What having Affairs with Older Married Men taught me about Human Nature

[@pradagorl]

so many of these comments are projecting anger, you can’t understand a position you’ve never been in and virtue signaling is too easy. her reality and her experiences are her own to comment and reflect on, everyone else here is riding on second hand smoke. pause the chatter, and listen. otherwise watch something else. i do admire how she liked all of your mean comments. almost responding with an abundance of love she has that you or I may be scarce in.

[@NotMyFault2]

This is the biggest pile of word salad I have seen in a while. You said nothing of importance or relevance at all. She can share her stories and thoughts, and others are free to criticize, mock, and make fun of her. Get used to it.

[@pradagorl]

@@NotMyFault2 😂

[@mariah.2024]

@@NotMyFault2 wow now that "word salad" has fully lost its meaning we must finally discard it

[@NotMyFault2]

@@mariah.2024 No meaning was lost at all. Due to your poor reading comprehension, you may have lost your understanding. But my use of the word applies aptly here.

[@FrederikEngelmand]

Pathetic comment.

[@RongRoseLiu]

This young woman is DEEP! All y’all shaming her for cheating is playing checkers while she’s play chess. But yes, at the pedestrian level, what people are willing to give to you in energetic exchange is the quickest way of knowing what you are worth to someone. More people should ask for money or equivalent as to stop wasting their life force. So here’s a little something somethin’ to express my appreciation. The algorithm (🙏🏼lol) brought you to me and I look forward to catching up on your videos, especially to know how you came from all that chaos to such a beautiful and surely expensive living situation in London (?).

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

Thank you lovely! ✨🪷🕊️

[@BorisBoris-sl1sf]

I'm not shaming her, she can do what she wants with her life. But then to shame her parents for working too hard so that they can provide her with an expensive education in Paris while she is sleeping around with rich, married men. Yeah. That is a bit much to take. The insolent ignorance of youth to affect to know what life is about. Let me hear from her in 10 or 20 years. I bet she will be less judgmental.

[@FrederikEngelmand]

Probably found a rich sugar daddy

[@BorisBoris-sl1sf]

You had affairs with rich, married men because of celebrity culture. Right. But culture is the same for everybody, how come so many women don't do the same thing? Also, do you have free will or are you just following ingrained patterns? In another video you criticize your parents for working hard all their lives. How horrible of them. And what have you ever done?

[@adoniskofi]

as a gay man this is all too common of a story within the community . it can sprout arrested development (or worse) in so many people if left unchecked . i appreciate you took time to reflect from this time in your life and approach the topic holistically .

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@ShimmerBodyCream]

So often we want to be higher in a social hierarchy so we can feel valuable. It's invaluable when we learn we do not need to climb a hierarchy to be valuable and it doesn't matter if people see our value or not - Our value is innate and inherent and there is nowhere to look and nothing to gain. We are lovable as we are.🙂

[@BorisBoris-sl1sf]

We want many things, but we don't do them. That's missing from your consideration. No excuse for bad behavior.

[@danethenice]

Ngl you do sound kinda crazy to me at some points but then there's also powerful messages and wisdom throughout your whole story. Big sorcerer energy ❤

[@joshb7326]

It's because she is crazy

[@danethenice]

@@joshb7326 maybe. Can she not be crazy and wise at the same time?

[@joshb7326]

@@danethenice maybe, I'm not denying that. You just said "kinds sounds crazy" and I'm just confirming it that's all

[@divinedatura]

She isn’t crazy she’s divine

[@bambinoesu]

​@@danethenice crazy and wise goes together

[@xyxyxy-ly9ql]

God i love your energy, your unapologetic embrace of your life experiences. This is the level of self acceptance that makes someone shine. Thanks for sharing your life like this!

[@AM-pleistocene]

I admire your openness and honesty despite the harm you caused yourself and others. You're a strong woman. Btw your outfit is amazing 💚

[@skamgodt964]

The laughing at 18:01 was so unhinged, but in the best way possible

[@moontea593]

As much as the topic is taboo I appreciate your courage in sharing your story since it’s a perspective most of us don’t get to hear often.

[@foggycraw6758]

Also love your energy. You deserve a loving wise partner that will cherish you instead of all these mind games. Wishing the same for myself ❤

[@bubus682]

Girl. Cherish yourself. Respect yourself enough to Not to go out with someone who is a cheater... you deserve better. YOU DESERVE TO BE ONE AND ONLY ONE FOR YOUR GUY.

[@faerieofstars]

I'm living for your chaotic energy HAHAHAH! And thank you for your words of truth.

