What happens when you don't give a narcissist the REACTION THEY ARE LOOKING FOR

[@mikz33]

Not reacting is really goin to be you strongest weapon against a narcissist... I have learned it the hard way though...

[@annettemcclain347]

Me too. It's been the roughest 11 years I've had. Now I've blocked him. It was rough, but each day I feel free. I can only hope it's gets better as time goes on

[@verondalytle7858]

Me too. It's been a year, still hurts, still learning

[@hernanveigalima2131]

nice

[@VivoVivo-un5zj]

Haha,They will crazy when you ignore ,don't care😂

[@AngelEyes-xm7el]

When you don't react oh look out. They rant for hours how you don't care about them. Yet they can call you all kinds of foul things. I ignore it. He said your gonna do as I say. I am highly educated. 🤮🤮

[@lexilei9950]

It's hilarious how they literally all play from the same playbook.

[@tiffanyjones4651]

- Textbook predictable. So pathetic.

[@dsmusicbird]

@@lexilei9950 it is crazy-insane!

[@lotusflower2315]

Handbook from h€ll

[@Patricia_Stewart337]

It’s right there on the diagnosis description. Excuse for a personality.

[@Patricia_Stewart337]

It’s right there on the diagnosis description. Excuse for a personality.

[@scotttully8572]

Learning NOT TO REACT is the purpose of the whole narc relationshit. It's the final exam. 🙏

[@shawnjones7463]

Not to react and to love yourself more ❤

[@Amie-n7y]

@@scotttully8572 relationshit😂🤣👏👏

[@jasrussone]

EXACTLY!

[@KgwittheTEA]

❤❤❤

[@kittykatjonkakitty2542]

what is meant by not react? for example when they call you or text you not to respond?

[@linneasimchah1621]

yeah, if a narc is still talking to you, that means you have something they want. Abusive people don't care about you--they care about what you can do for them. FBI negotiator Chris Voss says you know someone wants something from you if they're still talking to you.

[@tiffanyjones4651]

- Facts.

[@Ms_Lolita-u6n]

I gave no reaction when the ex-Narc and his new supply (who is also his girlfriend before me) drove slowly past my house to make sure I saw them. I’ve been in no contact for six months, so it’s probably a reverse hoover.

[@ElizabethMartinez-q9v]

So proud you did not react you actually went to your higher self...Great Job

[@Riverlovesfood]

Yeah I feel like I’ve seen him drive by before it’s weird

[@TerraDactyl-hc9ff]

These people have no originality. I went no contact with mine and he did the same shit when I was already in a new relationship and forgot he even existed lmfao. And the girl used to be my friend. Then when he decided to promote her as supply, I just felt sorry for her because she started dressing like me and trying to make her curls like mine lol. Imitation is flattery 😂

[@minoozolala]

That’s a weak hoover and an attempt at triangulation. A reverse hoover is when you do it.

[@karenmcintyrederosby7985]

Of course his new supply is his old supply 🙄

[@brookeplifts]

My ex had me in an ocean of tears just begging and begging and begging him mid November last year not to leave me for someone else at his work. I’ve never reacted and acted like that in my life ever. Whether he was doing it to see if I’d “fight for him” in that moment or not, (he cheated in the end anyway), looking back I was so beyond trauma bonded I fell for the idea that I couldn’t live without him I also felt like he was abandoning me, and I thought I had those abandonment issues fixed yearsss ago (like yearsss y’all). It’s been 8 months now since I cut him off and I’m doing much better. Still can’t go a month without having a week of constant anxiety about the abuse, but at least it’s not every single day anymore

[@condiff2004]

@@brookeplifts 👍 Congratulations and take it one day at a time.

[@Anukii]

Moment you stop reacting the way they desire, suddenly all the shit they did becomes the shit you did, it's wild

[@cindymcdonnell2119]

This is so crazy and so true.

[@richard.c.guitars]

@@Anukii happened to me

[@ladyjadelindia]

My mind is blown to bits

[@ladyjadelindia]

@@richard.c.guitarsliterally last night I’m like shocked.

[@Cherrylipgloss2025]

They start the smear campaign even while you're just dating them so no that's false because narcissists will do that anyway and it's just a given 😂

[@Mulatto.Macchiato]

The narc: "you don't want to stay friends" Me: no, you're a bad person. The narc: ***blocked me on everything***

[@kztuptuo7076]

you win

[@bronwentillman8385]

Me: Aaaaaaah, peace and quiet😊

[@JJ-nd6sm]

Very good, enjoy in peace. Mine became obsessive and took a very long time to quit. First he hated me, then he said bad things about me, then he tried to fix things and was angry like a child that I wouldn't let him. It took so long to quit, very exhausting, so enjoy the silence.

