I have a four year old. I love him dearly. Keep getting baby fever most of the time. 😅😅

I have 2 (2 yrs and 1 yr). Both are HUGE momma’a boys. I am also intense when it comes to parenting (co-sleeping, homeschooling etc), so I feel 2 is all I can handle. If I had another one, I wound want a large age gap, but I'm 33 and wouldn't want another kid late into my thirties/early forties, so I guess it means I'm done now 😅

this was SUPER helpful! thank you so much

Considering how we parent (you mention "intensely") and whether we have capacity for more is great advice

Thank you for talking about this! I’ve just had my first at 35! She’s two months old and I’m 95% sure she’s my one-and-only. I was thinking that before ever getting pregnant. Plus, it was a very rough pregnancy with a traumatic labor story, and I just don’t care to experience that again - even if I miss my pregnant belly and feeling her hiccups in my tummy…. Everyone thinks I’ll change my mind, but right now I’m the most fulfilled and content I’ve ever been in my life. I honestly feel whole when it comes to my family.

I just had my first baby last year and I'm 35. I regret not starting sooner and now I want as many kids as God will bless me with.

Gosh, your mind works like mine. All over the place, trying to plan every single thing, even a ride buddy 😂

I’m pregnant with my second. I strongly don't think this will be my last kid, but I also don’t think I have the mental capacity to have as many kids as I wanted in the first place. I might have to stop at 4 when I initially wanted 6.

Girl, freeze some sperm just in case! I’m pregnant, and will deliver at 41 years old. You, your kids, and who knows what all can change so much over the next few years. I know so many moms with older kids that wish they’d had another after the initial cluster… get that vasectomy but freeze some sperm to keep options open.

We have 4 and I think we are done! They are 11, 10, 4 and 2 months old. I always wanted a big family and wanted five kids, but I’ve had a lot of miscarriages and this past pregnancy was really difficult health-wise during recovery. So I think that’s it! I say go with your gut instinct; It always felt like I was missing/had forgotten a child!🤪 Now that feeling is gone. We are all here now!☺️

For me, I was always leaning toward 2-3 kids as well. My husband wanted to have a boy and a girl, and thankfully we had a boy first and are about to have a girl, because my pregnancies have been rough and I don't want to go through this anymore. Sometimes I get wistful and think about having a third, but then I sleep really terribly, get hip pain, have to take an insulin shot, or get more news from the doctor, and I snap out of it. I'll be 35 next year, and I think having two kids is plenty for me.

Hubs and I are 30. Our kids are 5 & 1/2, 3, and newborn (so 3 kids). We’re christians so prayer is part of our decision. I’ve had a miscarriage before every baby. We do all natural birth. I’m homeschooling my 5 year old. We live on a tight budget. We’ve always talked about 4 but with this 3rd one we’re considering being done. Our first 2 were girls and baby is a boy. We’re undecided right now. :)

I would like 3 kids , but I might have to be done at 2. Currently I have a child turning 2 in a few weeks and the idea of having another has become more frequent lately. I think a 3-3.5 year gap would be ideal but I’m turning 35 next year, so I don’t have a ton of time. My husband also doesn’t seem that keen on having another right now; times are tough financially…Sometimes, I wish I hadn’t waited so long to have children. But after having one, I realize why I waited.

Our 2nd just turned one and I’m ready to get #3 started anytime 😂 but I don’t really want a baby during the hottest part of the year and my husband isn’t for sure yet he wants a third because I made it very clear, as a middle child myself, that if we have three we will be having four!

U know i think we as women woukd handle even 20 Children because thats how we are in our soul ( caregivers,patience,love inconditionnly etc) buttttt i think its ABSOLUTELY beautiful to also say i want This manny Children and im done ( for the reason of absolutely enjoyung the Children u have, the ages they are, being present, also conectinf with ur husband, and not being aeay in a corner with a fussy neworn or baby , or even not being abel to enjoy some stuff like ( rides, bisyclling, going to the cinema and other stuff u can do with the chikdren u have whi are now 5,10 year old. U know why start over and the Children u already have alsoo have to hear screaming from the new baby, other routine changes, and not having mommy and daddy as present as they could be. And dont forget they already have one sibling ( for the ines wirh 2 kids) ♥️ and also thosw sahm who do 80% of raising children themselves because husband have to work 5:00am to 6:00 pm ( which we are so thankful that they sacrifice themself in the cold and away from their own children , so that we are warm and cozy and happy) but still saying as a sahm 80% we have to raise the Children and be as happy as we can be and present! And hiw the heck u gonna di that with 5+ Children ( u can) bit not as enjoyabble as u would wirh 2-3 children. Honeslty! ♥️♥️♥️

Can't wait for your 13 month video when you get all the baby feels!! Hehe Glad you made your decision - agree, let's support everyone where they are at and with what they have! You rock!

Just had my second a month ago. I cant imagine being done. But i do know that i want my 2nd baby to be at least 2.5 before i have another.

