WHAT MY MOM & ELISABETH ELLIOT TAUGHT ME ABOUT MARRIAGE AS A HOMEMAKER (Homemaking)

My dear fellow homemaker,
Today I am so happy to be sharing with you some of the very best, most challenging marriage tips I have ever received from both my mom, (who was married 30 years,) and the famous Elisabeth Elliot. 💕
If you are wondering, how does homemaking tie into marriage? I think our man is actually a huge part of our role as a homemaker and in this video I will be sharing how to bless your husband. I pray this is encouraging and inspiring.
Much love to all you lovely ladies.
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[@Michele_6815]

I am new to your channel, and old enough to be your mother. 🙂 I was very encouraged and convicted by what you shared here. Thank you. It is very refreshing to see a young woman/wife/mother with such wisdom and who is willing to learn from others and also pass along what she has learned. I pray God’s continued blessing on you and your dear family.💕

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh, thank you so much much for this kind comment! I really appreciate it!:) ❤️ that is so encouraging! Welcome to this little homemaker community!:) 💕

[@chloesunshine3692]

YES! Choosing to be offended... Very wise. It is ALWAYS a choice! Every thought and emotion is a choice! Very wise!!!!!! Thank you for the reminder. We all need to be reminded of this...

[@onlybygrace2011]

“She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue." Proverbs 31:26 Thank you ❤ This video blessed me

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, thank you so much! That is such a good and challenging verse!💕

[@EE-hi4re]

"One of the greatest freedoms we have is our response"

[@BecauseitMatters]

Fabulous!:)

[@MotherRabbitsKitchen]

I know this is an old video but I just stumbled upon your channel and I love it! Love your perspective and honesty. I’ve been married 11 years and we have 4 children. We have a great marriage but I definitely struggle with being overly critical at times. This was so encouraging. And honestly, sometimes when I’m in my bubble of frustration or disappointment, I will pause for a moment and picture what it would be like to have lost him, and I immediately go from self-centered resentment to gratitude and appreciation for the kind, loyal, and hardworking man I married. Perspective is everything! ❤

[@BecauseitMatters]

Very good advice!:) thank you for sharing! ❤️

[@Vintagebeliever]

This is beautiful. I could of used this many years ago yet never too late to start. I adore Elizabeth Elliott and have read several of her books. Love your woodcarving. Thank you for sharing.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh, thank you so much! I love her as well! She is truly an inspiration to me!:)

[@FWMStudyCommunity]

Such a great video! I wish more people would love their spouses the way God intended.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, thank you so much for your comment. I very much agree with you!❤️

[@velvetplans5396]

Thank you for these wonderful ideas, I'm so looking forward to seeing how appreciation and letting go of being offended will impact my relationship. Beautiful video!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh that makes me so excited that this video blessed you! Thank you very much!:) 💕

[@eugeniamaldonado7075]

I love your openness to allow you to see your husband as the unique person God created him to be. Only a wife that has prayed and received the grace to do this can be successful in this area. Praise God. ❤

[@BecauseitMatters]

Thank you. 😍😍

[@solieoso]

Wow I love this! So inspiring. Thank you for sharing. I just found your channel the other day so randomly, on a comment you wrote when I was trying to find music for a video. I have no idea what compelled me to actually look at your channel, but I'm so glad I did. Your videos are beautiful and right up my alley!!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh my goodness, that is so neat! Well thank you so much! It’s been great getting to know you better over on Instagram. I watched your reel about homemaking and being a wife and mother if you want to and I thought it was beautiful! 💕💕

[@julietambali]

Solie has a channel! Yippie.🥰❤️💗😍

[@xxsupersarahftw]

Immediately sent a text to my husband at work to thank him for the same thing, allowing us to have a life that can keep me home to take care of our son. Thank you for the reminder ❤️

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe!!! 🥰🥰🥰

[@traciesandoval2882]

Always be thankful for everything. I lost my husband of 18yrs, 6yrs ago. It was hard but not as hard as losing my 25yr old son on his birthday 17mo ago. Thankfully my new husband and other 2 children are helping my through it all. We never truly know what we have until it's gone. I'm thankful that the last words I heard from both my husband and son were "I love you".

