She’s 100% right. When you constantly have to walk on eggshells around a partner because you know that they will take what you say the wrong way and it is better to hold back and say nothing… there is a serious problem in the relationship. When you can’t be yourself and feel suffocated because of this, you are not with the right person for you. Usually these people are very rarely right for anyone.
@RojaJanemanАй бұрын
No. It’s when they don’t care about u. Disrespect can b fixed. When someone genuinely isn’t interested in u, there’s no fix
@varraprassad9276Ай бұрын
Bakhwas… sirf partner partner walon k yahi hasr Botha hai… family jab partner aur apne bacchon se aage bhi aur peeche bhi ho… tho bahut kuch alag se dikhne lagta hai… in short jitni choti fanily utni badi is type k problems
@uzmakashif4131Ай бұрын
I ne dimagh thik kiya ha apne husband ka hr baat pr mera mazak so l didn't cook l didn't wash l didn't take care of house hold and children then he realized k me tb pagal thi k ab hun 😮 l warned him never ever
@ds427524 күн бұрын
And most of the Indian married couples lead their whole life thinking ' jaane do na, sab teek ho jaayega. Aakhir bachhon ke liye....'
@Saadfunfoodsandvlogsforyou23 күн бұрын
@@varraprassad9276😂😂u have a point bro❤...still big n joint families r lots n lots more problematic to manage emotionally though they have huge advantages as well😂😂
@rosefangirl803525 күн бұрын
She is millions of times correct. Loved how she just emphasized everything to the T😊
@dkvmba0728 күн бұрын
She is absolutely right.even in our own family members do that.even friends takes it as granted.
@Straightastheycome17 күн бұрын
Taking for granted is a natural thing. U don't want to be taken for granted, take the appropriate steps to put forth your thoughts. Take initiative to get what u want, don't expect the other to be a mind reader. God has given you a mouth, use it appropriately.
@deonomsubba87653 ай бұрын
Yaaa, Like Sri Devi's husband was a red flag in the movie ENGLISH VINGLISH, always wanted to put her down using the humor weapon.
@vikramk6869Ай бұрын
This need not only be in romantic relationship. When your best friend start behaving like this, it pains even more.
@gretaaarons494127 күн бұрын
Dignity & respect holds a marriage together more than love. Love follows respect.
@MihiDana-z2x13 сағат бұрын
Love/marrg d whole package. So either love /marrg or just using destruction ppl
@radhakannan104Ай бұрын
Very well said....I didn't realise when my husband insulted me in front of my whole in-law family. Something literally broke inside me. It took so many years to come out and stand for myself.🙏💐
@Saadfunfoodsandvlogsforyou23 күн бұрын
It's time tested method of keeping wives within their limits 😅...thnx Allah u get over it afterall ❤..heartiest congrats ...u r very strong sis coz millions could not find courage to do tht😢
@mightypen36920 күн бұрын
A guy has to stand WITH his wife in front of his parents IN EVERY SITUATION. They can discuss things in private later on. The minute the wife feels that she comes ONLY after the immediate family, that is the beginning of martial strife. I'm very clear about that with the better halves my 2 sons have brought home. MY PLACE IN MY SONS' LIVES IS ONLY AFTER THEM. I'm very clear about that.
@radhakannan10420 күн бұрын
@@Saadfunfoodsandvlogsforyou thank you
@rukhsanakhan755119 күн бұрын
Well said 👏 Stay happy and stay blessed always ❤️
@rachurachu299419 күн бұрын
Yes. My husband had such a thought. That he is my boss. After years of suffering I started reacting. Now Alhamdulillah.. I'm not suffocating at least...
@JiihbvfccxАй бұрын
Bilkul sahi। Disrespect सबसे पहला साइन होता है। मज़ाक के नाम पे किसी को नीचा दिखाना ।
@kallpanabhann993221 күн бұрын
100 🎉% she is so right . As mostly men disrespect and then rest will judge - he has been like this from years . They feel it’s their birth right to do so as they h w seen their fathers doing same with their mothers .
