general. I have nothing but respect to the people who do this kind of work. As difficult and draining as it may be, it's important, and I wish more people appreciated it as such.

[@hicknopunk]

After being unable to find a therapist who would work at my pace, who really cared, who literally gave me her cell phone number, so I can rarely contact her if there is a crisis I have to deal with. One component is that I was abused for 2 to 3 years, from barely 4 to nearly 7. For up to 3 months at a time without a break from the rape. I never got justice or help or dignity. I was made to believe it was my fault and my sin. I realised in my 40s, i needed a child psychologist. It took years, but I found my angel. I found a k-5 therapist and social worker who was willing to give my child self one single adult in the world to trust except my love. Like this channel says, I needed someone to hear my story. I am always the one helping and healing everyone else and I don't really understand self care. God bless your girlfriend. If she ever has a weird client who needs help as adult. I hope she hears them out if she can. My trauma is so connected to the child I was, parts of me become that scared, vulnerable child again. I don't think a therapist trained to treat adults can really help an adult with severe childhood trauma. I cried my heart out to get through making this post...but if somehow this knowledge helps 1 person, it is worth it. I know how it feels to feel worthless and nobody should ever know that true feeling.

[@adam.maqavoy]

At least. You've someone to Rely *upon* Not everyone has That Luxury. I'm an Example (Set) by the State.

[@J4_yd3n]

The title is so right, we definitly NEED to talk about this more and do something for those who are victims of that sh!t

[@erifox3626]

I agree so darn much

[@blazemcking]

I really hope this gets big, as a Male SA victim some of the shit people can go threw is just demonic honestly. Destroys families, communities and in some cases generations. Really glad you make these vids keep it up mate!

[@C-SD]

I know how hard it was as a female survivor to be listened to, and find someone that wouldn't blame me. I also know its way harder for male survivors to get help so I just wanted to acknowledge how shitty that is. I hope life is going well for you now.

[@Frizzendoggo]

This may be a small consolation, but the caller you described was likely making it up and getting sensual gratification from the call. It mimics a few cases I’ve had, especially the part where he asked your name and asked if you wanted pics. It’s awful you weren’t debriefed afterward, I’m sorry that happened.

[@Azeal]

oof, wow...

[@hicknopunk]

I was hoping he was mentally ill and in a psychosis. That he had stabbed his bed or a sofa maybe and was just losing it.

[@LorienInksong]

People like OP have helped me be a rape survivor, instead of falling to the despair and ending my life. Thank you.

[@Nonessentialsquid]

Im sorry that’s a terrible thing to go through. Hope you are doing better.

[@Marcaronipasta]

Thank goodness you're doing better, I can't even imagine getting raped as someone who's been sexually assaulted a small amount.

[@mrguest3749]

hope you are getting better. good luck

[@user-dk2ct1uf7g]

Most of what she said about the police not taking it too seriously is true. My mother was pretty damn close to being raped and then the guy gave up on her and started targeting me when I went to school or someplace else. I called the police and told them about this and they didnt do much to prevent this from happening again. They just filed a report and said call again if there was any trouble. If I had known at the time that this hotline existed I would have called, as the person was also insane and got damn near hurting me a few times. At one point he was even in a hospital for mental people.

[@rootfish2671]

Cops are big perpetrators of domestic & s exual violence. They're not here to protect & serve but to be attack dogs of the state.

[@kalielik]

The police really is a joke sometimes. I hope your safe and okay now

[@neonrelmsproductions4224]

Her story about the husband who killed his wife was intense. These videos are so touching and real and make me so damn emotional.

[@QuantemDeconstructor]

Azeal hitting out of the park lately with these videos, thank you for helping spread awareness about stuff like this!

