WE'RE PREGNANT BY SURPRISE | Ep. 3

We’re pregnant only 4 months after having our first baby…
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[@chelseareed7326]

When my sister in law got pregnant sooner than she expected she nicknamed her baby Bob Ross and her motto was “there are no mistakes, just happy little accidents” 😆

[@lacyvenable6692]

😂

[@poziomka]

🤣🤣

[@asyablake]

YES!!!! Love this 😅😂❤

[@juanestrada6587]

bro sounds like some shit my co worker would say 😂😂

[@Thatonesmart-ishbrunette]

Yas slay

[@jaord530]

Pro Tip from Pediatrician- When you have two littles close in age and they’re both crying at the same time and you’re panicking- get the oldest settled first. It’ll take the guess work out of deciding and the oldest is more likely to understand or get upset feelings if they have to watch you help the newborn first. CONGRATS 🎉 !! So happy for your growing family!!

[@colleenbellscanadiangarden9180]

Great advice. I'm glad you shared this, and I hope they see this ! 😊

[@jailinelazaro]

thank youuu that is such good advice

[@baxteroliver3319]

Yeah

[@joy-115]

Great tip!

[@anonymousone9699]

I don’t have kids but I’m filing this away for later. ❤❤❤

[@PrettyColorfulVideos]

As someone who lost two pregnancies last year (12 weeks & 14 weeks), thank you for mentioning miscarriage and how lucky/grateful you are. Getting pregnant, staying pregnant and having a healthy baby are all freaking miracles.

[@lonniedisha4345]

I so feel you. I had a miscarriage last August on my daughters 2nd birthday at 12 weeks. It really needs to be spoken about especially 12 weeks plus because it's so traumatising and so many people don't understand what really happens at this stage of a pregnancy xx

[@mel-hp1vv]

@@lonniedisha4345 this i’m still recovering from my miscarriage and it’s been over a year

[@aimsfabs6147]

I’m so sorry for you loss 💕. Sending you lots of love and baby dust 💕💕

[@alisterblackrhyker8440]

I pray you find the happiness you seek however I am sure all the woman being raped and forced to give birth don’t agree with you! And it’s perfectly acceptable to say having children isn’t a miracle it’s painful and a HUGE learning process on top of financial stress! Getting pregnant isn’t a miracle unless the person who’s pregnant says it is! Being pregnant isn’t sunshine and rainbows! ICP, I have seen woman basically claw their flesh off and that’s just one pregnancy complication!

[@potato1084]

@@alisterblackrhyker8440 Agreed it’s very difficult

[@mj_9450]

Honestly... even though you said you'd "never" do a podcast, I'm starting to prefer the podcast to your normal videos - there's something so REAL, SINCERE, HONEST, REFRESHING, HELPFUL and so inspiring 🤩 You're so relatable, I love it!!!

[@DELLAVLOGS]

So happy for you guys ❤

[@Chloeshindle]

Your time will come. You just have to trust Jesus! 💗

[@phillipabotha8692]

I will pray that you will be next, ❤️❤️🙏

[@Kerrigan_Reece]

I love you guys, i know it is hard watching your freinds get pregerrs on accident and its HARD but your time will come just trust in jesus and pray about it i will pray for you guys... love yall!

[@mamatae1113]

Bella 😢 You are such a great friend. Your time will come love!! You two are meant to be parents!!

[@athanamato1054]

@@Chloeshindle always trust in Jesus with all you problems

[@taramartin4850]

I have three children that are all grown now. Just wanted to tell you that my first two are are 15 months apart and and second two are 10 months apart. That’s just about as close as you can have them and I don’t regret it for a second. My kids are so close and have such a great bond. Yes, it’s stressful and difficult at times, but it’s so worth it. Enjoy every minute you guys! You got this!

[@lenat7397]

Wow, 10 months apart is crazy! I'm happy that it worked out for you and your kids though. Did you plan to have them close together? :)

[@jayrosenberg2736]

Me and my sister are 14 years apart

[@jungwonsdimple9593]

my sister and i are 15 months apart and its great, we feel like we were supposed to be twins and were the bestest of friends

[@phenomenal_mother_of_3345]

I have 3 kids my youngest is 18 and they are 16 mi the apart since I was young I was depressed but now they are stair stepping out the house and I’m 39 I feel and look great about my choice

[@taramartin4850]

@@lenat7397 actually the two that are 10 months apart we’re not planned, but a happy little accident. But it worked out perfect in the end! 😊

[@teecee619]

Great quote from the show "Roseanne": 'Mommy, was I an accident?' 'No, honey, you were a surprise. An accident is something you'd never want; a surprise is something you never knew you wanted until you got it.' Congrats to the whole family, including your brother and sister-in-law! :)

[@kathleenclark815]

It's... Was I an accident? No, DJ, you were a...surprise. What's the difference..? Well, an accident is something that..if you had to do it over again, you wouldn't...and a surprise is something you never knew you wanted until you got it. Oh. Was Darlene a surprise..? No Darlene was a disaster. 😂

[@_erdutza.]

I've heard it before, but still, That's so sweet! My youngest sibling was a wonderful surprise.

[@kathleenclark815]

@@_erdutza. Yes my first (when I was 18) and my last (when I was 35) , were both surprises! 17 years between them..but their bdays are a day apart..July 9th and 10th! Lol. We also have two other children in-between them that were planned. Now we are young grandparents. I'm only 50..and have 4 grandbabies!

[@_erdutza.]

​@@kathleenclark815 Wow! That's so amazing. My surprise sister and I are 12 years apart. Because of our age gap, we are very close. There is something so special about surprises!

[@khadijakapadiya2324]

Why brother and sister an law?

[@janetsark6172]

My sister and I are 13 months apart. She’s my best friend and we’re 56 and 57 years old now. Congratulations! You guys are a great loving family. I can’t wait to see the birth video!

