Hello guys I'm Steven. The fellow who wrote the message and thank you for featuring it Ramsey Dewey. Think the big reason I didn't go for a choke or a grapple more than anything else is that... Maybe to you and I and those that understand grappling to some extent. We'd understand that it's a relatively harmless move meant to subdue with doing as little damage as possible. To a house full of family and friends, who are also pretty drunk. Getting someone in a rear naked choke... its probably not going to go down well... Here I just blocked, evaded and kept the attacker away. Using my training until we could escape the area safely. Because then, in front of everyone, specially when taking witness statements. It looks very clear that I did nothing that could be construed as an assault. Sadly the relationship with that family member is pretty scarred at this point. Though social services have stepped in with my niece and they and myself have been keeping a close eye on her. Was a bad night. Ruined Christmas. Ruined some relationships but I can take it. I'll take the hits because I can take it. I spent a few hours in a cell. Kid got away safe. Goal achieved
@darrylsmith4523 жыл бұрын
Hi Steven! 🤗 I'm so very sorry to hear that this situation ever arose that forced you into this turn of events! Whenever social services get involved it is well documented that it was NOT always a good outcome! Please keep an extra vigilant eye on your niece and don't trust ANYONE!!! Look after yourself and those you love and care about! I would like to say more, but it would be deleted! So take care mate and know that you did GOOD that day! 👍🤗❤
@solutionsforabrightfuture35793 жыл бұрын
It's such a problem with cops wanting to handcuff and throw everyone in jail accept themselves.
@BFGalbraith743 жыл бұрын
When I was working security I resolved a handfull of attacks with circular footwork and head movement. Going hands on with strikes or a big throw or choking them wasn't neccessary and would have caused more problems for everyone involved.
@Wittemn3 жыл бұрын
I had to put someone in a rear naked choke once in a public environment to realize what you said here. Common people will think you actually want to kill that person. It is indeed a technique that has to be used very wisely outside of the mats.
@farkinarkin50993 жыл бұрын
Hey, Mr Skelly, you did the best thing possible in a very difficult situation. Even if the assailant was not a family member, you recognized that if at all possible, do no harm (cue the Master Kan speech about "all life is precious"). I really hope that things heal over. The guy would not have tapped out, and for all you know there could have been complications. Again you did the best thing possible. Live well, train hard and thank you.
@stanleylee53583 жыл бұрын
Most assailants are known to the victim. Most murderers are known to the victim. Most rapists are known to the victim. Most robbers are known to the victim. Knowing how to fight is great but setting boundaries with the people in your life will get you more mileage for the time you spend.
@michaelsanterre42083 жыл бұрын
Well said Stanley.
@skaruts3 жыл бұрын
I don't think that's true of robbers, though. I've experienced many robberies from strangers, and very few from acquaintances, and I think that's the norm. Of other kinds of theft, like con-tricks, you might have a point, but only if by _"known to the victim"_ you mean it loosely, as in including con-artists which are people who don't necessarily know the victim but the victim knows and trusts them. Some cons only propagate between friends and acquaintances (like pyramid schemes), but most cons don't. I don't think victims are usually acquainted with fraudsters, though.
@jwhippet83133 жыл бұрын
Fun fact: The two most likely people to murder you are your mother and yourself. If you can make it to 12 months old, the threat your mother poses drops off sharply. Makes it hard to stay safe by avoiding the most threatening people.
@jaketheasianguy33073 жыл бұрын
It's a sad reality that the law against violence around the world were mostly made by people who don't understand violence or haven't even experience violence. Putting people in jail just because they defended themselve without hurting the attacker by choking them unconscious is just plain stupid
@manubishe3 жыл бұрын
Precedent. It's all about cowards making a precedent, and conservatives relying on said precedent, or simply lazy/unaware people. If you're not afraid of pondering about yourself as being violent, and/or finding violence around you as acceptable, then rethink what violence is, and bear the responsibility of living in novel terms, amidst people who'd rather accept the old version of "violence".
@ratillecebrasquedubitantiu44513 жыл бұрын
Like many police in the US, that only use extreme violence to protect themselves and others.
@ratillecebrasquedubitantiu44513 жыл бұрын
@@manubishe conservatives? It's usually progressive laws that punish the defensive individual
@manubishe3 жыл бұрын
@@ratillecebrasquedubitantiu4451 Relying on precedents, and acting on autopilot, without straying off the beaten path, Is being conservative. Suggesting that choking out a person is better than breaking his jaw, and facial bones, would be quite the rebellion.
