7 Signs of a Toxic Family

[@Psych2go]

First! Related videos: 6 Side Effects of Toxic families www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mj4Re... 5 Types of Children from Toxic Families www.youtube.com/watch?v=sZH-1... 8 Common Characteristics of a Dysfunctional Family www.youtube.com/watch?v=EkVOB... 5 Ways To Recover From Toxic Families www.youtube.com/watch?v=NIpYm... 5 Types of Dysfunctional Family Dynamics www.youtube.com/watch?v=T79sc...

[@lieaparisss08]

Thanks for your content

[@superworldteam6360]

No you're not !

[@Psych2go]

@@lieaparisss08 No problem! Did you find this video helpful? :)

[@Arctic_and_The_F0X]

I just want to take a _moment_ to thank you for how much your videos have helped me. I wouldn’t be in therapy if it wasn’t for you.

[@garfieldchungus6275]

Man I love this channel.

[@iamokay000]

I don’t feel so alone reading the comments.. i dont like living in this house

[@chaosdweller]

Ikr, have you been pychologically tortured while staying? and then get pycholocially tortured by another part of the "family" by wanting to leave and do the "right thing" cause that's what's going on here;..... oh btw I really am a slave , I get roasted for money, sometimes worse, but that's okay now😀

[@iamokay000]

hye, idk about that. I tend to argue with my mom, she always find faults in whatever i do. I’m her only daughter (she has another 3 sons), she didn’t trust me. She always disapprove who im dating, my 24 yo bro is getting married this year and this put more pressure on me (tho they didn’t rly say it). I’m 27 yo this year and the eldest. I’m dating a guy from another religion , And as a muslim it’s a big deal to majority of us. She expects me to be this perfect daughter while i just want to live my life freely without her constant judgement and nagging all the time. She thinks she always right and never want to hear my side of story. I rly just want to move out tbh. Hbu stranger? I hope you’re doing good in this time of messed up world of us- the covid19 and all

[@chaosdweller]

@@iamokay000 that sucks i actually am able to relate to people more now than the past 10 years or so , but it still sucks, and still worried

[@iamokay000]

Hope you’re always happy and doing great ❤️❤️

[@GreaseBall.]

Same. My mum was slapping me and told me it was tapping. She insults me everyday and acts as if im a baby who doesnt know how to clean a kitchen counter. Its everyday. The only reason why i like home is because she is gone for around 9-12 hours a day so i get a lot of time with my online friends. When i made an achievement in a gane she just says "its just a game, do something like was the dishes" (which i dont do because i told her so much that i dont like doing them and that i hate doing them) I have recently been talking to my friends about it because my mum does some more stuff thats mental and physical abuse. We have some ideas on how to stop her but i dont have a lot. Im also a daughter with 2 brothers that i havent spoken to in years and they havent spoken to eachother for nearly a decade (if they do, its like "no, i didnt do it.") I just I don't know what to do Im really scared Me and my mum had a fight before my birthday and on my birthday i kept hitting myself in anger and fear and sadness my mum didnt even care. Nothing has been the same since that day Yesterday or before yesterday, i asked her can i shave my hair and i was told i would look ugly. I really wanted to shave it but my hopes are down. I don't know how im just saying this so easily to random people. Its harder to even say it to some of my friends Sorry im talking too much about this I hope you guys are okay and well

[@jitterbuggs]

results of a toxic relationship w/ ur parents check: -cries when yelled at -flinches easily -uneasiness towards older men -burned out gifted kid who stopped trying -touch starved -low self esteem -tries to delay going home after school

[@cybervinegae]

Jesus fucking Christ, I have all of these. I'm glad I'm not alone

[@tev2852]

I don't think of my family as toxic(not anymore) , even though my family has 4 out of the 7 signs shown in the video..... But I do have all the things you mentioned.

[@iexist2217]

Well you described me 2 years ago. Now I found something that makes me happy and its better than then tho it still is bad.

[@remi80507]

holy shit this is all me

[@Emily.Russell]

Wow.... I thought it was only me

[@koidumpstergirl1894]

Parents: “why don’t you talk to us” Also parents: “stOP CRYING. You need to stop blaming other people. Oh yea I know that’s wrong with you but I’m not doing anything abt it.”

[@bluesolace9052]

Koi Dumpster Girl That’s the number one thing I hate. Rarely will anyone let me cry when I need it at times. But at the very least people can focus on self care and I hope you all at least know your parents are at least trying despite their occasional mess ups.

[@lordshrimpramen5589]

Also parents: “You did this to yourself, it’s not my fault!”

[@andioooppanime311]

My parents

[@purr7310]

"aND It'S ThAt daMN pHoNe!!"

[@azzy2808]

And then they tell you “teenagers don’t have stress, they can’t. It’s not as stressful as a work place”

[@irememberla6460]

I finally realized this year that I am not close to my family at all. I used to protect them by fooling myself and telling others that we are close and supportive. I had so many crises this year, and they failed and disappointed me in ways I could have never imagined.

[@datingandlifeadvicechannel7534]

Me too I ha them all I have no family just god

[@mgam4963]

Same, the past couple years my mental stability has been unstable, but not super unstable, and these last two years, I have started to gain the habit of crying atleast four times a week, 😀 I also have nightmares multiple times a week, and apparently have night terrors, I’m obviously distressed, but my family hasn’t even looked in my direction, because they only care about themselves. The only time they do notice that something is wrong is when I relapse in my ED. Then all of a sudden, they just care so much. I honestly feel no support from them whatsoever, not once have I ever felt heard by them even when they’re the cause of my distress. Which is ironic, because I’ve honestly been the only one providing actual emotional support to my family when they need it. They just take and don’t give back I guess, which is kind of depressing ngl, but honestly, I’m 15 right now, and in 3 years, I’ll legally be able to leave this place for good, and finally start my pursuit of a real home that won’t make me feel this way. You’re not alone in this, your family may care only for themselves but you will get through this‼️✨

[@angeladenzer7781]

I can absolutely relate because I used to do and say the same thing about my siblings

[@fashionglobally.2075]

My god same situation I have also realised this year ???

[@4NaturesStory]

Same here. I’m 35 and have everything and my own family. My parents are extremely rude to me and selfish old fhcks! They give nothing to their grandchildren at Christmas and basically stuck up selfish and jealous a holes. Literally pisses them off I make a lot of money and made well all by myself. Literally makes their skin crawl and constantly try to diminish everything great I do or have done. Heck, I learned piano when I was 19, now at 35 I can play very well and write my own music. Somehow, my parents don’t care to hear anything I play, which is fine, my wife and family love listening to me and smiling together, cooking together and laughing together as one loving family. The kind I never had being the youngest of 6 kids…my parents divorced at 11 because my Dad joined Scientology and gave them thousands of dollars behind her back. Some people (my parents) are lost in a time, think only in one way, and are only willing to experience their own created delusions of themselves and life.

[@madhushrutimukherjee]

Toxic parents will keep on saying "There's no one to trust but us. We are bad, others are worse. The world is bad, and no one will help you like we do." And it instils a lifelong mistrust of people and sabotages relationships. But this AIN'T TRUE. There ARE good people in the world who will treat you well. Such parents do not want you to see that, because then their behaviour becomes unjustified and they cannot feed off of the narcissistic supply you provide.

