What happens when a hospice patient is dying/dies? Hospice Dying Process- Hospice Nursing

Hospice Death & Dying
What happens when a hospice patient is dying/dies?
Is it ok to cry when a patient dies?
These questions and more are explored in this video from the perspective of a hospice nurse.
Hospice Nursing

[@buffysmith4278]

I watched my Mom die and right before she passed she took my hand. She knew i was going to be alone she told me she tried to hang on as long as she could so i would not be all alone. I miss her i think about her every day. I just want to be with my Mom.

[@thenursiversity7975]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I am glad you were with her in her final moments.

[@buffysmith4278]

@@thenursiversity7975 Thank you.

[@ickiedeer-lamb7282]

My condolences dear.

[@buffysmith4278]

@@ickiedeer-lamb7282 Thank you.

[@eagleeyes6204]

Buffy I lost my mom 13 years ago and I held her for 2 hours before death , she also reached for my hands and I told her it’s ok and she passed away right after .She was trying to hold on for me .. I miss her so much , hospice nurses are wonderful with helping families ❤️❤️❤️ God bless Hospice and God bless you Buffy and give you strength... We will see our mothers again one day😇

[@rubytuesday9881]

The worst thing about having to watch a loved one die is that you're totally helpless...it's agonizing. All you can do is hold their hand or be beside them. Hospice care workers/nurses are remarkable people - I don't think there are enough words to describe their kindness, caring, compassion and gentle nature. I thank God we had them for several of my family members.

[@sherrydennis7612]

Amen

[@sandraa2971]

It is so hard as a family member to be there. However it’s not about me and I wasn’t going to let my brother be alone. I miss him so much. My parents where with him also. I think about that day and it tears your heart out. But I had to be there for him. I thank god I was there at the moment because you feel like you can never leave the room.

[@rubytuesday9881]

@@sandraa2971 That's exactly how I felt. It's such a devastating situation to be in. But I 100% believe my sister knew we were there holding her hand and that she wasn't alone.

[@marilynsmith9993]

I believe they had my sister od my brother before he died they had her give him 100 cc every hour of morphine that what she gave him

[@ElizabethPollardAus]

Q

[@josephrobichaud5198]

It's so rare to see someone as young as you are getting into this field. I just want to hug you and thank you for being such a caring human being.

[@khonkhosilelihle7414]

True.

[@lindajedeon9441]

My son is dying he told me the samething 😢but he said the pain is terrible so bad he can't take no more he cried with me i told him it's OK I watched him dying so slowly it breaks my heart from walking weight from 185 to 100 in 3 months then a wheelchair where now he can not use his legs at all I so desperately do. Not him to go but he's suffering so bad the hospice crisis team today upped his morphine to 3ml with all his other medications to every hour 😢 😔 it's so so hard to watch your child die 😢 but I can't be selfish I need to let him go 😭😭😭😭😭

[@thefitnessgrampacertest1130]

My grandma is on hospice right now, and my mom and I are very grateful she’s at home. We were able to get at home hospice, because she was very vocal about not wanting to die in the hospital. Hospice nurses are comforting and kind, and I have the highest respect for them. Update: my grandma passed three days ago. She was with my mom, who is her daughter and died peacefully. Home hospice was definitely the best choice for us.

[@thenursiversity7975]

I'm glad that your grandma is having her wishes honored. I hope that y'all have all the support y'all need during this difficult time

[@Nola2trill504]

Going through this right now sorry for your lost

[@MsAdventure531]

I’m sorry for your loss of your beloved Grandmother. Cherish the memories.

[@auntienikkisgamin9251]

Same here my condolences

[@marilynjohnson8583]

As a retired RN, I can tell you that these Nurses have an honor job, are specially chosen by God to assist with this on this side, and will always be held in high regard in the profession by, not only me, but all Nurses. God bless you all for what you do and always know, you are not only a special professional, but also a special person. May your careers be blessed for the service and compassion you bestow on all of those you care for. You are the epitome of what compassionate care is all about.

[@evelynmilne4683]

She said nothing about asking the family (especially if the patient is a Catholic) if they wished the priest to be notified and requested to administer the Last Rites. For myself and any faithful Catholic, this would be of utmost importance. Many Protestant denominations would also welcome a visit from their own personal pastor. The poem and rose petals are a nice touch but cannot take the place of a priest. In my case, I would request that it be written in red on my care plan. Also, any scapulars must not be removed from around a patient's neck. I am a retired R.N. and was very upset to find that while I was on vacation, my Catholic patient died and despite my having written these instructions on his care plan, they were not followed. His scapular was removed for his shower and not replaced. It was never found. I was going to buy him a new one while on vacation but it was too late. The staff did not call his priest as he would have wanted or even notify his son till after he had died. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT TO SOME PEOPLE OF ANY RELIGIOUS FAITH.

[@generationx9294]

Well said. As having just experienced this myself a few weeks ago with my Mom who passed 2 weeks after her 80th birthday, I wholeheartedly agree with you. Hospice Nurses and the entire care team are stellar individuals and in a league of their own. I've never witnessed such genuine, caring compassion. I'm so grateful for Hospice nurses.. and *all* nurses 🙏🏽💜🌸

[@jackskellington9195]

@@evelynmilne4683 Well don’t you sound ungrateful to the people that were there

[@gomphrena-beautifulflower-8043]

Retired RN here too and I agree with you 100% (Referring to Marilyn Johnson, RN (ret.)

[@sweetnawesome23]

@@evelynmilne4683 I am saddened to read your comment, we have similar rites and sacred amulets in my religion ; my mother's sacred thread was yanked off her neck before it was handed back to us, they never asked permission, nor did they call for a priest to administer the Last Rites. Also, when we were bathing my mother, we discovered an embalming tool (called a trocar, I think.?) protruding from her neck. Embalming is strictly forbidden in my faith, so it was horrifying to discover such a thing, on top of the trauma we had already endured in watching her choke to death! There needs to be better monitoring of nurses and mortuary staff, who simply have no respect towards the dying and deceased.

[@gwyn9846]

Young lady, I would much rather have someone who showed emotions than someone who seemed stoic and disinterested. The whole point of Hospice is caring. Please don't ever apologize for having a heart.