[@baxterbunch]

My baby boys are 13 months apart same as me and my sister, my boys are so close all ready I hope they grow up to be best friends 🥰❤️

[@emileehunsaker]

Y'all are going to be the best of parents and your boys are gonna be so happy and lucky to have you!

[@talia6442]

My boys are 13 months apart. Wasn’t the plan, but we love him to pieces.

[@amandameo4317]

Being pregnant is HUGE on your body and mind and you have a baby right now - your reaction is so normal!! You’re a rockstar and will do amazing, but the nerves and stress are completely normal. Also Matt’s reaction was SO selfless, he was scared I’m sure but immediately said things to comfort you. Amazing parents!!!

[@antosh-xz7uk]

It's stressful when you have a unplanned pregnancy and can't have a abortion due to other reasons such as job, education, financially, etc. Although young couples need to use condoms when having sex to avoid pregnancy

[@TimeBucks]

You can see how much Matt loves Abby

[@musafirbillal]

Good

[@sherrywilemon5011]

Ofcourse & it's beautiful 💕❤️‍🔥💞

[@Thatonesmart-ishbrunette]

It’s so cute and coupley

[@hskrnia]

They obviously need to read a book about human reproduction...lol.

[@abranbabyvideocilps5423]

Very nice

[@brahmandpedigree]

I love that Matt’s reaction to Abby projectile vomiting was “it was so so sad” because he had empathy for her, instead of saying “it was so so gross” which, let’s be real, it’s vomit and it is gross. However, I really appreciate seeing a man be more empathetic towards his spouse than grossed out.

[@Artsthetics]

No need for appreciation, that's how it should always be. If Abby did that, you wouldn't have felt the need to comment this because women are always supposed to be empathetic, but when a man does it you suddenly feel the need to appreciate him for it. That's literally the bare minimum. She's his WIFE obviously he wouldn't say "it was so gross" and it's not him being "empathetic", it's simply him being a normal loving husband which would be the case in every healthy, normal relationship.

[@miached6533]

Love how this podcast episode was a journey of sharing the vulnerable side of this experience where you guys were shocked, in awe, terrified, and stressed about the unknown and then to transitioning to the point where you were able to accept and embrace the reality, have excitement, and see this unplanned experience in a positive way! I love how you guys are able to normalize an unplanned lifestyle and show people how there's beauty in surprises and unexpected experiences. So happy for you guys and can't what to see your family grow!

[@Xjadyn79xx]

As Bob Ross would say “we don’t make mistakes; we just have happy accidents” so excited for you both ❤

[@moevande3822]

I’m a single Mama of 3 under 3 Tips - Change one; Change both - Routines are amazing the sooner the better - Get griffen involved as much as he’d like:) Congratulations!!!🎉

[@zoezelleke3662]

3 under 3!!! Wow u are incredible!!!

[@UnplannedPodcast]

You’re incredible!!!

[@Tip_Top]

Congratulations to you too! Superwoman ♥️🥰💜

[@moevande3822]

Thank you! I’m 22 almost 23. It’s a lot for sure but patience is key💗

[@noshaba101]

I saw this and my jaw dropped, it feels like just yesterday griffin was born. Congrats guys, griffin will be a great big brother

[@KatelynJoe]

As the “oopsie baby” in my family with my brother and I only being a year and a half apart, my mom always was honest letting me know that yeah! It was really scary and a shock but also she never not loved or wanted me even if the emotions were all over. So if you were feeling any guilt about it, I thought I’d share from the child’s perspective that it is scary and that’s valid! We understand! 💚✨

[@Bubbles_theworrior2022]

Same! I'm the youngest but my mom said that she just wanted 1 boy and 1 girl but that she still loves me a lot

[@amandadrake-beaver5202]

I was the oops baby also. My brother 21, a sister 17, a sister 13 and then SURPRISE! Here I come! So now I'm 49, my sister is 62, a sister 65 & brother 69!!!!!! It's crazy lol! Unfortunately my momma was NOT happy. She was actually very angry (I mean that's on Her & my dad. I had zero to do with it)! So long story short, my sister next to me has hated me my entire life cause I took her spot as baby. My oldest sister raised me, (literally) & to this day is still like my mom and we are extremely close. My brother is a weirdo and really none of us girls see nor talk to him UNLESS he needs something. I def am so thankful for my sister!

[@oliviabrownvlogs204]

i was an oopsie baby but in the way that i’m 5 & 6 years younger than my other siblings 😹😹

[@posey9953]

Same the doctors told her she was having one baby and then they realized she wasn’t done and saw another baby and then I came out so yea I was a legit accident😊

[@netsrik_ybgir]

Same here!!

[@AJ-fi4xw]

I loved how you didn’t draw out the news until the end. Great podcast! I get so annoyed how some KZbinrs make me scroll through 15 mins of a “day in the life” teaser before the news. This was perfect!

[@ta_reesa1251]

Abby, don't feel guilt over your reaction to being pregnant again, it's a normal response of overwhelm and fear. Some women get concerned they won't be able to love second baby as much as the first but you're heart grows! Congrats to you guys

[@karencouch2489]

During my second pregnancy, I would say “this baby is unplanned but is not unwanted!” Enjoy the journey with your “dutch twins” (siblings born within one year).

[@Raindropsundropgumdrop]

I've only heard it called Irish twins lol

[@jessicanelson248]

I have 3 boys. First 2 are 20 months apart. We were using condoms, spermicide, mini pill and breastfeeding. Found out when my oldest under 1 and was still soooo hard. We were not sure if we were going to have anymore because the first was so hard. I cried for 2 weeks after finding out. Not tears of joy. He turned out to be the biggest blessing and most wonderful child from the beginning. He will be 21 in April. Best surprise ever. So grateful for him.