[@joshb7326]

Having affairs is disgusting and pathetic. Please don't use self esteem as an excuse or reason to placate yourself. The only ppl who deserve sympathy are the victims who get cheated on

[@mary._.2859]

honestly and she's calling herself a victim bc that man didn't love her... the only victim here is the wife and kids

[@joshb7326]

@@mary._.2859 I know, it's freaking hilarious tho, but I hope I never meet someone like this in real life, they would suck the soul out of me like a dementor from Harry Potter

[@danethenice]

@@joshb7326 true. I thought the same thing when she said that. It's not an excuse. I think she should've been more clear about the consequences of her actions and take responsibility. It is very insightful to hear her reasoning and emotional motivations behind her actions though.

[@echoinsahara]

Shouldn’t the men take most of the responsibilities? They are married. They are older. And they happily engaged in the affairs. Most often the are taking advantage of the young girls

[@joshb7326]

@@echoinsahara the man should take responsibility for everything he has done, but that doesn't mean she's a victim. Many women enjoy breaking up other people's relationships

[@Hanie29]

came across similar events that I feel most ashamed of myself. and your video gave shed light on it

[@amdonut8091]

I did not expect this to be so enlightening Thank you for sharing

[@eeee3139]

I randomly stumbled on your channel recently, and I have to say i am so honored to meet like minded people. I am absolutely in love with the way your mind works and perceives the world in such a deep way. Never stop sharing your beautiful insights, it's so refreshing!

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

Thank you 💖

[@mary._.2859]

please reevaluate, you're still victimising yourself and you don't see anything wrong with what you've done.

[@The-Oneness11]

Sounds like you didn't even listen to the video.

[@Gen-yh1jz]

An older man grooms a teenager and your blaming the teenager. Please reevaluate yourself. She was 19 and he was the one that made vows to be faithful to his wife. Also, a professor sleeping with a student is not ethical. She is finding her voice, her strength, realizing her worth.

[@Ellesflowers]

I find it a little funny that you asume people would perceive you as a victim. During this vid I never saw you as a victim, actually more of a perpetrator. Both of you in some way were perpetrators. But I’m glad you got out of it and decided to use your value in better ways. That’s nice to see, although you don’t seem very apologetic about it… but I guess that’s life.

[@ShuYen-os7lf]

exactly my thoughts!

[@RenaissanceTheRevolution]

You dont know nothing!!! She's already gone past it and you don't know how she truly feels so dont assume she isnt sorry

[@xdaiart]

Admirable demonstration of courage, vulnerability and wisdom. I do want to point out that a young person's desire of being romantically involved with an older person is not necessarily a trauma response.

[@user-th3ez5sj9y]

It cannot necessarily be, but I believe it could be more of a self fulfilling prophecy

[@Alex-td8wi]

Mm 9.9 times out of 10 it is or it's the want for material things/money because older men will almost always put out for a younger girl. it is never just out of pure curiosity or genuine interest. hope this helps

[@endo4682]

@@user-th3ez5sj9y blaming the trauma is removing responsibility from the person.

[@GodsChildBri]

I really appreciate you and I'm not hurt that you've been the person people cheated with. And I've been cheated on. But I realized if it's not one woman, it will be another. The man is just insanely selfish and trying to satisfy an urge or fill a void that is no woman's problem. It just so happened to be you and her and her. It's okay. We don't have to hate each other. It's just an unfortunate part of life's journey for those that go through it. Wishing/intending a better life for that man's kids and family was a good thing to do. I'm happy that you had an opportunity to examine yourself and remember the root of the pain that brought you to that decision. I'm happy that you were able to transmute that pain and that you've been brave to share this aspect of your story so we can learn. I love that you aim to show people that we can't be free or have autonomy *with* disabling fear and shame (by disabling I mean turning them off).

[@thExoticAries]

Those who listen to her story without judgement and respond thru comments reflecting understanding or energetic acceptance, know that you operate at a higher frequency. I love that.

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

♈️💕♎️

[@thExoticAries]

😇❤♈️♎️🧠

[@MarioMario-vy4bi]

So that's what you call it?

[@Gen-yh1jz]

Exactly ❤

[@Hanie29]

thank you for your vulnerability and humanity. Love you.

[@joelhenry4643]

Whether you say healing or empowerment isn't that much different considering that woundedness and disempowerment are equitable

[@foggycraw6758]

I understand you completely. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@jimsullivanyoutube]

You go girl! Thanks for having the courage, drive, and creativity to share your journey with us! Love your style and set! “Those who matter don’t judge and those who judge don’t matter”. “Let they that is without sin cast the first stone.”

