WEEK AS A SURGEON | SURGICAL ICU / Burn Out

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[@natalie6973]

"That's cause I'm a doctor, bi-" I love you lol. I get the loneliness America! Thanks for being real

[@edwardryan2414]

That's pretty nice meeting you here Natalie,I'm Edward by name orginally from Neveda but I live in Mexico City, Where are you from?

[@shabnamajj]

7⁷7u😊

[@heydi7431]

Dear God, please protect Dr. America Revere at all times! She's a national treasure! ❤️

[@khadijarabbani9576]

Ameen !

[@ajsuflena156]

@@khadijarabbani9576 AMEEN

[@summerangelmartinez5344]

In Jesus name AMEN🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@88devinlewis]

In Jesus Name. Amen!

[@knzay]

What you said about persistent loneliness really resonated with me. What's been helping me has been looking into attachment theory. I came to learn that I'm a "dismissive avoidant" due to having to be super independent since childhood, and it makes me really emotionally closed off so it's hard to form close relationships. Even though I'm also bubbly and friendly, people usually perceive me as intimidating and uninterested because I'm afraid of them getting too close. If anyone reading this feels like they've also just been a bit of a loner since childhood, I'd recommend reading up about this!

[@clairesimoneaux1632]

Wow, this describes me perfectly. How do you cope or heal from it?

[@ohwellwhateverr]

Holy shit, that's me. How about we form a commune where we all avoid each other together?

[@YaGirlReneexx]

I was so outgoing when I was younger but as I got older I became more secluded and private, people really aren’t my thing anymore & I honestly am so stuck in my own world to the point I forget they exist 99% of the time lol.

[@ania5038]

Also Acceptance and Commitment therapy principles have helped me!

[@poet82n]

This is me....thanks for sharing this. I am going to read up on it now.

[@abigailschulz6645]

In the middle of intern year and she still loves us enough to give us a 20+ minute vlog

[@safiagabure2722]

“That’s because I’m a doctor, b-“ 💅🏽✨

[@Johnny20022002]

“ I don’t know what I’m doing at all”. Currently studying for the mcat and I find it hilarious that this sentiment never ends.

[@hannahbanana2311]

omgg ahah! i’m studying for the mcat this summer, i start in may🥲 i hope it’s been going good for you!

[@Peanut1031]

Omg goodluck!!!! I remember those those man and it’s tough. 3 years and 3 times later I got my acceptance!!! Never give up my dude!!! And stay FOCUSED. I always let everything and everyone get in my way because I hated studying for the mcat THAT much. Don’t be me. You’ll get there no matter what!

[@esme4212]

Sameeeeeee

[@habim9670]

OMG GIRL MISSED YOU SO MUCH. SENDING ALL THE LOVE. STAY SAFE AND AMAZING ALWAYS.❤❤

[@bookssssss]

sameeee

[@whasoko9455]

SAMEEEE

[@sophtroph118]

Calyx meowing as soon as America tries to sleep described my life perfectly 😂

[@mike112693]

right? imagine if that's a kid. mad respect to moms in her field lol

[@foxrdr88]

Out of all the medical influencers on here, I think your the best one. Your raw and you actually show how you study, what you do during the day, the things you have to do to keep going, and your emotions; I feel like I’m watching a friend😂 I have literally binged watched everyone of your videos Atleast 3 times! Your doing great!

[@jasonb4254]

Yep, she's amazing.

[@sanjstar996]

Don’t forget my man- Calyx! 😸

[@mediokritet]

I relate so much to both the professional part being a surgery resident and also personal feelings of loneliness and it being kind of a reoccurring theme of my life. I feel for you completely. One thing that has helped enormously was having just one session with a therapist (which I plan on continuing). Nothing on the outside really changed but just sharing with another human how I feel took a giant weight of my chest. So if you are able to I highly suggest it. All the best, good luck in you training and hope you find the support you deserve. And thank you for awesome real videos xx

[@LivvyAlexW]

I agree. I tell my friend across the country my feelings and he just listens and gives his advice. Free therapy but not qualified therapy. I just need a listening ear with no judgement

[@alaafathi92]

Didn't want this to end, it's 20 Mins and I don't feel it long enough😁💜

[@heavythinker16]

People telling other people they look 'tired' are just my pet peeves! I don't see the point of pointing it out.

