What Does God Say About The Divorce Of A Narcissistic Spouse? | C.S Lewis Sermons

[@CSLewis-Sermons]

🙏www.youtube.com/@CSLewis-Sermons?sub_confirmation=1 “But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.” (1 Corinthians 7:15)

[@heatherdenmark22]

Peace that passes all understanding🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@Selah1141]

He mentally and emotionally left me 26 years ago. 27-year marriage - legal only.

[@Josie-c6b]

I believe each word he is saying

[@iamhischosen3866]

@@CSLewis-Sermons Amen! You are free to marry again in such cases.

[@debbylee6329]

Was married for 45 years to a very sick narcissist. Been divorced for 7 years as I couldn't take the abuse any longer. I am healing with God's help.

[@joancollins3355]

Wow, that's a very long time. God bless your next move.

[@Marianpowellmiddleton]

God knows our heart. I left a covert narcissistic husband of 23 years He cheated financially abused me mentally and emotionally abused me No contact for 3 years still healing God is real and revealed to me that love doesn’t hurt 1Corinthians13:4-8 God is real and he wants the best for us! Congratulations on your new journey with out the narcissist ❤May God continue to bless you

[@debbylee6329]

@Marianpowellmiddleton thank-you for your comment. I was also dealing with a covert. They pride themselves on how sneaky they can be. The hardest part was the financial betrayal. He took all the retirement funds that I made happen the prior 25 year.They don't think about how the money got there, they only know that they need to take it for themselves. At 66 years old, it's very difficult to rebuild it as I do not have another 25 years to do it. I still fight every day to have what I need as it's better than dealing with him. There is no price for peace and a sane mind.

[@Marianpowellmiddleton]

@ absolutely the peace of mind is above all else…Yes!! am at peace and can build again . I went back to college and was the the second oldest in my class 😂the next one was 72 years old we both earned our RN degree.Its never too late….God will supply all of our needs Philippians 4:19 Remember that you are blessed and highly favored

[@debbylee6329]

@@Marianpowellmiddleton congratulations on becoming an RN!!!!! I received my RN degree in 1989. I do have some medical issues but thinking seriously of going back to work part-time. I specialized in home IV therapy and hospital IV team. Wish I could contact you so you could get me caught up on all the new changes. God bless you and I hope you have a wonderful, great career.

[@joannwilson1375]

Was married for 19 years to a narcissistic man. Praying, God gave me direction and made way for me to leave. It now has been 27 years. I haven't regretted leaving and praise God that I am used in God's work.

[@Joyce-hn2yd]

As long as you didn't remarry someone else..

[@iamhischosen3866]

⁠​⁠@@Joyce-hn2ydHave you ever thought that GOD didn’t unite the marriage in the first place? Gender doesn’t bond every marriage, until death do you part, just as same sex marriage doesn’t. Some marriages are wicked unions… and not, “What GOD has joined together….”. Pray before judging others situation, and Study to show thy self approved. GOD will never join HIS Children to devils nor will HE ever make a covenant with Satan, so why would HE make HIS children? Read 1 Corinthians 7 with an understanding. May you be blessed with the Word of Truth.

[@kathleenadelethompson3214]

What if one has no one or anywhere to go or family due to all the damage he’s done What to do ?

[@joannwilson1375]

@kathleenadelethompson3214 it took me several months. I prayed and God opened doors. I didn't have to involve anyone else. (thank you for reminding me of that) Being focused on God, He actually provided each step . I prayed continually for the Lord's guidance.

[@joannwilson1375]

It wasn't easy. But I wasn't afraid.

[@janicequinn6101]

I was married to man who abused me mentally and physically. I would pray and read the Bible everyday for answers. God would always open the Bible to Job. I finally made the decision to leave, after being beat down by him. It took a long time to heal my heart❤! After i left Iife was so much better ! I would never have survived if it hadn' been for God.

[@AlurigoRavusiro-m9e]

I went through the sane sns also read Job. Slept with my Bible under my pillow. Just so scared and afraid for my life. I have forgiven him and moved on. Happier now and walking in Christ, my redeemer, peace and healer. HALLELUYAH!

