What no one tells you about establishing your supply! | Hey Shayla Podcast 008

Breastfeeding: Oversupply Undersupply
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Natalie standing_so_tall brought all of her passion and knowledge for breastfeeding and taught us the best thing to do to combat oversupply / undersupply in the first 6 weeks to establish a supply!
We talked about how an oversupply and undersupply with breastfeeding can happen how to know if it has happened and how to increase / decrease after those first 6 weeks.
The biggest takeaways:
1. Everyone’s “normal” is different
2. Bottles, pacifiers and pumps can contribute to the problem
3. FIND SUPPORT (keep reading)
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“IBCLC”International board-certified lactation consultant) in your area.
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0:00 Breastfeeding oversupply undersupply
11:55 How do I know if my baby is getting enough?
16:00 What if my baby drops weight?
24:00 How do I know if I'm having an undersupply?
29:00 Why do I have an oversupply?
33:00 Analogy for how your body makes milk.
40:00 How to reduce an oversupply?
47:00 How to not get an oversupply or undersupply
48:00 how to increase/ decrease an oversupply and undersupply?

[@heyshayla]

Find Natalie at instagram.com/standing_so_tall/ She also leads FREE weekly group calls on Tuesday. Email [e-mail] to get more info! She recommended finding that support online La Leche League lllusa.org/locator/” or search “IBCLC”International board-certified lactation consultant) in your area.

[@user-xn4ov1th7k]

Neither my mother nor my grandmother breastfed and have been VERY vocally skeptical of me being able to "commit" or having the supply to EBF. Out of the books I've read and online courses I've taken, this resource has been the most informative and most reassuring to me that when my baby comes this spring I'm going to be more than capable if I do things the right way. Thank you so much Natalie for sharing all your wisdom!!

[@heyshayla]

Yay!!!!!

[@youtubepremium2152]

Yes! The most helpful! ❤

[@breereno3691]

Holy wow! My mind is blown! I had no idea the pediatricians growth chart could be from a formula company.

[@daniellegarcia9]

My baby was starting to fail to thrive and had a short NICU stay. During that stay I had to insist a lot and fight to get any nurse to help troubleshooting the latching problem that landed us there in the first place. Formula was just easier for everyone. Thank God for a nurse that came from a different floor to help me. It was a rocky start but my baby girl and I have learned a lot and I can read her really easy now 💕 she latches perfectly and we’ve barely used any formula since

[@dharmadharma3960]

THIS IS A MUST SEE FOR ALL BREASTFEEDING NEW MOMS. This was a game changer for me last year.

[@heyshayla]

I’m so happy to hear that and I couldn’t agree more!!!

[@lyzlaughlove]

THIS WAS SO HELPFUL! My baby was in the NICU for 3 weeks and they gave her (my pumped breastmilk) bottles and pacifiers. She’s almost 8 weeks now and establishing our breastfeeding relationship has been our biggest challenge yet. I’ve been establishing/reestablishing my supply by exclusively pumping and putting her to the breast once a day to keep her familiar. We’ve been supplementing formula and giving her a pacifier but now I’m inspired to keep her latched and go all in with exclusive breastfeeding. She does have a bit of a tongue tie so this caused her latch to be pretty painful in the beginning... maybe your guy’s next conversation can touch on that? Thank you so much for posting this!

[@tinekecarlson1220]

I hope you were able to breastfeed your little one. Both of mine have tongue ties and I wasn't able to breastfeed my first. With the second, we found an amazing lactation consultant who specializes in babies with tongue ties. She also does craniosacral therapy. We also got his tongue tie revised at 6 weeks. His latch isn't perfect yet, but he is doing really well. It's hard to find people who are actually educated about the less obvious tongue ties, and to find anyone talking about it anywhere.

[@wildhomestead9637]

Wow! This lady is a GEM! Her delivery of this information was amazing! Loved this whole video and topic.

[@hannahgilbreth6492]

Im only 20 mins in and this lady is amazing!!!

