We've Been Experiencing Some Very Tough Times | Life Update ❤️

Hey guys, I know this isn't what you would expect from my usual Sunday upload but excuse my messy room and let's catch up lol. It's been a while but it's great to be back! Today I'm sharing a quick overview of why I've been absent here. I think it's important to share the ups and downs of living in front of a camera so everyone's aware of what's at stake every time we engage here. I love you guys.
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[@BriBooth]

I’m autistic. I just wanted to mention that autism is not considered an intellectual disability rather a developmental disability. However someone with autism may also have a intellectual disability. Annes behavior “kicking the seat” was likely her stimming and her reaction to the “evil stare” was more so her inability to recognize social cues. She didn’t pick up on the fact that the woman was showing disapproval of her behavior. Nothing to do with her intelligence. I know it must be stressful worrying about her future and wanting her to hit certain milestones. Just remember that Anne is unique and she will hit those milestones in her own due time and there’s nothing wrong with that. 😊 Take the pressure off yourself and continue to love her as she is! You’re amazing mom! I love your content.

[@jvickers67]

Well said

[@anbonner17]

Beautiful response And schooling us! 🥰❤️

[@anbonner17]

Oh, would you consider “developmental disability” more like developmental delay or different timing, in the sense that one with autism IS able to do something but maybe at a different pace and with more/less support in accomplishing a certain milestone?

[@BriBooth]

@@anbonner17 right! We may learn differently or we may be extremely intelligent or have mastery over one subject than the other. Like math for instance. Our social deficits and sensory issues are what really highlight us as “different”

[@BriBooth]

@@anbonner17 thanks

[@BdewithShlinda]

Ann has so many aunties that will handle anyone who has a problem with our Annie!!!!

[@feleciaa1]

Shilinda took the words out of my mouth. They don’t want this smoke. 🤛🏾 Regardless of her having autism she’s still a kid. Vaughn I applaud you for taking the high road. You are an amazing Mom and Anne is blessed way beyond to have you as her Mom. Take the time you need always and we appreciate you. Praying for your husband safety and We thank him for his service to the communities.

[@ResilientBeauty22]

@@feleciaa1 you ladies better say it again, homegirl don’t want no clap, clap she can catch one. When did people start treating children like adults?

[@jerrilynpapilon9611]

@@feleciaa1 Bingo sis she dont want to deal with us internet aunties it won't be nice

[@marieb9490]

Flat out🤜🏾🤜🏾🤜🏾

[@hatticetaylor7483]

Puuuuerrrrr!! What she said!

[@rainthomps694]

Autism decisions are so stressful. It seems like every single choice is crucial. My son will be 5 soon, it is exhausting.

[@barbarajacob85]

I felt that in my soul. It's so hard. Prayers for you mama🙏

[@elaineyd2133]

First of all….people need to learn to address parents first and not the minors they are with when there’s a problem. I am not confrontational but I will break it down real slow for people who mess with my kids! You are a great mom! Your channel has made me soooo much more aware of children around me…people in general! Hang in there mama!!! You look awesome by the way. Also, all the way with you regarding being good at home first. If you take care of that…everything else falls in place ❤️

[@meganl8237]

This is the one! 💯

[@NaturallyFearless]

Special need mom here and I completely understand with those situations. My daughter is five and Autistic. To keep my sanity and avoid those situations I got a Autism emergency band that goes on the strap of her stroller (she isn’t walking yet) just to let people know about her intellectual disability. Cause baby these ppl were testing me with the attitudes and I wanted to protect my daughter at all cost. I also put one on the straps of her car seat in the event of an emergency. People believe if the disability isn’t visible it doesn’t exist. So happy to have you back hun 💜💜

[@SashieETV]

Lmbooo let em know you’ll fight for Annie Booski. All her internet aunties will, too. I’m excited for vlogmas and I can’t wait to see what Anthony will be doing. 😂😂😂

[@businessredzonebusinessred8203]

