What Made Your Realize You Were DATING A PSYCHO?

[@CatsOverBrats]

I have borderline and can nod to a lot of the things said in story 14. It helped a lot seeing a therapist and getting a diagnosis. Just being able to understand the chaos inside my head. I found myself in two different realtionships with abus!ve partners. I thought this was what I deserved and I feared leaving them. It wasn't until after getting my diagnosis that I met my husband. I never knew a relationship could be this easy and amazing. He has so much room for me in his heart and always knows if I need a hug or some time alone. We just celebrated 17 years together. I love that man so much. I'll always live with borderline but I don't allow it to control me everyday anymore. I will always have days that will bring me so far down but I'll climb my way back up with the help of my husband. It's hard to understand he's still with me after seeing all the ugliness that hides inside me but he makes me better too.

[@Ballzniffa]

Guarantee you were just as insufferable as the “abusive” partners you had in the past. Not that id trust a single word out of your mouth due to the interactions ive had with ppl like you irl. You were probably the only abusive one🙏🏼

[@beelzeboss42]

Don't stop, keep moving forward

[@jonf2009]

You have my sympathy, I married a woman with borderline personality disorder and severe externalized responsibility issues. Sadly I had to watch her self destruct the last four years of our marriage because she wouldn't go to a psychologist due to the externalized responsibility. It is rough living with someone who has that disorder, I can only imagine how bad it is having it some days.

[@Ruffdrummr]

I am a high functioning neurotypical person in a relationship with a narcissist. Realized there had been a pattern of abuse I noticed throughout our relationship and marriage. Confronted her and was trying to just have her listen to me so we can work on things to make things better. She would push me away as if my problems were not as important as hers. She of course has been through a lot in her life and I completely understand. But so have I. Years of abuse. All forms. She gaslighted me and accused me of cheating when I was reaching out for help with my close friends who know we are married. I had a mental breakdown, was able to prove my innocence, and she gave me a halfass apology and we sat in silence until she finally gave up. I now have divorce papers on my desk and I have never felt so much peace and vindication ever in all 30 years of my life.

[@SexManNordin]

As someone diagnosed with autism at age 7, I find it frustrating when people use terms like "neurotypical." It’s unnecessary-just say "normal." Most of us with genuine mental health conditions aren't offended by straightforward language. The only people who seem to take issue are those who either pretend to have autism or make it their entire identity. Using politically correct terms in an attempt to be "nice" actually feels patronizing. It often comes across as treating us like we're children, which is both condescending and insulting.

[@deynildoluis2925]

Wow 30 years, i'm so sorry you had to endure the abuse for so long, you definitly deserve your peace after all that time

[@Martyn_Wolf]

Fuck that's hellva minefield you're going through with 30 yrs of that

[@whatwhat9519]

She blamed me of being a thief and taking her stuff. While threatening me via txt (at least 3 an hour) to call the cops on me for the next 48 hours while on an Adderall binge While stubbornly refused to check her own purse. That she did back down and check till i blocked her (since it didn't matter if the cops showed up since im not a criminal) to then txted me through a neighbors # that she finally checked her stuff (a week later) and found her stuff and i should now unblock her Which i didn't reply to, block that # as well, and didn't look back for the 7/8 years since

[@onionbubs386]

I'm so proud of the person in story 14. It takes a lot of integrity for someone with deep seated mental illnesses to actively work on and make a change in themselves while accepting responsibility for their actions. I'm in the mental health field and everything they said was absolutely true, and they displayed so many green flags in their story that they're in a better place now. I hope they're doing well.

[@exodiatheforbid9355]

The saddest part about BPD is that damage isn't just on the sufferer but on anybody who gets too close and trying to help from the outside only makes things worse. It's the most tragic red flag in a relationship.

[@naruhina1997]

Accepting responsibility is always hard, I’m mentally ill myself and am still healing but I also work in psych. Kinda like, “I healed and am still healing but now I want to help others as well”. Calming oneself down and looking in the mirror is never easy…

[@onionbubs386]

@@naruhina1997 oh same here, part of the reason why I entered the psych field in the first place was to better understand what was wrong with me. I'm in a much better place now and working on my master's to become a child therapist. I'm glad you're healing too.

[@Ma-fd2ph]

im in their shoes. I've made a lot of progress, but sometimes some symptoms make a comeback. after years of hospital stays, medications and therapy (i also have other diagnosis) i can say im dealing with everything much better. realising what I've done wrong and what people were harming me helped me so much to heal. its still a struggle but having a good support system and tools I've learned to deal with it was my life saver. i wish you all well.