[@fernandaramirez3351]

Thank you so much for this video!!! My first is almost 7 and for the first time I’ve heard that my struggle those first weeks were the right thing to do! I had an under supply and chose to not use bottles or pacifiers just me and it was hell. But was able to get my baby healthy and second baby was so much easier. I remember people telling me to use fórmula all the time to “supplement” to allow others to “help” me take care of baby it was devastating to be trying so hard and not have the support. I so wish I’ve heard her speak sooner but I love the validation ❤️❤️❤️ love this!!!

[@dharmadharma3960]

Yes, her validation has given me life! She seems so tapped in to true motherhood.

[@PawgSlayer]

The analogy about the chefs is freaking amazing. Learned alot thankyou

[@ceciliapistorius8321]

Thank you so much for doing this! 1, you are one of my absolute favorite people to follow on social media. 2, you've mentioned that doing things like this video fill you all the way up. Well, watching this video filled me all the way up!! I just had my baby 4 days ago and I plan on exclusively breastfeeding and already so many of these concerns have crossed my mind and I'm glad I watched this before my brain started spiraling on this topic!

[@heyshayla]

Yay!!!!!!

[@shannahmatecun9996]

I’m 32 weeks pregnant and sooooooooooo thankful you shared this information!! I had a couple of misconceptions that could have immediately contributed to breastfeeding struggles. Bless you!!

[@genevieveprochaska6770]

This interview is awesome and so reassuring as an EBF mom. I wish it had been here before I had my daughter. I had so much fear and doubt in the first couple of months. As an aside, she physically reminds me of Julia Roberts.

[@emank8137]

Wow this was one of the MOST USEFUL videos I have seen on KZbin regarding breastfeeding! Thank you thank you thank you for bringing her in and sharing this unconventional approach to being a mom.. I was shocked when she said you shouldn’t even swaddle your baby in the first 6 weeks! Wish there was more information about that.. thanks again!

[@llamatacos8365]

I wish this was around when I just had my baby! Would have saved me so much heartbreak and feeling like a failure. I’m glad I kept going with breastfeeding, no thanks to our first pediatrician. I hope new mamas watch this and have more confidence going into their bf journey!

[@laurenbelus8265]

Gah! I feel the same way. We are currently in the process of finding a new pediatrician. Thank goodness for the lactation consultants I eventually went to see. I now know that due to my pre-eclampsia, having severe edema (which in turn added to my baby’s fluid retention) and being on magnesium my baby was always going to loose a decent amount of weight at birth. All due to the many compounding factors that most certainly has her retaining fluid. I was told that I was not making enough milk for my child and that I needed to get on an exclusive bottle regime where I pumped what I could and then supplemented with formula to make up the difference to get my baby back to her almost 10lb birth weight in 7 days. She had lost 13% of her birth weight in 72 hours and I guess that was concerning. I am a first time parent so I jumped at whatever I was told was “best” for my child. Little did I know that this reaction by my pediatrician would result in two months worth of work to get my kid on the breast, many tears and the constant obsessing of if I was providing enough food for my kid. I am so grateful that these woman are putting out this content and hope less women experience this feeling of inadequacy. Our medical system really needs to collaborate more across disciplines to provide the LASTING support mothers and babies need to thrive not just survive.

[@llamatacos8365]

@@laurenbelus8265 I’m so very sorry to hear you went through all this! I’m not judging anyone who feeds their children formula because how you are able to feed your child is so circumstantial, but it almost feel likes formula companies target first time moms into feeling like they are failing to sell more formula. It’s unfortunate so many pediatricians unknowingly propel that agenda. I hope you’re able to find a pediatrician that works with you. I’m so thankful for ours now who has a very similar mindset as the Lactation Consultant we worked with.

[@dharmadharma3960]

@@laurenbelus8265 yes, intuition is missing a lot in western med. And the feeling of inadequacy is real. It's hard being a mom.