Vaughn, YOU & ANTHONY are always throwing parties, barbeques, dinners & everything else for friends, relatives and...supporting so MANY associates/friends! All these things cost. I think YALL are 'simply PHENOMENAL PEOPLE! Vaughn, YOU are kindhearted, empathetic, would give your VERY SHIRT OFF YOUR BACK FOR SO MANY PEOPLE! I draw so much inspiration from you, Vaughn...girl if you only knew! You are 'A SUPER MOM' , BEAUTIFUL, STRONG & STRONG WILLED! YOU move mountains ALL THE TIME! VAUGHN...KEEP ON BEING THE BEAUTIFUL PERSON YOU ARE. God BLESSED YOU WITH THIS SPECIAL GIFT...YOU! LOVE YOU, VAUGHN! DIANN

[@brittneyk0158]

Part of “real life” is stepping away to nurture yourself. It’s understandable. It’s not remiss to say that your followers are mature enough to understand that your being away for a while means that you are prioritizing. Trying to protect our kids and loved ones can be an ongoing “challenge,” in the face of all the “ills” of the world. Unfortunately, we are not going to always be able to. The best we can do is to try to navigate thru life with the things that we have been taught and learned about the very basics of being a “decent” human being. That a grown “*ss” person would think that it’s ok to respond to and address A CHILD, instead of the child’s parent(s), who’s obviously in their presence and reach, is baffling. Nonetheless, so glad to see you looking refreshed and renewed, and look forward to whatever you choose to share with us! 🙏🏼

[@chrisray803]

Sending you love and peace. 🥰 Glad you’re back!! Looking forward to vlogmas.

[@nicknicky42]

This is a Vlog I'm Happy to wait for!!! We appreciate you sharing your life with us. Blessings to you and the Family!!!!

[@kharyzma4u]

I know it's exhausting. I work with children with Autism from Pre-K all the way to adulthood. It can be frustrating, however in my experience, you can still discipline them and prepare them for behavioral situations inside and outside of the home. You have to be firm though. It also has to be constant. Not saying you're not doing that. There needs to be a system in place where there is a lot of positive reinforcement for when her behavior is positive. Also, there needs to be a system in place that discourages the unwanted negative behavior. Again, it has to be consistent. You're doing a great job. Be patient, but still have those systems in place as you're learning, so that when she gets older she will have a solid foundation. Along with all that pray as well 🙏🏽 Wishing you all the best 💗

[@thatsjones466]

This!!

[@anbonner17]

❤️

[@soblessed2176]

I will give you a ❤️~ for your heartfelt message. *Discipline is the KEY! Yes she has Autism; BUT YOU MUST DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILD & NOT MAKE AN EXCUSE EVERY TIME SHE/HE DOES SOMETHING WRONG!~. *As a HEALTHCARE PROVIDER Im Sure They Have Disclosed this to the parents ~🙏🏽. You got no response because your opinion was CORRECT!~. As~Salaam~Alaikum ~🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽

[@thatsjones466]

@@soblessed2176 yes so true because the world will not care sad truth

[@kharyzma4u]

@@soblessed2176 Thanks. Children with Autism are some of the brightest and most talented children! Don't sleep on them. I work with them, so I know from experience. They just speak a different language so to speak. Once you learn the language, the way that they communicate and interpret things you can create a solid foundation for them to learn and grow. They are aware, alert and very detail oriented in my experience. They also like routine. So when doing something out of their normal routine we usually prep the children a week or two in advance. Like when going on trips and stuff. We do role play, we script things out, we show them pictures and video of where we're going. This way when the "big day" comes, they are informed, prepped and expecting the experience. It takes patience. With the proper systems in place, the children develop very well.

[@journeyg7505]

My heart goes out to you. I work with autistic and down syndrome kids everyday, they are so amazing. People are going to be ignorant no matter how we advocate for our kids. Just inform and keep it moving is all we can do. I had a blast watching the cruise. I can hardly wait for the next one!