[@nariko47]

Well said

[@teresaanderson8376]

Beautiful soul hospice care is a blessing to both patient and family .Just lost our sister to ALS . So thankful to the hospice care team in my sisters transition from this life. My sister didn't appear to be in pain she however was snubbing in the last hours as a child who was not wanting to leave there loved ones. I know when she caught a glimpse of what was waiting for her in heaven she didn't look back . She is now with momma and dad and grandparent and many other children of our father in heaven ❤ miss my sister but thankful her suffering is no more and thankful for hospice

[@mariannehutchinson4943]

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[@mariafelidi6264]

@@teresaanderson8376 I am very sorry for your loss.My dad will be going to a Hospice care soon. My dad has dementia.He is gone. Hopefully hospice will do good for my dad as he leaves the earth. He just turned 87yrs old. I just do not want my dad to suffer any longer.My family feel very helpless at this point. It sucks.

[@rickstuparyk3306]

I totally agree that showing one cares is the best med.

[@maejackson693]

I lost my husband on 10-1-21 which was my Birthday. I had in home hospice and they were awesome. The nurse that came to pronounce him dead cried more than we did. It was a blessing to see that she was human and has feelings. She had only met us that day, but she said that she felt like family and she was so hurt that my husband had passed away. Avalon Hospice is the best.

[@kathysiebert6654]

I am so sorry for your loss. I believe it's an honor to be with a loved one that is passing. Ahhh, the Circle of Life. Heartbreaking 😢❣🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@carlad.c4078]

I am sending my sincere condolences 💐

[@Lisabug2659]

My deepest condolences. My son passed tragically, his celebration of life was on 10-9-21. He would have turned 36 four days later. Although he technically was not in hospice care, he was brain dead and intubated for 4 days in an ICU as he was an organ donor that saved 5 lives. Tonight, my brother is at a hospice facility because they could not manage his pain at home where he wanted to transition. So, we are literally counting the hours tonight in our family’s shared sorrow. Very different experiences than my Father’s passing with loving care in his own home the day after Christmas which he pleasantly spent with my Mother and close family. I am so sorry for your loss. It seems your husband was born into the divine light on the same day you entered into this world to be his loving partner. 🙏🏼

[@MichaelCollins-js5kq]

As a funeral director and funeral home minister i want to thank you for the outstanding video....Hospice nurses are not just nurses....they are ANGELS....i really believe God places people like you in our world...to help folks through one the most difficult times we will all face....Death is one of the taboos Americans do not discuss...Only those who have the knowledge and experience like you can guide us through what can be a very fearful time for all families...GOD BLESS YOU

[@SandfordSmythe]

In retrospect, I appreciate the manner of the funeral director we dealt with.

[@ellenadams5923]

Our Mother is seeing Angels all around her and family its exciting for her she loves them and smiles and laughs with them.

[@ronaldmejia551]

My wife was the best funeral director embalmer ceo she just died from cancer and I took care of her the hole process of her dying down to when she was gone in the hospital this lady is totally correct I am still crying everyday and I know I will never stop I just want my wife back i loved making families happy with her

[@paddlefoot5692]

I know the last Hospice nurse that came in for her patient, my late husband, was indeed an angel sent. No doubt in my mind. As my husband neared his death... he raised his right arm high and began motions like he was writing. I remember her telling me..."He is just finishing up his book" It made so much sense to me and gave me comfort. I had never seen this particular nurse before and was expecting a nurse that had come more than once during his Hospice care. This nurse realized an error in pain medication and immediately was on phone with DR to fix the problem. Also after seeing my husband, she took me away from the bedside area and told me he would be dead in three days. That was on a Tuesday and my husband took his last breath at 12:45 AM on that Friday. I will never forget that special unexpected nurse who clearly was an angel

[@Bergnutz]

I know families are very fragile after losing a loved one. Do most families complain about not being gentle enough or the funeral home workers not knowing what the person they are picking up has for their plan...my dad just died and they had no idea about anything we had planned also felt like they were pretty rough taking him out...I'm just wondering if no matter how careful you are people will feel like me or if the company we used was not careful enough

[@TheBobbo4554]

My dad died en route to the hospice facility on the ambulance. The nurses were very kind when we arrived and they told us he had passed. I kind of shut down but my mom began to cry and the nurse just held her and let her cry. They were all excellent.

[@thenursiversity7975]

I am very sorry for your loss. I am glad y'all had the support of the hospice staff during such a trying time.

[@deniseroe5891]

My dad passed the morning he was to come home to hospice. My mom passed two days after she was placed in hospice at home. Both were very quick. Horrible to watch and be helpless.

[@lyubovlaroche3296]

@@thenursiversity7975 you look creepy being old lady but having young girl hair due. Scary.

[@nariko47]

@@lyubovlaroche3296 ???

[@lyubovlaroche3296]

@@nariko47 strange, I never wrote it...

[@kristelestefania1089]

My beautiful daughter died of cancer on Nov 10, 2020. When we left the hospital I was told she only had a couple of days left but they were going to make sure she'll leave in peace. Before we went home she was giving me instructions on how she wanted her funeral and all the details about her hair and make up, my hearth was broken and I was still in shock when the doctor said we have nothing else to offer her, but I had to be strong because she was so brave and accepted the circumstances, then the hospice people took over her and made sure she was comfortable at home, they provided the best attention possible and everything was just as you described it, she lasted for almost 20 days before she passed away and I remember every day as if it was yesterday, she never gave up and she even went through a lot of pain to stay awake and be with us (her family) until one day she told me, mom; I'm sorry but I don't want to be here anymore its so much pain and I don't recognize myself anymore, this is not life. I said, I understand and ask God with all your hearth and tell him you are ready to go. A few days later one morning I heard that gargling noise and her breathing was different, that day I knew it in my hearth it was her last day, when the nurse went to check on her her oxygen was too low and her hearth rate had changed a lot from the day before, I called my family so they can go say goodbye to her and after she said goodbye to everybody and thanked them for being there then she asked for me and she told me ok mom now I'm ready, I grabbed her hand and gave a kiss, my blessing and told her you go with God my child go have some rest, letting go my daughter was the most painful thing ever. Then a few minutes later while the Pastor was praying and singing for her she got up and wanted to go to the bathroom and as I was walking with her to the bathroom she fainted and I knew she was gone. I have never had the chance to thank Amber or Lisa her nurses or the other nurses that provided care because I still can't talk to people about this. But I am very grateful for all you guys do.

