~HOMEMAKER ~ VALUE OF HOUSEWIFE VIDEO (I was SO insecure!!!) becoming a modern housewife, homemaking

Homemaker, How much is a housewife worth? Becoming a modern day housewife? Do you not see the value and don’t enjoy being a stay at home mom? Are you curious about a stay at home wife day in the life? Homemaking? Shamed for being a stay at home mom? Criticized for being traditional? Can’t find fulfillment in being a housewife?
Today I share my story about being a very insecure homemaker, as well as a handful of useful tips that I pray will help you discover your unique skill and purpose as a housewife just as it did with me.
Cheers!:)
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[@Rishabh-Dev]

Housewives, Home makers, Mothers are real heroes.

[@BecauseitMatters]

So kind! I agree with you❤️

[@Rishabh-Dev]

@@BecauseitMatters Bless your family sis. 🙏👍

[@shimmershaineshine312]

I am still in college right now. And I desire after graduation to pursue marriage because I see my potential in homemaking. Sometimes, I worry that my parents would be disappointed because I don't want to pursue a career that would make me successful in life, and my four years in college would be so useless if I don't go to work. For me, having a loving and faithful husband and being a homemaker is such a huge success. It gives me peace of mind. Our culture today discourages me a lot to dream of this thing. The people in our country would often look down on us if we marry early age and refuse to work. Others would make us regret our accomplished college degree. They don't see or value the hard work and effort each homemaker had to do every day. They don't realize that it is the most fulfilling and successful career in life! The real treasure that a homemaker will receive is the joy of becoming one. I am so tired of working for other people, even studying (LOL). It makes me so stressed and pressured all the time. How come some people exert much effort to achieve stressful careers? Is riches or fame all that matters to them? Okay, no offense. Anyways, thank you for this encouragement! I feel so understood and motivated to pray a lot about my desires. I am so fascinated watching you with your daughter. God Bless you.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, thank you so much for sharing your story and what you are experiencing! I have heard this type of comment from literally hundreds of women. Isn’t it funny that it seems the very people who tell you that you can be whatever you want, do every dream you have, are also the ones that then quickly bat down if you’d dare actually want to be a homemaker, as though it is the one dream that we can not pursue? I just find that to be funny yet also sad. I totally get what you’re saying. Just because some people want more money, or a huge career doesn’t mean it has to be for everyone. I would much prefer tending to my family as my main focus, and then doing small business ventures on the side. It satisfies me to love and care for my husband and daughter well. I totally get you and thank you for sharing this! 💕💕

[@CMBohanon]

I wanted to share, I graduated with my mechanical engineering degree in 2019. I worked one job for 6 months then became a housewife. My family is still proud of me and thinks no less of me. I dont regret getting my degree and I dont regret becoming a housewife. I agree this video gave me a good reminder that it is okay and honestly... being a homemaker has been more difficult than getting my degree!! The amount of self discipline needed is incredibly difficult. I am still learning and wish being taught homemaking skills were common in todays society.

[@nataliejohnson4124]

I am 56 years old, and old of your mother or even grandmother LOL! The reality is is your degree will not go to waste. I’m not sure what you’re studying, but I do encourage you to get married after college as soon as you can to a good man. Your role will be to help him build something together, and I’m sure whatever skills or education you have can be used towards that. Help him in whatever business or career endeavors he has. You could work for your husband or find a part time way of generating income that uses your skills and abilities. You are very right about the culture making you feel guilty if you want to be a Professional wife, homemaker and mother. They have been doing that ever since I was in college in the late 1980s!

[@Maman_poule]

Beautiful. Saying a prayer for you! I didn’t finish my college degree, got married young, had 2 children with 1 on the way. Still in my 20s now. Homemaking is hard work, yet beautiful and rewarding. (Also I relate to the disappointing family thing… I have definitely disappointed mine and still do! But it doesn’t bother me and we all get along just fine.)

[@EE-hi4re]

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[@zakhurf3411]

Your husband is exactly the type of man I would like to be, and you are exactly the type of wife I would like to have. You are blessed to have such a sweet home. 🥺😢 God bless you !

[@BecauseitMatters]

Thank you so much!:) this is a very kind comment. I am so blessed!:)

[@kikiwylde]

You are so fortunate to you have discovered this mindset early on. It took me much longer to get there lol

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh my goodness, I just realized I never replied to your comment. Thank you so very much for stopping by my channel. ❤️

[@jennylgarciajlg79]

Yes me too. It took me a while Thank you.