[@jinglebell2303]

Madhu Shruti Mukherjee this is exactly what my parents said when I told them I wanted to see a counselor. They change up real fast to pretend that I’m hurting them.

[@USER_S4V4NT]

Madhu Shruti Mukherjee exactly my mom’s philosophy

[@darkwizard9330]

This hit to close to home Like fuck

[@cadet875]

When you heard your parents say this a lot: Me: *Surprised Pikachu face*

[@ranjanipammi8223]

My God thank you for this 😊

[@sunflwrr3631]

My parents: *’’you can always talk to us.”* Also my parents: *”you’re overreacting and upset for no reason, people have it a lot harder than you”*

[@vrchatchara3509]

That's my whole family

[@bananojugueton6223]

I hate the "people have it harder than you" excuse

[@drainedreject]

Oml fr

[@hiyokosaionji1977]

sunflwrr yup that happens to me...

[@hydra2201]

+1

[@parulparida8280]

- u feel invisible - u feel pressured - u feel misunderstood and discarded - u feel ur worth depends on what u can give, not who u are - u feel forced to be around them - they play power politics and u are victim - u feel constantly unhappy around them

[@Tinkerツ]

And I also feel really guilty cuz I know I'm not a very good one either.

[@basicbitch7670]

I was gonna write this but it’s never mind it’s alright

[@hermione_at_hogwarts]

EVERYTHING ...I RELATE TO EVERYTHING .... that's just sad

[@chrisbowman747]

@@Tinkerツ yes but at least you’re aware

[@Dman9fp]

THIS. Idk how they can't realize-- I get along with Absolutely most everyone (who is rational) and not them usually, how do they expect me to stick around physically/ spiritually? So much world out there besides being stuck in the most stagnant developed over & traffic jammy county in FL for no other reason than hyper familiarity

[@AAA-pl6wn]

I remembered crying genuinely in front of my parent, then said to me: “I don’t believe in those crocodile tears”. I wanted to say that I wish I was never born, but was to afraid because I believe I will get slapped or hit

[@nandinisoni1917]

Yes, they said l am acting.

[@xoxolol1257]

😥

[@Ishmarai]

If they slap or hit you your have the right to get cps involved

[@ahsanasiddiqa6796]

@@Ishmarai yes but I love my family even when they do these things and don't want to cause trouble for them.

[@Ishmarai]

@@ahsanasiddiqa6796 yeah but hopefully in time you build some boundary for yourself because you deserve just as much respect as they do. And allowing it will make you passive not just in that aspect but other ones too.

[@annnyala]

My heart goes out to everyone else dealing with this during quarantine 😔

[@kristaokon2359]

Thank you for that.

[@99starl1ght]

♡♡♡♡

[@cat1312.]

thanks 💕

[@leafychild5179]

Thx.

[@smritiid3697]

Thankyou for that

[@fengstxr]

Parents be like : "Don't talk to strangers online!" And strangers online comfort me better than them

[@bigurodelaz]

Exactly

[@Justsomelycan]

I agree but it is true though there are creeps online two but there are better people most of the time then there are creepy people

[@shamaladoc1192]

True

[@Justsomelycan]

@@shamaladoc1192 what is

[@shamaladoc1192]

@@Justsomelycan his comment but some are creepy and weird tho

[@cxtrusss]

Can someone tell me why some parents, when you cry or are sad and they say. “Don’t cry- there are so many people that deal with way worse than you”? That’s like telling someone “don’t be happy, because some people have it better than you”

[@Vixen_Rose6404]

They say that then not too long after ask why you bottle things up and ask why you never talk about your feelings 🙃

[@nicoalbarn]

After I got told I had a cyst in my brain my dad told me "at least you aren't dying" so yeah, parents are just fucked up

[@mgam4963]

@@nicoalbarn your dad probably had good intentions but even so when someone is hurting you dont tell them usually that at least this or that because it just de-evaluates their feelings

[@deadroses7500]

I started crying my mom would threaten to hit me if I kept on which only made me more scared and made me wanna cry more but if I cry more ill get hit

[@justanotherstranger7741]

@@deadroses7500 I feel you because my mum would do that to my sister too. She'd yell at her and then when she started crying she would tell her to shut up. It really sucks.

[@carriehutton9081]

Leaving my toxic family behind was the best decision I have ever made. It took years for me to come to terms with the fact that they would never accept me for who I was. Given that,it is hard going through life explaining why you don’t visit your family, why they don’t visit you, why you talk to them once a year on Christmas, etc. Most people don’t get it and say things like “But they’re your family!” Dude, you just don’t know. They will never understand.

[@tiffyjiffy4759]

I feel this too there all I have but maybe I dont need them. Idk I'm getting professional help and i hope one day i can be happy again and i hope your happy too!

[@sadia2395]

I too have a toxic family though I havent cut them off.I do visit them.I have clinically diagnosed depression too.I realised that I was ridiculed for depressed behaviour ( not jumping with joy at sight of food, or new car).Initially I tried to explain to family and friend as to why I couldnt behave the way they wanted me to,but then I realised 99% people dont understand.I stopped explaining my behaviour.Not everyone needs to know everything.If you have close friends and u feel they understand, only they are worth giving explainations to,else dont bother.Just give vague neutral responses.No point getting worked up, recalling those memories,reliving the pain only to be told ' but they are your parents'.like thanks Einstein, glad u told me, else I wouldnt have known.

[@arnavyadav9081]

FR

[@SpongeMan020]

My parents always say “Why can’t you be perfect” and “Why do you draw it’s a waste of your childhood.”

[@nicolebrueckner9608]

I feel this

[@woodyscorner8536]

I know my family is toxic, how? Because I immediately clicked on this.

[@thechoisanone1903]

Me too!

[@abelaatsbeha2203]

yep ...me to

[@akalijhomentethi7983]

I think that people forget that when they have a toxic family, in more cases than not, every member of that family takes their part in being toxic, because people aren't generally mean to their children or parents just to be evil. It can be caused by stress (that the children/parents/etc) could have caused. When I was in middle school I had a toxic relationship with my mother until I asked her what I could do to change that toxic relationship we were having. It goes both ways.

[@ryanadams1729]

@@akalijhomentethi7983 yeah it is because the children have been born into a household that teaches them that toxicity is fine and normal.

[@sajahamoudi5850]

Well...... I searched for it😅

[@qwertyasdf001]

Do anyone else’s parents use “we’re a family” as an excuse to force you to do something you don’t want to do but ur siblings do?

[@mariarubtsova7711]

I don't have any siblings, unfortunately, but I hear this every single time when I say that I don't wanna do something because I'm not comfortable with it at all or just because I really can't. They force me to do stuff all the time for them. They think that skipping uni for 2 months is normal just so that they could go to their home country while I take care of the family businesses. Meanwhile they say my education is important and I have to get good grades...