[@Azeal]

🧡

[@bigbob074]

My god the fact that people go numb to these experiences is insane spicy vid Azeal we do need to talk about this more

[@ceooflowrolls2081]

Humans can only take so much stress and trauma before their only defense is to stop feeling about these situations

[@jessicalindo7977]

The worst part is the fact that centres don't take it seriously, the people at the top 1. Don't pay these people enough and 2. There's no system in place to ensure that these people don't just burn out and they hire another one with no care for their well-being. There needs to be rotation, debriefing, these things are not just important for people who went through traumatic experiences but just basic human beings, stress management is SO important and there's so little of it. The image that I get is always that: Good people on the ground, higher-ups that don't give a single fuck

[@LevadeNZ]

Children texting in being a last resort is so real. I don't work for a crisis line, I've been an admin/moderator for an online childrens game for a very long time (taking a break from that while development on the sequel is underway), and it was not at all uncommon for children to disclose to we faceless administrators. We each have an ID number and the kids would get to know us, because COPPA compliant forum and live chat is so highly controlled. The kids who disclosed to us were, without exception, very isolated. In plenty of cases, we were the only adults they "knew" out of their strict church community. We did what we could for every single child - the owners even sought legal advice on what steps were available for several - but our main goal was always to validate their feelings, thank them for their trust, and tell them that whatever happened wasn't their fault.

[@Nverdis]

Did the suicide hotline, followed by several mental health jobs. Regarding becoming numb to it all, part of it is due to the fact that your perspective of what your society really is changes the more exposed you are to these kinds of things: you slowly begin to realize that the mentally ill, suicidal, victims of rape and more have always existed in your society, they just aren't brought into the open where people can see them for who they are. And frankly, many people SHAME them for who they are so why would they be?

[@rootfish2671]

Society shields people from the harsh realities of life

[@joshcruzat3112]

Areal you’re doing gods work man interviewing and letting these people be heard ❤️✨

[@Azeal]

🧡

[@pelontrix]

god - the whole. people doing inappropriate shit on the call center line thing is very real. i got sexually harassed one time during my week-long stint as a call center worker.

[@rootfish2671]

Perverts love targeting women on customer service lines

[@jackmanson2719]

We had a cult problem in my town and we were able to get the kids taken out before the raid.

[@hicknopunk]

Yeah, damn

[@kaelikestoeatbugs]

submit your story, it could be interesting. put awareness out there.

[@jackmanson2719]

@@kaelikestoeatbugs i submitted a story about my nazi great grandfather's journal

[@kaelikestoeatbugs]

@@jackmanson2719 wow, thats awesome. id love to see you get interviewed eventually.

[@hicknopunk]

@@jackmanson2719 was he in the military? I read everything I can from the Nazis as I find it so deeply disturbing. I also find it interesting to read things like tanker manuals and other war literature to get a fuller picture of the conflict than my American education gave me growing up. There are so many lessons to learn from WW2. I hope you don't feel bad you had a Nazi family member. As long as you don't hate, you need feel no burden from their actions. ❤

[@ourdream1]

Heart wrenching to the end, the title is definitely spot on, this isn't talked about enough.

[@GiniroTsuki]

I used to volunteer for a Crisis Line. It's interesting to see how similar it is to an abuse line like this one. Yes, including the perverts. Lots of mentally unwell people who are just lonely and looking for someone to talk to. But still plenty of people needing help. I'm sorry to hear, though, that her job doesn't seem to offer any assistance to their workers after dealing with particularly traumatic calls. This is something that should be provided because it can be very traumatizing! In my country, this kind of service is provided to emergency operators (like 911) and to crisis lines. It should be provided here too.

[@C-SD]

I was thinking this. There should be someone with counseling training on staff for the workers to talk to. I can see not having someone there 24/7, but there should be somebody.

[@mizulightblue]

I am currently in a relationship with is emotional, physical abusive plus neglection for our children (he neglects them). I live in Finland and honestly, no one takes you serious. Finland is nr2 of most domestic violence in Europe. The police doesn't take it seriously, they just ask the man about the situation and if it's true what the woman has said and if the guy says, it is not true, they leave again. Why would a guy admit of doing something wrong? Currently CPS is involved and they are on his side, saying, since I am the mom, I should do everything without help (have 2 kids, one is 5 and other one is 1 1/2 years old) and it is my fault that the dad is acting like this. He obviously likes to hear that, but his behaviour doesn't change. CPS says that he needs more free time, well he has all the free time he can get, meanwhile I have about 3 h in a week free (when a friend helps out). I have tried to get full custody many times, but always gets denied, because this is Finland and I am not originally from here (I'm Austrian, but children where born in Finland). I am not even allowed to go home, unless he let us and obviously he does not.

