What Do Ugandan Women Expect From Black Men in a Relationship? (B and T Lifelane)

Hey Brothers and Sisters. Welcome back to another episode here of the Kenganda KZbin Channel. Today we are here with the B and T Lifelane Channel based out of Kampala Uganda. Betty and Tina (B and T) decided to come by and explain to us in the Diaspora what Ugandan Women expect from Black men in a relationship. Black men will include Ugandan men as well as men in the entire Diaspora. I hope you enjoy the interview.

[@Kenganda]

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[@driftaaa]

You should have ask what are Ugandan woman bringing to the table when it comes to being with an African American man. What benefits do Ugandan woman offer over African American women?

[@bigblak8132]

If I'm spending that type of money monthly. Home must always be taking care of. Legs always open. No headaches. My pockets will have an headache too

[@africaine4889]

@Charles Chandlerlol we do not a have prenup culture in Africa.

[@africaine4889]

@Charles Chandler I am not from ugsnds but I will speak in general. 1. You have a contract were u separate assets. What the man has is his and what the women have is hers before and after marriage .But that contract is never chosen by Africans. Rarely. 2.Then you have the contract where what the man and the woman have before marriage belongs to each of them. And whatever they acquire during the marriage belongs to both of them. That also is not really taken 3. Marriage where what the man and the woman have before marriage and after marriage belongs to both of them. That's what most Africans from my country choose. Of course most of the time the man brings more to the table. Those contracts are presented and sign only if u do a court or legal wedding. In some countries like Cameroon they will also ask u and the wife if u choose a monogamist or polygamist marriage. Now the reality on ground in most African countries, when a man wants to divorce u, a lot will tell the woman to leave their house since they paid for everything and the kids will stay with the father. It's rare that the woman gets the house and the man leaves. And in general the kids stay with the father even if he gets remarried because the children belongs to the family side of the father. If the kids are too small they will csn stay with the mom and the father will still take care of them When the divorced reached the court i never seen a woman getting half of the assets even tho the marriage contract says she can get half of it. She will get something but never half The africsn society made it that the woman doesn't win in those kind of situation. But it depends

[@africaine4889]

@Jeffery Jones you can have only one legal wife. By legal wife I mean the one u marry in court. Only cameroun and Kenya I think u can marry more than one wife in court. But yes you can marry traditionally more than one woman mostly everywhere in africa. Just make sure that before being serious with a woman you tell her that you are into polygamy because a lot of African women are not into it. Am talking about the non muslims

[@plizwekup5231]

Would be great if our beautiful sisters would ditch them weaves. Natural or braids brings out the authentic beauty of us brown peoples. Peace

[@ROKOYAHASHIA]

Yeah those wigs really do not do their beauty justice and they dont look well done either..IJS

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

Very true. Everytime I see a woman with fake hair it's an instant turn off even if they have a good looking face and body.

[@AngryVillian2]

I have to pay for everything and you can't even wear your real hair... 😂 Picture that.

[@MusTafa-wp1nt]

Agreed

[@myalove4889]

Why are you so concerned about what a woman do with her hair

[@ValueFarmUG]

Thank you so much for hosting us and giving us an opportunity to discuss this topic, hope to do another one soon. Be blessed Kenganda family!

[@CharlieDmus]

Well done ladies

[@techsystems7]

Ugandan here living in the States..Much as hypergamy comes natural to women and they prefer a man who provides, Ugandan women have way lower standards compared to American women. Im speaking from experience. It's all in the culture which feminism has destroyed in America and slowly starting to corrupt culture in Africa. The independence of women is being used as "i don't need a man" while in most African societies submission and a man's role is key to a woman's well-being. Of course you will find outliers of women in Uganda who ask what you drive before even giving you their number but such is life. Thanks Oshay for putting my country to the world 🇺🇬🇺🇬✊🏾

[@Kenganda]

Hey family! What's good!

[@techsystems7]

@@Kenganda what good brother. Really wana get in touch with you. Thanks

[@JaydTrini]

Well said brother.

[@plizwekup5231]

Oshay, I also wanted to bring to your attention the fact that African women are different. Certain major characteristics are tribe specific!

[@rainingzion7601]

I would like to know what Uganda men say about this.