[@conniek1039]

My mom is a homemaker and while I explored different job ideas growing up, it was always as a plan B. I’ve always wanted to be a mom and a wife like my mom and I’m feeling a pull now at 19 to really start preparing 😍

[@BecauseitMatters]

That is so awesome! My mom was as well and I do think it had a big effect on my desire to take care of a family as well!:)

[@conniek1039]

@@BecauseitMatters definitely! ❤️

[@beautyishername5050]

I’m 19 and I want to be a homemaker as well. My mom is a working woman and would prefer if I had a job she has made comments like “this isn’t the 1940s” but I just feel like I want to be a sahm, I feel like it would be most fulfilling for me.

[@conniek1039]

@@beautyishername5050 Follow what God is leading you to! You'll never be as fulfilled as when you're in God's perfect will for your life

[@ThisBraveHeart]

I felt the same exact way! I got married at 19 and had our first baby 9 months after our wedding. My husband wanted me to be a stay at home mom and I was against it. I was so embarrassed about it and unhappy. Here I am now at 22 years old with a toddler and a newborn and I feel so so happy! I can’t imagine life any other way!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh that is so awesome!!! Wow, yes, sounds almost exactly like my experience! 💕

[@chloesunshine3692]

You are so sweet with your daughter! Precious moments for sure.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, they are so precious. I just completely adore the age she is at!:) it is so fun!:)

[@phyllisbooth3395]

Congratulations. I am 61 and have mostly been a homemaker and I do not regret it, although I did go back to school for another degree. Tip: People want the services of homemakers without paying them. Homemakers have to be more assertive to protect themselves from our exploitative society. Always put yourself and family first.

[@BecauseitMatters]

That is a good point! ❤️

[@charisebrunner5631]

A GODLY home is like a taste of Heaven...yes!!!

[@haleyschmidt2478]

I've been needing a boost for motivation. This was great. I've been a full time stay at home mom for a little over a year. was finally in a routine. I'm 27 weeks pregnant with our second baby and have just been feeling stagnant, giving myself grace yes, but just feeling like I'm floundering instead of thriving.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, thank you for this comment. I hope this video gave you a bit of motivation. Oh, congratulations on your baby!:) ❤️ I understand. Sometimes when I feel like I am just not doing my best, or even really enjoying my job at home, I’ll try to find someone on KZbin or listen to a podcast that kind pulls me out of the funk I’m in. Often it really helps. Thank you for commenting!:) ❤️ Have a blessed day!:)

[@BernsGirl522]

Excel instead of exist... Yes, that's the mindset shift I need to accept. ❤

[@BecauseitMatters]

It does make a big difference! ❤️❤️

[@gabrielleperez6548]

your channel is so underrated!! this is really encouraging for me. I’m turning 22 this year and I have been thinking and dreaming about this homemaker lifestyle after working in a corporate world for almost 2yrs.. i was told by everyone to be a career woman but i’ve decided that i don’t want to pursue that path anymore. i had the same insecurities but i’m so glad i found your video. thank you so much for being such a kindred spirit 💙

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, you are so kind! Thank you for these sweet comments! I love hearing stories of other women and their callings and desires!:) I am sorry about that. It seems at times the same people who say “women can do anything,” or “do whatever you want,” are the same ones that shame women when we do what we actually desire and dream of. It’s sad.

[@Offthebeatenpath.]

Just found your channel, its a shame I've just found it as you are taking a break but I'm glad I have your previous videos to watch! You are beautiful!

[@yusra7634]

The quote you read out at the end reminds me of the beautiful Hadith in Islam: “Paradise lies under the feet of mothers” 💙 lovely video

[@elainehewlett]

I've been a SAHM for 12yrs and still struggle with the mindset! People ask me how my kids are good at school, etc, etc. Erm, ME! I do feel more satisfaction in my role as I see my family succeed. I mentioned getting a job or something recently and my eldest said "yeah, maybe in the future once we've moved out" 😂

[@BecauseitMatters]

The mindset is such a battle, I think because the culture around us is constantly yelling in our ears the opposite of what we are working our lives away doing is what is ‘actually’ important. I still struggle sometimes as well, but try not to focus on the negative constantly surrounding me.