[@Sp1derBedo]

This is actually one of the jobs I want to get into. While I haven't experienced things this bad or often, I've had to help so many of my friends while they're on the verge of suicide or talk them through instances of rape to the point I can easily identify what stage of recovery or urgency they're in. It's taxing and on some level I probably have trauma from it all, but I wouldn't give it up for the world either. I want to help people and be the person I needed when I was struggling

[@hicknopunk]

You remind me of my completely unqualified medical skills I have acquired from being in hospitals a couple to a few months a year for over 40 years. I can fix any machine fault and thread pumps better than any nurse. I also sometimes patch up local wildlife. Drugging, cleaning and sewing up an animal is only hard if it is your own wound. I have made my way up to a successful self molar removal 😄 I can entirely relate to how your life has led you to acquire skills people usually go to school for. I wish you the best!

[@Sp1derBedo]

@@hicknopunk Thank you so so much. I'm honestly just concerned about getting the degree to prove and help enhance my skills more than actually doing the career part. While I know it will be easy to burn out, I also know how much my work will mean to me and in some ways, even help me to keep going. And good luck with your own job. I'm honestly so so thankful for people like you, especially since I'm regularly in and out of the hospital. Your work means the world for so many people including myself (and also congrats on the self molar removal! it sounds so painful though T-T)

[@hicknopunk]

@@Sp1derBedo the tooth was a ...not fun time. The pain and swelling were so bad and I was getting a 2ndary infection, was days from getting to a phone...so I found a way through it and the relief a few hours after was immense. I wish I could link a photo, i kept it and took a picture to show my doc I wasn't kidding. Getting the papers to council people might be daunting, I wonder if you could get any jobs on a 2 year degree at least in social work. I think, think it will be 4 years if you get a masters of science. Self educate all you can to speed run collage in less time. Pour your whole self into your dream!

[@Sp1derBedo]

@@hicknopunk I'm glad it worked out in the end. I deal with a ton of pain on a day to day basis so I'm super happy for you. I just wish it could have been painless. I think I could get jobs on a two year degree, but my problem right now is my health getting in the way of my studies. Even things that used to be easy for me are extremely daunting now. It's to the point that taking just one class is enough to tire even my body out so much I can hardly even get out of bed much less walk a good amount of the time. I just hope that things can get better, or at least somewhat manageable for me so I can pursue my dream. And that's the plan! I keep learning because at my core, I love to find out new things. I just find mental health so so fascinating and interesting. It's been one of my favorite areas of study for years now

[@hicknopunk]

@@Sp1derBedo oh man. I am in a bit of a health spot too. I really get that. If you feel that way, maybe an online university experience from a real university might be best for you? From Dec 5th to 15th I am getting a procedure every other day to help my knee and digestive stuff happier...well after weeks of worse pain 😅 Right now my whole life feels like all phone calls and office visits. Having a mental will much stronger than your body is a frustrating situation. Waiting months, even over a year to get in with a new specialist. I don't know you, so just feel free to ignore my advice. I know how it feels to have someone else say what they think you can do or not and I hope I am not coming across as overbearing. I really care for each person and if somehow I can say something helpful, I will try. I forget the author, but there is a famous Greek who wrote a book on how to life a stoic life in the face of reality. I doubt you'd get the wrong book if you search on the web. Building my willpower up to the maximum and learning to want nothing I do not truly need made a lot of sense to me. If you go into social work, make sure it is fulfilling for you. Those jobs will grind down anyone who does not live to help others. You need to feel good doing this kind of work. You will need a therapist of your own! Do not feel it is weakness to need a 3rd party to talk to yourself, everyone who gives therapy is in therapy or they are down a dark road. Fight for your ability to go to school, even if you need to get drs to sign off on you needing accommodations. ❤❤❤

[@Maceman486]

This reminds me of a few situations I faced in my line of work. I've definitely helped more than a few people call the helpline. I'm glad to hear from a person on the other end of the call. Thank you for doing your best and I wish you happiness going forward.

[@Fearsomehero]

What an absolutely wonderful and smart young lady! I wish her/you all the best in your education!