[@KitKat10281]

Thank you for voicing that not every tear is a joyful one when you initially find out about a surprise pregnancy. I am still reeling from finding out I'm expecting 5 days ago, and not everything has been sunshine and roses. We did NOT plan or expect this, and it's not the greatest timing, but we are adjusting to the idea and ARE happy - just scared! Lol! Thanks again!

[@CL-xyz9987]

@@KitKat10281I found out that I was pregnant when my daughter was almost 9 months old, but she would have been 6 months old when I got pregnant. I was on the mini pill, I had been exclusively breastfeeding, AND we were pulling out. Apart from abstinence, like we were prevennnnting 😂 and it was a good 3.5 weeks, I was straight up distraught. I had no happiness for that first trimester (I was already 9 weeks when I found out I was pregnant), but I also knew that I couldn't go through with getting an abortion although I heavily considered it. The postpartum experience with my daughter was awful. The hormones were INSANE, we had all kinds of breastfeeding issues but she never took a bottle, she was super freaking colicky and had severe reflux. Not to mention my pregnancy with her was high risk and had so many problems, I was so so sick the whole time, needing PICC lines and hospitalizations every week for IV meds and such. It just all sucked. And the thought of going through hyperemesis and everything again while also having a literal infant/toddler running around at home made me nauseous lol. I am just about 27 weeks now and have become overjoyed about it, but also still can't believe that I'm redoing that newborn stage with a 15 month old. It's honestly terrifying but also this baby is so loved and I can't believe I contemplated aborting him now. But it is SO SO normal to be freaking the heck out at any unplanned pregnancy. You are not alone

[@rebeccagrace694]

I love the fact that you guys are being so honest about how you weren’t super excited at first. I found out I was 2 months pregnant when I was getting married in 4 months and all I could think about was that I was gonna be a pregnant bride. Now I have a beautiful 5 month old baby girl! You guys got this. Remember God’s timing is the best even when we don’t see it now 💕

[@kaitlynshoemaker2598]

Omg this being called the Unplanned Podcast makes so much more sense now😂

[@sylviareimers7075]

frrrrr! LOL

[@jennrocchi6385]

had the same thought lol

[@malloryholy4882]

I love how relatable you are. It is totally acceptable and normal to want more kids and love your kids but be shocked or underwhelmed/ overwhelmed when you find out you are pregnant before you were planning.

[@mariasigma2575]

I am a psychologist and most of the cases I work with are with parents in denial of their baby, it’s a coping mechanism, if anyone shames you for it it’s because they lack of knowledge. Don’t be afraid to reach for professional support if you ever feel like you need it. Sending you so much love❤️

[@rosiejennapsych]

I'm a perinatal psychologist!! Love seeing psychs in the comments haha

[@HStacey2011]

You can see how much Matt loves Abby, his body language leaning in towards her and always listening to her attentively. You guys are so cute! Congratulations on your pregnancy, you can do this, you're so strong!

[@daniellequintana4646]

Matt really loves Abby

[@naturallyvaleriealexa]

Totally called it. The name of the podcast, Matt saying "during your first pregnancy" in the first podcast, the ultrasound pics, the pillow in front of Abby in the last podcast. Congratulations, you two! I have a 7 month old born just after Griffin was 💕

[@lauradwyer]

I thought the same exact thing

[@feliciagentry4619]

I called it when they posted the short on KZbin about their podcast! The calendar literally says due date

[@WhokilledFrank...]

I SAW THAT TOO!! I didn't know if I should believed at first. But I am sooo happy for them tho!!!!

[@marissarios4671]

Exactly this!!

[@NotTheBrightestToad]

My mother in law’s first child was 3 months old when she found out she was pregnant with twins. The twins were born 8 days before her oldest’s 1st birthday. So for 8 days a year, they all joke that they’re triplets. Congrats to you guys! ☺️

[@sophiewhite6844]

Haha my first child was 4 months when I found out I was pregnant with twins! The twins were born 10 days after my firsts 1st birthday 😅😅 it’s a lot of fun though!

[@rowa1712]

@@sophiewhite6844 😭😭🤍

[@mingomama7825]

My 2 daughters are 10 months and 9 days apart. They are the same age for almost 3 months. My Mother said they were true “Irish twins!!”

[@tawnyc9183]

Our 4th was born 12 days before our 3rd turned 1

[@pkj4015]

whaaaaaat...

[@alexissparks7331]

I am a single mom of two. My son is 2 years old and my daughter is 4 months. At times, it is so so tough to have two kiddos so close in age, BUT it is so incredibly rewarding. My biggest hurdle with two kids is making sure that my oldest still gets the attention and reassurance from me. Sometimes I’ll leave my youngest with a family member and I will take my son to do something just he and I do he knows that I’m still taking the time for him too since I know it can be hard for him to understand why I’m not just his mom anymore. You both are going to do AMAZING.

[@galwiththebraids]

I can't believe it!!! Oh my goodness! Now I see why Abby was sick pretty frequently for a bit. I did not expect it at all with y'all doing fertility awareness and with the doctor's advice after Abby's surgery, and I thought that Mother Nature would definitely give y'all a bit of time after Griffin. How wonderful! You guys have Griffin, Caleb and Abigail are expecting, and now Griffin will have a little sibling too. Howard babies all around! Many couples have to wait so long to have even a small family. Y'all are so blessed, and may you always be. 💛 Sorry my comment was so lengthy, but I'm so happy and excited for you!

[@murphyr7410]

YESSS! I was pregnant with my first when Abby was, and I am ALSO pregnant again too! ❤️

[@matthewkheyfets1309]

This is some voodoo magic 🤣🤣🤣

[@klarabarunovic9841]

Oh wow, congrats!

[@bellapetalart]

Congrats !!!! 💕💜❤️

[@faxoxo2306]

😂😂😂 congratulations dear

[@ivy-brownxxx]

Congratulations 🎉

[@kaylak.2430]

As a mom of 4, with every single one of my kids being super close in age, the most important thing is going to be communication with you two. It is very hard transitioning from one kid to two & y’all have to be strong & communicate with each other. Also know that the first few weeks will be difficult but once you get into a routine things will get easier. You will be so grateful you had them close in age as they get older. My kids are so close to each other and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. Congratulations to you two on another beautiful baby!