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh my goodness! My heart breaks for you! I am so so sorry:(

[@traciesandoval2882]

Thank you, I still have days that all I can do is cry. I'm trying to smile and live again but it's so hard at times.

[@mirandak9810]

I'm new to your channel and have been loving your content. I'm not usually the type to comment on videos but after watching this I felt moved to let you know how much this video moved me and has helped put things in perspective for me. I'm new to homemaking, homesteading, homeschooling and all that comes with it and your videos have been an absolute blessing. I suppose I just wanted to say you are very inspiring and thank you for the time, energy and effort you put into your videos I really appreciate it as I'm sure many others do. Sending many blessings to you and your family 🙏

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh this is so sweet! Thank you! ❤️❤️

[@tanyahale1186]

This video was a great blessing, thank you.

[@carolinew6095]

Amen! What a wonderful message!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, thank you so much for taking the time to comment!:)

[@eirinoulapapa5741]

Hello my sweet girl! What beautiful words and beliefs!!!!It is true! Only if we trust ourselves on God's hands will we be able to become perfect according to His words and promises! We are His children and as our Father He cares about us....He loves us more than anyone!!!! As an Orthodox Christian it is "my duty" to follow His words and example in order to be with Him in eternity 😇😇😇😇😇

[@BecauseitMatters]

I totally agree with you. Thank you so much for sharing that beautiful thought! ❤️ Thanks so much for commenting!💕hope you are doing well!:)

[@eirinoulapapa5741]

@@BecauseitMatters ❤❤❤❤❤❤🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹I send you my love and lots of hugs!

[@lenafreeze7131]

So many wonderful truths here!

[@capturedbyannamarie]

Your videos are teaching me so much!❤️

[@BecauseitMatters]

Wow! This is such a compliment! Thank you. ❤️❤️

[@janefarrer2868]

Fabulous video and background music 🙏💕 thank you

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, thanks!:)

[@Flower-yc7hr]

Thankyou so much for videos like this. I did not have a good example in my mom. I love her, She just didn’t know any better and didn’t try to learn any different. I’m newly married 1.5 years and for the last few years I’ve been retraining my mind around all of this. And videos like these are awesome resources .

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, this makes me so happy to hear! Thank you. 💕💕

[@karek4635]

Beautiful video and message. ❤️❤️

[@BecauseitMatters]

Thank you so very much!:)

[@CatKittyCutie]

I may not be a widow, but I did lose my dad at 19. It taught me that life is so very precious and time is not promised. So loving and cherishing the relationships and connections you have is the most important thing. Things that used to gross me out, bother, or annoy me about my dad I now miss so much and would give almost anything to experience again. What I learned from his passing I’ve taken with me in my life & relationships, and so I appreciate my fiancé so much and have loyalty towards those I love. I don’t take even the small things for granted. Even if when he gets home from the gym smelling like a teenage locker room drenched in sweat. We joke about how gross it is but I still let him hug me and I appreciate the reason behind why he smells and feels like that. He strives to be the best man he can be and takes care of himself to the best of his abilities. I know if I lost him it would be even things like this that I would miss so much. Even when we fight, after the fight is over we don’t keep it going or hold onto the feelings. (On the rare occasion we may but only for a day) usually after a big blow up we spend an hour or 2 separated to cool down then when we come together we calmly talk it out and apologize. Since you don’t know how much time you have with your person it’s never a good idea to keep a fight going longer then it needs to. Finding peace within yourself and each other is a much better option. When you lose someone you will always have regrets and wishes so the best you can do is keep your fights shorts, don’t hold onto negative emotions, tell them to be safe & tell them you love them every chance you get, lastly never say goodbye... say I’ll see you soon. Not only does it help you mentally if something were to happen but it also shows them how much you care.

[@BecauseitMatters]

I appreciate and agree with everything you said! ❤️ thank you for sharing this. I am so sorry about your father but I super admire that you’ve taken all that that has taught you, and carried it into other relationships to bless them. 💕💕

[@keegs32]

This is amazing.