[@jlperz77]

Where. Have. You. Been???? This was what I had always wanted to do, too, and my now-husband loves the idea of me being home and taking care of everything and the children. My then-husband believed I had to go to work (he was obsessed with money) even though a babysitter for 2 children, gas for the car to and from work, clothes because it was an office job, leaving my daughters 10+ hours a day, never saw my husband because of our work hours, left me with feeling lonely, little money out of my paychecks and wanting to cry all of the time. I just wanted to be home with my girls and we COULD afford it. We already had two vehicles, a house we owned, travelled once a year, all on his paycheck alone. So why was I being forced into the world feeling miserable?? Well, that marriage did not last, obviously. My now-husband loves that I stay at home, but I always had this feeling everyone was talking bad about me behind my back because I don't work outside the home. As the years passed, I didn't think about it anymore because now everyone knows this is what I do and who I am. I love my life now and again, with one income, it is possible for one parent to stay home.

[@jlperz77]

I still feel the pressures of getting a job from the outside world, but we will see what the future holds.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, thank you so much for commenting! I absolutely love hearing other women’s testimonies about finding fulfillment and joy in loving and tending to their family and home, especially these days when the opposite narrative seems to be the only one many want to talk about. I am so glad you are able to stay home with your precious children now! That is so wonderful! Thank you so much for reaching out!💕

[@chloesunshine3692]

I am so happy for you! I can definitely relate to feeling insecure about not working outside the home. Wonderful insights and video. You are truly an amazing woman! Thank you for sharing!

[@tiffanierrodas-zc9et]

Your videos make me inspired, God has given you a gift that helps me through your videos be able to see excitement and help push out my anxiety, and see that nothing is perfect but I can find joy in this

[@KGNhite]

wow. Your channel is the one I have been looking for. Your channel was mentioned in one of my vintage housewife groups and I am so happy I decided to check it out.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Wow! Thank you. ❤️❤️

[@verdaylove]

I really enjoyed watching this

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh, thank you so much for this comment! I really appreciate it. How well put about how society does not really appreciate homemakers so we must have a sense of purpose and value individually. I 100 % agree.❤️❤️ Have a blessed day and thank you so much for joining this community. 💕

[@Verah___]

i love all your videos and i have just recently found your channel. i love how you bring the positive mindset into it which is the core of this wonderful calling for all moms

[@karek4635]

This is everything. Love this video!!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Thank you! ❤️

[@AnjaTodorovic]

You are the sweetest! Beautiful video!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, your comment made my day!:) ❤️

[@simplyjoyfulhomeschool8627]

Thank you Mama, I needed this!!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, that makes me so happy! ❤️

[@CynthiaL]

This is really beautiful

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, thank you so very much!:) what a sweet comment to wake up to this morning!:)

[@hypnogiraffe2275]

Loved this and what you shared. Thanks.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Thank you so much! 💕

[@HealthandHomemaking]

I very much enjoyed this video and its message!!! thanks sis :)

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, thank you! That makes me so happy!:) ❤️

[@WALLOFDESTINY]

You are TRULY awesome! Thank you so much for this channel.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh! Thank you! 💕❤️

[@learningtechnologypartner]

Shared this in my FB timeline. Thanks so much for the inspiration.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Wow! Well thank you so much!:)

[@fazeeharashmin1162]

Your baby girl's necklaces are so cute 🩷🧡

[@sophiamyambala1405]

So grateful for this video. It was exactly what I needed. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, thank you❤️

[@marygrace-beanoak9703]

so good! thank you for sharing! I am just now starting up a channel and came across yours. Your channel is my GOAL. Just glancing at it today, the things you have shared such as making your home peaceful/a haven and so on, even mentioning Elisabeth Elliot in a different video. I love the quote you read in this video. So wonderful and encouraging to have come across your channel. I am a mama of 3 and military wife. I was a sahm for many years and have been working as a nurse for the last 2 years. I am finally working only every other weekend at the hospital and even that feels like too much, haha! My children, husband, and home are where my heart is. Thanks again for the encouragement!

[@gracemagnaye546]

Glad to find you here. Your words are what I needed to hear today. Thank you for sharing!💕

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, that makes me so happy!:)

[@lucydoran2470]

Thank you for this beautiful video. You're making the sweetest life for you and your family.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh, you are too kind! Thank you very much!:) 💕

[@inkairy]

Two things! One, your family’s property is gorgeous. And two, your editing is amazing. It actually reminds me of “Tree of Life” by Terrence Malik.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh my goodness, this is like the kindest comment ever! Wow! Thank you so much for the compliment, I super appreciate it!💕

[@MoonFlowerCreations]

I love this. 💕 You are blessed to have discovered this so early on.

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh, thank you so very much!:) ❤️ I really appreciate your comment.