[@Platinum_Band]

Azeal this is my first time ever writing a comment on your channel. And honestly the people you talk to, the things you let them talk about is amazing. You work so hard with so little recognition in the fact that you too are doing good for these people you talk to as well. Not only are you letting them get these things off their chest but you are also bringing awareness to it and I see the charity work with the donation links to the charities for each video and for that you are an absolutely amazing person. Thank you for always being a listening ear to those who need it and giving the light of day to topic that are so feared to be talked about publicly. Also can you bring back the Bounty Hunter and Swat guy for another meet up. That was a funny but amazing conversation they had. Thank you again for being so absolutely amazing for these people and giving them the chance to get these things out there and bringing awareness to them.

[@sh6touu]

We gotta respect the people who have the mental power to deal with stuff like that... These people pick others over themselves which is absolutely amazing, thank you.

[@skybluepainter]

This is why I never became a 911 operator. I'm not strong enough to experience this level of trauma.

[@JustSomeLint]

As a DV/SA youth advocate in a rural southern community. I’m with her. Sometimes the stuff these kids tell me fucks me up heavy. And it sucks because I can’t. Like they say I do alot. But it never feels like it’s enough. I’m appreciative that the kids I work with trust me. But fuck man. I’m not a savior- but ironically thanks to my own bs growing up I’m stuck with a savior complex. And sometimes it just feels like my inability to legitimately fix it, not that it’s even fucking possible, is contributing to the problem. Goals to work myself out of the job. But the work just doesn’t stop. And at times it feels like a Sisyphusian task. To be completely deadass with anyone reading this. Just be more kind to people. It can make a world of difference.

[@Energy_Department]

I was abused as a kid I kinda want to become a CPS agent now

[@davidkoudelka10]

@@MillerTheMagicalBoyDarkPrince Then why are you saying anything?

[@LuigiDude647]

@@MillerTheMagicalBoyDarkPrince 🤡

[@LMV123]

Sorry to hear that

[@LMV123]

@@MillerTheMagicalBoyDarkPrince who asked for you to talk?

[@eggduck2881]

@@MillerTheMagicalBoyDarkPrince your username makes sense, your edgy as all shit

[@C-SD]

What you are doing is so important. I can only imagine how much that would burn you out. As a SCA survivor I appreciate you (and your coworkers) for doing this.

[@saku0bscure]

This person is so great and I really commend them for doing this work. This is a great example of how jobs in the mental health field for people who haven’t got a graduate degree yet are soooo difficult and deserve to be appreciated a lot more. I’m an AMFT and as a therapist, I would say my pre-graduate work was a lot more difficult and emotionally draining. I worked as a residential counselor in several residential treatment facilities for teens, and the experience was so valuable for the same reasons, but so hard and I have so many stories like the ones this person gave where I had to take a step back and just go to my car and cry. Mental health workers are in this field for a reason and my heart goes out to all of them. Good on this person for knowing their emotional limits and choosing to work with a different population ❤

[@neosstuff]

i have a lot of respect for her and all the others that have something to do with hotlines

[@justincurry1465]

Thanks for sharing this and also thanks for her being so helpful for so many people

[@jamessurnamepending1239]

sounds like the guy talking about killing his wife was getting off to it, probably some sad fuck sitting in his basement. im sure she would have been debriefed if he actually killed someone. anyway though, men and women like this lady save lives. i know people who would be dead without them. my heart goes out to you if you're reading this and are the field, you're a legend. underpaid, overworked and totally awesome

[@rootfish2671]

It's strange he called the hotline instead of the police or 911. Even stranger she wasn't asked to fill out a police report or they weren't contacted

[@rootfish2671]

@Goblin Mode they at least have to have caller ID not to mention the phone company has records

[@alexdon621]

HOW COME WHEN I'VE GOT RAPED, NOBODY WAS ABLE TO DO ANYTHING. I WAS A KID, DIFFICULTIES TALKING, AUTISTIC, YET I DONT DWEL ON IT. I'M STILL HERE. AUTHORITIES SUCH AS COPS AND THERAPISTS BEST TO AVOID. I'VE REQUESTED THEM BUT I'VE BEEN BELOW AGE OF 18. WHEN I'VE REACHED OVER 18, I'VE HAD TO GO WITH LONG PROCEDURES WHICH GOT DECLINED.

[@theleviathan7383]

It's always hard to listen to those kind of stories these people have some of the most taxing jobs in the world and I think they deserve more recognition because without them these tragics stories wouldn't have a better ending

[@davidgeiger]

I find it very hard to believe they aren’t recording these kind of calls, what if a “counselor” has a bad day and says the wrong thing resulting in a self delete? I can understand the need for privacy and caution but it’s nuts to not record at all.

