What people with toxic family’s want

[@DarackObama]

Since when are we censoring the word HEALTHY

[@tamanadazhamyar6122]

LITTERALY!!

[@expiredpickles1324]

fax also nice pfp

[@hersxoo]

Leave her alone

[@DarackObama]

@@hersxoo no

[@hersxoo]

@@DarackObama why? She’s already going through enough more than she needs to be

[@lilcaca]

Bro healthy has to be censored now-

[@i_do_3975]

Why though?

[@lilcaca]

@@i_do_3975 that’s what I was thinking.

[@Diana-gp3wh]

Thats what I was thinking like what?

[@xLablairax]

The world we live in

[@zainaaa]

@@luv7164 FR and whats so tiggering about the word toxic either

[@johnmarstontheprettiestguyever]

As a person with a toxic family, I can say that I don't want to swap places with someone who has a healthy family, I don't want they to suffer what I suffer

[@HeatherCheddarZ]

Maybe not switch but end up in their family too

[@bobbyblazini]

Never switch. That's dark AF....you should have never even thought to switch but to escape your own horror

[@Dawn2xx]

Fr

[@huhorbuniula4049]

whats toxic family

[@-brightxkiwi-roadto3008]

@@huhorbuniula4049 someone who grew up in a household of mocking, noises, constant fights, despression

[@stephanysensations]

When people say “I wish I was a kid again” and you can’t relate because being an adult is the easiest thing you’ve ever had to do.

[@Ich-Existiere-Nicht]

This hits hard. You are the first person I've ever seen that thinks this way as well

[@user-df4tg9ic8r]

Relatable

[@ramprabeshkumar4076]

I am 15 and I want to grow up and earn and leave them forever.

[@mun3698]

I’d say it easier in SOME areas, but it’s super hard for me too! How do you genuinely be an adult when you’ve never had any healthy examples around you? When you haven’t had any adults be able to give you good advice or help you in other ways once you reach adult age? I’m still out in the middle of the sea of confusion and struggle 😕 I’m nearly 29

[@FerminMagno-pq7rp]

My mom and dad just broke up last n8ght...

[@al_akazam]

Why do people on tik tok censor the randomest shit

[@SPMOHED]

Wait i just realised

[@archiveofyass]

because of moderation

[@Batman.-]

@@archiveofyass the word healthy tho

[@namijanega162]

Is his tik tok or yt shorts? Exactly

[@Batman.-]

@@namijanega162 its originally made for and is from tiktok, it was just reposted here

[@veronna1147]

i have a very healthy relationship with my parents (and my parents too have w each other) but my parents went through a LOTS of toxicity during their childhood. from abuse, violence to deaths. like lots of trauma. they still chose the right path instead becoming toxic themselves like their environment. now they are trying their best so i can live a good life. i love them. i am really thankful

[@pancakesxoxo1064]

Exactly!! My parents are overprotective, abusive, strict.. basically most Indian parents. But I don't consider it toxic. I didn't even consider getting hit by belts or combs toxic. Maybe overboard or emotionally draining but not toxic. I think I have a pretty healthy family. Mostly because my parents grew up in way worse conditions than me without a good parent to look upto. One of their parents not even being there for them. Parenthood has always been new to them and they are just trying their best for me and that's what matters to me. (This is what I'd like to say to others that first know where your parents are coming from) I do think that most people here actually have toxic families but most of them just like to throw around the word "toxic" without a thought. Or they are young and too sensitive (like I used to be)

[@maddiehall5317]

@@pancakesxoxo1064 EXACTLY BRUH!!!

[@UchihaItachiXoxo2]

​@@pancakesxoxo1064 EXACTLY

[@Divya_77724]

Trust me bro even I m going through the same. I m never to become a bad person. Not always the victim becomes the abuser

[@zwmb1zss]

my dad grew up in a physically abusive household and thats what made him disregard my mental health problems and justify him self harming infront of me….

[@Dianaforpresident]

Actually. I would NEVER wish to switch places with someone else if that means they would have to go through what i go through. Its absolutely painful and the amount of times i called the cops and had to lie is crazy

[@Castodre]

Same, I asked for help once, and they made me apologize Saying, they put a roof over my head

[@Dianaforpresident]

@@Castodre bro- it’s literally their JOB to put a roof over our heads. 💀

[@Castodre]

@@Dianaforpresident yea 🗿

[@Mizuki53]

Yeah I stopped cleaning cuz he always says I'm lazy I'm literally always gets blammed I'm not the one who makes mess. They say I'm lazy and it's because we had phones. It's their fault I was always cleaning before until they starts blamming me that I stopped cleaning. They always gets mad if I don't do what they say Litterally we are 4 and they only asked me to do things sucks. I wished I was never born.

[@user-jy7ut4xn3p]

​@@Mizuki53I am a 16 yr old girl and the first daughter. My father knew very well that I wasn't feeling fine but he beat me outside the street naked😢. That's feels like the worst thing ever I feel like running away from home

[@simplysavee]

I'd rather not swap our places, wouldnt wanna make someone go through the shit I go through.. let them be happy and smile for their happiness while I die inside :)

[@shaqthanos4716]

Womp

[@Hungariangirl]

​@@shaqthanos4716insensitive b

[@drep2443]

I literally get jealous everytime I see a happy child, mum and their dad just having a fun or finding out their dad dosen't drink ..it just sucks because we can't even have those laughing moments together or have a normal day without fighting

[@alexandrasanchez.]