[@chantakchantal6065]

God pushed me to leave someone who ❤did not value me. This was 2 years ago? I went through internal turmoil for 2 years but got peace in the end. I am now with a wonderful partner and it feels so much better.❤❤ Thank you Lord🙏

[@Selah1141]

Very happy for you!

[@davidgranderson1986]

Thank you Heavenly Father for this message. I’ve been in a narcissistic marriage for over 27 years. Until 2 years earlier I had no idea this was happening. God is good and I wouldn’t change anything that’s occurred. I’ve learned so much during this journey. To anyone whose eyes are now opening, I pray that you seek the right help (professional or otherwise) and gain encouragement from positive people. My journey was rough and I can honestly tell you I’ve grown to not only forgive my partner but also myself. I wish you the best….Keep God first and trust what you’re seeing. Seek discernment!! Be blessed alway. I have my own Testimony!!

[@Selah1141]

27 years here as well. I live in a guest house, separated from him by walls. Separation has done NOTHING to heal the marriage. Nothing. God bless you. I will pray for you.

[@patriceysimmons3897]

Same here

[@GodsChildTM]

16 yrs here...Out now for 3 years. I would rather be alone than endure abuse and infidelity... God's got me❤

[@JubileeLifeCoach]

​@@GodsChildTMtime does not heal narcissistic abuse and C-PTSD. I'm a Christian Trauma Recovery Coach specializing in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery, Nervous System Regulation, Inner Child Healing, and Somatic Trauma Therapies. Please reach out for a free discovery call to see if we would be a good fit to work together either in a group or 1:1. Multiplied Grace and Peace to you! May the Lord deeply comfort you ❣️❣️❣️

[@JubileeLifeCoach]

​@@patriceysimmons3897time does not heal narcissistic abuse and C-PTSD. I'm a Christian Trauma Recovery Coach specializing in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery, Nervous System Regulation, Inner Child Healing, and Somatic Trauma Therapies. Please reach out for a free discovery call to see if we would be a good fit to work together either in a group or 1:1. Multiplied Grace and Peace to you! May the Lord deeply comfort you ❣️❣️❣️

[@sincerelyme-777]

“I will never leave nor forsake you” what a profound and loving promise and Gods promises are truth! For anyone in the midst of the turmoil of betrayal, cling to the love and promises of our Heavenly Father who will see you through. I pray in Jesus name, Amen

[@freshcatholic]

My husband and I separated for 3.5 years. We took the time to reflect, pray and surrender to God’s will. We have reunited and our marriage is better than ever now! ❤️🙏🏼❤️

[@Selah1141]

So very happy for you!

[@rhondatalkington9696]

@@freshcatholic that’s beautiful. My late husband died, 3 years into our separation.

[@nb_empire2933]

@@rhondatalkington9696bless your heart

[@nb_empire2933]

I am very happy for y’all and God be with y’all ❤

[@cslewislight]

That’s amazing! So happy for you❤

[@Bisquitengineer]

My pastor said it was ok to leave my narcissistic ex, he explained that breaking vows isn't just about infidelity it's any time a man doesn't uphold his wife and respect her, that's also breaking vows.

[@abclosius201]

True.

[@JubileeLifeCoach]

Thank You Lord!!!

[@iamhischosen3866]

Amen! Many need to read 1 Corinthians 7 with an understanding. GOD doesn’t make a covenant with Satan, so why would HE force HIS Children? Some unions are wicked and not joined by GOD in the first place.

[@sherischultz2506]

Thank you for sharing !! I needed to hear /see this!! May I ask who your pastor is or where you go to church ?

[@sharonwildes4765]

Amen

[@TheUrszula40]

In separation now from an alcoholic and narcissist husband, I pray that I can forgive and that the Holly Spirit enters my husband heart and brings relief to his own pain. I feel that my husband’s own suffering is much deeper than the one he inflicted on me.

[@favorglover]

I felt that last sentence in my spirit. That is the same way I feel about my own husband. I am still with him, but I'm not sure how much longer. Please keep me in your prayers as I will keep you in mine.🙏🏾

[@rhondatalkington9696]

@@TheUrszula40 hugs to you; and prayers for you and husband.