[@tollytolly5808]

I like it when some one tell me that i look tired it feels that they care to me to the point that they can tell the difference between the normal cheerful me vs the tired me .... i really appreciate it ...

[@irwfcm]

I kind of agree with Tolly. It can show genuine concern for the other person's well-being. Just knowing someone else cared enough to say something like that could make someone's day. I could also be taken the wrong way though.

[@princessmae3457]

@@tollytolly5808 i agree with you, as well.

[@Daniellle728]

It’s not a polite way to show concern. When people say this to women it’s most often a day when they simply chose not to wear makeup. It’s rude

[@2davivadiva]

Yea depends on who is saying it. If you have a close enough relationship with someone for then to point it out - ok. But a co-worker you know you’re not close with or any other person whom you don’t really know shouldn’t be saying it

[@zazaiowens8125]

I love how honest she is about not knowing anything about ICU. So refreshing.

[@karlym5274]

America, I just want to say that I think you are literally one of the most strongest people I know. I can tell that opening up isn't the easiest thing for you, and you said it yourself since you were a kid, but I want to point out that deep breath of relief that you took after telling us all of that. This is a huge step for you and I'm so proud! When you were talking about isolation, you pointed at yourself with your finger and said "if it's my fault" and I just want to tell you that it is not your fault and you are not the one to blame, even if you feel like it. It's not your fault you followed you heart and picked a career where you save peoples lives, and now you have to work nights for a little, it's not your fault there's a pandemic and the world is shutdown and it really isn't your fault your away from friends and family. America, you know this and see this more than anyone, but sometimes the world is just cruel. You are doing a job that fights against that cruel everyday. I can see the pain in your eyes and honestly, I just want you to please look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself that 1. You are BEAUTIFUL no matter if you have eye circles or anything! 2. You are worthy of love and happiness and 3. You are allowed to feel your feelings. I just want to thank you again for opening up with us, and I really encourage you to do so again because it's refreshing and nice like you said, and I want to see more sighs of relief! I love you so much, truly. I wish I could bring you hot meals during your shifts but I live in Canada. I am sending you so much love. xx

[@j0562]

I get it now, Canadians really are the nicest.

[@Peanut1031]

This really made me tear up. Bless your soul girl 💛 I feel the same América is such a beautiful and genuine soul we love her so much! I hope she reads your post one day :)

[@karlym5274]

@@j0562 omg thank you😭❤️

[@karlym5274]

@@Peanut1031 awe thank you so much I hope she reads it too❤️

[@darkoshmarko]

I'm a new grad nurse in the ICU (working nights) and I am struggling. It seems like the support you docs have for each other is great! I have not had the same experience in nursing. You are expected to be a martyr and not take care of yourself because only patient satisfaction matters and it's all treated like a business with the managers breathing down our necks constantly. I was so exhausted one night that instead of eating during lunch I just wanted to sleep. So I gave handoff report to another nurse for my patients and went to take a nap. A resident saw me napping and reported it to my nursing manager. I had to make a written statement and it's being investigated. It's absolutely ridiculous and I'm regretting the decision to go into nursing SO badly. I'm burnt out after 8 months and have no energy to even take care of my own health. I'm not sure what the way out is but I'm praying I find the right path. Thank you for being real as always, America

[@mariastamba]

i have never really heard another person describe the exact way i feel when it comes to loneliness, especially the part about how it’s a reoccurring instance throughout your life. i can SO relate. it’s so painful. and after all these years i still don’t know why it happens either 😅. i’m so glad i found your channel a while back, your personality is so refreshing, you’re so funny and relatable, and you just seem so similar to me. anyone who can call you their friend is lucky! if you ever find yourself in need of a friend from Alabama, i’m here 👏🏻🤠

[@HelensLife_]

💓

[@anamd6176]

We all love you for your honesty. The strugle is real and you don't try to hide it, life is not bright and shiny everyday. Hope that it gets better for you and wish you all the happiness. You are hard worker and it will all pay of one day, on all horisonts. Sending love and can't wait for you to post again.