[@justincurry358]

The hug at the end was a nice touch, Azeal.

[@NERIAH7DAWN]

As a guy who was mouth***** when I was 10 I’m grateful you covered this topic, thank you.

[@fall6190]

Honestly it's amazing that operators, or, well people like you can talk like this with people like this so much. I tried to help people online, worst is I can't know if what they said was real, I believed them and it's rough. Some of the stories are enough to make my stomach churn and worst is that I can't do anything but make them smile really, knowing that you can!t do anything just gets to you, how do you do it? I personally later stopped doing it later. (I was helping random people between like 10/11-14 years of age and I am 16 now) I did love making people smile,but lot of people just became unhealthily attached and manipulative, trying to make me E-date them cause I made them smile when they were down. Or straight up people who just used it as a date app, trying to get a date with whoever helps them. I mean atleast 2 people say I saved their life by being there so that makes me happy, although 2 people used meto send their last message to someone which... yeah doesn't feel great. I don't help people randomly anymore, mainly because of the E-daters, as more and more tried to manipulate me later.(ew) I still help my friends and friends of my friends, it feels nice to support someone. What's terrifying about it though, I still feel sad, disgusted, angry and so on. I am actually a crybaby, crying at every sad story.Then my classmate, a friend died and i didn't even feel sad. It scares me, I did learn to make myself numb to emotions superficially, and it scares me. Either wayback to the topic, how are you actually able to handle it? Do you not feel burned out? You help others, so I hope you take care of yourselves too, you seem like a nice person/people, not exactly sure how many people are there. Hell I am just a stranger on te internet so no need to trust or answer me, but if I can ever help, I'd be glad to. Have a pleasant time and stay safe.

[@acuddle]

I really hate how a lot of people who work in psychology have their first job experiences in these kinds of services, where you need very grounded and mature adults. Of course college graduates are going to get burned-out, traumatized or even pick up mental illnesses if they work on hotlines like these where they can be exposed to any kinds of horrible life experiences... Calico is very sweet and brave and I'm happy she's feels okay after that horrifying call ! And I agree with the attractive voice, but when you hear someone who listens and helps you through a phone line, it's pretty logical to love their voice in return 🥰 ! Though some people are complete savages who channel those feelings in incredibly disgusting ways 😖

[@learningtodrawstudios4773]

Outside of the depressing topic. Calico is a really cool name alias or not

[@EclipzaPlays]

Hey azeal, could I do a story time with you I would be talking about PTSD and adhd and autism and I really want to get awareness out about it I have discord and a vr headset

[@calobk516]

Check the community posts or sometimes it’s in the description he has a google doc where you can apply

[@calobk516]

Update it is in the description

[@Azeal]

I accept submissions at azeal.me/submit :)

[@EclipzaPlays]

@@Azeal ok will do that

[@izaakwhit9754]

Definitely like the way ur talking in this conversation, I'm mainly just interested to listen to u as a recurring guest/series on azeals channel when possibly in the same server

[@yababyism]

This sounds like an incredibly taxing job. I just want to say that you are wise beyond your years and you are helping make a noticeable impact on society. Your story touches many and it is impossible to understate the work you are doing. I will be donating to RAINN, 988, and others because of this calll, and I just want you to know that your work is incredibly valued even by those outside of this system. It is impossible to indicate the help you bring to others, and it does not go unnoticed. Thank you for doing this interview and making even a handful of people more aware of these issues that plague our society today.

[@Calylovespjo]

AWWW THE ENDING

[@Azeal]

thank you for the kind words!!

[@ButterFromDiscord]

Ah yes, this didn’t get age restricted but the piss bottle incident did

[@Azeal]

yeah... :/

[@ch3kklikedollars]

bless her heart, i'm so glad to see someone caring so much about this

[@Ashersburn]

Hey azeal I don't know if you've already tried but I think It would awesome if you have a video version and a podcast version. I like watching the videos versions cause they're not (mostly) too long but it would be cool for people who like podcasts to have a podcast version

[@iihoneybea629]

12:30 I actually think that this was on a bbc show called ‘the real csi’ episode five i think ‘an admission to murder’. But then that one i think he called 999 [said what happened] and then snorted a couple and... entered his neighbor’s garage and made it a double homocide - his two kids were at school also tho and he was laughing over the line... if it isn’t the same case then the calling in laughing saying they’ve killed their wife is more common than i thought...