[@Fuorunner]

Keep your 50! 50! in America bro we do not need it in Africa. Only one man is needed in the home. Women have a skill that enhances her husband. Therefore if the man encourage the wife to add value to her life then she is an asset to the family.

[@BlueBookMen1000]

@@Nehemiah9_6-Psalm57_5 Are you Ugandan?

[@BlueBookMen1000]

@@Nehemiah9_6-Psalm57_5 I wanted to get an African woman's opinion on this.

[@realdillan3918]

@@Nehemiah9_6-Psalm57_5 hahahaha lol u funny

[@LivingBiContinental]

These men now days act like women! So do the women suppose to also help the man protect the house if an intruder come in? Do he expect her to help him fight off armed criminals in the event of an attack? Do she need to help him change the car tire and do home repairs also? It's so dam embarrassing for a man to expect his woman to help him financially.

[@djpioneer937]

No one expects all the stuff you just said. No one really expects 50/50, but when 2 people are equally yoked, from a financial standpoint, 10/90 seems odd.

[@doubler2192]

Yes that's sad! All his questions were $$ related. Men with real money aren't concerned about a woman using them for their money.

[@marlonb2804]

In the US the women are like men and more..lol

[@djpioneer937]

marlon B it’s some truth to that

[@djpioneer937]

Reina De corazones it’s some truth to that, especially in the younger generation.

[@eyecare8363]

Sounds like the expectation is 1 way. Just like western women.

[@afghanstan4551]

If you marry a Ugandan woman, pretty much any woman from Africa, you WILL be taking care of her parents and family. The women are encouraged to marry older men, as they are considered to be settled and established. I'm 48, and average age that I pulled was 27. I was talking on the romantic level to one who was 27, had 7 younger siblings, her parents were my age, she had a child. I did some maths, and decided that I would have to work long after I died, because she will want to take care of all of her family, and they will always have money issues, as she will be considered wealthy, since she married an American. They think all Americans are rich. The cultural differences are many. You bring one here from overseas, you are responsible for her. If she leaves you and gets any assistance, you will have to repay the government. You sign that agreement when you apply for the spousal visa. Do your homework. I did, and decided that I'll date in the States. It's too much a risk. Is she in love with you, or in love with being an American citizen? I'll answer it for you. American citizen. Can't blame them. How many women in the history of mankind married to change their economic status? A very lot. Lol.

[@africaine4889]

Depends of fhe family. My familu are all educated and doing welk for themselves

[@CharlieDmus]

I feel like this thing is being totally missunderstood. I need to come out in my sister's defence. In all cultures women expect a signal from potential male partners that shows them that the man is commited, capable and willing to support her. The signal in all cultures is linked to what represents security to the woman of that culture. In general in cultures which have achieved a high level of financial security the signal the woman would look for may be more linked to physical or emotional security, status or even the quality of the offsprings genes. In the USA the top athlete may be preferred in some countries the kid from the prestigious family etc etc. In Uganda It's not just about money. It's more about the willingness and ability of a man to provide a secure and prosperous home, because our women are limited in their ability to do that both by culture and by economic circumstances. So, after attraction, they will always be looking for signs that you are focussed, hardworking, responsible and willing to support and provide. That's what gives them a sense of security. It's about character. Hence they won't always look for the richest man, but rather the one who shows the character described above. Should you want to get married, their family will expect you to make a gesture that shows the the same character in the form of a dowery. In the west you show this via a diamond ring and other things. In return they will be loyal, commited, supportive, generous in body, mind and spirit and always seek your leadership. It's not good or bad, right or wrong its culture.

[@CharlieDmus]

Just two more things. 1. These are not demands they are just symbolic. If you are broke they will support you, but they want you to be the man. It gives them a sense of security 2. It's not that deep, you get way more back that it costs you.

[@BlueBookMen1000]

That's exactly why certain type of American men do very well with African women but some others don't. What most of those women are looking for is very different from what the American woman is looking for. People need to accept that and stop whining. You can say "I look like an athlete, I have pimp game and swag" I'm sorry but most of them don't care.

[@ifenewsome505]

@@CharlieDmus so its like giving money for relationship cool and here i thought i needed a personality.

