What happens to narcissists AFTER you go no contact?

[@Merbella]

It's hard not being able to share the pain they caused with them. But they don't see it that way at all anyway, so don't bother. 😢

[@dome4ever]

It is difficult for the victim at this moment in Time. When the Season changes, that exact pain will be the death of them. So who is the true victim and the true Victor 💫

[@dome4ever]

@@Merbella You are NOT alone. Do not weep. The Universe knows. The Universe sees and the Universe will deliver at the Perfect Timing. When he least expects it. When you least expect it. The Universe never, never forgets an address. Minimum Karma time to return - Immediate. Normal Karma time to return - 15 to 20 years. Do not ask me how many people I have witnessed endure the above. I speak from first - hand OBSERVATION. You grow, you heal, you glow, you move forward a step at a time, you change your daily routine you change your hobbies, friends, interests, increase your knowledge, skills, learn the meaning of Life, read on the wisdom of the past. Focus on you and the Future. I believe that is your direction? Let the Cycle of grief come over you. Do not deny it. Loss, grief, pity and all negative emotions will soon tire you out. You will want new, higher Energy, frequency and vibration. Let that Joker reshuffle his cards. He may received another Joker soon enough. Rejoice! He needs a Joker; not you. 8 billion people on earth. Remember that. He is not the only person. If he was, he would never be removed from you. Rejection is God's Protection. Unless you want to wallow in his demonic narcissistic spirits.

[@afol4016]

I KNOW ITS HARD TO ACCEPT .YOU HAVE TO KEEP TELLING YOURSELF "THEY DON'T CARE ABOUT ME." BECAUSE THEY WILL TRICK YOU INTO THINKING THAT THEY DO.

[@davidsalo8397]

After you discard a narc, there's a 75% chance they will return. Maybe more. They will attempt to throw everything they can think of to get you back into their mud pit. They don't seem to realize that us empaths no longer want to wrestle a pig.

[@coudgeb]

Nice ❤ perfectly said

[@theguynextdoor4978]

In the eyes of the narc we are traitors. The ones who gets away are traitors, and shall be punished. Going back is the worst possible thing to do. As they age, their abuse might tone down due to their physical limitations. But genuine remorse? nah. They are most likely mourning the fact that they are not getting what their narcissistic ego is "entitled to", and they are probably also having a narcissistic supply crisis.

[@johnmaurer2035]

What's that line from Apocalypse Now? When the CIA guy said "Terminate with extreme prejudice." That's how you wanna treat them.😊

[@Imnotyourdoormat]

What happens to houseplants AFTER you take them out of the sun and put them in a dark closet? What happens to roomba vacuum cleaners AFTER you hide their charging stations up in the attic? What happens to scuba divers AFTER you refuse to refill their O2 tanks?

[@davidsalo8397]

Yup. Narcissists are the same, metaphorically.

[@NewDay8429]

This was so funny esp the roomba one.

[@almondmilksoda]

LIVING WELL IS THE BEST REVENGE. 💯✨‼️👌🏻

[@Zayn913]

The ultimate Narcissist whistle blower 👏🏽

[@ryand1404]

While I usually feel for other people deeply, (as likely many of you do), I am okay with the narc’s deep depression lol

[@deb2319]

Lol

[@johnmaurer2035]

Just remember how they would treat you, given half the chance.😮

[@cyndigooch1162]

I've lost my compassion for certain people as well, which is for the best in regard to safety issues and highly narcissistic exes in my past had, and probably still have, NO trouble getting other women, so wasted my time worrying about how they were coping. 😊

[@coudgeb]

Same 😂

[@suzanne4396]

@@ryand1404 I often giggle to myself when I think of ( KNOW!!) how much my discarding Him permanently, brought out his huge Insecurities about himself; nothing more satisfying after 10 yrs of trauma, to be the reason for him feeling less than, and " Not Enough." Karma, babe.

[@UnknoWnCitizenKb101]

The best revenge towards a Narc is simply just being happy. (that's a direct spit on their face) Ohhh how much they hate seeing you being happy since they themselves are filled with misseries and hatred 🤣

[@benjeboy12]

Almost two years on I have almost brainwashed myself with videos like this great one and I have moved onwards and considerably upwards. To start with I never dreamed this could be possible, I felt so bad at leaving her.

[@davidemm829]

It's rewiring for mental health

[@Sabadiver]

I agree, these videos helped alot, no I've completely forgotten about her, she means nothing to me anymore, what I focus on now though is being on guard for the next time it happens and not to fall for it

[@carparthero]

@benjeboy this video isn't brainwashing LMFAOOO. you are learning about the truth of toxic people. your were brainwashed with your previous limiting beliefs which put you in the position you were previously in with your woman.

