WHAT I LEARNED FROM A SERIAL CHEATER.

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[@KaondePrincess]

Every woman i have known who has left a cheater has flourished. Cheaters are energy vampires, the longer you stay and put up with their bullshit you start to look like what they're putting you through. I learnt from my mother to never stay with a cheater, it's not worth it.

[@denises9680]

Your mother taught you a very valuable lesson. Some women stay and their children see everything Your mother sounds like a very strong woman who was thinking about her children the whole time. X

[@lorin358]

I reallyyyy needed this. I just recently found out my husband was an addict AND a serial cheater, assaulted me physically and to top it off he has NO remorse. We have 3 children together and I have filed for divorce but it’s been so much exposed about him and it’s a lot to take in and my mind has been racing. Coming to terms with being with someone you don’t really know like you thought is heartbreaking 💔.. I hope I heal soon

[@naturallycleva5809]

I will you wisdom, strength and comfort as you thrive towards your new life 👑 This too will pass🙏🏾✊🏾

[@lillybethford1915]

I admire your strength through this difficult time and please keep moving forward.👍

[@islandgirl8914]

All will be well. Continue to be strong. Pray, read the Bible and listen to gospel music. This is helping me….blessings.

[@nursemomo777]

It’s very heartbreaking 💔… you’d thinking the world is caving In you can’t breath. But believe me God is definitely carrying you. You’re not walking you’re being carried. It gets better

[@veronicaj758]

Sorry that happened to you, sis! Stay strong and I hope in the future you'll find a man that values you.❤

[@JennyGaston]

After divorcing my husband, who was also a serial cheater, I also flourished. Joy was restored and the peace I gained made me age backwards. I had to do some inner child work to deal with the feelings of abandonment but I am so much stronger now. Thanks for sharing Toni❤

[@theblacksociologist2151]

I "liked" this comment before watching the video.... Good for you 👏🏾

[@Evolving30]

I second this!! This is what happened to me after leaving my ex who was a serial. Looking back I now the role I played in allowing that relationship to last as long as it did. I should have left when my gut/ God told me he was not for me. 😣 but there were lessons I had to learn and the greatest one was loving and trusting myself and always following intuition. 🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@SaltWataDawta_]

Same! Getting rid of that dead weight does wonders for your health!

[@nursemomo777]

@Evolving I was in the same boat 🛶. God allowed us all to learn the lessons

[@BrittneySharde15]

Amen!!!! I am doing this now!! 8 year marriage and 3 months FREE!!! The peace I have!!

[@Nub1anPrincess]

Its so good seeing you healed and happy after your divorce.😊

[@takeyshaatwell5340]

Choosing yourself and overall wellness will NEVER go out of style. Happy and fulfilled Divorcee😊

[@Nacole_Lashoun]

Divorce saves lives! In particular black women! We are often carrying the load of the family-financially, emotionally and spiritually. There is often no return on investment. Yes, life is BETTER on the other side of divorce . Peace of mind is priceless. My only regret is why I didn’t do it sooner. ❤

[@matheletsie4395]

Same here

[@ebonyd4ever]

I needed to see this. Thank you so much. My husband is a serial cheater - in the last year, I have learned of 3 women he’s had extramarital affairs with. I have been struggling with the deepest grief I have ever known, but this has given me some hope to imagine a beautiful future for myself. Thank you, Toni 🙏🏾

[@ladyleo944]

Were all a compilation of our experiences......Truth

[@mummylilbear6088]

How are you doing 9 months on?

[@nicky6579]

Divorce is so common place today why would someone try to make another person feel shame or guilt? My promise to myself when I divorced was to not become an angry, bitter person. I have friends that still tell me when they see my ex. I have to remind them I don’t care about their life. To me my ex is like a stranger, I don’t wish them harm or good. With strangers you feel nothing.

[@mamademics]

I left a serial cheater last year and ALL of this resonates with me. My health detoriated soooo much and I'm bouncing back now. I just feel sooooo much better. Once I forgave myself, I also stopped caring what everyone thought about my situation.

[@JustFluffyQuiltingYarnCrafts]

I believe that you have hit the nail on the head, "Forgive yourself." This is the most important takeaway for me. Thank you, Toni. ❤

[@basbleupeaunoire]

Yep. People don't talk about that enough. But it's vital for moving forward.

[@AwesomeMe47]

Yesss!