[@greatafrican913]

"Just give us the money "😂

[@rasdahwa187]

ATM (about the money)

[@yotiep.1072]

You can say that again.. Smh

[@beats4life971]

Every woman bruh. Best to get someone that will give u peace of mind

[@doreenonekalit9888]

We need a part 2!!!! Tradition runs steep in African Culture. You just don't up and leave and go shack with a man in Africa. Its just a no! no! African parents always want to know, where is he from and what does he do for a living. ALL African Cultures has an elaborate process of betrothal.

[@khalilbashir7141]

How do u explain all those Ugandan women who sleep around with white men? They arent all as morally sound as you make it seem.

[@sakbar958]

A man is the provider and protector of the family. I expect to take care of my wife and family. If an AA plans to relocate to Uganda. The cost of living is much cheaper than the states. So you could easily take care of a family. Most of the Ugandan women I met are interested in having their own business.

[@intjsavagery219]

I love these ladies. I’ve been watching them. KENGANDA has become one of my main channels and Oshay has been growing on me. Oshay is gonna get me to move to the Continent, mostly Uganda. I’m coming Oshay. Thanks man!!

[@LivingBiContinental]

A man is supposed to provide for his woman/wife and kids! It is very weak for a man to want a woman to pay 1/2 on anything! My wife does not know what a bill looks like and we have a home in America and a home in Uganda and she never had to pay 1 coin on any bill, groceries, cellphone bills or anything.

[@khalilbashir7141]

Your view is a bit too macho and arrogant for my taste. Everybody doesn't have it quite like you do. Some couples willingly help each other pay the bills and they team work on things. If you don't have to do that then that's fine, but some husbands aren't in position to pay for everything. There are some people who get married poor and they know they will both have to contribute. I just think as a man you should definitely have active plans on improving your financial position so that in the near future you can pay for everything. It doesn't make you weak or some kind of scoundrel if you can't pay for everything. I will agree with you that it's a bit weak if a man has NO PLAN or desire to ever pay more than 50 percent.

[@marcusmay5461]

So when you get sick or die what is she going to do? 😂

[@africaine4889]

@@marcusmay5461 African women are known to be fighters. You would be surprised if ever u go and can't provide anymore, she will step in and do what she has to do. The money u gave her all this time she probably made a small business out of it with it or kept it. A lot of men in Africa are jobless. Guess who takes care of the family.

[@marlonb2804]

Your wife might be worth it and black women here in the states make more money black men. But i agreed with you.

[@marcusmay5461]

TM K TM K no they’re not! What the hell are you talking about? My ex gfs we’re Nigerian, Ivory Coast and Burundi. All they cared about was money and what time you want dinner. Extremely materialistic. Lose your job or business? Well, If you can’t provide you are looked over and over. Don’t let the family get it involved, otherwise your screwed. I’ve seen it time and time again. But nice try!

[@trendeous4070]

Lovely, yes we need part two.

[@marlonb2804]

I think it's in men's nature to take care of women but the west empower women to be independent of that. Life is not easy for all men so some men might have a hard time taking care of a woman financial.

[@djpioneer937]

this video should have been a lot longer oshay, you got to go deeper

[@doubler2192]

Thank you for getting a Ugandan women's perspective!!!

[@presidentoneday6634]

Diary is a sign that u will take care of their daughter, an appreciation, a sign of respect..ect. it usually not alott of money or cows, especially if the family likes you. The family needs to like you or the girl will basically be abandoned. And no African girl wants that. I did a traditional wedding here in Colorado myself. It was like 2,700.. after negotiations. Didn't have to do western wedding tho😂😂 would have cost at leat 15k.. thats the bright side of things. And we don't need rings either. At least I don't.. she wanted it, so I bought it for her.

[@africaine4889]

Traditional marriage is already a marriage in itself. But people will follow it up with a marriage at church and court if the can afford it. Some do it years later

[@1NavyLT]

I won't be dating Ugandan women if they think like that. Nobody ever asks the woman what she seriously brings to the equation. If a woman is all about the money the man is disposible. That means any man that pays the price can have her even if you're already paying. Money is money, no matter where it comes from.

[@johnsongodwin4293]

You are getting it wrong,its just 10mins discussion with no really details from the women side.

