Well said. What was your experience with iud insertion?

[@Rani-bv7hw]

I was very lucky. I had a lovely doctor. She used a local anesthetic so it was literally a pinch that she apologized for. It wasn't even posed to me as a question. It wasn't "we can use a local if you want." It was "we will be using a local unless you give us a very good reason not to." I didn't know until recently that my experience was unique.

[@traceyvanklingeren7563]

I remember going in to the clinic and the needle, then waking up in recovery and nothing else.

[@kirstenbarajas9437]

yea i didn’t receive any sort of pain management. doctor said take some ibuprofen before hand. says you’ll feel some pressure, like bitch this shit hurts this ain’t mf pressure it’s pain

[@daph2443]

I wasn't even told to take ibuprofen beforehand, they literally told me to just come by, that it'd be quick and painless and they even laughed when I asked if I should have someone drive me to the clinic, they said I'd be more than okay to drive myself since it was just a 5 minutes pain-free procedure. It was the most painful drive home of my life.

[@kirstenbarajas9437]

@@daph2443 women’s healthcare is a joke that’s absolutely ridiculous. they don’t take women’s pain seriously meanwhile men are the biggest fucking babies and get pain meds for everything

[@juliachatwin3907]

That's the way it should be!

[@MyName123.]

I totally agree. Anesthesia is NECESSITY!

[@MermaidMakes]

It’s was SOOOOOO painful, and they downplayed it just like this. afterwards the nurse helping out told me “yeah, when I had it done I almost fainted!!” And I’m thinking “just 30 minutes ago you were telling me it was going to be a -slight pinch- ” It’s because if they tell you the reality no one would want to go through with it…then they wouldn’t get their kick back or compensation or whatever…I’m almost positive that’s why. It must be.

[@nemesisnyr9494]

No ? You should do it like other countries, for god sake who "pinch" the uterus to keep it in place ? In my coutry it was painfull, i bleeded and i was in pain for 3 days, but they did not used a thing to pinch my uterus for god sake, we are not wild animals 😂 it's like a inserting a tampon

[@cre-k8-ive]

We literally have a statue about the importance of anesthesia in my city. Yet doctors hesitate to use it cause...?

[@nemesisnyr9494]

@@cre-k8-ive and the danger of it, anesthesia can't be used for simple things, but the problem is your methods, i my coubtry we don't have such method

[@mariachi3217]

@@nemesisnyr9494 what anesthesia are you using? It’s completely fine for small procedures. And for larger ones a different one is used. There are varied risks but small anesthesia for this kind of procedure is fine.

[@sarawallace6696]

I had a uterine biopsy and received no pain control whatsoever. I was literally screaming in pain so loud my friend could hear me loud and clear in the lobby. I had fibroids and adenomyosis… my history was complicated. The provider left me in a puddle of my own blood. Patients deserve better.

[@daffodil1017]

Fuck. This is torture.

[@Framokamc]

I'm really sorry for such traumatic experience, for real they don't treat women with kindness

[@sarawallace6696]

@@Framokamc no they don’t, thanks

[@getyourmessageacross326]

I went through the same experience. It was horrendous. 😢

[@Ophiichus]

@@sarawallace6696They definitely do not. Women can have such incredible pain tolerances. My “I don’t feel very good” or “I’m in pain” is a 8/10 for most men. When I go in and my doctor is male, if I complain of anything is a pregnancy test, ibuprofen, and a dismissal. It’s lose weight (I’m only 15 pounds over weight) it’s take more walks (because they think this is a cure for womens depression too) it’s annoying. What’s the point of a doctor if I have a better chance of diagnosing and treating myself. 😅

[@TheSaltySiren]

I knew there was a reason why I was never comfortable with the idea of getting an IUD! This is freaking BARBARIC!

[@jessiwalker5283]

A lot of docs dont tell you if you have a tilted cervix you shouldn't get one or it needs to be put in a bit differently either. Guess what I have. No one told me until I got it taken out after being in pain/uncomfortable for years.

[@theoutsiderjess4869]

Same

[@ThePunkina1]

Unfortunately it's only one of few birth control that isn't hormonal and almost 100% reliable (99%) and you don't have to replace it for 5 years like while it does really hurt I personally fill like it worth it but I definitely think there should be more information given with getting IUD and definitely form of numbing or Sedative

[@pamelaann3690]

​@@ThePunkina1don't forget the PID ( pelvic inflammatory disease) with that IUD.

[@ThePunkina1]

@@pamelaann3690 yeah a lot of birth controls also have life threatening side effects it's like choosing what life threatening side effects are you will to put up with its more of a matter that the people making these don't care about the health of people with uteruses and need to start doing more research and safety protocols in their medicine

[@tehreemazmat2929]

In our books, we are told "the patient usually feels a slight pressure" and we blindly believe that. I now question where that data is coming from? Were women made to fill out pain scale forms after the procedure? Or did male doctors in history just gaslight them into thinking 'it wasnt even that painful' or simply disregarded their pain as "drama", "hysteria" and "attention seeking". The empathy gap is real

[@gothic_ace2037]

Oh I'm positive no woman was ever consulted about what it felt like when they wrote those books

[@crinna]

There is a Long history of sadism in medicine. Look up Dr Marion Sims. Don't do it on a full stomach.

[@KamaraNoir]

Women's medical treatment history is horrific. Its truly appalling the crap thats been done to women throughout medical history. Medicine has been failing women since Ancient Greece. Google "book on the history of women's health" You'll see many books written on the subject of womens healthcare throughout history. So many abhorrent things are still happening. A lot of womens healthcare is based on treating and studies done on...men. Not women. Men.🤬 Its freaking ridiculous.

[@sherrybrook3233]

It's historically proven that male doctors disregard female's pain... we're just being overly sensitive or hysterical, which for me is incredibly ironic, I'm literally allergic to most pain meds I can take Tylenol and low dose cannabis but that's it and I have thankfully a very high pain tolerance but a pap smear and pelvic exam can still be very painful . I don't know about an IUD im also allergic to most metals so can't use them.

[@whipwalk]

Um...B

[@natevans8024]

"pressure" and "disconfort" are words that raise my blood pressure.

[@thestorybehindthat5236]

For real. I'm not doing anymore pressure or discomfort. Nope, none.

[@thumbtack2390]

Yep. For me it’s from dentists. . Those words legit make me panic in my head now

[@CL-lx2pm]

Don't forget "pinch"!

[@user-gx5lo6yu2i]

@@CL-lx2pm😂 thank you! I specifically came here to warn people about pinch… I think “just a lil pinch” is the most insidious of all their lil lies.

[@pyramoon8134]

​@@CL-lx2pmThe only thing in my experience that has ever been truly a little pinch is when your blood is drawn because it only hurts when the needle is piercing your skin after that there's no pain that's the only thing that's ever been a little pinch but I also don't have problems with needles

[@amymenendez5450]

I thought it would easy. Had a kid with no drugs, I got this. My soul left that table and I started crying.

[@jessicacopeland9066]

I told my gynecologist I was afraid of iud insertion after seeing so many videos about experiencing the pain, and she said “well you gave birth twice already. You can handle it.” I need a new doctor. Definitely not getting one.

[@colleenroyle588]

just because you "CAN' doesn't mean you should have to

[@sarahkelley6467]

My doctor didn’t warn me at all. And then laughed…when I started bleeding heavily. She dilated my cervix and got fussy with me when I couldn’t stop shaking. Shame on these doctors. Women deserve better.

[@GothicVioletVixen]

I wasn't ready for the pain OR the bleeding, neither made sense because they didn't tell me THIS was happening.

[@autumnchristensen7692]

I would've pressed charges on them and Sue the hospital

[@skeptical_mango]

OMG i feel so sorry for you, that is so evil of him

[@LauraCollins-eq3ou]

Her!!!!🤮😢

[@marlarose3105]

Yeah this isn't a cause of misogyny most of the time it's just caused by stupidity any lack of thinking skills. Or medical skills at this point. It's like docs only know how to treat men at this point. Do hormones just cause that much variation in females that medical knowledge dosent apply as wel.

[@redgoddess]

This medical torture of women is absolutely cruel.

[@piratekit3941]

Incels who became doctors and thought they'd get respect now are a doc are out there claiming women don't need (deserve) pain killers. No other reason than some neckbeard doctor said so.

[@gingechicken7394]

I got an IUD and didn't feel like torture at all. Nowhere near the worst pain I've experienced

[@user-pi5xo4og9d]

​@@gingechicken7394 Ive had a DNC with no pain meds that hurt worse than the IUD that failed.