[@WiseGoddesss]

😂😂

[@pazyamor1313]

Lol yep he told me if I didn't answer the phone this time he wouldn't call again! He proceeded to blow my phone up! I told him I was done and he said I'm going to block you lol. You don't have to block me I'm not reaching out!🤣😅 Whatever helps you sleep at night!

[@moneymastery4her54]

The voice you have given “the narcissist” is 😂😂😂. Now it’s what I hear when that person speaks. 😂😂😂

[@ginagina9592]

Riiiiight?!!

[@pearlmygurl]

😂😂

[@Gino-y5u]

🤣

[@trj555]

Bruh 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 that's the permanent narc voice, for 10 lifetimes😂😂

[@tbaby0865]

😂😂😂

[@dsmusicbird]

“Boo boo boo - bee bee bee” 😂 love it

[@samonecharisma3043]

They be loud & proud walking out with they trash bag lol 😅😅😅

[@WaterBug46]

This is just my experience. When I dipped out of arguing, defending, getting my words in he amped it up. Louder. More names. Spending like crazy. Blowing through doors. Maxing up on my known triggers. One year in from my change after 22 crazy years? He still tries to provoke and I turn and walk away. So now he’s trying to be super nice. But then gets frustrated when I don’t respond as he wants and he reverts to anger. Unless he wants to see his problems and address them nothing will change. I had to change and give up on relationship hopes and dreams. Reality is hard but the only way to live. ❤

[@jilross4892]

When you react angrily they give you silent treatment again

[@MentalHealness]

‼️‼️‼️

[@WitchyChaosKitty]

Ain't that the truth💯

[@angier5106]

They also give you the silent treatment when you don’t give them the reaction they want.

[@ChavoMysterio]

I'd say, go ahead, bring on the silent treatment. I don't care as the only way to deal with the silent treatment is to enjoy the silence. Another way to dealing with a narcissist issuing the silent treatment is to fart in a "silent but deadly" style to get them to react and talk.

[@carolynmalone5101]

@@angier5106 yup until they realize you're still not reacting. Then it gets worst smh name calling, blaming you, demeaning your character etc. they want u to react so bad lol

[@bossupathomewithtequila]

When I didn’t react to the narcissist they went BALLISTIC! Screaming crying saying I’m not the good person that everyone thinks I am🤣🤣🤣

[@seameology]

Lol! I've heard that!

[@kaitlincox9714]

Now that I left I find this whole video hilarious. It's so spot on. Thanks for the laugh.

[@amandaw8006]

@@kaitlincox9714 right?! It took me a while to finally be done, now it's comical

[@queengweeezy7836]

The garbage bag full of mustard and ketchup is hilarious 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@joshuawyrick5471]

Omg Yess 🤣😂

[@Renabunting]

Your humor is helping me heal! Trashbag luggage! (Balloon) ha ha ha! Live your messages. Follow you daily.

[@ChelleMEis]

"let's just not worry about it right now and go to sleep and we'll talk more in the morning" = full on instant rage, assault even and I have to call police. Madness.

[@Riverlovesfood]

They hate peace bro it’s so sad

[@raquelknabben393]

Thank you for this video! I live that almost everyday! He pushes me and pushes me until I react! This is not normal in a relationship!

[@JasmonTP]

Another thing that kills them is NO EYE CONTACT. To "look" at them is acknowledging them, even if you're silent. Speaking from experience, been married to one for 34 years.

[@allisonlogsdon3490]

I always wear my sunglasses to every custody exchange for this exact reason. I can always see him trying to look me in the eye

[@JasmonTP]

@@allisonlogsdon3490 Good one !! I love it.

[@faye_bulous]

😂 I suggested a break to regroup from the nex. A few weeks later, he came back; as I was about to work out and said he’s leaving for good. I was done, done with him! I calmly said, "OK." He took offense in my calm reaction, it was priceless! 😂 Now it all makes sense.

[@88Sunshine88]

I realize my bf is a covert narcissist and he’s mad I called him out on his superiority complex now so he’s giving me the silent treatment but this time, I do not care. I want someone I can start a family and home with and when I imagine that with him, I just don’t want that. His silent treatments helped me see the real him and realize I deserve real love. Not love from someone who secretly resents me.

[@ggmazin757]

Lee, he took me to a NFL football game front row seats. Kept asking me, "Are you happy?" Yes, to game. No, to him. Little does he know. Little too late. Your style 😎 is funny 😂 yet so true 🎉

[@Xen-AM]

It can drive them to become obsessed with you to stalk you.

[@empressb444]

Document, report, get court against them, keep reporting, and get protection afterwards

[@Xen-AM]

@@empressb444 in some cases if you aren’t able to put these lunatics behind bars for LIFE getting them put on a restraining order or only jailed for a number of years will further their obsession and want to seek revenge. It’s a journey and isn’t always clear cut. Even from jail they can stalk you.