[@WendyElliottMears]

​@favorglover Narcissists are usually handed over to their own sin. Prayers. You may not see it now but God is rescuing you.

[@jasminevillers154]

​@@favorgloverAmen 🙏

[@angelawilliams1091]

God is my HEALER, and in Him, I find strength.

[@KayZabel-r1u]

Thank you, Lord, for this devotional. It helped me to seek what I needed to do. I surrendered to trust my Father God. Amen,🙏

[@lyte4240]

Amen 🙏 This what I've been waiting for. Lord God bless. Guide & protect me for the Enemy is busy in my marriage. Lord I'm Your humble servant, Plea the blood of Jesus! Victory is mine says the lord.

[@Selah1141]

I have prayed for you.

[@mvs5784]

Praying for you

[@julieputzier7314]

Praying for you In Jesus Name🕊️

[@junemyres1435]

I appreciate this message so very much. I was abandoned by a narcissist and blocked 😮. He abandoned my family and I last Christmas 🎄 and I needed to hear this message ❤❤❤❤❤🎉 thank you lord for this word. I love ❤️ you lord and I forgive him 😊😊😊

[@florentinakissoon-weekes6738]

God is my healer, and in Him I find strength. 🙏🙏🙏

[@conniedavis207]

God is healing and in Him have strength and His peace.

[@BasseyAsuquo-n2y]

God is my healer and in Him I find strength in Jesus Name, Amen🙏

[@ptstacey1]

I kept my marriage covenant MANY YEARS longer than my husband did. It was NOT “cheating”, it was emotional, verbal, and financial abuse that extended into the relationship with our child. I was honestly so embarrassed to admit what was happening and afraid of the consequences of divorce that I didn’t speak out to anyone except for to my spouse, who *of course* just kept accusing me of being wrong in every scenario. I was quite surprised, when I finally asked her help, that many of my friends and family members had seen and suspected the abuse, YET never said anything about it to me!! IF YOU SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING!! Especially when children are involved. 25:45

[@mirjamhansen2626]

Oh, seems like you just descibed my story…! Was married 22 years with what I now know is a covert narcissist. He never showed responsability for his actions… I Think he was/is not able to see what his does to other people; neither our children or me…But I have never felt more authentic, happy and thankful than now- 4 years since I moved away from him. Though it has been a very tough “personal journay” the last 4 years (and before)

[@kathleenadelethompson3214]

No one listens or cares. When he tries to impress everyone else while not valuing me and betraying me and with all the destruction no more family no where to go

[@MrJnprs]

Yess! Amen! God is My Healer and in Him I find strength!❤

[@susanconner6098]

God is my healer and in Him I find my strength. Wish this video was around 38 years ago when I was agonizing over my decision to leave. But happy to say listening to it now validates the decisions I made through prayer and seeking His word. We separated for a year but there was no reconciling, I chose to get clean and sober and he didn’t.

[@stevenmack4116]

God is my healer and in Him I find strength. Priase God now and forevermore.

[@sarahwilliams203]

Spent 13 years in an abusive marriage with a narcissistic bipolar schizophrenic alcoholic cheater. Praise God I was able to have my eyes opened by his multiple actions of infidelity and get out with what was left of my life in 2015. I got remarried in Dec 2017 to a man who has Jesus as the Lord of his life and let me tell you ladies it is a night and day difference. If I would have known that there could be this much joy on the other side I would have trusted God sooner and left earlier believe me. Will be praying for those of you still in the valley as I know how hopeless it can feel, as I still had to face and deal with all the hurt, rejection, betrayal, and healing that comes with all that.

[@iamhischosen3866]

I’m happy that you allowed GOD to bless you with a “real” covenant marriage, and not allow others to deceive you with unscriptural opinions about remarriage. Christ died that we may have life more abundantly… I pray that you experience eternal happiness both you and your spouse in the LORD.

[@kathleenadelethompson3214]

The church doesn’t even listen And with all the damage and destruction no family no friends no church accountably and no where to go What then?

[@amyjo6629]

Wow. Just wow. Thank you for putting into words what my spirit knew but my mouth could not express. Confirmation that I made the right decision.