[@PinkPaws88]

I have 3 and pregnant with our 4th and final and I must say going from 1 to 2 kids is the hardest going from 2 to 3 was easy

[@brittanylabeau4410]

I agree! I also have 4 kids! And I think the hardest was going from 1 to 2 after that it was like cake with the rest!

[@kaylak.2430]

Yes I agree 100%! 2-3 & 3-4 was a breeze

[@momoney2113]

Amen, sister!!

[@diana1711]

I needed this so much! I want a second child so badly but I am afraid of how it’s going to change the dynamic of our family. Our daughter is almost 6 years old so she’s really easy at this age but I’ve heard that transitioning from one to two can be really hard

[@christinacatoe4023]

My sister-in-law had the same thing happen with her! She just had her second baby, and she was SO upset at first. She had such a hard time being excited at first, because of how worried she was about how she’d be able to do it. But she absolutely adores little Charlie and we’re all willing to pitch in and help. 😊

[@laurentaylor5181]

That’s exactly how I felt when I got pregnant with my second when my first was 9 months old- I was so shocked, scared and nervous to tell anyone- I kept it hidden for so many months and literally had a gender reveal/ baby shower weeks before I gave birth that’s how crazy my situation was but then again I was so young 22 years old so young and naive. So in the end their 15 months apart- of course it was hard at the beginning but in the end I wouldn’t change anything- my boys are so close.. the bestest of friends-a bond I’m so happy they will forever have ❤

[@micheleh7507]

My cousins are 1 and 2, 11 months 3 weeks apart, it’s so fun!! The younger one advances so fast developmentally because he’s watching his sister and wants to do all that she’s doing! Y’all got this, you’re amazing parents! Congratulations!!

[@jackiegarrett4864]

Don’t let people scare you. We had twins and people really tried to scare us. The boys turned out to be my easiest pregnancy and birth. They kept each other entertained.

[@alexis070]

As a sister watching my mom go through Irish twins, I know that the best thing you can do is give you and your body rest. Your body is not only making a new beautiful human to enter the world but also completely sustaining another baby’s life! ❤ You guys are so amazing. Whisking you a happy and healthy pregnancy 😊

[@rebbeccasouth5211]

My mom got pregnant with my little brother 3 months after having my sister. That was a rough time for her but God have her the strength to pull through. I know God will bless you both and give you strength. ❤️

[@kassidybrons953]

My babies are 14 months apart and I am currently in the thick of it with a 16 month old and a 2 month old. Your story sounds identical to mine from the denial, to the stress, to the acceptance. I won’t lie and say it’s not hard and everything is great, but I will say it has been amazing seeing my husband and my daughters bond grow from all the time they spend together. And by the time your baby is born you easily bounce right back into newborn life like you never stopped and it’s way easier the second time around. Congratulations and just know you are not alone!

[@BtsArmy-lp9vi]

The age difference between griffen and the baby is the best part actually.....they are going to be best friends and are gonna thank you later😂😂😂😂

[@IamG_]

Nah me and my brother are a year apart and we’re on and off. Argue a lot sometimes, best friends another time

[@pevindi1729]

@@IamG_ me and my brother is also one year apart but we don't argue we're just goofy most of the time

[@paulinahawrysio4144]

Aren’t they going to be in the same grade so they can technically be mistaken twins! 😅

[@jilly_billy13]

My brother and I are 10 months apart. We’re currently the same age! My mom said the first 2 years were the hardest but after that things got a lot easier and she loves how close we are in age.

[@Maria-jq3zv]

I’m one of those women that has a high chance of multiples. It runs in the family. I got pregnant with triplets (all girls) without fertility treatments. Two of them are identical. I got pregnant with twins (a boy and a girl) 5 months after the triplets were born, and they have a 14 month age gap. The twins are only 4 months old now, so I have five kids under two. It is so hard to have so many kids so close in age, but it’s also wonderful and I wouldn’t change it for the world. I hope that because they’re all so close in age that they’ll be close with each other. I know the triplets will only be a grade apart from the twins, so they’ll all be going to the same school most of the time. Will make it a bit easier for me with dropping them off.

[@Maria-jq3zv]

@SRT Tomahawk14 I could never do that. I love them all too much, and I know that they might resent me for giving away their siblings and separating them.

[@Hannah_MK]

Wow! That is a lot of work, but they will be such good friends as they grow up! There will always be someone to play with, and eventually you will have lots of help with housework! May the Lord bless you as you raise your children!

[@Maria-jq3zv]

@@Hannah_MK I really hope they’ll be close friends as they grow up. Will make all this work I’m doing now more worth it. I don’t have any siblings myself, but I have a cousin that’s eight months younger than me. We were always super close, mainly because we’re so close in age. And my mom was never close with her brother because they had such a large age gap. As far as housework goes, they’re definitely too young to do any now, but I plan to have a “clean up your own mess” policy when they get older. Like they’ll be responsible for their own rooms and laundry. There’s so much laundry with how many of them there are. And I’ve had to switch to cloth diapers because buying diapers for five kids was burning a huge hole in my pocket. It makes for more laundry, but I can’t afford all those diapers. I hope God blesses you and your family as well!

[@amberrodriguez4017]

Soooo I have 2 kiddos close in age. My daughter was 9 months when we found out we were pregnant again. It’s an adjustment in the beginning, and they will fight like siblings do in the younger years but as they get older, it is so sweet to watch their friendship develop. It’s amazing having 2 close in age. Y’all will love it!