[@jocelyntrishell]

2 weeks into breastfeeding and this was so helpful. Ive been doing well with the actual feeding but struggling mentally with the demand of a newborn and this helped me reframe.

[@michellesorenson1292]

THIS IS THE BEST VIDEO EVER!!!!!!! Thank you! My kids are in their 20's, I nursed them all, every question/problem/STRESS I had,,,,,,,,,,,has been answered. Where was she 28 years ago?

[@brittaniesch3391]

Omg, yes!!!! Every mama needs to hear this. It make so much sense. I don't know why, while you are at the hospital this is not told to moms. Just like that. I have always breast fed all my children but I was breast feeding them in the dark. I just want to share this content with everyone!

[@stephanieandersen462]

This has been a God-sent. Seriously, what a blessing to have this podcast. So much information that I didn't know. I am 6months pregnant and feel way more confident & comfortable about breastfeeding after watching this video. Thank you so much!

[@Sustainabledoula]

I learned so much from this. I just removed a few things from my registry.

[@swedee5870]

This video is amazing, thank you for the interview. I’ve learned so much and am liking forward to breastfeeding. Just for the record, Sweden’s maternity leave is mostly paid at 80%, rather than 100% salary. And it’s not paid by the employer but by taxes, so taxes are quite high. And stay at home moms are practically non-existent as far as I can tell. There is no tax relief for one income, two parent families, so she is financially pressured to use the state day care after that first year and get back into the work place so that she’s not an “oppressed,” “jobless” woman. For me, the serious restrictions placed on how one can raise one’s children in Sweden (homeschooling is strictly illegal, for instance) balance the benefits of that year of maternity leave.

[@miapatel9887]

First time mum due in November :) every new mum needs to watch this! Thank you so much xx

[@silverdeer2515]

Same!!! 😁😁 Nov 20th super excited and nervous

[@hollyurban100]

@@silverdeer2515 Me too!! Due in about a month now. HUGE thank you Shayla and Natalie. This video was incredibly valuable and I feel SO much more empowered -- breastfeeding is feeling much less elusive to me now.

[@CharliePusen]

This is why we need specialists! In the beginning I had an oversupply and got so much lumping. First doctor gives me antibiotics and says just massage so you get it all out. Second doctor says, yes you can pump! I misunderstood and pumped exclusively for four days and probably doubled supply. 😫 Then my midwife was like, do block feeding. But I misunderstood and did it wrong? Ended up with another fever after a 8 hour wait on my crazy boob. Called a specialist just balling crying, but I had kinda figured it out myself and she just confirmed. Luckily, we got past and now breastfeeding is cozy and nice. I was also told that "I need to get it all out" and "need to give/get out milk often" so I would wake my baby up to feed her more often cause I was super confused!

[@dolly_jen]

I am 22 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby and I feel so relieved hearing all of this information. Thank you so so much!! ❤️✨.

[@vincentbynumbers]

I'm 21 weeks pregnant and from day one my mom was like "you're not going to breastfeed, are you?" to which I was amazed... of course I am! Or at least do everything in my power to try!! She's more receptive to it now, but learning that her mom also didn't was surprising... I guess it was just that time period or something. I just found out our hospital is baby-friendly, which is such a relief, also! This video was super informative and I'm glad I saw it now, and not after the fact. Thank you so much!

[@heyshayla]

My mom didn’t breastfeed us either!

[@deborahyu3996]

Wow this was amazing, I'm pregnant with my second and I wish I knew all this when I had my first but will definitely be applying this wealth of knowledge with my 2nd!

[@rosatolano8605]

This is so interesting!!! I thought i wasn’t going to watch the whole thing 🙈This helps understand EVERY SINGLE TYPE OF MOM 🤪 it helps understand all the WHAT IFS even the one I didn’t have but would’ve if I was in different shoes 😂 my baby is 6months and breastfed but I know now for the next one (if God allows) it will not be as stressful 😍😁

[@katiebreck]

Such valuable information. I struggled with an undersupply with my first and am due with my second in a few months. I still have anxiety over whether or not I’ll be able to support his needs but this has been so helpful. The no swaddling thing was mind blowing to me. Makes so much sense. My first was such a stellar sleeper from the getgo and I think that was part of our problem! I was always having to wake him up to feed instead of vice versa.