@tzaeru3 жыл бұрын
On the other end, would probably be just as or more so sad if laws regarding violence were made by people whose primary credential was being good in violence. Firstly I will say that I am a quite skeptical about the claims that people were put to jail simply for defending themselves from a violent attacker when they caused no permanent damage on them. I've not really seen many verified cases of this. Maybe it's happened a few times, but it doesn't seem very common at all. Googling right now, I can't find a single case of someone being put to jail for choking someone unconscious in self-defense, though I did find this: metro.co.uk/2019/04/10/worker-cleared-of-choking-boss-to-death-because-it-was-self-defence-9144932/ Secondly, laws are a complicated thing, and one important thing to note is that law and punishment is supposed to direct behavior in the long term. If you allow one person to choke someone unconscious in a situation that wasn't a true acute life-or-death situation, then you're basically allowing everyone else to do the same. And a lot of the time that's not going to go so well. There's lots of violent people out there working as bouncers, security guards, or just looking for fights off the street, who try to claim self-defense on anything, and the less likely they are to successfully do that, the better. And even a trained person can kill or seriously injure someone with a choke. It's a high octane situation, adrenaline rushing in your veins, and there's no referee. You end up holding a blood choke several seconds longer than necessary and it is possible to damage the arteries or cause a stroke. This very rarely - almost never - happens to trained athletes, but those people are subjected to chokes under a controlled environment and they also tend to be physically fit, which does lend some significant protection. I don't think you should choke someone unconscious unless that's the only way you can realistically keep yourself safe in that situation. In the situation described on e.g. this video, I would imagine that if you're in a position to choke them out, you're also in a position to simply control them until the police arrives.
@stevensonchambers55773 жыл бұрын
The biggest mistake everyone makes is always envisioning ideal, react-able scenarios where one is mentally and emotionally prepared to appropriately defend yourself
@ives35723 жыл бұрын
Unlike combat sports techniques and maneuvers which are tried and tested over and over again in fights, self-defense techniques and maneuvers are not that really tried and tested. The only time those techniques and maneuvers are tried and tested is when you are least expecting it, which is a great disadvantage.
@zachariahz3 жыл бұрын
That's why it's best to listen to operators and people who have actually been around that stuff (Mick Coup, Geoff Thompson etc.), then integrate that knowledge, rather than just listening to martial artists - even those that compete/fight. Martial artists have a tendency to try to shape their idea of how non-consensual violence happens around their martial arts training, competitive history etc, and often it's not a very realistic fit, unless they've been there themselves. In short, being a martial artist( even a high caliber one) does not make someone a subject matter expert on self defense.
@BFGalbraith743 жыл бұрын
I agree 100%, though strategy should be significantly different.
@ricksterdrummer21703 жыл бұрын
They have however been battle tested. Just not against modern combat sports. That’s what both self-defense people and MMA people get wrong. “Self-defense systems” are made to handle pre-fight scenarios like a push, a threatening grab or a suckerpunch, NOT a guy jumping around in a fighting stance. We need to realize a system like Japanese Jiu-Jitsu was designed to handle rapists and robbers from the 15th century or so. Wing Chun was designed by a woman to fight against Kung-Fu. No self-defense system is fake or untested. Most are just outdated and haven’t evolved. Those are the facts.
@zachariahz3 жыл бұрын
@@ricksterdrummer2170 The counter to this argument is that unlike martial arts and combat sport, non-consensual violence hasn't changed all that much, discounting things like firearms.
@ricksterdrummer21703 жыл бұрын
@@zachariahz That’s actually very incorrect. It has indeed changed. 9 out of 10 bullies knows how to do a roundhouse kick and a rear naked choke. Not pretty but effective enough to get the job done. In the time of “traditional martial arts” this was not the case.
@Codac63 жыл бұрын
This reminds me when people say "There are no rules on da streetz" Of course there are, they're called laws 🙃
@Sovvolf3 жыл бұрын
Anyone who says "There's no rules on da streetz" has had to sit in front of two police officers asking you to justify what you did as reasonable force. Even when no strikes on my part was thrown. The police don't seem to give a shit about someones power fantasy.
@Jono7933 жыл бұрын
^^ This!
@Groteskfull3 жыл бұрын
Law of da streetz 😎
@wilfordgrimley43393 жыл бұрын
The law doesn't stop someone from stomping your skull into the concrete. The law womt prevent your family from losing you whether the attacker is punished or not. Damage is done. Prison wont bring you back. The point of saying "there are no rules on the streets" is to point out that human beings are capable of some crazy shit and you'll never know what until they display it for you. Laws don't assure your attacker getting caught. They cant be compared to rules inside a ring that are INSTANTLY enforced.
@Codac63 жыл бұрын
@@wilfordgrimley4339 Then go ahead, break the law.
@OrfinMusik3 жыл бұрын
Bro I appreciate your insight, a lot of people would just say do “A,B, or C” without considering the ramifications of doing those things legally, and their lives may be unjustly ruined because of their ignorance of their local laws while trying to really do the morally right thing.. Thank you for your honesty there’s a reason I enjoy listening to your insight and the consideration you’ve shown today is the exact reason why I love hearing from you. Cheers man.
@pst53453 жыл бұрын
You cannot choose your relatives but surely can choose your family.
@ttctexas97143 жыл бұрын
But what if your family is also your relatives? 🤔
@eldudemp61953 жыл бұрын
@@ttctexas9714 that's good too, maybe even better because you're probably gonna spend more time with your relatives than with anyone else
@emmanueltavares48233 жыл бұрын
@@ttctexas9714 its the same thing, but thats not what he's implying. "We may be related by blood, but we are not family". You can choose your family. My best and closest friends to me are family, but we are not blood related. Same goes for anyone who is blood related, but to you personally they were never or nor longer family.