Yea it's my dad drinking problem that breaks my heart and soul my mom's an angel tho so at least i have her...

[@yez9475]

My Family problem is that my Dad is very stubborn, it makes me sad, sometimes my parents get into fights because of it

[@drep2443]

@@alexandrasanchez. Same here Idk why she's with him I hope they seperate because dad's victim blaming always on mum it sucks

[@drep2443]

@@yez9475 can relate to that..mine personally have a big ego but i hope everything gets better!

[@yez9475]

@@drep2443 You too

[@qualifiedarmchaircritic]

No. Growing up in an abusive household you do NOT want to swap places because that means someone else has to take your place and you know exactly how that'll break them. You just want to be and have been somewhere else your entire life.

[@user-of7lj2ks5k]

Fair enough but that’s what she wanted not thinking about the other person she was just thinking about having a better family

[@willow7791]

Facts

[@stingraykitten1796]

That's exactly what I was thinking

[@skylarjacobson945]

This was the same comment I was going to write. I personally grew up with a good family but I wouldn't wish bad things upon others. Even if I have to deal with thrm.

[@surashreedas9180]

True . But I really wished some people who keep telling me that it's not a big deal , I'd definitely want to " make deal with God " and let them struggle to survive in a environment which should feel like home feels like hell .

[@Stitch56991theoneanonly]

My grandma is toxic. Every time she talks she literally yells. Even my aunt agreed that she was toxic today when she was visiting.😃

[@user-tx1tb6qq8e]

it kinda hurts when you‘re seeing a healthy family, but it also heals somehow lol (like seeing normal interactions, it‘s so sweet)

[@AlliTwix]

All children deserve parents, but not all parents deserve children

[@aubree3562]

honestly true.

[@agustdrip1960]

True

[@evaa.123]

I understand the point, but even if you are in a healthy family it doesn't mean you don't have any problems at all. it just makes it quite easier.

[@swaraalkunte6707]

Exactly some people seem to think that children with healthy parents dont have problems at all....

[@manu_rsrsrsr]

Yup,im in a healthy family(that has problems sometimes but its normal)and i still hate myself and have anxiety

[@luffluffy7]

Problems exist, but some families just know how to stick together when they're facing issues. This is what makes a healthy family

[@evaa.123]

@@luffluffy7 i said it is easier sometimes to solve them but not always. but it also depends in what level is toxic. i understand that some kids really need fam love which i have and im so grateful, but i really sometimes want to have what my best friend has, that she can stay in her room or go out or have other social cause her parents dont really care about that. im not grateful but i feel so limited because they care too much. but i think that in the end everybody wants the one thing they dont have so..

[@sin3358]

@@swaraalkunte6707 we know you have problems, but one of those problems is not having your phone nearby whenever your parents argue in case you have to dial the police because that argument may be the last one they'll have, is it?

[@aryasharma1215]

Even though I am one from a toxic family i would never in a million years want God to swap my place with someone else. Like why would I? I know exactly how it's gonna break them. The self harm, suicidal thoughts and everything. I'd never want anyone to go through what I went through, never in a million years.

[@user-bm8sh4gm5v]

wow everyone in the comments attacking her for this video even though it’s so true. I’d give anything to have a healthy family.

[@Wake-up..thisIsAllJustADream]

It’s the first part. It sounds like “oh you can’t have any problems because you have a supportive family” I have a very healthy family, but I have to put up with emotional abuse from my friends.

[@umnasaif8875]

Same

[@a_idiot_bun]

​@@Wake-up..thisIsAllJustADream nobody said healthy families dont have problems. its the fact that you receive support and love in your household is the difference. if you had a toxic family and suffered emotional abuse from your friends, your parents would blame it on you and cause more emotional or even physical abuse on you. please dont make this about yourself, you know you can ask for help from your parents while some kids cant.

[@Shinta-zc3xx]

​@@a_idiot_bun yeah thats my toxic parents do to me :')

[@crystalm3th573]

All I wanna say to girls with toxic families is don’t waste time on relationships when you’re finding yourself. You’re too vulnerable and there is flood of terrible men out there. Either that, or you could end up being a toxic partner to a guy. Focus on your personal growth, explore a little, find out your passions and follow it.

[@rozisszs]

As a girl with a toxic family, wdym by finding ourselves? I don't get it

[@diti636]

I'm in a relationship and my man is really supportive he has really helped me in my personal growth you can't just blame relationships for everything...

[@kailani6245]

@@rozisszs he means recovering

[@imbored2919]

I agree for the most part. I am in a wonderful relationship but I am dealing with so many personal problems (ex: ed, sh, and overall depression) I honestly feel happiest when Im doing what I want with nothing tying me down. I care about him dearly and one of my biggest fears is being horrible to him or overall just being toxic. My emotions are just all over the place 😕

[@crystalm3th573]

@@rozisszs Figuring out who you are separate from your family. You lose your identity or can’t form an identity when you’re in a toxic dynamic. You explore what you like, your hobbies, your passions, your goals, form opinions on some topics, things like that. Find yourself. Know who you are. Your strengths and weaknesses. What makes you, well, you.

