What do you say to a grieving person?

[@sunriseschubert4391]

I'm terrible grieving my beloved mother 😭💔 who passed away in October 6 2022. It is the most painful loss of my life. I miss her every day. Lord help me.

[@douglaswerts4936]

Good words. I would also add there is no need to say anything. A touch on the arm or a hug says more than any words

[@CompostWatcher]

For me, the pain never goes away, I just learn to live with it.

[@alexthesing208]

I’m so sorry

[@AskDrBetters_MARKINCMinistries]

The pain may never go away, we call that living a "new normal" but I will also say from my own personal loss that the intensity of the grief comes and goes, it can feel lighter at times and other times grief comes back like a freight train, seemingly out of no where, triggered by a memory, a song, a scent, etc but then the train passes by. Sometimes you just have to lean into the pain and let Jesus be your comfort.

[@Universal035]

@@AskDrBetters_MARKINCMinistries The last 4 years have been hard for me. I've lost 6 loved ones including my mom :""(

[@azumii_11]

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[@sheltonheath9165]

I love listening to Your Biblical teachings Dr. Betters. I wish I could express with words what You have done for me. I too have experienced losing loved ones & can definitely relate to Your pain. As the song goes….” It’ll be worth it after all “. Yes, we will have a crystal clear picture of why God put us through all our pains & sufferings when we get to Heaven. God bless You Sir & love in Christ.

[@gregmcstravick6297]

Loosing my Father has been life changing for me, we lost him 25 years ago for me there hasn't been a day pass without thinking of him.

[@rositareyes8583]

He must have been a great man. God Bless!

[@mssiaes]

I lost my dad 12 days ago. It was a shock cos he was well and healthy until a month ago. At the beginning of July, he complained of stomachache, then he was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. After that his condition deteriorated fast. He passed away on August 8. How i wish these were just a nightmare, i wish i can give him another hug, tell him i love you, sing him another hymn, cook him his favorite food, hear him tells his stories one more time, or at least let me say a proper goodbye. Yes, i know he is off to a better place, but I miss him. Life will never be the same ever again.

[@1realchick12]

Praying for comfort and peace to sustain you. Life may never be the same, but I hope you have the strength to endure and the will to cherish the wonderful memories of your father. Shalom!

[@AskDrBetters_MARKINCMinistries]

We are so very sorry to hear about your loss and praying the Lord has brought you comfort as you grieve. In His Grip!

[@WillS.TheSuperReds.]

I am very sorry to everyone here that as lost or is losing someone or something such as a pet, you have my deepest condolences. Just remember like the lyrics to a certain song " HEAVEN IS A PLACE ON EARTH" and as a war veteran called Vera Lynn said " We Will Meet Again , Don't Know Where , Don't Know When But We'll Meet Again Some Sunny Day". Now i personally believe we will see and meet all of our loved ones including our amazing companion's we call our pets again up in heaven and we all reunite together to go to heaven with all of our loved ones and companion's our loving pets again 🤞🙏🙌. I lost my (Beagle) Dog Jade ❤️😍🥰😘🐶🐕🐾 this last Monday 19th June 2023 and my cat Fifa ❤️😍🥰😘🐱🐈 in 2021 aswell as my other loved ones such as both my nanan's and Grandad's e.t.c. , but i do believe i and the rest of my loved ones (my family) that are still here on earth with me right now will see and meet my (Beagle) Dog Jade ❤️😍🥰😘🐶🐕🐾 and my cat Fifa ❤️😍🥰😘🐱🐈 in / on Rainbow 🌈 Bridge and my nanan's abd Grandad's either in heaven itself or they will all be wanting for us to reunite and go into HEAVEN TOGETHER.

[@Smuggler169]

I lost my father a few weeks ago. Interesting this video is in my KZbin list. I received many cards saying “sorry for your loss” which is fine. But then I received many text messages asking me “James how are you?” In my mind I’m thinking to myself: “how do you think I’m doing? I just lost my father.” The thoughts of watching him die and the sound of that loud oxygen machine still fresh in my mind. The nursing home did allow me in to be with my dad the last week he lived. But I would be in tears trying to respond to them. I was nice and would say things like “well I’m hanging in there” or “I’m fine.” I know many folks mean well and it’s not always easy to know what to say. But I did find comfort in the friends that acknowledged I was hurting and remembered something about my father. He was a funny man and sometimes folks would bring that up and I’d laugh in the tears remembering his humor. Yeah....it’s hard losing a loved one and it’s an appointment we all face; we all will die. What we do now is so important. Anyway....

