What Happens to Your Vagina if You Don’t Have Sex (for a Long Time). A Doctor Explains

What happens to your vagina if you don’t have sex? Many of you have asked so I’m answering here!
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[@DrJenCaudle]

Have any of you dealt with infertility? What have been your experiences? I just filmed a video on the shame that can happen around infertility and I would love to get your thoughts. Here it is- pls weigh in: INFERTILITY: How to Deal with Shame & Stigma & How to Find Hope. A Doctor Weighs in kzbin.info/www/bejne/apewgJJplJuWo8U

[@ariassuicidalthoughts9931]

What if still 27 year old Virgin does that affect your body in some way

[@DWaide-tw5dp]

😊​@@ariassuicidalthoughts9931

[@IsabelYap-ik8hh]

What ........????????

[@dabbbles]

@@DorthyConti Aren't you lucky YOUR MOTHER didn't hold the same stupid views?

[@dabbbles]

There's no 'shame and stigma' in infertility: it's simply a 'fact of life' we have to deal with. BUT, infertility makes a powerful argument for dumping 'monogamy'. There are many more reasons people can provide benefits for each other besides making babies.. (eg an otherwise very compatible and mutually-effective couple can create a GREAT life for themselves and for others on many levels.) BUT the fertile partner has every right to want to create descendants and preserve his seed/DNA. The obvious solution is to have as many permanent partners as possible; a situation where EVERYBODY has their needs met: both immediately and down the ages. EVERY species except pompous/self-important homo-sapiens understands that. (ever seen a bitch in heat relate to umpteen dogs??) 'Monogamy' is a religious-based SOCIAL rule that makes 'the masses' much easier to control and otherwise take advantage of.(eg. The same pack of dogs that travels miles to try their luck NEVER pay taxes to feed hordes of politicians/bureaucrats; what 'groupings are called for are more generally known as 'families'. (eg a pride of lions) and in such a mutually-supportive 'family' conditions like 'infertility' are irrelevant. Every member contributes in the best way they can. eg: an infertile lioness may make a GREAT babysitter, which allows the other lionesses to make their own contributions: eg hunting to help feed everybody. Mother Nature has successfully managed life for billions of years, and we should look to her for our lessons and directions.

[@graciousgirl5161]

No sex = no diseases, clearer mind, and self love.

[@user-lx8bb8et6d]

Very good. I agree completely.

[@Jia-dp9cu]

Totally agree👍

[@MindinMyBizBeingNosey]

🎯💯

[@richiehumaritoq5e260]

facts

[@moremore1865]

Right ✅️

[@tyzhonnababb370]

Just turned 22. Still a virgin. Never been in a relationship. And I think that’s wonderful.

[@DrJenCaudle]

That’s ok!

[@tyzhonnababb370]

@@DrJenCaudle 🫶🏽

[@redknight4458]

Stay virgin until you get married. Its worth it

[@CaliMisfit1921]

Stand on this!

[@lesbethtacioni1733]

You'll know when you're ready.

[@CaroL-nf5rs]

10 yrs celibate. After men messing up my life and the stress it caused this is much better. Peace is invaluable

[@user-pt4ze2fy8m]

Amen! Just hit 11 years celibate last month and it's been Amazing! Wouldn't trade it for anything. I just turned 39 and I'm fully dedicated to the Lord and I won't lose my peace for ANY man.

[@susansmith493]

Men are saying the same of women.

[@julied213]

I agree. No drama, lies, deception, games and stress.

[@shawn-pu9is]

congrats!

[@dabbbles]

Nowhere more peaceful than the grave, Toots.

[@robbie382]

29 with no sex. Everybody calls me crazy that I don’t have a bf but I am happy.

[@DrJenCaudle]

Yay and that’s all that matters!

[@fixitorforgetit]

That is like a bird not flying!!

[@dansvaroga5332]

everyone tells you that you are crazy, and the real truth is that most of them would like to be in your place. love your self and never be guided by someone else's opinion. I wish you all the best.

[@zenafaye7183]

Good for you girl! Keep preserving your womb from the male ego and violence!

[@pumpkinpatch5]

@@fixitorforgetitlol! There’s more to life pal.

[@margosimmons7040]

Many people believe that women can’t live w/o sex. It’s so many of us that’s living w/o it. True Story

[@lynnspurlock]

Amen❤

[@Jayev110]

3.5 years next month 🎉

[@Ms.ChristaVictoria]

6years!!

[@lynnpratt9069]

20 years here

[@Karma_616]

💯💯💯💯

[@user-yi5ny5jg5i]

No sex= no trauma, no disease, no worries and have a Peace of mind.

[@DrJenCaudle]

Ok!

[@hazel5520]

I agree..no narcissistic in my life

[@tubester4567]

But no sex also means no children and that means fewer people working and paying taxes to look after you when you are older, pay for pensions for the retired. medical care, or nursing home care etc. Its a serious thing for the whole of society. I understand why people give up on relationships (because people are crazy and selfish these days) but so many people are on anti-depressants and psyche meds and that can kill your sex drive .Something like 50% of women are on medication. Our society has a lot of problems. Men are messed up too.

[@denyshadials5702]

@@tubester4567 Children are not obligated to care for the parents in their old age. There’s plenty of women that have popped out a bakers dozen just to die alone in the nursing home without a visit or phone call in 10 years. If they want to, they’ll take care of you. If they don’t they won’t. Then you’ll have had all those kids for nothing since that’s all they meant to you.

[@tubester4567]

@@denyshadials5702 Its more serious than that though. To provide everything we rely on everyday takes workers. Someone has to grow our food. we need transport drivers to disperse our food and goods, we need people to build roads and maintain the water pipes so you can drink water, sanitation workers to remove our waste. Someone needs to work at restaurants and fast food and gas stations to fill your car. There are many experts and scientists who say collapsing populations is a huge threat to humanity and our standard of living.

[@s.youngblood6193]

I haven’t had sex in over 8 years. I’m just not willing to put myself out there enough to trust again. I respect my body and I’m not willing to give it up to anyone that I can’t trust.

[@beyondreality8506]

9 years myself and what you've said definitely resonates with me. I feel the same.

[@luciagraniela2506]

Wonderful! Admire you!

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

I believe there is someone you will trust and make you happier and move forward in life.

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

But first love! Can you show deep love and care for a man?

[@user-xt7gz5nt4s]

Same me 😂😂😂😂

[@priyadwivedi1860]

Turned 34 and proudly virgin.. It gives me power to control mind... and when you learn to control your hormones, nothing is impossible in this world... Meditation is most beautiful and powerful activity which calm down all the energy and convert it in positivity

[@rasmim231]

Same 34 still Virgin

[@Anonymous-sf4hw]

33 and still no sex

[@Heyl00kitsthatoneguy]

I'm 34 and still a virgin too

[@lemonlimesnout]

I'm turning 31 this year and proud virgin! 👏

[@artsyalkalearnandgrowbeaut3731]

Me too! 36 and no sex

[@wjperdue]

Proud of those who take control of their bodies and don't feel pressured to have sex. Our bodies are precious and should be treated that way.

[@DrJenCaudle]

Yes!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@tammi67able]

Amén ❤

[@dbrooks8621]

Pride for all women no matter their choice is more appropriate. A woman who takes control of her body and decides to experience sexual pleasure is an equally good choice.

[@twylashavers4977]

@wjperdue you are correct. And awake it is to many STD’S out here to allow ourselves to be pressured with this sex nonsense. Stay strong it is nothing but a trap to produce more STD’s. That means more aids medication. Ladies do not feed into this garbage. For all we know a lot of them ain;t nothing but sex pots talking out the side of their necks. Ladies stay woke.