[@sailork8848]

​@@gingechicken7394Good for you. Want a cookie?

[@theposhmaniac5169]

​@@sailork8848No need for rudeness. She lucked out. Be happy for her.

[@MandyMoon12]

I feel so blessed that a doctor finally takes me seriously about my menstrual cramps. This is unlerated but kinda relates. Idk. I had seen so many doctors, went to the ER, and it was put on my chart that I was Pill Seeking. They apparently couldn't find endometriosis. I have Fibromyalgia and my therapist informed me that it can cause debilitating cramps. I legitimately cannot move when my period starts. My male roommate has carried me around the house so many times (Props to him). I changed my PcP, luckily got a very empathetic woman, mentioned to her what my therapist said, told her my whole story, and she took the part about me seeking pain pills off of my chart and actually prescribed me a limited amount monthly and said my therapist is 100% right. She was mad mad at my former doctors. She even cried. She also believes me about my Fibromyalgia pain, and diognosed me with chronic fatigue syndrome when other doctors thought I was lying. Now I'm just ranting about how much I love my doctor....idk if I should delete this lol. Just know there are some doctors out there who will believe you. And cry with you.

[@MyWarriorInHiding]

I’ve had an iud for a long time now. A few years ago it had to be replaced, so I have had two different insertions. The first time was terrible. They told me to take ibuprofen, and when I got there the procedure took ten minutes. It was so painful and she was so rough. I was bleeding for days. The second time was with a different doctor. The procedure took 45 minutes to remove and replace, and I was given pain meds and local anesthesia. I didn’t know that there was a better way. Please spread awareness. Be willing to advocate for yourself. And if you don’t feel comfortable, back out. You have that right, whether it’s inconvenient for the providers or not.

[@aidanoseworthy8972]

They did this to my cervix?! I'm fourteen!! I was shaking and sweating it was so painful. I could barely breathe. Why didn't they tell me this? I feel betrayed.

[@allismith5749]

I got my iud at 19 (22 now) and when I found out why getting it put in hurt so much I was pissed too. They don't tell you anything about the insertion process! And I've been experiencing so many side effects 3 years later and I'm planning on removing it soon. It's okay that you're angry about it, they didn't communicate with you like a person. They make good money by prescribing iuds because they're expensive and that's why they're pushed so much

[@Shield954]

Failure to provide proper pain relief qualifies as negligence. I strongly encourage you to sue for medical malpractice, negligence, lack of informed consent (the doctor lying about the pain of the procedure), emotional distress, and even possibly gender discrimination as men are given anesthesia for vasectomies, prostate biopsies, etc. You can ask a lawyer what your options are. A lot of lawyers offer a free consultation and they don't charge their client unless they win the case. It's time for women to start fighting back and stop putting up with the blatant sexism in the healthcare industry.

[@KM-vl2cs]

Why did they put an iud in you at that age? Your uterus is still growing and should've been put in when you're more developed. I'm a medical doctor and IUDs tend to slip out of younger patients. I'm sorry they did this to you without pain relief drugs or anaesthesia😢

[@Ooxxls]

​@@KM-vl2csmaybe she's sexually active.

[@megantheescallion8565]

Uh you shouldnt be getting that or having sex at 14.

[@ohhimark742]

Nothing more infuriating than to be told "you're not in pain, it's just pressure"

[@marcybelva7032]

Ugh the worst. I've never had an iud because for me just a pap test is horrible and definitely not just "pressure"

[@grandshadowseal]

When they get a broken nose from your foot, tell them they're not in pain it's just pressure

[@Sasu123456789x1]

I hate that comment omfg

[@hannahscott6604]

@@marcybelva7032 a pap doesn’t hurt me. Does that mean I could have this done without meds?

[@Momfirsttoday]

I had no idea. My doctor seemed shocked when I couldn't walk out of there. I thought I was alone. Thank you so much!!!!!

[@sarahtonin07]

I want surveys done after every one of these types of procedures. That way we can get an accurate reading on women's pain. Not only that, but our pain tolerance is typically higher than men's. So if we're in pain, we freaking mean it!

[@luisamattos2677]

Got mine inserted in Brazil (where I'm from), and when I asked about anesthesia the doctor basically said "yeah lol they'll put you to sleep obviously, it's like a mini-surgery, we don't do that with the patient awake anymore". My gynecologist didn't even do it herself, I scheduled it at a different place that specialized in it. Whole thing covered by my insurance. Took a wonderful nap and woke up to mild cramping the next few days, nothing ibuprofen couldn't handle. Granted; back home I'm middle class and had insurance, I don't know what it's like for the great portion of the population dependent on government Healthcare, but still. It's wild to me that a country like the US is different. Now that I moved here, I'm scared of when time comes to take it out, but I'll just pay whatever it takes to get anesthesia again!!!! EDIT: apparently, according to other Brazilians in the comments, my experience does not reflect the norm.... fascinating, and very sad

[@piiinkDeluxe]

The US is an undeveloped country.

[@BaTonTwirLer93]

Unfortunately, I think you might have to go to a different state or REALLY research who is willing to use anesthesia for IUDs. No one I know was able to get it. However, getting it taken out is not bad. It hurts, but only for a split second. It’s just a big yank and then it’s over.

[@foreverwander0320]

Having lived in the US I have never received pain relief, let alone anesthesia

[@megalodon6789]

I was able to get mine with sedation instead of general anesthesia. It was definitely the way to go, for me. It was the same nap as GA, only it was way easier to wake up fully and I believe it was safer. If you're ever denied GA, ask about sedation (which is different from twilight sedation).

[@luisamattos2677]

@@megalodon6789 hmm maybe that was what i did too. All I know is they put me to sleep lol but now that i think about it, it was probably sedation

[@littlesparkkitten]

They LAUGHED at me and said “I’m gonna need more lube”. I told them I had trauma and hadn’t… done anything like that before and they didn’t believe me. Then realized I wasn’t lying and said out loud “I guess you weren’t kidding when you said no activity”. They never told me to take painkillers before. They never even mentioned the concept of anesthesia and when I asked they chuckled then too, saying how many of these they do every day without anyone needing anesthesia. They said it would bring on my next period early instead of admitting I was going to be bleeding from a wound. They told me that I needed to push through it because a break to calm down before they tried again would “only make it worse”. Now they get mad when I tell them they’re never getting another pap from me. They’re never going there again. I have other medical needs for a hysterectomy and when my Paraguard runs out I’m doing that instead of dealing with this again. I trust doctors for the most part. They know what they’re doing and how to do it, so as long as they’re listening to the part I’m an expert in (my body and what’s happening to it/how it feels), then I am willing to try whatever they suggest. But nothing will ever get me to trust a gynecologist again. I told them I had trauma and they traumatized me worse and laughed at me. I’ll never get that sound out of my head. I have severe PTSD that is being treated as best it can. I know what flashbacks are very well unfortunately. And every time I have too bad cramping from my period, I have flashbacks to both the procedure and the nearly two weeks of aching and nausea and inability to move without nearly crying. The IUD is an extremely important type of birth control that is inserted via abusive and deceptive methods by most doctors. For a procedure this invasive below the belt on an amab, I know for a fact they’d have some type of anesthesia. But not us, and it’s disgusting.

[@kellym9301]

I'm so sorry for your experience! I have experienced the same. You're not alone❤ The complacency is unreal!! Sending love your way.

[@escribed2575]

Totally there with you, that procedure should require anesthesia, it's painful. They have the nerve to act like it's nothing!!! I canceled the procedure on the spot and never going back to that obgyn again.

[@AgonySoup]

I wish that hadn't happened to you, I know first hand how horrible some doctors can be. I hope you don't have to experience that kind of pain and cruelty ever again.

[@user-pv2yx6tp1w]

Don't get a hysterectomy because of them - they win. You need your ovaries and uterus..it's for your brain health and other hormones endocrine system. Please . I ripped my IUD out and I too have trauma .it is criminal what these " doctors do.

[@chkingvictim]

@@user-pv2yx6tp1wlots of people get hysterectomies, they’re not going to harm your body any more than any other major surgery would. most side effects can be treated with hormone replacement therapy

[@loriburnip]

I was so lucky my gynecologist is a rockstar. He not only put me under general anesthetic for my IUD, but he didn't give me any grief about wanting to do that. Can't say the same about the doctor who gave me the colposcopy and Leep procedure though, I got nothing for the colposcopy and I had to demand to be sedated for the Leep procedure.