[@beckyb1797]

You are right about choosing not to be offended! My hubby and I just celebrated 27years of marriage. When I started implementing the no being offended a few years ago our marriage changed immensely ! You’re on the right track.😀. Keep loving your family!💕💕

[@BecauseitMatters]

Wow, that is so neat!:) thank you so very much! 💕

[@baus7]

Needed this ❤

[@BecauseitMatters]

So glad it was helpful❤️

[@laurajoiner1684]

THIS WAS SO GOOD

[@BecauseitMatters]

❤️

[@aimlesswanderer4786]

I definitely needed this as a newlywed. Thank you! ❤

[@BecauseitMatters]

You're so welcome!❤️ so glad it was helpful.

[@kimberlyfuller2140]

So beautifully said! Thank you for reminding me of these important things today. You are a blessing to us all through your videos and through your wise words. I feel uplifted and ready to appreciate more of what really matters.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Wow! Praise God!:) ❤️❤️

[@staylor619]

This was really nice!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Thank you!:)

[@horseluver4life1999]

I love these little dresses! Do you have the sewing pattern?

[@BecauseitMatters]

No, I just kind of made it up from a jumper I already had:)

[@marytheaussierando9562]

You are so wise for someone so young, I’ve enjoyed listening to you today. Gday from Australia xx. Your Christmas craft was terrific to watch as is your sewing abilities.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Thank you so much! 💕

[@yurianaj]

Thank you for your video. It’s so inspirational. God has been talking to my heart about this and today I came across your video. God bless you and your family

[@BecauseitMatters]

That is so neat!:)

[@wagnerfamily2043]

How insightful you are at such a young age. These are lessons it takes many of us a lifetime to learn. Thank you for your honesty and for putting these lessons together. I will be sharing this video with many!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh wow! Thank you. ❤️❤️

[@cassandraluv1000]

This video has blessed me so much!! It was like looking into a mirror, and seeing myself clearly, now I pray God helps me make the changes God bless you!!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, I am so happy to hear that. ❤️

[@PhinaLuv]

This was so good. Subscribing!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Thank you so much! ❤️

[@bernedeeerica3735]

Thank you sister I needed to hear and hear this God bless thank you holy spirit

[@BecauseitMatters]

You are so welcome💕

[@malikahibeleme]

Helpful video! Love your style! Patterns for those cute little dresses?

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh, thank you so much! ❤️ actually I just copied them based off of a dress my daughter was already out growing.

[@chloesunshine3692]

Amazing video! So much truth... Marriage is hard work, for sure! I love you sewing while you speak in the background. So wholesome! Thank you for sharing!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, thank you!❤️❤️❤️ I’m not a crazy good sweet but occasionally I’ll pull it out and sew a couple things up. It is super fun having a girl for that reason!:) 💕

[@BecauseitMatters]

Sewer *** auto correct isn’t always right😂

[@chloesunshine3692]

@@BecauseitMatters haha!!!

[@quietgentlespirit8118]

Such a blessed and inspiring video. Thank you very much for holding that mirror for me. God bless you sister

[@BecauseitMatters]

You are so kind! Thank you! ❤️

[@quietgentlespirit8118]

🙏🏽♥️♥️♥️🙏🏽

[@theparttimehomemaker]

I used to be the same- deliberately getting offended by every little thing my then boyfriend/fiance said- spoiling what was supposed to be a good time, causing unnecessary drama etc. I'm surprised he married me. God has helped me change my heart- praise Him for his mercy!!!

[@BecauseitMatters]

I understand that. I have been like that before too.

[@5674Kc]

Good stuff. Been married 3 months and by the grace of God, learning how to apply these things. Eye opening! about yourself and your spouse

[@BecauseitMatters]

So happy to hear that! And congrats! ❤️

[@KendraGuerville]

Such a beautiful video friend. NEW SUBSCRIBER here🥰 We have so much in common it’s crazy!! I’m a home maker but I currently work full time. my husband and I have a goal to eventually have me home tending to my husband and our home and our future babes❤️ I’ve been loving your teaching, knowledge, & gentle voice. Hoping to become a full time homemaker soon!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh, that is so neat! Wow, you are quite impressive working full time as well as homemaking. Those are both full time jobs in my opinion! Awe, I hope you are able to. It is so wonderful, especially when you have children it makes things so much easier! ❤️

[@mercifullove8246]

I'm headed to the library now to get this book thanks u 🙂. I watch her KZbin channel but I think using her book would be so helpful and long with the Bible

[@BecauseitMatters]

Yes!:) she is good!:)

[@ciarainthebeloved]

This is gold!💛 Thanks so much. Would you happen to know which one of her books you were referring to that mentioned forsaking self pity and not taking offense? This is totally my area of weakness. It really encouraged me to hear how God has helped you in this!!

