What Makes For a Great Seducer? I Robert Greene

In my wonderful conversation with Steven Barlett, I explain what makes someone a successful seducer. What do you think?
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[@Jimbo_Fett]

“Listen to people and show them you care” Or “Allow them to spill their desires and make them think you’re the key to getting everything they want” Very fine line that

[@dm7356]

Jesus Christ I wish you weren’t so awkward bud

[@Tomezilla514]

And that is what makes this a very powerful thing to know. Power can be used to achieve good or bad ends.

[@jerodbarbee1821]

Difference of opinion

[@potato31415]

Listen to people and show then you care RESULTING in them spilling their desires and making them think you’re the key to getting everything they want

[@Whosyourdaddy21]

It’s not really a fine line it’s just intention.

[@JackDeniko2212]

I don’t think people understand how powerful this can have an impact on someone. Be careful who you interact with

[@missherrera4451]

Yeah I’m learning this slowly, not everyone requires this level of attention

[@kiethmontana]

@@missherrera4451agreed

[@saartnomsky4523]

yea i got a stalker but i did this over 5 months

[@luku9065]

You mean they get obsessed with you?

[@franciscogerardohernandezr4788]

@@luku9065 giving such attention to the wrong person can stir envy and jealousy, gaining an annoying frenemy. I know by experience.

[@lynndemarest1902]

The simple act of thanking someone for being there never fails to surprise me. At the doctor the other day, the office worker was obviously unhappy. No eye contact. Finally, when all the paperwork was done, I looked at her (she had still not looked at me yet) and said, "Thanks for being here." She IMMEDIATELY looked at me and smiled and said thanks. Many people are lonely. These simple human connections matter, especially when everyone's tied to a keyboard.

[@markhicks1687]

Dale Carnegie says it in his book, how to win friends and influence people. The one thing that people truly desire the most is the feeling of importance. People are not interested in money, fame or anything else, just the feeling of importance.

[@Travis_Trauma]

Yep, Seduction is a new revised How to Win Friends and Influence People.

[@IMSLIMEFR]

Facts

[@Ralph85Williams85]

Basically, active listening and confidence!

[@nobodynoone2500]

Neither. Just be interested in their experince first. There is no space in that mindset for confidence or structured stratigies. Just wanton curiousity and it's exploration.

[@marte1376]

​@@nobodynoone2500his opinion is right. And perhaps you should follow your own advice

[@wilsonbarbosa8210]

I do this almost naturally! And you can really see how people open themselves up to you if you really pay attention to them and do these things, people starve for this sorta of attention, and when you give to them they jump on it, only feasting on that feeling without reciprocating. Unfortunately, this is a one way avenue, since no one has never done it to me! Honestly it just makes you tired, you can be what people need, but never can find one to be or do anything of that sort for you. 😂

[@luku9065]

I get you bro lol😂.

[@MorgansBeauty22]

Law of assumption- what you assume is what will be reflected in your reality! Start changing thoughts and be more open to the possibility of you meeting your equals!

[@grantwlms]

That’s why you should use it only when it’s important

[@sunshine2294]

Samee thing is happening to me😂😂😂

[@ThomasJones-sz3sx]

@@MorgansBeauty22 Great Point!!

[@pinnaclepottery635]

I make and sell handmade pottery. And this is one of the principles that I use to sell my work. Because when you’re selling your art it’s a little bit about me and what I do. But it’s also about making someone feel really good about themselves and making them feel important. So when they take their pottery home and start using it, they are left with those good vibes and therefore are a very happy customer that will return. It also helps that I make amazing masterful pottery 😂

[@ghastlypompano2]

When he said "seducer" I thought it was going to be the biggest pile of bullshit. Actually pretty truthful. People want someone to listen to them, rather than talk at them.

[@A.I.-]

I guess you still don't know the difference between Brad Pitt and Frankenstein. Let's see how far Frankenstein can seduce their way to your heart.

[@ghastlypompano2]

​@@A.I.- moot point. The conversation is centered around regular people. Not monsters or multi millionaire celebrities. If I'm missing something, please explain it.