[@djpioneer937]

Outside of domestic duties and sex, what else do they bring?

[@africaine4889]

1NavtLT guess what it's mostly like that in every 54 African countries. African women in general have been used to been taken cared of by their dads and men from their family. They move from their parents house and go directly and marry so they expect the man they marry to provide for them. Even some of the woman who are modernized and leave on their own, they also are looking for a provider most of the time. African men understand this because they come from this culture. I can understand for u guys it will be more difficult. An African does not ask a woman what does she bring to the table. Never heard that. Taking care of the kids and all the household, some also have a business aside. And usually when the man is not able to provide anymore or if there money issues well guess who takes care of everyone. Who is going to wake up at 5am and clean the house than go the market to sell what she can if she have to so her family can eat. The woman

[@johnsongodwin4293]

@@djpioneer937 You must be a very weak man,most likely to depend on what women brings.Stay where you are.

[@djpioneer937]

Johnson Godwin Actually, I have a masters degree and make six figures, don't get so emotional.

[@JaydTrini]

Oh no Kuganda, you can't be doing this right now. Not during Covid season.😳Had no idea what Ugandan looked like. These women are on point. Thx bro, learned a lot about their culture. The difference is most countries the men are taken care of and vice versa. Also most country's look up to African Americans. I Gotta start investing in cows.

[@julietkobusinge7178]

😂 😂 😂 Yaaa cows bro

[@ericstrickland9866]

Man provides for the woman in relationship

[@NothinginMind503]

Now interview some Ugandan bros about dating let’s see what they have to say.

[@anneokewi4435]

Yo!!!!Ma gals are making it big ... good job B&T

[@zionwashington6280]

Good important information bro👌🏿🌞.we need a part 2🙌🏿😎.

[@shelterlovely]

That is why most women love Nigerian men,they care for their women.To all my igbo men you guys are the best

[@mopheousredpill7462]

So is that why so many Nigerian men have more than one women (wife) then? If that's the case then yeah I can go along with that.

[@GregInATX]

This Ugandan “College educated woman” said 50/80...???? Crickets..

[@thebridge5483]

😂

[@parissgary976]

You Ladles are Amazing and I hope to get the Pleasure of meeting once I get to Uganda.

[@threexfromwsg]

For these dowries are men getting virgins?

[@Kenganda]

To ask the question is to answer it

[@more_money5583]

OMG

[@rasdahwa187]

@Halima Shehu if another man got up in them guts without a dowry I'm paying the same price or less, lol.

[@CharlieDmus]

Ugandan women expect to be kept and provided for. They expect their men to cover all costs. But once you know what you get back from a "good" Ugandan woman it will make the money you spend look like change. But you have to find the good ones. It's not hard tho. Most are well raised and trained to care for their man and their family. You'll be spoiled rotten till you don't even care what it costs you. But if you get the wrong one, watch out.🔥

[@khalilbashir7141]

I don't know about in Uganda, but im in the US. My ex wife and I are Muslim and she asked me for $1500 dowry that I had to give her on the day we got Married.

[@anthonyrmoten]

Great topic and video Please keep it up

[@joshuabennett3122]

Uganda women, whatever you do, don't change. Principled, submissive to husband, family first, high standards, beautiful, with an easy smile, business minded, Proverb 31 Christian. All the way from the USA, love ya.

[@julietkobusinge7178]

Thx bro

[@doubler2192]

When you say the woman doesn't give anything to the relationship... What do mean? Are you talking financially? Because if so a woman can bring so much more to your life than superficial things. If you can't see that finding a woman is a great thing then maybe you're not ready for a relationship if you're focused on "she's trying to take my money." Now if you're trying to date multiple women then yes this will be expensive and you will complain about they are taking your money. So moral of the story is to court one woman that you feel u really want to have a long term relationship with and you won't regret spending some money on her. I do buy my guy nice gifts, of course not all the time but they're not cheap gifts.

[@anthonycoote9546]

Unless the woman has great attributes and complements me in earnings and wealth, I ain't entering into a one-sided, losing transactions/relationship period. Spending money on a woman is fun if she has a certain disposition

[@anthonycoote9546]

At no time there was mention lol of multiple women. I know gold diggers when I hear them. They have an unlimited entitlement syndrome

[@trendeous4070]

Well said my sister

[@khalilbashir7141]

I think the concern from most men is what else am I getting from the sister other than footing bills? It's a legitimate concern so I think brothers should make sure they know how the woman fits and benefits their lives before seeking marriage.