[@camenglert5410]

Y’all, thanks so much for being so vulnerable and authentic with us and for talking about stuff most people don’t openly talk about. As someone who dreams of being married and being a dad one day, to get to be a fly on the wall in your conversations and your lives has helped me learn a lot and has inspired me to have a family just like yours one day. So grateful for y’all!!!!!

[@evajessop1013]

They’ll be 15 months apart! My older brother and I are 15 months apart. I always remember my dad telling me I was an “oopsie” baby. My mom cried when she found out she was pregnant with me because her little baby boy wouldn’t get to be a baby anymore. Having a kid now, I can see that would be A LOT of work to have kids that close in age, but growing up with it, I couldn’t have wanted anything else! My brother and I are best friends! It was always so fun to have a school buddy and friend! ❤

[@kathleenclark815]

No. They will be 13 months apart. She is 3 months right now. They said it in the video

[@melodienicholson3482]

My 1st two are 14 mths apart I thought it was so much better and yes they was absolutely best friends. Now My other kids are 5yrs apart lol and fight alllllll the time lol. 💙💜

[@chocolatekiss8731]

Honestly, it's kinda on brand for Matt and Abby to have an unplanned baby. Y'all's whole life is the definition of spontaneity

[@kellyhopkins4928]

My sister got pregnant when her first child was 4 months old, then they discovered it was twins. Therefore, she had the twins before her first child was even one year old. You're not alone. Good luck with everything!

[@sylviareimers7075]

hopefully it's not twins for them 💀

[@genevieveprochaska6770]

My aunt has Irish quads. They had triplets and she got pregnant 10 weeks later. It was a rough 18 years, but they're all out of the house now. 😅

[@shanlynn81]

@@genevieveprochaska6770 holy cow! I cannot imagine triplets then another 😮. It does all work out in the end but that must have been so hard. My kids are spaced pretty decently apart but I do wish they were closer in age now

[@debfox]

@@sylviareimers7075they would know by now. They mentioned a sonogram.

[@sylviareimers7075]

@@debfox lol yep

[@PositiveBluebird]

I'm 49 years old and I knew when she kept getting sick that she was pregnant. I am so happy for you all. I absolutely love the little set up as well for your Podcast. I'm just a year younger than my oldest brother.

[@jenloves4260]

Oh me too. 46 and mom of 5. I totally thought about it more than once.

[@vitality_painting]

I am 25 years old and I look and feel like a child compared to you, it is crazy how mature you both look like and how much you've been going through The fact you will have 2 children and you are both younger than me while I am still struggling managing just my own life with daily tasks, profession, health. You both feel like 10 years older for me. Wishing you the best and a healthy child!

[@anthonymartinez4540]

I’m a triplet. My parents were both working full time when they found out and weren’t making much. Like you guys, they had an amazing support system that helped them out a ton. You guys got this!!

[@FriskyPoliceman]

Where does your mom work. I would like to visit her

[@anthonymartinez4540]

@@FriskyPoliceman well she did stay at home for 18 years, which was plenty of work for her lol. Now both her and my dad work and all three of us are 20 years old and in college.

[@gretapinnow3781]

my mom had 4 kids in 4 1/2 years and we are all so close. you’ll do great with 2 kids! congrats!

[@kelseylaughmiller9508]

When I had our 5th baby we had 5 kids 6 years old and under. Right now my kids are 7, 6, 4, 2, and 1. I can completely relate to SO much of what y'all have talked about! I was on birth control and exclusively breastfeeding every single time I got pregnant so my first reaction to each positive pregnancy test was shock & overwhelm. Each time I found out I was pregnant I cried and not happy cry. It is just a lot to take in at once! Our first and second kids are the closest at 14 months apart. I was NOT expecting the pregnancy test to be positive but had felt fatigued & nauseated for a few days. I came out of the bathroom in shock and said "We are having a baby." He said "What do you mean? We have a baby right here" as he points to our 5-month-old lying in the floor. By the 6th pregnancy (we had 1 miscarriage in the midst of our 5 live birth children), I just came out of the bathroom in the morning holding a pregnancy test laughing after I had vomited. I had not said a word yet, and my husband looked at me and said "Are you serious?!..." So much of what you talked about is normal - the shock, the denial, needing time to process what is happening. Also, it is so weird to count it up but I went over 8 years with not a single period because every time I got pregnant before I ever started having periods again after a baby. So same thing as you, Abby - I would call my OB office and couldn't give them any dates so they had to estimate the due date based on ultrasound. My encouragement to y'all is this: Yes, the coming months and years will be exhausting, stressful, and overwhelming at times with little ones so close in age, but it is also a wonderful blessing. It has taught me an incredible amount of self-sacrifice. As a follower of Christ it has taught me in very practical ways what it means to die to myself and be a servant. I am often reminded of my limits and weaknesses and inability to care for all these kids in my own strength so it causes me to daily rely on God's grace, goodness, and strength to help me care for and disciple the children that He has blessed me with. In regards to caring for 2 little ones practically, give yourselves lots of grace as you figure out how to navigate it. I learned to park next to cart returns at the grocery store so I could grab a cart to load the kids into right away. When you have toddlers around a newborn, often baby-wearing the newborn is the best way to ensure they are safe when you can't have eyes on them both. One of the hardest things for me was getting used to having to let one child cry while I tended to the other because I can only do so much at one time. You will learn to breastfeed while doing lots of other things (like getting a snack or drink for another child, sitting on the bathroom floor with a potty-training toddler, reading to another child, singing a toddler to sleep, doing homeschool lessons with older children, the list goes on!). I could continue, but this is getting long so I will stop there. Congratulations, Math & Abby! The adventure continues!

[@marykatherinenichols6449]

CONGRATS you guys! My dad and his sister are less than a year apart (359 days to be exact), my husband and his sister are 15 months apart, and my brother and I are 18 months apart. In all of these situations, we were back to back grades with our sibling growing up and we are all SO THANKFUL for it! I know it was harder on our parents than us, but my mom says you just have to remember that every day it gets easier. As teenagers and now as adults, we all love being so close in age with our siblings because we are almost twins. We have a lot of the same friends and we enjoy doing things together and we’re not just siblings, we are friends. It’s awesome! I’m SO happy for y’all and for your babies 💙 the Lord has perfect timing in everything. Congrats y’all!