[@aishmalik101]

She sounds a lot less happier and lively and more drained here compared to Med school 😢 is it only gonna get worse before it gets better? If it even will ever get better? This fucking marathon

[@user-em4wh5ji3w]

intern year is perhaps the most difficult time in all of academics in any field. it does get a lot better eventually

[@KhangNguyen-lu8fu]

Does anyone know what happened to her boyfriend?

[@accountforwastingtime]

It's a good reality for her to show. A lot of med school and residency vloggers are overly energetic and purposefully keep everything positive, but it's just not reality. It's especially not reality when not only are you working in the most critical area of the hospital for the first time ever but you're switching from nights to days all of a sudden. I'm not sure it ever gets "better" while you're in med school and residency (esp not in a pandemic) tbh, but it's all one big learning process and period of growth, preparing you for a very tough field to work in. Being a doctor takes so much out of you, it IS your life and it's very hard physically and emotionally no matter how many years you've worked. You might get more used to it, find better ways to cope and take care of yourself. I believe general surgery statistically has the worst reputation for mental health struggles, suicides even, amongst residents. It's a very serious topic for residence that I feel like doesn't get talked about enough so I love that she shows this reality.

[@mk.xo29]

@@KhangNguyen-lu8fu they're not together anymore and she has said quite a few times that she's single.

[@Iamthemiracle777]

Intern year is the worst I think. Residency itself is hard though. So it gets worse and then get better. I think pre-med students should definitely stop choosing Medicine based on Grey's Anatomy or any other medical TV show. The reality is completely different from TV shows, and being a doc is not that fancy esp if you choose IM or GS (the real deal). I honestly think it is very stressful & serious job. Also pretty repetitive, so not really exciting either. Choose Derm (but Derm is the MOST competitive field - guess why) if you want a fancy life (I am not saying it is not going to be boring but at least you make lots of money with more work and life balance)

[@Eva-pd2qi]

America, I too feel lonely and am in my 20s. I dont have family which I so desperately craved growing up. Thank you so much for opening up.

[@georgiam.3957]

This is random but I'm so proud of America , being here since the beginning and seeing where she is at now makes me feel proud for some reason . It also motivates me that i can make it into med school as well.

[@mike112693]

i always felt medicine is a lonely path in general. It's just a busy lifestyle. Especially if you want to be really good.

[@allinewell4754]

America I feel the same way about loneliness--it brought tears to my eyes to hear someone say the same things I feel. Know you are not alone, and you don't sound insane to me!

[@jackiele5019]

Hi America, thanks for sharing. Please consider talking to a therapist. Sometimes it’s hard to find someone in your life to share about everything from work to personal life. It has helped me a lot. All the best. You are doing great!

[@AmunRa00]

As a med student about to take his Step 1 exam in 3 weeks, I want to say how impressive it was to be so vulnerable and honest with us. I needed to hear that struggling to study daily and feeling alone in this journey. Thank you, America! You're amazing! ❤🌹

[@aworm]

“noon o’clock” whatdidshesayyyy?

[@NDMD]

Man burn out is so real and admin only superficially care about wellness. Please take care of yourself and get some well deserved rest when you can :)

[@cassandra1442]

I love that. “It’s cuz I’m a doctor bitch” 😂 own it. You deserve to brag about that. Keep up the hard work. I love your videos 🤗🤗☺️

[@erinlayke]

She is Amazing!!