[@empressb444]

@Xen-AM I'm very aware of that however NOT fighting for your peace and not holding them accountable isn't the answer either. They're going to stalk and be obsessed anyway! The difference is in jail at least you can move and get away while they're in there. Even with a RO you can get you a 🔫 and be justified if you had to use it. Thays how I got away, it wasn't easy but I fought tooth and nail for my freedom.

[@Xen-AM]

@@empressb444 definitely, I agree. I’m not saying don’t do it. I’m just trying to raise awareness that some times people feel like if they have a RO they’re saved and the stalking will stop. I want people to realize they need to have a safety plan in place and realize that getting authorities involved can absolutely amp it up to critical mass. I just want to raise awareness and for people to have a safety plan in place when they do so.

[@nowiknowanarcor2197]

Even if it’s a female narcissist in the in-law setting .. this is 100% factual. They will find a way to get a confrontation going so they can push all of their dysfunction on you. They need this like air ..they will stalk when you cut them off . They will create fake social media profiles. Asking for closure . They always need closure … even when they lie and say it’s all your fault. Closure to them .. is really a trap to bait you into reactions for supply .

[@Patricia_Stewart337]

It’s a trick we learn! To withhold this form of Supply. Any reaction feeds their illness.

[@Ready2Rise]

Ive watched enough now to where this is comedy. All truth but now comedy due to my experience. The no reaction thing is pure torture to toxic people but you can only use that card once you become indifferent which takes time and complete evaluation of the situation youre in. Its exhausting lol. Once there though seeing and experiencing this is purely laughable. They literally implode.

[@Divinely_Guided444]

The one I dealt with would love to push my buttons, and once I finally had enough and exploded, he would call me all kinds of names and then go and delete every comment he said. This was on fb messenger. I'm sure it was to show his friends how "crazy " I was, but not anything he said to continually provoke and abuse me.

[@carleyhodgson4124]

Same experience

[@Divinely_Guided444]

@@carleyhodgson4124 maybe we were dealing with the same narc. Tell me he's not a Capricorn, lol.

[@cindyglass5827]

Lee - I haven't commented in a long time ... I've learned soooo Much from YOU ! So, A Big 100 % Sincere Thank-you !!! 2nd, you're Part Narc Expert ''and'' Part Comedian ~ what a Perfect ''combo'' to Effectively' Teach so many about Narcissism ! : ) As for this video ... Yes, as you always ''drilled home'' for us - If they can 'get us to react' [etc] then THEY Control US !! : ( period ! Keep Up the Great Work !! : )

[@fluffyslippuz52]

Mustard, ketchup packets and holy boxers took me out😂😂😂

[@JayS-w9w]

When you ignore a narcissist, they just try harder to get a reaction. THEY DO NOT EVER GIVE UP

[@annelivingston2021]

"What we need is to go on a trip" 😂😂 That's a line mine has used multiple times after filing for divorce and cheating on me.

[@walkernicole26]

"New Supply" cologne. Its a collection right? 😂

[@robbiewooden5067]

100 percent true. They will get very angry.

[@racheljeannettet]

This used to work with me where I would cry and beg my narc ex not to leave for the first few years of our marriage. When I got hip to it and started telling him to leave he tried other tactics.

[@empressb444]

Yup they never give up on their BS that's why we have to silently leave them

[@tatiannamarshalls2705]

The observe dont absorb technique works everytime.

[@kittykatjonkakitty2542]

What if you cant play a role or in private get angry?

[@Carly-c4l]

This is so narcissistic from a narcissist. Thank you for this. With love from the Empath ❤

[@MichellePringle-t1d]

Used to say "if you don't like it, there's the door". Became numb to it all, so he told me to get the baby and get the F out, so I did and filed for divorce.

[@ericagardens1234]

even Lee is worn out from the shenanigans of a narcissist. i recognize that deep sigh

[@jeffronoloyo1688]

lol I did my final discard in a moment of their weakness like this lol 😂 Unpredictability & Unprovokability is Gold 🤴🏽

[@aggray1971]

I didn’t show any reaction or question him about his new supply, which was his ex and baby momma. The disrespect was the closure. He was waiting it but I didn’t care anymore. I felt that he was messing back with her anyway.

[@Bae2Mari3]

I’m with you on this one!

[@Bridgette_kita]

Easy dealing with a narc/cheating partner keeps denying everything about it and you don’t have any proof or evidence, Come across him where he can help you link your phone remotely and get access to all his/her social media accounts even messages without his/her noticing With the evidence found and he/she can’t deny it anymore and stopped, Sometimes you are to make the step first !! For your relationship to work.. Send him a message now on instagram surely help👉🏿 @harry_cybertech01

[@thefatchegan9716]

This man got a new gf didn’t care he got married i didn’t care he adopted children I didn’t care he started to go against me using my son he’s now alienated I still could not care smh they want to dangle things to get your attention and then snap when you don’t care

[@missaviance5627]

​@thefatchegan9716 So true about the dangling stuff. My husband bought a car for me, and after taking it back a fourth time and leaving me stranded... I'd had enough! I got another one and he tried to bring it back the same day I got the other one.

