What Is A DRY Drunk... exploring the Myth of the Dry Drunk Hypothesis

[@archangel_josh]

I'm so lucky that when my wife and I quit we took to sobriety like ducks to water. Everything fell into place and life became perfect. No cravings, no wanting to go back to drinking, no negative thoughts. I know it's not like that for everyone. 18 months sober here.

[@skeech15]

I have been sober for over a year. Resentment and anger hit me about 3 months into sobriety. I believe it was caused by my in ability to cope with my anxiety and depression. Booze was my coping mechanism and without it my emotions took over. I was able to focus on working out, cooking, my family and my career and in doing so I took control over the resentment

[@AdamasOldblade]

I'm a full blown alcoholic and have been for at least 16 years. I've lost jobs, girlfriends, been to jail, detox... you name it. The longest I've ever gone without booze was about six months in 2013. I'm 34 now and it consumes nearly my entire life. Though as of RIGHT NOW I am 14 days sober mostly because I am just seeing how life is without it and I am not sure how long this is going to last. I literally want to drink every single hour and it consumes most of my thoughts. I am pretty sure I am beyond rational help. Good video though.

[@Mr.FadedGlory]

Try Jesus

[@colleen7549]

It's my personal belief that alcoholism stems from depression. In other words the need to feel better. Alcohol is a depressant which over a period of time only makes you feel worse while you're trying to lift your mood.

[@TalkSober]

I think that is definitely part of it... depression is a big factor but not sure if it comes first... kindof a chicken and egg thing lol but one thing I know for sure... alcohol caused a lot of my problems and made me blind to the fact that it was the problem.

[@colleen7549]

Depression usually does come first, however, as it's said "Once an alcoholic always an alcoholic" meaning the desire was there (in your DNA) first or it wasn't.

[@TalkSober]

personally I do not think it is a DNA issue... there have been speculations about THIQ and things like that... but the problem primarily I see as a coping issue... we need help dealing with life... personally I think that every alcoholic and addict is on the verge of a total breakthrough and enlightenment... the darkness always preceded the dawn. the DNA thing is good as it gives an addict a "reason" that they could not stop... but I think we always have a reason anyway... the reason of the situation we may find ourselves in... this is something I go thru in the sober letters ill be reading on this channel :-)

[@colleen7549]

You're one of the lucky ones, hopefully you're working a program through AA and possibly Al-Anon as well.

[@capitanvonchickenpants8492]

Social Butterfly yes it starts as fun when you're young but then you use it to medicate everything and eventually it makes you very ill

[@ryanschuler1971]

You are really helping me out! I’m currently three days sober and these videos are a great alternative to drinking for the moment. Thanks so much

[@AlysN1dr]

When I was 24 I did my first stint at rehab, not for alcohol but pills, though I did like my liquid courage. While there we learned about the wall, a place you'd be for at least a few months if not for a while where it feels like nothing in your life has changed other than not using. Okay, who cares about the wall, has little to do with being a dry drunk. I will say that I lived as a dry drunk for a long time, and now that I am facing anti-anxiety medication withdrawal I know nothing will change unless I make the changes necessary. Whatever problems I had that led me to a doctor prescribing clonazepam will still be present when I get off the drug. I've spent 11 years in a drug-induced cocoon tending to little if anything that put me there. If I don't seek help or change my lifestyle then getting off the medication is pointless. Thanks for the video.

[@julianb4245]

I'm a dry drunk right now, I have to stay patient and hopeful and grateful, better days are coming, but I have to do the work, no shortcuts, no naltrexone, no bullshit. It's hard, but that's life.

[@amyarchie3439]

What’s wrong with naltrexone? Meds are tools. If you had an infection would you not take the antibiotics?

[@theresabeville4420]

Good words. An explanation beyond blame and shame. Thanks man.