[@africaine4889]

@@khalilbashir7141 so u think taking care of a household, taking care of your husband and your children, educating the children etc is easy?

[@robertbridges9900]

Love these two!

[@brianmcdew5826]

Great interview classy ladies.

[@Aboriginal_American_Hebrew]

These lovely melanin are feminine eloquent all natural beauty

[@44.B.44]

Interview Muslim Ugandan woman

[@Kenganda]

How much money will you donate lol

[@kimla1394]

Thanks for sharing.

[@maru8631]

Uganda ladies, from Kenya am coming

[@ramizzy111]

LOVE IT

[@AReese-eu5zs]

Gotta respect the culture!

[@nabayizzi]

Please interview Lucy Bunyenyezi on this topic

[@kingobutunda9311]

Good topic brother

[@Kenganda]

Yooo

[@donbsweet5001]

He forgot to ask the ladies about age difference. A lot of us go to South America, because most of the girls overlook the age difference if you can support them.

[@britneynambooze9096]

I love these ladies

[@africaine4889]

Black Americans talking against dowries. What happens if you have daughters born in africa and they get married to African men. Are you going to refuse for the man family to pay a dowry to you her parents? Because that's what its going to happen. The future husband will send his family to talk to you and ask you for the hand of your daughter and will ask you what do u want for the bride price or dowry. Keep in mind is s symbolic thing that reunites that we do to reunite 2 families. In my tribe if there is a divorce and it's the womans fault (cheating for example) her family have to give back every single thing that was given as dowry or bride price

[@ericcato4678]

I'm an African American man who's getting engaged to a Kenyan woman. I'm getting familiar with paying a dowry.

[@ericcato4678]

@vicent sykes I agree, but not totally. Western cultures differ without a doubt, but I'm trying to grasp what you were meaning in regards to homosexuality. That's a white European culture.

[@ericcato4678]

@vicent sykes Both

[@julietkobusinge7178]

Nice qn dowry is a must in my cylture if u don't pay it ur nit recognised as aman, ni respect and ur counted among the thieves hee ur joking

[@kt-wt8pl]

dower fraud is a big thing and its also symbolic. Cows goats, luggage etc and it negotiable. Don't pay too much fellas

[@wingnut4217]

The price of the heart will always be measured by cultural value.

[@guywebb]

Hey guys ! no 2 ways about it ! it all boils down to the money !

[@b-rainwash410]

I really like seeing these beautiful women.

[@BrothaMoe]

Our sista Betty was wildin' 😂😂 and kept it 💯

[@doreenonekalit9888]

My two Lovelies 🥰🥰😘😘🇺🇬♥️🇺🇬♥️🇺🇬♥️🇺🇬♥️

[@dccavalier]

Very revealing video. I guess when if I visit I should stay away from any women looking for a guy.

[@kateholland4102]

They seem like lovely ladies 😊

[@DM-3000]

Two beautiful women that I would be proud to upkeep.😁 I would invest in businesses for these woman to RUN. I’m a fall back/ brains behind the operation type of guy. Would that mentality work out there, Oshay?

[@emealwilson6456]

Awesome

[@amediter5670]

Great interview but age wasn't mentioned. What is the maximum acceptable age difference for or dating or marriage (obviously, as long as they are both adults?)

[@julietkobusinge7178]

No limits darling

[@nakalemanuluyat3107]

exactly ladies

[@kofirey6752]

For all who are not aware the cattle in Africa are the most expensive in the world? For example the Texas longhorn is from Africa. When I would take a road trip with my child, i would have them count the cattle in a field as we pass bye, then i would have em do the math? tax free. Let em know this is what real money smells like. "This is the real stock market".