[@Em920]

I 100% agree! I'm less than a year apart from my brother and I love it. It does feel like we're twins sometimes and I feel like I have a closer older sibling connection to him than if we had a larger age gap. Being Irish twins is awesome 😊

[@taylorcillessen1658]

I am thirteen months apart in age from my brother and I love it. He always calls me his unofficial twin and it’s amazing. I love him to death especially because I’ve never known a life without him and that’s so special. Your babies will be besties; I’m sending prayers to your family while you navigate this journey!

[@Majselur]

I'm 39 weeks pergnant today, and can still not wrap my head around that I'm having a baby in like two weeks 🤯

[@desiprieto00]

Congrats 🎉 I hope you have a great labor and delivery and hope all goes well with your baby!!

[@desertrose3511]

Hope you’ve had a good pregananancy

[@laurao8099]

Congratulations! Praying for a safe and healthy delivery

[@emilygeist5593]

CONGRATS!!!

[@Genevieve.D]

Prayers for a smooth delivery and a healthy baby!💕

[@workoutmusic4209]

Mine were 14 months apart. Embrace the chaos of the early days and let go of any guilt that tries to creep in. Siblings close in age are built in bff's and the best gift you could give griffin and baby#2. Congrats!

[@thegregorygang1775]

I had 5 kids in five years, #2 & #3 are 1 week shy of being a year apart and then we had twins 2 years later 😮 they are 13,11,10, 7 and 7 now and WE SURVIVED!!!! what I can’t stress enough is ENJOY IT! It’s so easy to try to just get through the day and miss the little moments so cherish the little things, leave the dishes and laundry every once in awhile because it goes by SO fast when they are little and you can’t get those years back…. I wouldn’t trade my kids being close for the world

[@uzmahpatel1714]

i have 4 under 5..i just deliver baby number 4 last week. its overwhelming but the best days 0f my life..am really enjoying it

[@sadielashell]

This sounds like my husband and I getting pregnant with our second. I have PCOS, and it took us almost 2 years to conceive our first. I found out 11 months postpartum that I was expecting again, and I was floored. I didn’t feel ready either. My boys are 20 months apart and are currently 3 and 4. I can say without a doubt that accidentally getting pregnant again has been the greatest blessing in our lives. So so much fun ❤

[@shelbywilliams730]

When I was 3 months old my mom figured out she was pregnant……. with TWINS!!! I am 22 and they are 21 now and we are best friends! So excited for y’all!!! 🙌💗

[@mochacellow]

My girls are the same! So fun

[@brittanynathan3430]

Omg is your mom okay!? Haha that sounds challenging!!! But also amazing

[@tasnimamin8321]

Hi

[@BrittanyMcNamee]

Did anyone else hear Matt drop hints about it over the last few episodes? Like saying “in your first pregnancy” I’m so happy for you guys!!❤️

[@brooketaber]

I instantly thought they might be when I saw they named their podcast "Unplanned Podcast" I was wondering if that was a nod to a possible unplanned pregnancy 🤣

[@csblazina]

Yeah I just watched the first episode so I saw the name of this episode and kinda knew to look for it. But Matt said "in your last pregnancy" in tnat first episode so I was like OK so this we're expecting isn't about getting pregnant with Griffin.

[@Jillian7707]

That’s what raised my suspicion as well!

[@UnplannedPodcast]

😊

[@kturby5489]

@@UnplannedPodcast sooo happy for you two! I hope you have a girl this time but just as long as he/she is healthy. The lord has blessed you guys so much❤

[@JasmineStrongman]

Love how real this is. Currently watching this while feeding my 5 month old. Finding out when you weren’t really “not trying but it’s a blessing” is really shocking. Im so glad you are being so open about this, it will help couples who have those initial daunting feelings and normalising it. Pregnancy is bloody hard I can’t imagine doing that on top of taking care of a baby absolute legends. Good luck with it all!

[@corablah9809]

It's definitely really hard. When I found out about my second pregnancy, I completely flipped out and had a breakdown. I had just gotten my period, but when I calmed down, I instantly knew I was having twins, the twins I knew I would have since being a small kid. Knowing this was supposed to happen, calmed me down. I was nearly exactly 2 years postpartum. No joke, 3.5 weeks pregnant was when I found out. We have no twins anywhere in our families, at 10 weeks, we found out we were pregnant with fraternal twins. Thankfully, our experience this time around was SO much better than it was with our first. Our twins will be a year in March🥺🥺❤️

[@corablah9809]

We were NOT trying, we hadn't had an 'oopsie' lol, I ovulated a different day than I usually do, it's honestly insane. When I told my friends I grew up with, they were shell shocked. (We have no friends or family local, it's been my husband and I, and that's it)

[@Lillybear145]

Yayyy!! Baby number 2! You guys are already such great parents, can’t wait to see this little human grow up to

[@zaleamaya]

My girls are 12.5 months apart and I cried for 3 days. Definitely understand the feelings of not ready yet, but still happy after the fact.❤

[@maelinhope1747]

Matt and Abby - I am 15 years old and me and my older brother are only 14 months apart. And I have to say, I am so unbelievably grateful for it. My parents were in the same situation as you guys are, with a 4 month old and then finding out about (how they refer to me) their happy surprise. Me and my older brother are so close because of our age difference and it's honestly amazing to go through life with him in the same stages instead of being distant. We are best friends and even when he moves off to collage in 2 years, and me shortly after him, I can't wait to continue to go through life with him. I am really excited for you guys and Griffin, wether its a boy or girl I promise they are going to be best buds, and this expecting child will be so grateful for it. I love this podcast and I can't wait listen to the next episode. ♥

[@meaganallysse5273]

First off!! Congratulations!!! Thank you so much for posting this. I have a six month old and just found out we’re having another and when I initially found out I too was panicking and stressing like crazy, feeling like everything was closing in on me, and stressing about what this would mean for my baby that’s here earth-side already. I felt so bad that my initial reaction wasn’t elation or joy and to be honest I still feel guilty about that but this has helped me realize how normal that is and that it doesn’t make me a crappy mom to this new baby.