[@jennibinks5363]

The doctor that inserted my first IUD said “I’m glad you didn’t overreact.” I have an insane pain threshold and that “pinch” was not easy. Thankfully my subsequent nurse practitioner has been a compassionate caregiver that has made my experience since then much better.

[@tdmccoy1211]

This is one of the most painful things ever. I've been shot, I've had a ruptured appendix, I've been hit by a car and thrown skidding to a stop on the asphalt, I've had 36 hrs of natural child birth and I've passed kidney stones. And this is right up there

[@KateLate____]

You are who I wanted to hear from! Thank you!

[@lillianaugustine8630]

What kind of life do you live??? Thank you for putting it into context though because it is super helpful and interesting

[@tdmccoy1211]

@@lillianaugustine8630 lol.... Just seeing this question. Yeah all together sounds a bit sorted doesn't it? 😬 But mostly I think I'm kind of an ' all or nothing ' type of person, lol. The medical stuff is bc I have an autoimmune that required high doses of steroids that caused having to have a drug free birth and a premie induction and also damaged my kidneys causing the kidney stones and weakened my immune system likely causing the ruptured appendix. Then the gunshot and the car vs car and car vs my body accidents can all be chalked up to country living. We were one of the last properties in a wet county that bordered a dry county and my dad was a gunsmith so we had a gun range. But all kinds of stuff happens on a curvy country road!!

[@SeaBlueJay]

Thank you for the heads up. I will be asking to be knocked the fuck out during my IUD insertion.

[@Servali]

I'm starting to realize that I'm in the minority here! My IUD insertion didn't hurt that much, only about as much as my average period pain was. I hadn't taken any painkillers beforehand because I went there to get checked if my ovarian cyst had disappeared. It had and they recommended an IUD or pills to keep my cysts, polyps and other things under control. I refused to eat the pills, because I hate having to remember to eat them regularly and chose the IUD. They offered to either put it in right away without any pain management or I could make an appointment for later date with pain management. I chose the first option because I just wanted it done and apparently got super lucky, because while it did hurt, it was not nearly as bad as most women here have had it.

[@maqy01]

I hope you understand how nice it feels to have a doctor agree with this. I'm getting a little emotional actually.

[@grace52775]

I'm so sorry. I know how you feel because they did the same to me. I couldn't walk for a week. I had a horrible cramp that would almost feel like it would grab and pinch me! The doctor's office ignored me.

[@kellym9301]

🫶

[@Tom-ul3gb]

hopefully the Rest of The Planet Wakes Up !

[@keparks71]

Thank you for validating the experience I had. It was horrible and they acted like I was dramatic.

[@kaikai52720]

The first time I got my IUD inserted they forgot to tell me that I needed pain killers. One of the most painful experiences of my life. That doctor’s office ended up doing a few other things that made me feel afraid of going to the doctor for a long time. They’re considered one of the best in Honolulu, but I think they didn’t like me because I was an edgy teenager and they mostly catered to pregnant wealthy woman. They were on OBGYN and Primary Care Physician, but I guess they didn’t like having to do the general care stuff

[@_abecca9056]

I'm literally going to cry. I just had an IUD put in this week and I was told the exact same thing. I had no idea I could ask for anesthesia. I also have endometriosis, and it was excruciating. 4 days later, I'm still experiencing pain.

[@foreverwander0320]

I asked for numbing and they refused because “the cervix can’t feel pain.” 😑

[@SpiritualConduit]

ohh you can 'ask' but that doesnt mean you will get anything. I was shaking and crying after a uterine biopsy and told i was being Dramatic

[@SpecialBlanket]

You can ask for anesthesia for anything, and not go if they won't give it to you. You are the consumer.

[@SpiritualConduit]

​@@SpecialBlanket thats not exactly the truth . I waited months to get in with that specialist and I knew Nothing in advance of that appt that i would be having Any procedure. Like any gyno appt,. I was instructed to undress by the nurse and was expecting a normal gyno exam. The dr comes in and began an exam.. then mentioned in the middle of it that I needed to start taking deep breaths, so he could take a uterine biopsy. In case you have not been in that kind of vulnerable position... or experienced that kind of pain... all you can do is TRY to breath while it feels like you are being stabbed internally while involuntary guttural sounds escape you. Then the dr has the nerve to act annoyed because it didn't take just a moment and you are in tears trembling after.

[@Beanz-on-Toast]

I have endo and had an IUD. It took me over 2 weeks to be able to move and leave my bed without crying. Truly wish someone had told me this was a possibility before getting it done.

[@EmmaAndEmmaAndEmma]

This video should be mandatory viewing for every man, woman, and aspiring doctor. Watch this and THEN dare to tell me that the standard for pain management with this procedure shouldn’t be WAY higher.

[@SPiRAh]

My first IUD (Paragard, on 10/11/11) was very painful & I was already dreading the eventual removal. I went to the local Health Dept bc I had Medicaid & at that time I couldn’t find a dr that wasn’t already full of medicaid patients. I was told to come in while on my cycle & to take ibuprofen before I got there. My nerves were so shot by the end of it that I had to warn the nurse lady “I need to use the bathroom.. my stomach is fixing to mess up..” but she didn’t understand my urgency, apparently, bc she says “oh that’s just the cramping, you’ll have that for the next day or so..” but she didn’t get it- I NEEDED TO GO! So I got stern, REALLY not wanting to go poo all over this lady & was like “I NEED to go to the bathroom like NOW. It is LITERALLY taking everything in me not to crap everywhere right now & YOU are in the line of fire!!” She FINALLY finished up & I was not wrong- I BARELY made it to the bathroom. The rest of the day was more of the same crap- literally! They told me to take 4 ibuprofen every 4 hours & that messed up my stomach even worse! My second one (Mirena, on 01/02/24) was better. I actually have a Gynecologist now & he sent me home with half a pill to make me dilate the night before (which is crampy but tolerable) & I took ibuprofen before going in. He actually numbed me some, & I had asked how painful it would be removing the Paragard & he said “just a pinch” as he yanked it out very quickly. Might seem kinda messed up & it did surprise me but I didn’t have much time to dread it, not knowing exactly when it would happen, so I actually appreciated it. The insertion of the Mirena was uncomfortable, just some tolerable cramping but I didn’t almost crap on him so I’d say it went better that time! No issues with either one after insertion. Only “con” was the Paragard made me cramp & bleed like crazy every month! And now I’m no longer anemic anymore, so there’s that..

[@jessiwalker5283]

I had a colposcopy and IUDs and agree COMPLETELY. I was so traumatized by the Colopscopy that its still affecting me all these years later. This is such a great example of, it didnt affect men so it didn't get the effort put in to making it better. Now that more women are in medicine, it would be nice if they would advocate for us getting geneder specific care to be updated.

[@flapjack4579]

I specifically asked to be sedated since I knew how awful it was from a previous unsuccessful insertion. I got some push back but i stood firm in saying “I need some sort of anesthetic or sedation - if you can’t do that for me, I can go elsewhere”. it shouldn’t be on us, but we HAVE to advocate for ourselves until these doctors get their shit together.

[@Bianca-qn3ez]

I got the second one under anesthesia. Much better!!!

[@samanthaaiello]

Yep. I can tolerate a lot of pain. I remember the same speech, and then I nearly passed out. My vision went all tunnely, I gasped in pain, and I breathed through staying conscious like I was a pilot subjected to 9Gs of force. She gave me time to clean up, and I cried. It was so brutal.

[@geministargazer9830]

I’ve given birth with no drugs but getting an IUD was on a whole different level. Once they punctured my cervix all the blood rushed to my head and I felt faint. I’m not a fainter usually.

[@Mrsqtfactory]

Yes. Women, please advocate for your right to pain management! You are entitled not to have immense pain.

[@pixiebrat3278]

I have an appointment for an iud insertion on Monday next week… my doctor put in a script for Valium and Percocet plus numbing my cervix and using citotec to soften the cervix as well. She has been the most amazing doctor I’ve ever had. I had an iud when I was younger and they gave me NOTHING and I was sent to school right after

[@jennasimone1921]

I had a colposcopy (sp) before the age of 14 and IUD at 19. All these years i thought there was something wrong with me because of how little pain I was told by the doctors that I woild experience and how horrible and traumatic the pain I actually experienced was. I'm 33 now and the term "just some pressure" immediately throws me into a panic. Thank you for bringing awareness to these issues women face every day. You are helping so many people, and I pray we see a change for the future so these young women won't experience the pain we had to.