[@kennethrenquist9414]

I love Tina

[@Art_Travel_and_Hobbys]

In my culture men don't want to feel like we are providing for a woman like she is a child... Sorry, but that's not attractive. I definitely look at what a woman can provide for herself without a man. As a man I know what to do to keep a woman happy if I'm in a relationship and we have a child together. I will never encourage a woman to be with a selfish man, but don't break the bank. Compromising with open discussion should be the strong point. No man is a mind reader about what a woman may need as far as up keep so it's better to be vocal about those things. A man can give a woman money but it may not be enough for what she needs to get done. So, it's better to let a man know who you are and the every day lifestyle that you are about. Great topic... 👊🏿👍🏿

[@Art_Travel_and_Hobbys]

@Sean Tottenham The States

[@roybrantley9176]

expectations leads to disappointment, she expect one thing, and that man go and do another, he expect one thing, and she go and do another, if you plan to gather, any relationship require two people, we do a lot of things different, and hopefully the results will be the same. one thing I do know, money helps, but feelings spend in a different way, and emotions and trust, can push love out the door, I know my place, and I hope you can find yours, trust and love is like a flower, you plant it, give it water that it don't dry up, the right sun light that it may grow, talk to it, look at it every day, and when the blossom appear, we both can smell it to gather, and do the same with our love."

[@marlonmarvelousrichardson955]

Brothers go to the Village and find yourself village girl, leave those golddiggers women along long

[@mopheousredpill7462]

Facts with all that education will come a hint of feminism that's how it started in America and thanks to the gov't welfare system to take care of the woman and kick the man to the curb. I agree get you a village woman that's focused on family first.

[@Bromeo4u2002]

Since the Elders negotiate the price for the dowry, if you are an African American man, who negotiates on your behalf, the Elders? Also, do u get the engagement ring before or after u buy the cows?

[@khalilbashir7141]

It's coming out of your own pocket so you can negotiate it yourself. It's not a difficult process anyway

[@Bromeo4u2002]

Reina De corazones so if your Elders are in America, they would have to fly over to Uganda to negotiate?

[@africaine4889]

@@Bromeo4u2002 if u can't have someone from your family,.you can have a trusted friend African American or African that can do that. But I will suggest u have an elder African or an African friend doing that for u. They will negotiate for u better.

[@georgesearcy5182]

Mostly all women expect money no matter where they're from

[@dejumaboutique1305]

Bro., responses, from these ladies are pretty generic for alot of African of countries and cultures. There also seems to be some similarities between some Ugandan cultures and Yoruba cultures of Nigeria.

[@africaine4889]

Simalirities with most African countries. I am not Ugandan but still the same in my country.

[@JoshRoyReggae]

Most people will take one cow as dowry. It's all about negotiations!

[@tersooawen4249]

Do ugandan ladies buy clothes every month?

[@Bibleinformationandhelp]

Very shocking. Even though they have good jobs, they still want the man's money. Is this selfishness or something?

[@BlueBookMen1000]

Brothers if you can't adjust to the local culture then don't go. The only thing about the local culture that interest many of the American brothers is the potential of polygamy and even that is not going to work out with the small number of women that are open to it because they are going to expect a man to be a major provider along with her parents having their hand out too. going 50/50 is not going to cut it.

[@BlueBookMen1000]

@@Nehemiah9_6-Psalm57_5 guys going over there thinking polygamy is going to be easy and widely accepted by every woman will be in for a rude awakening. Women that accept it will be looking for a major financial gain from it and looking at these comments, most of these dudes are cheap as hell, expecting a woman who only makes 250 a month to split the bills. So I don't see how that will work out.

[@Visionary_of_Love]

@@BlueBookMen1000 well said 👍

[@blacknemsis2456]

I would rather go to the DR and get with those women instead of these.

[@blacknemsis2456]

@Rick Can't Trade yeah I know but the airline tickets are 250 instead of 1200 lol

[@malcolmtbm]

My friend said 10 cows, at 300 per cow that’s 3,000 ... ? Should I jump... ?

These are very funny ladies..very different from the ladies have dated.

[@dj6596]

50/50 shit my woman gets all my money shit something wrong here lol

[@yomiwilson3116]

As long you are a good woman. I will give you everything money can buy

[@jamesleecoleman]

So what I'm hearing is that the man is supposed to pay for everything.. okay. So how do we know that the man isn't gonna get taken advantage of... On top of that, if that man and woman gets married, the woman is now going to be basically a paid babysitter and house keeper?? Like if I marry a woman, it's expected to take care of the house and the kid(s) because I would be doing it too. I helped make the kid(s) and I live in the same living space, it's OUR responsibility.