[@Oitdbem918]

Why did she write “healthy”with an @ sign?

[@pootatoot]

I think it's because tiktok flags certain words

[@smiffyer]

yeah but why does healthy get flagged

[@Adds08]

@@smiffyer tbh i wish i knew

[@skinnycow4791]

isnt like eating an apple healthy?

[@AmeliePrepEditzz]

@@smiffyer it's because calling something or someone healthy is considered rude and it's supposed to be a jealousy statement

[@stacey738]

I grew up in a healthy home, my husband grew up in an emotionally, physically and verbally abusive one. We've been married 14 years, and to this day I still see the effects of his childhood on his life. he's almost 40. Every. Single. Day.

[@EroticInferno]

My childhood was great but my best friend was abused and neglected. We don’t always need to swap places because we lived it vicariously through them.

[@kalyanib4046]

Don't judge other's problems. U don't know what they are going through. Like how some of us hide our emotions, a healthy family may look healthy on outside only

[@user-fs8rz5qv1e]

Please tell this to my friends😀

[@sin3358]

If it's just the outside then that means that's not a healthy family, does it? I know that everyone has their own problems, and having healthy parents doesn't always mean a happy life. Just social media and society in general causes so much distress on its own, that your fam is not the only source of depression. But I have to admit, that if you have healthy parents, you at least are lucky they care for you, as that's what they do. Some of us did not have the luxury to experience that type of familial love. But regardless, I'm sorry if you're struggling. I do have to say that I understand that feeling, even if I haven't been through the same situation

[@ithinknotscallywag]

@@sin3358 bro wrote an entire paragraph 💀

[@pau7886]

that doesn't make any sense

[@maddiehall5317]

@@pau7886 it makes perfect sense

[@urhairypits8330]

It’s probably not the best idea to wish someone a toxic life…

[@OoCarapherneliaoO]

My exact thoughts

[@jaylieimu6164]

And when did she say she wished her a toxic life? 💀👌

[@OoCarapherneliaoO]

@@jaylieimu6164 when she said she wanted to swap places.

[@swaraalkunte6707]

Yepp

[@jaylieimu6164]

@@OoCarapherneliaoO she didn’t say that, that’s the song. 😑

[@notdody]

We live in a society where healthy is censored

[@herprettynails]

TikTok doesn’t allow the word healthy due to people suffering within anorexia or other forms of eating disorders

[@MillyxxissillyYT-RoadTo600]

8​That's stupid tbh, like "eating an healthy apple"@@herprettynails

[@herprettynails]

@@MillyxxissillyYT-RoadTo600 Still tho, it can still be a trigger word for those suffering with eating disorders, ik it may seem dumb to censor the word healthy. but that’s why it’s censored unfortunately.

[@kdu4249]

I have seen in internet some of the people from toxic families i guess easily consider everyone is a bad human and i have seen people assuring them that no their families are very good people. Its sad to see that...

[@BraindeadAutist]

why do you have to censor healthier and toxic like they are slurs

[@elizabethluck9372]

Bc I’m KZbin’s eye it is in videos😫

[@jaylieimu6164]

Because KZbin is getting sensitive these days lmao

[@UltimateGummyCat22]

@@jaylieimu6164 with youtube shorts people are posting more offensive content faster so they have to add more restrictions sadly

[@BraindeadAutist]

@@UltimateGummyCat22 yeah that makes sense

[@jaylieimu6164]

@@UltimateGummyCat22 yeah I agree

[@daniellesaunders9545]

i know how it feels:(

[@mhhh..4308]

X2

[@liepakubiliute4793]

Same

[@Gracerace788]

Same goes for me

[@rijaahmed3434]

Me too

[@ellslovessyouu]

Me too

[@Ilovodyy]

Fr when I was 7 I was praying everyday my mom died and my dad marry another good women

[@K959nn]

you shouldn’t wish death upon anyone…

[@bloxlove]

you should ent pray death upon anyone, Please pray to the lord for forgiveness. :)

[@PrettiestPrincipleInLife]

I just want to escape. Please. Don't make anyone else have my pain, just get me out of here. I'm begging you.

[@yomna.is.normal]

Please talk to a trusted adult,like your aunts,uncles,grandparents,teachers,neighbours....anyone!! They can get you out of here. Go to a police station after school,call the police (do it preferably when they're outside or are deeply asleep) my heart breaks for you

[@PrettiestPrincipleInLife]

​@@yomna.is.normal I'm too young to go out on my own and idek where a police station would be. My parents don't wanna get me therapy (I presume since they don't even wanna get it for themselves) and I can't tell any adults around me because they only include my family and teachers who I'm not close to. I wish I could do smth but I can't. Thank you for trying to help tho

[@aikomichuu]

Them talking about their childhood is the most wholesome shit, while I'm crying inside 💀😭

[@gemini_yuii]

A healthy family doesn’t mean they don’t have problems outside of the family Partner abuse,rape, bullying, eating disorder, depression, lost love one, etc Trauma is different for everyone some are worse yes but, everyone has some form of trauma

[@tony_tony_chopper0]

EXACLTY

[@nicki1646]

Fr how do some people not notice that?