[@apaul2304]

You are a great mom, Vaughn! I too am a autism mom to a 18yo, Jalen. You spoke of the unknown and navigating all the new stages…there’s no manual and you just have to pivot. BUT…in that pivoting just be confident that you are doing what’s best for Anne and then MAKE time for yourself. Even if you just ask your mom to watch her for a couple hours and you go for a run or a massage or just driving around doing nothing. Give yourself and your mind a chance to release, refresh and come back to Anne. We don’t realize it (I definitely do) but sometimes being an autism mom, we get overstimulated just like our kids. When we as the parent is overwhelmed, that energy transfers to our child. Take care of you and Anne and have those conversations of venting, as needed. You’re doing a great job! Ashley❤️

[@simplysherri]

So glad that you are back. Appreciate you sharing all aspects of your life.

[@jadeavery9314]

Thank you for your transparency🤎 Welcome Back!!!

[@missyonyoutube]

Love your transparency as always! We love Anne and we love you!!

[@bnina2002]

So excited and happy to see you. Looking forward to seeing more. Share when you can. Love you all.

[@Trice_Marie84]

Excited to see you back and glad you’re in a better space. Can’t even imagine how challenging things are but appreciate your transparency and continuing to uplift you and your family in prayer 🙏🏽

[@Martinique757]

As a military wife; I can fully understand. Time without your spouse on top of other things takes a toll. My husband was deployed for a year a month after we got married. When he came back, we were faced with another deployment for a year. Now he’s back but now there’s ptsd. On top of it all, my dad has had a stroke, is dealing with kidney failure and had his leg amputated in June of this year. I’ve been doing KZbin since 2009 and although I’m not nearly as big as you, these moments haven’t made me want to create. I FEEL YOU SIS! Take all the breaks you need! So glad you’re back though!

[@lisajackson8917]

Glad you're back. Sending positive vibes & prayers. Bring it Anthony.

[@guesswho2]

❤️❤️❤️ Glad you’re back. Glad you took time for you.

[@danadowdell6461]

Good to see you. Take all the time you need for your family. Looking forward to vlogmas. GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. 🙏🏾

[@FridaiRainfall]

So glad you guys are back and I CANNOT wait for Vlogmas! 💛

[@joyola0530]

I can't wait!!! I look forward to your videos ❤

[@eforward1930]

Prayers of wisdom & guidance for you & Anthony, glad you’re back & tell Ann we love her!❤️

[@FWooten]

You are an excellent Mom and Annie is blessed to have you! ❤️ I’m looking forward to vlogmas. Can’t wait!

[@cashanaseals189]

Yes, for vlogmas! I understand needing to work on you to minimize your stress. We appreciate you.

[@beluved-tee]

Glad to have you back Ms Vaughn! And of course we want you & your family happy, healthy & blessed. ❤️🧘🏾‍♀️

[@sarajones6229]

Welcome back Vaughn!! Missed you girl.

[@tammaramencias495]

Thank you for sharing that. Definitely lifting you guys up in prayer. So happy you’re back.

[@CG-of9sh]

Admiring the transparency, MsVaughn. God bless 💜

[@KayPee76]

Welcome back! I ❤ to see you and your family..... love and blessings 😁

[@ErnieDee]

Welcome back! We truly appreciate you taking time for yourself - part of being human is resting when you need it. So glad you feel recharged - looking forward to Vlogmas!

[@johnnieatkins795]

Welcome back!!! Continue to take care of you and your family !!!💕💕

[@ladyt4062]

Keeping y’all in my thoughts and prayers. I can only imagine. So glad that Anthony is doing okay! Thanks for sharing!

[@hollywood1950lw]

Awwww I'm so happy to see you back!!! You are my favorite person of bloggers

[@favor_aint_fair1179]

Sis so happy to have you back! I love your transparency about everything. You got this sis. You are such a great mother keep your head up sis!! 😘😘😘

[@AlNisa21]

So happy your back & I always enjoy your vlogmas videos 😁. Looking forward to seeing what you are getting Ann for Christmas!