@pinkuchoudhury2400Ай бұрын
One can see the pain in her eyes and the level of frustration in her words.
@puNKSTER70Ай бұрын
That's why she chose to marry a rich guy after divorcing a regular actor
@lavya51229 күн бұрын
@@puNKSTER70ohh really, who the.. you are to judge someone personal life if uh r not part of it
@totoitutucoco28 күн бұрын
@@puNKSTER70 maybe the rich person respects their partner more. Broke/poor/unemployed doesn't always mean more love and care to give.
@puNKSTER7028 күн бұрын
@@totoitutucoco most separations happens in the riches.
@MiniPrakash-Dubai7027 күн бұрын
@@puNKSTER70coz they have options, poor and common people adjust since MONEY plays major role in life.
@JL-rt7vb24 күн бұрын
Me too, I grew up in a fam where my dad made fun of my mom. It hurt me so much that I wud be the one fighting and standing up for her. Later he realized and never disrespected her in my presence
@MihiDana-z2x13 сағат бұрын
He as fathr identity holder touch tried to let me feel type, grabbing, etc. No father, no mom. One lady look after me as mom.
@MihiDana-z2x13 сағат бұрын
He use mom her,me fr his image etc.
@ingenious5699Ай бұрын
She gave the correct answer, disrespect, and intolerance.
@jyotikerkar272827 күн бұрын
She expressed it to the point, ❤
@beautimarks9082Ай бұрын
I grew up in a household where my dad always did this to my mom. It really hurt my feelings. I’m still hurt by it. Mom is use to it and dad has no clue how it hurts to hear him talk like that.
@vathgriffith27 күн бұрын
Try to tell this to him for once
@beautimarks908227 күн бұрын
He is over 80yrs old and this has been his norm. He doesn’t even realize what, if anything, is wrong in his behavior and he gets offended way too easy.
@savitagupta13225 күн бұрын
@@beautimarks9082the thing is he knew it since the very beginning. He knew he could insult his wife and she would not retaliate in order to guard the respect and reputations of the family .Because women in our country are raised to believe that it's their shoulders on which the " khaandaan ki izzat rests"! Even though the man is the one who is shredding the "izzat of the woman"
@vathgriffith24 күн бұрын
@@beautimarks9082 sounds like a narcissist i'm sorry
@Asmi.tha12321 күн бұрын
No, they very well know it hurts, yet they choose to hit where it hurts and that’s narcissistic abuse.
@shikha8827Ай бұрын
I think this happens in every husband wife relationship, specially in india where women are judged for their every small action....be it how she speaks, how she laughs, how she eats, how she walks...and what not...how can one be comfortable in being herself if she is going to be judged even for the way she breathes 😢
@anamjaved3419Ай бұрын
This also happens in every relationship between wife and husband in Pakistan as well
@anamjaved3419Ай бұрын
This is very unfortunate
@komaldsouza844324 күн бұрын
Absolutely 💯 Wish somebody told me this 26 years ago, wouldn't have been in this shit. My brain kept seeing the red flags from day one but sadly I only followed my heart. Only positive outcome is my kids are well aware and alert to immediately notice such red flags and know that they should stay away from such people
@a.s306Ай бұрын
This whole explanation is the life I'm currently living
@aninditalaha7233Ай бұрын
I hope you find the strength to stand tall and walk away from there. Sending hugs
@sandhyarao3328Ай бұрын
You know you have the power to change the course of your life and only you can do it no one else is in power
@shashi3072Ай бұрын
Practice vipassana meditation by sn goenks 🧘♀️. One day you will be able to leave without fear with your head tall.
@RojaJanemanАй бұрын
If u allow others to disrespect u continuously, it means u don’t have any self-respect. No one can help such a person. When u urself don’t respect urself, y should anyone else??
@Rinee_96Ай бұрын
Same
@grp870622 күн бұрын
She is spot on !!!