[@runplatypus]

This opened my mind. I have issues and i need a holistic change in my life. I'm tired of relapsing. Thanks for uploading. 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

[@TalkSober]

thanks :) keep an eye out for some cool stuff we have coming out on relapse.

[@brookelynrhodes1998]

Alcoholism and addiction in my family is why I'm staying away from drugs and alcohol, it's not worth it. And being neurodivergent, I'm a creature of habit so it's easier for people like me to develop an addiction. So many people I know who quit drinking were definitely not truly sober and simply behaving the way they did when actively drinking. And guess what, those people always went off the wagon after a few months because of it. Making efforts in recovery is so important. I can list so many people I know who are or were like this but I don't want to name them. And all the points here are valid.

[@BartNelis]

WOOOW !! This is a real eye-opener. Also a bit painful, actually.

[@TalkSober]

glad it helped... if you have any video ideas you would like to see.. let me know :-)

[@jays0909]

Bart Nelis very painful . I’m a dry drunk. Found success and a beautiful woman. But I’m unhappy. To much pain in the past and issues I caused to deal with. Ego makes me feel weak about my insecurities . My woman is a good woman but I know her past as she is in a.a and that fucks me up to . I can however manage to drink 3-4 x a month at the most now that I have a head full of A.A. I over drink but I don’t Need to drink everyday or even every week. So I will continue to go to meetings but I can’t even enjoy my success cause I want to be unfaithful as well. It’s a mess but I got it better than most . So I will stay grateful.

[@floridalife215]

Until you drink again listening to this garbage. It's not behavioral.

[@BartNelis]

@@floridalife215 Thanks for your comment .. this was off my radar ... now it's back on it again ... once again an eye-opener ... so certainly _not_ garbage

[@hotrockin197]

I was ready to go "Fuck it" & go out on the piss to de - stress my tormented mind🔥Cash in pocket, coat on and 1 foot out the door...then thought of the awful consequences of my alcohol addiction, i'd be drinking for days & weeks & fuck everything up AGAIN😭I decided to go to the gym instead then swim🌊Funny how the urge to take the 1st drink is so overwhelming...Thank God i saw sense☺😃☻1 day at a time🐶👯‍♀️🦅☄👍

[@dannyfuhrer8438]

I watched this video a few weeks ago and thought it was bullshit but now 3 days sober I realized that I don't know what to do with myself sober and I was drinking and smoking weed because it was a solution for 1. Having nothing whatsoever to do and nothing good going on in my life and 2. My anxiety and depression. I need to change my life or I will probably relapse. Now I get it. I always thought dry drunk meant your brain has suffered irreparable damage and cannot function properly without alcohol even after quitting. If I'm wrong please let me know. Very good video much love and much love to anyone else in recovery.

[@joaniehiggs6575]

Marcus, this is a brilliant breakdown of a term I've struggled to understand in Al-anon, and it makes perfect sense as I see it in the life of my loved one. Thank you so much for making this video.

[@TalkSober]

thanks joanie... if there are other terms you want us to break down on the channel... let me know :)

[@simplypatti6705]

My whole life (with the exception of my sweet dogs) SUCKS. Work sucks, life ixx as boring and you really hit the nail on the head. I haven’t drank in two days and I’m definitely CRAVING that comfortably numb feeling.

[@hisbabydoll8315]

I've thought about this so much and before I searched for this today I was thinking I felt a relapse creeping just in my feelings and thoughts.. I'm so glad I found this channel u made it make sense. :)

[@dennisloniak8774]

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[@amasawicki]

That was explained so well! Marcus Thankyou so much for all the great information you always give out. I am new to your site and so greatful I found it. I decided to quit being miserable and take responsibility to change my journey. After watching your videos it has shown me all my red flags I kept blowing off and how to do recovery the healthy way and not keep relapsing. I dont feel comfortable with the counseling we have in my location so its nice to be able to reach out here and get antidotes to the problems. You and Terry are awesome! I will keep watching. Amanda from Montana:)

[@paulflint6254]

I can relate to this so much I'm sober for awhile now and despite the advantages im depressed. I used beer to cheer up, relax and escape. I need to sort my life out.