[@QueenHolly832]

Yes. One time I didn't want to help clean an apartment my dad was selling because I just started my job and I had finished working 5 days in a row. It was my day off, my feet were in pain (later I would find out I have plantar fasciitis), and he was stressed out throughout the whole process and I don't like being around when he's stressed (he has a one-track mind, lashes out randomly, and is just plain rude). I told him this (except the last part cuz that would've set him off) and he said he wouldn't hold it against me. Then a month later we had a family talk and addressed the fact I never wanted to help with the apartment for WHATEVER REASON.

[@candymeltproductions5392]

Yes i hate that shit too

[@popi5476]

THIS IS MY DAD'S REASONING FOR EVERYTHING. "Aren't u a part of this family eat dinner w us". Like I wish I wasn't a part of this family don't make this harder than it needs to be.

[@lanieeperkins783]

YES!!! "heymom, i dont feel good rn, i dont really want to go hiking or to the store right now." "well i know you dont WANT to, but we're a family!"

[@byeol8254]

Parents don’t want to hear the truth from their children so they call it disrespect. I’m tired.

[@NacsSketcher]

Facts right there

[@pankajbtsarmy4708]

This is 101% true

[@Justsomelycan]

@@bonitoflakes8881 yeah that's why when im 18 im going to leave get away from my parents especially my mom she is a angry person and she is a narcissist

[@kimberly-pn1zy]

FACTSS i've had this all of my life if i want to voice my opinion it's always disrespect smh

[@Justsomelycan]

@@kimberly-pn1zy yeah and they will just say your talking back or some something

[@sets4u692]

Toxicity in the family is the worse thing to deal with. It's really sad how your so called closed ones wants to bring you down in every way possible.

[@remi80507]

my family: why are you never happy around us? me: take a guess

[@Losteternityx]

YUP....YUUUP

[@hanywhiskey]

that was an argument just two days ago. why you never smile? because I'm suffering that is.

[@_fjxp_]

Same i hate my family so much smh

[@rekkerman8842]

@@_fjxp_ even though they may be mean sometimes they love you they give you internet, tablet or pc , candies and they din't abort you

[@capybaraenjoyer]

This happens a lot in our house hold 1st) they yell at me for like 1 hour because I wouldn't do what they asked of me (Cuz I have depression and I feel fucking tired and worthless every time) and my dad tells me that I will become a clown in 5 years, that I'm worthless or sometimes that I'm not his daughter if im not easygoing or flexible 2nd) I become sad and more depressed 3rd) I have a break down and i keep those feelings inside 4th) They tell me to smile and be happy cuz when I look sad ThEy FeEL sAd 5th) I'll cry and say how I feel if they keep yelling/arguing with me and they get even more mad cuz I cry then they threaten me orrr I isolate myself from them if I can at the moment 6th) I cry even more - where I isolated myself- and I sometimes write how I feel afterwards 7th) Moments pass (like weeks or months) and they be like SomEtiMes u REallY upSeT uS cUz u LoOk MisERabLe or (this happens when if we are watching an emotional movie where the main character feels desperate) Have you ever feel like u have no place to go or like desperate if so please tell us oki? Orrrrr when they are in a good mood and they feel they're bounding with me Why aren't you're sharing things with us like ur a spy. And I'm here like: SO WHY ARE U SO HARSH TO ME FOR MY LITTLE MISTAKES YOO CHILL

[@gancanagh3570]

I remember thinking to myself “ when your parents are nice don’t expect them to actually like you. They’ll hate you in a second, just watch” and that hurts...

[@hungry8560]

I hate to admit how true this is

[@hungry8560]

Its not that they hate me, they blame everything on me when I always try to be great

[@yehezkiasegg4048]

Salted carmel this hits home HARD

[@yolandas90]

blah yeah same

[@nerbamas6940]

For me it was always "if they're being nice to you and giving you things, don't use anything they give you because they'll use it as a guilt thing, and go back to being mean"

[@gollishh]

I'm invisible at home, at school and even on the internet. Then suddenly I do something and I exist all of a sudden.

[@ebalavrotvashipsevdonimy]

ill give u a like just to give you some attention

[@evelynneclipse2069]

I'm invisible with my dad's family but not with my mum. I am very invisible at school and especially on the internet. That's why even 2 likes excites me. I tried doing something but people still ignore me.

[@ebalavrotvashipsevdonimy]

@@evelynneclipse2069 same 😖🤝 eh id so love to give more attention to people who need it but i think even this will not help

[@ichliebebaeumeweilbaum]

I really hope it will get better for you :(

[@aurora_boketto7746]

I'm listening. From stranger to stranger, I am here for you. You're not invisible to me, I see you :')

[@jessee.23]

I am a 58 years old woman, and I left my country as I wanted to flee my family (my mother, father, sister and niece). Since I lost my grandparents, 20 years ago, I feel lonely and rejected more than ever. My mother and I used to call each other quite often, but then I felt that she didn't want to talk to me anymore. She's still thinking that my life is a mess and the rare times we talk on the phone I don't know what to tell her because she doesn't like me to complain. She is the only person I could talk to and the relationship I actually experience with the man I live with is a complete disaster. Sometimes I think about dying but then I tell myself that this is not what I deserve. A toxic family is the worst thing people can experience.

[@pugmug72]

I hope things even small ones will get better ❤

[@Lonelysoul-w1s]

I’m so sorry you have been through all this please take care of yourself you deserve better ❤️

[@jessee.23]

@@Lonelysoul-w1s thank you

[@urduarabic]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤much love to mam. You survived happily god bless you🎉

[@jessee.23]

@@urduarabic Thank you.💖

[@alannysanchez3570]

Didn’t even realize I had a toxic family until I watched this, I make up lies and try to get home as late as possible because I know that my mom is just going to start belittling me. Some days are good and some days are horrible. Those good days are when we barely communicate.

[@thatnerd7351]

I can relate

[@achild7235]

Same

[@isaactoler8081]

I did for almost 17 years before breaking off. I relate.

[@gothic_dawg]

felt but for me it’s my stepmom

[@pokemonlover7259]

I spend as many days as I can at my grandma's house but most of the time it's only on weekends

[@deulalune]

I can’t even leave my parents yet. I’m scared of telling them my feelings because they’ll come up with a way to say "You shouldn’t feel like that".

[@iexist2217]

Same

[@manahilnayab7343]

i tried to tell my parents how i feel but they scolded me and blamed me for that

[@leafychild5179]

I have a plan to start a business that I'm working on so I can escape when I turn 18.

[@alyprancaythedreamwitch6929]

Hello Nobody damn, wish i could do that! through lots of therapy i'm trying to mend our relationship. speaking to my mom is like speaking in another language!

[@naritruwireve1381]

My school counsellor told my mom she suspected I have social anxiety then my mom told my entire family... Now they tell me "It's not even that hard to do (blank). Everyone has anxiety, not just you. Just go out more. Why can't you just go by yourself??" I'm afraid of what my family say if they find out I have depression too and suicide was a fantasy of mine.