[@Venessa03-m2c]

I know you did mistakes in the past, but I'm glad you bought that to light and tried to do something good with it, Glad you put out a video and the perspective, appreciate it

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

I put my phone on airplane mode for three days afterwards and traveled to France LOL 😽💖

[@snorkfroken7056]

WoW Most Beaux-Art vid ive seen on Yt hahaa - greetings from fine art student in Zürich, wish u all the best my liege x

[@drv4543]

I resonate with you a lot. I have begun the process of reckoning with my "moment" this year through writing and illustrating a sort of memoir. I am transmuting every painful feeling into a work of art and it is the best decision I have ever made. I feel no guilt in prioritizing my creation over other more "worldly" things because of how right it feels to be doing. And I recognize that most cannot confront what I revel in confronting every day. It is freeing. Thank you for sharing your insights, especially so articulately. It's like someone is putting words to what I think about often but feel I can only express through art.

[@msblondemindy]

I stumbled upon this video in my flat this morning and you have not only spoken to me, but I have heard your words. Thank you 💜

[@ShuYen-os7lf]

i'm disgusted by the video despite how elnlightening you make it seem and will unsubscribe. i have no respect for mistresses especially those who victimise themselves. you don't "attract" married men. married men go to any pretty girl who gives them the opportunity. you CHOSE to be with him knowing that another woman (someone you respected) will be hurt in the process. the wife is the real victim. you're the kind of girl other girls can't trust. and that makes you as bad as the man imo.

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

Thanks!

[@Winning33]

She definitely gets off on it or at least has. But at what cost?

[@aliencreative9360]

So many people lost the message 😂 you keep flourishing. Love your content.

[@AvatarAngelica]

This is the 2nd video of yours I’ve seen. The 1st was about attracting great friends. You are magnificent. Great storytelling, speaking, wisdom. Just overall wonderful to listen to. Thank you.

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

🌷✨💖

[@tisaacify]

wow randomly came across this but really good insights

[@mattparke4370]

You are full of wisdom sister. Thank you :(

[@ArtTheoriez]

Really enjoyed listening to this. thank you!!!

[@gocoherping4258]

im going to be honest but you said you felt that you deserved something in return for sending photos of yourself to the man you having an affair with whether that was money for food or anything for that matter but quite frankly, you really did not deserve anything. you knew the man was in a married relationship and you seemed to be fully aware you were having an affair with him, yet felt you deserved something in return for actively participating in the affair? fundamentally, no one deserves anything or should expect anything in return in an affair. you may have thought you were only hurting yourself by giving yourself up but that seems to completely ignore the fact that this man had a wife whom you were actively having an affair against, yet felt you were the only one being hurt. its giving narcissism that you feel you deserve things like this and honestly sounds condescending throughout the whole video the way you talk about these things and present yourself to the audience

[@callmeishmael3031]

She was upset that he didn’t respect her enough to consider her a prostitute.

[@violets-for-roses]

She comes across as intolerable. Can't lie, I think you made a hella good point.

[@gocoherping4258]

@@violets-for-roses she sounded narcissistic and condescending throughout the whole thing. not to mention the weird laugh at 18:03 like wtf??

[@violets-for-roses]

@@gocoherping4258 Yup, very condescending. The lack of accountability is truly narcissistic. The laughter though? Creepy and full of arrogance. Like she's mad at the guys for not picking her over their wives and talked about the guys having issues when she's the one doing the worst. The message didn't feel heartfelt. More like a way to generate clicks for her artsy stuff.

[@hianghiang]

@@violets-for-roses she might have borderline personality disorder (BPD)

[@TheAidacar]

Thanks a lot! Very courageous of you🙏🏻❤️

[@Joythealchemist]

idk even know what your about t say but full body yes

[@ekat_]

Or "how intro to psychology taught me how to think about my life experiences"

[@Skateheart]

Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom Please know that its condescending to say to your audience what they can and cannot imagine... maybe you still can not see yourself clearly since the light you posess also attracts like light minded people.

[@mini1330]

Love your energy

[@maggiemagdalene111]

I feel so bad for the hate you're getting because I feel like people who are into/know psychology or are into self-growth and shadow work can understand this better than others

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

Don't feel bad; i don't! 💖

[@supremesyb]

the honesty is admirable

[@hanissaishak8562]

Thanks for sharing. very wise!