[@elizabethparrish8174]

We're in the same boat..just found out we're 5 weeks pregnant, but we have a 3yr old and a set of twins that are barely 4mnths. Our twins will have an Irish twin smh. Panic hit hard. Yes, it's a blessing. But hard. We didn't think it could happen since we had always struggled with infertility. Sigh. Thank y'all for your honesty!

[@Raindropsundropgumdrop]

..... at least you didn't have more twins...? 👀

[@elizabethparrish8174]

@celestialsundrop lol..we'll see what the future holds

[@barryfenstamaker348]

Congrats, i caught on 3 months ago when you guys were talking about "breast feeding is not a form of birth control" just suttle hints and reactions that you guys all had. I was almost certain you were pregnant again, Congrats to both of you

[@sammr.1163]

I’m currently 5 months pregnant with my first so it’s pretty cool to be able to see your first pregnancy and the second one now and try to get advice from videos 😅

[@Nightmaresonly]

I’m gonna give you a real mental piece of advice, it’s one thing to think about the birth experience but mine happened so rushed and involved an emergency and I also couldn’t deal with the pain like I thought 😅 so I’d say bring whatever you can with you during the birth within the hospitals rules to help yourself stay calm and focused. Whatever it may be, earbuds to tune people out at some points, books or a sketchbook. Just things to keep your mind at ease and get ready for the best friend of your life ❤ congrats

[@taylorkaufman4574]

I'm pregnant with my third and will have 3 in 3 years. Keeping communication and supporting eachother in your relationship is so so important to get through the long sleepless nights, hormone changes etc. I had the same reaction as you because mine were also unplanned but it has been amazing and my 2 kids are so close and it's been really fun! So happy for you guys and excited to watch your journey!

[@hopeandtobias]

Griffin is going to big the best big brother and we just know they are going to be two peas in pod!! It may have happened sooner than you were thinking but God always has a plan! Congrats again and we love you guys!!❤👶🏻

[@marlkalone7361]

Matt: "This was unexpected!". Also Matt: "Honey we really need to start using protection". 😂

[@carlieryan4593]

yeah, definitely basically trying, whether they consider it or not 😅

[@annabanana7246]

@@Amelia_09 come on now, don’t hate

[@cole2424]

@@Amelia_09 ok and? I think they’re aware of that like they mentioned in the video

[@cole2424]

@@Amelia_09 I am calm. Just dumb to say when they’re aware of it😊

[@sallyshields6553]

Guys pls don’t say breastfeeding is birth control in any way shape or form. Like your doctor said.

[@erinlawrence1501]

Matt: you are so supportive of Abby. The two of you definitely compliment each other.

[@jakesbug]

My brother and I are 15 months apart and, growing up, we were thick as thieves! As married adults w/ kids, we don't spend as much time together as we did growing up but having kids together and getting to share all these milestones at the same time is SO MUCH FUN. Obviously, raising them will be tough (especially when they're younger), but you guys will crush it! Hope the pregnancy goes smoothly.

[@hijabi1610]

I could definitely relate! I had my first child and four months later I found out I was pregnant and though I love my kids I couldn’t stop crying. Then at my first ultrasound I found out it was twins and I couldn’t stop crying then either. I was very depressed the first two months overthinking everything and not knowing how I was going to manage haha so you’re not alone. You love them so much but our emotions are valid haha

[@joeanna6216]

My brother and I are 1 year and 8 days apart. We've grown up very close. We're in our 30s now and we still talk daily. Our families are super close. We have kids close in age. I consider his children mine and vice versa. My husband and I will be standing in his wedding. I wouldn't change a thing.

[@coy9705]

Don’t worry guys!! Children are a blessing, and Griffin and Baby #2 will always be best friends! Congrats!!!❤

[@jodygiles8223]

Hey guys ( From one mumma who had her youngest 3 babies only 12 months apart) it’s THE BEST!!!! I have 6 babies total and my first three were only 2 years apart but my last 3 were 12 months apart and 11 and a half months apart!! They are thee best of friends and it’s so cute to see how close they all are!! They are now 10,11,12 , 19,21,23 and they are ALL so extremely close and protective of one another!! I found it so much easier with the younger 3 than the older 3 , Having them so close in age was so so simple as strange as that sounds! And 2 babies is easier than 1 and trust me it sounds crazy but 6 is easier than 2! So don’t panic guys it’s a real exciting journey!!!! You will rock this , Just be happy and open minded and you’ll LOVE the new chapter! I was scared of course but the moment it was all real it was AMAZING!!! They still have slumber parties in each others rooms and rather hang out with one another than go out with friends etc!! It’s the best best feeling!!! Xoxoxoxooxoxoox

[@dianaking1106]

I cried initially with my second because I couldn't imagine finding room in my heart to love anything as much as I loved my first born..... but you find out that you can, and you will, and it's not difficult at all. The love part anyway 😅🤣😂

[@taylorbenfield6390]

Single mom here, of a two year old and a four year old, they are almost exactly 2 years apart so i understand all of the crazy backwards and upside-down your emotions are right now, it off course will be difficult but not TOO difficult especially with all of the emotional support your family gives you and of course the support Matt gives you! I'm so excited to see this new journey develops! All the love and support! Congratulations and i wish y'all the best!