[@katkapatkatapiratka]

I feel like one of the reasons many People don't Wanna be parents is because they are scared of becoming like their parents

[@clowntingz4338]

That’s probs the main reason bc my parents just seem to keep fucking up without noticing and I always feel like a burden bc of their constant blaming and guilt tripping, it’s driving me insane. I literally have body dysmorphia and anxiety and they don’t have a care in the world all they do is blame me for MY MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES and it’s driving me insane sometimes I wish I were an orphan tbh

[@jarintasnimalin6681]

I could do so much in my life in 19 years if i were an orphan. I am never going to be a mom . And i am going to leave my parents 4 my own sanity. And no one should be a parent if they feel they r not ready for this.nothing can be more brutal than bringing a person in this cruel world and then torture him/her .

[@violeta4172]

ikrr being parent is not ez at all , when I will become parents i don't want to be like them but I don't know how is that possible 😭

[@gabbysambienceofrivers4813]

If you just already KNOW YOURSELF and how you are, then that's just it. You WONT be like Nobody else except YOURSELF 💯

[@happygucci5094]

Yup.

[@fractals.]

Im tired of crying Im tired of arguing Im tired of being stressed Im tired of staying in my room the entire day Im tired of not feeling loved Im tired of being yelled at Im tired of having no one to talk to But most importantly, Im tired of being tired

[@fractals.]

It's sad that four months later this is true. I'm sorry that past me felt this

[@aderinsolaademoye2448]

@@fractals.I feel the exact same way you felt

[@jacobyearout9654]

I know how you feel

[@Sadrock316]

Feel the excat same way you felt

[@sensen4161]

I can't wait to go to college, be financially stable, and leave and never, ever see any of my family members ever again.

[@nai1729]

Guinea pigz do us all a favor and shut the fuck up

[@sensen4161]

@@guineapigz6421 aren't you an edgy tough boy. aren't you supposed to be in reddit?

[@yeahsomeoneM]

@@guineapigz6421 why so mean?

[@sensen4161]

@@ikennaonwukeme5769 i feel like i can relate to this a lot. I'm really confused and i have a hard time in keeping up with societal tasks like paying taxes, passport stuff, visa, etc etc. I wish schools could teach us this instead of "HIGGLY JIGGLY, FIND THE X AND YOU'LL BE GIGGLY"

[@cloudycaca9956]

I can’t wait til I get the fuck out of here

[@polyurethanes_3]

“Every child deserves love, but not every adult deserves to love.”

[@yehezkiasegg4048]

Jung Hoseok true 💓

[@inactive9862]

What if the child drowned 50 kittens and puppies

[@voiceofneha7196]

@@inactive9862 wtf but yeah they still deserve love and told that taking care of animals is important

[@inactive9862]

@@voiceofneha7196 what if they destroyed the economy, started world wars, killed 100k people, burns forests, not listen to other people, and punched 50 elderly people

[@voiceofneha7196]

@@inactive9862 which kid did that?

[@N0T_HIM]

I don’t like my mother, yes she gave me shelter, food, things to drink, a bed and cloths but she is negative, if she ask me to help and I mess up one thing she says your weak, your good for nothing, and she gave me scars, I’m scared.

[@SnehaMariyaJoshy]

You're not alone my dad does the same

[@mscisland]

If your old enough move out, and even if your not. Still. MOVE OUT.

[@N0T_HIM]

The people that care for me is my dad and his family that’s it

[@shenequakimbro2660]

Same with my mom and sorry you went through that. Are you in high school? College?

[@N0T_HIM]

Shenequa Kimbro I guess I’m going to 8th grade

[@madkittyjoey70]

This totally hits home for me. When it comes to the kind of family I have, making mistakes is like asking to get yelled at or talked badly about behind your back.

[@lhuynh731]

Talk me about it! It’s 24 hours for me nonstop.

[@juu2681]

Mother: " Why didn't you tell me?!!" Me inside: Probably because you'll yell at me just like you are doing right now

[@emersonkinnally8211]

Same with my mom

[@brazilbagel444]

Same, whenever I tell my mom she’s yelling at me, she’s like “No I’m not. You’re overreacting this is my normal voice.” And then I continue to feel awful.

[@jeromesol2725]

Yup, true. My mom is like this especially with academics. The smallest of mistakes she'll get mad at me. The reason why she is like this is because I'm at home and the internet is open for me to use. Such annoyingness

[@BlaecOleander]

Felt this so so so so hard 😂😂😂

[@darcyexe3752]

When she yells at you does she yell with sadness or angry?

[@MxlkyyWxyy]

Me: Hey I got diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and PTSD.. Can I get therapy? My parents: whAAAT? You're only making that up for attention! You can't possibly have those things!

[@hahahahahahahahaa6580]

The relatability of this comment genuinely hurts.

[@Vixen_Rose6404]

@@hahahahahahahahaa6580 same here....

[@mistyeclipsesone5629]

Sounds like you could have narcissistic parents too.

[@yokootersmellfunky]

question , if you haven’t gone to therapy how do you know you have all that? we’re you clinically diagnosed ?

[@Mysticwaterslife333]

Hey , stay strong and love yourself. Life gets better and you will end up where you need to go on this journey. Cheers

[@victoria-su9uj]

It’s so hard to say that your family is toxic because they aren’t toxic exactly like this but in a different way

[@ayajer7429]

Yeah same...same

[@Antony-q4g]

But my family is really toxic Each family member dont like other member

[@Garfslover]

Same

[@jasminecardona7401]

@@Antony-q4g same :'(

[@Antony-q4g]

@@Garfslover 😔😭😭

[@joelgilmer45]

I finally walked away, it took great courage! It’s like an addiction, you now they are hopeless assholes but you keep going back. Thank you father in heaven!

[@lena-wl3xt]

my mom: " you can tell me anything" me: tells her how i feel my mom: doesn't listen to me and uses it against me

[@mikeyt2022]

Whos parents is yelling at them and after 1 min they act like they are your friend, nothing happened but you still didnt recover 😔😔

[@wot-jk9mp]

FR

[@luckyadstraferr]

@@mikeyt2022 and it’s just a cycle ugh I fucking hate that they manipulate me with how nice they are backstab me with it

[@LJ_420]

@@mikeyt2022 oh is this not normal, I thought this is normal

[@zorroliu5490]

I have a lot of unfairness in my household, I kinda felt like I am worthless to my parents when ever I got an grade I think it's amazing like an B+ my parents will say something just to upset me.

[@POIUYTREWQ62]

"There's no way that I have a toxic family" "Number 1: you feel invisible" "This is getting oddly personal"

[@totallynotme6003]

You are not the only one who feels that way 😥

[@Casual-Yohoho-Enjoyer]

Yeah, some of them feel way to familiar

[@ramen4695]

number 1 hit me like truck

[@tracy.4712]

Y-yeah-

[@mikeyt2022]

Who parents is yelling at them and after 1 min they act like they are your friend, nothing happened but you still didnt recover 😔😔

[@alamthevro9489]

“Family is family, no matter how much they hurt you” disregard this mindset everyone.

[@Psych2go]

This is so true. Did you resonate with any of the signs in this video?

[@RadiantSharaShaymin]

"Family isn't by genetics, but relationship" is how I've come to think.

[@alamthevro9489]

@@Psych2go too many my friend, way too many.

[@commanderhedgehog590]

Nah I disagree with this. I consider my family a bunch of strangers who happen to live under the same roof and are blood related. It’s just that bad.