[@AllofJudea]

Me too brother. Except I'm not sober, but I want to be. Sick of it. Life might suck but I don't think it has to suck this badly.

[@Paulf321]

This is brilliant I have had addiction problems for over 20 years been homeless lost everything been to rehab twice currently living in a dryhouse for the second time and unemployed, really struggled with AA in the past giving it a go again as it's so available and free, when I have asked AA people about a dry drunk they told me I have to prey more which doesn't help as I am not relegious!! You really explain this in a way I can understand great work!!

[@Sober_Since_2016]

Spirituality and Religion are Separate. In A.A. Your Higher Power Can be Any Concept You Wish. Religion Is Abiding by a Set List of Rules, Ideas, ETC.

[@michaelbarbarich3965]

@@Sober_Since_2016 nah, it's still bullshit

[@Kathleen-p1l]

This is so validating. Thank you! What about when a person looks like they are changing w AA and all their friends are great at AA but they treat you like shit? I’ve looked into narcissistic abuse, which indicates there will never be change.

[@lemostjoyousrenegade]

You're BEAUTIFUL, Marcus. ✨👌🏽✨❣️ You're speaking nothing but the TRUTH! It's all about how people are thinking and dealing (choosing to deal) with life.

[@petebrown3715]

Well the reality is there is a lot of footwork in recovery. Having the steps to work, the meetings and the fellowship and having a higher power of your understanding as well as a good sponsor and a good Homegroup. The change happens when you are desperate enough to do anything physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

[@amyarchie3439]

A dry drunk is what people in AA call people who quit drinking without their program.

[@johnriddle9868]

This video helped me alot , im 14 months without a drink and struggling my ass off .

[@mellyw9329]

John Riddle great work!!! 14months is AMAZING!! KEEP GOING!! 😊

[@TalkSober]

glad your here... if you have a specific topic I can make a video on that you think would help... let me know :) congrats on your 14 months THAT IS A BIG ACCOMPISHMENT!

[@BartNelis]

Great work indeed ! Keep it up - just day by day !!

[@MrMarkusbotha]

Well done!

[@NoThanksnothanks]

John Riddle, how r u doing?

[@alancall5113]

Awesome video exactly what my wife is going through very helpful thank you brother God bless you

[@acterene1]

Fabulous Class!! totally relatable to what I have been experiencing! Thank You Marcus

[@petebrown3715]

This is a great video. I love the breakdown. It makes total sense. I was taught in early recovery: Don't drink or drug,go to meetings, get a sponsor and CHANGE YOUR LIFE. Let go,let God, acceptance of life on life's terms. You're where you're suppose to be whether you like it or not. God's will not mine. I agree with the psychic change Marcus. Again it takes time and effort. When I get the stinking thinking my first question is: what am I grateful for? How far have I come? How far do I have to go? Is this about me, God or others. In my opinion the program breaks down to me, God and others. Putting God( Higher Power) first with my recovery are number 1, Putting others before myself is number 2 and then myself 3 because my higher power has and will continue to take care of me provided I continue to seek his will not mine on a daily basis.

[@cloudsombrero]

Sounds like a cult but ok

[@majesticallymade6177]

Like how yu categories th God, others and myself thing. Excellent . .

[@vegnewb]

Thanks, you just gave us a dozen reasons why we are going to fail.

[@m.s.17171]

Thank you. I am 5 weeks and 6 days sober, and im content even when problems arise. I have an understanding that i get to choose what i think about and i choose good-feeling thoughts.

[@NoThanksnothanks]

It's not having coping skills for me. I don't know how to handle stress. If I quit drinking do I not learn coping skills by default? Learning how to handle things without drinking. I am really hoping so. I don't want to be a dry drunk. This to me seems worse than an alcoholic.