@js17413 жыл бұрын
I ended an altercation between my father and little brother. To be clear, my father wasn't abusing young children. Little bro was an adult and being a huge ass, and my father lost control, put him in a schoolyard bully headlock, and started punching. I know you don't have a high opinion on eye gouging in self defense, but I found it highly effective and an immediate fight stopper. It doesn't work in the way "reality based" instructors say it does, driving your fingers into the attackers skull to mutilate them; that's bs as you've pointed out in earlier videos. Rather, humans are so instinctually averse to eye damage that they will drop what they're doing on reflex and pull away. Other than some temporarily blurred vision, dad was fine.
@MassiveSwingingProductions3 жыл бұрын
Hey coach just wanted to let you know I ran further than I have before since the quarantine. Your videos are super motivational to me and are helping me get the covid weight off. You rock dude!
@OG_Fireflare3 жыл бұрын
Keep it up! Good work!
@franciscohuber52643 жыл бұрын
Let's go man!!
@ttctexas97143 жыл бұрын
You wanna race me
@MassiveSwingingProductions3 жыл бұрын
Heck yeah dude
@Sovvolf3 жыл бұрын
One thing I don't think I mentioned in my email and should maybe make mention here. Something that's also not talked about often: The guilt. Man, I was sat in that cell feeling guilty. For days after the situation I was feeling guilty. Hell, even now to this day my head asks if I did the right thing. I think most people expect to come out of a genuine attack like this feeling an absolute bad arse. Like "Yeah, I'm the hero, I saved the day" its really not the case at all. Even though on a rational level, me stepping in and taking the hits and stopping the child from getting hurt should be a no brainer. My head doesn't think like that. Some of my family even turned on me for it because they either didn't understand the context and thought I shouldn't have got involved (The whole bystander effect there I guess). Even in what should be a clear cut situation, there's consequences. I didn't even start training again until a few days ago because something in me said I wasn't worthy of it. That's probably the roughest part about it all.
@JR-sz7dw3 жыл бұрын
When you KNOW you can handle yourself...You tend to worry about others more than yourself. Your ego gets armor after you train and get fight experience. If you care about people, their safety becomes more important than your own.
@jamestickle3070 Жыл бұрын
Reason I switched over from kickboxing to BJJ. To control uncle Billy without bloodying his face up. That said, glad I had some striking so I know realistic ranges. BJJ always starts too close.
@kenh.5903 Жыл бұрын
Once at a family reunion I had to try to control a family member that was going crazy. We rolled around throwing punches and kicks and I was hit over the head with several drinking glasses. My grandma is a serious bad a$$.
@wearblackclothes3 жыл бұрын
This story hit home. My mom used to be that angry drunk relative on a Wednesday afternoon. I started jujitsu when i was 15 and thought i could stop her but she was my mom. The only time i actually did she was literally pissed drunk and tried to get in the car and to this day i still get lip from her side of the family for it.
@kuragui5quero3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for raising awareness about legal implications. Once someone tried to rob me with an alleged "pistol" that was covered by clothes, Adrenaline kicked in and I got really angry and because the guy was smaller and really nervous I thought I could gain his back and hurt him before he could use his "pistol". Fortunately I just took some breadth and decided that it was not worth it, i didn't give him my stuff but neither showed resistance. When I didn't move his nerves betrayed him and uncovered the "pistol" to show me he wasn't actually armed and left. Have I attacked him I would had have a terrible time justifying myself legally for attacking an unarmed assailant. In a second you can go from the defender to the aggressor.
@ratillecebrasquedubitantiu44513 жыл бұрын
Ramsey, you're so smart about these sorts of things. You should definitely make a series about these kinds of things if you have time.
@realitycheckselfdefence78403 жыл бұрын
Absolutely - Just another reason why context is so important. Rich Dimitri raises many of the same points when he talks about real world violence - You don't want to hurt the people you care for, but you also don't want to die, very hard to train for that mental barrier.
@Sovvolf3 жыл бұрын
See, when I wrote this message, that's what was in my head. I've been at a lot of different gyms in my years and trained a lot of different styles. Some that have offered self defense style classes and some that don't. I've yet to come across any that have handled such a difficult topic and yet, as Ramsey Dewey rightfully points out, you're probably going to end up in this situation with a family member more often than some stranger. I mean, it's so easy to dehumanise the attacker, specially where in most situations we're picturing a blank faceless attacker (or masked attacker) that you don't really think about what you're going to do when the attacker is a loved one. Thankfully in this situation I managed to get out of it without hurting anyone and just kept with the mantra of "Protect yourself at all times". Also the Thai long guard (which I usually use to set up shots) was surprisingly effective at just creating distance and stopping this person from getting any clean shots. Also I check out your channel quite often. I'm a big fan. So thanks for your insight mate.