@jineshkumar470624 күн бұрын
When she utters the word DISRESPECT it shoots straight like a bullet - straight and sure to kill and Yes, that’s what the disrespect do to kill a relationship. Disrespect is the stealth way of expressing ‘Discontent’ which could have been discerned sensibly. But a fool’s ego doesn’t allow to take that path. She is correct in every word of what she spoke. The relationship dies only to let the apparition to stay. Sensibility is a rare thing
22 күн бұрын
Shes come out very strong good. Loved n respected her always
@ARMY_of_knowledge Жыл бұрын
Very apt explanation!
@meetavyas4103Ай бұрын
Very true. 1st jokes . 2nd name calling. 3rd abusive 4th hitting. Walk put before it gets toxic.
@vickyprakas29 күн бұрын
She has be hurt so much look at the pain her eyes and gestures 😢 heal
@vilasini552Ай бұрын
You are totally right… each and every word that you said relates to me. I can’t discuss or even open my mouth in front of my husband because of his worst behavior and judgmental nature. This is killing me. I’m losing myself. It’s been years since I laughed heart-fully😢.
@chandamama9619Ай бұрын
I feel u stay strong
@reenaraibajajАй бұрын
Do you think that it will be better to leave him ? And live freely.
@honestbaateinАй бұрын
If there is any hope of you discussing this with ur hubby then try...sometimes the other person is not aware of your feelings and his own behaviour. If he becomes aggressive. Stay quiet and start planning out your life. Be independent somehow or atleast find a way to come out of it. Life is too short to live like a dead body.
@Nisha-777Ай бұрын
Been there
@JaiShivraiАй бұрын
U r not alone
@NTML-623 күн бұрын
This is 💯 true. I thought I could never unwanted him or hate him but his constant disrespect made me disgust him at last. Love is far gone!
@sg_j1547Ай бұрын
Each word is so true .
@neelm1956Ай бұрын
Soo true soo happy that you have the guts to bring this out in lndia❤❤
@user-os7je2yx4hАй бұрын
My husband is also red flag....but at home...in front of me n my daughter....koi bahar se aate hi ...he is a great green flag....
@karendlima905927 күн бұрын
Say it loud! You've nailed it! Completely 💯 agree. The most practical and the issues that have been most often dismissed are articulated so well and clearly here. I wish such was taught to kids in schools and at homes. We, as therapists and counsellors, would have fewer clients.
@savitagupta13225 күн бұрын
I am a counseling psychologist too...and I totally agree with you
@sohinisen304225 күн бұрын
Very well explained. It applies to all kinds of relationships and not just romantic ones. When you do not feel safe and accepted for who you are in a relationship, then there is certainly a problem. Instead of feeling suffocated, better to just let go.
@rashminargundkar89Ай бұрын
It's applicable in all types of relationships... Not only romantic one!
@arrcchuАй бұрын
I love her personality....very genuine
@ElixirOfLife-mm7kn28 күн бұрын
Self assured people take and give space for others to be themselves! Insecured and people who live to maintain certain standards as per society restricts themselves and others too.
@nancysokhey512921 күн бұрын
👌🏼ABSOLUTELY TRUE 👏🏼👍🏼
@anguie12 Жыл бұрын
Her language switch had me wondering if I was hearing her correctly 😅
@meera-gn8yf Жыл бұрын
She is so true but I add one thing that it's not about only relationship it's about all relationship including our so called friendship as well.
@Bliss77705Ай бұрын
In many things ❤
@gurdevkaur450511 күн бұрын
❤❤aap ne mere dil ki baat keh di... main ese logon ko dimag se hi nikal deti hoon.....❤❤❤
@kaydee524524 күн бұрын
We can se how much she's carrying inside. 💔
@lightworker629821 күн бұрын
And it keeps escalating after that. 😢 True
@user-tp6dq5lg6pАй бұрын
True..... respect is much needed than love
@soniamehta2736 күн бұрын
Uska past sirf uski bato mei hi nhi. .Uske Expressions...Uski ankho mei dikh rha ha😂😂😢😢😢😢😢😢😊😊😊😊❤❤
@subhamgangdeb661822 күн бұрын
I hope all couples out there have all the strength and love to overcome any pity issue that they will encounter in their lives.