[@hollycline2427]

Joseph LaFever Right, I have dealt with so much mis information, ten thousand different ways. Dry Drunk is not a relapse, or preceding to one. It's a brain disease and brain damage that cause relapses. The brain doesn't heal in a linear fashion No wonder everyone is dying we keep regurgitating this awful information.

[@anthonywhite9912]

No.... drinking alcohol is worse than being a so called dry drunk. One is fact the other... fiction.

[@dee-jblaze8075]

This is my 1st video I watched on talk sober. I subscribed right away when you made that request because you spoke to me, and I would like for you to continue speakind to me. I am not in a bad place in my life but I dont like the fact that I have this symptom and I cant figure out the condition. I dont wanna end up like 'The Titanic'.

[@allthingsreal]

It's incredible how there is help for them, but none for the ones they hurt and destroy with their addiction.

[@TalkSober]

there is help for everyone should they choose to accept it.

[@allthingsreal]

@@TalkSober yeah, sure. My ex went to one of the top 3 rehabs in Canada and I was never given resources as a spouse. The military didn't give me any resources. They told me it was about him. There is no help for spouses of addicts that have left the carnage behind. Get off your high horse and see we don't count. Only the addict.

[@TalkSober]

@@allthingsreal not true... there are tons of support groups for spouses of alcoholics, children of alcoholics, ect… you just have to look for them.

[@allthingsreal]

@@TalkSober again. Not true. I looked, surfed, asked, and begged for years. The rehab and military told me there wasn't anything for me. There was no help.

[@nevermind501]

I have never heard of this before. Now everything makes sense, I just thought I was weak and the situation was hopeless so I would always give up. So glad I found this video!

[@AdinelGs]

Very true and very helpfull! All is it in our brains! Happy sober 2020!🎉💫😎

[@miyannaable]

I enjoy the way in which you simplify certain terms, because some terminology turns people off (GABA, White brain matter separating from gray, etc.). What matters most is the possibility of becoming sober!!

[@k.o.o.p.a.]

I love the way you broke this down.

[@carlruf9037]

And the root causes are not addressed (ie . loss of job, inability to be rehired, loss of assets as a result.....So what are the answers to those that would give a person a reason to continue drinking to feel better about themselves or not resorting to something extreme in response to those challeneges?). Often times, people emotions and thier desparate response to cope (ie drinking) are exacerbated by the actions, inactions, benign neglect of others....who could provide helpful input but decline to do so or is of no concern to them.

[@zenrando]

I get it. A Whole life change is needed. New friends. etc

[@lesleybrown1583]

God can heal cancer ------the god of AA is NOT god!!

[@Sketch_Sesh]

Yes, most likely new friends, hobbies, habits... maybe new job, relationship

[@maxholehousr7866]

Im a sceptic and im sold

[@DannyJ-pm8rn]

Awesome video. Thanks my wife is a Dry Drunk. Sober for 2 years but no recovery AA therapy. She has deeper issues as you mentioned. But refuses help

[@markg.4246]

Do something for yourself Danny! Al-Anon.

[@SandyDeJong]

I am not a AH, But I am living with one. I watched this to understand the man I love to death what is or could be going on inside. If I can try and understand what might be going on his life. I feel that possibly will help me at least understand. Why he has to drink, Why when he stops drinking even if its just for a few days why he just lay's curled up on the lounge saying his is unwell he is not good, Until he gets that next drink. Thank you it was interesting to watch and have at least try and have some understanding.

[@crazedoutlook]

Someone on the Atkins diet might be consuming dry carbs.

[@stephenfermoyle1498]

self medication is usually due to other problems

[@pappabill7266]

Had a light bulb moment watching this - thank you so very much x

[@ShevyMINT]

I agree with what you're saying, but think you need to be mindful of continuing to throw derogatory labels like 'dry drunk' out there. It over-generalizes a group of people who are struggling, and negative labels like 'dry drunk' do nothing to increase people's sense of inner empowerment and self-esteem. Why not just point out the other mental health and emotional stuff people need to deal with too and leave it at that?