@stephanwatson79023 жыл бұрын
What have soldiers done for thousands of years when disarmed and faced with a sword? Wrestle...grappling is a large unknown part of sword fighting
@IamJigle3 жыл бұрын
When they are disarmed facing a sword they just get killed or run away lol
@stephanwatson79023 жыл бұрын
@@IamJigle very untrue, alot of swordfights turn into grappling anyway. No soldiers didnt just turn and run every time when they're disarmed, that's a good way to get a sword in the back buddy. Go watch the fencing instructor Matt Easton if you want to know more about actual historical swordfighting. How the hell would you turn and run in formation with soldiers all around and behind you? Do you say "Excuse me fellow soldiers, I just got disarmed in an instant and now have milliseconds before my enemy stabs me with his sword! Could you please make room so I can turn and run?" If you get disarmed and your opponent is still right infront of you, you're best option is either backstep if you can and look for an opening, or close in to grapple so they cant swing
@IamJigle3 жыл бұрын
@@stephanwatson7902 hence my comment- they either get KILLED or run away.
@johnathannelsonento20403 жыл бұрын
I get this entirely. Not too long ago I interceded in a domestic issue. this was the second time, but this time the guy tried to fight me. I dabble in judo and boxing, so I was pretty confident I could deal wth the situation, but I had to make the decision not to hurt this guy and leave the situation because I had people I'd have to answer to.
@dylanmorgan55893 жыл бұрын
I thought self defense in a home was putting on a gas mask and breaking the valve on the chlorine gas tank. Or am i weird for having a chlorine gas talk?
@RamseyDewey3 жыл бұрын
Do you make that a habit at family holiday gatherings?
@dylanmorgan55893 жыл бұрын
No. Still on tank one. My family has been behaving........so far.
@scottt73093 жыл бұрын
I remember watching a video by Iain Abernathy who explained the difference between martial arts and self defence. One of the points he raised was learning the laws of self defence where you live. I'm glad to see that you are also sending out that message. Needs to be said alot more than it is.
@gokussj3973 жыл бұрын
Great video! I'm a 'certified self defence instructor', but never thought about this. I'm actually a little bit ashamed about my training anyway (not because of this, but because of the lack of fighting skills) and wouldn't return teaching nowadays, but they never talked about this.
@tiunchampion96813 жыл бұрын
Love your channel
@RamseyDewey3 жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@bernieeod578 ай бұрын
I had a wife and stepdaughter who became violent after refusing to to support a 15 year old girl dropping out of school, doing drugs, and bringing home boys to have sex with. This did not come to light until I left active duty. When I tried to stop it, she and her mother became violent. I just stood there and took the blows exclaiming "Is that the best your drug addicted MTV watching body can do? I did end up with a fat lip, nose bleed, and a few bruises. Had their blows become mite effective, I would have started blocking and if necessary, strike if necessary to open up an escape route. It was not until after things calmed down and we tried to have a rational discussion where they explained how I deserved the violence, depriving a 15 year old girl her drugs and sex life was child abuse, and failing to reel from blows I deserved was domestic abuse I packed up my things? Left, and never returned
@permadsen14793 жыл бұрын
The three best self-defense techniques you can learn is: Laws on self-defense Situational awareness Conflict De-escalation
@geoffreyfletcher69763 жыл бұрын
This is a very good point, as rarely is any self defense situation solely black and white in its morality. Especially in the USA, where in some states, you can legally defend yourself against someone attacking you, and thus avoid criminal charges, but that same person has the right to turn around and file a civil lawsuit against you for any damages you may have caused them while defending yourself against their attack. Doesn't necessarily mean that they will win the lawsuit. But any use of violence to defend yourself, always has an aftermath that has to be dealt with.
@MER_Metal_Catto3 жыл бұрын
What I really love about martial arts is that they give me the chance to control someone without putting them in the ER.
@dloobo23813 жыл бұрын
Rory Miller addresses this is his Book "Facing Violence: Preparing for the Unexpected", a very good Book.
@SamBamSalam3 жыл бұрын
Ah yes! Adress your "glitches". What if the attacker isn't a big bad stereotype? But like in this case, a family member. Or what if it is a woman, pregnant woman, child or mentally disabled person? How would you respond?
@dloobo23813 жыл бұрын
@@SamBamSalam exactly, there is often no happy ending to this situations, but if you are aware of it you have the oportunity to make a gameplan in advance for such an situation, how you would act if it happens. for example if you're mentally ill child try's to stab you and you're options are using deadly force or dying. you may chose the later or if you where aware of such a possibility you may would be even able to prepare in advance to evade it. don't think that self defense will definitely save you, it will increase your chance, it's not some kind of superpower. by the way sorry for my poor english not my first language.
@SamBamSalam3 жыл бұрын
@@dloobo2381 self defense will indeed increase your chances of you being able to limp away after an incident. That said, if you miss the cues that would have prevented the situation all together.
@dloobo23813 жыл бұрын
@@SamBamSalam i consider situational awareness as an equally important cornerstone of self defense as the physical application. The few people that i know, with knowledge of it do it also. It was self-defense against a person that is family or friend, that was to my experience a blindspot for most people that i knew, me included. i have to say that i'm out of the loop for about 6 years but at that time this topic was not often enough pointed out, if ever. maybe women have another view of this topic, but as a man it never crossed my mind.