[@kadzo6614]

some of us are not about control, we just don't have partners

[@kenyalove7343]

I’ve been divorced and abstinent for 6 years now…no shame here hunny! I’m proud of being healthy (physically, emotionally, & mentally) and want to stay healthy 😊

[@DrJenCaudle]

yay!

[@nothingnobody6688]

Me too but I do my exercises U know the one ❤ from Australia

[@kaydee7634]

I love it and the same here...

[@saundrafoster8768]

It’s been 20 years for me, my husband passed 15 years ago and he had Alzheimer’s before he passed. I think about it, but I don’t miss it😊

[@queenvictory6916]

Amen

[@strawberrymilkshake6229]

Turn 29 this 22/5 and still virgin. Never dated and I'm happy. No conflict, drama, healthy mental❤

[@DrJenCaudle]

Yay!

[@PhinaLuv]

I'm so encouraged by these comments. I don't feel so alone. We need more of these conversations I was feeling terrible for not having sex like it's not common for ppl around me to just be Disciplined sexually. Thanks, ladies!

[@DrJenCaudle]

It’s all good. And you’re JUST FINE 😀

[@toots810usa6]

10 years celibate, single and loving my life. I am a cancer survivor and have zero desire and I am glad I feel it's a gift from God.

[@SonyaUify]

👉📖 Luke 12:32 KJV “Fear not, little flock; for it is your Father's good pleasure to give you the kingdom.”.

[@dabbbles]

??????? Your vagina/uterus/boobs/bum/etc are a 'gift from god': and they're designed to fulfil a PURPOSE!. (Gen.3:16) Celibacy is a defiance of god's will. A SIN! Shame on you!

[@freespirit21newyork]

I never thought I would be celibate cuz I was always sexually active from 14-50 , and I'm really surprised how great I feel. I turned it over to my FATHER of LIGHTS✨👑✨

[@hereandnow8578]

yea but tell that to the catholic church! you are some kind of anomaly

[@freespirit21newyork]

@@hereandnow8578 👎👎👎👎

[@frans.3317]

I am 86 and met a man 86 . I visit him on the weekend and we have sexual activity every weekend and we feel so much love and relaxation . We have been seeing each other a year. Its never too late if you find someone you love.

[@DrJenCaudle]

i love this! congrats! you're such an inspiration!

[@CagedbirdFree]

Thanks for sharing. My mother"s ex husband died, and she is still vibrant and youthful looking at 86 years young. I want her to find someone that enjoys travel. Enjoys Living. Im so happy you are enjoying life.

[@darshipurewal5739]

That is.lovely

[@truthserum3960]

Why not get married? It's never too late for that either, right?

[@DrTLKillens]

Wonderful!!

[@anjoleeeickhoff6800]

We waited for marriage. We were 23 when we got married. My husband and I have been married for 32 years. Waiting was the best thing, we got to learn together what each other likes. Sex has changed over the years as we had children and then the kids grew up and sex changed again, then we got older and things changed a bit and then some sickness and it changed again but it never gets boring with all the changes that come in life. I personally think sex just gets better and better because you learn so much about each other at different stages of your life together. I’m so thankful for my husband and I couldn’t imagine being with anyone else. ❤

[@Deewhite31]

I did too

[@angelm6497]

Thats actually to way to do it.

[@d.b.g9216]

Same …I got married at 25, and I’m so glad that we waited until we were married before we had sex, for us it was the right choice. We met in our early 20s and we had time to really build our relationship on trust and being great friends, then when we got married we became lovers. Sex isn’t everything imo, we have been happily married for over 40 yrs ❤

[@angelm6497]

@@d.b.g9216 my understanding is that it is better to wait. It makes the difference between it bring something special or a chore thats expected or demanded by either party.

[@ShaniTheBurningTree]

I’ve been abstinent for about 2 years. I have a new boyfriend and we are bonding emotionally and intellectually as well as spiritually. When the time comes I want both of us to be comfortable. He’s been celibate since 2019. We are such an amazing couple. That’s the most important part. Doing this shows us how we will do this when we get older.

[@francinalazarus9909]

I once went to my Dr for my pap test. The nurse who did the test asked me "when was the last time I had sex because my vigina was too tight". I told her I was abstaining. She was rather shocked. I was confused as to why she was acting shocked. The society we live in is just making it hard. Thank you Dr for assuring us that " It's OK.

[@DrJenCaudle]

it's such a shame you had this experience. i'm so sorry. you're just fine and it's ok to abstain from sex if you want

[@Toody49]

I can relate. When the HPV vaccine came out, the nurse gave me some literature and asked me if I wanted her to tell the doctor I wanted the vaccine. I told her that I was sexually inactive, and asked if I needed it despite that. She said, “But you had sex before, but just a while ago right?” I said no. She could not fathom that I had never had sex.

[@kaydubya6347]

A lot of this is not true. And it dowsnt keep getting "infinitely tighter amd tighter " based on how long you abstain. It can get SMALLER but that's not the same as tight.. tight would be like if a person got injections in their walls to make the FIT tighter... The kind of smaller it gets from inactivity would be like how a peach, strawberry or plu m gets smaller... It's ATROPHY.. like if a body builder gets atrophy on an arm and it gets super wimpy . Also it CAN close too, because I know a close friend who said that her Dr said ONE SIDE of her vagina is closed, and that's because she's a lesbian who does NO PENETRATION AT ALL, and she's 52. ( one side as in to the the left side of her cervix , it's closed. If someone forced something in there's she'd rip and need surgery

[@mandyharewood886]

You needed assurance????

[@mandyharewood886]

​@@Toody49Sex is overrated anyway.

[@comtaar2245]

Let’s not forget that not having sex can be very positive, as having sex with the wrong person, without the right feelings, can cause anxiety and a whole host of huge problems.

[@jeanneratterman]

Yup

[@sumisumi5214]

And you absorb their negative energy through sex which can drain you physically and mentally.

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

I want a woman who knows what love, care, understanding is.

[@fionastone7320]

Almost 35 years celibate here. Not a problem

[@kazzana9013]

I am 68 and I miss that connection with my late husband. Whatever I do for myself is a poor substitute. On the subject of dryness, that problem went away when I changed my diet to keto, and returned to 20s levels of secretion when I went fully carnivore. My husband also had a return of the morning woody with the elimination of carbohydrates. Many others have commented on similar results, so diet should be a consideration.

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

Wow, but you still need affection, love and happiness.

[@tammyterrell1641]

I’m 10 years of celibacy. I am a widow. My husband passed 7 years ago to cancer. We were together for 30 years, married for 25 of those years. I miss him everyday. My everything, my soulmate.

[@hollandhollywood329]

Nothing stoppin you from having sex. It's not unfaithfulness. "death do us part", go out and enjoy life.

[@goodyear4474]

It's lovely to read your comment, you loved and you were loved. God bless you, you are one of the lucky ones.

[@anapritchard9550]

It's good to keep Good memories But do you believe that he would've Want you to move on with life. Don't live in the memories 🇯🇲 🇨🇷

[@cyndimoring9389]

it's not about that. It's about wanting it. I'm a widow too and it's just not big deal. I miss him too much. I've got a vibrator. That's plenty. @@hollandhollywood329

[@crcastillo615]

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm hoping for your healing back to happiness and new love, so he can rest in peace knowing the love of his life wasn't permanently scarred.