[@alessandravillalobos150]

Kristen I’m so sorry to hear about your great loss. Your daughter was a fighter! You as a mother and myself have gone through that about being strong. My son is terminally ill and those words I told him from the start. 🙏🌹

[@jesusislord9758]

Your words express the beautiful relationship you shared with your precious daughter. God bless. 🙏

[@PinkPeonyPetals]

Sending you warm hugs 🤗

[@angiep10]

Thinking of you

[@Turkeyinthehay]

Easing out of life with dignity is what hospice offers and I have nothing but love for those that work and volunteer to make the experience the best it can be for the patient and the family. Your work matters.

[@thenursiversity7975]

Thank you for your kind words. I work with some amazing people. :)

[@margaretmiller614]

My precious mother was on hospice care in her nursing home, the hospice nurse sang beautiful gospel songs while caring for mom.

[@hopejackson9521]

You are a very special person to be with the hospice patients in their time. God bless you.

[@thenursiversity7975]

Thank you. I appreciate your kind words :)

[@swale12]

You are not only beautiful on the outside, but beautiful on the inside. When you became a hospice nurse, humanity got an angel. Peace be with you always....

[@paddywhack9261]

Thank you for helping us understand the process. I am 77, I have had 4 different cancers (2 in just the last 4 months) and will undoubtedly be in hospice sooner than I'd like. You are a lot like the HæmOnc nurses who infuse me when I need chemo or transfusions... I'm an outpatient, so far. You nurses are my angels here on Earth.

[@sumanhenehan7036]

I’m praying for you.

[@michellepadilla2097]

God bless you 🙏

[@ThePomskysPalace]

Hi Paddy, I hope you’re still doing well. My father was suffering from lung cancer that spread to the brain. Previously he had bladder cancer. We were planning on aggressively fighting his cancer when he fell I’ll with an infection. He’s now on hospice for an infection that got into the blood. You’re a warrior, may God continue to watch over you and protect you.

[@poopee2666]

77 is a good age for having 4 cancers my dad has hours to days to live .

[@ThePomskysPalace]

@@poopee2666 I’m going through the same thing with my father. Had stage 4 lung that transferred to the brain, we didn’t get a chance to treat it because he fell I’ll with an infection that got into the blood. He’s now home on hospice, basically laying in the bed. Has to be fed through a syringe, can’t talk; barely moves..I’m sorry you’re going through it. I keep saying no one or nothing can prepare children to go through these days with their parents. Prayers for your father, and for your strength. 🙏🏽

[@pearlyb51]

After having spent over a month in hospitals, my husband didn’t want to go back to the hospital when it became apparent that he was terminal so I kept him at home. My daughter who is an R.N., came to CA from MI to care for Him along with the hospice nurses. The level of care, professionalism and compassion they all showed was so comforting to me. They did everything they could to let him have his dignity and make him as comfortable as possible. My daughter said it was her final opportunity to honor him.

[@shannonzittlow8462]

Sorry for your loss I hope you can find some peace &hope 🌈

[@jeannecummings1363]

What a calm, thorough professional explanation! We prepare for birth, but no classes for death process! So needed and valuable!

[@johnhume6509]

Hospice nurses are angels on earth. Thank you so much for the genuine love you give to both the patient and their family.

[@thenursiversity7975]

Thank you so much for your kind words. :)

[@marybarrett2002]

My dad died yesterday on hospice. I was able to spend 4 hours with him tell him how much I loved him. My heart is so broken. I will miss him forever.😔🙏

[@thenursiversity7975]

I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you were there with him in his final moments.

[@marybarrett2002]

Thank you for your lovely honest video..🌻❤️🐶

[@sweetcountryliving8815]

My dad is dying.his heart is failing

[@marybarrett2002]

Thank. You for the kind words. Prayers to all going through this difficult time in their life. My prayers go out to all of you.❤️

[@oldonetwoable]

I think it would be good to have a kind, compassionate nurse like you when my time comes.

[@Noone-rt6pw]

Yes, any time one suffers, it's always good having someone comfort and console a person.

[@Newton14alan]

The dying person may not be "hallucinating". They might be seeing loved ones from "the Other Side" who are preparing the patient for the final moments when they will be leaving their bodies. Individuals, working in Hospice, need to know this.

[@elenadejesus7489]

Hi Alan G... My precious sis passed last October 2021. She told me when in the ICU, that mom came to tell her she was dying. Mom passed in 2014. She also saw her dog and he's been dead for about 5 years. My precious sis gave me a dog whom was rescued from fighting. I was his mom for 5-6 years. He passed a little over a week ago. She passed in October of last year and he passed in October of this year. The pain from losing them is all so impactful in such a deep way. Someday I'll have peace

[@judylozano8137]

Can you elaborate on this?

[@BigJack512]

@@judylozano8137google “near death experience” or “IANDS”

[@Emily_Paris]

@@elenadejesus7489 hello Elena. I’m so sorry to hear about your sister passing and then her precious dog. Time will heal. I just lost my 92-yr old mom Nov 2022. When she was in ICU, she couldn’t speak or open her eyes but she was reaching out to someone like as if there was a spirit with her. She passed away 3 days later. My dog of 13 years passed away a year before and she was my faithful furry baby. Sometimes the tears are uncontrollable, got worse when I lost my mom.

[@tinarosenberg5781]

When my mom was dying she pointed to a corner of the room and was saying momma i believe she was seeing My grandma

[@henrybittle5234]

Ive had experience with Hospice nurses. They are wonderful beautiful people, caring and tender hearted . I am so grateful for them. To be around death and pain from family members they have to be very special people. God bless them all.

[@thenursiversity7975]

I have the pleasure of working with amazin hospice nurses, so I definitely agree. :)

[@kch3769]

It takes a special nurse to work in hospice 😌

[@denisepeaveychambers9590]

Yes it sure does

[@nariko47]

Absolutely 🙏

[@lauriemillerbeyer]

My dad is currently at the rattle stage. Any moment now. It’s been such a painful, sharp decline, but our hospice team at the VA has been beyond compassionate and kind. This video has given me so much more context of the process, and a great reminder that our situation is not one of it’s own. God bless you.