[@LovelyCurlyElle]

Your words about forgiveness are… OMG… SPOT ON!! I have been in therapy for a year and a half and not ONCE have we discussed forgiving HIM and I’ve spend countless sessions learning to forgive myself and rebuilding my sense of self worth and self esteem because… whew.

[@Itsmeyoualreadykno]

I started watching you during "that" time. And I'm so proud of you. You handled everything like such a lady and with such class and just you are just...wow ❤ My intuition has neverrr been wrong. As I have gotten older, no matter how crazy my inner voice may seem? I trust it with everythingggg. My biggest mistakes and downfalls have occured when I didnt listen to my intuition.

[@ms.diva0079]

Yes some may call it, “intuition“ but I literally believe it is a manifestation of the Holy Spirit who helps us out in this world and is trying to let us know pay attention to this something is happening! Thank you for being so open and honest about your journey and just continue to thrive Diva💜

[@Silvermoonscorpion]

Fair enough but where was this holy spirit at to alert one to not be with said guy? I already know my answer to this but I'm curious about yours..

[@jaynel0919]

I first would like to say TFS, now, some people think because we click on this type of video is because we are being nosey, but for me at this stage in my life I see so much value in listening to others experiences after recovery. I really believe we can be therapists for one another in some cases. Again thanks for sharing!!! 💜

[@daricej9753]

I love the forgive yourself part,

[@mzallison2010]

“Leave them niggas is the dust” I know that’s right !!!😂😂😂❤️

[@shayshay7409]

Yesss accepting an "L" is the hardest part of healing!!! ❤

[@crescenta3528]

Love that you were able to move on from that situation. I know the beginning was hard, but the growth and knowledge is so worth it!!

[@TheJmommyandus]

F'boy free is priceless

[@m.samuel6350]

“Promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.” Happy Saturday beautiful Toni, I enjoyed this vlog and listening to your truth. Yes, please learn to forgive yourself. “Intuition is the whisper of the soul.” Our intuition if we learn to trust it often saves us from a lot of disappointments and disasters. Peace of mind is EVERYTHING! Have a wonderful day 🙏🏽✌🏽💕

[@coreysbaby3691]

❤❤

[@kimberlyhubbard6334]

This is Absolutely facts!!🥰

[@Tammyjean]

I absolutely love this! And to see how much you have evolved and gained since the end of your “clownery” 🤡season is so amazing 🤩

[@lillybethford1915]

I’m enlightened. I was putting a lot of energy into forgiving the cheating abuser (Narc ex-husband), but I need to put the vivacity into forgiving myself, thank you. Your wisdom is needed.👍☮️

[@islandgirl8914]

❤❤❤❤

[@JAZZIIBOO]

My divorce was the most heart wrenching AND beautiful thing that I ever experienced! I love the woman that I am now and I keep the promises that I made to myself. My boundaries are nonnegotiable and the way that I communicate is completely different. I used to want an apology but at this point it’s no longer needed. The healing journey is not easy or fast but oh so necessary. I love the woman that I am now. BTW I was married for 18 yrs and have been divorced for 5. May everyone that is going through the journey eventually find and protect their new peace. ❤

[@mrbeans29]

I found you by watching the video when you talked about your husband cheating. Just want you to know I was going through the same crap with my partner of 15 years. I left and went back as similar to you didn't want to waste those years. Nothing changed tho. Finally got out Sept 19th after my intuation told me he was up to no good and when he said he was going to work early I dropped my daughters iwatch in his car and tracked him. My intuition was proved right. I moved out and am watching your videos again to show that we can heal and move on and thrive after an awful relationship. Thank you for doing what you do toni, you've helped me out alot x

[@mrbeans29]

Thank you

[@lindatoliver2267]

People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. And as far as forgiving that person, being a martyr and falling on the sword, EFF all that nonsense. That's all of that patriarchal, misogynist mess wrapped up in religion, that is detrimental to women and has cost us so much. Just MY OPINION. I'm so happy you survived that fool and his nonsense and came out on the other side successfully!!!

[@staciemyers9484]

Thanks for sharing such wisdom with us Toni! I have never heard this perspective on forgiving. It really makes a lot of sense. I have to agree that focusing on forgiving the cheater delayed my healing. I eventually healed and moved on. Then God dealt with him. ❤

[@demi5378]

Toni, love the peace of mind...it is everything!!!!! You must feel the weight of that world lifted off your shoulders. He would never hear from me again!