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

"You can't choose your family" was the favorite around here... I learned quickly to respond, "Yeah, Family might be biological, but CLAN is who I stick by. Clan, I get to choose... and Family can either straighten the hell up, or rot." ;o)

[@hunderwood8837]

It crushes my heart to even click on this video but the sad truth is they won’t sit down and see what’s going on with me, I tried to tell them how I feel and what’s going on and they just be mad and make it a very negative situation and in the end I go upstairs upset. I’m turning 18 anyways in like 2 months. I know how it feels to everyone else because all this trauma started from when I was 15. Please stay strong everyone ❤️

[@jessee.23]

What can save you is to find your soulmate. Then leave people who are toxic for you. No need to get upset, that's what they want, so do not let them win. Many good things to you for this new year.

[@holo6883]

Toxic parents: Beat you and emotionally manipulate you for their own gratification Also toxic parents: _mY pAReNTs wErE eVEn woRse ThaN tHis_

[@Psych2go]

Did your parents do that to you?

[@rajideva6745]

If your parents say that their parents were worse, then they shouldn't be pushing that onto you, they need to get some fucking help!!😡

[@tichat5313]

I feel you

[@GhostofTheUchiha22]

toxic parents: you live better than any other kid Also toxic parent: *puts u down, embarrasses you,makes people hate you,does literally anything to mess up ur life*

[@erika89765]

Holo I can so relate. My home environment is just awful. There’s a lot of gaslighting, (seemingly unintentional) manipulation, emotional abuse, and enmeshment. That’s just the start, to be honest- it’s much more. But thinking of the parent doing it to me... my mom’s home life makes mine seem like paradise. Her parents actually tortured her- like, TORTURE torture. There were many brutal kinds of physical and emotional abuse involved, and she never received any kind of love from anyone in her family. No one in her family- between her, her parents, and her siblings- is mentally normal... and compared to them all, she’s the closest. I see why she acts the way she does. She went through so, so much. But it doesn’t discount the fact that the way she treats me and my dad is unacceptable. I intend to cut off all forms of unhealthy relationships when I get married and have children one day... the best thing I can do is raise kids and teach them what it’s like to live in a non-toxic environment.

[@PortugueseLynx]

That's why I like living alone. No stereotypical expectations, no judgement, no harsh words, no yelling, no bashing, no taking my victories for granted, no taking my mistakes as the end of the world, just me and being okay to be me and not the perfect daughter my parents tried to choke on me for too long. But unfortunately due to the current global situation I was forced to move back to my family and now the emotional abuse is all back again, after I took so long to heal from it. Not for everyone who has to stay home to protect others and themselves means they are emotionally safe. I'm not. This is not home. This is a prison. This is not just a fight to survive from the pandemic, it's also a fight to keep my own life is not any less worth of any of those people.

[@jambamram8441]

PortugueseLynx I can’t wait to move out, and never look back

[@myboy732]

@@itsregina434 Yo fuck that as long as you're prepped gtfo

[@myboy732]

For me I just changed who I was realizing I was gaslit my entire life and well the abuse is pyscological so I just roll it off however quarantine has made issues flare what I've done was actually slowly try to change the mindsets but still being myself and letting my actions speak for me and it's worked okish. What I want to encourage is if they are being asses don't let the BS change all the progress you've made and if you're an adult stand up for yourself the more you look into them and use your "weapons" for lack of a better term the more even the playing field is. Just keep on keeping on because this will pass and life will be ok again.

[@aurora_boketto7746]

You've gotten halfway and that's a hell of a lot more than I can say for myself. I hope they don't take away all your progress and I hope you can stay brave and unbothered. Your progress was not for nothing!

[@pandaboydu2871]

then stay inside that house

[@dashmasterboss8251]

i just put on a different face depending on who i'm around family: quiet friends: memelord alone: silent pain

[@marco2832]

You described me lmao

[@patrickagokei]

Same here

[@j.t1200]

That’s me

[@staruuii]

Same

[@hannahsandefur6174]

Same. It sucks when you have a different face for each family member, then you get stuck with two that see opposite faces. Because then you gotta figure out what to do ( find excuse to leave typically or ignore one)

[@anansitinthim698]

Watching this makes me want to thank myself for studying hard enough to be able to understand English. (English is not my first language.) I'm glad seeing that people in online platforms are aware of toxic family issues. It exists and many of us are struggling. It is difficult to overcome this, but I believe we can pass through and be happy, no matter how hard it is. Stay strong everyone, I hope this comment will cheer you up.

[@urduarabic]

❤ty

[@didi7074]

*Me:* Uses school to escape from home *School closed for 3 weeks due to Covid-19* *Parents who spend a lot of time at home:* look at me and smile

[@stressed.coquette]

Same. But my dad works at school so I have no escape route😥

[@didi7074]

@@stressed.coquette Oof, I always felt bad about people who have parents who work at their school, they can watch you 24/7

[@stressed.coquette]

@@didi7074 exactly

[@erika89765]

Didi I’m in the exact same boat as you. School’s been my escape for my entire life. I’ve always hated summer. Now things are a bit better- as in I’ve slowly cut my parents off as much as humanly possible when we live in the same place. But I’m still so scared that one parent in particular is gonna find a way to hurt me or my recovering mental health drastically through this time period.

[@erika89765]

Lauren Martinez oh my goodness that’s terrible 😭😭 You’ll be in my prayers, stay strong 💞

[@thunderclancat123]

i always thought i was such a bad person for disliking my parents, since they always did the manipulating in secretive and small ways, while outwardly appearing as wonderful, perfectly nice people. i would hide in my room all the time because i just didn't want to be around them and always find an excuse to get out of the house... after watching this, i realized that was normal. almost cried when they said it's okay to feel that way, that it's a normal reaction. thanks for this video

[@beck1990]

You’re lucky 🙄

[@Yogaflame911]

Man, I feel this all the time. I love my parents but dislike them for how they treated me. Such a mind fuck

[@mr_doomspire2813]

Lonely_Football why would u put that emotion

[@beck1990]

Wdym?

[@drawingsforlife2249]

You need to know that it isn't our fault. Stay strong, and don't give up you've got this!!!!!

[@Alex-rj9sg]

When they're sending you to psychologist and then denying results while saying that's because of you acting bad while test was making.

[@azzy2808]

This has unfortunately also happened to me

[@cor-z8m]

So much unnecessary pain felt by so many in the world related to this topic. Becoming adults should be our ticket out of so many toxic situations! Strength hope and peace to all!

[@JaderTot04]

- gets yelled at and screamed at - called lazy when I'm exhausted and in pain - called names - jumps at any loud noise and has a panic attack and ends up sobbing . - no attention -really bad depression

[@bodya1337-p9x]

-lumberjack vest in profile picture

[@drawingsforlife2249]

Stay strong, because you are better than them!!!!!!!!

[@mrlenaa]

starflight wing story of my life

[@luwanyzkidsapparel3554]

this is me

[@Blackdoggoskatess6969lolololol]

same

[@Smoothsmoothie]

The sound of any of my family members footsteps coming close to me raised my heartbeat and stresses me out

[@archisadas8704]

This shouldn't be so relatable but sadly it is

[@jebelalijebel]

@@archisadas8704 i wish all of us healing. may we prosper and get away from these horrible people.

