What Does It Mean To Truly Love Someone?

[@slaughterer5383]

What happened with your double vision?

[@RandyAndy7373]

Great subject. Thank you Eric. Nature seems to deceive us when letting us chose our partners mainly by criterias like outer appearance, sexual impulses or social status. I think it was the great Arthur Schopenhauer saying, that 90 percent of the thing we call "Love" lies in the eyes of the one in love (German idealism is calling - men make the world). He argued, that if the woman we adore were born 20 years before, we would not even take her into consideration😢. Then He argues (after sexual impulses has controlled our decisions), we are trapped. Nature mainly wanted the reproduction. Sometimes people are then stuck in a relationship without much or any foundation. Sad and depressing. On the other hand "friendship" Aristoteles thinks, is "one soul living in two bodies". Sounds nice but not sure on that. Dont we need people to grow? Shouldnt they then be different? A good friend should be willing to change us. Also be willing to be changed himself. In the end it seems a mystery🥳🥴 No clue❤🎉🎉

[@consciousphilosophy-ericva5564]

Andy, thanks so much. Great insight. I agree, sometimes people are stuck in meaningless relationships that rise to nothing outside of base interactions and sexual gratification. These relationships will surely fizzle sooner or later, as the natural will seeks to be in accord with the true, the beautiful, and the good, all of which are found in much deeper areas of love. How can anything be sustained on pleasure and appearance alone? "It is not a lack of love," wrote Nietzsche, "but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages."

[@RandyAndy7373]

Its great what you write. Itsva fact and romantic at the same time-)) But how do we deal with the sexual issue? Sometimes it seems to me (and some studies show it) the more someone you get to know is within what we call friendship- zone, the less you want to have sex. And very often one disaproves of a certain character and still: you want that kiss. You ever felt that ambiguity??? What s the cure? Separation of sex and friendship? Different attitude towards sex?