[@agnesskibicka]

@Salina, :)) I agree

[@melissavazquez2953]

We have nine children and I am a stay at home mom....love it..you learn to stretch the family dollar alot further

[@BecauseitMatters]

Wow, that is so so neat! Way to go! 💕 thank you for commenting.

[@crystals6609]

OMG. I am so inspired by your maturity. I am so thankful something so simple but yet so complicated you've shown to be so important. The way you embody homemaking is beautiful. Thank you for sharing

[@BecauseitMatters]

Wow! Thank you so much for this super sweet comment! :) that is so kind!:)

[@sonasharmi3570]

From my deepest heart..❤️❤️

[@martikabullock7122]

I love this!!!!!!!!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Thank you! 💕

[@kimberlyfuller2140]

Thank you for another beautiful video! I'm new to your channel and I'm enjoying it so much. I too and a homemaker and there is nothing more important in the world. God bless you and your beautiful family and the work that you are doing

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh wow! Thank you so much! ❤️

[@shelbymarie9408]

Thank you much for being so relatable! Listening to your homemaking story and just your home style, farm etc I feel like I'm watching my own life! I feel like we could be friends, having so much in common! 😊

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh my goodness, thank you so much! And I am so happy to hear this! 💕

[@izabelak2800]

This is great! Thank you :)

[@BecauseitMatters]

Thank you so much!:) ❤️

[@brittany4000]

Such a nice video! Just came across your channel and immediately subscribed. We need more positive voices, like yours!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh my goodness! This comment means so much to me! Thank you, thank you!:) 💕

[@chloesunshine3692]

I absolutely love your apron! I have an entire collection and wear an apron everyday!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Oh my goodness, I absolutely love that idea!!!! Did you make them all? I love aprons, they make me feel so put together and ready to conquer the world, (or more like my house.) 😍😂

[@chloesunshine3692]

@@BecauseitMatters Yes, conquer the house! LOL I made 2 of my aprons, but bought the rest of them here and there throughout the years. I have about 30 or so. I absolutely love wearing them :)

[@alanahanderson893]

Beautiful video!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, seeing these comments make my morning!❤️

[@Vintagebeliever]

Beautiful!!

[@BecauseitMatters]

Thank you! ❤️

[@vic82ism]

So young yet beautiful and very wise that you realized the amazing job that we have as Housewives to create a loving home .🙋🏻‍♀️

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, thank you! ❤️

[@silviablue9889]

Thank you for this

[@BecauseitMatters]

❤️

[@subscribee9792]

My career goals in life is to become a babysitter as soon as possible and throughout college where I will be studying to become a writer/author. Once I get married, I want to pursue my dream as an author and work from home to be a homemaker. I want to be a work at home housewife and then a working sahm once we have children. I hope I can find someone who shares the same values as me and supports my plans in life. I just want to find someone who can stick by my side throughout everything, doesn't everyone who is looking for a partner? 💐💮

[@BecauseitMatters]

This is so neat! Wow, that was one of my dreams as well, to write books! ❤️ This sounds like a beautiful plan!:)

[@shellymabry9577]

Where can I purchase the tshirt you are wearing?? Love your content btw!!!!

[@BecauseitMatters]

I probably got it from a thrift store! 😂😍

[@lazydragon9819]

I feel that I don't mind women who want to go and work out of the house I've always wondered why they might think us homemakers are lazy or being kept down by a man because we have chosen to do what we do. I wanted to be a homemaker why would they judge my choice. I have been a homemaker now for 28 years. Have eight children another social stigma let me say its been a little annoying for me that folks look down on other folks because of the life they have chosen for themselves opposed to the life others have chosen for them.

[@BecauseitMatters]

So very true. I completely agree with you. I came from a family of six kids and I think a lot of people thought my mom was crazy. I think she’s amazing! ❤️

[@kristenturner1222]

Hi, thank you for your wonderful video and sharing your ideas on homemaking as it is inspiring to me! I was wondering - what job did you work that you made $30-40 per hour before you quit to stay at home? I also want to stay at home but have some way of making decent money if I someday need to.

[@BecauseitMatters]

I was a waitress in a tourist town. It provided really good money, part being cash even!:)

[@francescalatzer6690]

Hi Sara, I loved this video! So inspirational! I’m curious- what was the job you had that you left when you had your baby girl? Thanks ! :)

[@BecauseitMatters]

Awe, thank you so much!:) I was a waitress at several different restaurants. :)

[@BecauseitMatters]

I also did some nannying, house cleaning and worked for a family owned seed packing company off and on:)

[@sydney287]

What state do you live in? It’s so gorgeous