[@teresaacevedo1731]

It’s been 16 years since my husband I have had intercourse . He has prostate cancer and with that he has ED . We have had intimate moments here and there. We’ve been together 25 years and married almost 22 years. We love each other and that’s all that matters to us . He’s 71 and I just turned 65 a few days ago. We can still enjoy each other in so many ways other than intercourse. When you are with the right person , you will do whatever it takes to make your relationship work.

[@alyssawoodman]

That's so cool 😎

[@laurawalker546]

Bless you both!

[@echibukuaz7063]

WOW! Such similar situation to yours.

[@nessaj4522]

You go lady the best to you two.. I always thought it was just me. Operations and things and when you're not with just one special person makes the years go by. Yes then you find yourself in your 60's. Your heart remains open for love though. 2023.

[@Sashstashreview]

That’s very admirable. God bless you two.

[@kymtv9137]

I was celibate for 10 plus years, had a hysterectomy within that time in 2020, and ended up meeting someone in 2021, and we are still together, and he has no complaints

[@selenaalareinaa]

I want to be completely honest…. I lost it at 17…. Through the years I’ve grown celibate now 32. When I was 22 or at least until 26 I was hooked now that I have like years not doing anything I’ve been taken into depression…. This is why I’m sooooo shocked by all these comments in this podcast… Thank you for this podcast and my respects to all the women that have been even longer without it and happy with themselves Wowww ❤

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

I want a woman who knows what love, care, understanding is.

[@smartanajones4u]

Ive been abstinent for almost 6 years and I’ve been more emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually, financially healthier and career driven (and accomplished) than I’ve ever been in my life. My decision wasn’t by design. I just rather go to sleep at night and wake up in the morning with my self-respect, dignity, pride and be in my right mind….. I just refuse to give my body to someone and play the “let’s do it and see what happens” game. I know this isn’t right for everyone, but it’s been a soul saver for me because I’ve not been consumed by nor trapped in a toxic, painful soul tie with anyone since my last relationship and this has protected and even elevated my level of peace so I can do great things in this limited lifetime. As beautiful as sex can be with the right person, sex is too overrated in this highly sexualized culture we live in - as if people don’t eventually have to get out that bed at some point in time. In fact, most people are out of that bed more than rolling around it in. Then what do you have? Usually the drama, dysfunction and displeasure of the relationship to deal with. I’d rather spend the rest of my finite time here self-actualizing my God given purpose because honestly I think I’ve had enough gratuitous, fruitless, dead end sex to last me a lifetime.

[@talenalewis1823]

I feel exactly the same and it's even been six years for me too.

[@kershamartin7353]

Ditto!

[@iamkesha.]

I feel the same way as you but I see your 6 years and I rise you 11 years. After I went through a divorce, I refused to give my body to just anyone.

[@jonesjois3169]

U do not need 2 apologies 2 any1 it is true spuritually u kicked them lilith off and physically carry all Ur energy so whatever u touch prospers . Be grateful av personally been off and know the difference, liberation & rightfullness and alertness on all levels. 4 me it is the best FREEDOM AV EVER GOT, whuuuuu ❤❤❤❤❤ HOWEVER, This is not 4 evry1 pips so choose Ur struggle.

[@tammi67able]

Amén

[@lindaj7167]

I find that it's not the sex itself that I'm nervous about it's the kind of people out there that scares me about having sex again after years of not having it.

[@DrJenCaudle]

You are not lying about this! I’m with you!

[@andreaberryman5354]

I can see that. It makes sense.

[@lindaj7167]

@@andreaberryman5354 sis the thing is things have changed so much. People are not so caring these days because of the availability of p*rn so easily so people can't be bothered to make an effort and not only that they expect you to be a p*rn star in bed 😅 I'm not that desperate.

[@patriciahorton6070]

I understand what you are saying I've met some guys but, none of which I wanted to give myself to not because I was afraid they were not worthy of my cookies.

[@patriciaroney262]

I feel the same way, I don’t want to ever be with a senior citizen gigolo!!

[@janiece8439]

I am a senior who lost her husband I am frankly shocked with comments from women saying they are happier without sex. I miss that intimacy and pleasure Nothing compares

[@mikimiki6202]

I think that so many women were abused. So they may be enjoying the liberation from their abuse. My Mom was the same, she had no interest. It's probably difficult to miss the man trying to set you on fire after beating you, the kids & breaking your nose 3 times. I hear what you're saying & I know lovely couples that suffer from loss. Perhaps the comments come from women with similar experiences or just fearful to end up that way. You were blessed to have something so special. God bless 🙌

[@verilyveraleigh]

38 yo & also find it rather disturbing how many women claim to be voluntarily celibate and "happy". Almost as disturbing as how many men who find themselves to be "better off" single. Some might even say that "social" media ushered in the collapse of civilization and promotes lazy, inauthentic corporate beta zombies with a lack of desire, value & purpose.

[@kazzana9013]

I am with you. I so miss the intimacy with my husband. I feel so many woman under value the role sex plays in marriage, which must have an effect on the rest of their relationship. I knew I was cherished and blessed. Nothing in the world can compare with pleasure of love play with your mate.

[@user-qf9fd2wg7j]

I guarantee you, they're all lying..😊

[@CarolSchenkl]

That's because yours was a loving relationship. Too many men do only care about their pleasure however where ever along w lies in getting what they want as single me abd terrible married men shopping fir sex on the side. Sex wo commitment is simply sex not loving. Your more fortunate than many even amoung married women. From things married women have confided in me with.

[@thomaxinedixon9852]

Extremely helpful especially for a woman who's been a widowed for 18 years

[@DrJenCaudle]

❤️❤️❤️

[@mysticwonders6972]

I have gone without sex for YEARS (around 8) simply because I am demisexual so I have no arousal without the emotional connection first. It's perfectly natural for some of us to just not desire sex much. It's not that we don't enjoy it, just don't want it right then. So anyone feeling shamed about not having sex for a long time, it's completely fine. Lots of love to all of you ❤

[@Gothgalactica]

Im also demi sexual, its been about 3 or so years for me. Doesn't really bother me either. I miss affection more than anything! Love to you too 💜

[@carine4318]

25 years for me and not fussy

[@xkhalilthebossxx9986]

Oh so thats what it is I can't just sleep with anymore unless I love them my husband is oversees and haven't had sex in a long time

[@margaret4807]

@@carine4318 Same for me🙏

[@SlayerOfTheDamned]

@@carine4318demisexual isn’t a thing. That’s just a fancy way of labeling yourself to make you sound more interesting. Not being sexually aroused until you know the person is normal or at least it was before hookup culture.

[@robsky148]

I was abstinent for 17 years. After my relationship ended, I was a single parent with 2 children, so I put it to the back of my mind and did what I had to do to raise happy healthy children. I wasn't interested in another relationship, so it wasn't hard. I wasn't interested in "no strings attached" sex. I have now raised my children to adulthood, met a wonderful guy and hopping back on the saddle was no problem. It's like riding a bike..you never really forget how 😅

[@DrJenCaudle]

Ah I see! Thanks for sharing!

[@mariocondello2353]

You honestly expect us to believe this?

[@robsky148]

@@mariocondello2353 don't particularly care if you believe it or not. I have no reason to make it up 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@stephanies9071]

​@@mariocondello2353No one needs you to believe it. Just because you probably have no self control does not mean someone else doesn't. 😄

[@lillymurray8408]

@@mariocondello2353 in what world would u think women don’t have sex for this long? It’s been 2 years for me, I focus on my children. Dont care about sex or men. We exist. Just because YOU are out here fucking whores doesn’t mean all women are. You’re giving alpha male/possible incel vibes. Grow up Mario….

