What Makes a 46 Year Marriage Last

[@georgelelandturner]

This is an incalculably valuable conversation. This is not on social media, and we need to hear it.

[@shanejholman]

I subscribed to this channel years ago trying to learn basic carpentry. Little did I know, that it would become a constant source of knowledge and wisdom that I would refer to for even the most important questions. Thanks for sharing

[@plamenpetrov304]

I've watched Essential Craftsman since 2020 and to be fair this is my favourite video. Thank you for sharing your great story with us!

[@bruceb.harrison3470]

What a joy to meet Kelly in this way. You are, truly, an inspiration.

[@jason3064]

This is why I love this channel

[@martyreaves4955]

Thank you both for sharing a part of yourselves with us. The one thing I learned from my wife was patience. I also learned how to listen better. She's been gone for 8 years now, but the love we shared is still in my heart. I miss her so much.

[@stearman]

As a man enjoying the 32nd year of our honeymoon, I can tell you, and the world, that you two HAVE it figured out. This was the most important video you've made to date. By far!

[@DonCorbridge]

Thanks Scott and Kelly! This is a message all couples should hear. My wife and I share your anniversary, but 45 years. We are living a parallel universe to you two. I have been a general contractor and small farmer, my wife has always been a stay at home wife. She has a big garden - orchard, does massive canning. She plays the guitar, has bee hives and has so much in common with Kelly. I've watched your channel for years and always look forward to the next video. Keep up the good work! Scott you are making a difference in this world. Don't underestimate your impact.

[@merlinsatrom6678]

What an absolutely wise and lovely couple that anyone should model their marriage after! Thank you both for sharing such value to a culture hungry for meaning.

[@BrandonThomasRansom]

I appreciate all the wisdom you both have to share. Congratulations on your 46 (and counting!) years of healthy marriage! As a person who has been through an abusive relationship, I regrettably want to make the point that SOMETIMES divorce has to be the right option. As you said in the intro Scott, "there aren't many people who won't reciprocate that."... but there are SOME people who will betray the trust of their spouse to control, manipulate, and destroy them. In those cases, where a valid marriage arguably was never established, people need to know that they deserve better and that getting out is healthy and good, for them, and for their kids.

[@franciscodorey6026]

You two should be very proud of what you’ve achieved. I’m 56, been married for 32, 3 wonderful boys, one of them married but no grandchildren children yet. Watching your grandchildren, Scott, helping you with the spec house leaves me thinking, hoping and praying I’ll be able to live that moment one day. What an example!

[@johncamp7679]

I sent this to my Wife, we have been together 30 years. Also with 4 children, 25,24,11 and our only little girl is 9. We enjoyed raising the first two so much we did it again.

[@ignilc]

how old are you?

[@sir.cannabis1173]

My children are 33, 41, 36, and 45. We enjoy staying home from real work and make more baby

[@johncamp7679]

@ 52. 53 in 2 months

[@BAD_CONSUMER]

And the fourth?

[@johncamp7679]

@ our 9 year old daughter

[@carolexo7269]

You guys just made me cry....in a good way. ❤

[@brainkill7034]

What a beautiful video, thank you so much for sharing!

[@dtacy8201]

my husband always said..” We come first always. The children will grow and leave us but we will always be together, we are forever “

[@jimcr120]

I thank and praise God for the blessings you have and now have shared in part with your viewers! this is likely the most valuable “building” video and so timely. We need stronger marriages. I had to learn so much the hard way doing what was right in my own eyes and almost lost my precious bride due to my proud foolishness. Thank God His grace humbled me and we are now 30 years and going. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 is so helpful to put into practice. ❤ 👍

[@nitam777]

This was beautiful. Thank you.

[@williammrdeza9445]

What a wonderful interview Scott and Kelly! While we have gotten to know Scott a bit over the years through the channel, it was definitely a blessing to get to know Kelly more through this interview. Kelly's strong and self assured personality came though loud and clear, as did the strong partnership the two of you have forged. Thank you both for such a powerful and positive message you brought to all of us today.

[@hussleaward]

Came here to say this.

[@robertblackman3451]

Wow, I will be sharing and watching this several times. Good stuff. Thanks, keep up the good work.