[@oneuser06]

This is absolutely true. 99.9% of people don't actually care about you so it is rare when you find someone that is truly interested in you and both of you reciprocating is even more rare. Pay attention this is a key to finding the one.

[@transformyourlifewithGOD]

Self consciousness kills everything. Being is the secret

[@tammy6452]

The amount of impact that this gentleman has had on this country can not even be qualified even if you are just counting the people who respond in comments to how much he has affected each of them, and still no aire of supperiority but teaching what makes him influential by being seductive..getting into the minds of others and helping them grow, and in the case of most of us, getting into the mind of another and having better relationships.

[@saledacucina3613]

​@@A_R_B_Gno all people do

[@danielbaldwin5510]

Bro has a phd in rizz

[@Fuzzyblossom]

😂😂❤

[@DavidJoiny]

Making someone happy & hopeful about life. These qualities are automatic when you love someone unconditionally. A rare & most cherished memory you'll need, if they ever leave.

[@alaalfa8839]

In some video yesterday they gave advice to men.... they said that if a woman says to a man, she can not live without him, he should avoid the woman because it's a very dangerous statement...... Why does everybody say something different? If she says she doesn't need a man, she is toxic as many videos said for a few years......, if she says she can not live without him, it is toxic. .....what kind of statement is healthy?

[@OfficialMrWallace]

This with the combination of being attractive and well endowed will make you feel unstoppable

[@devs.4254]

The best conversation I had in years was with a stripper a few months ago at a birthday. I was hanging back at the bar, and she correctly detected I wasn't super into the party atmosphere so she chatted me up instead. I knew exactly what she was doing, it was a basic ass sales 101 F.O.R.D. conversation. I knew exactly what she was doing, but it worked flawlessly on me anyways. It was the only time anybody had asked me anything about me beyond "are you capable of performing the function I need you for?" in years.

[@spiderman-uw9uv]

I love you Mr. Robert your books literally changed my life

[@SHANONisRegenerate]

Far out so just being present makes a good start to becoming a good seducer

[@amalrajpr6800]

"with great power comes the greater the need to learn 48 laws of power -uncle greene

[@valeriobertero]

here the same

[@IblewuponyourfaceIII]

Uncle Ben taught you all you know

[@alexreinhart3534]

Same here

[@t.tmarie]

I actually think and behave like this naturally but on the flip side this mindset leaves you feeling depleted and lonely. What he's saying is correct people don't naturally think and cater to others which also means the person your doing this for won't return that same energy. Use his invaluable info When it comes to customer service not to your love life!

[@chucknoris7648]

I feel the same way

[@marte1376]

If you make yourself a seducer your life changes completely. Funny how it is you think you don't manipulate or seduce. You're just a hypocrite and an offensive person because indeed, you think you're so raw you're better from seducers or people who listens. An antiseducer is a person who is so self-absorbed they think they don't belong or have any flaw of human nature, which is YOU 😂 And by the way, what Robert is saying is pretty complicated, we humans are so selfish it's hard to stay outside from ourselves and actually LISTEN the other person

[@twincitydezray]

Someone's afraid of rejection

[@crankiemanx8423]

Your attention & time is the most valuable thing you can give someone.that moment is not something you can ever get back.

[@Fuzzyblossom]

Use wisely!💪🕊️❤️‍🔥

[@kenziehale4672]

Active listening can be very helpful in forming bonds!

[@FridaFlory23]

Pay attention, this interview in order to study and detect your soul in order to mirror your needs, give you what matches you and make you feel you have fount your soulmate.... is exactly what malignant narcissists do in the very first seducing phase of love-bombing 🧐 How to know? Love bombing is very intense, toooo much, toooo "I AM YOU" and very fast. Another red flag: say "no", show indipendence and put boundaries.... you will see ill-concealed frustration or grudging insistence or anger, cause what they cannot stand is loosing control. Stay safe 😊 Best luck!

[@sandralucasmelvoin292]

Yes, my toxic narcissist paid extreme close attention to everything. I told him about my life and then he used it all against me. Be careful with whom you share.

[@dectocs]

Ok

[@cruisingscenesandtakingbea4197]

Good for you

[@-Zardoz-]

Says the hole.