[@angels7244]

Never felt this much relatable before 😓

[@loukatos]

Only with my father...

[@raze_slayer]

same

[@maya-ci2py]

having to quarantine with my family is hell on earth. i'm literally dying inside

[@solomonstello]

I never imagined the hell you people have to go through being trapped with a crummy family for months at a time. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

[@coraline3532]

Same

[@lin_9012]

the exact same thing is happening here! i just feel so tired and theyre so controlling

[@stefaniyordanova3344]

I wish you best of luck!!! Hope you can go trough this

[@webcomiclulu9056]

Same...

[@nathanr25]

My girlfriend has an extremely toxic and abusive family. She's super sweet and we really love each other, but I can tell her parents have damaged her. She's told me she feels the most safe and loved when she's around me. That's good that she feels that way about me, but it's also sad that it has to be that way. Her parents also hate me for supporting her.

[@Mariyamahzu]

Did u guys engaded?

[@nathanr25]

@Mariyamahzu I was 16 she was 15. I'm 18 now and she's 17. We broke up because her parents filed to get law enforcement against me 🤦‍♂️

[@rohanchouhan5424]

A toxic family is even worst than a toxic relationship , 😞

[@julie-18]

You can’t escape as easily they always use the excuse “we’re your family we love you more than anyone could”

[@Amy-xt4sx]

Exactly , cause u can always cut out your toxic relationship but u can’t do anything if u have toxic family.

[@RandomPerson-fy6dn]

Yes because a toxic relationship you can leave as soon as you want but toxic family you have to wait until you are 18

[@nurazhar8008]

@@RandomPerson-fy6dn some people cant ever escape their toxic families. no matter how old they are...

[@RandomPerson-fy6dn]

@@nurazhar8008 well ima move to Canada far away from my house also block Their numbers AH SHIT I CAN RUN AWAY I

[@333bella]

my mom: "you can tell me anything" me: tells her how i feel my mom: "nothings wrong, you're overreacting, other people have it worse than you"

[@Belinda.]

My pastor always taught us to never minimize somebody pain

[@someoneyoudontneedtoknowab2298]

That is exactly what my mom does too

[@cindyc3183]

My mother, “Oh, don’t feel that way!” In the most belittling voice in the world!

[@phyllisturner8187]

Me - mum I’m so stressed from music, I don’t get a single days break even weekends I’m so tired and stressed. Mum - good, the real world is like that better to understand that now as a child. Stop stressing, you’re fine. Other kids do more and don’t complain, suck it up. My parents get angry at me and upset with me when I went to bed at 5 pm and did no practice and said that I don’t care and that I’m lazy. Getting called lazy and other names which is just great!!

[@themagicalfox6]

My mom too -_-...I've told her multiple times to stop invalidating my feelings

[@adamg7776]

I will never ever make my children feel the way my parents have made me feel. My children deserve attention, appreciation and above all, love. Unconditional, overflowing love.

[@user-kp8yj3fe1q]

me too.

[@yosshimaru7941]

Yes, unconditional love is very important here in my fcking family more brain means more attention and he will be the favourite kid of the family everything is earned love and my parents would say we don't do favouritism . Now my brother don't respect me because he feels entitled that parents are always with him, and yeah they are always with my brother, he called me trash where he says I should eat only be giving rotten things of the house , they called me adopted child I complained to my parents about this and they just don't care ,my siblings team up and fight against me, I felt a need to stand up for myself or they will keep pushing me down i was once beaten severely because of my brother's lie, so severe that pieces of wood got stuck inside my thigh from the beating I will never forget this experience. I will never practice favouritism with my family everyone will be loved equally (I'm just commenting this because I have no one to talk about this fcking family)

[@soggy4435]

I think that this generation is the generation of change. So many barriers are being broken and I believe the future will be bright💖.

[@adamg7776]

@@yosshimaru7941 I’m sorry you had to go through that. You didn’t deserve it. You’ll be a great parent!

[@adamg7776]

@@soggy4435 the future will be amazing in Jesus’ name!

[@artlover9233]

My parents were everything in this video and much,much more. The reason I sweared I would break this generational trauma with me. I got into psychology, went to therapy and made researches myself. I’m parenting my inner child and still trying to heal while also being my little sister’s emotional guidance (from another city now since I moved out). I hope everything is good enough for her. I still love my parents and realise it’s all because of their own childhood traumas but I’m angry at them for not hearing my voice when I needed them them the most. Or when I tried to talk to them about realising their own issues and how to parent my little sis. I wish them the best, but I found happiness outside home. I hope to find it in the family I’ll have one day, and the one that I have now.

[@Somesh5594]

What you deed is only way out and Safe. You heal with time and your own knowledge. God Bless You. 🙏🤍😊

[@naetz]

God bless you🙏🏼

[@orimiruku]

Why are we always told to tell our parents or guardians if something is wrong? When they are the *ones* who are *responsible*

[@divyanshpanwari348]

Plus the fact that they never seem to take it correctly when it is told that they are at fault.

[@jazzb3371]

@@divyanshpanwari348 This hit home. Imagine trying to openly and calmly try to discuss how you feel wrong, only to have that person scream and cry in anger at you for even daring to suggest they have *ever* done something wrong. It makes you not want to talk anymore. Especially if that person is decades older than you.

[@mariajose7496]

美しい漫画家 they can never be wrong .. they’re never the problem in their eyes :/

[@orimiruku]

@@mariajose7496 Exactly that's the issue

[@DarkCeleste1260]

美しい漫画家 ikr

[@waitohok5767]

When I become a parent, I’ll be the exact opposite of my parents

[@thunder6889]

Bro me too

[@alexm6653]

Me too, but that's often famous last words, right? (Keep in mind, I fully agree).

[@Andy-ly2tz]

I used to say this but now they have ruined my dreams of having a family. I'll live alone for the rest of my life, and at least I hope I'll be free and not tied to their toxicity anymore.

[@alexm6653]

@@Andy-ly2tz listen, this is only for a time to heal. I get it, I also don't want a family to protect the people that I want to get attached to. But, it will wear you down, almost to insanity. Learn from their mistake and move on, but also take the genuine lessons that they wanted you to learn from the crulty. It's not easy, but it just takes solitude, deep thinking, and time to desciper what's really right, and what isn't.

[@rockykl408]

Same bro

[@justyourlittlestar]

the 7 signs: 1. you feel invisible 2. you feel pressured 3. you feel misunderstood and discarded 4. you feel like your worth depends on what you can give, not who you are 5. you feel forced to be around them 6. they play power-politics chess with you as the pawn 7. you feel constantly unhappy being around them edit: anyone reading this, glad you found this helpful! and you deserve everything good

[@Vadamur]

Thank you so much! :) All of them check :(

[@Rozannna]

I felt all of them and now am feeling the pain now.

[@norielkaselowski3808]

@@Vadamur Same :(

[@ChainsawwNalia]

All of them 🙃

[@kindastupidrhea]

Pretty much everything

[@nithinrajeev1173]

To all those children's and adults living with toxic families, I feel you, I understand you. You will get out of it. Never loose hope.