[@Bae2Mari3]

@@missaviance5627 oh you got left stranded too?! He often would often do things that were “kind” only to use it against me in the future.

[@little_wonderer9290]

Your acting job was spot on, right down to the trash bag! 😂

[@walkernicole26]

In the continued post separation my ex has continued to stalk me of course and tell me "I wish it wasnt like this, you gave up on us. It shouldnt be like this. I TRULY hope your HAPPY" 😂 Yep after begging and getting BS for years chance after chance for 10+ yrs. He can go waste somebody else time.

[@Riverlovesfood]

Crazy how they act like we’re the ones who messed things up 😂 they’re delusional

[@walkernicole26]

@jeslynlovesyou frfr. All the drama, comparing you to favorite past exes/old/current/backup supply they went/go on about they can go be with them. One of many unforgettable things my ex said I wasn't "women enough" then compared me to (in his eyes perfect baby 40 something old sister who treated me bogus like majority of his family. His sister wasn't evil alone on purpose she messed up w me when she she avoided an adult conversation after a very toxic few relatives used her to keep a smear campaign about me going. I have no problem w an adult conversation and she realized how toxic everyone had been in said situation, yet my ex kept treating her like a baby and defending her).

[@tanyadepoalo4312]

Sounds EXACTLY like text messages I got from my manipulative ex. They are all the same!

[@SC-rr7ei]

What a great question! The narc made a plan for us to see a show, and I took the day off work for it, he arranged for us to meet early evening, so we can get there early. He ghosted me, I didn't want to talk to him. I completely ignored the narc, cut him off, nearly a month later, I answered his call. He lost his mind with worry! I kept my cool and flip the script!

[@Bridgette_kita]

Easy dealing with a narc/cheating partner keeps denying everything about it and you don’t have any proof or evidence, Come across him where he can help you link your phone remotely and get access to all his/her social media accounts even messages without his/her noticing With the evidence found and he/she can’t deny it anymore and stopped, Sometimes you are to make the step first !! For your relationship to work.. Send him a message now on instagram surely help👉🏿 @harry_cybertech01

[@allisonlogsdon3490]

The last time we spoke in person during a custody exchange, he lost his mind when I didn’t take the bait. Acted like a total psychopath, screaming, all red in the face. I just stood there deadpan, no reaction and he then proceeded to tell me I was doing it on purpose to get him to act like that. Do what, sir? Stand there??!! 😆

[@QueenBee-fg1iz]

I didn’t react the way my ex expected when he showed up 6 months after I went no contact. He tried with his sad story and lies. I didn’t react and beg him back. He begged me to yell at him for cheating on me; I didn’t. Told him I was living my best life, working out, losing weight, traveling, remodeling my house. He left, smeared me and said I was screaming at him, but that was 2 years ago. Living in peace and joy now!

[@prunelle9051]

'' I'm leaving you because blah blah blah...'' My answer : '' Hehehehe... have a good week end ! '' he arrived half an hour later and stayed for the weekend. Love bombing... like you said. I just wanted him to leave at the end. Bye dude bye. When I said that I was done for good, he forced himself on me. They are dangerous people. When you are done, be done. Never let them in ever again.

[@samia6888]

I am so sorry he did that to you, I hope you let him go for good and are healing now.

[@prunelle9051]

@samia6888 Thank you for your kind words. That was many years ago. I didn't knew at that time what I was dealing with. I moved far away following the incident.

[@MyMiracleHappen]

@@prunelle9051 I'm so glad your in a better place now. An sorry to hear that. My narc ex did the same. Recent sadly but free I am healing. He's never did that over the 2 years I've known & been with him. But the day I said I was done truly and he knew he forced himself on me. An cried he didn't know and thought we were having make up sex. Which lie cuz I never had to fight him while repeatedly saying or yelling NO, stop, get off and I don't want to, etc. Biting, hitting pushing etc. Saying please and crying. Shutting down being numb. Then he crying looking hurt saying he was going to turn himself in and he would never hurt me like that he's never done that to ANYONE before and just can't believe what he did and didn't know i really didn't want to, etc. Ugh, a whole act i almost believed in that moment. They are dangerous and not dumb. They act and play mind games. Losing yourself to a narc is truly heartbreaking and soul crushing. A lesson to never again do that.

