WE’RE BACK IN THERAPY! | Feeling Disrespected & UnSeen?

[@mbuedzedzondou9259]

At the beginning of the episode, you mentioned that your marriage is not perfect,but I have to say that one of the main reasons your marriage seems to be working so well is likely your level of self-awareness. It's admirable how you resolve issues and communicate honestly. With this level of honesty relationships are most likely to thrive.❤❤ this channel is so liberating.

[@motheowalerato701]

Right 🥺🥺

[@mapasekamulane9492]

I am not even married but I am telling you , I am learning. Thank you

[@unpackedwithkutlwano8806]

To: The Makhs🥺 I just wanted to take a moment to express how grateful I am for the incredible influence you've had on my life(not just me but the entire dream team). Your partnership is the epitome of love and teamwork. Thank you for sharing your joy, wisdom, and kindness so generously and with realness with us. You guys rock!! We love you guys!! Modimo ale etse hantle!! Ale bolokele rona!! With heartfelt thanks [Kutlwano]❤

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much Kutlwano for this beautiful note❤️❤️❤️

[@relebohilekiviet5984]

This was such a wholesome conversation as always ❤ Thank you for your vulnerability and authenticity once again 😊 "You don't trust me to protect you the way I know how" Trust his leadership ❤

[@ALoverOfTruth]

I have a tip: Always know that when God has chosen you to get married, he wants you to heal. The tip is don't resist what God is trying to do in your life... I hope you get this!❤ peace and love ha di rene maphelong a lona

[@luvogiba1526]

Shuuuh!!! A word! ❤❤

[@luvogiba1526]

Man I love it here!! ❤ Thank you for your "YES" to this ministry. We are led. You tackled such a difficult conversation with so much grace, love and authenticity. Marriage is such a beautiful thing ❤😍

[@kgoalemoleboe4854]

The growth in Sesi Phetola is so amazing, as a young woman i am inspired by that. It really shows that if you have a teachable spirit you'll learn so much from your partner

[@mosakhemelete4023]

The Makhs are really putting us youngins on some game. This conversation goes beyond romantic relationships. This is inspiring me to address personal issues for all of my relationships. 🙃😭😭😭🙌🏾🙌🏾 Thank you very much, family!

[@siyamthandavetezi8455]

I hope you realise and understand just how much God is using you guys to help not just marriages to grow but also us single people who desire marriage to grow both spiritually and mentally .Your show has help me change certain things about me to help me mature as a person .Thank you for not giving up on each other and this show /podcast .You guys are so inspiring ❤️🙌🏽

[@royalqueen8679]

I Klaas ingenile,hi classmates

[@philasibonge.mkhize]

siphakathi.

[@shamiso_t]

😂hiiii

[@buhleshezi5222]

Phakathi inside

[@maitemodiba4282]

Mark me present💃

[@luvogiba1526]

😂😂

[@techytilsivufr8605]

“My husband lives in his mind and i thrive on information” Sooo relatable. This conversation is so real❤️

[@vuyomtshali]

I think most men are like that, my late husband was like that too. I think sometimes we need to understand men and let them be, we have to trust them and they really appreciate if we do that.

[@malebomoloto4150]

14 years in marriage and you guys r still learning each other and putting in the work,I love this. I’m watching this with my husband and we r taking notes,thank you guys for being vulnerable ,may God continue to bless ur union ❤️❤️

[@Temasiko_N]

The Bible says in Genesis 3:16 “I will sharpen the pain in your pregnancy and in pain you will give birth. And you will have desire to control your husband but he will rule over you’ We can be controlling and I think it’s cause we want things to happen smoothly and in a certain way. I see myself in Petula so much. This is such an interesting conversation. Thank you so much for opening up to us and being vulnerable. As a single who hopes to get married someday, this is teaching me so much about the realities of marriage. I’m grateful for these kinds of platforms. ❤

[@lamulileskosana4033]

Very hard.....