[@rositareyes8583]

Sounds like your father was a great man and loved by his family! I am sorry for your loss. May he be in the arms of Jesuschrist and are Blessed Mother Mary who loves you very much!

[@rositareyes8583]

Thank k you for your video Sir and I want to say I am sorry for the lossof your son to you and your wife. I have a friend who’s step mom who raised him passed away 6 wks ago. I wi acknowledged his step mom when I talk to him. Thank You. God Bless you and your family!

[@AskDrBetters_MARKINCMinistries]

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[@rositareyes8583]

@@AskDrBetters_MARKINCMinistries thank you very much Sir. God Bless your family and rest assured you’re son is with or Blessed Mary and her son Jesus Christ!

[@radhindas1122]

Thank you, Dr.Betters. Praise the Lord!

[@AskDrBetters_MARKINCMinistries]

Thanks for listening! God Bless!

[@naeaschools4416]

Thank you for a clear amd comprehensive explanation. Thank you God. Thank you Jesus. Thank you Holy Spirit. For I am saved by the grace of the Lord. ✝

[@AlysiasArtStudio]

I’ve lost sons, I have worked on tombstones, hand etching portraits etc on them since I was 20 (I’m 49 now). I’ve experienced God throughout my journey and have grieved now with all my clients ❤️ Blessings to you ❣️

[@mercyphiri4919]

The pain is undescriedable

[@priscillaalexander3532]

Thanks simple and sweet.

[@FUGYOO]

Brother, with every episode, you have managed to interpret scripture like I haven't been able to since 1986. It's been a long, hard fight. With this, you have brought me to joyful tears. Thank you. God bless always.

[@robertota9341]

Thank you. God Bless You and Your Family.

[@johnnyobigcatdaddy]

As someone who has dealt with death a great deal throughout my life, every death is different, and you must grieve alone. If you are trying to bring words of comfort to someone, just pray that you would say the right thing, and it is God himself that will bring comfort, even if you get mad at our Father, how could he not understand? Make amends with our Father before you leave this earth, come to him as his child, he will bring you comfort! The death of a loved one, or a pet you consider as a family member is the worst hurt in the world, so if you truly love and have had an argument or disagreement with that person, approach them while you still have time, never go to bed mad, or leave your house mad, you might hate yourself later for it, and there our Father will need to bring comfort to you again, because you will never forgive yourself! Anything you love, go tell them right now, even if you need to do it on the phone! God bless everyone! ❤

[@robertota9341]

My wife just passed away 5 days ago. We were together only 15 years. I would have loved 15 more. Many people who knew her called me and gave their condolences. They asked me how I was doing. I told them I'm sad but glad because my wife is in a better place now. She was a righteous and godly woman. She Loved everyone and everyone loved her. She had the Love of God in her and she taught me Love and being a better person. She's in Heaven with the Lord along with everyone else who believed in Jesus as their Savior and repented of they're sins. God created Heaven and Hell. God gave us a choice. My wife and I made the right choice. God so loved the world, he gave his only son Jesus to die for our sins that whosoever believes in him will never die but have everlasting life in Heaven. Today is the Day of SALVATION. My wife will always be with me on this earth but when It's my time, it will be a joyous reunion seeing her again in Heaven. Jesus is Lord.

[@AlysiasArtStudio]

Robert Ota my heart is with you completely ❣️ The joy we will have on that glorious day ❤️

[@debramiles5176]

You where blessed with a beautiful companion bless you I just lost my husband we were married nine years due to a long illness I don't know why he wasn't healed only God can answer that but I know he's in a better place needs with my Savior someday I'll be able to see my savior and loved ones bless you and your family

[@theresachiorazzi4571]

I would just say I’ve been there so I know what you’re going through it’s ok to cry it’s normal the love in your heart tells it all.

[@debramiles5176]

Thank you so much what a blessing your words are a lady said to you there are some sounds only heaven can heal praise God for that word I just lost my husband to a long illness I don't know some are healed only God know but I do miss him so 😢 thank you

[@Bob31415]

Thank you for these words of wisdom Dr. Betters. Reverend Auffarth was my pastor for many years. The day is drawing near when, by the grace of Christ, we will all be together in that wonderful place and I will get to meet you and your son Mark. I pray for comfort and peace for you and your family.