[@toleahtv]

Vaughn, soooo happy you're back. I LOVE YOUR CONTENT! It's always so well edited and cohesive 🥰

[@AprylGunnSherrod]

Missed you Vaughn! I’m so glad you took the time you needed to focus on yourself and your family! Sending you, Ann and all your family so much prayers, love, and light 🙏🏾💗✨

[@CharmagneHoskins]

Whew, sis this had me so emotional. Thank you so much advocating for your daughter and showing us your experiences. It’s so needed!

[@vanstabitha1]

Yayyy for vlogmas! So happy you took the time to refill your cup! Watching your videos is part of my self care and relaxing time so your content is helping to refill my cup too! The cruise vlogs were everything❤️❤️

[@tjackson7983]

Glad you’re back. You’re such a great mommy ❤️. Can’t wait for these vlogmas videos to start dropping.

[@tmillwood3389]

Thanks for sharing! You are a dope Mom and I love that you keep it real. You are so inspiring and I hope you feel the love and support I am sending your way! Ups and downs are all part of the beautiful journey! Much LOVE!

[@evelynbonner3908]

I retired in 2016 after 30 years as a special ed teacher. I taught many children with autism with varying degrees of severity, and I so feel for you. Because I would typically have students, at least on a part time basis, for multiple years and I always felt that I had families not just the student. I viewed it as my responsibility to be as supportive of the family as possible, and I sincerely hope you will find resources like this for Ann and you and your family. Also, I have a son (grown now) who is 6 ft 4 in tall. He was always tall for his age, and this was a continuing challenge with folks always expecting more than he could deliver, even without any special challenges. I was always amazed (and annoyed!) when we were out somewhere and some random busy body would tell me how he "ought" to be behaving at "his age". I was also a 1st time Mom. So I really feel you on many levels. You are doing an amazing job, dear. Take time for yourself!❤❤

[@anbonner17]

Oh, Ms. Bonner, we have so many similarities!!!! Are you my Kin? 👀😆 My son is 6 years old and 50 inches tall. I've learned that since he is a tall black boy that people will treat him older or not as a child at all. And I think boys are less independent than girls, but I just try to live for now because babies/children don't keep. They truly grow so fast!!! I am also a teacher/educator and a first-time mom. I learn from my son and apply it to my walk and teaching. Mom-lifestyle channels like Ms. Vaughn help me to be a better mom and teacher, to really emphasize that each child--all be it, may have similarities, but--is Different! Children are on the spectrum of multi-Abilities! 🥰❤️

[@oneflowerlover]

Ms. Bonner, because you are a professional I feel you can answer my question. How do you discipline a special needs child? How do you determine whether a child is acting out or autism is the issue?

[@HotNewLooksSusanJepson]

As a mom of two daughters, the way you put your feelings into everything you said in this video really touched the deepest core of my heart. You are a very sweet and strong woman, even though we are not by your side or out there with you, but l want you to know that you are not alone. You will always have our internet support ❤ ♥

[@pamelasims9063]

Welcome Back! I've been missed you and your family so much.

[@nic0298]

Vaughn, you are doing a great job. Thanks for the transparency. We all need a break at sometime. Sending positive vibes. 🤗

[@teespoonKCLA]

Sending you all the prayers and good vibes. You're doing a great job, Momma...keep it up!! Hugs to Anne as she continues to grow and develop.🙏

[@gentlestormwyatt]

Girl you don’t even understand how much you inspire us. The fact that you have such a busy life, having a child who has autism, and then you bring us Vlogmas (I’ve watched most of them), I’m honestly amazed. Much success to you and your family. Here I am complaining and I don’t even have kids yet, thank you for the reality check. Love you girl 💋 Oh and you still manage to stay so beautiful and in shape, I checked out your vlogs and girl you look GOODDDDD 😍😍😍😍 Go ahead gf. We’re here for you. Anytime you need a break, we totally understand.

[@sassteann]

Will pray for you. Thank you for your honesty and being vulnerable on camera.

[@Titus2Chic]

Girl, we love you! You are so right, you're one of the realest in this space. We're always grateful when you do what you need to do for you and your family b/c again, that's part of the realness that we admire about you.