[@rhodabrands9558]

I'm so sorry saying a prayer for ya .

[@shar159]

So sorry. It's a difficult time.

[@rizpahguerrero2517]

Lifting you and your family up in prayer 🙏🏼💜 my family member was just placed on hospice 😪

[@sarasmith19]

I remember that sound and it's not at all what I expected . Before it started my husband pointed and asked if I could take him through that door . I told him I would take him as far as I could . Then he asked who is that man ? Then it started . Thank God he had someone to guide him to Glory !

[@MsAdventure531]

We thank him for his service to our country. 🇺🇸 Rest in Divine and Eternal Peace, Sir

[@booger1020]

I feel like I need to tell you this. My grandfather was on home hospice since March. I have been researching end of life care since then. I guess its the social worker in me; to want to research everything... I came across this video not too long ago and have been watching it almost every day. It has helped me so much. Today, 6/5/21, my grandfather passed away at home and other than the gasping breaths that seemed to distress us more than anything, it was the most peaceful death I could have ever wished to witness. I try not to cry around him and had stepped outside to compose myself and 5 minutes later, my boyfriend who was with him, came to tell me that he thought grandpa had passed. I feel as if grandpa waited until I was out to go so that it wouldn't hurt me. Thank you, Holly. Thank you for your knowledge and for unknowingly helping me get through this.

[@thenursiversity7975]

Thank you for sharing this with me. I am so sorry for your loss, but I am honored to have been a part of your journey. Much love to you and your family.

[@donnafontaine2799]

Deepest condolences to you it is so sad so difficult my dad passed last year..thank you for sharing your story.

[@OOBEJuanKenobi]

@@thenursiversity7975 I almost died in 2014. Before that, my grandma committed suicide in 2000. When my grandma died, I started to focus on life after death. Once the mind goes there, it gets information about it. I am always focused on telepathy now. I went through a process of doubt, to acceptance, to having my own experiences as a channel and psychic medium. I never was religious. I always had an open mind, but have a scientific, skeptical, and inquisitive persona. Since 2015, all my doubt is gone about the reality of telepathy being real. I hear voices in my mind. All I do is just meditate, watch, and listen. I read a book on meditation called The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. That’s how I figured things out. It’s rad. I went through heart failure. I have anxiety daily, so I just try to stay centered in my mind. No one knows what happens after death, but it’s likely our minds continue, just not as a human persona. We likely just remember existing before birth - like waking up from a strange dream. Hope this helps.

[@quinag7080]

Ive been researching too Bc my mom was put in hospice 2 weeks ago & has been restless its all going so fast

[@karlahemphill3414]

This gal is the exact kind of person I want around me when I pass away. Very good video.

[@berenicebauer72]

Had hospice nurses at home. God bless them for their kindness and understanding.

[@517oceanfront]

In sacramento,the hospice I had was lacking and dreadful,I had to call them for help,and it took hours.Hours that I didn't have,he was gone and I had know way to know that.

[@karenmcardle142]

My husband passed away in 2010 due to lung cancer. He stayed at the hospice for 1 week , he didn't want to be alone , after 30 years together being his nurse was the least I could do ,9 months and 9 days later he gained his Angel wings . I can also agree about how peaceful he went . We had been laughing , it was the first time I had relaxed since he had been diagnosed, I thought wow this is the person I fell in love with , we laughed hard and then that was it he passed with a big smile on his face , and he managed to hold on till some family came also , as he passed my mum literally walked onto the living room it's going to be 12 years this January 26th . I miss him . We all do , took years to take comfort that hes in my heart and head 24/7.. GBNF RIP BBZ 🙏🌟

[@yvonneread5006]

Sadly, people are not too familiar with their Bible's, it offers two destiny"s one for lfe in heaven and one for ljfe on the earth? which is ours heaven or earth? can't all be going to heaven for what is the purpose of the earth? good to find out for ourselves builds our faith in Gods word try checking , won't be disappointed!

[@sethtroutner1278]

Thank you! I wished I could have watched this before my grandmother died. Hospice walked me through the process. I would have been lost without them. Much love.

[@kindiz]

Thank you for this. My grandmother passed at 3am on the 4th of September, and I was with her until about 9pm the night before at the nursing home. Everything you explained here matched with what I'd read up on before seeing her, and what I saw, except for the skin changes. But right before I left, I could feel that the fingers on her left hand was a bit colder than the rest, and colder than when I arrived a few hours earlier. She had a nurse with her through the night, and before she took her last breath, the nurse held her hand and played her some music that she liked. My father, aunts and uncle had to leave at 10, as the other residents needed peace and quiet for the night, but after they got the call, my aunts went over there to deliver the clothes she wanted to be buried in, and combed her hair. It was heartbreaking to witness, as I followed her decline from four days prior. Just seeing that person who was always there for as long as you lived reduce down to more or less an infant. But I am glad I was there as much as I could, to hold her hand and talk to her. We even got the most beautiful goodbye, as she had one of her last waking moments just as I left the hospital (before she was moved to the nursing home). She smiled and waved, we hugged (and we'd been waiting so long for that hug...), said I love you, and blew each other kisses as I left the room. I am so grateful for you and everyone else who does what you do. For being with out loved ones in their final hours, taking care of them, and making sure they are honored even after they pass on.

[@simosc2]

Thank you for this video. My mother passed last week. She was in a hospice center only a short time. I am elderly and couldnt make the trip to be with her so hearing all you explained gives me peace.

[@irmaflores5200]

Hospice nurses are God sent angels... Thank you for your servants heart..

[@ruthstempert9526]

My husband was in hospice for a month and the employees are very sweet, they had called me with any little change with him including when they had to increase his pain meds. They also took the time to speak with my children if they had questions. My oldest daughter lived out of state and spent the night with him when she came to visit and say her goodbyes. I have never herd one family complaint about them. At the hospice my husband was in they did a gathering at the end of each month of the family’s to honor the passing of the loved ones, it was a great feeling of honor that they cared that much. Thank you hospice of New Port Richey Florida.