[@melissacantieri2719]

Just came back to say thanks for all the tips! My second is 2mo old and is nursing so much better then my first! I do use a haaka and pump with nursing and get enough milk to feed both my infant and my 18mo old and I was able to donate 300oz extra. Such a difference from being an under supplier for my first, which I blamed on pcos, but now I’m thinking it was just my mindset in thinking “a bottle here and there will be ok”.

[@heyshayla]

So happy to hear this!!!!

[@Hayleedaniels1992]

JUST WOW. I wish I had this video to reference before I had my baby girl 14 weeks ago. As a new mum I was so afraid that my baby was losing too much weight just 24 hours after her birth that I started supplementing right away. I had been giving so much IV fluids before and during her birth that I now am realizing that she lost so much weight because she was also pumped with the fluids. I wish I had know this before I supplemented her and started pumping 2 days out of the hospital. My body doesn't react to the pump well either, I don't get too much but when I hand express I can get more. (HAND CRAMPS THOUGH GALORE LOL) I also wish I didn't swaddle my baby or put her in the swing and give her the pacifier so quick. I am struggling with an undersupply right now and I think it is a result of her using a bottle and me pumping so much in the beginging. When she was born the midwives said she had the best suck that they had seen in a long time. I wish I had trusted my body that it was going to meet the demands for my baby instead of working and doubting myself. Last week I decided I on a whim decided I was finished breast feeling but totally regretted it a few days later so we are back on trying to latch and build up my milk supply. Natalie explained the whole supply and demand part of breastfeeding in a way for everyone to understand which was so amazing. I will be sending this video to all my new mamma friends for them to watch before they give birth. I also feel so much more prepared for my next birth/nursing experience! Thanks for all your down to earth and insightful videos!

[@MrsKatieP]

She's super fun! I like her vibe. Thanks for introducing us. 😁

[@Lewis9068]

Giggled so hard at the milkshake. This was so helpful guys, thank you!

[@sensualnina83]

Lying here, contact napping with my 8 week old....loving this sooooo much

[@Abcdefghijajajaja]

I love the energy we’ve created in the studio today. I feel encouraged and I’m going to try to breastfeed next baby differently. I’m looking forward to do so, with this new knowledge. Absolutely makes sense. Great.

[@mrswray]

20 minutes in and I’m already getting formula ads on the video. Just proves her point about formula culture

[@justlikehearts]

I wish I had found this interview sooner! My baby is 9 weeks now and I am finally getting the hang of breastfeeding after formula supplementing quite a bit since birth. I’m proud of us for not giving up but I’m only able to pump about 2 ounces per session which is nowhere near enough for her. Anyway this was a great interview to listen to and I learned a lot for next time!

[@mytinysoundbox2635]

This video would have helped when i hngave birth to my daughter on may... i needed these informations and I just stumbled through it just now that she's 7 months old 😭. Luckily i'm still breastfeeding. I remember feeling like a failure when the nurses were telling me that my baby was loosing weight. And instead of telling me that it was normal and the fact that i had a c section my milk would come any other day, they just left me me will all those doubts about myself. 😭 i'm still glad i found your channel🙏

[@brookemarcella1754]

The restaurant/chef analogy is epic!

[@mbutler2905]

Watching this now after 6 weeks of almost fully EBF (except night feeds in the hospital because I was post C-section), but seriously feel so validated! Also good tips and insights for when I start working again! :)

[@KARDAYAHSSoulServices]

Thawrah says, we're unclean for those first few weeks. That's why we are to start at home and mostly separated. It's not so bad once you've gone through it a few times. Thanks for the episode, ladies. Blessings😊🧡🩷💛

[@freetobe15]

Wow! Amazing, valuable information! Thank you for sharing!!