[@cayitgirl]

THANK YOU!!! PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS LIKE “ur so lucky omg”

[@_DEVILYCH]

Yeah, I’ve got a nice loving family, dad is a cool guy and mom is supportive of everything but it didn’t stop me from putting myself into ED hell when I was a kid

[@user-zq7mb8kv7j]

I just want to say that having a toxic family can in fact be the cause of all these problems ‘outside of the family’.Not to invalidate anyone’s struggles but having a healthy family can most definitely ensure that u don’t suffer from childhood trauma,which lasts forever until u die.

[@swagaholic3594]

POV you have a perfectly functional family but decide to pick out the most insignificant of disagreements with them to make a tik tok about how "toxic" your family is 😐

[@Belarusian_Republic]

The entire country of Belarus is on your side 🇧🇾 ♥️

[@MillyxxissillyYT-RoadTo600]

Fr

[@fairywithakn1fe]

nah cause i hate how people with stable loving families complain about their parents being “Too controlling” like it ain’t fun to have parents who don’t care about you

[@R4INB0WSGL4M]

Fr

[@Columbina.Damselette]

Since my family is too careless about me (they say they love me but don’t show any love from the beginning ) I think I would rather have controlling parents too.. It’s just a choice for me tho

[@a_idiot_bun]

as a kid who came from a very controlling toxic household, both are just as bad. they would never let you go outside and then wonder why you shut yourself in your room. they want you to be smart but dont give you any time to study by always needing you by their side when they vent. they tell you you dont need to have friends when you say that you dont wanna go to school because of bullies, and you only need to study. they say you should dress better but dont give you the things needed to. they say they love you but their actions show that they dont care (not cooking food, asking how your day is, checking on you when your 33° degrees hot, assuming your being lazy when your doing something). they give you necessities (phone for communication, school fees, clothes, shoes, a bed, a life) and then guilt trip or hit you when you dont do everything they tell you to. maybe that person your talking about also has a toxic family.

[@TateDurden]

I wouldn’t want to give another person this treatment even if it meant I wouldn’t have it.

[@TateDurden]

@Kyra just real traumatized lol, it’s better now tho

[@oliviaoconnel]

y’all haven’t felt it until you get your phone taken away for not closing a door Edit: to everyone saying I’m “privileged” for only getting my phone taken away, I didn’t wanna over share but here goes. Basically I got told to close a door and I didn’t, and then I got scream at for an hour and a half, phone taken away and got the silent treatment from my parents for the rest of the night.

[@Sherline0930]

Exactly

[@meg._.09]

Bro the worst punishment as a kid for me was since my family moved to a new country and didn't have enough to buy me a phone my mom would say your grounded go to sleep, because it was summer and all I wanted to do was stay up.

[@meg._.09]

@@UltimateMetanoia wow naughty naughty

[@averageperson4524]

@@meg._.09 bruh

[@Max-mb3qt]

@@meg._.09 same

[@bhoomisharma1112]

i told myself so many times saying that my parent aren’t emotionally abusive its just the day or they are in a bad mood. It really really broke me when i realized that the fights amd everything is becoming an everyday thing.I cant wait to go to college far away from my house so that i finally can have mental peace.

[@Rosemary_fern]

Anyone else thinks she looks like brooke monk and spencer Barbosa?

[@stegothedino]

yes, especially brooke monk!

[@taylorswizzzle9039]

I have a healthy family so everytime I used to tell my friends a story about something in my childhood they be like „oh shut up you don’t have a ToXiC FaMaLy“ Alright so I’m not allowed to talk sbout my childhood because my famaly is healthy alriiighhhhtttt 💆‍♀️

[@phoqwu]

that is rude but don’t you realize how hard it is to have a family that is just about fights? i have one but i still listen to my other friends “oh my dad this and my dad that” “i went out with my parents” “i am going to see my grandparents” and i feel like shit but i don’t say anything.

[@kazoo_o]

@@phoqwu that sucks but if people are never told your home life isn’t the best then they can try to be more sensitive. If you don’t tell them then you have no right to get mad at them about something none of you can control

[@taylorswizzzle9039]

@@phoqwu I’m so sorry about that ,i think we should just except each other and let each other talk no matter what there famaly is like or what they look like because at the End of the day where al humans and should love and support each other 🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@ralucasandu870]

Yes,let the people with an abusive childhood alone,i had one of those,and every single time my friends would talk about their life and the good things ,i would feel like the absolute shit,also ,my parents we're the whole pack(abusive,toxic,strict)also,they both died in a car crash ,gladly,i didn't have to deal with them anymore (it happened when i was 18)

[@kazoo_o]

@@ralucasandu870 are you saying if your family isn’t toxic you have no right to talk about them..?

[@lucidlemonarts7597]

Why is her only personality trait is that her parents are divorced

[@erica.multii]

fr..

[@m4.09]

bet you don’t have divorced parents that’s why you don’t understand, it’s an extremely important thing that happens in your life and it affects it tremendously

[@em9858]

@@maxinefrye and who said you were the creator of this vid? Everyone deals with pain and grief differently.

[@thenameisnaz]

There may be some other things going on as well.

[@m4.09]

@@lucidlemonarts7597 it’s not an assumption if it was true tho?😭

[@selaniwashere8447]

Honestly I don't wish this upon anyone and don't mind going through this anymore. This is how I got my survival instincts. The reason why I'm pretty strong. The reason I don't let people walk all over me.