[@BeatriceLotter]

Thank you for this message. God allowed separation after I have been through a terrible situation, after been left in a caracan park without any provision, food, finance or a car in April 2022. In the "MEAN - TIME" GOD allowed me to grow in the knowledge of narcissism. I didn't know it at all. I was used for another part of my calling WHILE I'M WAITING. GOD gave me a WORD promise through what I called My "Jacob" experience. I'll Serve HIM WHILE I'M WAITING.. Blessings to you All 🙌

[@desrinecampbell3706]

God is my healer and in him. I find strength. Amennn

[@sandyhenry3238]

Our Father, is helping me get out of mine

[@Selah1141]

I have prayed for you.

[@mvs5784]

Make sure is God, God like unity ask God to change his heart. Im dont want you to regret it like i do. Praying for you. I still love my ex. Husband and i thought God was helping me to leave him. Just because arguments learned the hard way. Blessing

[@mvs5784]

The only way to put your spouse away its if the other person cheat

[@donquixote...]

Sure it's not God letting you get away from His...

[@kathleencole80]

@@mvs5784 To put away your spouse "and marry another" is adultery - unless the spouse was unfaithful. (Matthew 19) Even then, it may be better to remain unmarried because statistics show that second marriages are not always an improvement.

[@cynthiawilburn8032]

God is my help and my strength. My trust and hope is in Him.

[@darialo8740]

So many people suffer in marriages.. I feel like marriage as institution was designed back in the day for survival or “adopting” of a female. Nowadays, so many women end up being used as convenience, pulling the weight and also end up suffering from narcissistic abuse by these men. I saw so m at red flags when dating him, but ignored them or brushed them off because it felt familiar, because I grew up with narcissistic parents. It’s a sad set up. I pray to God for guidance.

[@DianneKirk-s8f]

God is my Jehovah Rapha, My Healer; and He gives me strength!

[@Claire5020GEN]

THIS IS TRUTH. JESUS NEVER FORCED ANYONE TO FOLLOW A RITUAL OR LAW THAT RESULTED IN HARMING A WOUNDED PERSON.

[@faithgreen9228]

God is my healer and in him I find strength

[@rogersthilaire8179]

Mercy upon my Soul thank you God for this message that I may walk again in you presence. Thank you for your healing ❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@kenyattawashington9928]

God is my healer and can do anything beyond what I can imagine and that is why I’m allowing his unfailing love for us and his will for our marriage to be of his will for restoration, reconciliation, or divorce. I trust that God knows what’s best for us and making provisions on our behalf in Jesus name Amen❤️🙏🏽🙌🏽

[@deepikasingh1569]

God is my healer....I place my trust in you....

[@Josie-c6b]

Pure truth, to God be the glory

[@mcostilla7603]

God is my healer who gives me strength 🙏🏽

[@BeckyWatson-u9g]

Thank you for this sermon! Needed this reassurance!!

[@aanne12]

Thank you for this🙏 One book I recommend everyone to read in 2025 is Your Life Your Game by Keezano… It beautifully shows how embracing faith and nurturing meaningful relationships can lead to spiritual growth and success in both your personal and professional life. This book truly changed my life-a must-read. God bless

[@Enna_Willkins]

thank you anne

[@MisMariaRosee]

yesss

[@rickmaria9546]

I know, now, what God said to me. STOP letting this man abuse you!!! Thank God we are now divorced.

[@RoyMech-m2o]

Thank you for sharing this insight. God’s grace is sufficient and you’ve dissected topic this well.

[@jonelson6352]

Thank you for your video.

[@sharrondee575]

God is my healer ❤

[@elizabethvaneck1088]

God is my healer

[@nb_empire2933]

God is my healer is been hard and smooth with God . Currently breaking general curse stop attracting narc and trauma bandage it is been 29 years and 14 years married to one separate since 2020 pray pray he still choose no to repent so I silently surrender to God and this year I fill for divorce again it hurt so bad to know that I was to a unfaithful husband and fail marriage.. please don’t ignore the sign God give you in early relationship

[@BirdieMae-yl3oi]

What God has in mind for marriage and what we have in mind is totally two different senario’s. We are suppose to marry as virgins man & woman. Man should know God’s word and have a relationship with him to provide for her. Be fruitful and multiply.This is God’s original plan. Men plan is to have sex first with different women, live worldly, pick up demons, then choose a wife. This is why there’s so many failed marriages.