[@goobalo3422]

WHAT TIME DID SHE SAY THAR

[@whasoko9455]

@@goobalo3422 18:23

[@lalala-bt1jg]

I find it very impressive how unfiltered you are sharing your feelings, and how you understand them and then deal with it. I think, after what you've described, it's very understandable how you feel and that you are lonely. Keep taking care of yourself. Wish you the best

[@Auntcardigan]

I normally hate when people cry and film it, but you are so genuine that I didn’t mind. I don’t know how you do what you do, major props!

[@Zay13378]

Yeah the fact is the journey to become an attending is rough and the tears will come!

[@khadijakasmani1077]

Being a nurse, not in the ICU but a general transition from school to work life has been difficult. I think so many people are struggling with loneliness and not just in healthcare. I related so much to this video because I can relate to burnout and feeling different.

[@Shelbydee3030]

“ NOON OCLOCK” LMFAO America is TIRED

[@muckspoutmillinery8008]

I definitely understand the loneliness thing. I dropped out of vet tech school in the fall due to burnout, depression, and disability issues. I haven’t seen another human except my family in months. It’s incredibly draining and depressing. It’s really hard. I’m so sorry that you’re dealing with this too. Thank you for your service during this time. You are so appreciated. (:

[@AmandaVF1]

I'm about to start dental school and even during undergrad, I felt lonely. I'm married and have a supportive husband and will still feel lonely at times. I can't imagine how you must feel America. I think some people like myself need lots of human interaction to feel satisfied and less lonely. Keep going, we are all here to support you and cheer you on!! I watched your videos while studying during undergrad years ago and they helped me keep going because of how you normalized a lot of feelings of sadness, frustration, loneliness, etc that I thought were weird but were just simply not talked about enough. Thank you for being honest with us America!!

[@gisselletavarez207]

It sounds like you said “I don’t really like ICU” in a British accent.

[@maliqueraymond-smith7278]

I thought I was the only one lmao

[@toastedtiddies]

yeah i heard that in british too

[@zuhairyassin505]

noticed that too

[@prisce7642]

America, thanks for letting us see what your backstage looks like, so many times the only "med school reality" that we see on Instagram and YT videos are highlights and edited fantasies. Thanks for being vulnerable with us.

[@Red_1124]

When she was talking about how someone told her she looks tired I immediately was like “yeah cuz she a DOCTOR” then she said it’s cuz I’m a doctor bitch and I died 😂❤️

[@444truthteller]

I feel the exact same. I’m just an introvert and I’ve always have been. It can be rough sometimes but at the end of the day, i’m a pretty chill person and have a good heart. That’s all that matters.

[@lovelala6861]

Your transparency is inspiring especially in your field. Im an English major and watch you for your personality. I’m definitely a loner and am recently trying to identify less with the feeling and highlight other aspects of myself. And also, YES, you are a doctor and don’t need nobody commenting on your appearance! I personally am making a conscious effort to stop commenting on girls physical looks.

[@becomingdoctorkal]

america you just KNOW when to post 😭❤️ yesterday i got my heart broken and your video today is like my ice cream remedy

[@Zay13378]

Sorry to hear that 😪 I hope all gets better ☺️

[@becomingdoctorkal]

@@Zay13378 thank you🥺

[@shahadmamalchi4086]

im in 2nd year of med school and i def am dealing with what u talked about...i never wouldve thought you would relate. its tough but it teaches u to be independent. at the time same, it just would be nice to have somebody to hit up near u, so i feel u America & ur not alone ❤️ thank u for being so real

[@mgmtgirlyeah7493]

I hope you're feeling better America. I'm struggling as an MS3 and wishing I had a break. I can only imagine how much harder it is during intern year/residency. But I bet it feels so good to say it out loud and not feel pressured to hold it all in. Stay strong girl, you got this!

[@AaronTrillo]

You know when I spoke about repeating my first year of medical school here on youtube I still get many messages every year of students who are going through the same and thanking me for sharing. I agree there needs to be a lot more realness on youtube. Medschool is hard and I cant even imagine residency.