[@KriticalKraken]

Admittedly, I have a healthy family, but whenever I talk about something that happened they always say "you can't complain, you don't have a toxic family like me" as if bad things can't happen to healthy families

[@rox_812]

I personally never grew up with a toxic family, but I feel bad for the e people that did.

[@michaelbier7837]

i'd never want to swap places, i've learned a lot living in a toxic family and i now have a safer life

[@Elena-uh2fi]

Like what?

[@gm5628]

It's always funny when people with healthy families express shock when I talk about how much I hate my parents. They always assume you feel that way over something petty too, until they hear the stories. Some people should genuinely not be allowed to have kids.

[@happylilac29]

My best friend has the perfect family, I only met her this year and about to be our second year bestie anniversary but she has the most perfect family ever, her dad is the sweetest and sometimes over friendly and she says that’s embarrassing but she needs to know that I’d trade anything for her family edit) I love my moms side and my mom, like I am closer to my moms cousins than I am to my dads siblings defo and it’s bc his sister is a phycho and her brothers is just rlly rude, threatens people and thank god I don’t see them much and my dad is also shouty and super toxic. I love my distant family and aunt, uncle, grandparents from my moms side and my dads COUSINS are fine but not siblings or parents

[@Columbina.Damselette]

Same I can’t stand my dads siblings. His parents and he all fine but his siblings are just too toxic.. And I love my moms side and her. I’m glad you have a friend like her. She should be a nice person too 🤍

[@happylilac29]

@@Columbina.Damselette yeah im grateful for my moms side and some of my dads side but his siblings, I just can’t because they live with my grandparents so when I visit I just don’t want to stay there (bc they live in the same place as my aunts from my moms side) but they just are so toxic, and knowing tha5 there relationship with my dad and grandmother isn’t good, I’d just much rather stay away from the shouting environment. and yeah my friend is rlly nice, and I just forever would want to be with my moms side

[@taralynntimer6458]

I never wanted to swap places with anyone because how could someone go through everything I had and stay mentally sane. I just wanted out of the house and to be left alone.

[@Elliesmellieatesomejellie]

Can you let people with good families be? It's not our fault your family is toxic or abusive, let me enjoy time with my family, I get every family has problems (mine too) but let me enjoy a goddamn hour or a few minutes with family without being shamed

[@jaylieimu6164]

it’s her opinion but go off. 🤨

[@Elliesmellieatesomejellie]

@@jaylieimu6164 ok thanks

[@swaraalkunte6707]

Right

[@helloperson4167]

preach.

[@manu_rsrsrsr]

Ye,i understand your pain and i can try to help you,but man you dont have to say "wish that was me" everytime that i am enjoying something with my family,we also have problems and i have problems,there is not a single perfect family,there is better and worse ones,but m8 just let me be

[@JmenEdits]

What about the ones who didn’t have a family in the first place that grew up in an orphanage?

[@J0k3rN1ckWillEatYourDoor]

I didnt grow up in a t0xic family but, i heared my grandma yelling at my grandpa for no reasons, my dad smoke and before him and my mother split up i tried to have his attention now...he try to get my attention, my mother is supportive asf i love her but she is sick(it doesnt have cure...) and now she is getting more stressed and sad i've seen her having anxiety attacks twice...i was 10, my grandpa died... My brother is living his own life i'am so happy for him..my family is in a poor situation... I'am 11(doing 12 in april 9) years old, never want to swap places with any person, even if their family arent toxic or love they, they also have problems.....

[@J0k3rN1ckWillEatYourDoor]

This comment will prob get deleted soon...

[@gachanuggz2261]

We not gonna talk about the fact that they censored the word “healthy”

[@somethingisbehindyou143]

Why was the word “Healthy” censored?

[@m1l3s]

I was wondering that too

[@sn00ze74]

Exactly she typing it like its offensive 💀

[@N08R76H]

@@sn00ze74 she doesn’t want her video taken down on tiktok. Toxic was also censored

[@serenity5833]

Bc tiktok makes people censor everything lol

[@m1l3s]

@@serenity5833 this KZbin though

[@sofiechristine3824]

I have a friend, I was really surprised when she told she shares everything with her mother. I still think she's so lucky that can do that. She thinks that every parent it like hers and forces me to talk to my mother too when I know I just can't. She forces me that if I don't tell my mother things, she will. But my mother will never care why I didn't tell her anything, she only cares why someone told her something about me. Isn't it obvious?

[@Columbina.Damselette]

I don’t share everything with my mother but I don’t hide everything either, I’m middle of you and your friend I think. But I understand you, sometimes you feel like you are so distant with someone that you can’t bring yourself into a conversation, even If this person is from your family, and I think It’s okay, to not feel close enough to her. If youdont want to talk, just don’t . Relationships change to the person you are with, and there is no need to force yourself to be good terms with everyone

[@sofiechristine3824]

@@Columbina.Damselette Thankyou so much for this❤

[@lifehappens6447]

I love hearing people talk about their healthy amazing families. It's how I learned what healthy was so I could do my best to provide as close to the same as I possibly could for my daughter and grandchildren. Plus it feels good knowing not all families are sh*t.