@Altitudes3 жыл бұрын
Self-defence concepts/techniques always need to be the kind of thing you're actually capable of using. It's easy to say "Well, if it's me or them" but the truth is it's a lot harder than that. I used to be very much of the opinion that it was all about learning to strike well, but part of what turned me around to grappling and submission based defences is the idea that you're actually in control of the level of damage you inflict and the escalation/de-escalation of the situation (at least to a much greater degree than swinging punches). We think of self-defence too much in that "me or them" mindset when a lot of situations you might need to use what you've learned are going to be the type where you only need or want to restrain someone. Never fall into that trap of thinking it's going to be a crystal clear life or death scenario where your lizard brain kicks in and allows you to do whatever you want. The world is messy and complicated, highly situational, and training needs to reflect that.
@GuitarsRockForever3 жыл бұрын
Well, good point about friends or family members. However, if it is really bad, you have to do what you have to do. Sometimes, there can be no choice (certainly hope that situation never happens).
@keithsinkhorn90313 жыл бұрын
The most important things to know are when the law in your jurisdiction allows physical force and when the law allows deadly physical force. After that, one should know the difference between what is legal and what is wise. Finally, anybody old enough to walk around at night alone should have a flashlight on his or her person at all times. Flashlights are legal everywhere in the world, and you will never have to worry about hurting someone by shining a light in his eyes.
@danmclean73753 жыл бұрын
i think the real deterrent might be the 3lb handle full of C-batteries on that steel mag-light your carrying... nothing illegal about it UNTIL you swing it.. and you probably won't need to.
@keithsinkhorn90313 жыл бұрын
@@danmclean7375 That was true back in the day, but LED technology has come a long way since 1990. As little as 20 USD can get anybody a pocket sized light with over 500 lumens.
@aqdjbcr3 жыл бұрын
Glad I know Jitsu so I don’t have to hurt them if I don’t want to
@gnomenorthofthewall3 жыл бұрын
Good video and an important one. Also one point, in many cases, there is the option, if you have the skills, to just keep the attacker on the ground until he/she runs out of steam and anger or the police arrive. This of course depends on the situation and attacker. Unfortunately usually self defense "experts" just try to teach how to really hurt the "bad" guy
@Emcron3 жыл бұрын
well, I guess that makes my country's self-defence laws one of the easiest: they don't exist - you fight, you get charged in court, no matter which end you were on =(
@Wittemn3 жыл бұрын
What country?
@Emcron3 жыл бұрын
@@Wittemn Singapore
@Wittemn3 жыл бұрын
@@Emcron That's crazy man, I had heard a lot of good things from there before.
@Emcron3 жыл бұрын
@@Wittemn haha well...alot of the good stuff is only skin-deep...
@Wittemn3 жыл бұрын
@@Emcron Can definitely understand, although Colombia (my country) is better known for the bad lol
@ThirdPointInLine Жыл бұрын
I love the way Ramsey speaks, and also the way the video is just one honest continuous take
@jayve44333 жыл бұрын
Awesome, another great video on important info, you are right on what you say, definitely something all self defense programs or teachers need to talk about
@stephanwatson79023 жыл бұрын
There are rules in a street fight and they change given circumstance, they're called laws
@gwaffa3 жыл бұрын
I love watching your channel. I have learned so much, and I like how you bring out the human aspect to this issue.
@ArtofOneDojo3 жыл бұрын
FANTASTIC discussion Sir. You covered some absolutely critical information here, thank you for doing this topic and putting it out.
@Sovvolf3 жыл бұрын
Just passing by here and wanted to say I'm a big fan of your show. It's a great watch and very much inspires me as a martial artist. Keep it up.
@stevemann65283 жыл бұрын
If you are arrested and your not sure what the laws are, don't say anything or no comment, until they release you or your lawyer turns up upto advice you. Many people have been sent down not for what they did but what they said.
@solutionsforabrightfuture35793 жыл бұрын
Wow that is what I call a total bad*** when he was able to defend himself and kids without hurting the other person. That's a superpower. The best motivation to learn Muia thia. To see that in real life not even the attacker is harmed.
@noobiesensei62813 жыл бұрын
I mostly think it's the big coat. Armor helps. Especially since he didn't allow himself to strike back.
@daniel-zh9nj6yn6y3 жыл бұрын
Maybe the one with the stick was an aunt, so it wasn't that hard.
@Sovvolf3 жыл бұрын
@Brad Thomas Yeah I was lucky to have been wearing a winter coat and also a thick jumper underneath it which took a lot of the sting out of the blows. Think if anything it wasn't the toughness from training that helped just the ability to keep calm while being attacked.
@rwdchannel29013 жыл бұрын
I live in California and worked as a security guard for ten years. The company requires us to take an arrest and control class every six months. The classes teach some Judo and Jujitsu such as foot sweeps and wrist locks so you can handcuff someone. Before any of that is learned they teach the levels of force so you can respond with an appropriate reaction to an attack. You're not going to pepper spray someone for using some profanity at you, but you will if they take a swing at you. In California they have penal code 837 that allows you to make a citizen's arrest. The arrest and control class won't teach you to be great at self defense, but will teach you how to stay out of jail and that's important too.