[@TheWorkingWifeMom]

That scripture kept playing in my head throughout this. But thank God that we are no longer under the curse. As we grown in the knowledge of Christ and are being sanctified, we will see a change.

[@MoniqueBasson-b3k]

❤My husband I would always mention to each other and say... Why dont other married folks talk about these topics... Are we the only once going through this?? Why don't men speak when they hang out about what they struggle with. These topics are so needed in these times especially for young married couples... We don't have the tools... We don't know where to go for help or even how to start the conversation.... Thank you guys for this.

[@Lalee0412]

After this conversation, she just had to shower you Mr Makhs coz you're one of a kind and you're both blessed to have each other

[@TheMunhengas]

This conversation was gold! I can resonate so much with Phetola and I am so glad you know how to articulate yourself so well making it easy for me to understand myself. Sanctification is not easy even privately and you’re so brave to do it before us, thank you for sacrificing yourself like that. God is using you so mightily to sanctify me as I feel we’re really similar. God bless you!

[@poppymlotshwa9032]

Wow this is a counselling session and we are learning a lot . You’re in a business of building healthy marriages. May God richly bless you fam ❤️❤️❤️

[@matimumarcusmanganyi0523]

Today’s vulnerability was liberation to me as a viewer and husband! Thank y’all both!

[@Noza896]

Yhoooo… you know I don’t think I can ever get tired of saying thank You Mr and Mrs Makhs, for allowing your marriage to be used by GOD, for allowing yourselves to be fully vulnerable… in this climate we are in of Divorce, Divorce due to a number of things… I am sitting here and I am hopeful, hopeful for my marriage, hopeful that, marriages where Love always thrives exist, that it doesn’t all have to end because of the 25% that’s in a funk, but to seek help on how to best deal with a certain season in our marriages…❤

[@basathumbongwe1386]

I love you The Makhs. Your Calling is Building Families and Love 🎉❤

[@sanelemjoli4877]

This is beautiful. I love it. I always say this to my wife 'In any form of relationships we go through seasons and we shouldn't define our marriage based on what we are going through in this season." This usually changes the perspective of what we are going through during that season. The Great I AM loves you

[@tlaly]

I'll repeat, you're on fire with this new season🔥! Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us❤

[@buhleshezi5222]

Heyi sana they are and I love it 🥰

[@basetsanamakgae5970]

This is so honest, and to know you are sharing this while going through it is a blessing to us.

[@teboho8085]

This type of articulation & understanding and LOVE is just beautiful

[@TshidiMolefe-c6q]

I love how you just compliment each other and see each other in all your beauty

[@olabuk2000]

Wow, that is true Lerato, your wife tackles life with such honesty, and also the ability to see her own shortcomings, a rare quality indeed. And this is in a world where everyone is very clear about what is wrong with others, and out to correct the next person while they fail to see fault in themselves. I also commend you for your honesty and humility to not only notice it but point it out verbally. That speaks to the goodness of your heart, Lerato. May God keep you guys and bless your marriage to continue to be a blessing unto others❤

[@TheeMrsKhofla]

You guys’ podcast are so timely on my life, I feel God speaks to me through them. Every week you are addressing things I am seeking God about in that week.

[@nombulelohlathi287]

This was deep. And the beauty Is that both of you are willing to stay in the ring as Lerato would say. Thank you for showing us what marriage could look like when both parties are committed to making it work. Above all else we give God the glory because it is the word of God that helps us to renew our minds and be Christ like.

[@phumzileshoba]

Wow Lerato that's a whole counseling session for some of us there. So true. We can't change ppl but we can change ourselves instead❤

[@msbridgettrbradley]

Im listening so far, and it sounds like hubby has found his own path to cope with the said issue, and he is advising his wife to follow in his path because he believes it has worked for him. And though I can appreciate that sentiment, it could be possible that what he has chosen to do is not to resolve but to adapt in a way that is not going to work for the wife. I believe he should lean more into what his wife needs in order to feel safe and protected instead of insisting that she copes the way that he copes. And wife may need to consider that he has not been able to find the answer for himself in the matter, just to survive the matter, maladaptive as it may be longterm. (My two cents)

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much for this perspective. It is so valuable ❤️❤️❤️

[@kgomotsomolewa6065]

“Move forward not for the sake of movement but for the sake of progress”. Thoroughly enjoyed this episode. We’re healing and learning. Thank you Pheto and Lerato.