[@TheCozyCornerWithAliphia]

Definitely looking forward to your vlogmas video. Thanksgiving was so lit for y’all, true blessings! I can’t wait to see how Ann’s hair progresses.

[@vickiemciver718]

Vaughn, looking forward to vlogmas!! I’m excited to watch!! Aight Anthony bring IT!! 🤣 #excited

[@kandii_kanexo3219]

I’m glad you took the time that you needed to take care of yourself and your family. Welcome back girl!!

[@marsharyan2200]

Happy you are back! Really missed you and your family but I totally understand that you needed that time away. Thoroughly enjoyed Anne’s birthday 🥳 that cruise was a vibe!!

[@ijeoma6774]

Aw man. The way I’m crying right now for you. You’re so strong and I pray for God to give you wisdom and joy through this motherhood process. You’ve got this!!

[@wanda5encouragetoimpact392]

Welcome back. God will make a way for you, Ann and your husband and family. Stay encouraged. Keeping you in prayer.

[@shamicawest6586]

Thank you so much for your honesty and sharing your life. We could all use a reality check regarding our perceptions towards others. May Anne continue to thrive and you continue to navigate her milestones with whatever it is that you need. Shout out to Anthony, praying for his safe keeping!

[@kishaward1992]

Welcome back , I’m so happy ur back!

[@Sugarbella10]

Sending you so much love and light. Thank you for sharing really valuable insight.

[@nicolemarc7211]

Sending prayers, good vibes, and support your way! ❤️❤️❤️

[@thewards2688]

Sending love and positive vibes!!! ♥️🤗 We love you guys so much. You are such a gem 💎

[@kinshawalker4712]

Hang in there Vaughn. Sending love, hugs, and prayers your way. ❤️🥰

[@tflo0212]

Thanks Vaughn for sharing. Best wishes on your new journey and decisions. Family always first. Will always support. You always keep it real.

[@msjayeparker]

Good morning sis! Just got back from church. ALWAYS HERE for you!! Hey My Anne and Brother Ant!! Love yall🥰🙏🏾❤️

[@mechellariley3772]

Thank you for Sharing! I will keep your baby and this thought in mind. I pray for Grace as you raise your beautiful little girl 💗

[@bethanyreed7145]

I am so glad that you feel free to take a mental break when you need one. Never worry about doing that is best for you. I’ll be praying that you and Anthony come up with a great school plan for Anne. ❤️

[@sherimyles1934]

Thank you so much for uploading, I recently found your channel and I have a three year old daughter that just got diagnosed and I feel everything that you are talking about!

[@dmbdmbbb]

Glad you're back and was able to take the time to focus on your mental well being. Sending hugs and prayers from Cali to Chicago.

[@NancysNibblesofLife]

Yay, girlfriend is back and she is looking fabulous! Things with Ms. Anne will unfold as they should. She has a wonderful tribe around her. Looking forward to Vlogmas!

[@PardonMo]

I love this video… everything about it. I feel much the same way when I’m overwhelmed or mentally/emotionally struggling. I appreciate your authenticity. Sending love and prayers for your and your family during this season. 🙏🏾❤️

[@Petalsandpups122]

This was the realest, most honest video I’ve ever seen on KZbin. You stepping back to be there for your family is so admirable!

[@nareene1473]

This is such a deep video on so many levels. I wish you peace during this trying moment!!

[@FeliciaY]

I wanted to give you a hug while you were sharing the experiences you've been having. You a G for sho'. I understand how much it took for you not to let'em know how us Chicago bred women get down when it comes to the people we love. You're first priority is your daughter, do what yiu gotta do to make sure she can thrive!

[@neeshespieces]

Omg I remember you had the puppies last vlogmas. Man time FLEW by!

[@GinaT8]

So glad you're back. I totally understands the reason for your break from KZbin. Praying for you and your beautiful family.

[@joib8447]

Welcome back! Mental and physical health always comes first. Your a great mother.