@veenaramesh647326 күн бұрын
I'm living thru dis...for more than 40 years now....nd she rightly says....in d movie Dil Dhadkene Do....nd her son acknowledges.....she didn't leave her husband...bcz she had nowhere to go
@monalepcha64868 күн бұрын
yes ma'am I agree for you...👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
@deeparuhela67556 күн бұрын
बहुत प्यारी है शैफाली।। बहुत प्यारी ❤
@Hakunapatakha123Ай бұрын
So true. Blessed to have a wonderful human being as husband ❤
@lavya51229 күн бұрын
Shez dam dam true in her into.. completely relatable and true
@padmajav520423 күн бұрын
💯 Percent right. This is what happens in the family.. especially once we get married 😢
@ikshvakugautam6132Ай бұрын
Absolutely true ! Sidhi baat
@sadafshaikh373525 күн бұрын
Where do you have such perfect match an relationship…. Only in heaven…. Most of the time it’s compromise and adjustment and if u can’t do that … one end up staying single
@gaurisvАй бұрын
She said it soo correctly...😢havwgine through this all my life
@deepalishetty1315Ай бұрын
Jst couldn’t agree more. Short & crisp. ❤
@tashfiahabib9525 Жыл бұрын
She is too good
@dushyantrao604127 күн бұрын
Great explanation , I have experienced this being a male when I was in a relationship before my marriage . Touch wood I have an extremely understanding wife who accepts me the way I am.
@binduhiremath876414 күн бұрын
So very true. I can relate this so much in my own relationship 😢
@luckycharm1611Ай бұрын
She is very correct. Disrespect like this is a very confidence-robbing technique
@nema878Ай бұрын
My dad does this. I think it really scarred me for life to the point I don’t feel like giving my opinion even when he asks.
@pushpamargaret6672Ай бұрын
Agree 100%. Shefali is my favorite actress
@padumaiАй бұрын
1000 % correct
@khushboobhatibhati322512 күн бұрын
अनादर। कम शब्दों मे 100प्रतिशत सही वक्तव्य।
@user-gn7st5pi9yАй бұрын
Om shanti from Brahma kumaris 🌳🌳🌳🌳
@asht7899Ай бұрын
That's basically everyone's definition of marriage 😂 red flag is getting married.
@bishwajitsinha-mm4olАй бұрын
very true, its happens with me all the time, all my family members does that with me all the time aur ye cheez not funny at all... pata nahi kisne kya ukhada hai life me, khud ko samajh te hai bohot kuch aur dusro ko lalu panju,... bohot lightly leke bolte hai...
@sonalshalom824013 күн бұрын
I ❤ her. Since Nukkard days when she mimicked Sri Devi.
@kaypatel168616 күн бұрын
She is absolutely right
@AFireBirdPhoenixАй бұрын
My siblings and I have been dealing with an abusive father since our childhood , l feel very uneasy when he is around and the saddest part is l am the only one who is aware of this abuse but my siblings have taken this as our father being normal and have grown kind of used to it , which l find tragic
@Vibhavijay1Ай бұрын
Same with me 😢.
@Loading_rn21 күн бұрын
She is best among all in Bollywood. Her acting in Brothers r 100%
@namratasheth9789Ай бұрын
Totally agreed 💯👍
@prashantroy681024 күн бұрын
Women like this is a red flag for this society.....
@user-io4ch6un1zАй бұрын
Really I am over whelmed and in tears after hearing you
@meerav763423 күн бұрын
Very very true. Lots of love to you Shefali ❤
@maycornelius310125 күн бұрын
100 per cent to the point❤
@nishaharidas1361Ай бұрын
Absolutely correct no doubt at all ❤❤❤
@nehadutta353315 күн бұрын
Well said💯💯 i think every indian woman cross this situation in her life😢😢
@irenemistry890422 күн бұрын
You are very right. A brave woman. Not just an actress. Some men are so arrogant, ill mannered.