[@ML-zb7gq]

35 yo doc over here, I enjoy watching America because I can truly relate to past experiences. Not trying to be negative, but it will get a little worse before it gets better. Medicine does absorbs a big part of your life and many times you will be wondering if you made the right decisions, specially when many of your friends start to have families and you barely have time to keep your plants alive. But the most important thing that many people outside of medicine won’t understand is that it truly is a calling. In spite of all the hardships, it truly is worth it, when a patient sees you in the eye and you can feel their gratitude for all you have done, none of your sacrifices really matter. Cheer up America! I promise, it will get better eventually, and the juice will be worth the squeeze. My dating life was nonexistent during most of my residency, but found the love of my life in the end! You go girl!

[@monaturaltingz]

I hope you get through this and overcome not having support much support in the work place when you actually need someone to speak to, when family is not around. I wish the best for you and everyone else in the medical field!

[@pleasemusic3314]

I related so much with her as she told about her loneliness and how stressful it is. I have felt the same way since childhood, and sometimes, I feel very sad and lonely, like no one would ever understand me and me not having anyone to talk to. I have started meditation recently and I hope it helps me. America inspires me to be a good student and I always come to her videos when I lack motivation. 💕

[@hisbrideandwhitecoat]

Sending prayers and that you can overcome this feeling..

[@chukwudicharles7916]

That advice about brushing your teeth with your left hand is so genius

[@MonishaMadhumita]

I'm a resident and I completely relate to the long standing loneliness and the struggle to keep it real. What you're doing through your channel is so important,by making yourself vulnerable,you are letting us know that it's OK to be real and embrace imperfections. On the whole, having a supportive residency community is vital to keeping our spirits intact. I hope the governing bodies deal with residents with the kindness and respect we deserve.

[@donnahyde5386]

I deal with the same loneliness as you. I feel exactly like you, but you have all of your watchers we all fucking love to see how you doing with your life, you're a wonderful person and you deserve only good and kindness I personally love you

[@coco-qd3sn]

Thank you for being vulnerable, real, and showing your true self to us. I’m tired of the fake too. This perfection facade is stupid and annoying. I’m surrounded by it all day as well. Today I found out I will not be graduating with honors . I don’t even want to go to my graduation. I feel like I have failed in college.

[@Neurogainshub]

“That’s because I’m a Dr” Period!!!!!!! QUEEN!! You go girl, don’t stop! Much love from TX❤️❤️❤️

[@hanniadaniel8527]

We are now best friends, not up for discussion.

[@fi5906]

I feel you on the recurring theme of being alone throughout my life or always feeling on the edge of friend groups, the only people I always have are family xxx its so so real of you to talk about this cos we all put on a brave face and just get on with it and actually knowing that there's so many others out there that feel the same way is so helpful xxx you're smashing it

[@shamsalwardat573]

I LOVE YOU DOCTOR AMERICA❤️❤️❤️, you always manage to motivate me and push me to turn my dreams real (becoming a surgeon). I am still in school, however, I do really wish that one day I become a good and hard working doctor just like you :)

[@rachel9070]

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gone through and binged watched your videos and I’m not even doctor nor have a desire to be but I love you

[@Dani-wq7uk]

There’s a quote I saw the other day that really helped me put things in perspective in terms of seeing other people who aren’t pursuing a career in medicine move forward in their lives while we feel stuck. “It’s like a slingshot. We need to be pulled back in order to shoot forward” Thank you America for being so genuine and real. You’re such an inspiration ❤️

[@welcometomorocco1556]

I am just starting my residency in paediatric ,and i really feel so scared since i keep hearing how difficult it is,and i always start questioning myself if this the right thing for me or why "did not i chose another less tiring speciality " but i keep telling myself it is hard because it is the 1st year and it will get better with time...and i try remembering why in the first place i did chose this field....so i really can relate to what u going through especially when nightshifts are concerned. So i chose to keep going and do my best to be the doctor i wanted to be...so America keep going and take it easy..u will laugh about these days soon..and keep be an inspiration to others but mostly keep being you