[@naomixiziz3657]

I love this. You added hope to me. At first I have been worried about what you going to say. Thanks for not discouraging us. I better wait for one to belong to than playing it with anyone for it's delusional and crazy and it really hurts

[@estherthaher]

I really value intimacy, but I've chosen to stay celibate for a while now. I believe in being selective about who I share that part of myself with because I see my body as something sacred. Even though I'm not currently active, everything's in great shape when I am. Honestly, there's absolutely no shame in abstaining!❤

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

I believe there is someone you trust and will make you happier and move forward in life

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

I believe there is someone you trust and will make you happier and move forward in life

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

Wow, but you still need affection, love and happiness.

[@agtclairl]

I'm turning 27 this year, and still virgin@never had sex. I love myself too much, Thanks God 🙏🏻

[@gargi9319]

Damn girl, youre precious. I wish I had Waited until marriage😢

[@shaileenacevedo2938]

That's is amazing I wish I had waited until I got married .

[@valerieorser2517]

🎉 Yasss knowing your worth is absolutely beautiful ❤️😍

[@dabbbles]

How sad! WHY TF do yoiu suppose god created you (among countless others all the way back to Eve) with a vagina, uterus, boobs, wriggly-bum and all the other good bits if you weren't supposed to USE them??!

[@dabbbles]

@@gargi9319 Mariage is a political invention. God nowhere demands it. He just built Eve with all the fun bits FOR A REASON, and told her to got to it at Adam's demand. Gen.3:16

[@Bolazest]

Am proud of myself. Am 24 and still a virgin. Patiently waiting for the right person. I don't feel pressured to have sex.... Thanks doc for the info

[@cashmonispen4380]

Keep it up hun ❤ I'm proud of you ❤ Trust me you're not missing out on anything, there's too much toxicity and bad energy out here. I hope you find your soulmate and good luck! ❤

[@germayhagos2563]

Wow it’s hard to find people like you and lucky who can make relationships with you ❤❤❤

[@turaymamusu1005]

Wow

[@amonkiplimokosgei7277]

Wow no !!!!!

[@andrewinglis2780]

You're a rare breed 😍

[@danidee9503]

30 yrs old and haven't had sex in over 10 yrs since I was at least 19. Sometimes I do crave intimacy but when I look at how low the bar is in the dating scene nowadays I just don't worry about it.

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

Wow, but you still need affection, love and happiness.

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

I want a woman who knows what love, care, understanding is.

[@lifemantratarot]

It's interesting that this popped up on my feed. I've been celibate for just over 2 years; I chose to do this for spiritual reasons. However, I sometimes wonder how my celibacy affects my body. These are very insightful answers!

[@DrJenCaudle]

I’m so glad!

[@anitanelson7494]

It doesn't make me anxious it just makes me cautious because dating is just not the way it used to be❤

[@DrJenCaudle]

You’re right and smart to be cautious

[@dabbbles]

How do you know that??

[@dabbbles]

@@DrJenCaudle I never did understand the hamerican definition for 'dating'. (eg. 'I have a date for a dental appointment'.) But clearly YOU can't get a man in your pants. I think the term is 'Sour grapes'. Try LESS make-up and a more genuine smile. Or get a blind boyfriend.

[@gertrudemensah2607]

🫣🤣🤣😂😂😂💔I guess am on the same page with you. Most men these days can’t control their libidos. They go about sexing everything sexable 😅 and being healthy is paramount. You can’t have repercussions for someone’s mistakes.

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

It was never better. Just keep that in mind. Not for women anyway.

[@amethawilliams4771]

I am a 41 year old virgin soon to be 42, my birthday is next month. I am glad to find that I am not alone on this thread. I have done my best to keep my virginity a secret because people tend to think you're a weirdo if you haven't lost your virginity after a certain age.

[@ameerzaman8254]

Why

[@amethawilliams4771]

@@ameerzaman8254 Why? Please expand on your question?

[@tammydinatalli1245]

... I believe, in their one word question, they are asking.... Why you are still a virgin at your said age? Why you've never chosen to have intercourse? If I am wrong in the elaboration of the persons question . Meaning, than correct me and I will sincerely apologize to all. I don't think I am incorrect tho. Also I don't think they wanted to explain their question because they feel it's impolite and intrusive to ask that. If that was information wanted for others to know it would have been included in the original comment. However don't feel obligated to answer or explain anything to anyone. It's your body, your choice and your life! That... Is All that matters. 💜✌🏼

[@pamwhipple7580]

Awesome stay that way no reason to be shameful

[@CROWNEDGOLDENBEAUTY]

I’m 33!

[@annemarieshanahan642]

Live ur life on ur own terms. Don't listen to anyone else. U know urself best. Talk to ur dr & don't listen to social media.

[@DrJenCaudle]

Yes!

[@nadineashley5754]

Thanks for clarifying that topic , I was worried I've gone 7 yrs now without sexual intercourse. Still loving it

[@mstyles2667]

I am 43 and have been abstaining for 7 years. I honestly couldn't care less if I ever have sex again, I wish I had flipped the script on my life much sooner. I am much more calm and at peace without having to worry about sexpectations of men in my life. Hopefully I will have a long healthy fruitful life on my own.

[@DrJenCaudle]

Bless you!

[@MarieMarie-ow2pi]

I agree wholeheartedly! On the road to 9 years. A wise astronaut once said, "To infinity and beyond!" 😅

[@purpose2414]

😂😂😂😂😂😂 Well said!

[@smartaward20078]

I’m 45 year old and I haven’t had sex for 10 years. God will send my mate when it’s time.

[@andreawhitman6419]

I am 52 and it's been 6 years ❤ I'm Good On the whole need a man thing🎉

[@mykia2018]

My story was abstinence for 23 years and was not ashamed. However, my gf laughed and thought it was absurd. When I met my partner I was very nervous and anxious but it's wonderful after 4 years in our relationship. I experienced extreme dryness, but that is now corrected. By the way, I am 68 yrs old, and my partner is 56 yrs old. He chased me until he captured me. ❤🎉😊 Thank you doctor!!

[@terrykobrenski4781]

Similar situation and age. Curious what you did for dryness. Any pain with intercourse?

[@debbiepolachek3292]

Sweet.

[@brendac.2001]

Love this

[@joanbrady3088]

Please tell us how your dryness was corrected. Thank you!

[@mykia2018]

@joanbrady3088 Hi Joan, Well, before we consummated our relationship, I went to my doctor, and she knew I was dry from the examination. She suggested KY-Jelly and some others. I purchased the jelly, but after about 6 months into our relationship, I no longer needed it. The doctor said my vagina forgot how to get lubricated and that it would take time. He had to learn that foreplay took a little longer for me. I hope that helped you.

[@RichardMWR]

I dont know how i got it here, but pretty interesting video. Thanks for the info

[@DrJenCaudle]

Thank you so much! Glad you’re here!

[@ValarieJohnson-dm7pv]

Thank You for your commentary on this, I'm a senior! ❤

[@letsbefruitful5457]

Here for it 3 years of abstaining from sex❤ working on myself, healing ❤️‍🩹 learning, and growing in spirit!

[@DrJenCaudle]

🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@IsaroBururu]

Rebranding? Way to go girl!