[@sassykat2000]

Actually the Narc brainwashed you. You are rewiring your brain back to a healthier state. The tactics they use are the same ones used by the US Military and other countries in Psychological Warfare. Countries just employ the tactics on a larger scale. In fact, the US Military classifies Domestic Violence as Psychological Warfare.

[@KEPSAGAMER]

You never knew her at all man... i had to realize this very same thing and it took quite a while. I always knew i was rsther fked up as a person, but a narc impressed me.... truly cold and callous, not a single care in the world, not even about themselves. They will act against themselves all the time because of the impulsivity... i'm some sort of psychopath, more than likely ASPD, but i realized i wasn't a narc because i don't need supply, in fact quite the opposite, i like solitude. But she truly showed me a monster... i was awestruck someone could truly be emotionless.

[@annaburns2865]

That’s why I sometimes call it “limited contact.” I have had to break no contact briefly and let my family know that I am not happy with how they treated me. I still keep their phone numbers in case they are needed for emergencies or paperwork. But I know better than to go back in full force. At least I think I do. Thank you for the reminder.

[@karensheline6958]

I’ve been No Contact for 9 months. The holidays kicked my a55, I almost broke down and went to visit. I’m so glad I didn’t !!! I’m getting a lot of good info and sheering up from your videos though. Thanks

[@dyoung2739]

My 67 year old brother in law is going through narcissistic collapse rn. Estranged from his 2 children,no friends,2 ex wives.

[@nmc1859]

THROUGH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE. 💖

[@theguynextdoor4978]

Our past comes back biting our butts one day. Same applies to narcs.

[@dyoung2739]

@@theguynextdoor4978 Exactly,we all understand karma but narcs don’t think that their past will ever catch up with them.

[@vincenzorossi4828]

Sad we have to wait that age to see it...

[@dyoung2739]

@@vincenzorossi4828 True

[@life-rethought]

the thing im grappling with, and know better not to, is to not defend myself. for I feel the smear campaign around me in some circles. God is giving me new and healthier people and I need to just focus forward. and let those go who have judged me and dismissed me without seeking a balanced judgement. they sold out to the Narc very easily. And also tO believe he is a possible predator among their flock of AA's would be a very scary thought to accept. it's easier to write me off as crazy and mean. my job is to live ME OUT LOUD. and let go and let God.

[@dome4ever]

Do not bother your mind with idle thoughts. Soon enough, his mask will fall. In a new Season, they will realise his true ID. As for gossip and haters. Pray for them. Their lives must be so miserable and hearts so frustrated that they focus on you. You must be special 🎉 Congratulations 👏 Get up, glow up show up and give them something worthy to gossip about then. Do not waste your time or their time. They need fresh topics of gossip so get the new style, new hair colour, new weight, new bag and let the gossip begin until they fall to the floor in painful envy. Lions walk alone. Sheep flock together or they tremble and fall 💫

[@chxwv]

Not easy to find new relationships or friendships at 56 esp while dealing with the medical issues that can affect a new relationship . If you remember my medical issues are related to an injury that she was entirely responsible, so it’s a very complex mess for me , I sometimes have even wondered if she is ok and wanted to check on her but so far I have been able to resist that urge , as she did not have any medical issues and she knew I was suffering when the reverse discard happened , I did not answer her last text about totally irrelevant issue to what I had told her I was dealing with , and she never texted me again , like she was waiting for that moment , so she can feel good about herself that it was not her who left me all alone when I needed emotional support the most to cope with unbelievable physical issues !

[@donna-colorado8443]

I have been no contact for 2 months now and everything you are saying is so very true. Thank you for this video. Yes, it is because I am lonely.

[@dome4ever]

1. Charity work 2. Social service work 3. Donations 4. New hobbies. Can share on social media or produce video clips to teach others your skill 5. New friends 6. Study course. Never stop learning 7. More interest in Nature. Be present at each Sunrise and Sunset ; bird watching; create a bird bath tub or bird feeding house; care for a rescue animal Be the Victor, not the victim 💫

[@kathy5847]

My ex is a covert narcissist and he blindsided me and discarded me 2.5 yrs ago. I am destroyed and cannot move on. I am crying as I write this. I've done everything I could. Therapy, exercise, eat healthy, medication, workshops, walking, NOTHING helps me move on I am at the end of my rope I cannot keep going on like this I need to do something or I am not going to be here much longer. He does NOT care one bit and he has never reached out to me. Now he has another girlfriend 💔💔💔💔💔😭😭😭😭😭 I am dying inside

[@dome4ever]