[@stella020]

everyone: so relatable 😍 me: why is healthy blocked out? (he@lthy)

[@snottiepippen]

@urlocalfrogdude:) how lmfao

[@skinnycow4791]

@urlocalfrogdude:) So if i tell someone "Eating an apple is healthy" They gonna get triggered? Healthy means quite a bit of stuff, but i'll try not to assume.

[@idek372]

POV:u don’t have to worry because u always stay in ur room

[@rinazeqiri2176]

Pov:u can't do that either

[@lizzylicious5042]

Pov: you do that and not only get yelled at about it but get depressed, realized how neglected you are, have your parents easily assume who You are no matter how good you actually try to be, and still have parents complain about how you are when you are out of your room.

[@Ifartinmysleepacc2]

I don’t have a room🙂‍↕️

[@Metalbatlover]

You censored healthy...

[@bigeye7480]

I grew up under very shitty circumstances. But that's a me problem. I know I'm strong enough to not let my personal experiences cloud my judgement and ruin my critical thinking skills. Mind over matter. We're all capable of removing our childhoods from ourselves. I believe in y'all

[@eddy6972]

My family is really toxic. I don't want to show it to anybody but now I feel suffocated. I'm a girl and I'm 25 rn from India and I live with my parents. My family is hella toxic, I never show it to anybody, I always show bright side of my family to anyone but deep down I'm broken. My father is alcoholic and he controls everything in my life. My mother always yell at us. My parents always criticise me, I can't even explain how they emotionally abuse me. I was a bright student but now I've lost what I had. I have no where to go. I'm suffering from depression from the last 4 yrs. I've no hope for my future.

[@shespreppy9676]

I hope you find a way out of it and you love happily ever after.

[@xluluaesthetics]

I feel you so much…it is so heartbreaking and you are so strong! I wish you would find the way how to escape this “stuck in a rut” circle and experience a beautiful life full of happiness.

[@khushboosingaria]

Same here girl....I hope I get a chance to talk to you.... wanna share n feel light

[@haleybaless]

I had a good life as a toddler/baby, but now I’m absolutely sick of it. I get told I’m complaining all the time, and I never get time to my self. My dad always yells at me and calls me names, and my moms cheating on my dad with someone I hate.

[@Buddy2fly]

All of the sudden everyone has toxic child hoods bc there mom said they couldn’t jump off a table

[@givematthiswalrus4825]

no🧢

[@girlugottabekiddingme7721]

Yes

[@cocoquette]

My family ruined my life and made me suicidal is that enough for you?

[@Deathspeedrunner]

Really though, there are people going through to tons of shit but their parents say they can’t get drunk at 10 and all of a sudden it’s toxic

[@gabriellecloverbow6271]

I feel like people are being taught that you should be ashamed if you had a healthy childhood without abusive parents or trauma…

[@ahariax]

girl w healthy family: "my parents are so supportive!" me: "yeah same!" **cries internally**

[@whydoihaveahandle545]

I never knew why I couldn’t remember my childhood…

[@All-smiles]

Only pleasent memories are left in your brain i have none

[@All-smiles]

My mind is mud ground and rain

[@All-smiles]

Dirty embarassing useless

[@TedSutherlandLoverGirl]

I relate to this. My mom is a very horrible person she verbally abuses me almost everyday and when she’s nice and loving to me it feels like it’s not right because I know it’s not her true self. She calls me horrible names and is even worse to my dad. I can’t wait until I’m in college to leave. I’m 13 right now and I have considered taking my own life more than at least 20 and came close about 3.

[@user-ln8on5wo3t]

You know what! I would love to listen to their childhood and look at the outcome!! 😤😭

[@Hemi9898]

Same. It feels my entire childhood was ruined thanks to my family. My only concern tho is that one day I just shouldn't end up repeating the same toxic patterns I grew up with, thinking they were normal.

[@QuickArtTutorials]

“He@lthy” Lmao

[@nicki1646]

one, before you hate on me Let me just say that you never know what others are going through so dont assume their family is,"healthy" two, just becuase the family is healthy doesnt mean they dont have problems. And lastly, why post your issues on the internet? I feel like some people just do this for clout...

[@lifeoflol9057]

EXACTLY SMART!

[@usaguri-0686]

Sympathy not clout. It’s normal for someone to want attention if they aren’t given enough at home. I was neglected as a child (not horribly but I was harmed because of my parents negligence.) and because of that, I would seek the attention my parents weren’t giving me on the internet. Not to say this is healthy, it isn’t healthy to constantly post about your issues online, but it’s good to talk about it and not bottle things up!

[@4NN13.]

THANK YOU

[@Xandrous_Drumz]

Healthy people just shows less emotion but they are always positive. Toxic people just overreact but they are really that happy in life just like me but they struggle to feel positive when in a situation they don't like.

[@Isabellapleme]

I have a very healthy family! Hope you all have one as well! 💕💕💕

[@imaiyla]

Nope

[@mariepijpops9595]

Nopee

[@manu_rsrsrsr]

Its not just hoping girl,its people,they dont change

[@Isabellapleme]

@@manu_rsrsrsr I’m sry I don’t understand what u mean 💕 could u pls explain

[@Isabellapleme]

Im sry for those of u who don’t! I’ll be praying for you guys! God bless you all

[@Star-dl1fx]

Literally me around my friends , i just stay quiet

[@exceptli6909]

Yeah , me too 😐

[@karishmamaharaa]

Relatable..