[@tammi67able]

God bless you ❤

[@electrarain5602]

Same here salute to you : )

[@tailsthefox6568]

Best move! Queen move

[@narikadavis3351]

My husband and I were both virgins when we married. I was 32 and he was 33. No vagina problems! 💯

[@Terry-ju5mh]

Too big remember that answer

[@deesosa410]

You think he was a virgin I see men still lie to get what they want 😂

[@yaseenmeyer8452]

How do you know he was a Virginia. Because he told you so. Lol

[@Person12216]

Love this! Thank you for sharing.

[@207humanity]

@@yaseenmeyer8452 Why should anyone believe you just because you disbelief what someone else says?

[@SunflowerLiving]

Wow! This explains a lot! Thank you 🙏🏽

[@Elaine-vk9lm]

Good video Thanks Dr. Jen

[@drprather]

I did not have sex until I was in my 30s and got married. Married 15 yrs and sex had been amazing since day 1. Was very fertile and birthed 3 kids back to back with no meds. According to docs the old V has been beautifully healthy. Don't feel no fear! Waiting to have sex with your partner or spouse is healthy emotionally and physically.

[@HarperPolo]

Ty for sharing this ❤ . Good not feel fearful and it's hard to find someone in my real life who has the reality I hope for

[@ritahurn909]

My daughter waited until she was married. I think she was 33 or 34 but now she's in the middle of a divorce. Unfortunately, she married a narcissist. And right now she's not seeing anyone. She has a breeched baby girl by him.

[@pcarebear1]

Thanks for sharing 👍 I'm in my 30s in the same situation. I just can't lay with someone if I don't feel comfortable being physically, emotionally and mentally vulnerable with. No longer working to survive (like my teens and 20s), I'm finally stepping into the dating pool

[@blusarabi]

How old were you when you had your first? If you don’t mind me asking.

[@ritahurn909]

@@blusarabi 16 or 17 I'm assuming you are asking about my first sexual experience. If you are asking about my first and only child.....I had her at 23.

[@icycici6191]

1) Decreased elasticity 2) Lower libido, increased libido, or same libido 3) Increased anxiety 4) Longer time to get aroused/ Need more to get aroused. There is no shame in choosing what's best for you!!

[@jennifer79191]

Yes, #4 taking me longer

[@shyanmurray4941]

This has to be the worst bullshit I've ever seen.If anything ,it should be really quick to orgasm as you are not having sex often.

[@itsyourgirlval6457]

​@@jennifer79191Me too

[@coolrunnings1936]

This is a good thing! 😊 please continue these 4 rules expecially number 1 😁

[@georgevue8175]

It is the marital duty of a wife to provide her husband the sex he needs as men have 17 times (1,700%) the sex hormone testosterone as women. When the wife shuts down shop what exactly should the husband do?

[@curtisantonieospears3885]

Great Video Ms.Lady. Love It.

[@Sophia-em8fp]

BEEN CELIBATE FOR 5 YEARS. I LOVE IT. SO PEACEFUL IN SO MANY WAYS❤

[@DrJenCaudle]

🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@kathyouthere]

I was in an abusive marriage and have celibate since 2005. Doesn't mean I don't have enormous feelings but protecting my heart comes 1st.

[@DrJenCaudle]

I understand

[@lucykomu1226]

Great..... you're not alone

[@pastordeborahchapman440]

I haven’t had sex since April 27th 2006 at about 7:36pm and have no plans to make love again until God blesses me with the man He has for me…I’ve had more than enough sex to last me several life times and from what I hear…nothing (sex wise) so I’m good!!!! At this point in my life (60) years old, I don’t mind waiting until my change comes!😊

[@bmoshareholderappleshareho855]

@@pastordeborahchapman440God decides who should be married and who should not?

[@Mr.CEO888]

Blah

[@mizpinkdragon2857]

No pregnancy, no pregnancy scares to age you 10 years, no diseases, no stress about cheating men= 7 to 8 hrs of sleep every night stress free😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@erikatamayo1925]

When I was pregnant with my fourth child at 28 years old people thought I was between 16 and 18 years old. So does that mean that if I had no kids I would look like an 8 year old? I have 5 kids now and am 34. People still think I’m in my early 20s. I get just as much sleep after children as compared to before children, and I have found that I am less stressed out after having children as compared to before having children. Society likes to portray children as burdens and I disagree.

[@dabbbles]

I can understand why you have all those weeping little emoji faces on your post. EVER wonder why you're alive AT ALL? (eg. Y'can have all those things you've listed, including 24 HOURS of stress-free 'sleep' every night if you step in front of a fast-moving truck.

[@dabbbles]

@@erikatamayo1925 Eureka!! A genuine woman! (got a sister?). Incidentally, are you aware that modern science has figured out what causes all those kids? 😁

[@dabbbles]

​ @erikatamayo1925 Eureka!! A genuine woman! (got a sister?). Incidentally, are you aware that modern science has figured out what causes all those kids? 😁

[@erikatamayo1925]

@@dabbbles lmao yes, I am fully aware of the cause of all five of my pregnancies.

[@Tiana_hc]

It has been 3 years and 4 months since I last had any sexual activity or intercourse because am in a long distance relationship and I feel like I love my partner and I respect myself too. I felt a lot of changes when I started the abstinence. Like I could hardly concentrate,I feel so much anxiety, sometimes I feel like crying and I would feel my body getting weak and nervous. I feel like it messed up with my mood a lot. But at the end of the day, it's of more good to yourself as a woman to control yourself because that gives so much respect.

[@erinbooth4267]

Thank you this was so so helpful answers I desperately needed to here.

[@DrJenCaudle]

So glad!

[@ironbith]

8yrs here. I have Never loved myself more, & have no drama,or abuse...❤

[@DrJenCaudle]

Awesome!

[@chasitynutt360]

Same and amen 🙏❤

[@altheakjithanah]

Congratulations for being celibate 💕💕💕 this is so true!

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

Wow, but you still need affection, love and happiness. love is sweet when you have person who understand you

[@martinecooper6669]

I've been celibate for a little over three years. No drama and no disappointments. I have moments in which I crave it badly but those moments pass.

[@angelinspired3333]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 keep going and get a good showerhead or under the faucet in your tub!! gets the job DONE!!!🙌🏾

[@rosaleenmaher1486]

Electric toothbrushes 😂

[@greenmika]

@@rosaleenmaher1486what😂

[@dabbbles]

Yep. It ALL passes. Including 'Life'. And then you die. (and I think some people never notice the difference.) WHY do you suppose you exist at all?

[@dabbbles]

@@rosaleenmaher1486 HEY! Post a picture of your teeth!

[@gloriaheck5184]

Great ideas! Thsnk you very much.

[@teresajenkins4061]

2.5 years and loving it. NO soul ties and clear mind.😁

[@DrJenCaudle]

😊

[@dabbbles]

Clear cnut, too. Don't know why you bothered getting one!

[@LuminousDualities.]

💯

[@dabbbles]

By 'clear mind' I presume you men 'brainless'?

[@Korie-ii1vi]

It's been two solid years I have used herpes herbal cleanser from @nzenjokuherbalhome on KZbin I still remain herpes free. Ignorant itself is a disease

[@penguin_773]

Two years of celibacy, and have never loved myself more, nor been happier in life.

[@mikedenison121]

Hello how're you doing?

[@dabbbles]

er-r-r There's a word for 'loving yourself'. But it's not true that it will make you go blind. And as for never being happier, I can only assume you had an absolutely MISERABLE previously. 😆

[@dabbbles]

Does your finger ever get tired while you're loving yourself?

