What Makes Relationships Last with John & Julie Gottman | Chase Jarvis LIVE

If you’ve ever wondered what ends a relationship fastest, these two guests have the answer. Drs. John and Julie Gottman cofounders of The Gottman Institute, both world-renowned in their field, have devoted their lives to the research and practice of helping people create healthy, long-lasting relationships. They’re joining me on the show and I’m thrilled because Kate and I just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary and I want to know, are we doing it right? Well, I know we must have some of the good attributes of a healthy relationship, but I learned more about what works and what doesn’t.
It’s been the life work of Drs. John and Julie Gottman as researchers and clinical psychologists to understand exactly what goes into successful relationships. Their work is a culmination of over 40 years of research and includes the most extensive study on marital stability. They’ve learned by studying more than 3000 couples and have used their findings to develop their work in helping people have better relationships in love and in life.
On the show, we talk about their work and their latest book, The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy. We go into the depths to discover more about how good relationships work.
Let’s get into this!
Here are just some of the highlights from the show:
[04:23] Intro and background
[5:37] Over 50 years in the making
[10:01] The things that successful couples avoid
[13:49] What does work and creating love maps
[22:19] Conflicts and underlying dreams
[43:28] The role of asking good questions
[47:58] Community is declining in America
[58:45] What is it about the human condition that makes it so that we need this big stuff to happen (trauma/crisis) to look deeper?
Enjoy!
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Chase Jarvis is well known as a visionary photographer, fine artist and entrepreneur. Chase is cited as one of the most influential photographers of the past decade. As an entrepreneur, Chase created Best Camera - the world's first mobile photo app to share images direct to social networks - sparking the global photo sharing craze. He is currently the founder & CEO of CreativeLive, the world's largest live-streaming online education company, having delivered more than a billion minutes of free live education worldwide.

[@ELV547]

It's such a bitter sweet feeling seeing John and Julie aging together. It's wonderful seeing them still together and teaching people their wisdom. However, it makes me realize we are all aging and one day they will be gone. I hope they stay happy and healthy for many many more years.

[@soulcostume6756]

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐5 star review just in case someone is in doubt if this episode is worth listening. You bet! Valuable not only for couples but for interpersonal communication skills with all human beings. Chase, thank you🙌🏻

[@LuciaDeGiovanni]

Thank you, Chase. The kind of communication needed for a successful relationship has to be rooted in the positive, with a loving and open heart, where deception and lies cannot live. Sending Gratitude. LDG

[@christyellis8789]

So simple and yet so profound! Thank you for this interview!!!

[@rrusso8648]

Amazing and powerful advice! So grateful to these two! 😊❤

[@Gabbej476]

Thank u a lot ❤

[@kathleenmccarrick1473]

thank you! Chase! inspiring !

[@twothumbsfresh]

Absolute gold. ❤️💛

[@dc-yq2mt]

Awesome. Needed this video.

[@ChaseJarvis]

Glad it was helpful!

[@halluciongen3000]

26:20 How to have the conversation

[@christopherclerck4416]

hey, is it possible for u to record ur mic sound seperately? You have a great microphone, but i think recording through the streaming software makes the quality less enjoyable. Anyways, great ep :)

[@MsElke11]

My hub and I did a WHAT I LOVE ABOUT YOU conversation list on a date a few years ago. Problem is, we go on dates once a year.

[@lifelessonspodcastdougspence]

Try saying to him “I would love if we went on a date once a month”

[@MsElke11]

He'd say yeah, but never commit to a date.@@lifelessonspodcastdougspence

[@pjtemplin]

Step 1: spell-check your key image.

[@belindaborja8788]

She just cant handle it when she doesnt get to do ALLthe talking.

[@tehjamerz]

I don't trust a word they say

[@MsElke11]

why? are you a NEGATIVE person?

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@@MsElke11 I don't trust jews

[@tb7633]

And what credentials or knowledge do you have to spread that is better?? Is your mental status really so good that none of what they are speaking resonates in you? If so I'm happy for you. If you feel like you don't need to change but you abuse people in your life. Then I feel bad that you don't want to grow.

[@tehjamerz]

@@tb7633 I grew into not trusting jews

[@shaunjmorris]

😂