[@Cathleen861]

I was a hospice nurse for years...both in homes and inpatient facilities. Those were the most rewarding years of my nursing career. You did a great job on this video!

[@judymanning2538]

Hi. Thank you. Mom is actively dying.I don't feel helpless or alone even tho I am. Hospice people are angels ❤

[@brownleeal]

You have such a soothing voice.

[@thenursiversity7975]

Well thanks!

[@kellyskaggs5687]

@@thenursiversity7975 I believe you are in the right job, your voice is so soothing and you seems so sweet, thank you for all the kindness you give your patients they really need that God bless you!!

[@goombabear]

Yes. She seems perfect for hospice care.

[@jbollaert48]

You are a lovely, caring person and I’m sure you are so helpful and comforting for both your patients and their families. God Bless You……

[@peterwinstonaldredge6927]

When my father was close to death, we took him to a Hospice House which was very nice and the people were wonderful. We tried our best to keep him in his own house until he passed but, it was just not possible. He was in the Hospice House about 10 days before he passed. Every situation is different as you say but, I feel fortunate that our local facility was as nice as it was. I have such a great amount of respect for you nurses who take care of the dying. I hope I am lucky enough to have such great care if I ever need it.

[@sheilareynolds3755]

I had the most incredible, first time experience, with my father in hospice in Tucson ,Az. Such compassion and respect was given to both him and us . It was a deeply moving experience.

[@thenursiversity7975]

I am so glad you had a positive and moving experience.

[@maltarios7216]

I loved how you explained this and how you and your facility handles other family members with tender love and care . My dad is currently in hospice and i wished he had you as his nurse during this process.

[@michaelsambrano6708]

Had Hospice for my Dad. They were the greatest and compassionate. Thankyou so much to all the workers, my Dad just loved them.

[@thenursiversity7975]

I'm glad your dad had a good experience with his hospice staff :)

[@aidamarquez4166]

I just wanted to say thank you to all hospital staff and Hospice staff who were able to help my son in his last hours before he passed away. I was able to spend time with him before and after. So thank you.

[@thenursiversity7975]

I am very sorry for the loss of your son. I'm glad you had hospice staff there to support you and your son in his final moments.

[@aidamarquez4166]

@@thenursiversity7975 Thank you, I never thought that I would have to do this for my son . He was only 23 he was in a vegetative stage and never recovered. But seeing him so peaceful brought me comfort.

[@thenursiversity7975]

@@aidamarquez4166 I can't even imagine what you have been through. My thoughts are with you

[@sarahall7161]

Amazing lady 😊

[@damerochelle4014]

God bless you and your colleagues who have the gift to provide the gentleness, understanding and compassion for people in need at the time of their need.

[@thenursiversity7975]

Thank you for your kind words. I definitely work with some amazing people.

[@Sedum54]

You are doing what you are meant to do. You care. The dying are fortunate to come across someone like you on their last journey. I would have wished my Great Aunt to have had such care.

[@thenursiversity7975]

Thank you for your kind words. It's hard to talk about end of life care, but I wish more of us would talk about it with our family members so that we can avoid unnecessary suffering.

[@jennifertansky9569]

Oh honey...you are so young. The fact that you chose this path means so much to so many people. It is VERY IMPORTANT you are getting counseling of your own. Bless you and all of your coworkers.

[@loisroberts2216]

My grandson I raise is on Hosparus we love are team they give him total control he is 17 his days are not long most part of this is watching him go down hill my team gives us love compassion and help us with everything we deal with and always help him to make his last days comfortable.

[@madesimple101]

Having had Hopsice care for 4 of my family member in the last 9 years (husband, brother, and parents) each time it is a learning experience and you miss so much when you are caught up in the process. This video is so beneficial to watch when there is not a terminal diagnosis or impending death because it allows the viewer to have a different experience and hopefully have seeds planted, which will come up at a later date. Knowledge is truly power. Being proactive and prepared for when the call eventually come makes a huge difference.

[@thenursiversity7975]

This is a great point. Thank you for sharing.

[@stevenblackden4363]

Friday the 2nd marked 2 years since my aunt passed away from cancer and she did home hospice, as hard as it was seeing her unresponsive and semi conscious, it was comforting to me that she wasn’t in pain. We went to visit her less than 2 weeks before her death, we went to visit her and little did I know that would be the last time I’d ever hug her or even see walking around.

[@manuelmoraleda9285]

May you continue to have the strength, stamina, and compassion in dealing with people leaving this earthly existence. Those folks are fortunate to have you at their bedside.

[@beverlymiller182]

I lost my husband on the 29th of November while under hospice care. The nurses were wonderful and so patient with me. Thank you for The awesome care and helping him pass with dignity.

[@melb2258]

Bless your heart for doing such a courageous job !! You are a gem to society!

[@natepike6147]

My father got sick with so much cancer on November 16, 2021 and died on December 24. I am so grateful that he had beautiful people near him, and someone there with him as he stopped breathing.

[@trinidiana]

Thank you thank you thank you for this. You are wonderful and this was so helpful. My dad is going to pass In The next few days you are all angels. Every day living angels!

[@jpeterberger5357]

As a fellow hospice RN, but in the home setting, thanks for this straightforward video. I hope it helps families understand what they and their loved one may experience throughout the process.

[@patriciasmall4768]

I can never thank Hospice enough for the loving and gentle care my two sisters received when they were only weeks away from passing from devastating illnesses. One of my sisters was at home under the care of Hospice and also my two daughters and myself. When you are the ones who are giving care to a loved one whose life is slipping away, the warmth and tender smiles on the nurses, are rays of sunshine. Thank you so much and may God bless all of you.

[@casperdro]

As I was there though out my Aunts Hospice expertise. I have to say that your description is accurate. The caretaker, and the nurse at the end always told us what was happening, answered all questions and was very compassionate, and professional. It was an honor to have her there at my aunts house as she passed. It was a sad day, but a peaceful passing. I can not express the gratitude towards Hospice for what they do and provide. It takes a special person to do that type of service. If even I am in that type of medical situation, I would absolutely do through Hospice.

[@MJ-sj9ho]

Thank you for sharing this information. YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL SOUL!!!

