What Makes the Perfect Grandparent Rights Case?

[@vanessasanchez4784]

It’s disgusting how much control people have over their kids! Especially when they are in a toxic relationship! Everyone suffers because the parents don’t know how to coparent!!! Sadly I’ve never done anything to the mother but uplift her motivate her and she is a straight up toxic person! It’s like I feel like the dad that is asking permission to see their own child.

[@Justin-o9p]

That first sentence sounds CRAZY!!😂

[@BePresentlyMindful]

Doubt it. A lot of women in laws love to try and control the younger woman and her children

[@JamesTristen-g7e]

​@@Justin-o9p😂😂 man I couldn't believe somebody said something so crazy!

[@BePresentlyMindful]

@@JamesTristen-g7e like fr Lmaoo that’s their child 🤣 these people are crazy. Based off that alone I would believe anything the mother said.

[@pittymama4500]

My first grand baby is going to Be born tomorrow to 2 parents who are alcoholics that go from one hotel room to the next partying. Their butt chop everyday and my son weaponizes anything he can and so, I'm absolutely certain that this baby is going to be recognized and it really is hard navigate. I feel sorry for this baby and the crap that he's gonna have to go through just because his parents are toxic people. I have everything that he could possibly need for at least the first year of his life because I was trying to be prepared for anything that could be thrown in case I needed to apply for custo be in a quick situation because of their drinking. And a couple weeks ago, while I was at work.They came to my home and stole the things that I had bought for the baby just because they hadn't bought anything and had gotten desperate at this point. They didn't take any of the big furniture items.Thank goodness or any of the baby's toys, but they took a lot of clothing and socks and blankets, diapers, wipes, bottles and binkies, and even some formula. They know. How important it is to me to have him into my life.And they probably we're very purposeful and what they did and know that i'm not going to put up too much of a special because I don't want to risk not being allowed to see the baby. There goes nothing...

[@tracycassaday8983]

You could always file an ECO and get social services involved if you feel the child is truly in danger. You risk that grandbaby being adopted out to someone else though...Make sure you have your ducks in a row. Start foster parent classes asap, make sure you have nothing on the child registry, and nothing on your criminal history. They can attempt to hold anything against you.

[@willieboy2960]

My grandkids are 4, and 6 i have lived 2 apartments doemwn from them thier whoke life . Visits daily. County was paying me daily to watch them. I have proof . Recently my daughter is forcing a relationship were the new gut doesn't care for my grandkids . She stopped letting me see them 6 monthes ago . I found out she told her therapist that she came home one day and he was drunk and beat my grandchildren with a belt. Left them blue and purple . She never contacted law . Therapist conta ted cws . They remain with her and he continues to drink Nd watch them . He does not want them seeing me she tells them i dont care about them . All i seem to do is cry . As a grandmother who was a second mommy this is heartbreaking.

[@disciple15]

How come you don't hire an attorney to sue for grandparents rights. I am going to persue my rights as a grandparent.

[@dearlovelyyou]

You can petition the court for grandparent visitation rights. I am in the process of doing just that. If you have money for an attorney, hire one, if not, don't be discouraged. You can do the paperwork yourself and file it with the clerk of court in the county & state they children reside in.

[@jenifferhuis2345]

I wish with all my heart that I had the funds to have an attorney. My daughter and her husband have been separated for over two years. They were co-parenting wonderfully with out needs of lawyers. When my daughter filed for divorce, they sent her to friend of the court. Her husband didn't like that so his next visit her kept his daughter and refused her to come back. My daughter is now depressed, homeless and definitely not in a position to have her child. But I have helped raise my granddaughter and have had her in my care every day since she was born. I invited my son in law to come visit with child, nope, I asked if I could come there, nope with no reason given, I was video chats with grandchild one to two times a week since my son in law has kept grandchild. Now suddenly, they refuse to take my phone calls. I have done nothing but love and care for that girl and now nothing. Her 5th birthday is coming 😢 I don't know if I'll even be able to wish her happy birthday. She starts kindergarten in the fall. I'm going to miss out on all of it.

[@tracycassaday8983]

Look up the laws for your state and see if you qualify as a De Facto Custodian. Also, since your daughter is currently unfit, you may be able to co-parent your granddaughter. At least consult with a well-reviewed family attorney on this matter. You matter 💓🙏

[@BePresentlyMindful]

@@jenifferhuis2345 in this situation I can understand.

[@persiffony]

I'm in the same situation and my granddaughter is the same age as yours. 😥 And I just learned that there's a Tier 3 pedo (her uncle) on the property.

