Week 24: Victim - Arguing For Your Own Limitations

[@leslierichardson5691]

Thanks for this Tori. I started this journey of being the best version of myself a year and a half ago, due to a 17 year marriage that was failing. I no longer do anything to prove something anymore or to cause someone to feel guilty or bad about themselves. Especially my husband. Yes, still married. Still a work in progress. :) what I do now, is I think to my self, "is what I am about to do or say...is it coming from a place of love?" And, what is the benefit of it? This has helped me realize that I said and did a lot of things over the years for a reaction not out of love. Hope this helps. Love and light to all of you. Leslie

[@nikimagelakis9085]

Love this here.... And it is true, really..I do not allow myself to play the victim.True. I remember it like it was yesterday. I was putting myself through Photographic College in my early twenties by waitering in a Restaurant. There was one particular table of about eight people, a family group. They were all lively and chatty, having a great time. One of the men in this group would have been in his late fifties. As I was attending the table, my eyes happened to fall on his inner wrist and I noticed that distinctive black tattoo.Understanding the horrors he must have faced, I marvelled at his ability to laugh and smile, to have the faith to create a family. Against the greatest of odds, this man had retained his humanity. I made a promise then and there, that no matter how tough things got, i would do minimal complaining.This marvellous man has always been a beacon, a bench mark.. and I am always that work in progress..

[@rebeccaskalare9445]

Just ordered the chakra cards and the booklet with the fables today 😊

[@medizoqueler3923]

Hey, Tori! I just want to say that these videos are helping me a lot... I have just found the series, but I've been using the oracle cards for some time now and always hearing different things whenever I get them for any specific reading. After finding the videos, I've been coming here and listening to your comments, suggestions and exercises whenever I feel that a certain card has touched me deeply and it's amazing how much you manage to share in each video. Thanks a lot!

[@jannekelovescreativeandspi7796]

The stories of the fables are really awesome. Great how you explained the fable of Kelly the Dragon and what the meaning is of acorn here! Important: an excuse is always based on fear....(I recognized this). It changed my communication.🤗 I am the one who can change my inner thoughts!

[@ToriHartman]

Great insights!

[@kyleliz9581]

Ouch! This fable and your teaching brought it home to me very clearly that I've been holding onto some benefits of victim status for 8 years. I just had to count back and the length of time is sobering. I was bullied out of a job I'd held for 18 years, and in that time I'd been promoted and my salary had risen to a comfortable level. I was placed on administrative leave, required to see a psychiatrist, assisted by my employer in applying for temp disability. But they submitted the papers incorrectly so I was without any income for 3 months. I almost lost my house, my daughter failed her last semester of college, I had to apply for unemployment, we were forced to use food stamps, and go on Medicaid. It was traumatic and we didn't handle it well. Today, I have a new job, with the same employer, that I love, but I hold an internal grudge that I earn substantially less. (I remained with my employer because I live in a small town and work for the state, and am close enough to retirement that I don't want to risk my non-Social Security benefits). My daughter was able to finish her Bachelors degree, but dropped out of the graduate program that she'd been accepted to with a teaching assistantship because she experienced panic attacks. She has developed medical problems that have led her to apply for disability. It was a bad couple years, and I received support that was necessary at the time. What I can see now is that on the outside I'm a professional with a decent job that I am good at --- but I continue to use social support services (case management, representative payee) that have become crutches! As well as not expecting enough of myself. I can see, for the first time in a long time, who I *should* be. All I can say is, thank you from the bottom of my heart for the gift of this series

[@ToriHartman]

Try to be gentle with yourself and seek out a professional to chat with or at least have one nearby if you need it. You have everything you need - AND use those services if you need them. Wow. Much love your way. x

[@kyleliz9581]

@@ToriHartman I will :)

[@jonio214]

Hi Tori! I started watching you for your Chris Watts insights, but am a Tarot enthusiast etc. Yesterday ordered the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Toolkit: A 52-week Journey of Self-Discovery with the Lost Fables. Will arrive today...so excited! Love your oracle cards too! I'll order them as well and take them to my next tarot group retreat :)

[@ToriHartman]

Hi Joni - Do check out my new Tarot deck too! :) x

[@jonio214]

@@ToriHartman Ok, so crazy. You sent this exactly after I opened the package with the Chakra Toolkit! It just arrived. It's so great and I know will help me. Will look for your tarot cards for sure! xo

[@TravelinRosy2025]

Love it

[@h.newton8982]

Hi tori. I have used these cards twice. The first time, a few months ago, I drew just the victim card and that gave me lots to think about. Last night I did the REMOVING BLOCKS card spread. my focus whilst shuffling the deck was my block being low confidence and self esteem manifesting as social anxiety, and the cards I got were - 1. Trickery 2. Faith 3. Victim ( i literally said when I saw it "oh not you again" 😂) 4. Bittersweet. I understand the victim and the faith but I struggled to get the full meaning behind bittersweet and trickery to do with my block question. I usually have to go on a long walk in the woods with the dog to try and get that light bulb moment come to me. Thanks for the video help

[@zecanoyoutube848]

🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@красныйпион]

Добрый день, дайте пожалуйста совет, как трактовать три карты, как совет дня, enlightenment+destiny+victim.заранее благодарю

[@janemulvenna7981]

I use angel cards. I was wondering what the difference is with the chakra cards?

[@ToriHartman]

Chakra is energy within our body, while angels are entities outside of us. :) One is chakra the other is angel..? Is that what you mean? It's like asking, I drink coffee - what is the difference with tea? Make sense? x

[@medizoqueler3923]

Hey, Tori! I just want to say that these videos are helping me a lot... I have just found the series, but I've been using the oracle cards for some time now and always hearing different things whenever I get them for any specific reading. After finding the videos, I've been coming here and listening to your comments, suggestions and exercises whenever I feel that a certain card has touched me deeply and it's amazing how much you manage to share in each video. Thanks a lot!