[@donquixote...]

Though thou slay me, yet will I serve thee... -Job

[@isolderied6640]

I’ll be 65 this year. I’m financially dependent and taking care of a young adult with disabilities, whom my husband insisted on adopting 18 years ago. I feel stuck and just have to wait until death do us part.😢

[@cherylmahalak8251]

I feel your pain...😢

[@kathleencole80]

What would you do if the adoptive 18 year old was your own child, or was your husband's by a previous marriage? Either way, if your marriage is destructive for you, then it is also harmful to the dependent child whose custody may be in dispute. Financial govt assistance is available for parents or guardians of disabled adults.

[@isolderied6640]

@ thank you for your kind words. $7000a year in Gov. assistance is not enough to survive. I love my son dearly and will take care of him as long as I can.

[@kathleencole80]

@ God be with you. 🙏🏻

[@annettebicer7555]

Ask for outside help. Don't suffer alone.

[@lesleyelalami2562]

Not forgetting financial abuse too. Stay with a narcissist and it WILL influence all children of that marriage negatively. You can't save the narcissist but you can save yourself and your children. Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

[@ptstacey1]

I kept my marriage covenant MANY YEARS longer than my husband did. It was NOT “cheating”, it was emotional, verbal, and financial abuse that extended into the relationship with our child. I was honestly so embarrassed to admit what was happening and afraid of the consequences of divorce that I didn’t speak out to anyone except for to my spouse, who *of course* just kept accusing me of being wrong in every scenario. I was quite surprised, when I finally asked her help, that many of my friends and family members had seen and suspected the abuse, YET never said anything about it to me!! IF YOU SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING!! Especially when children are involved.

[@KirstenLambert-nt8iy]

I wish this video was available back when I was getting divorced.My narcissistic mother had me so messed up in the head, I stayed with my narcissistic, abusive husband. I fially divorced

[@ME-FAFO]

God is my Healer- I only wish I had known this many years ago.... But I would say its ny own fault for not knowing His word.

[@VictorianTexas]

God never under any circumstances wants his children to be abused. I hope you're safe. Yes, He is Helper and Healer at all times.

[@MrDilley777]

Being married to a very narcissistic wife for over 14 years now, and we have been to 5 different marriage counselors, the last three marriage counselors being certified Biblical counselors. Now with no real change on her side has shown me that the demon that works through her lack of ability to exercise the gospel armor has caused me to doubt that she is even saved or born again. The worldly self consumed spirit and the consistent constant criticism and sarcastic blame shifting of me and all others she has had some sort of working relationship with, family relationship, friends and even neighbors around us and even against the most Godly people I have worked with in my job at our church when she worked for them for a few months distributing lunches to the kids in the Christian school at our church just keeps showing how deeply rooted this narcissistic demon is in her. It's really strange that she passes out big food bags, clothing, tents sometimes to the homeless and it seems to show some sort of Godliness in her, but with everyone else the Godliness is not really there. This reminds me of the scripture in 2 Timothy 3. It's been a challenge to grow spiritually at home, but when I go to work at my church as a Buildings and Grounds person being around the most Godly people I've ever known has been a sanctuary of God's mercy for the lack of it at home. My wife has owned her home much longer than we have been married and refuses to put my name on it as also her savings account that's in her name only too, dispite the advice of our marriage counselors to have everything in both our names. She has used this as a tool to threaten me with, to kick me out on the street and or tell me (go live with your mother) countless times and our relationship now is much more like a Master/slave servant relationship than a true husband wife relationship. As far as romance goes, it has been stifled by the narcissistic demon characteristics to the point of no desire for her in that way while this keeps going on with no real change. The lack Humbleness and the willingness to forgive and respect me and others is another sign of how deeply rooted the demonic influence is, but I still have some hope that God can change her heart and cast out the demon that overpowers her at anytime it wants😮😢😊😊😊❤