[@TalkSober]

the dry drunk comment is a term from many recovery manuals... and it gets a lot of searches per month... which is why I used it... my point being that one can be sober of drink but not sober mentally.

[@troyundroy1]

I agree. I get huge self esteem boosts from doing 2 or 3 dry periods (30-50 days at a time) every year. I don’t want to be told, “That’s great, but you’re still a drunk”. I’m more used to hearing “Wow, you’re a stronger person than I am. Great job!”. A much more positive spin. To quote Oscar Wilde on leading a happy life, “Everything in moderation, including moderation”.

[@pertuk]

very thought provoking thank you

[@blakemcmahon2056]

Thanks Mark you're awesome!

[@darylgruet9262]

How about, I drank because of I liked the way it felt, it is the 2nd most addictive substance on earth, so I got addicted. No magic needed. I'm not a broken person, I will never drink again. A.A. is great but it doesn't address the addiction. The voice in addicted people that can trick you into using. Dealing with that voice is the key.

[@markg.4246]

“Doesn’t address the addiction”. Nonsense! The root problem is “Self”, which is what the twelve steps are all about.

[@anthonywhite9912]

dry drunk is pure A.A dogma.

[@rikkiroxx1430]

I would like to finish this video...but I gotta make a beer run.jk..this guy is legit!!

[@forestalmo2417]

Yeah I have mental issues for sure lol . So giving up won't much difference to me tbh . Maybe save my money etc and better for health . Don't really want to live forever . I have a saying , not sure if I made it up . But it goes like this , I think their for I'am . So in other words what or how you think is the world you live in . You could be the richest person in the world and never happy with a bad mindset . I suffer from bell's palsy and every day is a challenge for me . I can't blink my right eye . So imagine that all day every day for 24.7 . Makes it hard to sleep . I have felt like ending it , but my gf has pulled me through and believes in me even know its hard to tell sometimes . Nice having someone that cares about you , even if your life sucks at times . Hope I get this new job and I stop drinking soon because I will have to be onto it because I don't wan't to brake my neck falling off the roof of houses or ladders . Its water blasting . I know it won't be easy but looking forward to not playing PC games everyday

[@aprilrushing2646]

How do you deal with the dry drunk that starts fights with their friends and family?

[@DavidH-w2h]

Exactly, it's a fact that quitting booze not only makes your world a better place to be in, good things start to “magically” happen and the energy is insane! Steffon Barkload's latest work, that’s the best shortcut I go’ogled that took less than a week to work without suffering withdrawal.

[@RoseTheQween]

This was very helpful! Thank You

[@TonyRome402]

There is no such thing as a dry drunk. You are either actively drinking or recovering. AA has nothing to do with recovery, unless you choose AA as your road to recovery. I started at AA for the first 2 years, but I had to leave AA in order to stay sober. I am 8 years sober now.

[@kasspriscilla9350]

I have a dry drunk neighbor that lives underneath me his name is Lou and at first I didn't realize it I was married to an alcoholic and of course I got divorced and I moved into 55 and older then I met my neighbor through somebody else and after spending a little time with him he is a dry drunk I don't know how to handle it I don't know how to go about it I don't hate him but I've known his attitude and behavior and it just reminds me of the time I was married but now you know I've gone to Al-Anon I've learned about myself my part in it and I haven't had an alcoholic or a dry drunk in my life for a long time but I don't know how to deal with this I haven't learned about this in Al-Anon if anybody has any advice please let me know thank you so much