[@rudyluna6245]

Dr Revere - I love your videos and appreciate how candid and real you are! I was introduced to you from my son Ryan Luna who is graduating this year from UT San Antonio Med School. I first saw your videos when he was studying for Step 1. The videos helped me better understand the rigor and demands on your time as a med students. Just like medical school residency will go by quickly and then you will begin reaping the benefits of all your work and sacrifices! The best of luck to you Dr. Revere

[@Sara-zu4og]

Stay real girl. I feel like the process you’re going through breaks a lot of people down to the point that they become cold and rude once they’re on the other side.

[@edwardryan2414]

I'm Edward orginally from Neveda but I live in Mexico City,where are you from?Sara

[@lilyk5375]

I can totally relate to the loneliness thing. I definitely don’t fit in and it’s hard to not have anyone. I hope things get better for you ❤️

[@niftymice6541]

im a premed but this week was so hard and i wanted to just give up lol but watching your videos always helps me stay motivated and see the light at the end of the tunnel! thank you for everything

[@marybabameto1195]

When you said I can talk to anybody but I can't TALK to anybody, I totally related. I too have struggled with loneliness and the more I talk about it the more I realize it's so many more people than I thought. Thanks for sharing

[@habim9670]

JUST KNOW America, MD. YOU ARE WORTH OF IT ALL. DON'T HAVE IMPOSTOR SYNDROME. YOU HAVE MADE IT YOU ARE GONNA BE AN AWESOME SURGEON. MAKE YOUR LONELINESS YOUR WEAPON. WE ALL PRAY FOR YOUR LIFE, HEALTH AND SUCCESS. NEVER FEEL DEPRESSED OR LONELY, ALWAYS TALK TO PEOPLE AND FAMILY. YOU ARE THE MOST GENUINE, VULNERABLE PERSON HERE AND WE WON'T LET ANYONE HURT YOU, KNOW THAT. WE LOVE YOU!!❤❤

[@bezagebremedhine5102]

❤

[@chloebaggett6692]

I think I just like watching someone doing something meaningful with their whole day

[@rachelpavlicin4955]

As a current premed student, you are such a role model to me America, not just as a doctor but as a person. We love you so much!

[@witchescauldron]

Dear America, loneliness can be crippling and painful. I've also suffered from it since I was about 10 and would stay up all night at sleepovers because I was so lonely! Crazy! It hits me now from time to time, usually when I'm tired. Sending big virtual hugs from Ireland - you're not on your own x

[@kp3698]

Hi america , you've changed my attitude about life with the content you make I've learned no matter what , i should be strong and never loose any chance . It's been a year and a half that I've sub to you:) you are amazing ❤️

[@nevanyaangelita2926]

the way i screamed when i saw the notification ----

[@Dom.Rueedi]

Dear America. just the other day I've had a chat with my mom (to whom I moved back in due to Covid and virtual work& school) and I openly acknowledged that I live in a city, heck even a country, where I don't know people and I am hyper isolating myself. She then reminded me that a) only I can do something about that but also b) if you are ambitious and you want to achieve great things, grow and improve, you will spend a lot of time with yourself studying, working, moving - that will automatically affect how much you are around other people. Don't be hard on yourself. These times right now are all but helpful for you to be social (aside from all the work& testing and recovering) due to covid and the restriction. You will find your balance and you will get social if that is what you want but you are more than allowed to be OK all alone. Others are too btw, they may just pretend or not share it openly. Keep your head up girl!