If he does not care for you, then why is he still occupying your mind? We need to evaluate YOU. 1. Is he paying you rent to stay in your mind? 2. Do you engage in charity works/service work? See the suffering of others and know you are blessed more so; that you are not alone in your sad situation; on the suffering scale, your situation is far better than that of other beings. I donate to Animal Shelters and hospitals caring for children with cancer. I am blessed when I look at their situation 🙏 3. Do you have evidence his new supply is genuine and not seeing through his mask as well? Do you know if she is plotting an escape already? Do you know if they are loyal to each other? Do you know if she is also a narcissist? What a perfect union that will be. Rejoice! 4. Rejection is often God's Protection. I learnt this lesson many years ago. The Universe sees/knows the future and if you were separated from impending danger then you are a Chosen One. Rejoice! We know not all people are rescued 😢 You have 2 Life choices moving forward this day - be the Victim or the Victor. On an earth with 8 billion people, he is not that special or the Universe would not have separated you from that demonic infested being. You were saved. Rejoice! Winter always turns to Spring. Come out of Winter and embrace the buds and blooms of Spring and Summer. Focus on your healing, growth, increasing your Energy, vibration and Frequency. The Law of Attraction will grant you your desires as you evolve. Silently and swiftly you will be amazed to see the changes. Keep a diary. Record your feelings each day. Read page 1 again in the New Year and see if you still feel and think the same. You may be very surprised. Do not worry about him. He will keep reshuffling his cards and the Jokers will keep coming into his life as he matures 💫 This is the Circle of Life. It is a Universal Law. You are welcome to detach yourself from your situation and commence studying the Laws of Life, which govern ALL living beings. Awaken your mind. Wishing you a life of Victory 💫

[@76_Red_Pills]

So sorry that POS got u that way. Me too. 13 yrs wasted just to be thrown away for a casual stranger. Again. It gets better and now I've been getting to be grateful she's gone! Have you tried dating other people yet? I know that's going to help me tremendously!Best wishes for you, sincerely😮

[@silviamihailova6042]

This time no contact will be for good😢😢😢😢no metter how unreal pain i am in

[@andrewbeckman7687]

shame and fear are often unconscious drivers of behaviors that disserve them. Bringing gentle attention to the sneaky ways that shame shows up is often the first step toward living a more authentic and satisfying life. Shame - that gnawing sense of being flawed, defective, and unworthy of love - drives us to construct a self that we think (or hope) will be acceptable to others. Being rejected, banished, and humiliated are among the most painful human experiences. We may perpetuate our anxiety and exhaust ourselves trying to use our intelligence to figure out who we need to be in order to win the acceptance and love that we crave. Rather than relax into our natural, authentic self, we twist ourselves into knots in order to belong and feel safe. When our experience has taught us that it’s not safe to be authentic, we labor long and hard to design and polish a self that we think we be acceptable. For some people, this might be trying to showcase our cleverness, beauty, or sense of humor. For others, it might be amassing wealth or power to show the world how “successful” we’ve become. We may strive to be better than others or special in order to be loved. Trying to be someone we’re not is exhausting. Many of us have been so driven by shame to create a false self that we’ve lost touch with the goodness and beauty of who we really are. Shame and Authenticity Shame and authenticity go hand in hand. If we hold the core belief that we’re flawed, then this mental/emotional construct colors who we are and what we present to the world. Shame conditions us to lose touch with the spontaneous, joyful child within us. Life becomes serious business. Internalizing the message that there’s no room to be our authentic self, with its strengths and limitations, we move away from ourselves. Our sense of self-worth can only grow in a climate of affirming who we are, which includes validating the full range of our feelings and honoring our needs, wants, and human foibles. As we come to recognize when shame is operating and how it holds us back, it begins to loosen its destructive grip over us. Gradually, we can honor and stand behind ourselves, regardless of how others might judge us. We realize more and more that we have no control over what others think about us. Holding ourselves with respect and dignity becomes increasingly ascendant - displacing our real or imagined thoughts about how we’re being perceived by others. We discover how freeing and empowering it is to be our authentic self. The limitations of language make it difficult to talk about authenticity. The “authentic self” is really a misnomer. It implies that there is some ideal way of being and that we need to find our authentic self, as if it existed apart from our moment to moment experiencing. If we cling to a construct in our mind about what it means to be our authentic self, we’re missing the point. Being authentic is a verb, not a noun. It’s a process of mindfully noticing the ever-changing flow of experiencing inside us, apart from the contaminating influences of shame and our inner critic. We give ourselves full permission to notice what we’re feeling, sensing, and thinking in this moment of time - and we’re willing to congruently show that when it feels right to do so.

[@suzanne4396]

Except he has new, younger supply who has no clue about WHAT he is or what he's done to exes, particularly his recently ex- wife

[@deb2319]

Healing & Sound Advice Danielle. 🎉🎉🎉

[@izawaniek2568]

True. I totally agree with you Danielle.