[@meganblaisdell5474]

Literally. KZbin popped up a formula ad during the video. "Happy tummy. Happy baby. Happy you." 🤦‍♀️

[@heyshayla]

Woof.

[@Maymonada]

Very informative, Thank you!

[@goldielikes3]

This woman is amazing! What an insightful, funny and wonderful interview. I exclusively breastfed my son until he was 16 mo and only stopped bc my body held on to extra weight that I wanted to lose before getting pregnant again (I dropped 10 pounds in a couple of months after I stopped). I absolutely LOVE breastfeeding and can’t wait to do it again with this next baby. It was not an easy road in the beginning with my first and I could not have done it without my boob angel, my IBCLC 😇. They are an absolute necessity for first time moms especially. We need support! Then it got so easy, so natural and rewarding and just yummy 😋 Thank you for this!

[@heyshayla]

I’m so glad you found it helpful! And that you agree that ibclcs are angels lol

[@roxanalacatusu4675]

I should’ve known this since the beginning 🤦🏼‍♀️ so important information! Eventually will use it with the second 🙏🏻 thanks!

[@donotneedtoknow7541]

This was awesome. Came back to rewatch now that I'm in that 6-week window. Y'all should do a follow-up covering Shayla's other questions. You two are so enjoyable to watch/listen to!

[@heyshayla]

Yay!!! We have more recorded one about extended breastfeeding (past a year)

[@donotneedtoknow7541]

@@heyshayla Oooh! I can't wait! I have not made it past 12 months BF. Even after successfully BF multiple kids, I learned so much from this Lady!

[@alyssapraiswater6422]

Laughed out loud at you guys demonstrating "shaking the dessert" hahahah! Question for Natalie: does using a Haakaa to catch letdown on the non-feeding side count as "intervening" during the first 6 weeks? Just hate for all that milk to go straight into a breast pad rather than being caught and saved.

[@SimuliumDamnosum]

Use the haaka ladybug or with a pumping bra so you don't have to use suction which creates more supply

[@nataliejohnson8732]

Sorry I didn’t see this question sooner! No, a passive pump, like the Haaka is not considered an intervention and will not contribute to over supply. It’s great to catch that milk and put it in the freezer for a little back up supply in the future.

[@skjfamily9619]

@@nataliejohnson8732 I used the Haakaa with every feeding in the beginning and had an oversupply and as a result got mastitis twice…With the suction of the Haakaa I’d get 2oz or more sometimes in the Haakaa. Is it recommend to use the Haakaa with only a few feedings each day and not all them? (I’m wondering if the Haakaa caused my oversupply) Thanks!

[@dharmadharma3960]

Omg this woman is such a relief. My baby is 4 months today and we had so many problems getting started. I think I'm finally at 100%. It can be such an emotional ordeal.

[@carolineroy1068]

This was amazing and so so interesting. You were so lucky to have her at your disposal for advice Shayla! Thanks for setting this up! I’m English but live in the south of France and I know there is only one lactation consultant within a huge area here. It’s actually inspired me to look into the qualification for myself as France is still progressing towards being more supportive of breastfeeding mothers! Awesome video 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@heyshayla]

Loooove this for you!!!

[@essentiallylau]

Almost finished watching. Great conversation!

[@hmatson3127]

This was incredible!! Thank you to you both! 🥰

[@niqhtinqale]

Thank you so so much for this video. I was pumping while listening. I was only getting a few drops. I had just been told by my midwife to start supplementing with formula and I was just SO heartbroken and stressed out. But listening to this video lifted my spirit up sooo much, I had several let downs during that pump.

[@catbabetamayo]

Hope its going well for you! I'm in the same boat with an under supply. Hoping it increases with time.