[@jedimando9258]

I'm happy I'm not the only one. I had problems with flabotomists too, I always tell them draw blood from this arm and double wrap because my veins are deep and crooked, 8/10 of course they ignored me stabbed my other arm 5+times before finally listening I am ungodly terrified of needles now because of it.

[@rissa1048]

I had a colposcopy in my 20’s and was given an anti anxiety med beforehand and was recommended to take a couple Tylenol or something as well. I had to bite down on a cloth to keep from screaming it hurt so bad and they told me to wear a liner for the next week or so for any potential bleeding. There was no warning about the sudden torrent I got one day as I was at work… luckily I hadn’t listened and had been using full sized pads. Got an IUD put in a little over 2 years ago. While it has been a godsend to not have to deal with my super heavy periods and it has greatly decreased the migraines that come along with them, I was never even given advice to take something beforehand when I got mind put in. I couldn’t even move for a good half hour because the cramping hurt so bad and had to pull over on the drive home because I thought I was going to pass out from the pain. Would have been nice to have gotten even just a little advance notice about that…

[@Potatowedge31]

You go girl

[@daschwarz1649]

My doctor was sadistic. I had a biopsy of my cervix at 17. When I screamed in pain, he responded with "what's the fuss, that didn't hurt". Not only was I not told that it might hurt, but I was told that the "cervix had no nerves" - so no need to worry. Years later through medical records, I found out that my pap smear, on which this procedure was based, showed no abnormalities. He did the procedure right after I asked for birth control. Obviously, I shouldn't be having sex according to him.( 1983)😮

[@toyajackson556]

Plan Parenthood - a almost past out after, I know now my blood sugar was low & the volunteer aid toldme to stop being dramatic. I came back years later as a volunteer aid and confronted her during orientation and told her I came back because I don't want any other woman to have that treatment after a traumatic procedure. She left soon after that.

[@foreverwander0320]

Why do doctors say you can’t feel pain in the cervix? Those of us who’ve had colposcopies known that’s wrong. It makes me feel like crazy!

[@anonymouse867]

Those of us who have had intercourse know that this is untrue. Not to mention that during labor, the pain you feel is not just the baby crowning. Prior to that, it's the cervix dilating, and it's very painful. Male doctors have no idea what women are feeling and what an individuals pain tolerance will be. The problem is that the field has been dominated by men for so long that even most female obgyns, knowing that this is a painful procedure, still won't offer sedation.

[@Brynwyn123]

Because they don't believe that we could be telling the truth about a pain they don't experience. Like how they think a kick in the nuts hurts more than childbirth.

[@JuniperJupiter23]

Um, I've never had any procedures done, but I've been well aware that I can feel pain from my cervix because I had a bf in my 20s who used to hit it fairly frequently while we were intimate. Would make me scream out in pain and jump up. It's very painful. Doctors have to know this.

[@foreverwander0320]

@@anonymouse867 Yes, the person who told me this is a female OBGYN.

[@lilyanne8522]

because they know in most places they can legally get away with lying to your face if it makes their job easier. the sad truth is most doctors are doctors because of social/family pressure, delusions of money & social power or because they wanted to have power over the vulnerable. they go into medicine for the same reasons why pdfiles (if ykyk) try to work at summer camps or become teachers

[@nataliegentry8029]

I'm grateful that you're sharing this video. I work with women who have IUDs and few of my clients have positive experiences.

[@tanyahunt9476]

No wonder it hurt!! Thank you for informing me of what they actually did to me

[@Wadodananido]

I tried to have this done once, and the Dr couldn't finish because I jumped from the pain when the procedure started. I later told a "friend" who made me feel like crap because I couldn't tolerate the pain. This video makes me feel validated 🙏🏼

[@__-fl3yt]

I suppose it is different from woman to woman, for me it wasn't painful. I am just learning with this video that is painful for many.

[@AzoresRex]

@@__-fl3ytcould also be your doctor. Maybe you had a good doctor. Or maybe your a superhero 💪 ❤

[@sweetpie7919]

@@__-fl3yt It might also depend on what time of the month it is. If you were ovulating your cervix is naturally more open. On the other hand, my cervix hurts when I'm ovulating. But everyone is a bit different.

[@KayliBailey]

I was screaming involuntarily and crying during the procedure. I was also told to “just take an ibuprofen before” and “you’ll feel some pressure and maybe have cramping afterwards” I had to call out sick from work I was in so much pain for the next 48 hours. Debilitating pain. I have a lot of tattoos too, so I thought maybe I have a high pain tolerance, but nope. The fact that they lie right to our faces that it won’t be painful.

[@bowie8819]

I had cryosurgery, colposcopy and had a piece of my cervix removed without any anesthesia! What in the hell is wrong with the United States and medical practices towards women! I'm terrified to go back to the gynecologist now!

[@azureskies9377]

One time, I had my yearly check up and heard a woman down the hall screaming in agony. It kinda sounded like my friends when they were having their babies. When the dr came in, I asked if the screaming woman was having a baby. The dr actually laughed and said no. I’m now wondering if the woman was getting an iud inserted.

[@rauchschwalbelp7693]

​@@bowie8819 It is worldwide. In Germany too

[@KayliBailey]

I had mine in Canada. It’s definitely worldwide

[@lizi.2503]

Ibuprofen is proven to do harm anyways

[@pumpkinscorner394]

I had an endometrial biopsy with no warning. I was in for a consultation about issues I was having. I was already bleeding heavily and she was all, let's do an endometrial biopsy! I didn't even have an opportunity to take ibuprofen ahead of time. I've had colposcopies and they hurt. But nothing has hurt like that endometrial biopsy. And when she said an iud is similar to the biopsy? Hell no!

[@stephaniesmith1884]

I couldn't walk for a solid 5 minutes after mine, experienced body-spasming pain on and off on the way home, and was in pain for days afterwards. Yet I was told I'd experience "mild pain" similar to period pain. I felt I was being stabbed.

[@SilverMichi]

It's why I'm so grateful I was put under for the second biopsy, the first time had me crying... I refuse to ever see that 'doctor' ever again.

[@bbbree1616]

I found getting an IUD the most pain I’ve ever had in my life and it’s literally made me terrified of the thought of giving birth..

[@sjt5346]

Ha, birth is way less painful than getting an IUD. I mean, it's painful, don't get me wrong... but your body is prepping you with false contractions for months ahead of time, so by the time you're actually in labor you've already built up some pain tolerance. The IUD is a whoooole different beast.

[@Shield954]

Failure to provide proper pain relief qualifies as negligence. I strongly encourage you to sue for medical malpractice, negligence, lack of informed consent (the doctor lying about the pain of the procedure), emotional distress, and even possibly gender discrimination as men are given anesthesia for vasectomies, prostate biopsies, etc. You can ask a lawyer what your options are. A lot of lawyers offer a free consultation and they don't charge their client unless they win the case. It's time for women to start fighting back and stop putting up with the blatant sexism in the healthcare industry.

[@slitheen3]

​@@crystalnelson3702 when my dr put my IUD in, I was 23 and had never been pregnant. It was on the verge of uncomfortable and painful - and the DR said I tolerated it EXTREMELY well compared to most patients he performed the procedure on. Different people find different things more painful or more tolerable than others - plus during labor and birth you're being flooded with various different hormones that you're definitely not getting during an IUD insertion. Let's not shame each other, huh?

[@umhi9778]

Being afraid of giving birth is just commone sense. It's easily the worst pain humans are capable of experiencing.

[@megalodon6789]

​@crystalnelson3702 Be nice, there's no need to be a bully.

[@123lodge8]

Had an unexpected D&C years ago due to heavy bleeding. No warning about what to expect, no pain killers, no recovery time. Done in a doctors office. They walked me to the counter immediately after so I could pay and leave. Sat in my car for 40 minutes, shaking, from the trauma of it, before I could drive slowly home. I felt so violated and betrayed.

[@missymother]

D&C? That's normally done after a miss carriage or stillbirth. I had to have one done after my stillbirth and they put me under, I stayed there at least one night. I wasn't aware they ever did those whilst awake at all

[@123lodge8]

@@missymother my lining wasn’t shedding properly (something like that-long time ago) so he did a D&C. I couldn’t have been more awake for every excruciating second.