I can barely bounce back in a year after the first one and the whole thing was pretty traumatic

Every time you mention LMNT chocolate I try to click the link to get it, and it redirects to their other drinks which I honestly just don’t want. It’s super annoying because you make the chocolate options sound so good, but I just end up giving up on their site because I can’t figure out how to get the drink you’re talking about lol… I swear I’m good at technology too, so idk what’s going on!😂

I'm at 1, with a lovely almost 2yo who has a demanding personality (lots of touch, attention, which I love - but it's exhausting). I always thought about having 2, and I'm thinking on how to go about it now - but it's been tough with zero unpaid support but also a traumatic scheduled c-section. I LOVED the pregnancy, but baby was breech at 41 weeks... I always wanted a natural birth, and was (am) terrified of needles and surgeries (I had panic attacks as the weeks advanced and it was clear that this would be the case). I really want the second - I don't feel complete, and part of me would love to get the chance to experience labor. But I have to accept the possibility of having to go through that again, and that anxienty is very hard for me... Crazy thing is that while watching your video the crazy idea of 3 came to my mind for the first time. It was a funny feeling, almost like vizualizing a family photo with three kids in it. It felt good - but I know this would be crazy, and now I still have to muster the courage for 2.

I have an almost 2 year old (birthday in February) and that's it. Both my husband and I are like 90% NO on another but never say never! I do get the occasional mom guilt about not giving my kid a sibling but at the same time I feel perhaps its just the societal pressure I feel that's been pressed upon me and other mothers rather than anything else I'm doubting myself on. I thought we would definitely have been locked in for 2 but our hearts are so full with just 1 and she is our world and we are happy with our little family of 3. For context I know having siblings is different for everyone, I have 3 other siblings but we aren't super close yet I know other people who couldn't fathom going through life without their siblings and its all circumstantial.

I have 1 girl who is 3 years old. But now I want to Surrogate, I have wanted to be a Surrogate before I wanted my own kido. But, I kind of want one more of my own. I am torn between during the surrogacy first or having another, also I am 34 so I feel rushed to make decisions! To top it off I did have a hard time getting pregnant the first time and needed to be on clomid for several months.

Sending hugs. I have a 3 year old, and a new baby on the way for February. I love this channel!

My second is 5 weeks old and I am so done! I couldn’t imagine having another and going through the newborn/fourth trimester again because I am struggling right now! Plus due to complications with my delivery my dr said I shouldn’t get pregnant again for at least 2 years and I think by that point my kids will be 4 and 2 and we will (hopefully) be in a good place with sleep and routine etc so I don’t want to disrupt that. My husband and I both have 1 siblings so 2 kids feels like the norm for us too.

Appreciate this video. We're at two and I'm also an intense parenter and have intense kids- neurodiversity, allergies, reflux, tongue ties etc. I def want more than 2 but waiting until the youngest turns 3 to see if we can handle it. I'll be 38 by then though and I've also had 4 miscarriages in the past but hoping it's fine!

I have an almost 3 year old son and almost 4 month old daughter. We want more but i think finances and logistics are deciding for us to be done. It's heartbreaking in ways. Both decisions kinda dont feel 100% right. But I think with time and working on mindset we can find peace with the decision. Obviosuly were so happy with our two. I wish they could have a third sibling but we will have to help these two be the bestest friends ever and choose positive mindset

I would say also that your and your partner's health plays a big role in this decision. My partner is only 36 but he has some minor but troublesome health issues, which make me want to take a break, possibly indefinitely.

I have lots of friends in other states in baby-having seasons and my great wish is to send them Mama Meals for future postpartums. It's such a cool family-run company.

I pushed out baby #2 and thought “yeah, I can’t do this again.” Of course, it was twins, so I still had to push out baby #3. 😂 But we always said 3, and I’m very okay with that. I wasn’t sure I would be, but. Yeah. I’m good. 😅

I have 2: 3yo and 1 yo. When I was young, naive and without kids, I thought 5 kids would be great😂 my first is a very gentle but emotional child, his first year was hell for me. So after him I thought 5 - no. But may be eventually 4… After I had my second, even though he is easy in every way and my husband is trying really hard to help, I think 3 is our maximum. I am with you on trying to do it all: cosleeping, breastfeeding, activities, almost zero screen time…, but I can barely keep up with two. So we both want another one, but with no help that s in the far future, when these two are more independent

I have the exact same feeling was you but with my two. I had a slight yearning for a second and knew I would always be a little sad we didn’t have a second. And I have never once felt that about a third. I’ve always known I would be two maximum though. It’s my max capacity 😂

We have 2 (2.5 years and 2 months) and we’re done biologically, though I’d be excited about a post vasectomy baby! Though that’s unlikely. And once we have more money and bandwidth we might think about adopting 1-2 more. But the reason we’re stopping now is mainly environmental and financial reasons

Mine are 3 1/2, 20 months, and I just entered my second trimester (thank goodness) with baby #3. This will be our last, I’ll be 40 when this babe arrives.