[@lukang72]

The way you laugh is very dramatically pleasing and interesting

[@xo8336]

I had to watch all 28 mins and a couple of ads for you to reveal the age gap in your affair. You never did ! I needed to know to see if it's appropriate for me to wait in line

[@mattparke4370]

I wish I found you sooner. You are the most relevant to my life

[@lukang72]

I grew up as a kid of Asian immigrants in Houston too! Interesting stories and thoughts

[@divinedatura]

All your videos are beautiful and unique. Thank you for your perspective 💟🌸🍀

[@tarasteward3271]

Many won't understand you and judge you ,but it is good that you overcame these and are brave enough to share

[@jlyn002]

thank you for sharing

[@morecents7680]

is your hair supposed to match your outfit? i'm just noticing everything is matching a gradient of green, even the label of the candle

[@deveshaq9306]

How old are you? You are incredibly wise

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

1998!

[@exxtraterrestrial138]

Thank you so much

[@changliu3356]

good job girl 💖

[@victoriakawesa3558]

Thank you for sharing your story and your insights. Very interesting analyses about the wife as a pet and extension of the man. That you as a mistress is a fast food meal, without value in the man's life. Great analyses.

[@Johnnywanton]

Best video title ever!

[@azucenabustos1078]

Your my new spiritual teacher

[@Luport1]

Such nonsense. You took someone else's man; knowingly. I am so disgusted and then you say not "affair" but "affairs". What a dirty, dirty thing to do. You do know that Karma will return the favour someday.

[@Luci_pur]

How did she take someone who didn’t want to be kept? The only person getting karma will be the husband, you know the one who actually made a vow.

[@lifelessonswithnoma]

We live and learn. Love the flowers btw❤

[@aok9969]

Sounds like you are in need of some serious strength, even now. Probably has nothing to do with being employable. Although, some would object to the idea that shame itself is a problem. Because then, if you get rid of it, you can do anything, including break the rules. Certain people don't like that at all. Makes a person more unpredictable.

[@protonmarine3047]

No worries you are so beautiful... Wish you all the best dear...

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

Thank you 💖

[@et_chickn]

thanks for sharing your experience - understanding the impact of childhood wounds on lifelong patterns in invaluable. your confidence is beautiful and you've obviously learned so much, but make sure you stay open to change. the older i get and the better my self esteem becomes, the more i realize that life is grey, not black and white, and I don't have to hold so tightly onto my own story/perspective 💚

[@Libre.108]

"women love with their bodies" is a dangerous thing to say. As opposed to men who love vicariously with their pet goldfish? As opposed to women loving with their brains? As opposed to what?? People say things like this because it sounds lovey and cute but it's not based on anything factual. And it's a lie that women produce hormones in their bodies thay make them fall in love after sex compared to men. People say these things without any kind of formal education on sex. Men actually have a higher chance of producing this hormone after sex. Men don't go crazy after sex like women because we live in a world where it's acceptable for them to go get another especially without tying any meaning to it so women feel special when they think it has meaning and go crazy when it gets taken away. If women do that they have do deal with slut shaming or outright slander so they are less likely but when women treat a man like that and give no meaning to his sex a lot of times they act crazy like that too. I dont know why people feel so inclined to talk about scientific things with no formal education. I had this experience once and even when I couldn't shake the guy and he wS messaging me from fake accounts people were gaslighting me saying maybe I wouldn't be going through heartbreak if I respected myself more even when I was pointing out that he was harassing and stalking me even driving past my apartment. Even when behaviors are obvious people just refuse to accept the truth that men and women arent that different and women arent these super sentimental creatures by nature. It's social conditioning folks. This lasted for years too this gaslighting and harassment. People really scramble and get desperate when they think a woman might be waking up. Three years I had to deal with this. Its crazy how important it is to some people that women don't express their sexuality. Youd think their life was at stake. I am honestly so bored hearing about gender roles how old are we people some people like this some people like that grow up, stay in your lane.

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

You can stay in your own lane by realizing that one experience doesn't validate or invalidate all experiences. Have a nice day

[@Libre.108]

@la_princesse_des_beauxarts that part wasn't directed at you fucking genius. I'm stating facts not invalidating anyones experience. You feel invalidated.

[@Libre.108]

@la_princesse_des_beauxarts that part wasn't directed at you fucking genius. I am stating facts not invalidating anyones experience. You feel invalidated.

[@Libre.108]

@la_princesse_des_beauxarts and watch your mouth toward people you are finding inspiration for your personality from darling

[@dulcemendoza7652]

If I say in my intention: "I wish you find some self love and dont die alone like your dad" does still work or is too triggering?🤣

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

I feel there's still animosity/resentment there so it may not be as effective as you would like 🌷

[@fookbia8875]

This woman has no moral compass.