[@tonidaleyofficial]

That's the plan! Lol

[@tanyaross2654]

So proud of your growth Sis!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🩷🩷💐💐

[@michelleclarke1421]

Peace balance and wellness to you Toni, sis I’m so with you on this “forgiveness sh*t”. My question is, “who really benefit from forgiveness”? I don’t have to forgive if i feel like this person isn’t worthy of my forgiveness, and my live still goes on, that person just doesn’t exist in my world..

[@theebajanqueen6599]

Word.

[@porichechannel]

As long as you dont hold any grudges or ressentiment etc... So you can forgive on multiple levels... But most important you forgive yourself for not respecting yourself...❤ If this makes any sense... Harbouring bad feelings can manifest in bad diseases in the body. (My respons was before watching the vid..😊)

[@michelleclarke1421]

When someone has done you wrong, and the person hasn’t even ask for your forgiveness, why should I give that individual my forgiveness, who will it benefit? It damn sure isn’t benefiting me and my life goes on. It irks me to hear people say, “forgiving is for you to move on”. Me not forgiving someone who has wronged me won’t stop me from living a healthy life..

[@porichechannel]

@@michelleclarke1421 ❤️

[@nursemomo777]

No existing in your world or past. Bc he wasn’t who I thought I married I deny my marriage I don’t know him if you ask. I forgave for myself and once God saw I walked away and the peace that came over me is amazing.

[@basbleupeaunoire]

Thank you so much for talking about forgiveness. Compulsory forgiveness is a scam. That includes the "forgiving them is for you" bollocks. Nobody *has* to forgive anyone.

[@memeesh914]

I love this! I remember the pain and hurt you shared here in this space during that time of your life. Your transparency allowed many of us to heal alongside of you! ❤ I've learned in my own journey: forgiveness and reconciliation ARE NOT SYNONYMOUS! So many believe that forgiveness means getting back with the person. It does NOT! I will never reconcile/reconnect to something unhealthy. I have forgiven because I've been one who was in need of it and the same grace extended to me I now get to give to others. Again, it does not mean I have to allow them back into my life.

[@dtowndeidre5177]

Hi Toni..you are younger than me AND I always learn amazing things from you. Showering ourselves with forgiveness is an absolute necessity. Truth be told…sometimes our forgiveness of others is trampled upon by the very people we forgive; which is another hit to our self esteem. Continue on in your journey to an amazing life! ✨

[@AliciaJonestv]

It’s so true when you said no one talk about forgiving yourself. I struggle so hard with that.

[@CeCeTheAmputee]

Love this video! After leaving my narc ex husband, I began to feel like I was living life! He controlled me for 16 years ( couldn’t go out with friends, monitored my phone, forced me to look towards the ground when in public in efforts of not making eye contact with other men) it was CRAZY! But now I’m free! I want to share my story to help other women, but I’m a little bit nervous with over sharing. If you’re in a similar situation and you’re reading this, let this be sign to LEAVE.

[@kimmie1377]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Dealing with trauma of any kind, including cheating or whatever, it's not monolithic. There's one one sized fit all solution to healing. I've learned that I don't have to forgive anyone for their transgressions in order to heal. I'm okay with never forgiving anyone, and I can move on from it. But I will agree, forgiving yourself and trusting yourself is very important and crucial for your mental health. Idk why divorce is so frowned upon, especially when it is necessary.

[@Stamara2011]

I agree 1000% with the forgiveness part. It always bothered me that people who are harmed bear the burden of the harness that was done to them. That is not controversial

[@MercedesAshleyOnline]

I never forgave him throughout the marriage because I hated myself for staying. It was once when I mentioned I wanted a divorce was when I knew I finally forgave myself. The healing begins when you put your foot down and leave them in the dust.

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

Bingo!✨💕👏🏼💕

[@NeishaNineStarz]

The insights you shared based on your experiences were needed thank you.

[@gloriahohman2790]

I love what you said about forgiveness. It is so true I never thought about forgiving myself. Thank you.

[@cheryls.booker3336]

“ Forgive yourself. And learn how to trust yourself again.” 👍🏾

[@favouredone5558]

I loved this Toni. It spoke to me. T'was to the point, just beautiful, just real

[@ladyleo944]

One of the most awakening lines I've heard was ,Stop looking for yourself in another person, There cut from a different cloth...Loyalty may be at the top of my list ,but at the bottom of theres....