[@amer1907]

13:00 I know exactly how you feel. Bcs of this feeling I took a leave of absence from my university for my 4th year, to be around family and friends. I am a Jordanian studying medicine in Algeria. I hope I come back stronger 💪

[@lotsofinterests]

really appreciate your sincerity in showing us your vulnerabilities. this is how social media can be used to truly connect with others instead of putting up fake perfect facades

[@123benz321]

Always been a great influencer and older medical sibling! Thank you America!

[@s18531]

I feel like especially bc of the pandemic, it has exacerbated that loneliness feeling! I appreciate you being so real and open about this.

[@saba4765]

I think you're doing amazing chicky, i understand you get lonely but you know it's only temporary. In 5-10 yrs this will all be a memory and you will be a fully fledged doctor and when old friends cross your path and ask "what have you been up to?" you can tell them you are a doctor, and that will be worth it all. Head up ..you're doing great!.

[@n.4160]

I can relate to feeling lonely, especially in these hard times. But remembering that you are not alone and that things will get better is what keeps me going. Thank you for your content. You are inspiring 💜 !!!

[@sandrarecreatumente]

I really really appreciate you being real here, on the outside, on youtube. I want you to know that it's helping somebody out here. You can always talk to us!

[@jeens111]

great i just needed productivity inspo... missed america sm

[@jeens111]

i find it so peculiar that someone struggles with something i absolutely need - being alone. i isolate myself on purpose and honestly, it makes me feel the best. so yeah quarantine reinforced my bad habits but i hate socializing and it made me even worse at keeping people around or acting fucking normal whenever i leave the house.

[@glancestewart3955]

not socializing is not a bad Habit, dont let people pressure you into thinking it is. Do what you enjoy, there are people like you who understand and who you can still become great friends with

[@itsgabbieagain]

I like being alone too

[@Ahn-mu3db]

Theres a difference between being alone and being lonely

[@LaLaLara971]

does being alone feel the best? or is it just familiar? maybe socializing is uncomfortable because it’s not what you’re used to, but that doesn’t mean you can’t get used to it if that makes sense

[@janellesmith3326]

I can so relate to the loneliness feeling. I’m also in a city away from everyone and my best friend is hours away. Makes me feel a little better that other people are feeling the same way and I’m not alone in this loneliness lol. You’re doing great ❤️

[@alaynaragain7748]

Healthcare and night shift life is very lonely at times. But know you are loved and have an amazing community of subscribers that support the REAL you.

[@maureenheurich5727]

“I’m getting old at an accelerated rate” I feel this! I looked like a baby my intern year!

[@MichelleMR172]

Even though I don’t know you personally, it’s been so great watching your journey. You’re such a cool and special person and I pray you find some people you can connect with and feel loved. I recently moved away from all my family and friends so I know that pain of loneliness. But it does it get better 🙏🏽

[@nothandovilane5212]

I've been following you since you were in med school. I love your authenticity. It's refreshing and makes you so relatable. Sending love all the way from South Africa.

[@fernandebranch1699]

Thank you for sharing your truth. We are behind you. Never forget that!

[@Honeywell888]

Thanks to you, KZbin is a better, constructive, and marvelous place!

[@sabrinajunqueira6532]

what you said about being lonely and isolated your whole life and now in your career hit home for me. I have always been alone and it was comforting to hear someone who could relate, even though it also made me sad since I would never want anyone to go through this since it sucks so much and hurts. thank you for sharing, because I relate so much and have never been able to truly put it into words for others to understand.

[@arpita8285]

It must feel so rewarding to be able to call yourself a doctor after everything you've been through as a student and more. Literally hope my future looks like this, no matter all the stress and craziness I have to put through 😭😭

[@mauiglifunia6276]

That talk made me feel less alone. 😭 I feel the same way and I’m taking my pre-med. It’s really hard when you don’t have “someone” that you can run to during stressful and difficult times. Thank you for your videos, America. You inspire me so much 🤍

[@MylenasBeautyRoom1]