[@khairt1731]

So you got dirty laundry and you told him about it and it backfired? Seems like the issue is with you, not him.

[@ashleyc3307]

@@khairt1731 dirty laundry? How about life experiences? You sound like a narcissist.

[@EstefanieSanz]

That exactly what happens in therapy you have the undivided attention of someone there for you are able to listen to yourself better.

[@sarahjmount9221]

Great and very true video, Robert! you explained that perfectly. Everyone should watch this.

[@nyx7829]

I don't know man. I'm usually the active listener with both friends and strangers. Inquisitive, genuinely interested. Don't talk about myself much. But no one's really been "taken with me" or acted seduced. If anything, it's made me more of a conversational door mat. I think there's a degree of charm or charisma or heck beauty that one must possess in addition to being outward focused that equates to Seduction.

[@remindsmeofnoone]

If you are listening for the sake of listening, you wont seduce anyone. Listening has to have aims: understanding, influencing, charming, and finally seducing

[@ShaddyRaddy]

Be active and lead the conversation. Dominant the conversation to where you want it to go

[@zoilarodriguez1532]

You are so right... People gravitate to me... I love people..

[@BronkoBanane]

Do this and you will become her therapist. I am a good listener and people appreciate that but they dont stop speaking their problems to me.

[@jmaxpaine]

That’s a fact

[@marrencebaraquiel]

that draining asf

[@Peaches328]

Absolutely, we all want validation and recognition of who we are R. Greene is a brilliant mind ✨✨✨

[@somewhereisgone]

Giving away the keys to the kingdom with this tidbit, my friend.

[@kris7592]

Not really

[@somewhereisgone]

@@kris7592 I disagree, the advice is of a high caliber.

[@amalrajpr6800]

Well your attention is no value if you are of no value

[@kris7592]

@@somewhereisgone 🥰❤️

[@somewhereisgone]

@@amalrajpr6800 I don't like to strip people of their value. Attention is attention, sometimes we just need one person to see us.

[@janetpaguilar5086]

I love the way you speak and your voice soothes me.

[@mordechaiweinstock838]

Robert Green is a treasure in our time!

[@Fuzzyblossom]

💪❤️‍🔥🕊️♾️🌸🪬

[@Tipperary757]

Yes, people rarely listen. Listening encourages ppl to talk.

[@Panda.Man96]

I will definitely listen to this guy. Clearly just by looking at him, he put all of his skill points in charisma

[@Noor-sl5ep]

This is actually very amazing

[@Joanna-lk7di]

Youre my favourite writer

[@Giusmelo]

Divouring the 48 laws of power, I am totaly fascinated. Great stuff to ponder and learn from!

[@basimahknowshow]

True! I seduce without having to think about anything. I simply get to know you as a person. If I talk to you abd allow you to open up about who you are that matters. Just sit n listen to them tell you n show you who they are.

[@lidyanaredeemed9848]

I recently came across to this listening to this man I jus can’t get enough listening to him. Very powerful advice

[@csc8697]

The last person that was like that to me was a flat out narcissist.

[@geez5059]

Yeah I mean these are seduction techniques. That’s kinda how narcissistic people survive through seduction of unsuspecting people. Robert has said how he used to be the kind of guy that enjoyed the process of seducing women. Called a ‘rake’ but he grew out of it. I don’t think he argues that these are morally right things to do but just that it is ‘how you can do it if you wanted to.’ And how to spot it if somebody is doing it to you.

[@csc8697]

@@geez5059 I do realize it's a selling technique to or how to win people. I guess it depends on your intentions. I'm still traumatized from my narc POS father & past bf.

[@msforce9]

Real narcissists are unable to show genuine interest. Their only goal is to discover all your weaknesses, to use them against you, that's the only way they know to survive

[@trains889]

Or it was you who misinterpreted your being over-demanding to their being a narcissist. A narcissist never listens. So, I think the problem was you.

[@geez5059]

@@trains889 that’s a bit much too assume things like that. You don’t know anything about them. Idk why you’d jump to those sort of conclusions out of nowhere. That’s quite insensitive especially if they have just said they are damaged by it.

[@ZEBEEtheoriginal]

Gifts and taken places is not required. Just listening and engaging, earnestly, is enough.