[@______638]

fixing the underlying problems should make people capable of handling drinking again by this rationale. entire worldviews and orientations to reality are only easily changed in those likely to relapse anyway. if his message sobers up some drunks, then great. unhappy former drinkers are being stigmatized with the dry drunk label - calling a sober person a drunk is a misnomer and nonsequitor - the same way aa refers to a 50yrs sober exdrinker as an "addict". It's a tool of demoralization to chastise and control its members for life. aa has a success rate less than that of people who receive no treatment at all. most people who go are forced to go. etc. etc. it does work for some people, but so do lots of other things. theres lots of ways to get sober and stay sober and alternatively to achieve functional moderation via harm reduction strategies. if aa isnt a successful method, that doesnt make you incapable of sobriety or moderation. find a method that works for you. in the meantime, try not ingesting alcohol.

[@majesticallymade6177]

Indeed! Different strokes for different folks . .

[@burnindownthehouse]

I did the AA thing for years. It's a program of spirituality. I never did buy into it. I was always the most skeptical person in the room because AA could nevwer provide any statistics on the effectiveness of its program. There was no science behind it. It was just some wacky stuff cooked up from the days of Buchman and the Oxford Group. Finally I gave up on the bullshit spiritual aspect of AA altogether and quit and realized that, if anything, not drinking would benefit my physical health. So that's why I don't drink- for my physical health. AA would try to sell me on the idea of spirituality to me, but that doesn't work on me because a spiritual transformation is of no importance to me. I don't want to read the Big Book to have some kind of spiritual transformation. That means nothing to me. So let me get to my point about the dry drunk bullshit that AA sells to people. It's their most powerful tactic to keep people coming back to the group. AA says we are powerless and we need The Group in order to continue on the proper path. Without this they say we are doomed to pick up that drink again. They say being a dry drunk is as bad as being a drunk. They say if you don't work the program you will slip up. They say we would be weak and lost without their meetings. Therefore, they say if you go back out there as a dry drunk and you don't have The Group, you will be as miserable as you were when you were drinking. Do you see the hook they use to drag you back in the program? They're saying you can't make it without them and anything you do will fail because being a dry drunk is as bad as being a drunk. BUT IN REALITY IT IS NOT! A dry drunk reaps all of the physical benefits of not drinking. AA ignores that because they never focus on the physical aspect, they only focus on the mental aspect. So again, if you have no need for their spirituality bullshit and you don't want to have some spiritual transformation then they have no tactic they can use to get a dry drunk who only cares about his physical health back in their group again. I choose not to pick up a drink only because I don't want my body to feel like total shit again. I want to get into top physical shape. And that's all I care about. Wanting my body to not feel like shit gives me the willpower to not pick up that drink.

[@majesticallymade6177]

I believe in a God n Creater n I dont conform to vain religious repetitive based performance practices. no1 God does not require them . Wat yu described about AA was indeed a cult religious stab in th back, yu carnt survive without us type thing. Wether yu believe in a Higher Power or not, im glad that yu was switched on enuf to look and believe that yur body was taking a bashing frm all th drink n that's wat drove yu to see n feel th change. Glad yu was switched on n zoned in on yu health. Cuz let's face it, if yu dont take care of the body that carries yu from A to B yum doomed anyway cuz you'll b dead or close t it. Good on ya. Health is wealth 🥦 👏🏽

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

Read “the untethered soul “

[@OittoGod]

I have been sober 30 years 15 of those 30 years were spent in AA/NA I worked both programs. I sponsored women worked the steps and my life changed. But it was'nt until I went to a christian church one Sunday morning when my life really changed. The Lord Jesus saved me that day and I have been following Jesus ever since. Everything AA taught me is opposite of the Bible so I had to retrain my mind to Gods word which says I am NOT an alcoholic Jesus paid for it in full. The Bible says I am an overcomer of drunkenness. Jesus will give you internal life call on Him to save you.

[@scottboatright3880]

Do you ever talk about naltrexone or campril in any of your videos?