[@mochamommyATX]

​@@missymother D&C are common for endometriosis treatment

[@missymother]

@@mochamommyATX Yes but not awake

[@joellehoude1225]

I had my cervix cauterized and did not get any freezing or pain killers. I learned very quickly why the doctor put my feet through the stirrups rather than the heels resting inside the stirrups. I have also had my cervix biopsied twice without freezing or pain killers.

[@greymama0515]

Somewhat unrelated, but I had a loop recorder inserted in my chest, somewhat over my left breast. It was to monitor my A Fib. The recorder looks like a thumb drive, just a tad smaller. I was told a little local anesthesia and I wouldn't feel anything. The surgeon was 2 hours late and I became VERY anxious. I asked the nurse over 1/2 a dozen times for something to calm me down. She refused every time and never even called a doctor. When the surgeon got there, he gave me 2 shots of some kind of lidocaine, and made the incision without waiting because he was running behind. By that time I was sobbing from anxiety AND pain. He stopped for a second, looked at me and asked, "Do you want me to stop? I can't stand this crying." I let him finish, it needed to be done. That night I went to the ER because the incision wouldn't stop bleeding. Because I had nothing else to do for 4 hours, I pressed on it in hopes that the bleeding would stop. Finally an ER doctor came and just changed the dressing. 9 days later I woke up with the loop recorder sticking 1/2 an inch out of my chest. No bleeding, just sticking out. By the end of the day, it fell all the way out. Never again. Would it have killed someone to give me a Xanax or Valium or something? Then it might not have hurt so much and the surgeon might have spent the time to fully insert the recorder.

[@loveyourselfplease6842]

I recently had an IUD removal & a new one put in the same day, that shit traumatized me. The doctor who stepped in to help the practitioner was apologizing saying honestly if it was up to me I'd do all of these under conscious sedation at least as an option, or prescribe prescription pain relief you can take before & after, there should be pain control for this. Before he left he told me women absolutely amaze him every single day & he will continue to advocate & fight for pain control during OB procedures that are usually done in office & are painful. He's my new OB

[@annapatton4544]

it is very sad how little we need - just a doctor, that OMG takes our concerns seriously. I stopped seeing my ob/gyn after complaining to her for about 3-4 years that I have pains and she suggested that I use coconut oil after showering to lubricate myself. My ovaries felt like they were going to burst, but she thought coconut lube is what I needed. Did not go to any doctors except for a dentist for a good 5 years. Till I found a great family doctor who recommended me a good ob/gyn. After a visit with her I cried in my car. Just because she talked to me and was answering my questions, that concerned me for years. How pathetic is that we pay crazy money for these health insurances to just be humiliated by our doctors to never want to see any doctor ever again.

[@maxandbea]

Same experience here! I’m debating not getting another one inserted. My 1st was rough, but with a removal AND insertion I was in tears. The doctor looked at me like I was being dramatic.

[@loveyourselfplease6842]

@@annapatton4544 oh sweets I am so sorry, that is absolutely atrocious. What quack of a doctor could look a patient in the face & tell them their severe reproductive pain should be addressed with fucking coconut oil? I know it's gentle & all that stuff but coconut oil is also known for being antimicrobial & antibacterial which is good for the most part except it can also kill good bacteria so using it in the vagina can lead to an imbalance in good & bad bacteria leading to both bacterial & yeast infections. There hasn't been enough research for any doctors to be suggesting the use of coconut oil on our lady parts at all much less as a treatment for severe internal pain. That genuinely infuriates me. I am so glad you found a good doctor that will actually listen to you & address your needs.

[@loveyourselfplease6842]

@@maxandbea love I really hope you find yourself a good OB, ask friends & family for recommendations & if you have no luck that way maybe there are some local online recommendations. You should never be treated that way 💕

[@annapatton4544]

@@loveyourselfplease6842 thank you

[@allykatelinn]

They said I’d experience pressure for my c section I literally felt like my collar bone was being broken while they were taking my baby out of me. Rule of thumb if a doctor says there’s going to be “some pressure” be prepared for a LOT of pain.

[@theresamcgallicher]

Your COLLAR bone?????

[@Shield954]

Or if they say it's "just a pinch".

[@Seamonkey555]

​@@theresamcgallicher a nerve reaction perhaps.

[@placidqualm]

Sounds like they didn't administer the local anesthetic correctly then. I was a C Section baby and my mom had it done while awake but locally anesthetized. She told me she experienced no pain. I'm sorry you had to go through that 🫂

[@21BUNNYLOVER]

they did something wrong I had a c section it felt like a tug no pain I didn't even know when they sewed me back up. I'm sorry that happened

[@keishamurray2711]

I usually like my gynecologist and have been a patient for years. He actually listens and understands my paranoia due to family history. He told me the insertion would be uncomfortable. After, I told him to stop lying to patients because that shot hurts. He did tell me to take my time getting up as some people get dizzy. Fast forward a few years. I have had a uterine ablation to treat dysfunctional uterine bleeding. I can't take any hormones due to being a clotting risk. Already nearly died from a pulmonary embolism and have no desire to gamble again. Thankfully, we tied my tubes and removed the iud at that time under a general anesthesia. I present with vaginal bleeding after no period in several years. Due to my family history, doc orders an ultrasound and an endometrial biopsy. He tells me before the biopsy "this is going to hurt". The reason was due to scarring from the ablation. He was not lying. I'm no baby when it comes to pain. I birthed 2 children with no epidural. That was extremely painful. It took everything in me to not kick him in the face. I told him that if we ever had to do that again, he better sedate me because that is torture that no one should have to experiment.

[@nollaigcrow]

My doctor prescribed 2 pills of valium I took 1 30mins on the way there (had a driver, of course) and 1 when I got there. Sooo, thankful for a doctor like her. She knew what was needed. No pain at all

[@AKoss1991]

the anesthetic policy at the clinic i used to work at consisted of "If im going to put something sharp against your body that isnt a tiny needle(and sometimes if it is) then i dont want you to feel it because the last thing anyone in this office wants to deal with is the patient flinching when we have a sharp instrument pressed against them. It always made sense to me, a little local anesthetic is way safer than a traumatic wound. especially in a clinic/hospital setting. anyone whos dealt with hospital borne infectious desease will agree

[@Chhesterification]

I had a wonderful gynecologist who used numbing cream to insert my iud and he put me under general when they had to go in and fish it out when it was time for a new one. I'm so grateful for him. This is why he's got awards all over the lobby.

[@mikimclean3159]

Thank you for this I had mine replaced few months ago took 10mins extremely rushed no numbing wasn't offered or even told to take pain meds before, very painful and bled loads , wasn't even told when it needs to be replaced 😢

[@haveagreatday3664]

I almost passed out from the pain. Couldn’t even drive home. Like shooting pain down my legs and the worst pain of my life. I don’t know why they say it doesn’t hurt. I think I had trauma from the insertion and was too afraid to get it switched out. Had it in for years too long because I would ask for anesthesia or sedation and was laughed out of Dr’s offices. Well I ended up finding a Dr that would put me under, in fact he had to because my iud string was lost and had gone up due to faulty insertion….done by the Dr that said it didn’t hurt and I was just being sensitive and dramatic. So thankful to find a new gyno who is kind and listens to his patients. If we say it hurts then IT HURTS!!

[@DiamondMcDrizzle]

No wonder it felt like broken glass inside my body. I wasn’t told to take anything, not even Tylenol.

[@Shield954]

Failure to provide proper pain relief qualifies as negligence. I strongly encourage you to sue for medical malpractice, negligence, lack of informed consent (the doctor lying about the pain of the procedure), emotional distress, and even possibly gender discrimination as men are given anesthesia for vasectomies, prostate biopsies, etc. You can ask a lawyer what your options are. A lot of lawyers offer a free consultation and they don't charge their client unless they win the case. It's time for women to start fighting back and stop putting up with the blatant sexism in the healthcare industry.

[@zzevonplant]

Tylenol wouldn't have helped, unfortunately. I literally just had an OB, a new one I had to go to when my insurance changed, that they WANT to give patients Percocet before procedures like that, but that they "can't," with very little elaboration. There's a massive push against opioids, & it affects nearly everyone. It's really demented to just make people suffer. We'd call the same inhumane if it were done to animals.

[@Alysa-Kins]

Honestly, it didn't do another.

[@Roz-90]

Getting my IUD placed was the worst pain I've ever experienced. I'm in the US and had no anesthesia or pain management offered. I got my tubes removed a few weeks ago, and thankfully, I got my iud removed while under for that.

[@cwilson6235]

Good thing because they didn’t use anything for removal either and mine string retracted so the had to go “fishing” for it with something like needle nose pliers...I’m scarred ripped and it was so painful.