[@MrEnjoivolcom1]

The combat medic in Ukraine was my first video. Clicked on this and then subbed.

[@scottbraun2457]

I hope you are careful remember to look after you as well. It's hard but important what you are doing, but be careful not to forget your own needs too.

[@TheOddInfluencer]

I hope this was therapeutic for her. It can be traumatic listening to these things. I hope the best for her situation.

[@sephikirb]

Let's gooooo new video, love your stuff, very interesting content

[@clawedmoss9030]

Damn. Keep helping people.

[@hungrymusicwolf]

What a sweet person. I did not expect so much wholesomeness in an interview about such a dark topic. It's also kind of cute(?) not sure what to call it, that the person to who everyone vents finally gets to talk and vent to another person about it. Not just one person either, but tens of thousands of them.

[@Vamaka12]

We need a full version of outro song, It's beautiful I love it!

[@izaakwhit9754]

Like 2 yrs from listening to ur evolution in a playlist if still in this line of work would be very interesting

[@faustcrowley1304]

Can I ask what the name of the outro song is? I keep searching for it but it does no show up anywhere

[@Quebber]

Perfect title, this never gets talked about enough.

[@ivandotson9448]

Is there a full Vera of the outro music? I can’t find it if there is :(

[@MistressSacrifina]

I wish i had VR but i sadly don't have it. maybe if I save up enough money I might buy a set...especially considering I'd love to tell my story as well at some point in time.

[@sukatidi]

if you have a strong enough pc you can play vrchat without a vr headset, thats how i started, you can definitely still connect with people and make friends, VR isnt necessary to use vrchat, although its highly recommended of course since its its original purpose

[@luissantiago5163]

Oh damn this'll be a deep one

[@daqtaghhasfibers]

That sounds like a mentally heavy job to have and I wish all that works these kinds of jobs well. They are making a huge difference in so many people's lives.

[@joshuabrandenburg8308]

I was surprised when she said if a 12 year old called she would tell them to contact the local advocate. I would figure if any minor called and they say was sexually abused the immediate thing would be getting ahold of the authorities and getting them out the situation even if offender isn't there and right after that finding the offender to put them in jail. I figure it'd be like going to a hospital or school counselor. They are trained to get victim into a safe environment or immediately calling authorities. If not authorities at least dcfs and they gonna call authorities anyway. Because kids can't protect themselves. I couldn't do it. Any minor I'd try get a way to find out where they at, try to get city location, and look up their local police station right up and report the situation. On side note, these services are available anywhere in America and very useful. Can't remember a number but think it's a short number like a 411 thing but can't remember number, been like 12 years since I used service You call them, tell them what resource you're looking for, give em zip code and any town in America they will tell you closest place like homeless shelter, utilities help, rent help, it's not just for rape or abused victims. It's a call service to give the caller about ANY resource you need in your town. Even soup kitchens. People having mental breakdowns or thinking about suicide. Also if callers ask why things are taking so long just say "government bureaucracy"a lot of people know anything from the government goes at a snails pace and in the military even have a motto for it, hurry up and wait. You don't know how much they will have you hurrying to location just to not be ready for you and make you wait 3 hours. When I went to asvab for Navy it took literally all day to take asvab, well technically a day and a half, spent 4hours to go to closest asvab center, then they have all branches together in a hotel where u can do whatever until next morning then it's test all day. Get seen by physician, take drug test and get like 15 people at a time in a room to show them u can crab walk across the room then stand in line and there'll be dr each side of you for shots, 3 times so 6 shots. Oh I almost forgot. And watch like a 30 minute to hour long movie with shit loads nasty ass pics of every std known to man at different stages while a way to intense RDC or whatever your branch equivalant of a drill instructor tells you not to fuck the local girls and making observations how this prticular disease looks like certain type of food you'll then never want to eat again. Think they gave you breakdown of and maybe general rules and core values? I don't think ranks. But all that stuff might be for 1st day of actual boot camp which if you want it to be can be very soon. Like hour after taking test soon. After asvab you talk to someone I think, they tell you you what your options are from your score, you pick rating which means job. I'll always remember I didn't really try so did so so they wanted me to be an accountant. I was like I am not going into the navy and spending months at sea at a time just to sit behind a desk and do what I can do in my hometown. In retrospect I should of studied and tried a lot harder. For 1, wrong answers don't count towards score only right answers so if you don't know a question pick a choice anyway. Other reason is Navy has some of the best sign on bonuses. With minumim being like 5k but average prolly around 15k to 20k and top of the line is like 40k for machinist mate nuclear so you in reactor room on a sub but think you need 95 on asvab. I ended up going he gave me a list I picked interior communications electrician/fireman mainly cause I saw "fire control technician" with a 15k sign on bonus so thought I was getting 15k extra but found out later that a fire control technician isn't same thing as a fireman. They do exact same thing... but it's on a submarine not a ship. I was going on a carrier. Still, i-cman/fireman better than accountant in my eyes. Well more physical anyway and little bit more exciting. I told them no desk lmfao.