[@jeromerhodes5039]

Will not be taking my son to Uganda for marriage but the women are beautiful

[@guywebb]

What do Ugandan women bring on the table?

[@nakaweesivictoria3957]

It depends on the two of you though its a man's responsibility to care about the family but with a wife she just have to help you but not our obligation

[@dru4670]

@Child of Horus because you have a flawed view of "submissiveness" it's just different responsibilities that we have in a relationship, a man the provider, a woman the nurturer. 😊 It's very fullfilling.

[@2jukojohn]

Dowry is just a function! It’s just a token of prestige, not really representing value of a woman. That thinking was largely retired from Ugandan society about 40 years ago

[@MrLee4love]

Do you know Betty is that cool one who seems shy, but nice she has that special accent. Both? Whoa Betty, slow down honey

[@maduroholdings]

This is dating this isn’t marriage. So they want clothing bills etc paid for but they are merely girlfriends Wow,

[@datanli69]

So I dont get it, these women make good money where does it go? I was in Africa and I had a relationship with a woman a doctor, she would come ask me for money like the day she got paid, Iam like didnt you just get paid, what did you do with all your money? She got pissed and then said well what do I need you for then. I dont get it I was brought up believing a couple worked together with money for a good future. What I saw is she expected me to pay for everything including her personal items clothes and hair and everything and she kept all her money she made and would not answer any questions about her money. Kind of a gold digger in us standards

[@miirohamudanhamudan4145]

100% money other things follow

[@chopitupradio4286]

That weave though 🧐

[@Bromeo4u2002]

I’m not trying to be funny hear but if the bride to be was married before is the dowry less or the same? I’m not trying to be funny, I’m just curious

[@khalilbashir7141]

The dowry is only based on what the current bride you are marrying wants to receive from you. It has nothing to do with her last marriage. It can be negotiated

[@rnick123]

Money money money. Sounds like that's all these girls were really interested.

[@LifesBestStudent]

Most of their responses are based on the assumption that all people get into relationships hoping for marriage which isn’t always the case.

[@africaine4889]

It is the case in africs lol. African women expect u to marry her if u get into a relationship with her and its serious.

[@LifesBestStudent]

TM K I’m Ugandan and I I know it’s not true for all African women. Many of these women are simply looking for somebody to connect with on personal level and it’s during the dating period that they’ll decide whether they’re open for marriage or not. Though many of them are attracted to money some will not accept or even hope for marriage however rich you’re if you’re not their marriage type. I’ve been in serious relationships with a number of Ugandan women where there were no expectations of marriage on both sides.

[@africaine4889]

@@LifesBestStudent oh ok. In my country when u are in a longterm relationship with a man, a woman expect u to ask her to marry u

[@LifesBestStudent]

TM K I agree and I also know that in a truly serious relationship people get to talk about the things they’re looking for in that relationship and many times marriage isn’t one of them.

[@africaine4889]

@@LifesBestStudent like I said thing must be different in your country.

[@dcuthbertson5778]

Lmao. They said hell to the no on that 50/50 relationship. She said oh no no no no. So that means if I get a BW from Uganda… I gotta pay for everything.

[@willietebs8399]

Lol very soon you will be running a match maker show.

[@BlueBookMen1000]

How much is the average dowry in dollars?

[@maureenogaye7323]

It depends are marrying a village gal, a woman of substance or a slay queen and status of Man...The cheapest cow in Kenya cost btwn 7,000 to 10000Ksh if the owner of the cow is desperate to sell....so roughly 100$.

[@kenbundy5781]

OMG , Black women with collar Bones.

[@siroboo9471]

I’m in love. ❤️ They are beautiful. Too bad the borders are still closed.