[@JamCanGurl]

I love your strength. I’ve been watching since your condo days and you have never looked happier. I love all the women who celebrate the freedom of divorce.

[@AwesomeMe47]

Forgiving myself 'was' difficult, I'm in a better place now. Starting from ground 0 is my challenge now. 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽

[@candyjones4841]

I remember I was standing outside and I was all dressed up nice and this guy tried to talk to me and told me I looked nice. When he looked at me he asked me did I just walked up am I going through something. It's crazy how when ur being cheated on it shows up on ur face

[@LoveisKiing]

Toni - do you have advice for those who’ve been serial cheated on before meeting someone who is actually committed to you and the relationship? I’m asking because I experienced all of the things you’re saying and have become hyper vigilant out of the emotional trauma of being cheated on.

[@tonidaleyofficial]

This is a great video topic! but in a nutshell you have to come to terms with the fact that going forward we will navigate the world differently and be ok with that. But once you are on your healing journey you'll feel the difference go from anxiety/fear to caution. I'll screen shot your comment so I remember to talk on it more but I hope that makes sense

[@esh2647]

Talk your ish Toni!!! You hit the nail on the head bby girl!! Thank you for being you!!

[@preese100]

Wow lady! That was deep in a subtle glorious kind of way. Loved the entire video and your look rocked it at the end. Well done sis!

[@audreygordon8435]

So true, almost lost myself married to a serial cheater, started to think it was all my fault. Took awhile to forgive myself. now I'm flourishing

[@tonidaleyofficial]

So happy for you!

[@LoneStarLady-]

Thank you for sharing that you are not ashamed of your divorce and embracing that as part of your life story. That is where I am, struggling with accepting that will be part of my life story. I did not sign up for this, I was all in and committed. I took my vows seriously and with every intent to be married until “death do us part.” 30 years of being married to a serial cheater. Realizing that the work I’ve put in to saving the marriage has been and is always greater than his effort. His efforts are for him, not me or us. I am so tired and have lost myself. Seeing your growth and reading the comments from others who have come out the other side is inspirational. Thanks.

[@mimip2704]

Hi Toni, I’ve been watching your videos for a long time. It goes back to the days when you would take us along with you to the braiding salon to get your hair done and you would talk with the British accent from time to time. I loved that lol. Anywho, I don’t comment much at all even tho I enjoy your videos. I am compelled to comment on this one because it hit home. The learned lessons are so valuable for many of us women. For me, being able to forgive myself is the greatest part of healing. And those playbacks were meant to be the way they happened, is golden. Those playbacks can keep you down for days. I can go on and on but there’s not enough space and no one’s gonna read that script anyway lol. Thank you for sharing because it really can help someone else. Love the beat! Continued blessings to you!

[@gretchenramos9050]

Everything you said spoke to my soul. Facts!!!!!

[@NatalieMcGrath]

Thank you for sharing. I never thought about it in that way. Forgiving myself for what happened. I still have those “shower scenes” and rethink arguments etc. But yes, they happened for a reason and I'm better now for it. When people hear about my separation/pending divorce they say “I'm so sorry” my response is, don't be. I'm not. So I'm getting there. But you have shed a light on my healing process. Thank you!

[@nursemomo777]

I said the same thing about not being sorry and ppl look at you crazy…. but we know how different our life is going to be just fine.

[@tonidaleyofficial]

You don't have to agree. I'm only speaking my truth, not yours.

[@Skynaturally]

Hey Toni, great video. I never heard forgiveness put in this light. As a Society, we always put forgiveness on the other person to heal. Thanks for sharing. Also, as I’ve watched your videos, I literally seen your skin, your hair improve. I’m glad for your healing. I love the way you think, you’re so wise. ❤❤❤

[@youknowyoulikeit1000]

I’m so proud of you. I remember watching one of your videos where he had left and I thought it was a skit. But when I found out it was true I was so in shock like I never even saw it coming, but you bounced back so well it’s almost like you’re a new person and I love it.❤

[@Camsmommy02]

Although I don't agree 100% with EVERYTHING you said here, I'm so happy to see you thriving and happy. Peace of mind is priceless. Good for you from a looooooong time subscriber.

[@rockheart6629]

I agree with your perspective on forgiveness. Forgiving others always comes last for me.