[@mikedenison121]

@@dabbbles hello 👋

[@dabbbles]

@@mikedenison121 hello indeed. But why?? Incidentally, my computer is fucking up seriously and I might be off the air for the next while.

[@barandaclay]

Things have gotten alil hectic even slightly insane in my life so that particular aspect was just stuck on the corner shelf... I would absolutely love to have someone to share my thoughts and feelings for the future with... I have chosen to be single but I have wondered about the effects physically to my body and I greatly appreciate the information provided & the respectful,kind way you provided it!! Ty so much & Blessed Be

[@barandaclay]

@WfweDcrf When it's meant to be... it will be, of course

[@sylviadelgadillo5916]

I been celibate 13 years and I'm now 48, these have been the BEST years of my life in all ways, spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally

[@DrJenCaudle]

Love this!

[@sylviadelgadillo5916]

@DrJenCaudle Thank You for sharing this information and prompting the comments section. Hearing from other women and their celibacy journeys was so refreshing 🤗

[@whitleywhitley2280]

​​​@@DrJenCaudleu forgot to mention to the (postmenopausal) females about vagina atrophy when they go too long without using their V but at least tell them to add moisture inside

[@queentinadoire6931]

Same here- Celibate for 7 years. I am living my best life. I am celibate for religious reasons. I regret not doing it earlier. Jesus is the center of my life and he has been good to me.

[@sylviadelgadillo5916]

@queentinadoire6931 Wow! That's the same for me, it was intentional for religious/spiritual reasons. JESUS is all I ever needed and wished I had done it sooner too...Thank You for commenting, when I share this with people they never seem to understand 🙏❤️

[@SuperLittlerascals]

It’s OKAY to not have sex!!! Cannot stress this enough!

[@chadjordan2099]

👎🏾👎🏾👎🏾

[@adriennerobinson1180]

Truth Indeed AMEN 🙏

[@chezzmaine]

Is that because you can’t get it 🥴

[@Mia-sp5wh]

@@chadjordan2099?

[@dabbbles]

Abstinence is a perversion of nature. Cannot stress THAT enough!

[@user-gq1uf3qk8p]

Funny how some people come to comment and brag about being happily celibate for long years yet they bother to watch this video...if you truly didn't care that much about the lack of sex you wouldn't be here

[@Theladytee410]

It's been 2years now no sex= no worries, no diseases, no fear of getting pregnant and I'm looking beautiful everyday i love myself

[@DrJenCaudle]

Yay

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

Wow, but you still need affection, love and happiness.

[@MsMonica1724]

Been abstinent for over 30+ years (turned 60 in January)…..not ashamed because I am spiritual, mentally and physically healthy!

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

I completely understand and respect your stance. You deserve to be loved and respected for who you are, and your body is your own to share or not share as you choose. It's amazing that you're prioritizing your own worth and boundaries like that. You're right, intimacy and love should be mutual and respectful, not just about physical desire. Keep holding out for someone who will love and appreciate you fully, because you're worth it!

[@rebeccalucas6063]

Being widowed too young for 7 years, it's like a whole different world after 27 yrs of marriage. It's scary, and to tell someone you need to get tested first, and I need to see the papers from the Dr. When they refuse, you say ok, move on, and keep your disease to yourself, I'm healthy, and if I have to remain abstinent to stay healthy, so be it!

[@DrJenCaudle]

Omg I’m so with you/ I ask to see papers and show others papers too. I’ve been ridiculed and criticized and walked out on many times because Of this. Hang in there

[@sweetsexypickles]

@@DrJenCaudle I've went right to the clinic when I was in the city in my 30s. If they couldn't do it, then WE weren't going to do it!

[@monicaramirez51015]

Yay 😀 wonderful way to live 😊I was married at 29 for 21 years got widowed at 51 years young 😢and no way do I date nor do I want anyone in my Orchid’s Secret Garden ❤ i love knowing my GOD and my Temple are Sacred ❤and at 55 years young 😊I love knowing I can work on myself to become my best version of me ❤

[@tammi67able]

@@monicaramirez51015amén!!

[@msdecemberloveangel8236]

Syphilis is still alive and all std's

[@nancythibodeaux7580]

Thanks it was very informative

[@terrimata6684]

I'm 60. 3 C sections, never experienced menopause, don't take hormones. I'm healthy in shape. I'm not interested in toxic drama. 😅. I'm blessed loving myself.

[@freespirit21newyork]

Im working on 9 yrs of celibacy due to sexual abuse. It was a WAKE up call for me to stop being promiscuous 🙏 No sex= peace , no guys popping up for booty calls and drive by sex, no diseases, feeling cleaner, no drama & BS, etc etc etc 🙏

[@dabbbles]

It sounds to me like a perfect description of life in the grave.😵‍💫

[@ironbith]

Yep. 🫂👍

[@freespirit21newyork]

@@dabbbles it's the opposite for me. I AM FREE🕊️ So don't come by me with your awful negativity. It's got a GRAVE ODOR 🐽🚽

[@laurethcurran7535]

I feel like my decision to stop having sex was because the people I have run into are NOT worth it. I do feel I have lost interest in bad sex and worse levels of intimacy. So, 13 years later, it would have to be someone I enjoyed having sex with in the past and that won't happen. Definitely not believing the thirsty boys out there.

[@dabbbles]

@@freespirit21newyork er-r-r-r There's NO greater 'freedom' (or 'sexlessness') than death. Nothing 'negative' about a statement of FACT.

[@jazzyrose07]

I’m so glad I found your video. I’m 45 and I’ve only had one sexual partner, which was my ex husband. We’ve been divorced for 5 years now and I haven’t been sexually active since the divorce. When I told my friends I only had one sexual partner my entire life, they literally laughed and were in shock. I’ve been celibate for 5 years but I’m ready to find love again. I have no regrets about my decision to remain celibate because I had to heal from my emotional trauma first. Now my only fear is getting hurt again. Thanks for your video.

[@crptnite]

Blessings on your Journey 💜🙏🏽🕊️

[@joannecahee2367]

SISTER! TAKE YOUR TIME AND TRY TO KEEP YOUR PEACE WHY YOU HAVE IT…BECAUSE THESE MEN NOWADAYS A LOT OF THEM OLDER MEN ARE MESSING WITH THESE YOUNG ASS WOMEN…AND LYING AND ON THE DOWN LOW! SO YOU BE VERY CAREFUL! OUT IN THIS WORLD 🌎 I BEEN BY MYSELF NOW FOR 8 YEARS! AND I THANK GOD! FOR MY PEACE OF MIND!

[@jpair205]

And you still not a Virgin😂

[@jpair205]

​@@joannecahee2367just like yall Carrie stds and the highest rate don't put all men in your messed up analysts

[@cuzvscuz3843]

I'm enjoying single life i have no extention to have SEX the world get too nasty 🤔

[@nikkimiller594]

Celibate for 19 years ❤❤…I still love & embrace it

[@vickeychrand8828]

New to no sex. 8 yrs in so far. Weight gain is happening but I don't miss the emotional roller-coaster that sex brings

[@DrJenCaudle]

Ah I see!

[@carrie4080]

Post menopausal woman who has been abstinent for over 14 years. I always wondered about this...😂Frankly, I don't miss it, or the drama, heartache, arguing, fighting that relationships have. I have freedom to go where I want, when I want. No jealousy, no anger, just peace. My kids are all grown. Been there, done that in regard to relationships, marriage, engagements. Not having sex gives me peace of mind that I won't catch a VD from a promiscuous man, who sows his oats like a bull. At 54, I know who I am, what I want and what I don't want. I am still attracted to men, but I have no interest in dating or pursuing any relationships. Anyone else out there who is content at this point in their life?