[@EvidenceofChange7]

27:23 I get Mrs Makhs, there’s safety in knowing why you going a different route, as she said information and communication I thrive in that as well. I also get Mr Makhs that he wants to be trusted on deciding on a different route, however it’s better if a man communicates that and then a woman can rest in that you got it and you acknowledged my feelings and pain.

[@valentinendlovana9537]

Oooh my word!!! This sounds exactly like what my husband and I are facing. And his response is exactly like Lerato is saying. Mine was exactly like Pheto’s! We had the disagreement last night 😮! I needed him to confront an issue that has been brewing. He left it too long, mainly because he is not a confrontational person. I on the other hand felt that by keeping quiet he is not protecting me. He kept saying, ‘even if confront the person they will never change. It just made me so mad. Because I am confrontational and him speaking up would have made me feel more protected 😅

[@veronicafruitfulltv5641]

Ohh my God!!! God wanted me to watch this. Seriously guys do you know how many people will benefit from this???? Oh my goodness, guys keep this up, this is amazing. But the reason God wanted me to watch this is because it spoke to me about my relationship with him. How I was seeing God. Thank you for sharing. I also love the explanation husband gave about why he is decisive, he is accountable to God. Hope I make sense

[@reranirendani2418]

May God continue to bless you and keep you for us. Your podcasts are very profound and informative. I am learning a lot.My marriage is what it is because of your real podcasts.I love you very much @The Makhs.

[@Setlholaart]

Don't let the 25% override the 75% !!!!!!!! Literally what I needed to hear today. Thanks #TheMakhs. You guys are incredible. To be this vulnerable, open and honest requires a lot of dying to self and you guys mastered it in this episode.

[@nthabisengkhoba1789]

Same here! One of the key takeaways for me. Love you #TheMakhs

[@TshidiMolefe-c6q]

Wow wow wow. This is helping me so so so much even beyond marriage and romantic relationships. It's just helping me for life as a whole. Thank you thank you thank you.

[@luu.yandaa]

The level of self-awareness and willingness to find solutions to existing matters and to your 25% of your pie, makes you guys stronger than comprehension. God prunes branches and things in our lives that don't bear fruit, so more fruit is beared(John 15:1-4). I would like to say, that as you've mentioned that you're a team, that you need to stand together to "fight" against the problem, instead of fighting each other. I see that counseling is working and you comprehend this strategy, so i just want to say that God is pruning because He knows where He's taking you and He cannot bring you to it with these parts of you still in you. Go with God and be blessed!❤

[@therapynareva6511]

The self awareness is at another level love from 🇬🇧

[@lolnolful]

I have been following you guys probably from inception and growth ya Mr Makhs guys! Marry right! Marry a gent who is fully submitted to God. To God alone be the glory....

[@Nonz]

Oh my word, I am enjoying this convo so much. I can relate

[@mandisatenego9841]

Thank you 🥹❤️❤️❤️. This is so healing 🫂

[@kanyamazula1145]

WooooooWza!!!!! For the sake of progress. 👏👏👏👏

[@peterntamu9723]

What a beautiful kingdom centred talk on counseling therapy. Every wise counsel gives one an opportunity for growth. Don't be hasty to complete your counseling sessions. I know that sometimes there are financial implications. But learn to commit your family finances where your marriage health is. WHERE NO COUNSEL IS, THE PEOPLE FALL. BUT there is safety in a multitude of counselors. Proverbs 11: 14 ❤️✝️ You are a beautiful kingdom vessel. Re ya leboga.