[@notagain779]

Thank you so much for this video. Hospice nurses are angels! It's true that morphine is a wonderful help, and at the end of my mother's life, I was watching her and noticed her breathing slowing and becoming more shallow. The nurse came in just then and checked her pulse. She said, "There are only a few minutes left now. If you have anything to say, you should say it, because even though she seems unconscious, she probably will hear you." I was very close to my dear mom, and I hope she heard my last words of love. The hospice experience was a wonderful comfort to me and I hope, to her. God bless you ! for all the very important work you do for others in their time of sorrow, in such a dedicated and selfless way.❤️

[@nadapenny8592]

The doctors would not give me (27) or my mom (61) a straight answer about the condition of my grandmother (94) for three weeks. Within two days of starting hospice care, my grandmother began what I now know is transitioning but at the time it was terrifying for my mom who was the only one there because my grandmother's condition had been tired and weak but otherwise normal, with no reason for me not to have gone to work for the week. It's a 90 minute drive and by the time I got there, my grandmother was completely unconscious. The hospice nurse who arrived later as scheduled seemed to realize that we were confused and once he finished taking care of my grandmother, he sat down with us and explained to us that she was dying and these would be the last 1-3 days. Again...the doctors hadn't told us anything like that, and we had been under the impression that her hospice was just the beginning of end of life care, as everyone at the practice had been reassuring us that hospice doesn't mean that she's dying right now, and she was in good physical health for her age. I asked the hospice nurse if this was it or if this was just an episode and she would be back up in a few days again, and he very gently touched my knee and looked me in the eyes and said "Yes, dear. I think this is the end." I thought I would lose it but when I didn't, I realized that I wasn't afraid of a yes or no, I was afraid of the in between. It was so comforting to have someone literally explain death without tiptoeing around the subject, and directly confront mortality.

[@bripierce]

I went through the exact same thing my grandma got on hospice care about 3 months ago and we thought it was to help her heal from a wound she left the hospital with and all this time I thought that I was doing something wrong since I'm her caretaker because she was only getting worse and then about a couple days ago sometime last week they finally told me that she was dying. And now she's got probably less than a week left, I don't understand why they wouldn't just tell me that. You've no idea how much stress and how bad I felt, now that I know she's dying it's hard still but at least I know that it's nothing that I did wrong.

[@bripierce]

And when the nurse finally told me that she was dying cuz she also said that they knew from the moment she went on hospice so she was never going to get better.

[@mirpy6824]

17 here, currently helping my grandparents right now. My Grandfathers on hospice and hes in his active state right now. Thank you for your education. Knowledge helps a lot. Hospice nurses are a different bread ours has been just an angel.

[@Mimi-fe2gm]

What a sweet, empathetic, thoughtful nurse you clearly are. This is who you want caring for you or your family... what a blessing to have you there. Thank you for choosing this career... it's got to be very difficult job day in day out. Wish you all the best my dear. Xo 💖

[@kitkat7517]

A long time ago(about 30 years or so), a girl at work had twins and one of them had the cord wrapped around her neck and did not survive much past birth.When I went to the funeral service, the minister was a woman and she used this analogy which still gives me great comfort to think about. She said that when the baby is still inside the utero they are happy. They move around, suck their thumbs and can "breath" without drowning. When they are about to come out, they don't know that a new way of life is about to happen to them. 99% of babies are healthy and very much wanted by their parents after birth occurs, right? But they don't know that, and God is preparing them for a new life outside the mommys tummy. So that is how I hope it will be when my time is near. I will have a much better life with God and Jesus and even though I may be scared of the process, it helps me to realize it's all part of the master plan.

[@moconnorduber1787]

Babies in utero don't have pain if healthy. I am sure birth doesn't feel good but we don't remember it.

[@goombabear]

Amen.

[@louisejohnson7525]

Q

[@CrystalSaysSo]

But babies in utero DO feel pain, especially as their due date arrives and their little bodies have developed into a rather complex and miraculous Nervous system. We know this through pre-term babies. They will, when exposed to painful stimuli, withdraw from it, grimace, etc. Once the Central Nervous System is complete. The majority of the main works being completed at around week 5. Then, it fine-tunes itself. And I agree! RN's, LPNs, Doctors, Respiratory Therapists, CNAs, PCTS and all of you. You are doing the works of God. Takes very very special people to work in Terminal Care or Hospice Care. Thank you for what you do.

[@alessandravillalobos150]

Amen 🙏🌹

[@dianafisher7052]

Let me first say that Hospice nurses are angels on earth. To live with this day after day, be cognizant of the family's needs during this time, takes a special human being. My first experience with hospice was my father-in-law 6 years ago. The care providers made sure to explain each step of my FIL journey. He lasted 5 days. He was comfortable and it was as peaceful a passing as one could hope for. Since he was a Vietnam vet, they covered him with a flag and lined up to pay respects as he was moved to the funeral home's vehicle. God Bless them!!! My mother recently entered hospice. She is in her "transition" period, but she is being well taken care of. I believe her passing will be soon....a couple of weeks at best. I can't thank the wonderful nurses who do this difficult job day in and out. May God bless you for your compassion!!

[@monicaperez2843]

My 71 year old brother is dying of multiple myeloma and has fired his curative and hospice staff multiple times. Please pray for Jim.

[@bobzeren4789]

My brother passed from Multiple Myeloma on July 25th, age 62. I know what you're going thru.

[@vidiwattieroberts7036]

I have work in a Assisted living for fifteen years ,as a home health aide. I can tell you it's not easy to see someone pass .But I did it, I make them very comfortable. You could see in their eyes it's very glassy and they body be came help less and when you left their hands you could tell death is come ,because they hands is falling .It is not something to watch. It's very very sad to see someone pass. May God keep them in a better place .