[@rkadi6540]

That dude who sing for her, hope all the best for his relationship

[@christianturner1841]

Oh wow, I didn't know any service like this existed, glad to know they do though.

[@kid14346]

Clipart about police not understanding domestic violence made me remember the statistic of reported domestic violence where the perpetrator was a police officer. And it's just like yeah no wonder the police don't take it seriously because they want to live in their own happy world where they aren't being abusive so of course you're not being abused it's just what they would do to their own spouse

[@khit007]

this vr chat had me literally questioning whether ""intensive" is a word lol she says it every other sentence >_>

[@OttrPopAnimations]

awesome vid

[@EE-zd1jt]

I was gonna leave a goofy comment, but I don't think I can with this heavy topic.

[@mitsubasosuke9853]

Think I know the murder case. I can’t remember when it exactly happened but I do know that the husband killed his wife attempted to light his house on fire after going apathetic and he took his own life. The house was recently bought by a couple with small children. It was in my neighborhood I remember police showing up in the fire department and EMTs and I saw the body of the man.

[@princessofbalance]

ok im not evne trained for anything like this and the questions why would NEVER cross my mind someone was jsut raped who I their right mind would ask why....seriously

[@a_me_1]

It's so disgusting that these things aren't taken seriously enough by the police. Slight trigger warning but... I know so many women who have been abused and gone through sexual violence, usually multiple times by different men and no one was arrested in any of those cases. It's absolutely disgusting... in my home town there was also a 19 year old girl who was choked by her boyfriend who had been abusing her and threated to kill her mother if she left him. She almost died but he only got 1 year... it's so frustrating. I know someone who was beaten by her husband. He was taken to the police station but then let out, nothing happened. And although I don't personally know any male victims I know for certain that it happens to them too and It is so infuriating, things won't ever change if the police don't start taking this more seriously.

[@user-ky2rk8tp5g]

I live in germeny youd think that a developed country would have devoleped peopel.wrong 1/3 rd off all man think its ok to hit woman as a Form of punishment/""""correction"""""". The same peopel that also chant the funny mustache man did nothing wrong and so on

[@k4m130]

Interesting

[@Cosmic_Finn]

Holy crap

[@jeanlorkei429]

About 8:20 Cops take DV very seriously, it's amongst the most dangerous and tricky situation you can get in as cops. Angry Man, Messy situation, at home (will all possible weapons they could have and hide) DV are serious calls and are treated as such, those are death threatning situation for cops also.

[@KelseyRaeXo97]

Buuuuut police departments have a lot of cops with DV in their past or currently happening. I wouldn’t trust them if I was in that situation

[@jeanlorkei429]

@@KelseyRaeXo97 Who would you trust ?

[@hilmarheathkliff9511]

you cant even put the subject into the title can you? blasted algorhythm

[@bruhmoment5974]

wack algorithm

[@Cosmik60]

This algorithm is wack, I do say

[@Axolotl720]

Goofy ahh algorithm

[@Azeal]

yeah I wanted to be careful... I actually had to appeal the demonetization that got put on this video before it went up so I was extra careful with my title and thumbnail.