[@saneliswamagagula9781]

“If you leave I’m not fetching you” is so funny and so real😂😂😂 Honestly women use these ultimatums when the gravity of the situation is not “seen”. But I do think we should never issue ultimatums unless that’s truly where we’re at, and you’re prepared to follow through. Ladies, you will hurt yourself looking to be fetched😂

[@TheMakhs]

❤️❤️❤️😂😂😂😂😂

[@busisiwekhumalo7571]

Well Phetola I won't be fetched too should I decide to leave.

[@Lalee0412]

Admitting a problem is a first step to healing. I'm glad you know your flows Mrs Makhs and you're not shy to say them out loud. Lerato's intelligence and level of maturity is just what God intended for men to be heads . Lerato is such a leader and a very torelant husband. This was so liberating for me.

[@rayitumeleng3315]

This is so profoundly vulnerable and liberating. Thank you for this ❤

[@katlegopru]

I trust and believe Aus Pheto when she says Mr Makhs does not have a mean or rude bone in him. He exudes kindness.. We can feel it too. As an empath? His spirit is recognized and felt ❤

[@thatomaitin1242]

I’m SOOOO single but this conversation was so good😫! I’m really learning so much from you guys .

[@wethembekilendebele7922]

Just 10 mins in and i literally just get convicted😂😂 Thank you for such a "riveting" (In Phetola's voice lol) episode. May God just continue to bless your union and cause you to illuminate the reminance of kingdom marriages. I'm really inspired and encouraged by your conversations❤❤

[@hildahntombifuthisandleni2888]

Thank you fam for the beautiful conversation, I'm like Mrs Makhs,recently my boyfriend told me that I'm controlling and I was offended and wanted to defend myself butcI took time to digest it and he was right, this happened when we had an argument I wanted us to confront the issue before hand,meanwhile he was silent minding his own business, that got me frustrated got I think a part of me wanted to control the situation how he reacts and me trying to find solutions coz I'm solution based..another thing that play a huge role is how we were raised,from a young age Ii had to go grow up fast,my mom is a pastor I had to do chores at home take care of my siblings, take care of the household that's where the controlling started I'm 28 now I'm tired I want to be led

[@Nadiamatlala]

Bathong lona ke le rata jwang! ❤This topic was so important because we assume so much instead of having the conversations that need to be had! Always, thank you for always being so vulnerable. Your vulnerability is freeing so many of us.

[@mantsimanesebokolodi1762]

Loooove the Adam and Eve reference so much, cause at the end of the day the one who's been given "authority/responsibility to lead" will need to account.

[@mrspboledi]

This was so amazing, so so amazing and resonated with us a lot especially because last night we had sat down and had a difficult conversation but with so much grace. We are learning a lot from you guys, thank you for your honesty and vulnerability

[@rollykgware]

Guys you haven’t changed one bit, you are still true, you are still vulnerable when you really don’t have to, you are still building, you are still letting us know it is just now perfect, that we have to work at it. Nna ke a le rata ❤❤❤❤

[@amandaibeabuchi913]

Ever so inspiring, you can tell that God is the Centre of it all. May God continue to strengthen your union. What a blessing you are to many.

[@boipelomodimola994]

This conversation is sooo good🔥🔥🔥😭

[@charletmokomele2452]

Thank you Aus P and Lerato! This episode blessed my heart. I too struggle with unforgiveness, I’m going to put in the work. ❤❤❤

[@MissCombs1511]

Nginithandaaaaaa!!! ♥️♥️ I'm going to take liberty to say on behalf of all your subscribers and say we're rooting for you and have your back on this counselling journey!

[@thembikunene4531]

What a beautiful couple you r and thank you for sharing. I've learnt something today🙏🙏💖🌷❤️🍁⚘️🇿🇦🇿🇦

[@kefentsemagane9049]

Thank you for sharing your life with us ❤

[@LadyK09]

We feel protected when you involve us in what you visualise because I am not a mind reader

[@vuyimasa]

I also know for a fact that I won’t be fetched should I decide to leave especially when I use that as an ultimatum 😂 😂 Enjoyed the openness and maturity in this episode so much❤

[@keaolebogakgotlaebonywe6754]

so good!this conversation was so affirming and insightful.thank you guys for letting us into your lives,your vulnerability is unmatched.may God continue to strenthen your marriage..sending love from Botswana.