[@maryjanedodo]

Should have gone to the dentist first - dont US dentists get people high AF? They should do IUDs too 🤣🙄😭

[@mac__attack8609]

My IUD experience was fine, luckily. No pain killers or anesthetic. I got my IUD 8 weeks postpartum after having an unmedicated vaginal birth (labor progressed too quickly to have an epidural). So I am not sure if that made a difference, but I had what felt like light period cramping while getting it inserted, and for the rest of the day. I was very fortunate to have an extremely competent doctor.

[@Donttrustthatburger5144]

I have had abnormal cells pretty much forever. First time having any female care without pain was last week at a new place, and I cried tears of joy.

[@tlcferguson8243]

💯I agree I got one eons ago when I was 20 and I have never forgotten it after I left the clinic I passed out by the side of a street an off duty city bus driver found me on his way to return his bus to the yard. He took me someplace I could call my mom to come pick me up also get something to eat while I was waiting. I am eternally grateful to that man. I hope his life is good. These devices and the procedure is no joke.

[@carriewolf8291]

I had a *horrible* colposcopy experience when I was 19 and didn’t know anything. I didn’t go back to that doctor and didn’t have a pap for like 3 years because I was terrified. I have a fantastic GYN now and had to have another colposcopy 2 years ago. This time it was done with local anesthesia; the subsequent LEEP was done with local anesthesia and I was pre-medicated with a benzo. An absolute night and day difference.

[@meghanmullin5116]

What do get a colposcopy procedure done for?

[@carriewolf8291]

@@meghanmullin5116 it’s basically a biopsy after an abnormal Pap smear

[@Xavi-tan]

I just had one done this year, and I was traumatized. I hyperventilated due to the pain, and I couldn't stop sobbing and shaking uncontrollably. My doctor started to cry a bit as she was finishing up, and she kept apologizing so much about how badly it hurt; that she didn't think I would be *that* sensitive there. She then said she was supposed to try to have me think about getting an IUD, but that she couldn't suggest it after seeing how sensitive I am. I still cringe whenever I think about that. Even more so when I think that they told me two Advil a half hour before my colposcopy would help 😠

[@keeknee]

Idk what I had done but it cause me to avoid the doctor over 5yrs. I went because I was having so much pain with my cycles & they did a procedure where they injected fluid between the lining & the wall to see how much space there was for the egg to travel down & I was told "just a pinch & some cramping, bleeding for a day" bubububullshit! I screamed & cried & then he decided to do a biopsy while in there "there's very little space that's what's causing so much pain" pushes a bunch more fluid in & then "I'm going to do a biopsy while we're in here, just one more slight pinch". I bled for over a damn week & could barely move. As if that wasn't bad enough the WOMAN assisting him made some half ass remark about my screaming scaring the pregnant women in the office.

[@AvaNightingale]

​@@Xavi-tanshe can literally use local anesthesia, it's nearly painless for almost everyone

[@Bleats_Sinodai]

Considering the reason why the chainsaw was created was medical, there's still some part of that mentality still rooted in the medical field.

[@lifesagame2006]

The doctor I had was great, he gave me plenty of local aneasthetic as well as painkillers and had a check in phone call not long after. I'd definitely say anyone getting one should ask for anaesthetic for it.

[@zukanator3555]

My story time- I just spent two entire months with a ruptured appendix inside of me. Back in January I was rushed to the hospital they told me I had a ruptured appendix for several days sent me by ambulance to another hospital in our states Capitol. They kept me for 5 days on IV antibiotics, then sent me home without taking the appendix out. They said it had formed a sort of cyst inside of my abdomen, that eventually it would have to be removed and then they sent me home. I kept calling them and begging them to get the surgery done and they kept sending me for blood tests and then a colonoscopy which was on March 14th, I remember because the next day I collapsed in a Kroger grocery store and was once again rushed to the hospital where they said that "cyst" that held all the toxins from my ruptured appendix had ruptured. I was rushed to another hospital at my insistence and by March 16th I was in surgery finally getting that appendix removed. The next day while recovering in the hospital I had a heart attack. I just turned 40 guys. The cardiologist tells me the only known cause for my heart attack was prolonged exposure to toxic sepsis. I've been told by several Physicians that I need to thank God twice I'm still alive. What's crazy is by March I looked like I was 9 months pregnant and one of the first things they would say to me when I tried to call and beg for this to be taken out of me was that they couldn't give me any pain pills if that's what I was seeking !! Not one time was I prescribed narcotics or any pain relief during this whole experience until I was actually in the hospital and I get that there's an epidemic going on but Jesus what part of my body has to fall off before they recognize I'm a human being

[@dors6143]

I'm so so sorry. That is truly horrifying 😢

[@dannirabbit]

I'm so sorry you went through all that 😢

[@allyfischer6292]

That's so disgusting, epidemic or not , if you have something that warrants pain control they need to fking give it.

[@floweredeee9577]

Yeah I'd like to comment and say that shit hurts!!! I wasn't even told to take ibuprofen beforehand. I came in and the woman was like oh well you should have took some bit don't worry we can get you some. Okay thats great. Then she says we'll it's gonna feel like a big cramp maybe like some contractions. Then I got worried but was like okay let's go ahead and do this. I'm thinking how bad can it be if all your saying is I need sowm ibuprofen, right ? Well then she RIPPED my uterus open and shoved that thing in and I felt like I was gonna die. Felt like I was being stabbed in the left side of my pelvis. Once I hobbled out to my car I sat for 30 minutes in pain and I started to drive then had to pull over and throw up. Sweating profusely. Today is day 3 and I'm pacing the floor of my living room googling iud cramps and eating ibuprofen. Anyways just wanted to say yes it's painful and there definitely needs to be some greater pain management with iud insertions.

[@Shield954]

Failure to provide proper pain relief qualifies as negligence. I strongly encourage you to sue for medical malpractice, negligence, lack of informed consent (the doctor lying about the pain of the procedure), emotional distress, and even possibly gender discrimination as men are given anesthesia for vasectomies, prostate biopsies, etc. You can ask a lawyer what your options are. A lot of lawyers offer a free consultation and they don't charge their client unless they win the case. It's time for women to start fighting back and stop putting up with the blatant sexism in the healthcare industry.

[@crazyfangirl2797]

I had to take mine out 5 days later it just kept getting worse and worse no painkillers worked they game me a hardcore painkiller and it still was hurting so i just told them to take it out it definitely hurts less taking it out

[@ashleychung8934]

I’m so sorry this happened to you!!

[@emmamendes4962]

Its a doctor's office they should have grabbed some painkillers from the office and made you take it before starting the procedure!

[@marinmowers629]

You might be in shock. That happened to me and a week later they find out the iud had improper placement and had to be removed.

[@Sunnymimmi]

I was in such pain during the procedure, that I vomited and then passed out. I woke up in another room, when an assistant mesured my blood pressure and said "Oh, it's finally measurable again". After that, I had bleeding and cramps for an entire month. My uterus tried to get rid of this plastic thingy. After several months of pain, I finally got rid of it. Luckily, I have a more empathic and very good describing gyn now. After several switches I finally feel safe.

[@Kipicus]

I've gotten multiple IUDs, I'm actually due to have my current one replaced. I really love it as birth control, but the first time I got it I was in SO MUCH pain. I followed all the rules, took the pain meds prior to the procedure, and still suffered. What was the most annoying was afterward they said, "You can rest in the room as long as you need. Have a good day!" And they left, then ten minutes later the nurse came back in and was SHOCKED I was still sitting there in severe pain, like take the hint Marsha. So she made me leave (I get it, other patients) but offered me no help. As I was standing in line to check out of my appointment I suddenly collapsed on the ground and started dry heaving (still no one helped.) I am not sensitive to pain, I have a lot of tattoos and I didn't use numbing cream for any of them. (Both arms, full sleeves, large chest tattoo, stomach tattoo, shins, ankles, back. All over. Big tattoos.) This is the first time pain has made me vomit. I think every other doctor I've been to has given me a local because they never ever hurt that bad again. T'ain't fun, my friends. Still worth the luxury of not having a period and not having to take daily/weekly birth control IMO. If I have to collapse vomiting once every 5 years, so be it. But if it can be avoided then PLEASE. Slather me in numbing cream for Buddha's sake.