[@avr2766]

The cat is so funny 😂

[@thekibby8375]

their starry eyed faces after all of these years talking about their relationship shows how strong their love is. I've been hoping for this very interview for a long time, and it did not disappoint. Bravo!

[@AndyRoche]

Married for 25 years now and I love hearing this like this. It is a great reminder of the things we try to do, and what we need to do better. Congratulations on 46 years and I look forward to that day as well. I hope we are as happy as you two are.

[@ijwtbotdad]

Wisdom like this is absolutely priceless. And the cat is beautiful and hilarious!

[@Lewis-kf2pj]

Not getting divorced definitely goes a long way towards making a marriage last that long :) :) Many congratulations to you both, a genuinely lovely pair of people.

[@LtMarcelo]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Your content is always great and wholesome, but this is on another level.

[@stable-shadow]

Appreciate the both of you! Happy Holiday's, thank you for sharing.... Be Well 🕊️

[@thealkymyst]

Thank you Scott and Kelly. Merry Christmas to you and your family!

[@TheCowboylogic]

Pard. Thank you. That was inspirational. Happy Anniversary and Merry Christmas.

[@robertphillips4097]

Scott in my opinion that is the best video you have ever produced. Inspirational thank you

[@zachallison-ws1xq]

As a husband of 2 years and a father of a 7 month old daughter, this is such a wonderful video full of wisdom and encouragement. I’m a new viewer to the channel of about a week and now seeing this amazing video, it definitely seals the deal of a subscription! Thank you for the amazing content of wisdom and so much more!

[@John_Montgomery]

64 years old and been married 34 years. learned the hard way many of the lessons you talked about.. older and wiser means happier

[@Centercreek]

Finally! Here’s the woman next to the man that makes this whole thing happen!

[@arboricole]

Essential! A perfect illustration of The Craftsman’s design of building two into one. Appreciate this perspective in a world seemingly antagonistic to this truth.

[@bobtorrence3461]

Thank you two for sharing the importance of marriage! Great advice given. My wife and I have been married 46 years ourselves and see so many parallels with the two of you. From our experience, your advice is absolutely spot on. Well done!

[@devinteske]

Going on 15 years and I am looking at you two with over 30 more years than us. Thank you for making this video.

[@James.......]

Excellent conversation!

[@milesharlan1]

Scott is the essential craftsman not only on his work but with his marriage to Kelly! Thank you, Lord, for Scott & Kelly & allowing them to share their terrific insights on marriage Keep Up The Good Work

[@haydnjenkins7607]

My Wife and I had our 50th Anniversary this last September, being together 50 years takes work and effort, walking away is the easy option. The one I never believe those that say we've never had a cross word. We were have had some good arguments, but we always said sorry before going to sleep, or going out, I never would forgive myself, if one of us were to die, having our last words as bad words, so we've always made sure we, could say if I were to die, I would have said I love you as our last words.

[@jaymecarter7425]

❤❤❤ 31 years; 3 children and 1 grandchild on the way! Great stuff!

[@chuck-n-debtaylor7553]

Thank you for a wonderful interview 👍🏻. We’re about six years behind you - SO thankful for the gift of each other! May the Lord continue to bless you and your family - as you bless others ❤.

[@dougeggers5154]

I'm getting married in May to my best friend. Hoping she and I can do this advice justice. Cheers

[@greggszyp7371]

I love this video, it is one of my favorites of yours. One bit of polite constructive advice. I had difficulty hearing Kelly at times particularly in the beginning. Whoever was talking off canera was practically inaudible. On a later viewing I saw there were subtitles, but the first time I was listening was while I was driving so I can’t look at the screen. I give this advice with a caveat. I wear hearing aids, so I understand I have an issue related to this. But I never had any issues hearing Scott. I turned up my phone’s volume and the gain of my hearing aid but it still wasn’t enough at times. Keep up the great work!

[@jmccullough7755]

Y’all are truly an inspiration to others to share the things you’ve learned, not only in marriage, but skills that are helpful and so much more. What a blessing to have Mrs. Kelly to add her knowledge to the channel. God Bless You Guys!!