Currently trying for my first. Who knows how it will go but after growing up as an only child i want a big family, 4-5 kids. They're small for so little time. I've never heard a mom say she wishes she had less, but I have heard many women with adult children wish that they had more

One thing you mentioned that I've always been curious to know about mother's with more than two is how the mom feels like they can fully support all of their children's needs. I have 2 girls with thoughts of probably one more but we have bouts when both girls are sick and I'm just like how can mom's do this with more kids or feel like they can give sufficient support and love. Not meaning this condescending in anyway but as advice seeking as a mom who's wanting more than 2.

We always talked about having 4-6. We are 35 and our second is almost 5 months old. Both births and postpartum have been rough for me and I have had some other health issues this time around too. We stopped talking numbers and started focusing on my health and waiting to see how my body recovers before making the decision to have more, but we both would feel sad if we don't have more.

I have 2. After my 1st i said one and done and here we are i overcame a lot of fear around pregnancy, birth and newborn phase again. My experience was night and day different and i have so enjoyed 2nd bub i now say maybe #3 but the same time i think i dont want to take my time/attention/finances away from my already 2kids and as time goes on i also think my body is going to be taking alot to do it a 3rd time. Add finances for 3 in school/daycare. So i dont know and maybe i never will know the answer 🙃

I have a 3 year old and 5 and I'm done. Like you said I just want to be able to enjoy my kids, not be constantly exhausted from another baby! And not having to worry about nap times etc! Also I think with more kids I wouldn't get the alone time I need to be a good mum!

Useful video! Thank you!❤

I just had my third one and hoped this would feel complete to me because my partner does not want more children and had his vasectomy already when I was pregnant. But to be honest, it is not easy for me to say goodbye to this wish for another one, even if I got the same feeling that it might be time to put the baby cloths away and enjoy that the two first ones are getting older ;) it just feels right to give the third one also a sibling which is close to her, like the two older ones… Well, we still have a newborn, thus I guess I need time to progress it. Anyway I really enjoy every moment with the baby as well ;)

I have a 12 month old. When I gave birth I was like I’m glad you’re here because I don’t want to do that again lol. The first few months I also felt it’d be impossible to share my love well without taking away from my first born. Buuut around 4 months I was like wellll labor and postpartum healing wasn’t thaaat bad, we could have another eventually. Everyone says the not having enough love for multiple isn’t how it actually is. Around 8 months my husband decided he wants a second eventually. Now for the last few months I’ve been feeling I’d definitely love to have another and maybe get pregnant in the next like 6-12 months ish. Some days I think maybe 2 will be as far as we go and other days I’m like 4, 5, 6+ could be good. I could handle it. 😂 Now these have just been my biological feelings. I’m trying to just pray on it and leave it in God’s hands.

I really like a lot of what you say and I’ve been watching your videos for years. I am so surprised that you wear synthetic fibers. Have you thought about switching to only natural fibers?

I’m 40 weeks pregnant with my second 16 months apart. I don’t even know how I’m going to handle two, but feel like I really want a third. Probably with a bigger age gap this time, at least 3 years from now. I’m even considering having four but I don’t think that my husband would be on board with that. So for know I think I’ll feel complete with 3

We have an (almost) 4 year old, a 2 year old, and a nine week old. I really want one more and my husband says he's done 😬 we agreed to discuss again in about a year and I'm hoping I can change his mind lol we already have room in our cars so why not?! 😂

Literally in the hospital l, just had my second! I am sad this is our last for all the reasons you listed. But also I don’t think I could go through all this again! We have no family around which is so freaking hard!!! So many emotions at this moment

I have 2 (3yr girl and 5mth boy). I want a third even though I find 2 very difficult 😵 my partner kind of disagrees and finances are a consideration.. but I don't feel like 2 is complete for me. Hopefully... 😊

Thank you for your personal perspective. It was honest and authentic!

I have a 5, 3, and nearly 1 year old and am really wanting another!!!! Three was definitely a discussion for my husband and me, and he wasn't sure for a bit. Once we decided to have 3, he told me he would get a vasectomy after. I don't know if it's because our littlest is such a sweet little snuggle bug, or if it's the way our three all love each other so much, or even that our two big kids BEG for more siblings, but he cancelled his vasectomy appointment, and told me that he's open to another....maybe...in a year or so lol 😆🤷🏼‍♀️ either way, counting my blessings to have three, healthy happy kids

My kids are the exact same ages as yours, I have 3 boys. I always wanted 3. I would love to have a girl but 4 kids feels like a lot!

I had 2 kids 18 months apart. I swore I was done when my girls were little. Once they were both in school I felt the desire for another baby. We now have a 2 month old, and I feel like maybe we are not done. For myself it was more about the age gap between my children. This baby I have been able to focus so much more on time with baby while the girls are in school and while baby is napping I can spend quality time doing more big kid things with my other 2.