[@franciscocardenas5758]

Well put! Excellent insight! Thank you, Danielle Radin, for posting videos that have helped me improve my life. 🙂👍

[@cyndigooch1162]

Thank you very much again and I've mentioned before that I'm way past the stage of wanting to contact exes (a couple died many years ago, so it's not possible with them) about the huge issues they caused in my life! I know that the last self-confessed sociopathic ex was aware anyway, because he'd admitted that he was only using me for a place to stay etc, then said that I didn't deserve what he was doing to me while packing to leave. He also apologised for a particular traumatic incident that occurred, which probably wasn't genuine at all. I'm having a more difficult time with my sister though due to wanting to talk to her about the immense harm she's caused over the years. She isn't aware of the extent of the damage because she criticises me for issues she played a part in. On the other hand, she gets extremely defensive and does the DARVO thing, if I mention the physical and psychological abuse. She usually accuses me of living in the past etc as well. Mind you, she's a social worker and I've mentioned that it seems like she doesn't understand trauma issues, despite her profession. She always responds that she certainly does, yet obviously not in regard to her own behaviour. 🥺

[@davidsalo8397]

Yes. There are social worker types that are definitely afflicted with the same kind of toxic behaviors that they seek to resolve in other people. Just like with "regular" narcissists who point out toxicity in others. Somehow it clears them of their own malignancy. Narcissists typically give themselves away.

[@iloveubcuziamu]

We all crawled out of the uterus of the primordial narcissism

[@suzi9411]

Thank you, Danielle. I am listening to this again after I've just received a hoover after 1 year.

[@RayGonzales-o2v]

You're awesome ty so much 💗

[@davidemm829]

Repeat," I am no one to them and this will NEVER change" no relapses allowed..they are the direct gate way to dopamine surges of the bad type, smelling Ng flowers, and hiking are the good type

[@silviamihailova6042]

I have already feel better after 2 months no contact, soon change my phone number and i am done😢

[@kathy5847]

Did everyone here discard their narc? Because mine discarded me and i actually didn't know he was a covert narcissist until way after the discard and blindside. I didn't even know they existed

[@afol4016]

DON'T DO IT. YOU MAY THINK THEY WILL CHANGE, BUT THEY WON'T. ARE YOU LISTENING? RESPECT YOURSELF. BUILD A BETTER, GOOD, LOVE FILLED LIFE ELSEWHERE. IT WON'T BE EASY, BUT YOU WILL FIND PEOPLE WHO CARE ABOUT YOU.

[@richyrich4672]

The red lipstick looks very nice on you.

[@ome1211]

What if they are my parents and I visit them on Christmas or just in their birthdays or very rare occasions? Do you think that would be acceptable?

[@willshredd]

ARRR ya ready.... The hardest part is knowing you had to give them back the same energy instinctualy..out of love. The indifference. the hardest for most of us here...fell all the way in love and this is the scar. The love we hold Sacred.. This is the trauma. For us the union is all It's life love love is all. And you're Wound Of not staying till the end. Of giving up the fight, it's not in us. We would never leave a wounded. We would never leave a child. This is in our Heart soul and spirit. What we must. Accept, we are not Angels. We cannot save them all. We're to have faith in the Lord. Mary and Jesus have taken us this far. we Trust in the Lord pray for your loved ones.

[@vtmegrad98]

I'm skeptical of this, the collapse part, simply because of how quickly my wife roped in someone from my former social circle to be her new supply.

[@dome4ever]

Skeptical? Do not always believe what your human eyes see or you will be deceived. Utilise your Third Eye, Sir. 1. Are they truly happy? 2. Is she changing her masks each day to keep him and make you envious? What a waste of a Life 3. Are her actions fuelled by negative energies, thoughts and feelings or joy and happiness? Would you like to inhale those negative emotions by being near her? They are the true cause of physical ailments - when your body and Soul alignment is disjointed 4. Do you know if the other person is not becoming suspicious of her behavior/intentions and thinking of an escape route already whilst saving face in public? 5. Do you know a narcissist is always searching for the next Supply? They have secret lives - multiple accounts, multiple social media pages, multiple profiles, multiple masks. They must keep changing it to match the day. Imagine their tortured thoughts at night when the world sleeps well and they lie awake thinking of their mask for tomorrow. 6. Do you have absolute proof of joy, love and LOYALTY? Do not make assumptions, please. Have evidence of their absolute love and loyalty Heal. Grow. Glow. Be the Victor not the victim. Wait, watch and see. Your skepticism today will be your validation tomorrow. Early days sweet ways when the sun sets the love and loyalty you thought you saw will be no more 💫

[@KarenMarie1111]

🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@AnnCooper33]

😭😭😭

[@heatherbowman9450]

519 likes!🌺🌷🌸🌻💐

[@nicholecornes1915]

Dont do it!

[@DKSE123]

I have narsasist phone number blocked . I do however sometimes unblock them & text them as who they are. So , ill text them and say "hey , arrogant queer fuck what's up" . Then I block them again , so I don't have to listen to any of their extremely arrogant queer fuck bullshit.

[@Acess-1bx]

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