[@Festus171]

What a great discussion! My wife and I have been married 40+ years and so much of what you say rings true for us. The work-centric focus, the sharing of responsibilities, the mutual respect... is right on point. Both of our parents remained married until death. My parents made it to 70+ years and my in-laws to 65 years of marriage; but all four of those folks would tell you that the two of us have the better relationship. We had the benefit of their examples. We don't keep score, and we never did. Professionally we are different from you. I was a career soldier, so there was a lot of absence by me, and her running the household combined with adjusting to new living locations with a higher frequency than most. That's tough for everyone. Besides the things you mentioned, my mother always pushed the importance of good communication. She was so right. The only times we had tension between us was when communication was inhibited. We grow into each other. "Unless you share that with your children..." Great point. The military lifestyle gave us opportunities that most families don't get, and many military families don't take advantage of. Our kids got to do some incredible activities all over the country. We created a lot of shared memories with our kids, in addition to meals together (always). Those shared experiences translated to our grown children treating us to excursions and events based on those experiences. "Wow, we still like each other!" We said the same exact thing! Our experience is very similar to yours. We are not religious and don't attend a local church, but we understand deeply the importance of that in a community. My dad was one of handful of local preachers in my small hometown and a founder of a church back there. Although our path has been more secular, it's never lacked respect for those who chose a religious path. How wonderful and refreshing to hear the two of you echo our own sentiments on how wonderful a marriage can be. I hope you have many more wonderful years together! Gosh that was long. Sorry.

[@candace3676]

We love this conversation. Talking about decades of life is magical. Mr. Sweetie and I met at the same ages as you and Kelly. Creating our own example took us about 35 years. We got a lot of good things from our parents, and so many bad habits of life, and because we persevered, we created our own good things. Powerful words. Without a doubt, Christ saved us for this marriage, life, family, and community. Heal your own marriage by watching those around you? WISE. So much wisdom, you two. Thank you isn't enough to cover what you give us all. Bless you both for eternity.

[@mattemonx4315]

4:44 amen to our faith being at the centre of our marriage!

[@daverahrman5662]

One of the best KZbins I have ever watched. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

[@Stuart_MM7SHX]

This is tremendous - thank you. We're 7 years in. Shared faith. Shared commitment. Love is a choice. 3 kids, another on the way. Still got lots to learn! Appreciate your reflections very much.

[@rcwessel]

"Our money." Thank you both for that admission. My wife and I had the same thoughts about that. We never had separate accounts. It was "ours."

[@hussleaward]

Like when Kelly said “we had our tools stolen”. We is so important.

[@rcwessel]

@@hussleaward "We" are so much more important than "I." Most marriages today have an "I" problem. Unfortunately, today "I" am alone, my best friend, my wife of nearly 40-years having passed away on 12/27, just days short of our 40th.

[@brianpriest3638]

Essential Mom is awesome

[@fsj197811]

Reasonable expectations... What a concept! And definitely one that I'd like to see flourish. As always, thanks for sharing.

[@johnstexasworkshops]

You two are a great example! Merry Christmas

[@rickurt703]

This is so sweet,I love you guys so much, you have no idea

[@nateryan3610]

Helps when you have an eternal perspective. 😉. Thank you for the video!

[@kerrihamilton0393]

Thank you for taking the time to share the real work and honorable treatment of each other. We are 30 years in, blue collar and teacher after raising kids, purposing to lift each other up through the good and the bad. I love how you identify each other's strengths, what you appreciate about each other, having realistic expectations, unyielding commitment, and resourcefulness.

[@KevinHalliburton]

We just celebrated our silver anniversary this week. This interview is wonderful - spot on!

[@benchippy8039]

Fantastic idea for a video, especially at this stage in your channel’s development. As a veteran viewer this intimate conversation has real and tangible value to me. I grew up in a very broken home and have always been determined to make sure my marriage works

[@db.mc2]

Thank you. God Bless you and your family ✝️🙏🏼 Have a blessed Christmas, and wonderful New Year. Appreciate you

[@abewilcox4560]

This is good word. The commitment that is needed is almost nowhere to be found today. People almost always see divorce as a viable option now. Going through that myself, everyone in my wife's side of the family has been divorced at least once if not twice. That possibility was always in the back of her mind. Society has become very self centered and unfortunately all the rhetoric being preached by therapists (even Christian therapists) says that you need to love and take care of yourself first. That is quite counter to what God says to do.