[@samia6888]

But when you give them the reaction they are looking for, they will call you crazy. Imagine being called “baby reindeer” because you keep reaching out when they start bread crumbing. All the while they stalked you by reaching out to your ex, go to your job without your knowledge and look into the window to see what you are doing, stalk your friends and add them on social media as if they know them, etc when they only met them with you once, etc. but you crazy when you send emails to them to unblock you when they discard you.

[@J2-pe6wz]

Spot on. Absolutely fucking spot on.

[@samia6888]

@@J2-pe6wz I’m sorry you had to go through this too in whatever manner you did, it’s just crazy making at its finest.

[@J2-pe6wz]

​@@samia6888 I sent a two words text a few weeks after discard and youd' have thought I was harassing them and was obsessed, telling me to Relax!!!!! etc. Absolutely ridiculous discard and then treated like I was out of order. When she realised the strategy wasn't working, and that I wasn't chasing like a crazy person (I imagine that was the narrative), she went back to ridiculous love bombing. They are ALL the fucking same. Truly. All of them.

[@samia6888]

@@J2-pe6wz yes I totally agree, you say one thing to them and they act like you are harassing them but for myself when I didn’t respond, he was reaching out to my sister and friends to see how I was doing. But ofcourse that isn’t crazy.

[@shawnjones7463]

I stopped replying to my narc ex and he went ballistic. Sending me messages that transitioned from loving, to calling me crazy and mentally ill, to wishing I was dead and calling me a cheater and a control freak…. Then he stopped by my apartment when I wasn’t home and texted me that he sees me on the couch with some guy. I filed a harassment report.

[@MentalHealness]

stay safe

[@shawnjones7463]

@@MentalHealness Thank You!

[@JenYin.]

Screaming at the trash bag being packed😂😂😂😂😂😂 the voice you used

[@AD-cx2mw]

Lee you really really sincerely make me laugh ! The trash bag with the ketchup and mustard packets 😂 where do u come up with your sense of humor 😂 you are a real one bro ❤maddddd love and respect

[@sarahgant7614]

What a brilliant video,i know this is supposed to be a serious subject but honestly you had me laughing my head off with all your expressions and voices its all so spot on the content so absolute class 👏 Thank you im glad ive found your channel 😊

[@MentalHealness]

you’re welcome 🙌🏾

[@JasmonTP]

When my narc "tries the silent treatment" on me I've told him more than once. .... I like it when you don't say anything to me. I just love the peace and quiet. In an hour or so, here he comes trying to get my attention.

[@BrotherToby85]

Man, smh lol. My ex-wife was SO MAD that I didn't give her the reaction she wanted to the point where she reached out to my lawyer via email, his legal team, and her current husband ALSO reached out to me all within the SAME day lol 😂. She even goes to MY church, sits behind me, and all "showing off" her new supply(that she's pregnant by) trying to make me jealous. Mind you, she hasn't been to my church in MONTHS, but decides to show up when I came back from my deployment a month ago 😳🙄😒

[@tanyadepoalo4312]

Be strong, don’t give her anything. You deserve better. We all do, these people are not good enough for us. Their behaviors are vile. We all must walk tall and not throw our pearls before swine. That’s an insult to pigs even. They are monsters and pigs are cute and smart and loving, but we must protect our value because they love to devalue us and they want us to believe we have no value because they hate themselves and want us to feel as bad about ourselves as they feel about themselves. They are to be pitied. Stand tall and be strong 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@ElizabethMartinez-q9v]

Cant wait for my first session. I need soport and tools.

[@sososanchez3512]

Loool that wispering took me out😅😅

[@hv935]

It's all a game for them .

[@MentalHealness]

absolutely

[@IsabellaPiesch]

@@MentalHealness ... and they want to win the game....

[@RyanStreete-x5z]

Thank God I found this channel 🇯🇲💯

[@dumpmail-xz2qp]

My ex lunatic narc friend tried to use silence treatment to punish me. I laughed it off because all I did was telling her to tone down with her depression because she would make everything depressing, even our fun activities. I got my limits and should be allowed to set some boundaries... After some days she found out that I wasn't bothered by silence so she went on full blown narcissistic rage that lasted for days. She was throwing all kind of injury to try make me feel like the worst person in the world. My other ex narc friend was trying so hard to get a reaction out of me by pushing me out of her life. When I went no contact, she comes up with wild stories to make out of me such a bad ungrateful friend... I simply was giving her a more permanent space away from me like she kept wanting for 3 years! The level these ppl are clowning could make a great comedy movie

[@helenerainville2806]

Your videos are so good. Only wish I would have know this earlier in life. Even understanding NPD last few years, your role play has made situations make complete sense years later. Thank you

[@CaptainCool336]