[@tzmom]

Looking back, do you think him leaving was the best thing… like do you think that you would have ever mustered up the courage to leave him first?

[@vickie9879]

Good morning 😃☀️🌞. Not only did you share some very good information. You transformed with each word into an phenomenal woman. 🎉. It is truly a celebration.

[@tonidaleyofficial]

So nice of you

[@latashabynum9961]

I just learned through therapy that cheating is violence, It seems so basic, but I am looking at my old relationship totally different. I , blessings to you love 💜

[@foxymaz11]

Yess, to all the points! My ex was and still is terrible with money. My intuition was speaking to me from year 2. 8 years together and 2 years married. We coparent our 1 child, his new wife is👌🏾, and I've grown so much since then. My divorce was a blessing, iykyk ✨️✨️✨️.

[@teishag3100]

I loved this video! Everything you said is so real and true!! Wishing you continued blessings 🎉

[@Pglambert]

Toni, you hit the nail on the head with all your points. ALWAYS trust your intuition.

[@BasicBeautyNaturally]

I respect your perspective Toni. I also think you can forgive and leave em where they at! God Bless you 💛

[@Summerbeeuty]

Thank you for sharing. Totally agree that cheating has nothing to do with you! and yes, grief/hurt does connect us all. This is why I hate when divorced women act like they’re better than others; they love that “at least I got someone to marry me”. line. It’s disgusting that some people take experiences and use them to 1-up other women.

[@Njitagwo_Shiro]

Yes. I have also grown up to understand this. We can’t think we are special because we got royal loving partners. Nobody goes out there and says I want to be with the abuser. Everyone would like to have that peaceful man.

[@EmunaZamani]

Thank you so much, Toni! What I have learned about that forgiveness thing is that it isn't needed to cross over to the next or enter heaven. We just have to leave that ish here! So yeah, some folks are dead to me, I have healed from the pain that they caused. When I cross over, my heart will be light to move on because them mofos are dead, been dead and they have no place in my heart to make it heavy. Forgiving self is the true mission in order to cross over. Just my take.

[@nevertoooldtolearn1928]

The results of how you dealt/are dealing with your situation is definitely evident - everything is thriving.....

[@gretataylor9789]

Peace of mind is far better than a piece of man. That’s what a lot of them give us is a piece of themselves.😢I need to put that on a tshirt.😅

[@tonidaleyofficial]

So true!

[@zinhlemngomezulu3109]

Thank you for sharing and for choosing yourself . Wishing you love and blessings 😍

[@AandP4dummieslikeme]

You made a fascinating point about forgiveness. I never thought about it that way. 🤔

[@shantawinzer1214]

Good Morning Everyone ❤

[@debt.3790]

I love this! Peace is everything.

[@o.l.austin3642]

Toni, I absolutely adore your confidence... May The Most High God continue to bless you.

[@tonidaleyofficial]

Thank you!

[@meroekhalia]

Peace of mind is PRICELESS! I'm so happy for you! I'm not able to watch as often as I used to but I still love you! ❤️ ❤❤😘😘😘

[@ForeverEclectic]

I agree with everything you said. Your message applies to so many other situations as well. Thank you for sharing your insight❤

[@MissJhane]

I started reading my bible after surviving a domestic violent relationship and found out that it is not true that you always have to turn the other cheek. If you google "what God said about narcissism" or about abuser, you will see lot of different Bible verses that God don't like abusers, and even give tips against narcissists. (I think abusers just want us to think about giving the other cheek). I hope whoever read this will look and RUN, God has a GOOD PLAN FOR YOU 🙏🏾

[@veronicajade20]

I'm so sorry this happened to you. But I'm glad that you've healed & moved forward now. ❤️

[@melissas1198]

This really helped me thank you!!!❤

[@msdee2905]

Only God can help you forgive someone that has hurt you deeply. It’s a process that takes years and years. The church doesn’t really teach in depth on forgiveness like they should. Forgiveness is a tool to keep you from becoming bitter and mean, and revengeful, and “stuck” in your own hurt and pain where you can’t move on with your life and be all God wants you to be. Forgiveness is liberating where you really don’t hardly talk or think about the matter too much after many years because you are trying to live your best life and be your best self. I forgive myself too. Thank you Ms. Toni because you are so articulate. I appreciate your transparency. I was cheated on too by my first husband and even my second husband. We do need to trust our intuition. I appreciate you speaking your truth. Thanks for sharing ❤😊

[@phoenixherbert]

People who cheat sadly don't even know they are cheaters

[@littlemissy8356]

Oh yes they do, that's why they can perpetrate it as they do.