[@bigbunny6573]

my ex is dating a man who claims to have stopped drinking......but still downs PLENTY of n/a beers ALL NIGHT and hangs out at a store where A LOT of other 'real' beers are found on the ground and is still hiding them behind the store with the n/a bottles. so is he still drinking? cos his gf is claiming its just 'dry drunk' behavior, but im not buying it

[@anthonywhite9912]

I'm 7; month's sober and I have no carvings for alcohol, but I don't attend A.A. Does that make me a dry drunk?; I don't believe I am.. it's a bit of a weird concept to me..

[@tomdarco2223]

Very Good, Very Good

[@yamnayacimbri2124]

Really cool way of looking at it...no wonder we can't stay sober if nothing changes when we try to stop...guess it's easier said than done...the mind is the devil's playground

[@luisguzman-bz4hc]

It's hard not to drink when you have been single for years no family or friends brain injury no money no job help me Jesus

[@SH-xl8ox]

Great stuff! keep it up!

[@vtecpreludevtec]

I will make more money cos I wont be shaky,sick n exhausted

[@julieo4302]

Well said!

[@TalkSober]

thanks Julie :)

[@valeriet.9000]

You explain everything do much moe understandsble than my psychiatrist znd councelour. All they fo is repeat the ssme thing that is never stuck to my head like this vidro

[@MTtyer]

I see people with these so-called underlying problems all the time....that don't drink or drug. This is silly AA dogma.

[@TalkSober]

if you watch the whole video you can see we are not promoting aa (I'm not a member) but rather looking at a term of what is going on behind the scenes... in my opinion one who just doesn't drink but still is not looking at life in a whole new way has missed the point of sobriety entirely. I have people in my family who "don't drink" and "don't use" but they also don't take care of their family in decent ways and treat everyone like crap. there is a difference between sober of mind and an just an angry alcoholic who has no more alcohol.

[@markg.4246]

You’re obviously not familiar with all of the components of alcoholism. Especially the genetic component. The addictive behavior is present, long before people ever drink.

[@anthonywhite9912]

Too true.... dogma on steroids.!!

[@kasspriscilla9350]

Well yeah I have a dry drunk living underneath me and he's cross-addicting by using other vices like food internet smoking cigarettes now you tell me that's cross-addicting and I know he's doing this to avoid getting drunk he's only been sober for about 6 months he's going on the 7th month of sobriety I just don't know how to deal with this he is my neighbor I was introduced to him he's in his early sixties and he hasn't been sober that long but after being with him I started figuring some of this behavior out but I want to understand more so thank you for this video if there's any advice you have that would be great of how to deal with this I have been an island on but I just don't know how to deal with a dry drunk I've been in Al-Anon God this microphone thank you

[@mysteryink6406]

great video, love you bro

[@watchmanonthewall2151]

Brilliant stuff!

[@rontron5540]

Wowsers 👍 Great work!!!

[@khokie1557]

I drink everyday but doesnt mean Im depressed.. I have a happy life.. I drink becouse I like and if I feel drunk I stop and sleep.. 😂 That's it..

[@robertbuchanan7839]

That’s just the beginning.

[@Mannsy83]

Great video mate

[@belladonna1083]

thank you

[@davegerber8063]

Sounds like what you're saying is....unhappy with your job leave it. Unhappy where you live move. Unhappy with who you are with time to leave. Or you'll be a dry drunk. Why not just come right out and say it?

[@TalkSober]

if that is what you got from this video... you may want to watch it again with an open mind... because I think you missed the point entirely.

[@davegerber8063]

You're right. I missed the point then. I like your videos and appreciate you taking the time to help others. I'll keep watching. God bless.

[@opencurtin]

Booze kills the negative thoughts but the drunker you get the negativity in your life can make your drunk ness far worse , you end up blacking out and anything can happen , well that was my experience!