[@joancollins3355]

I hear you loud and clear. I have the same issue of having a narcissistic husband, never taking responsibility, twisting the truth, never studying God's Word to grow and sadly I see the same behavior in our children. We had a great therapist but he only talks to her when he tries to justify himself but the therapist knows him and points out his need to be consistent for change. Then, the little 8 year old boy in him who experienced arrested development at that age, backs away and crawls back under his rock licking his wounds. And the beat goes on until the 8 year old shows up again through conflict. Sad! I have no meaningful love for him anymore. I tried to leave and the last time, he begged me to stay, that he was changing. The only change was that he goes to the altar for prayer but still does not engage the Bible. When I call it out, that he knows more about the TV then God, he says I'm trying to control him. Don't know how long I can wing this marriage. I pray for us that are entangled this way, that God's will be done for I shouldn't have to stay in this case, only by choice. My choice is to run, fast and don't look back.

[@diannatomson3193]

No!!!! Get out now. She will not change and I learned this the hard way with my narc husband of 20 yrs. Yes God can do anything however, until someone repents and the demons are driven out they can’t change. God will not force someone to change or love Him, it has to come from the heart and be their choice. Narc.’s do not feel authentic love, regret, remorse, etc. They will never be held accountable or apologize. They like the sin they’re in and blame you for everything! God has revealed this to me and I’m now working on a plan to become financially independent and free as my husband is now divorcing me because I stopped feeding the monster. Prayers🙏🏻

[@abclosius201]

Jesus came to save individuals. He didn’t come to save marriages= millions of divorces. God makes all things new!!

[@jasminevillers154]

@abclosius201 yes Amen but He does also want to save marriages for the children's prayers shall be heard !!! Malichi 4:6 I will turn the hearts of the fathers to thier children and hearts of the children to thier fathers !!! We need moms and dads to forgive as CHRIST has forgiven us 🙏 And put our differences aside 🙏 and trust GOD to make all things new !!! Rev 21:5

[@aliciaCANDO]

I have a question. ???So after being married to a man that is perfectly developed narcissistic partner. Is divorce allowable and after time of healing, what does scripture say about remarrying. Won’t we see each other in heaven should the prior narcissist happen to,, become saved by grace???

[@annettebicer7555]

You can leave and get an enollment because of abuse and Marry again.

[@lukasjacobi627]

AMEN

[@LindaBrown-n4o]

A covenant is a covenant. Abuse does not break this covenant. Nothing does, if you are married. The word of God allows separation only, but not divorce. If you divorce you must remain unmarried as long as your former spouse is alive. If you still remarry, you will become an adulterer. But if your former spouse dies, you are release from the covenant and can then remarry. Don’t listen to the commentator. He does not know the word of God. Hard to hear, but it’s the truth.

[@sharonwildes4765]

Yes it does

[@terrelladams2905]

I'm not gonna lie I really wish me and my wife was there but unfortunately we not she done somethings that not forgiveness

[@TheKoollatina]

Good topic, but this voice is boring.

[@mozpogson3639]

Misrepresentation of Matthew 19.

[@helenemakuch8366]

This man doesn't read scripture

[@sharonwildes4765]

No,he does not

[@krystynapodwalnaabebe4758]

Divorce is Not biblically justified, unless in the Old Testament

[@rhondatalkington9696]

My husband abandoned me 5 months into my marriage. And divorced me. That in itself is a form of abuse.

[@rhondatalkington9696]

The NT is a revelation of the OT.

[@rhondatalkington9696]

My late husband abused me physically, and emotionally, & was sleeping w/ other women for 5 years. The church I was in at the time told me I wasn’t allowed to separate from him, bc that was only in the OT. This type of thinking you say, is a faulty belief and lack of understanding of God, and His word!

[@rhondatalkington9696]

I went from an abused to widow. 15yrs. Later I remarried. Then I was abandoned.

[@Selah1141]

LEGALISM NOT GRACE.

[@anthonyalise8254]

God is my healer, and in Him, I find strength !

[@Ann-d6e]

God is my healer and in Him I find strength. Amen