Literally the night she was discarding me out of nowhere and lying directly to my face about there not being someone else (a mutual friend of ours) she said she was surprised I wasn’t screaming, yelling, throwing things around, slamming my hands on things and destroying her stuff. I was beyond calm that night and I told her “We’ve known one another for six years, we’ve been together five and a half years of that, why would you think would do any of those things? I’ve never done that before. You know me better than that.” I think it broke her brain. When she came back the next week for more stuff for her “time and space”, that’s how she got me dysregulated. She came back, grabbed more stuff, then refused to talk to me at all after she came back smiling and looking happy after seeing me suffering and trying to put the pieces together after days of stress cleaning (she was an absolute slob). I didn’t know at the time that she, a licensed damn clinician, was very likely a covert narcissist. I told her that same day I was starting therapy because none of what happened made any sense, especially after things seemed amazing for six years and we talked about marriage and a house. What did she proceed to do? Add in that I need help to friends and family as she was smearing me. She was extremely vague about things, but at least I had receipts. I didn’t know I was trauma bonded and then whenever I would try to talk to her and she would be annoyed, she’d tell me to tell my therapist about me not leaving her alone because it’s not normal and it’ll be good for me. Then she tried weaponizing my childhood against me as something I should talk about, but it made no sense because it had nothing to do with anything that was going on. Plus, my childhood wasn’t that bad and whatever trauma I supposedly had, I accepted and came to terms with years ago. Rather than admit she was in a new relationship, she deflected to “talk about your father’s drug issues”. It was disgusting because she wouldn’t have known about his issues if she didn’t work in the rehab center he was mandated to show up to in 2018. Complete weaponization of my past that had nothing to do with me directly. I don’t drink or do drugs and I live a clean life. She had to bring up the fact that I’d be slightly annoyed or upset in years past to use against me as justification for doing what she was doing. Literal mole hills into mountains of justification. Example? I was upset she didn’t pick up a package for me THE YEAR BEFORE because I had it sent to our old address on accident. She was working five miles away from there and didn’t pick it up. I drove twenty miles there and back home and I was slightly dickish and said “hey, if you ever need a similar favor, please don’t ask me because I was asking for something small and you flat out refused to do it for me, so I had to make a 40 mile round trip drive to grab a package from our old address”. I thought about it on the way home and felt absolutely awful and when I sat down after, I apologized for getting upset and letting it get to me. It was dickish and I own it (I was also on medication that made me extremely sore and it didn’t help my mood, but I still own that it came from me) and I’ll do better next time and she can still depend on me like she has for all these years. I look back now and see how incredibly one sided things actually were and it’s mind-blowing. She was a master manipulator and absolutely sick. I swear, the worst type of narcissist is a malignant covert narcissist that can practice therapy because they know the worst ways to manipulate, play victim, and play hero all while refusing to take any responsibility and accountability for their actions. Discard was late June 2023, my no contact went permanent at the end of August 2023. I might have only spoken to her three or five times after the discard, seen her three times to help her move her stuff, and she even lied about that and said I was trying to convince her to keep stuff here and I was hovering around her. No matter how big or small the lie is after the discard, they will use it with everybody and they’ll all pour out like a broken faucet. The problem is the lies are so vague that it plants seeds in the heads of other people and it lets their imagination fill in the blanks. It’s sick. Hell, last week a police department called me because she told them she was getting emails, phone calls, and text messages spamming her and she claimed it was me. I told them I cut her out of my life permanently last August and wanted absolutely nothing to do with her. It’s funny because I’m getting a bunch of the same stuff, but I’m using my block button and spam filter for all of it. I thought something happened to a family member or a friend when the police called my phone and I asked them if something happened since someone called them. They said her name and my heart sank. I asked if something happened and if she was safe, they said yes, but she called them and basically accused me of something that happens to most cell phones every single day. They wanted to clarify whether or not I had anything to do with it and I didn’t. When he was telling me about her call, with the way he sounded, it almost sounded like it was one of the dumbest phone calls he’s taken and like he wanted to roll his eyes because he had to make a call about someone getting spam calls, emails, and texts during election season. My friends and I confirmed we were getting a bunch of the same type of spam as well and laughed about it, but you can think the narc is gone, but even though they’ve got a new supply, they’ll do anything they can to pop out of nowhere to ruin your life AGAIN and remind you they still exist. Even if you’ve been out of their life for over a year or for a number of years, they’ll blame the absolute dumbest shit on you even though you’re nowhere around and have actively gone silent and avoided them permanently.

[@jaialaiwarrior]

They also love hearing the word "whatever." Lol

[@pennybrowning4005]

He'd be like if you apologize, I might take you back... Over his BS... 💪

[@monaatkins6394]

Omg the purple ballon /trash bag lol 😂 you help make these vomit worthy situations tolerable. Ty 😊

[@MentalHealness]

you’re welcome

[@nappyfries]

This is so timely as my narc cousin came back trying to talk to me after some horrible things she’s done & I feel like I know how this is gonna go. When I don’t respond after she tries to act nice, then she’ll start getting mad & will then start to go off. She wants a response but I know that & she’s not getting anything from me. I am DONE.

