I am now 44 and was raised by my grandparents, but my grandfather was a United States marine and his voice his attitude and everything about him was stirn and when he spoke it was with authority but when it came to my grandmother he spoke with kindness and gentleness and he taught and raised me to be a man but also my grandmother taught me how to understand women and me knowing and understanding has caused me more hurt pain in relationships then it's worth and some times it's more a curse then a blessing. But to understand a woman is not hard and pleasing a woman is not all about sex but if I told anyone a woman, women I'd blow your mind but men think I'm absolutely nuts and crazy. But I say this to understand women or a woman you have to understand that sometimes the hardest things in life are the most easiest things to understand and. Some of the easiest things to understand are the hardest.