[@thivesennayager6278]

Absolutely amazing , this is what the internet was made for. Long time subscriber. Thank you Mr& Mrs EC. Wish you many more happy days and blessings ❤

[@jerseyhomestead6812]

I’d like to hear more about your shared faith and that journey as well!

[@dazzaspc]

Good for you two!

[@donaldwhitt1232]

Thank you guys so wholesome.

[@devinteske]

External observers thinking: huh, you guys sure talk a lot about Private Mortgage Insurance

[@tomwhelan9872]

Great vid. Thank god for that bus route change eh . Have a great Christmas.

[@stefa4013]

Thanks for sharing your lovely family and knowledge. May god bless you for helping others and sharing beautiful stories.

[@heknows5418]

Congratulations my wife and I just celebrated 52 years together , 2 sons 46 and 41 both in good marriages 5 grandchildren

[@gavindagawd]

Words to live by. I'm 27, my wife and I started dating twelve years ago after meeting in drivers ed. It's all about being a team. To build on what was said about not finding the right person but becoming the right person I think a big part of marriage is pushing your spouse to be a better person. Now, sometimes that may mean stepping on some toes, but you're a team and you trust one another and you make it work. My wife knows I'm tired after work, she knows I need to do work on the house still, she knows in the moment I'd rather be lazy, she knows I'll regret it, she knows if she kicks me in the butt I'll get grumpy, but she knows the work will get done and I will be thankful and more fulfilled afterwards. Marriage is a commitment to selflessly work at becoming a better version of yourself.

[@timothywdillon121]

Every young child... boy or girl should listen to this guy...Scott Wadsworth....

[@flyingpaddy7525]

Every couple about to get married or married for years can learn something from this genuine couple.

[@devinteske]

19:49 NOOOOOooooo…. I have one (age 3) and 3 more on the way (triplets). Don’t say that! It has to get easier! I am searching for a new house and moving a shop is not easy and I don’t know if I am as strong as you, but I will try

[@essentialcraftsman]

What a fabulous event in your lives! Best wishes as you navigate this life of parenting and trying desperatley to make it all work. You can do it! We are aware of two families in our community in your same circumstance and we love them so much and it's so fun to see their progress. Nothing you ever accomplish will be as important as these 4 kids of yours! Stay Strong!

[@devinteske]

@ thank you so much! These words help more than you can know. May the Lord be with us

[@normshafer2243]

Excellent video with lots of wisdom on life together. Cool to hear that Kelly plays the fiddle. I have one, have always wanted to learn and just never seems to be the time to take lessons. All the best to you and your family. Praying you have a blessed Christmas and an amazing New Year. 😊

[@TokyoCraftsman]

I cannot tell you how inspiring this video is, thanks to both of you for sharing!

[@nealesmith1873]

Great advice and observations!

[@raywest3402]

I learned more from this video than any of your others. Words of wisdom how to make a marriage last. The traditional ways can be the best ways.

[@AgCWby90CS]

I loved all of this. Sending this to my wife as well. Unfortunately, we’ve only been married 3 1/2 years and had to learn all of this while being divorced 18 and 20 years respectively, but it put a different outlook on our lives when we found each other And God is our first love and each other second, but yet not. Spirit, soul, and body in that order and we need to crucify flesh daily and live by the spirit in all things. Love this so much.

[@katesmith5010]

Good to see you Mrs. EC👍

[@firemanj35]

Justin outstanding video today EC. I absolutely enjoyed it

[@gregevans6741]

God bless you two!

[@armandhammer9617]

Wow, we've been married 31 years and our anniversary is Dec 14th. Im with you on everything i do is to make my family feel safe and happy. Mutual respect goes a long way too, and dont sweat the small stuff. Young men find yourself a good woman, have kids and go to work. Its really that simple. Merry Christmas everybody ✌️ p.s. im not a holy roller or anything but try to keep a relationship with God too. It gives your children options to draw from.