@vellitical15323 жыл бұрын
i love your videos and advice, would love to have you as my coach as i have learned so much from you so thank you Ramsey.
@Discalle1123 жыл бұрын
I dont train anymore but instill watch your videos. I just love that you talk alot about theory and not just the physical. Great stuff
@perrenchan66003 жыл бұрын
Another great take on a serious topic. Context is so important. Context of law, context of situation, etc. For example my Kickboxing coach would always advise us to use an "open hand" guard for the chance that if there is cctv in the area then it becomes clear that you're the victim and your trying to protect your space. If you instantly respond with the English fisty cuffs stance, there is a big chance you could come across as the aggressor.
@mongoslade2453 жыл бұрын
Self defense classes sound good, but there’s no substitute for training and sparring. This letter demonstrates that.
@fasteddie199993 жыл бұрын
Steven, you did everything right. Everything.
@Sovvolf3 жыл бұрын
Thanks man. Means a lot.
@fasteddie199993 жыл бұрын
@@Sovvolf No problem. A situation like that really sucks, especially if there are children involved. I can't rate it high enough that you solved it wirhout violence. Wish you all the best.
@iiMEiii3 жыл бұрын
Could you review/analyses this knife attack? I dont know if you want to risk a strike though. I can't seem to link the KZbin video because age restrictions but it's got two camera angles. Just Google or search KZbin. Napad u fast foodu (2) Brutalan napad na radnika Fast fooda u Vukovarskoj
@unnamedchannel22023 жыл бұрын
Technically that was not a knife attack. Wait what? Yes! It was an attack where the attacker wielded a knife. But he didn't do much with it. He immediately lost control over it and from then on was on the receiving end. That is actually pretty common. Since most people don't know how to use a knife in a fight. Very few people are able to kill another human, even less while in direct contact.
@iiMEiii3 жыл бұрын
@@unnamedchannel2202 yeah it's all training as well he even managed to stab the guy with scissors after losing his cleaver. Plus the fact they were both sliding all over the place on that floor ment they could hardly even throw punched or kicks without slipping over.
@unnamedchannel22023 жыл бұрын
@@iiMEiii, check this out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gKHRYZVmiMd6mas That's how it should work. Still it's just training, but training with a real knife. My point being. If you want to deal with real knives in real life situations, you have to train with real knives as realistically as possible.
@toddkimberlin76093 жыл бұрын
Idk what it is about this guy for some reason I have a lot of respect for him and the way he explains things just seems like a real genuine dude
@davidhoffman69803 жыл бұрын
Good for you Ramsey. You always encourage critical thinking more than most self defense teachers I've seen.
@benjaminvega71863 жыл бұрын
As much as I love boxing and karate, I've only been in one fight in my whole life. And it was my brother who attacked me. He kicked me in the stomach and 3 times in the chin while I got him to the ground and subdued him. Didn't throw a single punch
@CaptPostmod3 жыл бұрын
The kind of self-defense situations most martial arts academies encourage their students to fantasize about feel analogous to training for car wrecks to me. Like you're driving your car. Suddenly, through no fault of your own, there's another car in front of you without warning. There's really NOTHING you can do to not hit the other car at that point. Actual self-defense would have been preventative-knowing dangerous intersections, being aware of your surroundings, making sure to observe suspiciously moving vehicles, etc. No amount of knowing how to roll with the punch or special kung fu is going to save you from getting wrecked by the point the obstacle has already popped out at you. The same is true of random thugs ninja jumping out from the bushes on your evening walk.
@melisslacour153 жыл бұрын
Great topic that's not brought up enough. Great video as always!
@josecuriel13283 жыл бұрын
Ty Mr Rumsey for this information, I really appreciate your valuable information
@terranentity3 жыл бұрын
Well done. Spread the word!
@glennbeard72193 жыл бұрын
Such valuable information . I continue to be impressed by your content and also your impromptu unscripted delivery. Very sincere and probably unrecognized
@asarishepard81713 жыл бұрын
hey Coach Dewey!
@RamseyDewey3 жыл бұрын
Hi
@asarishepard81713 жыл бұрын
@@RamseyDewey i love your videos sorry i havne't been commenting lately ^_^ hang in there in china.
@栗栖が萌じゃない3 жыл бұрын
I thought that this will some reaction, but I learned something instead, thanks coach :)
@spencer19803 жыл бұрын
Wonderfully nuanced perspective on self defense. Could not have said it better myself.
@simoneriksson83293 жыл бұрын
Yes advice like "gauge his eyes out", strike him in the throat" or "attack his groin - grab, twist and pull" might sound smart in theory but chances are that if your not somekind of sociopath you won't be able to bring yourself to do that to another person, even less if its a person you know an care about. Because of this aswell as the difficulty of training such tecniques aswell as the legal and social reprecausions you discuss in the video I feel like "superdeadly" tecniques and even striking in a lot of cases are pretty useless for selfdefencetraining. I think that standing grappling (hand and gripfighting, clinching, takedowns and takedowndefence etc...) is a better focus because that are things you are more likely to actually do. Ramsey I know you don't really like to talk about selfdefence but I think it would be really intresting if you did a video exploring different ways to control a violent person without hurting them (asuming you are bigger and stronger than they are and know atleast abit about fighting).