[@mariaevans7811]

God bless!!!! 🇬🇧

[@erinneder9902]

It is always ok to show you are sad too. My Grandmere passed and she was with the care for 4 months and they loved her! So their sadness helped me by showing their emotions

[@brendasparkman2480]

Doctor wanted my MOM to go in hospice I said HELL no I bought MOM home with me she died 2 days later. without MOM my life has never been the same. o how I wish that she was still here with me. I'm looking forward to seeing her Once again and we will be together forever 😭❤🌷

[@dpmcnamee1799]

@@brendasparkman2480 Didn't they offer in-home hospice care? I tried to get hospice for my dad. But in FL good luck with that there are so many. We couldn't do it at home because he couldn't bear weight on his legs and Mom and I couldn't take care of him. He ended up in memory care and from there the hospital and then skilled nursing. It was there I tried to get hospice involved. I couldn't even get an evaluation! It was a nightmare and I spent his last week trying to get him appropriate care. No one seemed to care and kept telling me, "he's not actively dying." There's so many seniors most just fall through the cracks of a horrifically broken healthcare system - even at death. It's downright frightening!

[@zudemaster]

My Dad received hospice care at home for probably 3-4 years. So many times his nurses would tell me he was transitioning, he wouldnt last much longer. When he finally died the hospice nurse was there. She had turned around to send a message to the office and i noticed he stopped breathing. I just could tell from looking at him. It wasnt a last gasp or anything dramatic like you see on TV. I told the lady well its over, im pretty sure hes not breathing. She checked him and sure enough he was gone. BTW, Dont come back with the standard sorry for your loss people. I watched my Dad deteriorate for 10+ years from alzheimers disease. His death was such a relief to know he was no longer suffering. It hurt me more to see him suffer for all those years than to see him pass.

[@DeniseBrown-voteblue]

Grateful to have people like you to help patients and loved ones with this experience.

[@zonadaniell7159]

My experiences with Hospice have been wonderful. They are there for the family when it feels as though life is standing still and we are not sure which way to go. They lend the care and support the family needs during this difficult time. Every member of the Hospice team extended genuine concern for me. It brought me much comfort during a situation over which I had no control. God bless Hospice..They are Angels. There are not enough kind words to express how grateful I am for them.

[@carolinemole4667]

My husband saw angels. He pointed to a corner of the hospital room and told me they were there to bring him home.

[@missyholbert5052]

I, myself am an EOLD and actively sitting with my third Hospice patient. It gives the family such great comfort that I am with their mother and caring for her. The dying are scared and I feel as though I provide comfort to them by gentle touch and gentle tone. I love my job and I love each and every patient and their families greatly!

[@marcyallison5996]

They aren't scared when they see their dead loved ones coming to receive them into heaven.

[@missyholbert5052]

@@marcyallison5996 yes, I know they aren’t scared when they see their deceased loved ones come to them, I’m simply stating that, in the time that I’ve been doing this profession, the patients ARE indeed scared and voice that they are until they are transitioning.

[@briann.farber]

My Dad is in hospice right now. Thank you for this video.

[@esmeraldaamaral8013]

I am so grateful I was recommended to hospice at home for both of my parents you guys showed me so much. You were so considerate and professional even worried about me. Thank you so much for all your help deeply appreciated!🌹

[@sandysue202]

My late husband was on hospice and then he got better and he went off of hospice for a couple months. Then the liver encephalopathy struck very hard and he was mostly comatose for the final week of his life, so the hospice nurses returned. They were a lifesaver for me, both times! And the hospice chaplain was amazing!! We asked him to conduct my husbands funeral and I know my husband would have chosen him as well. Im still considering doing some volunteer hospice work but I dont have a medical degree so it will be helping in another capacity. Thank you not only for this video, (and I saw all of this with my husband), but also for doing what you do!❤

[@surv2239]

I have personally been with more than one person when they have taken their last breath. I have been doing this for more than four decades. Hallucinating times at first was difficult to deal with however I found if I pretended to be what or who they were dealing with it helped them to be more comfortable. It's good to explain this to the general public who want to learn without spending months and lots of money.

[@amberwhite592]

definitely subscribing. i work as a safety monitor for a local hospital group. you break down the process of dying to very understandable terms. my first pt that i watched pass was very peaceful. he woke up looked around the room. with a very clear voice said goodnight world. then laid back and fell asleep. he was pronounced deceased about 20 minutes later.

[@jan4222]

My precious husband spent the last week of his life as an inpatient in an amazing hospice facility. I am forever grateful for the kindness and compassion the nurses showed to him and our family. He had been through so much and they made sure he was cared for and comfortable. They made the most difficult moments of my life a little more bearable. Thank you, Hospice of the Valley.

[@elizbethdryburgh.8765]

Hello.....it is people like you who make life worth living, the amount of peace and love i found in your voice has lifted me out of a depressed place to experience life once again from a point of love which makes me feel truly alive and loved, thank you so much. 🕊

[@thenursiversity7975]

I am so happy to hear that you feel you are in a better place now

[@JulieR73]

God bless you. Hospice was such a blessing when my mom was in a hospice facility. Her passing was so peaceful.

[@thenursiversity7975]

I am glad to hear that your mother's passing was peaceful. Much love to you :)

[@JulieR73]

@@thenursiversity7975 Thank you so much!

[@grumpyoldfart3891]

I lost my beautiful, 92 year old Mom two weeks ago. I owe hospice a debt of gratitude for their help. Because of their assistance, my Mom passed away at home, in her own bed, with me close by. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

[@mariag5306]

My father was in hospice and he took his last breath in my arms. The care not only he received but the entire family was beyond exceptional. The day he passed his regular day nurse had taken the day off to study for an exam the next day but once she heard that he was dying she came in to be there for us. He died peacefully and quietly as he lived. He never complained and was a calm man. He never even went through the restless phase. He always kept everything in. I know the staff adored him. He never complained and always said thank you until he was still able to speak. The hospice was run by a Catholic order of nuns so I was able to get the priest to come in and give my dad his last rites but the poem and rose petal tribute you describe sounds beautiful and a very special touch which I don't think all hospices include. Thank you.

[@GutHealthNurse]

Each Death is truly different. Great Overview!

[@marylair7778]

This nurse did such a good job! I had Hospice with my dad and they were wonderful!

[@danazora1963]

My Dad just past away in the Hospice on Nov1/2021 and the people that worked at hospice were very friendly very loving and cared about their patients I was glad to have met these people as they are very special to me in my heart.

[@zoommike8157]

thank u, nobody else be explaining what actually happens during hospice

[@kellyhart1308]

Hospice is amazing and hospice nurses are the most incredible people. Unfortunately I have had 3 family members on hospice and I couldn’t have handled their care without them. Thank you.