[@altitudeiseverything3163]

A gentle reminder to the religious people watching this video: please be sure that the grieving person to whom you are offering condolences actually believes in god before you say something to them that’s overtly religious. While they may not wear it on their sleeves, quite a few of your neighbors, co-workers, maybe even family members are likely atheists and agnostics. Please be respectful of their beliefs and hold back on using this as an opportunity to discuss your own. This is about *them*, not you.

[@russellhadaller8903]

You are a well spoken man! Love you video’s! They help a lot! Thank you, God Bless!

[@ritchiecam3692]

This guy is Brilliant.

[@catherinewanjiku2937]

Thanks very muchfor this insights. Will help me to help my friend.

[@AskDrBetters_MARKINCMinistries]

Glad it was helpful!

[@blessingnzewi5978]

Thank you for your lifting words cos it is really helping me heal from the pain of losing my darling younger brother of 25years in a car accident 18 months ago. God bless you. 🙏

[@lindawisdom5835]

So sorry for your loss.

[@lakes2003]

Wow your beautiful speech is so wonderful ❤️ IAM amazed at what you said! Love your talks my friend!

[@TrangNguyen-sz6xh]

Thank you for sharing your story and your advice my father passed away recently i feel much better when hearing your story God bless you 👩🙇🙇

[@robertota9341]

Thanks. God Bless You and Your Family.

[@kayleeanderson3416]

I lost my friend name Melinda in 10/12/11 and I was working on 10/12/18 at Smith's and it's making me cry inside

[@jasonguillory3374]

Love you, servant of God you are

[@brittanyosborn6015]

Beautifully said ❤️. Thank you 🙏🏼

[@robertota9341]

Thanks. God Bless You and Your Family.

[@timbithar1]

Thank you for this.

[@johnca45]

Good advice!

[@raviraja1002]

As a Christian, i always say to the grieving that Only GOD can give you comfort and peace. NO Man nor words can comfort them

[@robertota9341]

Thanks. Jesus is our comforter. There may be tears in the night but in the morning, there will be JOY.

[@roobarb3294]

Thank you

[@jimmiepatrum]

Wish I could give this video a thousand thumbs up!

[@smeatonlighthouse4384]

Just sit down beside them, put your arm around them and LISTEN. If you haven't 'been there' it is better to say nothing.

[@sumeriano]

If you don’t know what to say in such circumstances, then pray for yourself the first, in order to have the grace of compassion into yourself from God. Amen.

[@arizonajoseph4421]

Thank you sir

[@AskDrBetters_MARKINCMinistries]

Welcome

[@antoniostorcke]

If the person knew Christ, then you have a lot of good things to say. If they loved Christ even a little bit, you have a lot of good things to say. If that person has denied and grieved the Holy Spirit or has never accepted Christ, you can say God will judge the heart, soul, and spirit.

[@VickiBee]

You wouldn't have needed to WORRY about that with ours because there was no earthly remains and all we could do was show a picture of him at the memorial. My mom had a memorial too but she was afforded last remains. She died of Lymphona and there was a positive I.D of the body before cremation. Eric died in Tower 1 (hopefully before he was crushed to death by the falling Tower; that's how 69 people in Tower 1 died. I think I'd rather already be gone than feel myself be crushed to death) and his "last remains were altered by the crumbling tower and continuous burning." Fires burned off and on for 4 months after it happened. I've never been able to "get over" the death of my child. I thought I was over it but I'm clearly not. She was a baby.

[@kimbap_kidding243]

I'm sorry to hear that.

[@growinkcdba1090]

I'd LOVE to see a pic of that grave marker saying, "With Jesus....Like Jesus."

[@mercyphiri4919]

Amen .

[@ritadougherty4526]

My daughter was murdered two years ago leaving behind her four kids under the age of nine... Her case is still not solved... No one will talk to me about my daughter... The one thing I hated at the funeral is I know how you feel or that she is in a better place

[@AskDrBetters_MARKINCMinistries]

My heart hurts for you and your family for the tragic loss of your daughter. Praying the Lord has brought you comfort as you grieve and wrestle with the difficult questions this unsolved murder has left. Lean into the pain and lean on the promises of Jesus! In His Grip!

[@douglaswerts4936]

It baffles me how people can say such crass things. They have no idea how you feel and no idea she’s in a better place and you want her here

[@InGeniousProducts]

Sorry to hear about your loss...