America, you are not the only one struggling with this. I relate to you so much. As a kid, I was always the "weird" one. I moved around a lot, so I was always the new kid, which didn't help. I didn't have many friends because the kids didn't like me, and the ones who did befriend me would bully me too. I also don't have siblings, so I was alone all the time. I had hella imaginary friends tho lol. As an adult, I have grown to really like my own company, so being alone is mostly by choice. I feel like it is a double-edged sword because it has kept me focused and away from codependent relationships, drama, and crappy men. It's really peaceful, but it does get lonely sometimes because I have like 2ish friends. Although I can talk to anyone, I find it difficult to build deeper relationships because I didn't really develop that skill. Part of it is a defense mechanism because people have disappointed me so much, so it's hard to open up. I also feel like I'm annoying to people, so I tend to stay to myself. I'm not sure if this part will ever get better or if I'm gonna end up alone with 10 cats, and I'm not even sure what point I'm trying to make here. I just wanted to share my experience with you because I feel like we have a lot in common. Thank you for sharing your experience. Starting this conversation will help so many people who feel the same way. Much love

[@karenvaladez589]

i saw u posted this vlog a while back and i was like...mmm i'm not gonna watch because she makes medicine look so easy. Plus she studies hard and gets the results she wants. I'm an Img , currently in a gap year studying for my step 2 and it feels pretty lonely at times. so when i finally decided to watch this vlog i just wanted to say thank you for showing how working hard does take a toll on our mental health. And of course i will keep studying hard and i will persevere as you do Dr. America. watching ur videos motivates me!!

[@elijahmccallister5802]

i love that you watch trisha paytas in your downtime LMAO

[@csc1641]

Yuck. She is mind rot.

[@elijahmccallister5802]

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[@prettydarncutelol]

I feel the same exact way with the loneliness, my sister is here this week staying with me because I couldn't stand the loneliness, thank you for being so open, it makes me feel so much better!

[@meow-vk7uq]

I love that you watch spongebob, I’m almost 28 and still watch it here and there 😂

[@NatalieRoman-or2no]

Aww America, it made me so sad and teary eyed to see you sad and express yourself in that way. I hope you feel better very soon.🙂 also, thank you for expressing yourself and being vulnerable in the way that you did because I relate to what you are going through so much, so you made me feel not that alone, so thank you. Sending all my love. ❤️

[@TheJmac3616]

I love how vulnerable you were in this video! Thank you for your honesty and showing us reality of what a lot of residents go through

[@fashionfruit99]

Hi America, first and foremost thank you for sharing your journey with all of us. I still go back and watch your Step 1 or Step 2 CK videos because I am now studying for the Canadian Board Exams. Re: loneliness, I have felt the exact same way since 3rd year of University...When I did have a friend to share my feelings with, they would not keep it to themselves..which caused me to have trust issues and not open up with friends. I talk to my mom and sister, but not about the inner deep feelings of my day to day struggles. I do deep breathing and I talk to myself a lot ..just saying out loud my feelings...my reasons for these feelings...and it helps a lot . At times I feel like a counsellor or therapist would help, since I just want someone to listen to me...but at other times I do not feel fully ready for that commitment. I would recommend deep breathing, and literally talking out loud to yourself not when ur vlogging, but literally just to yourself in a comfortable space in your home. or even during a walk. It might seem strange, or odd to others, but it helps a lot. You are your bestfriend, you are the one you can count on, and your in a field where having inner strength is very important because there will be alot of moments where endurance and strength will be very crucial. Thank you again for sharing your space with us

[@anthonymarquez6493]

I understand the loneliness nights make it feel even worse. All I talk to is my dogs most the time. I am a night shift nurse currently.

[@msmanchez626]

This is why I am subscribed to you America. Keep it real.

[@yaser8016]

That's why I love your channel. The true life and experience of MD without sugar coating. Much love to you.

[@brunademacedo293]

I feel the same, dear ❤ It's so difficult in medicine to interact and create real bound to people, mainly in our situation that we are not able to open ourselves totally to others. Hope you get better 🙏😚