[@niqhtinqale]

@@catbabetamayo thanks! My little girl is such a champ. Since she was about 4 months she became so good at drinking. But now we struggle with distractions during breastfeeding haha! My supply has slooooowly increased so now for about a month I’ve been slowly getting weaning her off formula 🫶

[@americaherrera3282]

This was suchhhh good info I couldn’t be more grateful for this free content ! I’m 8 months pregnant so the timing could be better, You guys are awesome and btw love your channel 😌

[@jessa4282]

Tracking output can be so stressful!! Thank you for this information.

[@alexinaaron1022]

Wow- this is amazing content. Bravo.

[@trishacarter8047]

This video was SO HELPFUL! I’m so glad I found it! So interesting as well!

[@francescacastellano191]

Thank you for this conversation !!👏👏👏

[@emilywade3302]

This was great, please do another!

[@Pigimyshrewed]

Thank you for all the love and support you provide, both of you! I really struggled with low supply, and a lot of tears were shed!

[@nigfheac]

27 weeks preggo and couldn’t be better timing for me ! Thanks ladies!

[@ZlaeWoods]

Y’all are Legit❤ thank you!!

[@ArielChadwick]

This was AMAZING.

[@9lovemedo]

This is great. Thank you!

[@joannabanana5499]

more content with your friend please!! she is so fun and informative

[@leah_nikolle4851]

54:05 best part of the video xD I am definitely going to be trying it before I pump at work today! lmao

[@Meg-eq2md]

AMAZING VIDEO!! ☺️

[@ngd1990]

This was so helpful! Thanks both 🙏 Xx

[@danielaesquivel1676]

Thank you so much for this video 🙌🏽 I’m on week three and was doing it all wrong 😑 my supply is getting better but will definitely stop supplementing with formula. So grateful for your advice. Please keep making more videos.

[@bekahfrazier8156]

Thank you for this video!

[@laurahopkinson8415]

What an excellent guest!!! 👏👏👏

[@heyshayla]

Right!!!

[@Paula-zs2xz]

Thank you so much!! 🙏

[@MissRikkiKat]

I loved this video! Thank you so, so much!

[@SimplyStacyL]

I know this is a year old, but this is so helpful! I had to exclusively pump with my first as he was tube fed. I’m 38 weeks right now and hoping to be able to nurse but my only experience is producing like a dairy cow on a machine 😂 I’m really looking forward to the bonding that comes with nursing ❤

[@michellesorenson1292]

I love this! I just wish this same info was avilible 30 years ago!

[@emilypappis9060]

I needed this ♥️♥️

[@brickbrow]

I’m balling and so grateful listing to this- i’m home day 4 with our newborn trying to figure out how to sleep and feed and ONE DAY with a pacifier and my perfectly latching little one is now fussing over my nipple. My poor husband wants to help me so i can sleep and is offering to bottle feed or anything just to help and we almost fell into this pacifier and bottle trap. Thank you so much for sharing this. Absolutely wonderful. Thank you.

[@heyshayla]

Please listen to our podcast about sleep too!! She’s got SUCH great info!! Episode 37!!

[@heyshayla]

Bed sharing, what no one tells you! kzbin.info/www/bejne/anLGZKWojrOVq5o

[@HudsonValleyFamilyDoulas]

I love this!!! Natalie is amazing and her metaphors are very helpful ❤️🤱🏻!!!

[@heyshayla]

Right!!! So glad you found it helpful!

[@sarahenry4125]

So informative! Gosh I’d love to sit down with her and get some advice! I struggled to keep a supply with both of my babies. Made it 9 months with my first and 6 months with my second. Both babies were born early and one was in the nicu for 10 days which meant exclusively pumping and still I never had a strong supply. I soo soo hope that it can be a different story with future babies.

[@erikadorn9450]

Can I just say THANK YOU! For this video. I watched it when it was too late for me, but I am sharing with all my new mama friends.

[@heyshayla]

It’s gold right?! I’m glad you love it and you’re sharing it!!

[@kaycevictoria9947]

Oh my lanta! I have just enough milk barely to support one baby.. its amazing to me that anyone can do 2 at once!! Love that she breastfed until 4 years old!