[@MomOfThree_333]

I had a baby in 2020, 2021 and 2022. It is a lot of work but it is totally worth it. You also are much more blessed with resources and opportunities so don't be afraid to ask for help. I am raising my three with just my husband no family to help but I still wouldn't have changed the way our children were born. Congratulations to your new-found pregnancy!!!

[@jessedallen3780]

My best friend had 2 babies in 2021 and then one in 2022. Her three babies are her entire world and she is exhausted but she is so happy with her babies.

[@rachelbouchard7633]

NO WAYYY we're pregnant at the same time, 1 WEEK APART!!! This is so cool, congrats guys I'm so excited for you!!

[@carinaweiss6953]

Congratulations 😊

[@VIZOP]

Congratulations

[@giannab9855]

Congratulations!!!🎉

[@kianadoescod6402]

Me too! I’m 3 months and 1 day!

[@ryleetaylor8018]

congratulations!!!

[@ceatonbusch]

I just straight up don't comment a lot, but when y'all were like "you cant get pregnant while breastfeeding" I was like "oh she's pregnant" lmaoooo I'm so happy for y'all thou. You'll figure everything out!

[@kristinecluff5047]

My first two were really close as well and have been best friends their entire lives! They are 18 and 17 now and are so grateful that we UNEXPECTEDLY had them so close together. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

[@emilyash6864]

My parents have 11 kids; 10 of them in 14 years. The age gaps are: 14 months, 28 months, 29 months, 10 months, 18 months, 16 months, 22 months, 20 months, 13 months and now they are adopting an other one, 6 years younger than #10. As the oldest, I honestly love being in a large family- never a dull moment. Children are a blessing!

[@juliab09]

when i’m telling you my jaw DROPPED congratulations guys that’s amazing!!!❤❤

[@sylviareimers7075]

mine too!!!

[@lucillerenaud8114]

New podcast subscriber here. My daughter has 5 kids and her oldest 2 are 11 months apart. She says her second child was an unplanned blessing. Congratulations! And just like I told her you guys have got this. Even though she was extremely exhausted she managed. They prayed, enlisted help, and slept as much as possible. They also ignored and avoided judgment and negativity as much as humanly possible. God bless you all.

[@cheri1567]

My sister and I are 16 months apart and I’m actually grateful she and I helped eachother through school and university, but Mum said she cried when she found out she was pregnant again with my sister so soon after having me. Lots of love to you both and wish you all the best Abby 🎉

[@danielclawson2143]

I love how we on YT have seen both of you grow up from just married college students to becoming parents with a second child on the way. Abby you are so strong being just who you are. And Matt thanks for being a big brother figure to us bros who are in college and still just starting life.

[@zeze3112]

Congratulations!! My jaw dropped when i saw the title, like it feels like only yesterday Griffen was a newborn. ❤

[@kristinsimco5242]

I got pregnant with my second 5 years after my first and it was totally unplanned. But my husband always liked to say that “it’s a surprise, not an accident”. That always made me feel more positive. My nieces are 15 months apart and I’ve got the chance to see the pros and cons of having kids close and far apart. It’s all in how you approach it. Positivity is super important and you both are definitely positive people. Love the podcasts. I listen to you while I work!!

[@aliyamctaggart1695]

no influencers pregnancies have ever gotten me as excited as griffin and baby howard 💛

[@emorygrace7]

Fr!!

[@urfav.lib13]

SAMMEEEE

[@KeqingGotFound]

Same

[@sarahwilliams8376]

Im 23 and and have two babies 12 months apart (girl & boy). My youngest just turned 1 this month. It is very challenging at first, but it gets easier! And its so fun to watch them play together! You all got this. Plus you already know how to care for a newborn so you’re already going in with more knowledge than last time! Love you guys!

[@kathleenmooney1606]

Just want to say thank you for always shouting out us single mamas. ❤️

[@misfitbritt]

Hell yeah! Always makes me smile! Single parents truly are superheros!

[@shannondavis775]

I had 4 kids under 6 by the age of 26! My last two are twin boys. Divorced when my twins were 3. So I was a single mom, but had great family support! My twins will be 21 in September. You guys got this! Excited for you guys.

[@fernijen]

After seeing the hint in the short that they had an announcement... Thinking it could be pregnancy, but knowing they had the shorts showing a negative test... I'm very thankful to have the news in the first 2 seconds of the video haha. Congrats you two! I'm only 17 months older than my brother and loved having a close friend growing up. Well, until high school lol

[@carolinegrace1131]

Wow, Congratulations!!! So excited for baby number 2!!💗💗💗

[@chelseyraper3751]

I’m glad your grandma’s are able to see your little ones. Coming from someone who’s grandmas are no longer alive and my kids won’t have the bond with them hurts but I know they are in a better place not suffering. Please take those times with your grandmas they will be gone before you know❤️love your channel!

[@renita1746]

When you said "Were pregnant" I screamed when everyone was sleeping 😂 I'M SO FREAKING HAPPY FOR YOU GUYS ❤️ May God give you a healthy pregnancy YAY GRIFFIN WILL HAVE A SIBLING😭❤️

[@cassidyr8861]

I just went and watched the pregnancy test video and was amazed with just how awesome Matt was towards you Abby! What a great husband…. I want someone like that

[@katerrac9247]

I found out I was expecting my 3rd when my 2nd was 5 months and my oldest was 1. And still went on to have a 4th 19 months later. You guys got this!! So excited for you!

[@sarahthompson7427]

My daughters are 16 months apart. They are now 2.5 & almost 4 and they are BEST FRIENDS! They play so well together and are so sweet to each other. It’s definitely hard having them close in age but it’s also a blessing ❤

[@Sal-tm3tp]

My sister and I are 17 months apart, she’s my best friend and we’re in our 30s!

[@madelynmerle1766]

Matt is so sweet and soft and just so kind I love it 😭

[@hannahhood8956]

there is something about Matt and Abby that is so genuine and you just feel like they are your family. I love your content and how open you guys are.