@nishadhruna4487Ай бұрын
I like what she says... And it's true... If one cannot be oneself (obviously there r boundaries and discretion must be a factor even with a spouse)... be comfortable saying what one feels under most circumstances, feel that one will be understood, feel safe from ridicule, feel loved & accepted so one can be oneself.. without fear of mockery... the relationship fails to be what it needs ro be... to serve its real purpose..
@preetgill6690Ай бұрын
Well said. Absolutely right
@amberinezaki969Ай бұрын
Such wise words
@parneetkooner9850Ай бұрын
Omg so true it is.😢
@jyotsnaraina8562Ай бұрын
Very true . 😢
@AllthingsniceyАй бұрын
Living on the edge is a serious issue
@alphabetagamma0928 күн бұрын
Who has realistically found or more importantly been this ideal partner everyone should supposedly have for a lifetime! Our expectations of our partners should be at least equal to the ones we have of ourselves if not lower. Striving to find such a partner or striving to be such a partner, which one do you think is more possible.
@preethimadhukumar1865Ай бұрын
Very true... Sab humour hi hai.. arrey mein toh mazak Kar Raha tha.. u can't take a joke even .. u r so serious.. tumse toh mazak bhi nahi Kar sakte hai.. I am living it on daily basis..
@simpleliving3505Ай бұрын
Very true ....I am computer engineer, I was earning more than my husband still I went through this .
@UpendraVishwasАй бұрын
1thing I always amazed me, when a lady earns it s her money but when a man earns it s for whole family . N with a lady it s always comes down to earning .
@psp5449Ай бұрын
@@UpendraVishwasshe is telling about her self respect brother not highlighting about money. If you can understand a boy or girl self respect in the same way you can feel her pain. If a wife doesn't give respect to her husband even after providing every thing for her daily life ..and husband complains about his pain ..men will understand that very well but why a pain from women is not accepted when expressed.
@UpendraVishwasАй бұрын
@@psp5449 bro ,my point is ,girls self respect suddenly sky rocketed when she starts earning (I am not demeaning anyone n never intended too ) self respect is self respect whether you earn less or more doesn't matter .
@bishakhagoswami8353Ай бұрын
But society doesn't work in that way.@@UpendraVishwas
@UpendraVishwasАй бұрын
@@bishakhagoswami8353 women are also blamed for this.
@user-vw3tm8jn9uАй бұрын
You are 100% true…
@GrandmasterShivaАй бұрын
I have always been worried snd scared around my own people bcoz I never wanted to lose them but they still left me alone in trouble now I learnt to respect myself.....and realized the wrong people never accept you the way you are 😅
@meerav763423 күн бұрын
God bless you Shefali ❤
@queenvictoria2897Ай бұрын
So true and so well said.......many women living this
@ROM4556Ай бұрын
Very well said 😢
@mpushpaparamashiva851627 күн бұрын
She is exactly explaining my life 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
@sunitakunkolienkar8319Ай бұрын
The TRUTH to the core
@GodKnowsWhoAmI22 күн бұрын
So true. .. we don't realise it. Stop urself when u start making these small adjustments... cz they arent adjustments.. they are the beginning of something big.
@madhuanand1733Ай бұрын
💯 percent agree with you
@MeghaMittal-lg4geАй бұрын
Right absolutely
@Bliss77705Ай бұрын
She is right ❤❤❤❤
@ayeshmoon23 күн бұрын
She is my favourite
@aishwaryaparthasarathy349Ай бұрын
100 percent correct
@nehasoni2823 Жыл бұрын
She is right
@vd211424 күн бұрын
We in our family face this with our mother We want to speak something but we hold it back because she definitely cuts our opinion but poor thing she doesn't realise But she sacrifices a lot for us so we will be chup