[@SnR80574]

Your voice is really soothing, I’m sure your patients appreciate you.

[@michiganmom857]

You seem like such a caring and loving individual, thank you for all your kind care you give to so many families and patients.

[@KrissiCreates]

I have had 3 family members that were on Hospice care and been with each of them. 2 of them, my Momma and my Husband, were in home Hospice care. The other, a man that was like a Grandfather to me was in a nursing facility. I can not say enough about Hospice Nurses and their team. They are truly Angel's on earth! After being with all 3 of my family members, I no longer fear death. Other than that rattle with my Momma, who was first to go, her passing was so peaceful. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for what you do and too all that work with Hospice ! Hugs, love and prayers from Kansas!

[@sallyclay1974]

My sister passed away from Lewy Bodies Dementia. She had round the clock caregivers in Ridgefield, CT, in her home, for about 4 yrs Then, she went to an Assisted Living facility, in Darien, CT. It's called, The Residence. She was in memory care, for 3 yrs, and then, she stopped eating. Hospice was called in. She passed away peacefully on Jan 27th, 2021.. The medical staff there, was wonderful. Thankyou all!

[@ickiedeer-lamb7282]

My deepest condolences and prayers for you.

[@cindyloohoo1376]

Hospice workers are Angels placed here on earth.

[@howardmanley3388]

You did so good explaining this process….( much appreciated )

[@davepark1085]

Thank you for doing the line of work you do, takes a special type of person to do it. I am grateful for the hospice that took care of my mother in her final days.

[@gregorylincoln4328]

I lost Mommy over a year ago. I still can't believe she's gone. It still all seems like nightmare.

[@thenursiversity7975]

I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine how that must feel.

[@ProphetCee]

I’m sorry for your loss ❤️ prayers for healing and love friend

[@donnafontaine2799]

I am very sorry for the loss of your mom it is very difficult going through that my dad passed a year and half ago...just can't stand the pain but it meant we had wonderful parents we loved enormously and they are around us and with their love they never really leave us but for the time being guiding, helping, and watching over us with an Angel too and you will see your mom one day it will be forever this is what keeps me sane too 🌸🤗❤️!!

[@earnold1896]

@@donnafontaine2799 you will only meet relatives if you are walking daily with Jesus and born again and they were too as Jesus tells.

[@earnold1896]

Sad... Are you a young person Gregory.

[@carisowealthy]

May you have the strength always

[@rumnadeal2679]

God Bless the hospice and the staff. My beloved mom passed away via hospice St. Francis Assisi in Singapore. The best of the best. Our utmost thanks to all hospice nurses. Love this video.

[@robyngrob8366]

You are absolutely amazing! A tremendous speaker with a lot of knowledge for your short 1 1/2 years! Thank you for this insight! Much love and thank you for your love and care for our terminally ill! xo

[@robyngrob8366]

PLus an amazing speaker!

[@jackallen6261]

Thank you for this video...My Mom is in the final stage of her life...I watched my Dad die slowly after Heart surgery (a quadruple bypass) he instantly went from more or less aware of his surroundings to not knowing who anyone was (including himself) and within a few months he passed. He actually died from a massive stoke. I guess no one dies from dementia. My Mom is now experiencing some of the same symptoms. I know she does not have long on this earth, It's okay, I have accepted it and at this time I just pray for a painless passing. I must say... and this will piss some people off but...I hated it when a doctor told me and my stepmom that if we didn't do some procedure or that they "could die" Um well I am sorry to inform them but we are ALL going to die! You, me, everyone else! I told one of my Dads doctors after hearing this he was an idiot and needed to quit bilking the families of more money to "save them" When it is your time it is your time...No one or no procedure will stop it. Let them go in peace...Sorry for the rant but I cannot in clear conscience not say it. Peace!

[@86MONTE-SS]

Agree totally will treat symptoms to try and keep getting paid even tho it doesn't change the outcome

[@jackallen6261]

@@86MONTE-SS Yes! Well said. Thank you!

[@Kiki-wi7px]

Bless YOU for ALL that You DO, and for " Comforting " Everyone. Your Compassion IS Appreciated So Much. 🤗

[@knarasimhanchari2565]

God bless you. You are doing a great service.

[@debslaughter8588]

Beginning next week, I’ll be volunteering in a Hospice facility, to offer spiritual comfort. I haven’t any medical training, but I just feel drawn. Having said that, I’m also feeling a bit inadequate and intimidated. I know that my God-given spiritual gift is that of mercy, and with that gift comes empathy, compassion, and the ability to show God’s abundant love to others. I would be most appreciative of any advice you can offer me as to how I can I be a meaningful conduit of God’s love in these end of life situations.

[@purplebonnie3620]

Be yourself, a Daughter of the KING! Agape.

[@judymanning2538]

Sitting with my mum now. She is in hospice actively dying. You don't need to speak or say. Just be. Silence can be golden. 🍀 thank you

[@Teal_Seal]

I’m with my dad right now, he’ll probably pass tonight. He’s appreciated me reading the Bible, playing hymns (phone, softly), stroking his face, holding his hand. Dripping water into his mouth. And as another said, just being here, quietly. And the staff has helped me by listening, answering questions, and hugging me when I lose it. This is new territory for me and they reminded me to give myself grace during this emotional time when we’re not quite ourselves. Hope that helps…

[@mistyjohnston5795]

You are exactly the type of hospice nurse that I would want any of my family or myself to encounter. Ashley, every single one of you that work in that field are special people and we have tremendous respect for you. God bless you all there are only a few that can do that job and I think it's a calling for those that do it. Thank you for being so kind to every person you have ever comforted during this time!!!

[@75apocalypse]

Thank you. I lost my cousin at a hospice. People there were very kind and let me spend time with her after she died. I appreciate that and will never forget that.

[@viccimauldin2235]

My husband passed away on March 15, 2011 from cholangiocarcinoma. An awful type of cancer which is not curable. We spent the last seven days in a hospice home in the Phoenix, AZ area. We moved in with him and stayed until he was removed after he died. The Hospice Home was so wonderful to us. Especially me. So much kindness. Thank you for making our journey easier. ❤