[@chubby_blobfish]

I literally got mine in today. I full-on screamed and cried, and she and the nurse were doing everything to be fast. My Fiance was mortified

[@Shield954]

Failure to provide proper pain relief qualifies as negligence. I strongly encourage you to sue for medical malpractice, negligence, lack of informed consent (the doctor lying about the pain of the procedure), emotional distress, and even possibly gender discrimination as men are given anesthesia for vasectomies, prostate biopsies, etc. You can ask a lawyer what your options are. A lot of lawyers offer a free consultation and they don't charge their client unless they win the case. It's time for women to start fighting back and stop putting up with the blatant sexism in the healthcare industry.

[@lavalampa3254]

It's a shame women have to do this, I'm sorry is it so hard to wear condoms if you're scared of getting pregnant... I would feel so dehumanized if l had to endure so much pain so a man can fuck me without fear of me /him getting me pregnant

[@eney0522]

My doctor not only gave me a local anesthetic, but gave me lidocane spray before injecting me with the anesthetic. She is a saint

[@ToodleNoodle]

I have a needle phobia so for my colposcopy they put me to sleep. I'm so grateful that I felt listened to, and general was an option for me.

[@angelorion8274]

I had a hysterectomy and had endometriosis related adhesions to my bowels removed last week and was sent home WITHOUT pain relief. I was expected to manage on paracetamol

[@bethanya99]

I had an excellent and experienced gyno who, using round about language, informed me that if I had anything stronger laying around at home I should definitely take it, "but you didn't hear it from me!" So thankful for that doctor who put my comfort above the rules and found a creative and technically legal way, to care for my body.

[@temple4585]

Is local anesthesia provided by the doctor is illegal where you are from?

[@jolenefraser4239]

That is BS if they actually cared they wouldn't push you to use illegal means to control pain they were causing. They would do their job and provide proper pain management. Your doc was crap.

[@bethanya99]

Local anesthesia was not allowed to be provided at the time of my insertion. And in fact my office (which is in a small city) has had trouble keeping gynos. I suspect it is in part due to the restrictive and outdated policies. Only recently have things started to improve. When you live rurally, you don't have options.

[@jolenefraser4239]

@bethanya99 LOL. No, they couldn't be bothered.

[@bethanya99]

@@jolenefraser4239 As if you could understand the situation from a single internet comment. 🙄 Sometimes you have to make the best of a bad situation, you can't make things and people change.

[@Mountan_Mama3]

I am so thankful for the doctor I discovered in 2019. She took me seriously. Took my pain during procedures seriously. I couldn’t even have a Pap smear done without pain. She listened to my concerns over my raging periods, and after years of other doctors telling me “oh it’s normal, persons are supposed to be painful” and my personal favorite: “if sex hurts your husband is just doing it wrong”, she discovered I had adenomyosis and noticed I had also had 3 irregular paps in a row and gave me a hysterectomy. Guess what? My husband wasn’t just doing it wrong

[@labyrinthgirl17]

And this is why I picked the implant, despite the college gyno insisting I should get the IUD, because just brushing my cervix for swabs felt like I was being run through with rebar. I can't imagine what it would've felt like if that had been used on me. I also got nerve damage from the implant, so yeah, I don't need nerve damage in my cervix and/or uterus. I'm now on the Depo shot and it's definitely the best choice for me.

[@anglewise]

Bravo young lady for talking about this. We women put up with a lot of crap because we're not willing to open our mouths. I'm the type of person that either a doctor loves me or hates me because I ask a million and one questions and I want to know everything that you're doing to me and why. I also want to know if it can be done better.

[@kmarie8206]

Exactly!!! Thank you! “Light cramping” my ass.

[@Alysa-Kins]

More like having contractions! It felt like I was having another baby!

[@kmarie8206]

@@Alysa-KinsCompared to what I’ve seen other women go through, mine wasn’t ass bad. But it didn’t feel like light cramping. I think my doctor was also more gentle than what I’ve been seeing. I see a lot of women talk about having bad reactions but it has really helped my cramps. I’ve always had painful periods.

[@eakolynn]

I want to say thank you for giving the subject of platform. When there's a woman on the screen talking you don't talk over her you just nod and show support. That is absolutely wonderful and I love that you are an advocate for us

[@uniqugeekgoddess]

I had the BEST OB. he found my abnormal cells on my cervix. I had sympoms for years... been to multiple doctors. None of them even looked.. he looked. He cared. Then i needed a LEEP. he asked if i wanted to be numbed or knocked out. I went for knocked out. But the fact that he offered and gave me the option was so nice... he had the best bedside manner. ❤ he retired recently... 😢

[@ruffadamsthegreat.2662]

My bestie (who refuses to post in her name) is saying that she only had mild cramping after. So obviously, she was numbed. We both agree, that docs that don't numb, are indulging in their innate sadism.🙄

[@leetleshinigami6099]

I was very lucky. I had a young female doctor who gave me local anesthesia for the procedure and a very nice nurse who talked to me through the whole thing. I attribute their forthrightness and the fact i didn't have to fight for pain management to the new generation pushing for this change in medicine.

[@MichiaMakes]

I had a vulva biopsy without anesthesia. The doctor had the nerve to say I shouldn’t have felt it. 😢

[@gutsfinky]

I used to work for a pharmacy that dispensed IUDs. We shipped them directly to the provider's office. One patient I talked to said she was just going to get her insertion done on her lunchbreak and grab a burger on the way back to the office. She was so nonchalant about it, I always wondered how her procedure went! 😅

[@AussieGriffin]

Thanks for validating someone's experience. A.G.

[@KMGctl]

I had an IUD when I gave birth 17yrs ago. I was told it was an easy insertion. I could come on my lunch break. so I took an extra hour on my lunch break and went to the office. When I tell you the pain was unbelievable. I had so much pain and bleeding. Then had to go back to work. Luckily, I had an awesome supervisor. He, yes he, saw me and immediately told me to go home. I found out later, he had 8 kids, so he's seen it all and knew I wasn't well. But yes they do lie about it. I had it surgically removed 5 yrs later, because they couldn't remove it the normal way.

[@cryptidjoka7700]

I’ve had it done twice, once at 16 and again at 18 with no time to prepare because my OB-GYN told me (at a routine check-up) that my first one wasn’t effective and had to be replaced immediately. Both times were horrible, both times I had to drive myself home after. Anesthesia is so needed. And if you’re going to get it done, please bring someone with you for support.

[@hannahfordyce9261]

Yes I have only had it done once and it was the worst pain I have ever been in. I couldn't breathe, I almost fainted and threw up all at once. I had to drive myself home. I currently still have it and it's been a few years. I'm still traumatized from the pain it's hard to be intimate

[@cryptidjoka7700]

@@hannahfordyce9261 Yep, it really is that bad. And wouldn’t you know that the day after I made this comment, I learned at the OBGYN that mine was out of place (again) and had to have it removed without warning (again). I’m scheduled to have an ultrasound-guided insertion of my third one in a few weeks. But seriously, this is going to be my third IUD in three years, I’m only 19. WTF keeps happening with these things? 😭 Either I am the unluckiest person on the planet or they’re not as effective as everyone wants me to believe they are :’)

[@Keekee_689]

My OBGYN kept trying to encourage me to get one of these things….it took my husband to step in and tell her “she said she didn’t want it, why are you pressing her to do it?” She just prescribed regular birth control pills after 😁👍

[@Kokolamar]

@@cryptidjoka7700you’re stupid enough to keep going to get them so don’t blame the doctors 😂 there is other forms of birth control ya know…it can’t be that bad if you keep crawling back.

[@Kokolamar]

@@Keekee_689coz they don’t want u breeding and pills can be forgotten. Duh.

[@Blu42blu42]

I had a biopsy back in 1999 absolutely no pain meds no numbing. I left in tears it hurt so bad. I knew then I couldn’t get an iud. The pain was so bad!

[@mandysetters4266]

Yes! In the UK, I was screaming so much during my IUD the woman just glanced at me at said ... "we're going to add more numbing gel". They said some women need to lie down for a bit but some get back to work in the afternoon. I was in bed 2 weeks. They didn't even let me rest afterwards, and told me they need the room. It was just a few streets to my house but I had to stop to rest on every bench and garden wall on the way. It makes me think something similar to that documentary "The Bleeding Edge" is happening. Companies downplaying how painful their implantation process is to make their procedure a more popular choice.

[@Vinegarissweet]

I'm thankful for the ladies that came before me to warn us to ask for pain management. Bc of research (videos & reddit mostly lol), I was able to get one without too much discomfort.