[@Murphdogg4]

my negative thinking has me thinking if I go to your website you are going to try and get money out of me

[@marianatequiero28]

I swapped drinking for fishing , I just want steal heads

[@JasonOwenvisco242]

I beg to differ a dry drunk is some one who continues. To do dysfunctional things even though they didn't quit drinking.Say for instance somebody quit drinking smoking using drugs and they don't have any kind of sexual Affairs and change everything in their life that is not the definition of a dry drunk thats somebody who's on his spiritual quest for spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection. And the state mandated classes for DWIs don't recommend AA as the final Authority for sobriety I've known people have been sober for over 30 or 40 years who didn't do it to AA that aren't dry drunks that are good people that feed the poor and help others and not focus on what other people do but focus on what they can do to help others I beg to differ with you on your synthesis. Visco 242/the phantom of the opera

[@ericfureal3257]

Jason Owen is Visco 242 man I'd love to know what you're talking about, but I cannot understand this. Edit this shit so I can understand you

[@lesleybrown1583]

eric why dont YOU edit YOURSELF!!

[@stevevarga2149]

This is excellent, thank you

[@joeygouda]

I live with a dry wet brain drunk father. Wet brain and emotionless

[@jamessandoval5843]

Joey Gouda rough man. Check out ACOA. Helped me a great deal. Best of luck.

[@bobdionne7708]

I liked the episode for the content, but .... I found the classroom-style presentation with the aggressively loud banging and scraping of the chalk on the board seriously irritating.😐

[@stephenfermoyle1498]

your so right thank you

[@shawntill]

All very true. Thank you!

[@DanielAlvarez-sl6yh]

Good Stuff

[@AJManol]

EXCELLENT! Thank you!!!

[@strictlysmart7132]

I'm not able to get more videos on talksober.com on this topic please some1 help I m a dry drunk and have been struggling to quit....

[@girlinthesouth850]

Great video!

[@philmorris7964]

Thank you dude

[@johnbailey2024]

It doesn’t take a seriously flawed person to become an alcoholic. Or a heroin , meth addict, in many cases these things happen to well adjusted, decent people, meth and heroin can take one time to get hooked, so Your generalizing saying your solutions apply to everyone, not everyone has a flawed self image like you profess to have

[@michaelbarbarich3965]

Marcus, dimension, as in the "4th dimension" is spelled with an "I". You spelled it "demension". Also, emotional relapse sounds a lot like having actual human emotions, lol. Grief, Depression, ect? Perfectly normal if that's what's going on in your life, haha. This sounds like bs, sorry man. "Dry drunk" is a bs term.

[@kaorikabuki]

Your comment perfectly exemplifies how miserable I am in sobriety. It manifests in treating others with contempt, correcting their mistakes to make myself feel better and ridicule of anything that challenges cold, hard facts. I came here looking for “how to not be an asshole to my friends” and found my answer. I hope you did too.

[@michaelbarbarich3965]

@@kaorikabuki feeling feelings is a relapse? I don't get it. I'm not a big fan of 12 step programs, so I might have came across as unduly hostile. I try to be generous, empathetic and kind to my friends and everyone around me but I don't bat 1.000. The spelling correction wasn't me trying to be a dick. If I have something posted that I want taken seriously, I would appreciate it being pointed out to me if I screwed up something obvious. I wish you well on your journey.

[@fosbury68]

What’s with the smoke? Too distracting couldn’t watch more than 30 seconds.

[@ananda_miaoyin]

Quitting drinking WILL guarantee that you are healthier and have more money. Health is obvious and you are not spending ducats on booze. Your points have merit but some people are just sourpusses.

[@nanamc881]

Is feeling unsafe a symptom 🤔

[@jayman7752]

That isn't how you spell dimension.

[@TalkSober]

thenk yew fer pointan thhaat owt.

[@debbiesunlight7047]

Brilliant.

[@TalkSober]

thanks :)

[@boredno6138]

Thank you so much!

[@Jimmypagesgreat]

Stinking thinking reminds me of Dave ramsey