[@tmscaran]

THANK YOU SHAYLA for posting this interview with Natalie, she is such a valuable wealth of information and has completely changed the route I am going to take on my breast-feeding journey! Mind blown! 🥰

[@jessicam8346]

This was such a great conversation! You make breastfeeding seem fun, and I'm looking forward to it a bit more. Very soon! Stayed for the Berkeley shake. =)

[@kaycevictoria9947]

God bless my husband for being my village!! We arent "well off" by any means but the sacrifices we've decided to make are worth it so that I can still be home with baby girl. Were at 10 weeks & im still just living to be with baby. When I look outwards at other moms online they're already back in the gym.. doing hair & makeup (which isn't even me pre baby ha!) Or just doing things without baby a lot... I started wondering am I doing something wrong? How do they have soo much free time? Blah blah.. in reality.. baby is ONLY almost 3 months old. 3 months!!!! Thats nothing. She still needs me in every way and I need her! Crazy that I would let society doubt myself & what I know and believe. I never talk this much online, im done now :)

[@heyshayla]

👏👏👏😂👏

[@aikaterinimak]

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!! As an overwhelmed mommy-to-be, this was SO HELPFUL!!!!!!!’

[@heyshayla]

This makes me so happy Natalie is amazing.

[@samantharoseman4206]

I really like this chick you are interviewing. I like you too. Haha. But it’s just very nice that she does not beat around the bush.

[@mlwsmp]

Holy crap. How have I not already seen this??!! My 10 week old and I have struggled. He couldn't move milk due to tongue and lip ties. They were fixed at 4 weeks. We bottle feed and nurse, but now I am going to try zero bottles for a few days. Oh gaawd, wish me luck! My husband is in the kitchen getting the crockpot going so I don't have to cook! I really hope I can eliminate bottles. I do make my own formula, so I am not too worried about really crappy formula. It's 411pm in my area and by 8pm it will have been 24 hours since we've given my son a bottle. I do have some concerns and I've almost given him a bottle multiple times but I'm trying to let our bodies regulate each other. We'll see, I might give him 1 bottle in the 24 hours, that's a good start to a new journey. I think.

[@LAXCC31]

I am corrently 4.5 weeks postpartum. So glad I listened to this!!! Shayla, can you explain more about the 4 hr block you did to reduce your oversupply? I have been using the haakka to express about 30-40mL when I feel the hard lumps on the outsides of my breasts if my baby hasn't fed in like 3-4 hrs... fearing I will get mastitis. I now see I should stop doing that and let them sit longer.... thank you! What do I do about the fear of mastitis though? How do I know when the hard lumps are going to turn into mastitis?

[@lazyslob7681]

This was so amazingly helpful and informative! I also recently was listening to a podcast involving nestle and the invention of formula, and knowing all this information on formula in modern day was so enlightening and made a lot of sense! Also for some reason there were a ton of ads in the breaks for formula- weird.

[@heyshayla]

Soo weird

[@Abcdefghijajajaja]

My baby did not really want me. Once I held him on boobie he just seemed so angry, my let-down was slow. Maybe my ppd made him want someone else to hold him with more peace. I would pump and my mom would bottle feed him and that’s what he loved. His bond with Gma is so strong.

[@dharmadharma3960]

Aw, how is it going now?

[@emptysoul5057]

I don't understand the supply going down thing. I have been raining milk for a solid year and it's like enough for a small village. I'm chubby and I can't tell myself to get thin well. I mean I'm not obese but I stay chubby and giant breasted normally. And I'm addicted to milk and plant milks I probably drink at least a gallon of either every two days. I guess my body is like you've got enough chub so let's turn all this extra into milk. lol My kid hardly wants milk anymore but I still have a ton. I bet back in the day I would have been a wet nurse for a living lol. One thing though is my hair and skin looks amazing as soon as I was into my breastfeeding routine all things hormonal finally felt great like no acne no painful cramping no way too long periods etc idk breastfeeding is the best thing ever. Exclusively breastfeeding made my life easier too because I didn't have to pump and then feed it was just one easy feeding time and then back to sleep.