[@pumlakoltana936]

Guys a not soo clever or intelligent person wouldn't be vulnerable as u are Guys. U r gifted more than anything. I learn a lot from u .Thanks so much that I happen to have come across u or our paths to have crossed.

[@debramayisela]

Loved this conversation ❤️. So much to learn even as an unmarried woman. Thanks Makhs family.

[@nwabisasophazi]

I am so blessed by this podcast, thank you for your vulnerability and surrendered stewardship for Hods kingdom. I love you guys and I am praying for you with you❤

[@neoconstable6791]

This was so amazing,so relatable in so many ways & I have learned so much about myself and how I pour into my spouse. Thank you for allowing God to use you,in order for us to identify our flaws in our marriages and work on them in the best way that God wants us to,Thank you & may you continue doing what you do best,God is faithful❤️🙏

[@badara9688]

I just love you guys. May Gods light keep resting upon your marriage ❤❤

[@lesedimofokeng_]

This was such a hard conversation.Thank you family for engaging us.❤️

[@thandomahlangu3839]

27:42 that's my husband, solving things without communicating 😅

[@TeeRayLifestyle]

I'm so proud of you for getting into therapy again!! Please host a seminar for the Makhs family, before you guys leave SA. Ka kopo please. So we can meet our online role models?

[@extravaganza-c9m]

What a powerful episode family. I am out of words. May God continue to protect your marriage and that all goes well with the counselling. I love how you both embrace this season in your lives and navigating through with grace. May God continue to be gracious to you guys.

[@pulengmapholisa]

I just pray God’s blessings over the Makhs. Ka le rata kudu kudu. This is educational. I’m learning man

[@NadineMbabazi]

I am a 29yrs single and really somedays am afraid of getting into marriage coz of the many failed ones ive seen but Watching you guys have brought some sense that its not all rosy but it takes two hearts that are willing to work together. So much love ❤Watching you is therapeutic 😊 Watching from 🇷🇼

[@royalqueen8679]

😂😂😂I left in 2yrs of marriage but I brought myself 7days later and we are now on year 18 of a blessed marriage.Im sure God was laughing at me ndizihlanyisa. We thank God for gluing marriages together.what He brings together no man can put asunder not even the couple in marriage 😊❤

[@TheMakhs]

How was it bringing yourself back?😂❤️. Thank God you came back❤️

[@angiekhati9474]

I want to share this with my husband. This is such an eye opener. Thank you for this episode ❤

[@zeemali4369]

My fave couple. Thanks ever so much for this installment. May the LORD’s countenance shine upon u and your family in Jesus’ name 🙏🏽🥰😘

[@mamajmas2508]

Communication is not always verbal. Actions too speak a lot, and one must be able to read and analyze them more especially when the action is to rescue a situation

[@nobulalimpelwane]

OMG!!! I can soo relate to this chat!😅 Thank you sso much guys for being so open and vulnerable with us! Conversations like these make this business of navigating life that much more easier..❤

[@nosisandlovu801]

The Makhs🎉❤ I thank God for the platform and how the Holy Spirit is transforming my mind and for future listening. Let's be sensitive to each other's sensitivity. It's a LOT in marriage BUT GOD❤

[@tracyadom4121]

Loving this conversation ❤Love both perspective. I agree with both of them. Women sometimes just want validation not advice either. At the same time we don’t trust to be lead women must just learn to die to self.

[@Miss_Zimm]

I missed this so much... Thank you guys, God Bless your marriage &kids

[@masivuyenodali8622]

This was such a therapeutic session. Thank you Makhs.