[@MentalHealness]

stay empowered

[@mosaicowlstudios]

Not taking the bait is one of my favorite moves. My narcissistic coworker, after I confronted her about her bullying and called a meeting with her boss and my boss and explained to her the behavioral patterns that need to change/improve, tried baiting me for awhile. She would call other departments on the phone and loudly "inspect" the details of my work reports because "parts of this report don't look right to me so I want to check with such and such department" (no errors were ultimately found in my reports). I chose to completely ignore this type of baiting behavior. And oh man, it was SO OBVIOUS how frustrated she was that I never took the bait. Eventually she stopped (no reinforcement, the baiting didn't work so she eventually gave up trying). And that felt the best. Knowing that ignoring the bait ultimately had a modifying effect on her behavior (I am now controlling her behavioral patterns by choosing to withhold reinforcement). It's like a little icing on the cake.

[@Standout4372]

I have a similar story at my job. These people are ridiculous. I just laugh about how she tried it and it didn't work, lol.

[@mosaicowlstudios]

@@Standout4372 For real! At a point, you can't help but laugh at them like the clowns they are 🤣🤣 and they HATE it 🤣 If they can't be loved, they want to be feared. Instead, I offer them...indifference, like they are so insignificant to me and my daily experience that they have absolutely zero effect on me. Like a sow bug in the dark corner of the room, curled up and alone in a pile of lint. Not even worth walking over to stomp on. Lol

[@Kim-vs4vb]

@@mosaicowlstudios my boss is a narc, he hates women, he especially hates competent confident happy pretty women, so he excludes me from projects, doesn’t want to promote me, lied about promoting me and making me do all the work and dangling a carrot infront of me, a moving goal post. He is incompetent dumb and useless but claims he knows everything. He only promotes useless incompetent men. Only invites them to meetings, them to do things, make it seem they r the only important people and women don’t matter. I pray the ceo finds out and gets rid of this cancer. Please god help me fight this demon.

[@QMommy17]

my ex used to say “i hate all that nonchalant shit gets on my nerves.” & i would say “no, you’re just getting mad bc you’re not getting the reaction you want.”

[@Wolfhound322Angela]

Oh my God this really lets me know. I really did have a narcissist in my life. This is exactly what he used to do to me and bring his phone phone out to record me.😩😩😩

[@missybates6046]

They go and find it elsewhere!🤷🏼‍♀️

[@shanadiahnicole6188]

You are telling all of the truth. Yep, yep and yep.

[@terrywoods4242]

Perfect timing for this subject 😮

[@MentalHealness]

😮

[@dezonwill33]

Once you give them no reaction and they know it’s GAME OVER!!!! they will stalking you for the purpose of plotting some kinda revenge tactic my ex narcissist was going around telling people I was stalking her once she seen I was done with her her trash @$$ started stalking me and my girlfriend but what’s so sick is she’s supposed to be happily married

[@eliadvo]

New supply cologne 🤣 Im rolling! I love your channel thank you for sharing!

[@MentalHealness]

😂

[@MizzzLuna]

The recording part 💀😂🎯 They should thrive to get a JAY-O-BEE instead of the reactions of others💯

[@rosieingram6893]

Thank you Lee 👍🏾🙌🏽strong energy 💪🏾

[@drleo6409]

Thank you again Lee. I love the song by Gloria Gaynor “ I’ll survive “ it was in the movie “ Replacments” with keno reeves.

[@MentalHealness]

💪

[@idkanymoreman8186]

My ex would regularly try the "you're so horrible Im considering breaking up with you" or "this is a hard line in my relationships so either you cave or we have to break up" on me, and every time I'd just go "okay, if thats how you feel then maybe we should breakup." They'd lose it every time and end up being the one caving so they could paint me as the evil dictator of our relationship who forced them into compromising with what I want 😂 I get a good laugh out of it now because wdym "forced" I just said that if you felt like leaving feel free to

[@lauriejordan2716]

So funny. Mine exactly immediately love bombed me after realizing I didn’t care anymore.

[@MissCryptoNL]

Omg! He did this 14 times! In 4 months saying to break up... And then not... Eventually I broke up and said he ever expected I would! And arranged a week and weekend away in an other country 3 days later booking a wellness villa and: it was my fault 😂 I told him them 2 weeks on several occasions that I will end contact. He thought I was bluffing... I didn't but if the disrespect that high willing to loose me, then it's done. I deserve more respect.