[@laynedouglas5105]

Appreciate your comments. My best friend and I have also been married for 46 years, have 4 kids, but have only been empty nesters for 2 years. Our youngest daughter got married just two years ago to a great guy, and we have been loving our time together since then. We are also just workaholics. I have been retired for 7 years, but busier then ever. My dear wife just can't stop either. Our 12 grandchildren also keep us busy. Hopefully we have many more years to share.

[@ianprojects266]

Let your pride go and maturity grow! Awesome. Best channel on KZbin hands down

[@perry900]

My mum and dad married for 63 years. My mum nursed dad with dementia right up to 3 weeks before his death. He was 90 and she 87. She didn't want him going into a nursing home.They were committed to one another to the end. My wife and I now 38 years. I agree the glue for us has been a relationship with our maker through Jesus. Thankful to him for everything. I agree moving away for a time is a good thing. I joined the airforce and we moved away for seven years. I look back and think it was a good thing because mother was not helpful to our marriage. My story is so similar. Didn't work around women as well. Blessing to you both.

[@Lukesh30253]

I am ten years married and growing happier each year together… we have learned that true love isn’t, “I love you because”, it’s I love you despite. Also love isn’t emotions, it has emotions attached but love is action.

[@KAYAKN]

My wife and I love listening to your story. We own Ashley's Building and Construction, 31 years. We raised 5 kids together. When we became empty nesters it was like wining the lottery 😂

[@danielbenedict9236]

Great video and excellent ending and advice. I almost missed the boat on mine but luckily the Lord saw fit to adjust my thinking and I have been extremely blessed ever since.

[@shopprints]

wonderful wonderful wonderful! thank you for this.

[@Jim-Wade]

"I'd rather be happy than right". There's a takeaway that should not be missed. It took me decades of our 55 years together to get over my programming of having to be right and life is better than ever. Common faith is essential: without this you are not one in the fullest sense. Congratulations on such a loving union, and may God bless you with many more years of life together.

[@thenexthobby]

Everything … is an OPTION. It’s more about what you do or don’t do to keep it together. Tell an alcoholic that drinking is “no longer an option” and the result may not be good. They have to KNOW It’s always available but that it’s up to them to say no. #1, talk to each other #2, try not to make the other person wrong

[@griromero]

Great wisdom and profound perspective of life. Many thanks!

[@chaseweeks2708]

I hope that my wife and I are in a similar position in 40 years. So far, our marriage has already exceeded expectations consistently, so I think we've got good odds.

[@Foxhound682]

I loved that video congratulations on a long and happy marriage to you both that's a rare thing in these times and may God bless you both keep up the great videos

[@Nehandley911]

Best video of the channels history. Thanks so much for sharing. So much Godly wisdom.

[@phelandeluna5439]

Happy Anniversary!

[@stamrly418]

Bentter than 20 sessions in therapy. Better than listening to a 30 something tell you how. …..be happy rather than right. Then that cat. We have one the same if they are looking at you then the “other end” is pointing to the camera. Brilliant the pair of you for being so ……open living on rabbit, making it work and nice to have the house to yourself….but the kids know where their home [ not the roof or food] was. Thankyou both.

[@johnmcmunn3827]

Congratulations to you BOTH ... FYI: See your 46yrs and Raise you Two 😊

[@JasonSchmidt-1979]

You guys are beautiful, God bless you!

[@Evan-rj9xy]

I read something a while back that really hit me but unfortunately I don't know the source. It was something along the lines of: Your parents love you because you're their child. Your children love you because you're their parent. The same goes for your siblings, cousins and so on. Your spouse loves you because you're You. Out of everyone else, They Chose You. They weren't stuck with you from the beginning. They don't _have_ to love you because you're family. _They chose to You to be their family._ The love of your spouse is unique in that way. It is precious beyond measure. Don't ever take it for granted.

[@MenAreSpeaking]

Love is 100% about duty. Emotions are not self sustaining. You have to maintain the emotional connection by being RELIABLE, like a rock, for the other person.

[@vettepilot427]

I always ask couples who have been married over 40 years what their secret is. The best response I had was from a couple that had been married over 50 years. When asked what the secret was, the husband looked at the wife, shrugged his shoulders and said: "She just won't leave!!!" They both had a good laugh and it was intended to be a joke, but the message was clear. Don't quit, work through your problems, and always maintain a sense of humor.