@rayedjualidan15043 жыл бұрын
Thanks Mr. Dewey this was one of your best episodes. Now I need to go check the self defense laws in my city 😅
@temwananinkana34193 жыл бұрын
As always , very wise words for complex life situations
@pedrotenoriomendes3 жыл бұрын
Ramsey is wise beyond the scope of martial arts. His analysis of the situation proves that. It's like the knowledge of martial arts can unlock paths in your brain that may give you greater understanding of life as a whole.
@vellitical15323 жыл бұрын
i was wondering if you could do a video on head movement in the context of MMA? when i box i seem to be able to avoid punches quite well but i keep getting kicked in the head when it comes to MMA and kickboxing
@mmareviewer.23723 жыл бұрын
Those coaches just need more common sense.
@therottingrat72043 жыл бұрын
Havent watched your videos in a bit, but somehow your talking skills got much better and yet your still the same :D
@Dr_V3 жыл бұрын
In most countries using your fighting skills specifically for defending a child is regarded more leniently by the law even if you do end up getting prosecuted, as long as you don't inflict permanent damage to the attacker it's unlikely to be convicted to more than a fine or some community work hours. That said, I commend Steven for his restraint, I don't think I'd be as patient and clear headed in similar circumstances.
@fireeaglefitnessmartialart9353 жыл бұрын
I think for most of the United states, at least for wisco where I studied criminal justice in college...10 yrs ago, the law of thumb was basically, necessary force to stop/negate the threat. Mostly all encounters should be non-lethal, and only as much force as need to stop the initial attack and continuous attacks that may follow. A punch, a hip toss, maybe even a choke hold, could be legally justified depending on the situation. As well as the person being attacked whether they believed their life or serious injury was imminent. For example, a simple bar fight with just a couple fists flying doesn't warrant a knife stab or gun shot necessarily. That would be excessive and the ine that used excessive force would be in more trouble. Also depending on if someone pressed charges.
@bntaft51333 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Ramsey.
@alLEDP3 жыл бұрын
Ah and you have a point with 'a lot of self defence situations are avoidable because you know each other'. As much as I love combat sports and full contact i find it very important to teach and foster a character who doesn't adhere to violence. And doing that actively and also with kids. Of course full contact sparring and competition will humble a person and most of the combat sport athletes wouldn't foster any aggression because they know it hurts. I just find it amazing that Martial arts which market their things lifestyle teach and praise those values up and down.
@johnf73323 жыл бұрын
You’re a very wise fighter, Ramsey. I love your insights into self defense (and other topics that you cover)
@johnsecheverell78243 жыл бұрын
Some other difficulties are in the fact that your opponent probably does not know how to properly fall. Even if they do, it is easy to forget when your drunk. Between that and the hard cement or flooring you have to be careful with the kind of takedowns you do.
@cbeaudry46463 жыл бұрын
This is a really great topic, and totally overlooked. In addition to being overlooked with martial-arts self-defense, it also negates (kinda) the gun-guy argument against martial arts ("I'd just shoot 'em" and " gun beats Karate, everytime"). This also gives more credibility to the wrestling pin
@richfv8293 жыл бұрын
Best channel and best coach 💪🏽
@cesaralvesdemoraes31873 жыл бұрын
I also like leg kicks for that kind of situation. It won't be seen as an attempt on someone's life and it hurts just enough to take out their will to fight.
@stephanwatson79023 жыл бұрын
What did you think about Dustin Porier's performance against Conor?
@RamseyDewey3 жыл бұрын
I’ve got a video coming out next all about that.
@stephanwatson79023 жыл бұрын
@@RamseyDewey nice!
@marcusaaron41353 жыл бұрын
Great video this video hit home with me as I have had several close calls with violent relatives and people close to me. I also hope to start mma or kickboxing soon.
@stevendrew53603 жыл бұрын
Awesome video!
@goosebiden69373 жыл бұрын
Good video but brand jumper are you wearing? it looks good
@RamseyDewey3 жыл бұрын
That’s a hoodie from the Dragon Fighting Championships, it’s a Chinese MMA show that I do reffing and judging for from time to time.
@AirQuotes3 жыл бұрын
Once again giving great advice
@cwhitetkd3 жыл бұрын
Finally somebody said it! I've luckily never been attacked, maybe I don't hang around enough bushes in the park. But I've had plenty of larger male friends and family come up at parties etc and bear hug me and say, "Well what are you going to do, where's your self defence,' and yeah what am I going to do? Gouge their eyes out? Break their knee?
@marcgoulet19673 жыл бұрын
thanks
@great40613 жыл бұрын
Defending ones self is alot about dirty fighting and not fighting at all
@jwhippet83133 жыл бұрын
Just an overlooked point: there are not only criminal laws but civil laws and they have two separate standards of evidence. You may not be criminally liable but be supremely sue-able.
@egontokessy16103 жыл бұрын
Hope you have a podcast, I like listening to you :).
@RamseyDewey3 жыл бұрын
Yep. I do.