[@MrLee4love]

I figured it to be 600k to 850k a month

[@life_with_godfrey]

I wouldn’t think there’re no gold diggers in Uganda. Gold diggers are every where in the world, and some girls and families there set high expectations what they want from a man. Want a man with a car, nice house nice job. And the dowery thing, respect to my brothers out there but the girl you’re taking has no monetary value (cows, food blabla). They’re worth more than anything. Dont send dowry to her parents and at the end of it all abuse her as a form of pay back. I personally dont like the dowry thing. So if two hearts melted into each other but the man cant fullfill dowry requirements does that mean they’re going to be seperated. There’s greed and family drama in the whole thing. I would rather give my daughter out without expectations for dowry if they’re going to be happy in marriage and in pure love. And oh, I subscribed to follow.

[@lucasmbaziira2292]

Man these sisters be bout the money......that's all

[@gudder100]

We all know women know what men sopouse to do for a woman. But dose anyone know what women are to do for those men. Or is it just one way

[@CharlieDmus]

It all depends what you value. If you value a woman who keeps home, raises, educates and nurtures kids, takes care of you, does all the cooking and cleaning, honours and respects you as her king and remains loyal to a fault then you get way more than the change you spend on her. But if that's not of value to you then you're right ug women are not for you. It's just a different culture.

[@EastNewYorkKid]

They make a relationship seem like they needs someone to take care of them like a Pet? It's like they want you to buy their love???

[@EastNewYorkKid]

I know it's their culture but they way they describe it...

[@mopheousredpill7462]

@@EastNewYorkKid sounds like a fraud, if these chicks are so educated and make more money than the avg Ugandan then what do they do with all they money and then expect you to pay for every single thing as well. This don't sound to kosher to me? If she was a village woman then i could understand the concept, bc that type of women would be focused on family first and taking care of her husband.

[@Mansahx]

Well what if you don’t have much family except kids? How does that work fam?👍🏾

[@kenjerkenjer9576]

The dowry is based on the man's capacity it's not forced to give a certain amount so you provide what you really can it's about how well you appreciate the people who raised your bride because in Africa it does take a village to raise a child

[@Mansahx]

kenjer kenjer So it’s a gift of some kind? But voluntary...?

[@kenjerkenjer9576]

@@Mansahx well said it's simply just gifts to appreciate the family but when the colonialists came they branded it as bride price to encourage separation or revolts to black marriages because even the bride gives gifts to the groom's family though it might be to the people the groom is closest to in his family to thank them aswell. Like the way the western culture brings wine along and other things to the engagement dinner or wedding in Africa it's the same though on a larger scale than them maybe

[@Mansahx]

kenjer kenjer OOOOHHH.... makes sense. I already do this. But for certain people or occasions. 👍🏾

[@africaine4889]

@@Mansahx this is how it goes. When u go and ask for the hand of the woman you love to her family you also ask them if they can provide u with a dowry list. The family has to give u the list of the dowry. You cant just come up with the gift u want and offer to them and tell them u want their daughter. Now after they give u the list, if u cannot afford every thing u ask u go and negotiate that list with them. It's better to go with a local elder friend that would negotiate that for u. You will always reach to an agreement. After all its you paying and if u dont have much u pay what u can afford

[@djpioneer937]

Ugandan women sound real dependent, not my type at all, but if the job market is bad, I guess they don't have a choice.

[@djpioneer937]

@Reina De corazones So, if you have a relationship where both male and female earn good wages, it is still the mans responsibility to pay for most things?

[@djpioneer937]

@Reina De corazones It used to be like that in America, but as the cost of living increased, and more women began to enter the workplace, both contributed financially. Also in our society, people are considering , saving for their kids college, retirement, life insurance, health insurance, on top of all the other household expenses, hence, its not realistic for one person to be the sole financial provider. People are living longer now a days, therefore, if you dont want to be struggling in old life, it usually takes 2.

[@sandranamuyomba2268]

@@djpioneer937 well u can talk about it as a couple & also a man being a provider ,it doesn't prevent us from contributing we do contribute as well where necessary, but we just give u ur respect as the man, to be the man u know

[@anthonycoote9546]

@Reina De corazones lol 90/10. I agree to a certain degree 50/50 is a no no. But 90/10 if you both earn similar wages sounds way off. I mean, no one expects, or should follow 50/50. Just go with the flow, but each must use their discretion and say, ok, let me think about my loved one and take care of things if one is unable to

[@trendeous4070]

@@anthonycoote9546 yes 90/10

[@isiahennis218]

Are they single