[@DrJenCaudle]

I think there are a lot of women who feel this way! Just check out the comments!

[@Sapphire-idjits]

YES! YES ! I feel the same way as you n others. I think people rush into relationships to satisfy sexual parts more than any other. We should b concerned about all the other parts n put the sex on back burner to b honest ! However due to society and pressure it's about sex! I am surprised to see all the comments but happy. Happy to know I'm not alone on this. I've been on my own for 10 years give or take n let me say I feel as you do. Dont have anyone to answer to r any of the list you mention!

[@tinawilliams9610]

I agree 💯 percent

[@firequeen2194]

Yes! 💯. 57 now and I just don’t have the time or energy for the drama. Shoot, had my first blind date in years a week ago and I’m being “love bombed”. I’m like “take a step back bud, I’m a little too independent for that”, lol. We haven’t even connected beyond the superficial 🤦‍♀️🙄

[@MelZDazzle]

Wow, other than the kids part, I literally could have written this. (for me it is 18 years) I am so happy and fulfilled in my life and it just keeps getting better! IF someone comes along that fits right in (pun intended?) Great. If not....I'm gooooood!

[@yochanele3743]

Abstinent for 10 years plus and I’m only 39. I definitely feel the anxiety because the dating world is so scary and as a woman I just want to make sure at my age it’s someone that is worthy. Thank you for the video. ❤

[@ameerzaman8254]

Life is beautiful with friends 🤝

[@ameerzaman8254]

Interested

[@russellzigler2180]

Worthy, what do you think you got down there? A pot of gold !

[@ameerzaman8254]

@@russellzigler2180 that's you don't understand

[@lisianamichelle4536]

Amen

[@user-bt6ph3fl8m]

Thanks for this information, I'm going to try it

[@annatannehill716]

Sometimes cancer, chemo, and other chronic disease happens it not all that is to a relationship. If you truly love your partner it doesn't matter because true love exceeds everything..

[@Dontbeevil-nh1xv]

There's nothing like having that peace of mind and tranquility in life. After my divorce from my narcissistic husband, I went 15 years of celibacy. Actually, I discovered it to be empowering. My health was great, and every body part works fine. As a healthy straight woman, I never thought I would say that 'sex is overrated'. 😊😊😊

[@oddfellow1114]

You go girl!

[@OleFalla]

You said it like it is.

[@Jouhatsu-oi5qg]

👍👍👍

[@peggysue5025]

True.

[@truthisthelight]

😊

[@scorpionwarrior9179]

My partner died in a tragic fire seven years ago this Saturday and I’ve been single/celibate since. As a survivor of the incident I really needed to do nothing, but nurture my heart and mental health, I escaped yet not totally unscathed. Thank you so much for expressing NOT to feel shame. I’m bawling but feeling totally comforted. Idk how this ended up in my feed but it’s exactly what I needed to hear right now. ❤️

[@terriz7791]

I’m so sorry that you lost your husband in such a horrible way. I hope your body continues to heal.

[@michelemcneill3652]

❤❤❤

[@jennifernannenga4909]

So very sorry for your loss! Take care of yourself!

[@gailszucsits7920]

God bless you 🤗

[@saljay801]

❤❤❤

[@RSLatham15]

I have no idea how this showed up for me to see, but I'm very grateful. Do to several factors, it's been 4 years since my husband and I have been intimate. You covered so many things that have been on my mind about it. We are taking steps to resume being intimate and I'm finding that it isn't easy for either of us. You talked about being nervous and that is definitely an issue! For both of us. We're having to reaquait ourselves with trusting the other and making ourselves vulnerable again to be that intimate. We're in our late 40s so the fear of pain and what will it feel like and what if there is an issue that messes the whole thing up bothers me. Also, will it be different for him? Any issues he may face? It is taking more time to get aroused, and then i kind of lost it the 1 time we were trying so it didn't go far. Advice on how to handle things for each other if it doesn't go well, emotionally, physically. Advice to help us both would be appreciated. Thank you, Dr. Jen.

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

Wow, but you still need affection, love and happiness.

[@meo11290]

I’m an asexual lady - 34 years old - never had sex. I’m happy with my life, no libido, no sexual desire, and I have a lot of other things to focus on. And I look 6,7 years younger than my age. Just love your life regardless what ❤

[@DrJenCaudle]

Yes! Love it!

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

Wow, but you still need affection, love and happiness.

[@Shambhav-qf7od]

Not having sex is normal. It's absolutely normal. There's nothing wrong or "shocking" about it. People like to act as if it is a bad thing. There's nothing to be ashamed about being a virgin. Our society just promotes too much promiscuity.

[@DrJenCaudle]

So true

[@kikis-dg3tq]

I totally agree. In the last 15 yrs I've have had sex 3 times.

[@Lswisdom77]

I Totally Agree

[@Kathe-girl]

I'm recommending HERBALIST DOCTOR KINGSLEY to everyone as the only man on KZbin who truly got the permanent cure for Herpes and can help you cure all other types of STDs and STIs. I'm cured, healed and free from herpes. I'm so glad I came across Herbalist Doctor Kingsley both on KZbin and Facebook

[@MapleLeafsGirl77]

Society and entertainment would like us to believe that everyone is constantly horny, ready to rip clothes off at any moment and people have sex constantly. My husband and I laugh at movies or TV shows that show a sex scene and they either jump right out of bed, throw their clothes on and off they go, or fall asleep in each other's arms and wake up in that same position, not all sweaty and stuck together. 🤣🤣🤣 In a perfect world I guess...🤷🏻‍♀️

[@user-tv5hg4zh3p]

I'm a widow of four years and abstinent .I'm happy healthy and not interested in starting any kind of relationship with anyone.

[@DrJenCaudle]

❤️❤️

[@Bushbaby1977]

Me too. Not a widow, never been married, but had long relationships and had my daughter when I was 17. Haven't had sex in ages, don't miss it and not interested in any kind of relationship. For me sex is over-rated. Different strokes for different folks I guess.

[@user-pl1ko7xn8q]

Oh

[@taxusbaccata9200]

Good for you.

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

Wow

[@sassinger0018]

I lost my virginity at age 21 when I was engaged and I'm now 37, been divorced and been celibate for over 3 years now. I have a clearer mind and at peace with not wanting to be in a relationship. They have done nothing for me but make my life harder.

[@DrJenCaudle]

🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

Wow, but you still need affection, love and happiness.

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

I completely understand and respect your stance. You deserve to be loved and respected for who you are, and your body is your own to share or not share as you choose. It's amazing that you're prioritizing your own worth and boundaries like that. You're right, intimacy and love should be mutual and respectful, not just about physical desire. Keep holding out for someone who will love and appreciate you fully, because you're worth it!

[@moniquegil8011]

Single, celibate, stress and drama free. No shame here and I’m good with that✌🏾

[@tayedesiree82]

I'm 41. I've not had sex in nearly 3 years and everyone around me is shocked. They say things like "I could never! How are you not losing your mind?!" It's hilarious. I've had so much more peace not dating and not having sex. I haven't noticed any changes in my body.

[@ellenso9731]

Totally true. Less worries.

[@rachelcraig5047]

​@@ellenso9731- yeah - i read lot of people when they get older just want peace and stability 😅 you really do..people make it all such hardwork.