[@ErinDeNis]

But do it from a pure heart, not to take advantage of them. Thats called being grown.

[@Man.Well93]

Newsflash other people have needs too and men actually need to do something to fulfill them. But hey, since we are only"manipulating" you, us men have stopped pursuing

[@sharri5412]

That's why narcissist are such good seducer... they learn you and then use the info to play you. I don't ever let people know me and I test them to see if they would used the info I give to play me like a fiddle.

[@hemanhunters6783]

I am happy to hear good-hearted advice like this❤ I used to listen to a lot of manipulative crappy info about this topic, when I was younger. Don't be a player. Be genuine. Be you.

[@lauraearthsea9830]

He does a hv a beautiful mind. May GOD bless his life. 🙏❤️ He certainly has left a string of wonderful thoughts to improve our lives. My hope is for his continued health! ✨️

[@sht3885]

thank you Mr. Greene, i will definitely read your books.

[@gerrimiller3491]

This is extremely powerful ❤

[@nancybrantley9694]

My fave podcast....so TRUE😊

[@Danceforlife-j7j]

It’s called active listening skills. How validating is that to be present and in the moment with someone!

[@bilbobaggins4403]

He's got crackly spittle quality to his voice.

[@ProPrivaC]

Roberto I respect your grind and mind You have trampled lines of logical and illogical Your said the point of the laws of power is not to use the book And Your making spiritual and physical combine in coagulation I respect this a lot for the meditation so observation preservational observation emotional psychological and all This is a great tool and framework because it is the epitome of navigational guidance of one’s self I fray and encourage to search beyond these qualities but for kids starting out in the world 48 laws and human nature are amazing books and for me has personally developed me in only a matter of days beyond capacitance I am refined in my searching and looking and was still able to maintain spiritual knowledge as well as now physical knowledge As a individual your outlook to navigate the body and your years of study and years of observation learning and then giving to the public I must say I respect highly Thank you for your contribution to the world

[@goldenbuddha316]

he is actually correct, i stand by every word.

[@DreamCatcher-wg1bk]

This has to be true. I am currently talking care of a friend admitted in the hospital who went into injury comma after a bad car accident. One of my friend co-worker had came to visit and she was extremly beautiful and attractive. Before she left we had chance to share some personal conversation and during one of those she mentioned she is also doing her Ph.D which happened to be in a field I have an interest. I was so engrossed I keep asking about her Ph.d, her research, her achievements, talents etc and conversations was flowing water. Trust me my mind even stop registering she is attractive in that moment. When she left we exchange number saying she wants to call me up to check up on our friend recovery and I thought nothing but for her kind support. To my surprise that evening she called me up regarding my friend and she also gave me her another number saying she wants to meet up one day to continue our conversation over a coffee with a flirty text.

[@Just2gofoods]

Mr. Robert I Really like these shorts, especially this one; thank you, sir.

[@maryglo1]

Encouragement works. Knowing someone knows you and shows interest is very sexy! Gifts! Dates! Brilliant!

[@Mayalex9927]

Entering into their world and experiencing their lives.. Well said

[@bennyblackcat4959]

Just like everything else in human relationships, it's all a matter of perception. One might be exactly and genuinely as he described, but been perceived completely differently from the other side, according to their personal experiences.

[@Lifeasithappenss]

This is really good advice.

[@johnbenson2937]

Beautiful Stuff !!!!

[@Vulgaels]

People dont understand how powerful is this. I am not best of looking mad, have been obese etc. But this mentality of care for others has been the most seductivr thing

[@47bricklayer]

People would rather be heard than right.

[@Mushroom321-]

EXACTLY!!, being attuned to the person !! ❤😊

[@Mmmmkaaay]

It's easier to seduce when you're over 40, because on a date you're asking yourself if you like them, not the other way around. The insecurity becomes irrelevant. You can just have fun.

[@marte1376]

You don't get the message. That's still being self-absorbed because you're too focus on whether they're going to fill your expectations or not. Therefore, you're NOT listening and observing the other person. You can be confident but that doesn't make you a seducer, more like a target to someone who is more strategic than you

[@Mmmmkaaay]

@@marte1376 How is observing the person I'm with being self absorbed? That makes zero sense. It would be the opposite. I'd be a good listener and paying attention to clues. You're damn right I'm going to more choosy in my 40s! Who wouldn't?