[@grahamgove5796]

My brother passed away and since his spouse has blocked my family from access to their 4 children. Children are 4,7,9,11. Its truly deteriorating. It will be two years Dec 6th for my bro. Wish us luck ❤

[@RainHavok1111]

Im raising my grand daughter but,he parents treat me like shit. I have her 99% of the time buy,when they pick her up for the weekend or whatever,they wont let me talk to her or video chat with her or anything. The baby & i have such a strong bond. I am her favorite person on earth. I am suffering a lot with chronic pain & struggling with staying here on this planet because my pain is unbearable. My grand daughter is the only reason im even still here. She is my reason for living. My reason for fighting for my life everyday. She needs me & i need her yet,whenever she's not with me,my daughter & her boyfriend completely alienate me. Like i said no video chats or phone calls. They just ignore my attempts at communicating with my baby girl. How can i protect myself from this happening. Its killing me inside & making me lose strength & Hope for a longer life. She needs me ,the kids are so immature & detached from the baby. There are no parental instincts at all .the dad plays video games all day screaming & cussing at the games. There's 4 or 5 cats using 1 litter box in the se room the baby plays in. She gets sick a lot and Im the one left to take care of her when she's sick. She's sick right now. Its day 9. It took the 8 days to tale me seriously enough to take her to the hospital. They dont listen to a word i say. I am met with only hate. No gratitude,no thanks at all for all I'm doing for their child. All they do is cut me down,treat me like im some ignorant bum off the streets. Like i know nothing about anything .Baby has been with me since day 1. They only see her for 2 or 3 days every couple of weeks. They dont know her favorite toys,her favorite foods,her favorite songs,what helps her calm down during a tantrum. How to help her get sleepy so she can sleep. They refuse to do ANY research to become better parents. I think my daughter also has severe post partum depression on top of her already existing anxiety & depression. The baby screams & cries for me as they drive off. They dont even call me to see what she's doing or how she's doing when i have her. Its like they dont even want to be parents,they just like the control they have over me cause she's their baby. Please help me. I dont know what to do or how to protect myself & the baby. I am her main caretaker since day 1. I am the adult in her life that is a constant . im her safe place ,her calmness. I am her home. Over at their apartment its just messy chaos. Cat hair everywhere,smoking weed in the house. The screaming & cussing at video games that scares the baby so much. When i bring those things up ,they just use her against me by punishing me with keeping her from me. There are no grandparental rights in Nevada. I really need somebody to talk to.

[@ashleighboyke]

What happens when the grandparents have emergency custody and have for the past two years and in the past literal 12 months the biological parents have made zero effort to set up and pay for visitation at all and the only time they call or have a video chat is when the child (now 5) makes the call in the first place? Does that help for the grandparents to win?

[@ashleighboyke]

To clarify, trial starts this month for the grandparents to win full custody

[@brentmiller1607]

Mentally ill daughter living in our home with her son. She's 27, and the grandsons father is not in the picture at all, and he doesn't want to be. He's never paid a dime of child support and never has even tried to contact his son after we went all the way to Utah to rescue his mother and the grandson from having to go to a homeless shelter. They've been back with us now for over a year. When we rescued our grandson, he was skin and bones. Couch surfing with several families from Michigan, Washington, Oregon, and finally, Utah. Our daughter makes our home environment unlivable and frankly unbearable, to say the least. We've tried talking to her about helping her to get her own place, and her response is right in front of her son is that she would kill herself if she had to live on her own with her son! She doesn't pick up after herself at all in our home. She's confrontational and sleeps hours on end, paying very little to no attention at all to her son. We are slaves and servants to her in our own home, all for the sake of keeping her son with us safe! We have tried the attorney route before, with getting our hopes up only to have spent seven grand for NOTHING! As far as CPS is concerned, as long as he has a peanut butter sandwich and no broken bones, he's fine???? They are USELESS! The state of Indiana fails children horribly every day! Grandparents have no rights, and many families are heald hostage with no way to real peace for the child involved or for their own household! I don't know what the answers are, I really don't! The only thing functioning about our daughter is, is that she can hold a job, and that's about it! We can expect nothing else from her period! Work, sleep, and be a slob at home that's argumentative.

[@rochelle-xz8gl]

what if both biological parents, are in the child’s life, meeting the child’s needs, are fit parents, and they are both saying no contact with grandma and grandpa? Because the grandparents were abusive to the child’s parent?

[@janesmith4h]

Their child, Their rules.

[@Asif-eb7nk]

This is exactly why my mil from hell has never met my baby. And so she never will!! lol

[@pittymama4500]

If they are good parents then you know they are probably doing it for a good reason. Good parents don't do toxic s*** just to hurt their own children.They actually come at these things from a logical standpoint and thinking about what is best for the child and what is best for everybody.

[@natashazertuche3849]

I’m from Modesto California. I just open a case for grandparent rights. I have a granddaughter that comes to see me but the mom used the baby towards me to hurt me. There is sometimes I could see the baby there is sometimes I can’t. I wasn’t even allowed to see the baby when it was born, she comes to bring the baby and I get to spend time with the baby. I have pictures with my granddaughter and grandpa and she’s only six months years old and I don’t have court to August 2024. Can you tell me a little bit what’s gonna happen there?