[@cloemerci2581]

Me too!

[@That.Mossy.Gargoyle]

Okay I know the person who made this will probably never ever see it and I probably look like the biggest jerk but I’m here to say it for the other people like me who were to scared to. Just because we had a good home life dosent mean we had a good life. Yes abuse in a home is terrible and I would never wish that on anyone and I’m not saying it’s not bad it’s horrible. But just because someone has supportive parents or a non abusive home life doesn’t mean they had it easy. Not abusive dosent mean not strict or not rude it doesn’t mean they also might not have anxiety or depression or that they have trauma. In final all I’m saying is that we shouldn’t value someone’s trauma based on their experience trauma is trauma no matter the circumstances, hope someone who needed to see this did ♥️

[@Columbina.Damselette]

Well I guess you are right (I have supportive parents too but they were lil bit careless about me xd) but I always think trauma is a big thing. Nowadays, I’m seeing everyone calls everything in the label of “trauma” and this is also wrong. People like this better understand the meaning of it and not calling everything in the name of trauma. There are so many memories in each persons head, most of them comes in midnight.. Some memories are just rough and discomfortable and we should also accept not all of our memories should be happy. Its just my way of thinking tho 🤍

[@That.Mossy.Gargoyle]

I agree so much! Thank you for this comment ♥️

[@gwendolynrobinson3900]

In my husband's friend group, I'm know as the one that doesn't have daddy issues. My husband's dad died of alcoholism, one friends dad is in prison, multiple others have died or abandoned them. My parents came to my husband's house before we married and his friends had a lot of fun hanging out with my dad and listening to his stories :)

[@DandyDriver]

“OmG tHaNkS fOr BlOcKiNg OuT He@lThY iTs OnE oF mY tRiGgEr WoRdS”

[@cryaboutitkid7745]

Umm that’s actually super really super duper offensive to those who are sensitive to that word, u don’t know what they’ve gone through dood🙄😒 GODHSBSJSJSJA

[@carolina-pf5cz]

@@cryaboutitkid7745 LMFAO I THOUGHT U WERE SERIOUS UNTIL I SAW THE EMOJIS

[@cryaboutitkid7745]

@@carolina-pf5cz 😭

[@jaylieimu6164]

Lol no, she blocked it out because it was originally posted on TikTok, and TikTok doesn’t allow Healthy for some stupid reason

[@herprettynails]

@@jaylieimu6164TikTok doesn’t allow the word healthy due to people suffering within anorexia or other forms of eating disorders

[@Kate.-.132]

Swap?? You’d give someone a shitty family 😭

[@spacefalls8260]

dont make it deeper than it needs to be

[@Kate.-.132]

@@spacefalls8260 Im not making it deep Im just saying- if I was being serious or mean idk simply make the comment worse-

[@carolina-pf5cz]

@@spacefalls8260 its already deep so what?

[@loyeetiennmoe]

Whenever my parents tell me we’re going somewhere rlly fun, I get extremely excited and that’s what makes me happy the entire day. And when they get back hone they just start swiping their phones and when I ask them ‘So r we going?’ They just say ‘You know what.. lets not go anymore its quite late’ when literally all the festivals haven’t even started and it’s like 6:00 or something. And they sleep at 11:30+. Wow. So real. And then when I confront them abt this behavior they just burst out laughing and they don’t take me seriously. All these festivals happen once in a year or once every four years. Every time we plan abt going there, in the end they’ll just be swiping their phones. And they try to comfort me by saying ‘What do u want to eat we’ll bring u there’ and the next day when I suggest a restaurant they’ll be like ‘dang thats rlly far’ ‘thats kinda expensive’ like literally the restaurants they choose are always 130+ and when I choose a cheap ass restaurant they say its expensive and very far. They always force me to go places with them but when I want to go somewhere rlly near my home and no money needed, they just dont give a sh*t. And every time my brother is also sick so we can’t go. I’ve cried abt this more than 11-12 times bc it always happens, but they dont care. And they try to make it seem like they care abt me by saying things like ‘oh ...i thought ...blah blah blah blah over exaggerating excuses’ but in the end they dont rlly care. Ik these parents aren’t toxic but to me its worse than being tortured. I’d rather die than suffer in this horrible family where no one cares abt me and my brother is the only one that shines in the entire relative/family tree.

[@yomna.is.normal]

I'm so sorry,I know you feel :(( I'm not judging,but I don't think that they're bad to the point of making you wanna die,I get it if you're sensitive (I am and I cry & get hurt for the smallest things so I don't blame you :`) but death & the word "horrible" are really strong,unless you mean it. But still,I hope your parents actually care more about you & your brother and your feelings. I'm glad your brother makes you happy though:>>

[@ViviPlayzYouTube]

As a kid with a toxic family, i always cry myself to sleep, and i have no one to tell, god my life is so sad and hard i just wanna be loved but they love my brother more

[@QuacksonVibes]

My mum is literally amazing! She’s always been there for me. And her boyfriend has always been there for me like a dad SHOULD be. My dad doesn’t really do much with me. He lies abt things so I don’t come over. So I sort of know what it feels like.