[@chrisp473]

I've met a few seducers

[@allamerican3118]

Thank you Mr. Green; such wonderful information always. 🌸

[@ST-rj8iu]

this doesn't work on people that hate being complimented. I know, I am that person. These people annoy me as they are so fake to me. People are naturally self absorbed.

[@sp123]

yeah im that way too, but its really paranoia over anything else and I hate dealing with power structures--someone above me in a power structure will not be able to seduce me because I feel uncomfortable in those situations

[@kasheba866]

this is why I keep hearing reflection.. cool!

[@baron6797]

How are people watching this clip and then mentioning all the narcisists they've encountered, "watch out for them"? He's not talking about you! You're getting the wrong message here

[@joelcotnoir9611]

I needed to ear this

[@subhankar93]

Honesty and daring

[@michaelcahill1450]

I’m glad I’m seeing this now, but I really wish I would have heard this as a young man.

[@Smoothjazzsundays]

Always ask for consent before entering someone’s spirit

[@rachellesilva5626]

Narcissists are very good at mirroring initially, just long enough to get the hook in. Then that is what you strive for the entirety of the rest of the relationship.

[@StylishStu]

The sharpest tool in everyone's arsenal

[@mssiluvmusic16]

Facts 💯

[@adriamartinez4810]

And be spontaneous. Cannot be the same with each person.

[@masterprophet8378]

Lavishing people with due accolades is becoming more and more rare as society devolves deeper and deeper into the abyss of narcissism. Tragic to boot!

[@deanwongonline]

Powerful Insights from a Master Communicator.

[@moniquebrown3880]

I really appreciate your videos and insight One thing this reminds me of is. Narcissistic grooming The beginning of relationship and mirroring back by creating a bond quickly and drawing that person Internal self and like you see getting into there spirit

[@Luxemystic]

This is a masterpiece

[@chrismackerdush7728]

He’s describing the attributes and behavior of an ideal parent i.e. being a good partner to some one seems to require the same qualities as a good parent

[@betterwithwine]

this is 100% me on the most natural level. I think I see why people mistake this for me being romantically interested in them..

[@jerry-mind-sky]

Great observation.!

[@adriamartinez4810]

And those not paying attention, many times they dont enjoy others because always are in a hurry because of work or busy. It is a pleasure when someone listens and with attentiveness

[@marynlyn]

Great seducers are great predators. You describe the predator process very well. Life groomers. : )

[@violindalola]

Do 2 seducers ever pair up together?

[@jviarruel]

This Guy Knows People!

[@coimbralaw]

Brilliant.

[@user-tr7yg7zo3j]

It helps to be a novelist. You want to hear everybody’s story. My favorite phrase when I meet someone new: “So tell me about yourself.”

[@nicolafarnhill2184]

A million percent. This is what I do in my work 🎉

[@donmiller4885]

Great information and explanation thank you!!

[@sisselhansen3915]

Oh yes, I have that inner dialog going on! But I also listen, ofcourse.

[@marthaoviedo8680]

One of my favourite authors

[@franknsteinsASMR]

Listening to them will also allow you to figure out if he/she is who you really want

[@maryseokley6061]

On being authentic!

[@JonasFogel]

Brilliant advice.

[@sircharlessomerset1290]

This man is pretty brillant !

[@Ilovecats192o29]

Soo practical !👍👍👍

[@marissadower-morgan3313]

"Trying" to be interested as opposed to being interested in the same or similar subjects or ideals is a deal breaker ..because eventually trying is too hard to sustain . That is why meeting someone is better in a shared cultural setting . People always revert to who they were before they met ...so start with having similar tastes and ideals .

[@marte1376]

This is explained in the book. You seduce someone you know you can be their dream. It's impossible pretend to be someone you're not or you wouldn't like to be.

[@ekatasatya2995]

thanks for warning.

[@ladonasanta9222]

👌 wooow, can you please attach the full episode 😭 🙏

[@WithMyOwnEars]

Good tip for performers too