[@blueskyyellow1525]

I have complete guarding ship of my grandson, can I adopt him both of his parents are deceased.

[@tracycassaday8983]

Yes you should be able to. Please consult with an attorney asap.

[@NancyGonzalez-fd8tc]

If a parent is not abusive but becomes homeless. Can a Grandparent get custody if parent doesn't agree? She may be homeless due to violations with section 8 housing

[@HappyIam-yg5ed]

Hello

[@TressaHensley]

My son in law and daughter are separated. i didn't go over all the time. i didn't want to interfere. And they both were busyI personally I didn't want this separation .. I am working really hard to schedule a visiition with my grandkids. I have a feeling now that with this going on, we will have less time. Should i act fast? My granddaughter is 4

[@TressaHensley]

And I have a feeling there is a little bad mouthing going on about us behind our backs.

[@crystal45680]

My son's gf who's pregnant is already saying I can't keep my grandchild when it's born. What can I do? I want to spend time with my first grandbaby.. by the way he's 18 she's almost 16 and they say we have no rights to the baby 😢

[@jessierhea4641]

The babies not even born yet and you're already talking about keeping it? I'm sick of these grandparents who think they have rights to a mother's brand new baby. Jeez.

[@sonlya2010]

​@@jessierhea4641"keeping it' as in caregiver.. sometimes..geez

[@crystal45680]

@@sonlya2010 exactly like over nights and stuff not keeping the baby

[@crystal45680]

@@jessierhea4641 that's not what I meant.. I'm saying she said I can't keep the baby like over night

[@jessierhea4641]

@missunderstood4192 I knew you were reffering to visits when you said "keeping it." I'm saying the baby is not even born yet and you're already talking about "keeping it" and overnight visits. You grandmother's have to give these brand new mommas time to get comfortable and let the anxiety of having a new baby ease a little bit before you start expecting ANYTHING. Of course she is going to say you cant keep the baby overnight, you shouldnt even be discussing overnight stays at this time. My baby is 4 months old and NO ONE keeps her overnight, that's absurd and asking entirely too much of a new mother. Your grandchild isn't even born yet and you're already on KZbin searching videos regarding your "rights" so it's obvious you're overbearing and inconsiderate of mom. You have to have a lengthy significant and viable relationship before you can even consider getting rights, so I suggest you be patient with mom and dad and go at their pace before you take the unforgivable route and screw up all chances of relationship in the future. Good luck.

[@marysedita7326]

Our system has failed the innocent

[@lizromero8437]

It's not in every state I have tried that and talked with a lawyer in Colorado I haven't seen my grandchildren in almost 3 years . kids where 11 and 4 at the time , in 2020 I dropped of thing like I would always do for 1 year only to be told stop bring this junk we don't want it leave us alone, Alienation and brain washing them from the other family is just hurtful and cruel to the kids. They will have Abandonment issues are feel like we didn't love them and that is so far from the truth

[@barbaraedmondson1524]

My niece has my granddaughter in a safety plan for the last year.well March will be a year.my niece stopped me visiting her cause she didn't like my FB.im like what?!!.and my granddaughter is 12 doesn't have a fb.and never was I disrespectful.i haven't seen my granddaughter or talked to her since thanksgiving

[@ashleybellerose7104]

Lets see if you decribe mine. I think they are bonkers lol but we'll see. They arent seeing him twice a week I live 5 hrs away. They want him for christmas. I said no so apparently we are going to court lol oh they are the paternal grandparents. Im obviously mom.

[@HappyIam-yg5ed]

Hello! How are you doing?

[@callmeishmaelk767]

Grandparents shouldn't have any rights. Period. These control freaks need to go!

[@disciple15]

You should probably talk to the millions of grandparents have have been forced to meet the needs of their grandchildren, because of the neglect and abuse of their biological parents. All cases are different, that's why the courts should be involved.

[@shaynahall6064]

Thank you I agree with you

[@Realogn]

@@disciple15 he’s right though my moms the reason I even know about this space I told her soon as I find a new partner I’m cutting off all contact she’s a bad influence

[@rainkings4862]

I agree some grandparents step the boundaries of their children and are some helpful.

[@UCanHaveHim]

I know a grandmother who knows her grandchild is around 1 pedophile who's on the books. He has a p.o. but the p.o. ignores the fact there's a total of 3 children around him. The girl is the oldest, then there's the middle child who's a boy, then there's her grandbaby who's a girl. The boy (the baby's brother) has been caught fundling her grandchild. She's aware that CPS is crap but can't do anything about the situation because she doesn't work. It's not a lesser of 2 evils type of situation. CPS, the grandmother's son, his wife, the wife's pedophile stepdad and the wife's mother are evil so it's more like the devil you know type of situation. Everyone knows what's going on. Everyone.