[@MegaMegajennifer]

but i'll be old by then

[@shweta4307]

😭😭😭

[@vikeysackeykyere888]

Thanks

[@ozzza0073]

thank you sm

[@marqueritewijaya4652]

I have lose my hope, I have tried to explain my problem. But it feels like I'm talking to the walls. And they want to control every aspect of my life. Do they think I'm their doll or possession? God, entrust me to them to help me not to use and control me till I feel useless.

[@ryry3944]

I remember seeing my friend’s mom give her a hug when she cried. I don’t remember ever crying and getting a hug. Even when I got hurt.

[@fushi6701]

🤗

[@riya9ra]

Same condition here also But I wanna hug you badly

[@sylverlining6111]

Same

[@Cherry26697]

Same🙃

[@israe1663]

me too..

[@aloisbaris2456]

What is even worse is when people come with the "arguement": "they are your parents. You cant just cut them off. They know whats best for you." No. No they dont. Or are you tell me that crying alone in my bed, being yelled at for being myself, or being threatened to be kicked out for who I am is the best for me? I doubt that.

[@mgam4963]

They say that because they probably had a fully functional family theyre close minded they only see parents as good people because thats their parents they dont realize other people are better off without their parents in their lives and frankly i dont think they should tell other people who they can and cant cut out of their lives because they arent them

[@somethingunusual8456]

F*cking relate to this. When you hide who you really are everything seems to be fine but at the moment you step 5 cm across the "normal" line, you are seen as wrong, a miserable mistake they made... " What do I did wrong raising you? Why can't you be normal?"

[@trusttheprocess4775]

I get heavily criticised for just being who I am. So I try to change myself for my families liking but that hurts me so much.

[@milda2159]

OML THIS IS SO ME 🤧😔

[@natckwan]

That's simply because they can't empathize with you lol, they actually have a normal loving relationship with their parents and assume others do so too.

[@bmztaken1932]

I've felt very guilty about having to cut my family out of my life. Watching this video was a light version of what my life was before I left. Now I'm so happy with my husband and children and I love my life!!

[@nroroki]

My family: **hitting/yelling at me almost everyday** also my family when i dont talk to them, stay in my room all day: wHy wOnT YoU cOmMuNiCaTe wItH uS wE aRe yOuR FaMiLy.

[@maria.is.chilling]

Literally I get u, honestly they’re delusional 🙄

[@chubchub1307]

Delusional..

[@Robloxgirl-fs2zo]

🙄thats called punishment

[@lancemv6404]

My parents never say that. They actually don't care

[@cabbagememes2852]

In the future I am going to treat my kids Respect and give them love as best as I can

[@Cece-gg9mi]

my family ignored my huge trauma 3 times, something broke each time and they have the audacity to ask me "why are you so angry all the time ?"

[@miaa1762]

When I was 12 my mom saw concerning text messages I had sent but she acts like it never happens and that my depression just disappeared on its own 🤡

[@DeltaLunar2]

Partially irrelevant, but I think I've had a few breakdowns in school, yet my grandparents just tell me to ignore them (the students.) Not sure anyone else cared either, knowing the school system those days (bet they're the same now though.) Recently, I had a breakdown, but I feel as if my grandparents forgot about it, my grandfather more or less.

[@marjorieangilau1858]

wow. I feel for you because I am going through very similar things. My family is the same way.

[@himanshijain619]

That's hurting to hear.... something similar happened with me too

[@dudewholikesfood6769]

Don't let them get to you if you can or try again I do whatever you can to get out as soon as possible

[@themushroominside6540]

When they say, "why are you stressed? IM THE ONE THAT IS STRESSED!" they play it off as if their state of being, is more important than my state of being, as if my suffering is something insignificant to theirs.

[@uhwhat9732]

Literally... I am 18 and of course i have some cravings so when i ask my mom to buy me something that costs 0.80$ she's like "WE DON'T HAVE MONEY, WHY DON'T YOU THINK ABOUT THAT?!" and then talks about how poor we are. Then i wake up and she tells me she spent 20$ on food that is practically enough to feed 2 families(she does that every second day). It's not about food or money, it's just that she denies anything i want. I think they forgot how hard is to be a teenager today as we lean on our friends more than our family plus they play "i have it worse!" card, but little do they know it's destroying us little by little. I would say that it's best to tell them everything as it is, no matter how mad they get. You are their child, you didn't choose to be born so it's their obligation to raise you... Sometimes i really envy people with supportive parents :/

[@worldwidewebdot]

My parents always tell me how bad their life is ... Sometimes I want to do it like them and whine abt my life too. But they wont let me struggle with anything. THEY ARE THE ONE DEALING WITH BAD BAD THING - I AM THE LUCKY STUDENT IN SCHOOL, WERE ONLY SUNSHINE AND RAINBOWS EXIST!!! God, I hate them.

[@uhwhat9732]

@@worldwidewebdot I mean, i don't know if this counts as disrespecting them but i usually say that they shouldn't complain about things that their children can't understand, but i always let them know that they probably experienced everything we are experiencing right now so they should listen even tho they never have an answer... I guess that i'm lucky that my parents aren't strict so i can always point out their faults (IT'S LIKE I'M THEIR PARENT), but try telling them in respectful way that you want to rely on them little bit. I suck at giving advice and i don't know how to do it in English but i'm really trying xd

[@worldwidewebdot]

@@uhwhat9732 My parents arent strict either. I only live with my mother and she never seems interested in my life. I always had to care for her ... but since last year I refuse to be my mothers servant. At the same time she thinks, now that her depression isnt so bad anymore, she could be a "parent again". (I turned 18 - means there is nothing to learn from her. I am definitly stronger than her) Sry for my long,long answer. Sometimes I have to whine XD And thank you for your advice! So nice of you^^

[@silvia51433]

This happens me constantly with all situations you can imagine If I have a headache, my mother's one is much worse. If my knees hurt (I have a not too important but disturbing problem there), my mother tells me that she's been suffering that pain since she was 10 and never complains about it. If I feel exhausted, anxious, kinda depressive or something like that, she tells me that's NOTHING, bc look at her, she's the one who suffers all those things. She even made me feel crazy bc when (about 2 years ago) I said I needed glasses, she only said me that I was looking for attention. And guess, I wasn't and for now I've been having glasses for 1'5 years. I'm really tired of this situation

[@waterylemon6880]

There's a difference between toxic and normal families. Thank you for making this video. Now people can see if their families are toxic or not. I hope its not though and thank you for putting that there's no perfect family. It will help identify if it's just normal or if they're toxic. This helped me so thank you!

[@ladymonne]

"you only feel loved and accepted by someone when you live up to their expectations of you." Gdi it hurts.

[@cyo_gollyna]

@@navier7155 I'm 13 too. ,_, I know it won't help you significantly but I'll give you the jar of lasting hope that I somehow managed to keep buried. Hiding in a closet of secrets is what secured it as well. Both figuratively and (kept me safe) physically. I may not have the exact same opinions, situations, or thoughts like you, but the least I can do is to be here as support. You can reach out for that safety net, it should be around the corner. You have more of a chance than I do. After all, I'm invisible.