[@kidfrenzy2273]

27:55 thank you

[@arianasnowvr6038]

hope you dont mind a small story i have and want to share here its relatively short anyways here goes im a 21 year old Trans MtF that hasnt transitioned and have had to share a room with my brother all my life until recently and me and my brother dont actually get along which over the time i had to put up with it along with all the other things in my life its made me mentally unwell and my personality has split 3 times and im not the current host personality tho i am the one who is telling this story you may call me Lilly anyways back to my point i have other personalities that i and the other 2 hold the host personality back when things get out of hand as i and the host have dealt with our own fair share of life and are suicidal them more so than me so we are a bit more stable when im the one out more so when one of the other 2 besides me and the host are in control cause they have been more protected in times where my suicidal thoughts and acts had gotten to me i was in the process of trying to slit my wrist when i blacked out before the knife i had made contact with my skin i have no memory of what happened after this but when i came to the knife i had was hidden really well took me three days to find if your curious just how well it was hidden but i know what has happened when this does happen my Alters/other personalities take over and hide the stuff i was using in my attempts

[@arianasnowvr6038]

a little longer than i anticipated :P

[@ImDaBiggestBird138]

Hi azeal

[@VivaciousViv]

Really feel like submitting my story, but I'm unsure if anyone would want to hear it, or would care.

[@owihinape]

8billion people in the world there are going to be people that listen

[@Zeft64]

this young lady is a saint

[@Azeal]

Indeed 🧡

[@kazumakariama]

Ugh, i read the thumbnail as Kissed... not the other thing.

[@thompie6877]

Weren’t you that guy or whatever that was streaming with self proclaimed marine corpses?

[@oldlyswansea]

people like this guest get automatic sainthood in my book as they're sacrificing their sanity on the altar of society

[@kidfrenzy2273]

I wonder who you would call if there’s sexual assault among co workers in her job

[@rootfish2671]

The police

[@kidfrenzy2273]

@@rootfish2671 she said the police don’t take it seriously so what would be the equivalent to her job for people who have her job at the job

[@shadowpanther298]

WHOLESOME 100

[@stocking6560]

Me reading the title:He laughed after kissing her 🗿

[@notsunkenland]

Delivered on my birthday... Woo...

[@dustiestspade339]

Would you recommend ordering a pizza

[@ghstsamurai-4172]

a few days ago i saw you or someone using the same skin in vr and kinda just waved awkwardly

[@kirbyman1295]

mans most used word is mmm

[@annascat123]

The moment she said nonbirany I teared up bc I went thru stuff like this with SA and bc it was my ex husband they said that I couldn't get SA bc he was my husband and because I'm part of the LGBTQ+ that I was asking for it. Her story tho did touch me and I thank her for sharing

[@kingkaijugaming2841]

This girl has the mind set of a wise old lady and she has blue hair xd

[@sodaaccount]

I kid you not! I was skateboarding and the cops showed up at the park. They started to search us for illegal substances or weapons (its a crime hotspot, so they dont need a suspicion for a search under german law). I had baggy jeans with pockets so long that they reached down to my knee! The cop was searching the pocket and it behaved like a glove. He was wearing gloves so he didnt realise my pocket was just deep and not wide. He was feeling to the right (outer side) and the left side (inwards) and eventually pinched my glans... I just made a face as I was both shocked and it hurt as well. He saw my face, realised what he had done, became "fire engine red" and stopped the search. Didnt check my second pocket, my backpack and not even two of my friends. All 3 of them suddenly had enough :D This was fun as hell in retrospective (well not the being pinched part, but the reaction was hilarious)!

[@jerrjohnpresti]

respect

[@raymondcasso7966]

Cowardice over integrity

[@adam.maqavoy]

No. Its called *Quality; Over Quantity*

[@AmericaSucksBalls]

Love the inclusion of non-binary people :)

[@yoimiyafan2787]

???

[@AmericaSucksBalls]

@@yoimiyafan2787 I MEANT INCLUSION IM SORRY

[@AmericaSucksBalls]

@@yoimiyafan2787 also I said I love the inclusion of non-binary people because she said something like "men women and non-binary people can be assaulted" it was definitely worded differently but I don't remember.

[@yoimiyafan2787]

@@AmericaSucksBalls Ooo I thought you were being sarcastic

[@ade5324]

she needs a voice changer lol

[@halfbakedvidja]

What's k***ing? Kicking?