[@BecauseitMatters]

I actually just read that one from a Pinterest quote, so I’m not sure. :(

[@riyamitraministries]

I am so grateful to learn these things so that I may love my husband well when I get married someday. Much love sis 💛

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, that makes me so happy!:) I hope they are super beneficial 💕

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, that makes me so happy!:) I hope they are super beneficial 💕

[@dissident_media]

Thanks you for sharing this

[@BecauseitMatters]

My pleasure!:)

[@rukkydoreen8970]

I feel like God sent me here. Because this is what I'm going true in my life.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Wow! Praise God!:)

[@tblanks2012]

Hi there, I just came across your channel recently after going through a season of depression after moving into our first home with my husband. Ive been praying and seeking guidance, wisdom, knowledge, and understanding from God on how to improve our everyday life and he has led me to your channel that is filled with so many key notes of advice. I appreciate the work you've put into all of your content and home life it's extremely inspiring and I thank God for using you to shine light in this dark world

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh my goodness! Wow! All I can say is praise God! That is amazing! ❤️❤️

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh my goodness! Wow! All I can say is praise God! That is amazing! ❤️❤️

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh my goodness! Wow! All I can say is praise God! That is amazing! ❤️❤️

[@HealthandHomemaking]

wonderfully said ... 1 peter 3:1,2 is a wonderful scripture for those this husbands are not believers :)

[@BecauseitMatters]

Yes it is! Thank you for sharing that! 💕

[@saintamerican6105]

I wish I could relate to “love what you loved about him before you got married” I was a filthy sinner that got knocked up and chose to NOT raise our child in a broken home. I dont live him, and its my biggest sin! listening to you talk about marriage always reminds me to pray harder and be prudent even tho its hard. I pray that every young women in the world lets JESUS choose her husband and not her own eyes🙏 Till death do us part🥺

[@baus7]

I have purchased 6 Elisabeth Elliot books. Can you tell me which books you quote in this video please? I want to make sure I purchase them. 💗

[@BecauseitMatters]

The quotes came from several different ones. The main one was Let Me Be a Woman. :)

[@dreawelty]

Any tips for becoming a homemaker when you aren’t the best cook 😅 and missing some homemaking skills

[@BecauseitMatters]

Great question:) I did a video a year or so back called something like: what I wish I would have known before becoming a homemaker. It covers these type of things. 😂😂 ❤️

[@ashtree5957]

I really enjoyed most of this video but some of it was a little concerning to me. We are our husband's helpers but I hope you don't let your husband control you. I could be very wrong but it almost sounds like you let your husband do whatever he wants and will allow him to tell you exactly what to do even down to what you're wearing, which sounds very nitpicky and controlling to me. If something you are wearing brings you joy and makes you feel good and it isn't revealing and still honors the Lord, I don't feel like he should be able to control what you wear like that. Like I said, I may just have the wrong idea but a couple things rubbed me the wrong way and made me worry for you. Other than that I really enjoyed hearing what you had to say and it was a beautiful video.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Thank you for this comment. I really appreciate getting feedback. It sounds like I may have not explained myself correctly. My husband doesn’t try to control me in any area. He is extremely sweet and loves my feisty and independent side as well. While I don’t think this is at all something that all wives have to do, it personally would bring me more joy to know my husband loved my outfit then to wear something I liked but knew he hated, that being said, we also have very similar tastes so we usually like what each other wears, and I have been known to throw away things of his that I don’t like either. 😂 I am in no way trying to encourage men to control their wives in anyway. I believe the “husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church,” every bit as much as the passages about a wife honoring and helping her husband. However I do try to speak only to women so I don’t often cover what men’s responsibilities are. Anything I do personally for my husband are things I have chosen to do on my own, but he has in no way tried to influence or control me in. He is not that type at all. Thank you for this comment!❤️

[@EE-hi4re]

@@BecauseitMatters I like your response. Society has changed and is pushing us to hate men. I love my husband and I obey him. Not because he's controlling, but because this is my way to obey God and receive God's love.