@egontokessy16103 жыл бұрын
@@RamseyDewey started following on Spotify.
@c99kfm3 жыл бұрын
In Swedish, we have two concepts: Självförsvar - "self defense", literally. Training, equipment or actions intended to increase your safety. Nödvärn - "emergency warding", sort of literally. Violence against another person in defense of yourself or another person. The latter is the concept discussed in legislation and is coupled with the concept of "nödvärnsexcess", or "excessive emergency warding", which is when you went too far EVEN THOUGH a lower level of violence would have been acceptable in the circumstances. These two concepts are merged into one term in English, which is something I think confuses the matter to non-lawyers.
@princemaye23503 жыл бұрын
Hello
@RamseyDewey3 жыл бұрын
Yo.
@simonmorris42263 жыл бұрын
Simple answer is practice a combat orientated version of aiki Jutsu or aikido. And actually build up to practicing realistic attacks at full speed.
@interestingtopics4193 жыл бұрын
find it very useful and yes its a legal term very well said
@michaelroach29593 жыл бұрын
Someone mentioned Rory Miller's books on the subject; I am going to add Marc MacYoung's work to the list. They both have a lot of work about recognizing why and how violence takes place, how to respond appropriately, and how to use violence if/when it comes down to it.
@Nuetral7683 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU!!!! THIS IS THE REASON TO TAKE SELF DEFENSE CLASSES!!!!!!!! That being said, a favorite middle ground between the two that I like to use is a loose rear naked choke, use the knee to push their hips forward and pull them backwards, once they start to fall walk that same knee forward so it supports their body and keeps them from fully falling... it's a very precariously weak and unbalanced position that is nearly impossible to do anything from... however, after that it's very circumstantial and though a good self defense instructor may be able to help you pre-prepare to make what choices you wanted to under the circumstances the truth is that it is very rare in such a set of circumstances for everything to go just as you would have hoped... You did very good kid. 😊👍
@ddg-fi5bp3 жыл бұрын
If rnc is not an option, mount and wrist control is also a good way to stop a single guy.
@daniel-zh9nj6yn6y3 жыл бұрын
There's a video of a drunk guy being kept under control by a BJJ coach, without using chokes. The drunk was outside the gym, he wanted to challenge the coach. I think there's a Gracie Breakdown of that event.
@shattereddnb32683 жыл бұрын
Here in sweden choking someone out is considered attemptive murder and getting away with self defence at all is very very hard if you are a non-elderly man
@blockmasterscott3 жыл бұрын
My number one pet peeve with “experts” in self defense is them saying that all you have to do is learn their style because it’s the best for self defense. It’s the person and how much they train, not the style.
@gxtmfa3 жыл бұрын
Yes... and no. Some styles suck for self defense.
@abujasm22233 жыл бұрын
Great video as usual Mr. Dewey, but can't choking someone unconscious, with a rear naked choke, lead sometimes to permenant physical damage? Or perhaps the information i read on the internet is faulty?
@MissingTheMark3 жыл бұрын
I was once studying Judo from a lifelong judo practitioner (his father was a judo instructor when he was growing up) and he mentioned that in his experience the real problem in a "street" fight is how to not hurt the other guy. He gave the example of a time he was in a bar and a woman was flirting with him and then her husband showed up (drunk). He tried to leave but the guy followed him outside into the parking lot and jumped on his back as he was walking away. So before tossing the guy off, he ran thirty feet over to the grass (with the guy on his back, ineffectively punching at him) so that he wouldn't be tossing the guy onto pavement and possibly break bones since he was (a) probably untrained in how to fall safely and (b) drunk, so reacting slowly. In terms of real life self defense, it strikes me that this is one advantage judo has-most judo moves, if you don't dump someone onto his head, probably won't put him into the hospital (or a grave). (I say moves, but of course it's the years of training in how the human body moves, etc; it's not a move set for a character you're using a controller for and push the forward-A-forward-B-back-back-A combo to execute)
@4legsgood Жыл бұрын
Utter bollocks 😂
@Memorixt Жыл бұрын
One of the best self defense (theory) videos I’ve ever seen (listen to) on KZbin.👍🏻 With a bit better redaction would be perfect; but the main point, the content was simply excellent and to the point (sic!)!🙏
@RamseyDewey Жыл бұрын
Thanks
@yuriysemenikhin3023 жыл бұрын
This is EXACTLY the kind of situation that Aikido had been developed for
@solutionsforabrightfuture35793 жыл бұрын
No way would I ever trust aikido. Throw a cup of lemonade or a hundred dollars in ones then get those kids out of thier before that aikido stuff.
@yuriysemenikhin3023 жыл бұрын
@@solutionsforabrightfuture3579 Throwing lemonade in someone's face to distract them, while taking up a superior positing for a grapling take down, is a 100% legitimate Aikido move :-) And very much like guys from Graciebreakdown in their "Should "Chokeholds" be Banned in Law Enforcement?" video, Aikido is against choking people.
@Aegis---3 жыл бұрын
Depends i suppose, none of the bs traditional "ki" moves it has would ever be useful, which is why I prefer tomiki aikido, much better imo