"What Helped You Accept Yourself As Trans?" | vlog 80

[@rseequest]

As a 73 year old trans-woman (non-binary trans femme) I love your videos. Your explanation was bang on. As an expat I loved the bit of Nederlands you threw in to explain your inner sense of fulfilment or contentment. After all, coming out is not really a choice but a necessity to be our authentic selves.

[@Daan_Spieard]

That is so lovely to hear. Glad my explanation makes sense 😄. Normally I edit out a lot of my Dutch, I'll try to leave it in a bit more 🙂

[@JonahIronstone]

What you said reminded me of a quote by a very wise queer icon: "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?" --RuPaul Andre Charles Thank you for sharing your experiences. My biggest fear when coming out (and really accepting that's who I was, and who I needed to be out loud) was whether my husband would accept me. He's always been heterosexual. Not only does he accept me fully, but he taught me to shave, and now considers himself "heteroflexible on a technicality." He loves the person in the body, no matter what the body is doing.

[@Daan_Spieard]

That is a very lovely quote :) Can image the fear you had for coming out, must have been a relief to find out that he fully accepts and supports you for who you are! That is so wonderful ❤️

[@FizzeFrog]

What you said really hits home. Iv been so scared to admit it and accept myself because of my anxiety and scared of not being accepted by everyone including my fiance and losing him and making people have to adapt to me. Seeing your story kind of gives me hope with being able to be accepted someday

[@christopherdamien2248]

I think you make a lot of sense in this video. It is good to show how all is a process, a work-in-progress, a path that never ends. The question of happiness is of vital concern. I have always associated happiness with the idea of the fulfilment of ourselves, to the point that there is no self-waste. No self-waste: to embrace it all, and to move onward from there. To be wth another person, I need to be a person myself. To use archaic English, I and Thou require two human beings in the process of coming home to themselves, individually and together. Thank you for your beautiful and important vlog.

[@Daan_Spieard]

Glad it makes sense 😄. Thanks for your thoughts.

[@Rose_Window]

I can't write much because I'm on my way to University. I'm a 35 year old mature student studying counselling and psychotherapy and I'm questioning my body and gender and sexuality, which is all very confusing, but your videos are a calm in a storm of emotions. Keep making. Thankyou very much x

[@Daan_Spieard]

Glad my videos can be of help. Take your time, the storm will subside. Trust your gut. ❤️

[@Rose_Window]

@@Daan_Spieard Thankyou for the reply. I'm certainly trying. It's turning my world upside down right now. Not so much the idea of being male, but of the hardships that entail getting there and the feeling of aloneness in the journey of figuring it out. It feels like there is no frame of reference for what I'm going through and I don't exactly relate to others much, we are individuals to be sure, but synchronising my body and mind feels impossible right now. Today my poorly taught University lecture on "sexuality" was disappointing and challenging. Several of the queer people and I felt a need to fill in gaps for others, which we shouldn't have been forced to do, and I cried a lot tonight. It has been really tough as I don't doubt you understand. You are more relatable to me than the quick edited high energy, or more 'masculine energy' younger trans people I've seen. It is a relief to see someone closer to my age and personality who is willing to share this part of their life. I hope to feel as comfortable in my body as you are one day, and I appreciate the thoughtful content of your videos. ❤️

[@TMEK76]

Your videos really relate to my experience of being trans ive just booked my gender counselling and am about to tell my loved ones im trans

[@normapadro420]

I'm intersex. 2 blood works determined this. I have accepted myself as I am.

[@BrianThrives]

WOW, your voice is very masculine. Congrats!

[@markgreene3483]

Great video as always. You are making sense even you don't think you are. Back in October you took a test. In a November vlog you said how you had passed it. You did not really explain what the test was for? Can you provide an update? Thanks.

[@Daan_Spieard]

Glad it makes sense :). Ahh yes the test, I'll give an update on that in the next video. I have an assessment planned this Friday, so good time for an update 🙂

[@TCW1977]

❤ hope you're 🙏 ok