[@ceviharris]

Hey Vaughn, glad your back I love your videos. I appreciate you being honest and open because being a parent is hard enough as it is. And I understand and feel you. My son has Autism and he is only 2 and it’s hard as hell now with managing it all. You are a awesome mom and Ann is blessed beyond to have you as a mother. Love you guys channel 🥰

[@trinacarter4229]

Absolutely admire you for everything you give. Sending prayers your way to keep you uplifted 🙏🏽🥰🙏🏽

[@zenettabroadnax6494]

The “I will though” is sending me. 😭 and I’m here for it! You have every right to protect & defend your cub. So glad you’re back. 💗

[@cherylsingleton3357]

Happy Holidays. So happy to see you back 💓

[@akilahgrant7347]

As much as I love your content, glad you took a break for you sis. Loved seeing you more on Instagram, too! Can’t wait for vlogmas 🤎🤎🤎

[@sheilanelson7677]

Welcome back Vaughn! We got your back when it comes to Anne and you, Anthony can hold his own. I will continue to pray for you guys. Continue to stay strong! Also, I love-love your "real" hair, so long and luxurious, 😊❤️!

[@charro028]

You look so beautiful in these dusky/mauve tones! Glad you are back and understand the need for breaks!!

[@shaylove5439]

Awww..we missed y'all! I'm glad you were able to take a much needed break, sorry for what happened on the plane!😤

[@newmomma1017]

Mental health is so important, so happy that you took the break that you needed and was able to regroup.

[@MsCrownnglory]

i'm so proud of you sweetheart and i will always keep you and your family in my prayers, please keep the faith and you can know for sure you are a strong woman

[@godskid70]

Love to see you back. You were truly missed.

[@creativelyanalytic]

I have coined the term - “Life is lifeing” but we keep it pushing! You are doing a fabulous job! Thank you for being authentic & most of all doing what is best for you & your fam!

[@connie_comb2455]

Love you Vaughn! Been a subbie since your natural hair (Monroe Sister) days. Trust and believe you never have to worry about us getting bored with your content. Your authenticity, realness alone keeps us intrigued and watching. We gone watch and ride regardless! 🤗💕 sending love and light to you and your fam.

[@AquariusAquarius000]

Keep going! You’re doing an amazing job and Anne is beautifully perfect, period!

[@cellaraine2]

You are doing awesome. Such an awesome wife and mom!! Sis we all have our struggles and our days. You and your family are always in my prayers. Anne is thriving and is such a beauty and that is because of you and your family. Be encouraged sis. Love yall !!!

[@cindyfrancis6228]

I applaud you for your courage and bravery. You are your child’s advocate and I believe you are doing a great job as a mom supporting Anne. Take breaks, do self care, taking care of your MH is important. Love ya! 🙏🏽

[@csimpson62]

I’m glad you’re okay sis you were definitely missed! Praying for you on your first time and special needs mama journey! Ann is blessed to have you as her mom and advocate ❤️

[@Naturalbeautytoo]

Aww...we love you Vaughn! I feel you on the mental health break. Raising a child is HARD but you are one of the best moms out there. Thanks for sharing 💞

[@ms.angiesworld8696]

Glad to have you back sis! We totally understand. Being a parent is no joke and we know family is your top priority ❤️

[@lovelipsticklaundry3586]

All love and respect for you Vaughn! No apologies/explanations needed when it comes to taking care of yourself and your family. We’re all here thinking and praying for you and the family. Virtual hugs! 🤗

[@MichelleWatsonLee]

Yes! I was hoping you were still gonna be doing vlogmas. I mean put yourself first always but I definitely look forward to your vlogmas videos.

[@lizbethmurray20]

Hi Vaughn! I just subscribed to your channel and have been loving all of your videos. I’m an autism mom to my six year old son and was nodding so hard to all of your issues with Anne. I’ve experienced them all as well and it was so reassuring to hear you express your feelings on this. I’m always so overwhelmed by these instances and try to keep it together regardless but it’s so great to have someone openly express the challenges. Thank you!