[@ilikecatsandyourmum9940]

I hate how so many dad's are POS and most of the "good ones" get praised for doing the bare minimum, while most mom's get sh!t on/told how they could do better even when they're above and beyond.

[@QuacksonVibes]

@@Snow29086 I don’t hate my dad, it’s just hard sometimes, I still love my dad. Just know, you will get through it all 💕

[@ch4is]

nah why u make abbreviations for words. healthy isn't a bad word and toxic 💀

[@vaianaa7206]

Yeah hahaha that’s what I thought

[@archiveofyass]

yall are sooo dumb. tiktok flags people for anything so they have to censor the words they put in their videos

[@Theplantinspace]

“Toxic family” My family??? Huh??? WHAT DO U WANT WITH MY FAMILY?!!

[@ambrotose]

Define "toxic", no family is perfect. If you were safe and weren't abused you really shouldn't complain.

[@angelinemM210]

Fr every time my friends talk about their parents I just go to the restroom

[@dareenkina]

ok thats just not even thats toxic bro u cant just walk out on ur friend when they try to open up just cuz u wanna open up too??? thats not real friendship

[@reyanyan]

@@dareenkina you don't know anything about her friendship so how do you know it's not real friendship. She might be sensitive to that topic. You never know what people are going through so dont assume.

[@skinnycow4791]

@@dareenkina Thats just a really insensitive thing to say :/

[@Avi_studios]

Healthy oh I mean he@lthy

[@Multistan_I13]

Yes I would sell my soul , to God, cause I know my 3 younger siblings will have to deal with how toxic our family is when I leave 😢😅❤

[@defnotlexim]

Real. My mom mentally hurts me so bad then asks why I’m always in my room

[@Jessica-pb1os]

no no no cause the best feeling is when you meet someone like you and you can finally talk about your problems and relate and finally feel normal

[@tristanthedog5756]

just cause somebody has a good family doesn’t mean you hate on them

[@samissweaty]

thats really not what they said 🤨🤨

[@samissweaty]

they were just displaying jealousy not hatred

[@skittlemathers728]

@@samissweaty REaLy i ThOuTh ThEy wErE stupid

[@gracie_may-le7hy]

i grew up in a toxic environment and i wouldn’t want that for anyone.

[@stellamariefanboy.6768]

I always find it innocent when they only complain about their family being boring or embarrassing. I would rather take that than narcism.

[@sofiereads]

Im a teen intern and work at a place that has stem camps for kids . I get to watch different families interact with their kids in so many ways. There is the protective parent who stays 10 mins after drop-off to watch the kid, there is the busy parent who is on the phone in the lobby but watches their child the whole time smiling, and the loving parent who kisses and hugs their child goodbye. I feel horrible for feeling a twinge of jealousy every single time. I basically raised myself, my parents were too busy for me, were toxic and emotionally abusive to me, im scared every time I see my mom. Like, why couldn't I have what they have. What did I do wrong

[@astngu]

Why is healthy censored 💀

[@Piku_xoxo.]

Ikr like why?!?!

[@emmalin9271]

i get that, but even people with healthy families have the same problems as people with toxic families

[@VVG-gf5xf]

part of me is like I really wish I could swap places but the other part is like I dont what anyone else to go through it. :(

[@emmaleehettiarachchi9338]

why tf is healthy censored-

[@swaggy_madz]

Same expect im the one with a healthy relationship also wouldn’t that mean u make that other person the one who’s hurting?

[@ella_rose07]

She is just saying she wishes she has a healthy family tho

[@YourGoofyOldTwilight]

This is so true, i dont wanna talk about my childhood because my parents g@mble, Till this day, i have mental breakdowns when i hear them screaming whenever they get very angry at g@mbl!ng

[@Fairy_Teeth]

I get to happy whenever I someone talks about having a great relationship with their families like hell yes babes

[@abigaylestinkwadmerklinger9641]

gen z is so soft they feel the need to sensor healthy and toxic..💀

[@bunnyc456]

it’s something to do with the tiktok algorithm actually 😭 for some reason if you don’t censor some words the tiktok gets taken down :/:

[@ICE4EAE]

It's not all of gen z but it is the majority

[@ralucasandu870]

Oh lolololo,gen z ,you 45 or? she's,,soft" bc she had trauma when she was little,you prob didn't have one of those toxic childhoods so,shut the fu#k up

[@archiveofyass]

abigayle “stinkwad” merklinger has no clue how tiktok and their moderation works so proceeds to blame “gen z” for censoring their words despite the fact that they have the risk of being flagged or banned 😂😂😂😂😂

[@nicki1646]

​@@randyiniego998 LMO

[@kw1xxx]

Bro people really censoring Healthy lmao

[@Jon.L]

Bro watch, next thing you know we're gonna have to censor the word "doctor"

[@hxyden._.editzz]

D0ctor* you forgot to censor it

[@saltyfish7626]

@@hxyden._.editzz 🗿👺

[@RaphEstBleu.mp4]

after that countries like Fr*nce

[@Iheartdraco07]

My moms side of the family is healthy but my dads is 😬 once I had to have a sleepover at my dads sisters house I cried myself to sleep that night

[@someone_pretty13]

thats the same way with my dads and moms family