[@blackbeauty8170]

Baby I did 10 years

[@tayedesiree82]

@@blackbeauty8170 yeah I'm thinking that's how long it will be for me before Divine Intervention comes through lol

[@WorldwideDarts]

10 years??? 😱​@@blackbeauty8170

[@mew19forever]

Dr. Jen you are an angel! I am 48 years old and still a virgin. My beliefs have kept me from having intercourse until marriage and when i was younger, i did feel like an outsider. Everyone seems to talk about sex socially and never having sex before, i could never join in or add anything to the conversation. I felt like something was wrong with me and that i was the last person on Earth to stay a virgin. I've grown wiser to know everyone is different and live their lives as the please. Weather you're a virgin or sexually active, you are no more or less for being either , thank you for your kind and amazing words! I now know some of what my body has gone through staying a virgin and now that i'm older how much more difficult it might be if and when i marry but with great advice like this, i'm not worried at all! Again, thank you, Doctor! You are a true blessing!

[@DrJenCaudle]

God bless you and i applaud you for doing what is right for you. that is the most important thing. and yes, the peer pressure can be tough, but at the end of the day it's about what is right for you. hang in there- you got this! and thanks for sharing- you will inspire others!

[@Resilientindividual]

You're not missing anything love 😒😂 you got this! I commend you

[@christinarichie6171]

You will be a virgin... never will change. Wonder if you have prominent Virgo placements.

[@SmittySmith-lu9bh]

If you ever do meet a man and fall in love you will find that losing your virginity at your age is quite a bit more difficult than it would be if you were a young woman. The hymen becomes fiberous and extremely difficult for a man to push through...I would highly recommend that you have a OB/GYN perform a simple hymen removal procedure before that first sexual experience. I "broke in" my girlfriend, who was a virgin, at age 55 so I am speaking from experience... You will also need hormonal replacement.

[@wendyann3333]

​@@SmittySmith-lu9bh Umm that was your experience with a 55 years old virgin but I think you should know every woman is different. I commend her for not have sex outside of marriage, this is a blessing 😢

[@shopeebydivalia1662]

Awwwnnnn Frances you are such a sweet soul🥰 a humble person so loveable❤

[@noha1545]

I'm a 58 years old who went through a divorce in 2012. Since 2012, I haven't been with anyone after. This decision was by choice because I chose to focus on myself and my career to better myself. It's was the best choice I made because I became a very independent hard working business woman. I have never been happier, and I feel I could overcome anything because I became the woman I wanted to be, and that is to be a very strong independent woman after a divorce I made it on my own.❤

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

Wow, but you still need affection, love and happiness.

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

I completely understand and respect your stance. You deserve to be loved and respected for who you are, and your body is your own to share or not share as you choose. It's amazing that you're prioritizing your own worth and boundaries like that. You're right, intimacy and love should be mutual and respectful, not just about physical desire. Keep holding out for someone who will love and appreciate you fully, because you're worth it!

[@leahtreck1083]

I am in my early 70’s and had my last affair at 69. It was with a former friend whom I met in my 30’s. It started out really great and then it started to go south after two years. I ended the relationship and afterwards found out that not only was he using hard drugs but also was a narcissist. I felt so betrayed that not only have I lost all desire for sex, but I just can’t stand men anymore. What an eye opener - would have saved me many breakups and heartbreaks had I learned this lesson at an earlier age. I have a precious, sweet puppy dog and I’m happier and freer now than I have ever been in my life. She follows me around the house and we sleep and eat together and she shows me so much loyalty and PURE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. I am so grateful for her💕🥰🐾😍

[@derricklangford4725]

Kevin Samuel's warned ya'll about that 🐕 💀 alone.

[@MachBenak7c]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🏿

[@jacobladder248]

Thank you

[@jacobladder248]

@@derricklangford4725AND HE IS DEAD.What was his warning for himself.We choose peace of mind over arguing with mad men

[@dianakurland2500]

I’m 73 and hoping to have an affair, soon.

[@marleinasmom]

I was quite promiscuous early on, until I got pregnant with my daughter at 33. I was celibate for 10 years after that, because I wanted to do things differently. I waited until I met my current boyfriend and it made our early sex life so exciting. Emotionally, I felt like a virgin again. ❤

[@vikingrolloishot1789]

Lol I'd hate to get pregnant at 33 lol I'm childfree. I want to live my life with out kids. I'm promiscuous with my bf though😂 but I dont want kids to stop that😂😂.

[@Coloringoutsideofthelines]

Amen! That is what's up

[@sheydoll]

I had my son at 31. After me and his dad divorced I did the same thing you did, not sex for about 5 yrs. Once I met my 2nd husband I was constantly turned on🤣🤣

[@areni-qb2ec]

​@@vikingrolloishot1789😮

[@thinking7667]

@@vikingrolloishot1789 So then, you'd hate getting pregnant at any age, not just at 33. Because you don't want kids. Weird thing to specify when you don't want kids at all and haven't had any at any age. lol

[@kets7]

Its been 2.5 years but I m craving for it more n more...day by day...i really need to hv that intimacy n sound sleep without anxiety!

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

Wow, but you still need affection, love and happiness.

[@pallavisreetambraparni6995]

I like what this doctor is saying. I wish I could do a telemedicine appointment with her.

[@DrJenCaudle]

So kind of you to say this!

[@msthang5366]

I have been celibate for 10 years, and I have been in menopause since 43. I had a great sex life but just never chose great people. Celibacy has been a great choice for me.

[@DrJenCaudle]

I totally understand- and you’re not alone with the great sex but not great people bit. Hang in there

[@msthang5366]

@@DrJenCaudle I am!! Thank you for helping us menopausal women navigate through this. I felt so alone in my experience.

[@ThirdEyeWize]

Amen

[@fishstickbio594]

I know it’s NOT you …I rather say this instead ….the quality of men in America is extremely low …..

[@salomenewsome4188]

Men play with our emotions a lot I have been celibate for7 months I don't want to be hurt

[@IndiaMonetspeaks]

I appreciate the video. Going without sex has allowed me another level of self-love. It’s been intentional celibacy.

[@DrJenCaudle]

🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@COLDY_BlockmanGO1]

Same too

[@dabbbles]

That's a perversion of nature. (does 'another level of self-love' mean you grew extra fingers?

[@dabbbles]

A long way around the bushes to explain 'an inability to get a boyfriend'. Consider the REASON you and ALL your female forebears (along with everyone else's) has a vagina and uterus, etc. Perhaps just a talking-point to avoid the 'Sounds of Silence'??

[@itm9562A]

I have been celibate 1 yr and loving it at 54 i just remembered while watching your upload will kegal exercises help...your answer is greatly appreciated✌🏽

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

Wow, but you still need affection, love and happiness.

[@DarLindaTracy]

Great video ! Thank you!

[@DrJenCaudle]

Glad you liked it!

[@jenneyjen-vo2mq]

I completely understand and respect your stance. You deserve to be loved and respected for who you are, and your body is your own to share or not share as you choose. It's amazing that you're prioritizing your own worth and boundaries like that. You're right, intimacy and love should be mutual and respectful, not just about physical desire. Keep holding out for someone who will love and appreciate you fully, because you're worth it!

[@lizabethduran4417]

Its been over 21 years for me. I feel so healthy mentally. No problems here. Just gets a bit lonelyat times.

[@DrJenCaudle]

🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@jpair205]

How old are you😂😂😂

[@MzLate-NiteVibez]

Lol if u need a sex partner say dat lol I'm jk

[@russellzigler2180]

Let somebody hit it !

[@MzLate-NiteVibez]

@@russellzigler2180 aggy ASF lol