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

Thanks!

[@Sahalielove]

Abandoning some of my morals has helped me so much in life. There’s no merit in suffering.

[@fookbia8875]

@Sahalielove That's true but that's why it's called morals. Morals are hard to do but it builds character.

[@Sahalielove]

My mother held her tongue so much in marriage. After she died, my father dared to say that she complained a lot. He never noticed her holding her tongue. There’s plenty I can do to make myself strong besides follow morals that will both get me less in life, and do nothing to make people think well of me.

[@fookbia8875]

@Sahalielove Marriage is difficult. That's why there are so many divorces. Commitment and working through again builds character and stability to the family. Marrying for the wrong reasons, will come out later in life. The trick is to marry for the right reasons.

[@Neema150]

Thanks for sharing.🤝🩷

[@L10-k6i]

You are brilliant! ✨✨✨✨🌷🌷🌷🌷

[@aliencreative9360]

What I learned is that they’re never up to any good 🤭

[@whatever-rv5em]

enchanting

[@LuminousKugelblitz]

I hope you never fell into the patterns in future, a true contradictory to the speech you preach in this channel and please don't victimize yourself. You did quite a shameful things in the past and don't normalize it anymore.

[@em945]

17:52 Priceless😂

[@ninaromijn1081]

This feels so Lynchian

[@ekat_]

Not really

[@noneno2805]

Uncanny valley

[@joelhenry4643]

She's basically a little asian angel

[@star-pn8qu]

I really liked you from your previous videos but watching more of you is making me realizing that you’re a narcissist

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

Thanks!

[@star-pn8qu]

@@la_princesse_des_beauxarts girl 😭

[@The-Oneness11]

❤

[@gimonitei1714]

Commenters r so lame and stupid LOLLLL and feeding your energy by giving you their time + attention. YOURE ICONICCCC

[@Libre.108]

AND in addition to deleting my replies to your response to make yourself seem more intelligent and righteous I will also add it is you invalidating others experiences as you are generalizing women because you feel you love with your body even though that statement is not logical, lacks premise and has no value. So yea no I wasn't telling you to stay in your lane but I am now. You can stay in your lane

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

1. Prairie vole study - oxytocin vs vasopressin "love" hormones in women vs men 2. Dawn Maslar - "How your brain falls in Love" Ted talk Education > Insults

[@Libre.108]

@la_princesse_des_beauxarts maybe and youre still not educated nor was I insulting I'm analyzing and contradicting your statement based on facts so I don't know what that has got to do with me. That's a cute article and you're still not formally educated from Google uni. take a seat. Human men and women are not rats. Rats are savages who will kill other rats and fuck any rats they want. Can I act like that? It's natural rats do it. Oxytocin is present narurLly in nearly identical amounts for women and men and is produced through activities more socially acceptable for women to engage in except for orgasm. It is released a lot during orgasm and last I checked men were having more orgasms then women during sex. Men also have no bodily function specific to sexual pleasure only whereas women do. Shes insulting me! I'm educated! Oh Lord.

[@Libre.108]

@la_princesse_des_beauxarts I had high hopes for this channel but this is so fake. She keeps deleting valid factual replies to the nonsense she is saying. That is an insult. With her "formal education" from Google. I oughta make my own channel the attention and lack of privacy just annoys me but I might because with clownery like this on the internet y'all need facts

[@Libre.108]

@@la_princesse_des_beauxarts and is KZbin your free therapist why are you telling the world you like to fuck people's husbands? I will go off on you. You need a free therapist clearly that's why you're going to Google instead of talking to professionals and those with formal educations on the subject you can't afford my expertise. And these other people commenting are they your clients for free. Don't worry I might just give you a little something for free. Yall need it Clearly you're annoyed because you feel some type of way about fucking husbands and you thought saying women love with their bodies would save your image or invoke empathy for you and with me shedding a scientific light on your statement you feel invalidated because that's not the reaction you intended your statement to have. You said it to put a lovey spin on why you had an affair because you don't want to seem like someone who fucks husband for more than innocent reasons, you're urked that you think people are looking at it without a lovey lens. I'm just making an analysis . You tie that statement to your affair. I don't.

[@sarahsf6940]

dear lady, you are possessed, you allowed an 'angel of light' to live through your body

[@noneno2805]

I think you need Jesus, no offense. And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light. 2 Corinthians 11:14. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. Romans 10:11. For there is one God, and there is one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus. 1 Timothy 2:5. Blessings ✌️

[@mariafamilia5551]

Who was making noises the whole time😢?