[@alley6950]

now if only the stigma around DID could be lessened and Hollywood would stop making it into a horror trope so the people who suspect can go through the grueling process of getting a diagnosis without fear of the stigmatization (and tons of misdiagnoses) note/edit: I'm very glad for the people able to get help with BPD, including the person in story 14, it's heartwarming

[@gavinfarris7624]

I knew a guy who was dating this chick who kept getting into car "accidents" whenever she thought he was losing interest in the relationship. She totaled three cars in one year. The last time it happened her kids were in the car with her (not his kids). Luckily no one was injured. After that he cut off all contact with her

[@SwitchedPC]

It’s been four+ years and she still tracks down people I know to tell them lies about how our relationship was. So I guess I only realized after.

[@LunaP1]

Story 19, that whole police department is corrupt for helping one of their own abuse his wife for breathing.

[@abbywolf9701]

That’s one of the job fields with the highest domestic violence rates. a lot of them were probably abusing their partners

[@Marasovsgirl]

Story 14: I was just diagnosed with BPD, so I am still struggling with understanding it. Im going to read that book. See if it helps me any, and soon I will start BDT myself. Hopefully I can learn to manage my symptoms. Might be hard to, I also have Bipolar Type 2. A note to know, they are changing it to childhood trauma syndrome. At least, thats what my neuropsychologist said.

[@Godzilla_Edits1954]

Man im glad im not dating that person

[@fridaybrown5320]

When I told her I gave my child up for adoption at 15, the only thing she had to say was “well I did the same thing at 11 so…” The next time that topic came up, she said she was 16 & that her uncle was the father. When I asked why she had said she did that at 11 just a few weeks prior, she exploded on me. Hitting, shoving, biting, & she looked me right in my eyes & said “why don’t you stop being a little birch & go be a mother to your child for once?” I knew I didn’t want to be with her at that moment but leaving would’ve been dangerous. The next time we talked about it, I asked her in front of her boyfriend (we were poly) and he was shocked bc she had never mentioned this to him before. Backed into a corner, she “admitted” that she had done it at 22 and her addict ex was the father. That was also the night that the truth came out that she was lying about having cancer. There was a lot more to the story, but that’s something I need to unpack with a a professional

[@gavinfarris7624]

That's terrible! You deserve better. It was really brave of you to share that. I would recommend not getting involved with poly/swinger types moving forward. I've never tried it but from what I've witnessed it never ends well. Best of luck

[@xiphine]

You all were sick and the word "poly" pointed it even better, lol

[@katwhite9066]

I have EUPD emotional unstable personality disorder it's hard but something I have had to come to terms with

[@taurnguard]

Video: 'What made you realize you were dating a psycho?' Me: "Saying 'hello' to ther."

[@killerjoshy863]

I knew someone who tried to justify the Night Lords once

[@Anna-zx7ys]

When my ex decided to run down the street with a knife threatening suicide after i wouldn't take him back for a fourth time or give him an affair.

[@krimsonkay]

This video just made me see how much I need to get myself checked. or at least how much I think I need to get checked. The problem here is that my people don't take mental health related issued very well.

[@graduator14]

For story 1: Imagine what would've happened if she put pineapple on his pizza!!

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

Story 2 is bipolar. She needs meds.

[@beelzeboss42]

She still tries to hurt me to this day

[@LeleiTheTigress]

Honestly, if my partner was being aggressive complained about the noodles being "too soft". My snarky ass would reply “Still harder than you can get”

[@johnroberson8957]

Watching american sweethearts, and my then wife's actions reminded me exactly of how his former gf/fiancee treated him. She is now my ex.

[@vergil1us]

8:45 It's never lupus

[@TileBitan]

I don't buy it. One person isn't perfect except for an obsession for noodles, and then does domestic violence. There have to be many red flags that OP of story 1 flat out ignored. Not blaming her at all though, but if there are really men capable of being this good in hiding their crazyness, I'm very sorry for you ladies. These always make me question if I would be capable of doing something so vile

[@onionbubs386]

That kind of stuff is absolutely true. I interned for an organization that helped out homeless people and victims of violent crime including DV and you'd be amazed by what little things can set people off. The obsession with food texture is a common trait in autistic people, though being an abuser is not.

[@Redman_real]

I mean who knows some people just think something isn't bad or don't hint too much into some people just go crazy

[@TileBitan]

@@onionbubs386 I'm not saying I don't believe that part, I'm saying that OP must have missed other red flags

[@pacman10182]

"he kept unregistered weapons" I feel like I'm being called out