[@MentalHealness]

😂

[@angelaburton7799]

Love this he totally raged I stayed quiet he was horrid

[@InGodseyesHolloway]

He once told me to leave once, actually just a couple of days before i actually left. Coming in the room with eyes looking around to see any packed bags. He never allowed his eyes to look that crazy before. He wasnt ready when i decided to escape without looking back.

[@JoePAcalaughs]

Woo woo woo..bee bee bee 😂

[@MentalHealness]

😂

[@JoePAcalaughs]

​@@MentalHealnessyou're killin me with this one 😂

[@Nia_TV-88]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@bettycarmella1127]

🤣🤣

[@chinadoll534]

That part is funny 😄

[@LeonaPayton]

When they threatened to leave ~ I say goodbye and thanks for the good times

[@teriecekuykendall4622]

😂 the Poindexter voice is cracking me up!! Tell the truth!!!

[@juliacooper3989]

Love your voice and your descriptive words ❤️

[@Nyxeline]

LOL you're so funny but it's so true. This happened to me when i got calm

[@PrincessMichelle1100]

True about putting luggage and bags by the door and not acting on the shii smh

[@MentalHealness]

‼️‼️

[@lindaarvelo5139]

Why they don’t ask why she left him just want to be back for what same treatment? This is hard.thank you Mr.LEE 🙏🙏👊🏼💪🏽

[@MentalHealness]

🙏

[@BriBankss]

6:22 this happened to me, I think he was scared bc I was WILDIN’ HIM UP and this man busted out his phone and started recording me reacting to his nonsense. Face looked JUST like that. 😭😂

[@mattheastout978]

😂 Thanks for throwing some humor on all this mess! I actually LOL at some of your impersonations! And we all need to laugh after NA! 😅😅😅

[@joshuawyrick5471]

Thank You so much for what you are doing I've been with a Narcissist friend Eric, for 5yees years and im just realizing what he is and I'm done!!! 💯💯💯 I hope hes ready for a fight 😮.... I'm back now!!! Hes open up a can of worms hes not ready for!!! Its on like Donkey Con B#$ch

[@riggsmusic]

I reacted and i instantly regretted it! But, im back to no contact.. did it for 6 months until she reached out to my mom, and i bit like a fool. Gotta take all this up in therapy so i dont make this mistake again.

[@pattimcclelland6635]

Proud of you for going to Therapy. More of us should after such Trauma!!!

[@Xen-AM]

You can do it! Keep healing

[@vickymoore2520]

Most narcs seem to go back to old supply ! 😮

[@MentalHealness]

there's quite a few that do

[@Sunsetsforever2]

Yes, they are good actors, but thanks for making them look hilarious, funny as hell! Leave them scents behind 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@MentalHealness]

😂😂😅

[@damuse]

Didn’t give “someone” reaction/attention and used it as an excuse to cheat… I was told that, I, was cold as ice 🧊 😅… I think there’s levels of narcissistic personality disorders. They are soo toxic that they will use anything to get a rise out of you, or say anything to make you feel like it’s your fault. But it’s not! there poor behavior as an excuse for poor choices. My stillness and calmness was an excuse to smell like the new supply and they still wanted to go to Las Vegas 🤣🤣.

[@MentalHealness]

😅😅

[@antoinettegorman8833]

It was the WARDROBE JOB . Taking HIs Clothes out of wardrobe for me . He caused arguments out of nowhere. For NO reason. I ask ? What did I DO WRONG? .

[@MeanGamerLady]

Every time I walked away he would snicker and say.. "I'm not done with you!" Okay! Lol. I'm done! Smh weirdo! Aka narcissist

[@MentalHealness]

😢

[@samco63]

I stopped reacting and his tactics increased. It was awful. Silent treatment and lack of affection for 4 weeks, nasty remarks and jokes at my expense, disappearing acts, just outright cruel - I left. Unfortunately I went back and the treatment increased. And got far worse. I always begged for him back. This last week he was starting the silence and coldness again - yet we had a weekend away. Last time this happened he abandoned me at the hotel … this time I just allowed it to happen then ended up reacting and snapped :/ But blocked and deleted. I couldn’t face another minute of silent treatment stuck in a hotel with him

[@korosTRADING]

The same thing happens to me, my workplace parking her car in front of the door, my workplace opposite is a restaurant just to get one Redpull. It's now 4 months no contact

[@Tee2190]

U don't see my trash bag full of mustard and ketchup 😅😢😂😂😂

[@Bae2Mari3]

What if they don’t “believe in toxicity” they don’t believe in “mental health” or “therapy” they think it’s the manipulative system…in their words.

[@empressb444]

You leave. It won't help them anyways, therapy shows them how to hide their manipulation better and they don't believe anything is wrong with them for them to get help anyway.

[@Bae2Mari3]

@@empressb444 ok good cuz I left anyway💀 I need to know behaviors such as this though. It was such a red flag for me