[@bahumimatebesi8000]

A lot of wisdom, a lot of takeaways for me.. what you said can also be applied in a work situation.. this is has been been so wholesome and thanks for letting us in onto your intimate talks.. it helps a great deal.. aren’t we all learning even some of us at our age..? Learning from the young one? I’m Grateful that you shared and bared it all out.. I continue to learn..❤❤❤

[@LebohangandKoketsoNaledi]

Awww guys, Thank you for your Authenticity, your love inspires our love. I’m watching this with my husband and trust you me we appreciate this 🤍🌱🤍

[@TheMakhs]

I (Lerato) have the pleasure of sharing a beautiful musical history with Lebo. A top gent, a gentle soul, a good man, an ARTIST. Wishing you all the best on your journey of sharing your story with the world. We could use more narratives that display what ‘finding a way to win’ looks like. I enjoyed watching your first episode. Keep going… by the grace of God. Love 🙏🏾 Lerato

[@keletsomekwa]

Arg, what a conversation! ❤ Thoroughly enjoyed this. I paused on some parts for a laugh and reflection. 😅

[@jloveclothingzaweartheword1315]

Real conversations 💚💚💚One love family 💚

[@sandrastirling77]

Enjoyed this thanking God for u. May God be ur centre always

[@zanele3374]

😢😢😢😢yhoooo...im currently feeling unseen and my husband is so not open to any kind of therapy! Frustrating, because i can't even express how i feel because i know i will feell like he is gaslighting me and i often feel like i always pick on petty issues....but honestly i am really not okay and i can't suppress this feeling anymore, i was even thinking of giving him some space, but thank God for this...❤❤❤❤

[@busisiwekhumalo7571]

Zanele I am with you and most painful part is we have kids and just today I felt I 'needed to go home just to get space and give him that too. Hearing my older son asking why am I going to his gran just made me think a little

[@ziyandakebeni6739]

Maybe watch this with him

[@zanele3374]

@ziyandakebeni6739 thank you, that's a good idea🤍

[@zanele3374]

@@busisiwekhumalo7571 I don't even know to deal with all these emotions. I'm in the middle of my exams.

[@Setlholaart]

Keep Praying about this and definitely watch this with him. ❤

[@GeniusMakuya29]

Ooooo yay!!! Thanks for the consistency, Mr and Mrs Makhs…. Dream Team is spoilt!!!🥰🥰

[@thee.simple.bockay]

I have been watching your episodes on my phone and wait sis you are so drop dead gorgeous i am not even kidding, my jaws are literally dropped. Ohh my i am watching this one on a big screen whuu ai i have been missing out.

[@unathithonga4366]

So good yall. So authentic, so real, so much needed hmmm❤❤❤God bless yall

[@charmainemoyo1072]

YOOOO control and get things done now....tell me about your plan...i resonate. i love the way you communicate and are open about it.....your channel is heaven sent....siyafunda.🥰🥰 siyabonga👏👏👏

[@pitjengpearl]

I have learned a lot ❤ thank you the Makhs 🎉

[@UZasemboMkhize]

Yohhhhhhhhhhhhh where do I even begin, this video touched my heart so deeply. I felt like this was meant to me and my husband because what you have discussed here is really what I have experienced in my marriage thinking that I am not seen. Yohhhhhhhh I literally laughed coz listen I am you and Lerato is like my husband. Yohhh I have learned so much about myself through this video. Thank you so much for opening up your marriage to us we learn at lot or maybe let me speak for myself I am growing because of you guys❤❤❤❤❤

[@tshegooo]

Thoroughly enjoyed this. 🥹❤️

[@peninahwanjiru6765]

I luv u guyz & the way u always fall back in Christs' plan.

[@rhinahirina4038]

Thanks so very much for this. It is relatable but came too late for me. It will certainly help my son as they navigate that space. My late husband's family took sides, never gave me a hearing and really mistreated us when he passed on. They even chose to say that he was single despite the fact that we were legally married. Forgiveness would be great on my part.

[@preciousmbele584]

My mum and I also had an issue similar to yours. She doesn't want to acknowledge it but is rather quick to overlook it. She then explained that whenever she acknowledged the situation, she felt like she was exacerbating it.

[@Yabo_Mothobuka]

Love your channel so much.❤