[@smilesallround]

YES to forgiving yourself!! Excellent point 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@MDavis-zy6nz]

What are you willing to share regarding your feminine health, while being with a cheater.

[@demi5378]

I was thinking the same. As a woman, it had to be a major concern.....how could it not.😮

[@monikasmuzings3949]

Feminine health is in danger with a serial cheater. You’re literally playing rush and roulette with your life by accepting a serial cheater. It is YOUR responsibility to protect your OWN health. God ALWAYS gives us signs. It’s up to YOU to take heed and protect YOURSELF!

[@monikasmuzings3949]

Also, my step dad’s brother, who was a serious serial cheater, gave his wife BEAUTIFUL wife HIV! Once she finally left him, he went on to give HUNDREDS of people HIV/AIDS. In the end, he started to be so devious, that he began to sleep with men. DIABOLICAL 😤😤😤

[@tonidaleyofficial]

What is it that you want to know?

[@francine4651]

God Toni that wig looks absolutely beautiful on you 😍 ❤❤

[@asset23libu36]

Thanks for sharing sis❣. I also learnt that my intuition has always been right. I try to abide now💯. Another lesson learnt🙌🏼.

[@theebajanqueen6599]

Thank you for sharing. I too am with you on the forgiveness thing. They couldn't a rat's a$$ about me if they could do me so bad. Left dem in the dust, yes. Edit: please could we chat about this again, like how to forgive yourself, the process of moving on etc?

[@samanthavinson5030]

Amen Toni, I have a very peaceful and flourish life. I’ve even started a candle business. You keep being who you are and becoming 💕

[@tonidaleyofficial]

Congratulations! I love that for you

[@denisewilliams3974]

👄This content is a mic 🎤 drop.🌹blessings toni on your life🫶🏽 journey. Thank you for sharing. 👍Well said and heart felt💖

[@renee6511]

So true, forgive yourself more than anything 😊

[@dianadiva58]

Thank you so much for this Video, very informative and I have followed you for a long while, you are an inspiration!!

[@sarahadams08759]

Your story gave me inspiration. I love you very much Ms Dayle

[@missalmond]

Yesss I asked for that story time a year ago ❤ but yes always following the intuition. This is a great video 😊

[@almondy1963]

It's not about us for why they cheat. But at some point, women have to take responsibility on how we handle what we have always known. When my ex continously cheated, I knew he was cheating but stayed in the relationship until he finally left me all together. I was angry at him but eventually, I had to take accountability for allowing myself to stay in a toxic relationship. We have to learn to walk away and not give these men a second chance to hurt us. There should never be a third chance.

[@littlemissy8356]

Faye on tube says, "never take back a man that hurt you." I think she's right.

[@chantabowens3436]

Agree 10000%. Everything you said is spot on. If you have experienced it. Then you know ! Thanks for sharing

[@doveflyer1636]

I agree about the forgiveness thing!

[@girlmeetsworld4062]

Great convo! Thanks for sharing❤

[@alifewithM]

you can forgive them but you don't trust them or have a relationship with them. Because when you hold bitterness it hurts you 😢😢

[@tonidaleyofficial]

I believe that is true for you.

[@2kinkee4u]

This was soooo good!

[@littlemissy8356]

If a man cheats on you once, he will do it again and again. That is because he is disconnected from you for what ever reason.

[@anaturalcurlygrl07]

Thank you soooooo much for sharing your story!!!! You have no idea!!

[@missac270]

Forgiving yourself is the hardest part.

[@buffalosoldier2719]

I always say..."an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth". If you do me...karma will do you ! My husband cheated one month into our African marriage with his ex wife. By the third month he married her behind my back. All the signs were there. He's a serial liar and master manipulator. Each time I questioned him about his suspicious behavior...he looked me in my eyes and lied. By the fourth month he told me of his infidelity, his new wife(the ex; and mother to his only child) and our new polygamy arrangement. Talk about devastation for this American girl. By the sixth month he and I are separated and headed for divorce. Forgive who? Forgive what ? I'm only forgiving myself for not trusting myself and... it's definitely a process ! But I look on the bright side. I escaped evil. For every stitch of suffering I've felt...the two's of them shall fell it a 100 times over. Inshallah.