[@layoona3096]

I got mine at 17 and had this same experience. Thanks to living in Idaho at the time, I couldn't say no as I was still in my Mom's custody, and she wanted it. They prescribed me loratabs afterward, and my mom refused to fill them because they'd "just make me loopy." She just told me to take melatonin and lay down. I was sweating and shaking, and I had to crawl to the toilet to puke because I literally couldn't walk from the pain. I couldn't leave the bathroom floor for hours. She didn't care. She's mormon and couldn't deal with her daughter not believing in her religion and having premarital sex due to a lot of SA starting at 4 years old that she refused to believe or acknowledge. She's very controlling and lacking in common sense and empathy. She thought I deserved the pain. And she's now heartbroken I won't talk to her ever again.

[@ShannonL7]

That's why informed consent is so important with IUD, colposcopy, D&C, abortion etc etc

[@hannibalspectre637]

My friend had a biopsy in her uterus with no anaesthesia and said it was the worst thing she’s ever experienced, to the point she’s still dealing with pain but is too scared to go back to the doctor. The people around her just saying ‘breathe, you’re okay’ like this was normal. She was told there would be a ‘pinch and some pressure’. They took 6 samples and she was sent home with nothing in the way of pain relief. 6 PIECES OF HER UTERUS WERE CUT OUT OF HER BODY and they told her to take paracetamol. This was in the UK

[@Serveanthesia]

I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome- I have gone into shock after ortho surgery before (that’s when we found out morphine doesn’t work on me). I’d rather have another ankle reconstruction than go through another IUD. Sure she sprayed my cervix with topical lidocaine which did *absolutely nothing* (I reminded her that I have EDS and lidocaine is known to not be as effective on us). Yeah. I got yelled at by the doctor. Had it taken out 8 weeks later. The pain and the clots the size of my HAND were not worth it.

[@ambercotrone]

I suspect I may have EDS, and I’ve also noticed lidocaine doesn’t work well on me. Neither does the numbing medication at the dentist. Do you have any advice on how I can go about getting a diagnosis?

[@strawberryme08]

Did you get copper iud! If so those are super dangerous but the other kind has a bit of hormone too :/

[@h.s.6269]

​@@ambercotroneit's very difficult in my experience. I am in pain management and she was the one to mention I might have it. There is only one Dr apparently anywhere near the area that handles it and he has a 2 YEAR waiting list! To even be seen the first, let along multiple visits it may take to get the actual diagnosis, which will likely take many months or a year further.

[@whiterabbit6148]

@@ambercotroneit can take a long time to be diagnosed. Some people wait 10-15 years for a diagnosis because doctors will either dismiss your symptoms/concerns, or they will not be knowledgeable on the condition (some docs literally haven’t heard of EDS or hEDS), or they have a chip on their shoulder and believe that you couldn’t possibly know what’s going on with your body more than them. I’ve been trying to find answers for my symptoms since 2019, but that was just when things got bad; I’ve had symptoms my whole life. I’ve had multiple CTs, multiple MRIs, multiple neck and spinal ultrasounds, multiple PT referrals, and multiple doctors tell me to my face that they don’t know what is going on with me. One of my last Physical Therapists strongly urged me to bring up Ehlers Danlos to my doctors. I had heard of it before, but never thought I could have had it until I compared my symptoms, and it fit like a glove. I even passed the clinical observation tests for hEDS, which is known for the type of pain I had been experiencing! I’m a military spouse, and we have since PCS’d to a new state, so I have yet to actually be seen by my new doc, so we shall see how it progresses… Anyway, long story short, don’t give up. YOU know your body. You may have to go through several rounds of testing, and see multiple docs to rule out other things that can mimic EDS, but you need to keep with it, and advocate for yourself, or bring a partner or family member with you to appointments to back you up. Having an answer and official diagnosis of EDS can bring more credence to your complaints, like not being affected as strongly by anesthesia, or chronic musculoskeletal pain, or pelvic organ issues, etc. Good luck! ❤

[@siroc0610]

Doctor pleassse get a conference going and advocate for mandatory anesthesia/local numbing. This is literally surgery without anesthesia.

[@Sal.K1711]

I'm transgender ftm (born female, identify as male) and due to gender dysphoria, I had the the option to be put under during my IUD placement procedure. I'm so thankful for this, as I've heard countless stories of how painful it is, including from my own mom. It's always so interesting to hear others' stories, and I feel really grateful for the doctors being able to give me anesthesia.

[@sabrinapeters2466]

I had a cervical biopsy with no local anesthesia, I was told to take Tylenol for the “discomfort “.

[@HayleyLongford]

I had an IUD inserted a few months ago and it didn’t hurt at all. I agree with this video in that anesthesia should be an option, but I personally would not have wanted nor needed it. All patients react differently to procedures so doctors should work with patients to figure out what’s best for them individually.

[@shelby6]

I'm so glad my gynae is wonderful, literally insertion and extraction was just a "pinch" because she is so gentle and efficient, told me to take some ibuprofen before and have it schedulex for the middle of my period so the cervix is softened and more open. I hope yall eventually find good doctors

[@Kath-Erina]

Exactly! I can't believe all these doctors who are responsible for all that pain and trauma!!! Mine was also scheduled for the middle of my period so the cervix would be soft and open, she also gave me a cervix softening medication I should take 4 hours before the appointment and two ibuprofen half an hour before the appointment. My cervix was soft and open and I literally only felt a pinch for a few seconds and a few cramps/contractions once it was in. But none of it was super painful or traumatizing, easily manageable. I'm pretty sure she did not use that horrid torture device shown in the video. She used a some tonges to insert in my cervix and stretch then open wide enough for the IUD to pass through with an Insertion device specifically designed for the IUD - it was very minimal. I did have some cramping the days afterwards just because my uterus needed to adjust to the new thing inside but it felt like my period and nothing worse. By the way I live in Germany. It is absolutely horrid how woman are treated in the US by doctors

[@Seevvvv456]

There needs to be a law for these procedures!! I have had both. And finding out this is how it’s done on here just blows me away. I one who always looks things up but I trusted the doctor was telling me everything 🤦🏼‍♀️ damn!

[@cailin5301]

Maybe this is why i didn't have much pain with my IUD insertion. I'm fairly certain my (young, female) dr did not use a tenaculum - nor any anesthetic. I remember a speculum being used. They walked me through the whole procedure beforehand and the actual process was uncomfortable, but not painful.

[@KatieT97]

These IUD stories is what made me opt for nexplanon. Still don’t see how they see slicing through the epidermis as needing lidocaine but impaling the cervix as not needing hardly anything at all

[@samdor935]

Not that anyone’s pain should be ignored in the first place but idk why the implant is not more popular. Can last up to 5 years and no need for them going near your cervix.

[@kaddycat]

​@samdor935 well it constantly releases hormones, while you can have an IUD without any hormonal interference in your body. some people can't have hormonal birth control based on health conditions, history of certain illness in their family or other risk factors.

[@samdor935]

@@kaddycat hi! The vast majority of women have hormonal IUDs actually, like mirena (which slowly release hormones called progestins) but a few women get copper iuds. copper iuds have no hormones (because copper is irritating enough to destroy sperms) but they also make periods more painful and heavier (also because copper is so irritating) so they’re usually not the ideal choice.

[@kaddycat]

@@samdor935 you don't need to explain all that to me lol ik. just think that's a good explanation why people choose IUDs over implants. copper is about a third of all IUDs at least where I live. if you're purely talking about mirena then I'd agree with you. in the end, everything has pros and cons obviously but I really liked my copper IUD, it can cause side effects but so can hormones and since they're not local they can affect your entire body, so there are plenty of reasons to prefer copper. (edit: my periods actually got shorter and more bearable pain wise for around 3 of the 5 years it was in place. it's always *can*, never will with these things)

[@leonahenderson6191]

The lady doctor that did mine was so precise. Yes ibuprofen, but the pain was tolerable. I'm lucky to have someone so seasoned in these I didn't have this kind of experience that you unfortunately did.

[@QuietFlutterShy]

im so glad i chose to get the implant rather than an iud. it's for endo, and i heard some bad things about IUDs, and having gone thru a traumatic hospital visit only a couple years prior, I didn't want to risk it. The implant was a lil uncomfortable, but they numbed the area, and didn't even need to stitch it. I'd rather go thru that every 3-5 years, than ever go through an IUD

[@stinawtn3659]

Even with local anesthesia it's the worst pain I ever experienced in my life. Was traumatized from that.