[@chelseawood1905]

How would you manage supply if you have to go back to work after 4 weeks postpartum? I have unpaid maturity leave and can’t financially afford staying home longer than 4 weeks and Iv always struggled with supply and pumping

[@Elly4s]

Just want to say that the information about Sweden at 9:46 is incorrect (I gave birth and I'm on maternatiy leave in Sweden right now). Parents have 390 days which are divided between the two parents and the father MUST take at least 90 days. If a parent takes 7 days a week of parental leave they will be paid 80% of their salary...so if a mother takes full-time leave at 80% of her salary she gets ~9 months off from work. Mothers in Sweden are also pushed toward formula (they gave my baby formula at 2 days old in hospital against my wishes for no medical reason) and the lactation support in hospital is TERRIBLE! I struggled with breastfeeding in the beginning and the only advice I received from the many specialists I contacted was to "just relax and take it easy" (I still suspect that my son has a tongue tie). Mothers are encouraged to wean from breastmilk around 9 months. Breastfeeding after 12 months is seen as strange.

[@heyshayla]

Interesting!! Thank you for sharing this!

[@melissacantieri2719]

Any advice on helping supply when you have pcos?

[@stacygutierrez1157]

Hey Shayla! Love this content. Not sure if you have already posted content like this but do you have any videos/podcasts about an ideal schedule for moms who nurse but also need to go back to work so they need to pump as well?

[@heyshayla]

Ugh no I’m not a good resource for pumping! Sorry!

[@stacygutierrez1157]

@@heyshayla well thank you anyway! This was so helpful. I’m pregnant with my 2nd and I’m definitely not going to allow any “interruptions “ during the first 6 wks. I think this will definitely make a difference!!!!

[@knowingtruthisbliss2717]

I needed information regarding the undersupply after 6 months or 1 year. Also, how often do you feed your baby post 6 months when they start to take solids? I want my baby to be fed for until he is 2 years old, also want solids ongoing.

[@nataliejohnson8732]

I like to say “food is for fun before one” meaning breastmilk is still the main source of nutrients for baby until one and all other table food is just for fun. So you should still nurse on demand, as often as baby wants, and then offer food at meal times and snacks as you would like :)

[@Joseph-yc6qb]

Where did you get your drink bottle from in this vid, Shayla? I need it 🥺

[@heyshayla]

Hahaha Amazon one gallon water bottle!

[@rebeccacole6910]

Can we do an extended BF one?!?! That would be super! Got a 10 month old and we are nowhere near finished even if the NHS does think “1 years enough”. Go read the WHO hun!

[@heyshayla]

🙌🙌🙌 I think that would be a great one!

[@yeowellnesscollective6433]

Loved this! So helpful! You should interview a pelvic floor therapist next on sex after baby or something like that. 😁

[@heyshayla]

Omggggg GREAT IDEA!!!! I know the women who founded @expectingandempowered on Instagram!! I’ll ask them. Thank you!

[@arabicinamerica2454]

I am wanting to donate breast milk after I give birth. Do you have any information on how that works while trying to breastfeed a baby? I'm wondering after listening to this conversation whether or not it would even be a good idea for me to donate while baby is still breastfeeding because I would have an oversupply and baby might not get the hind milk.

[@heyshayla]

I donated bc I used a haakaa while she was feeding and ended up with an over supply. But I did it for about 3 months and then did the block feeding to reduce

[@kaycevictoria9947]

I had a lactation lady, she did help for sure but didn't give me any tips on pumping up my supply.. I feel like I've tried everything. I wish I could get her help!!! Man

[@heyshayla]

Get on her free breastfeeding call! Go to her IG @standing_so_tall she has her community carriage house IG handle in her bio and you can message her on that account and get into the free call!!