[@muakinin2091]

@@navier7155 the sad thing is that we can't help you outside of trying to give you some hope, I wish I could help you

[@elenaa5536]

Me with no dad and no siblings: no toxicity. Modern problems require modern solutions

[@ashtonhunter4727]

Ha lol. Same

[@calimorale9880]

No mom no siblings. Dads childhood seemed to be mostly the first sign.

[@teddylill4802]

I always thought all people were toxic

[@aloeveil]

Epic.

[@kinglunarchy9417]

I only have a mom and it's extremely toxic

[@kaychaperez7588]

Every child deserves love, but not every home needs a child

[@lourdes211]

that's not how it's supposed to b-

[@dragonblood800]

Some people dont deserve to have children. If the parent will only treat them with coldness and disrespect, they dont deserve their child.

[@kritika3565]

And not everyone capable of reproducing needs to have a kid

[@matheussanthiago9685]

child of a unsustainable family here: it's true

[@neoyaneoya6710]

👌👌👌

[@_Blank_Blank_Blank_]

Just right now when I am feeling so sad with what is happening in my life, I decided to open KZbin to see this as the first video ever recommended to me. Thank you

[@noluckpur3skill737]

It’s really sad that my teachers love me more than my parents.

[@mariagarciasanchez289]

Oh, I’m Here for you, youI’ll be fine💕

[@worldwidewebdot]

I realized I love my teachers more than my mother. ... My teachers are so clever, kind and know the right things to say most of the time. My mother is just negativ all of the time - even after telling her to stop.

[@daijavesnic8610]

I hope you are better now❤️

[@sensen4161]

Same here.

[@ninkiku_157]

Also same

[@kateiry4719]

Someone: Family is the warm sunshine My family is a deadly laser beam

[@sammich6858]

The sun is a deadly laser

[@thereisalwaysarainbowafter1364]

Long exposure to the sun can cause skin cancer and ultimately death. This is why people invented sun block

[@cookierunkingdom8674]

@@sammich6858 NOT ANYMORE THERES A BLANKET~ (The police find out and your parents go to jail and get a new better family)

[@cookierunkingdom8674]

I made this up btw I'm not going through anything! :3

[@controversialCoven]

Kate Iry we can be that ozone layer to help you. Venting is okay and if the toxicity is too terrible, please talk to someone. Wether it’s just a friend, or the CPS, people are there for you.

[@sisi5502]

Said yes to every question. I am still rebelling. I won't give up. God bless you all. ❤️

[@sophiee.elliee]

Same yes to everything

[@teddylill4802]

And your parents may go to hell then,my friend

[@hael2514]

I pray for your safety!

[@shilpanova]

Power to you ❤️

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for sharing! We are here for you! Which sign did you resonate with the most?

[@pranav945]

Tip For parents: please pleasee try understand what you’re child is going through don’t always think what are you thinking is always right as people grow they can make their own decisions! And some people like me can’t even express what they want to tell parents , this happens because since from the childhood you have to talk to your child freely and lovingly like saying I love you everyday and praising your child for what they have achieved,etc.. You have to create a positive environment for your child Let’s talk a example: if you’re son/daughter is suffering from something or he/she having a serious problem, you know what they will do? They call to their friends/people who understands them and asks them to give them a solution for them to save themselves from that problem they won’t call you because they know you will not understand them and all you will do is shouting at them and they don’t even tell you happened!! Soo please be nice with your child they don’t need anything from you... They just want your love and caring...

[@Honey-ig1nm]

To everyone going though this under the quarantine..We are not alone.

[@brifromdowntown]

Honey u too

[@Honey-ig1nm]

Thank you so much!

[@badass0073]

You need to get back care your life & emotions first. Talk to yourself dont judge you & them. Just be the better version than feeling guilt. This will not end are you prepared whats next coming? So stay strong dont worry. I invite you to Islam. Please research about quran & Sunnah. Be yourself. Have some extended purpose. Thanks mate.

[@ayajer7429]

U too

[@iamacatt5050]

i hate this lockdown. i just wish i can get out of this darned hell hole.

[@bananapopproductions1292]

"Why do you never talk around us?" "well, i..." "Speak up." *Slightly louder*: "I feel..." "Don't raise your voice at me."

[@mikeyt2022]

Whos parents is yelling at them and after 1 min they act like they are your friend, nothing happened but you still didnt recover 😔😔

[@mikeyt2022]

every time I talk back to my parents: *Them* Can you do the dishes x 🥰 *Me* Sorry my hand hur- *Parents* SHUT UP I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND, DoNt SpEaK tO mE LiKe ThAt

[@zeezeecupidz]

@@mikeyt2022 yep 😔 after a fight they all act nice uwu ect ect like NOTHING happened.. Like umm? I still remember everything.. That's why I have trust issues with my mom.. Like? Should I trust you or what? One second you'll be mean and the next second you'll be happy uwu giving an apology bluh bluh bluh.. Like I still remember it.. What if after the apology you'll be mean to me?

[@KydLives]

I swear that is so annoying whenever they do that

[@jcbanbury]

@@zeezeecupidz be careful, this is abusive, trust me

[@kerubinadj3937]

Some visible signs: -You don’t have your own opinion -You’re a yes man -it’s ok if anyone else expresses themselves, but it’s bad if you do -You wonder what you did wrong again -very clingy to a seemingly loving person -wonders why people ask and rely on your help, but doesn’t care about you any other time -their always busy (even when not) -when you have a full mental breakdown: you find yourself eating soup with your hands, and you realize how good it feels to break some “normal rules” (just through an example).

[@alywayart]

quarantine is extra hard when you’re a minor and living with a toxic family. i hate school, but id much rather be there with friends and my boyfriend than at home edit : i have noticed MANY people responding who have gone through similar things as I. Just remember that you are loved and valid. You are important. The sun always rises in the end

[@mishussy]

Me too man

[@shhehd1513]

Same

[@MahaswetaMDas]

Love and light to you 🙏🌸🕯📿💐

[@canadianprincessplays7247]

True😭 they just hurt me even more. I've cried so many times during quarantine. I'm starting to get very sick and tired ;( (suicidal thoughts) 😥💔

[@alywayart]

CanadianPrincess Plays stay strong friend, you will be rewarded for getting through the tough times. a rainbow can only come after a storm

[@pencilwithoutlead5895]

when I went over to meet my boyfriend's family, I was genuinely surprised at how kind and nice everyone seemed to be to him, to enjoy his company. when I asked them why they were so nice to me and him, they simply explained because they liked my presence and enjoyed my company. I didn't understand that, for them, that was healthy, normal behaviour. I still feel very uncomfortable around his family because a part of me worries they're faking it. I hate this quarantine and I miss him.

[@mrn1566]

I have a similar story, my flatmate and a very good friends and his family came for a visit and they actually invited me to have dinner with them, which I was so pleasantly surprised at and they showed me nothing but love. And I almost cried durning that evening multiple times because I felt more love from his father in a day than my dad in 19 years(my age) that really hit hard on me. Because I was that "perfect" child getting good marks and achieving things to get my dad's love and to see what a healthy father-son relationship looks like just had in me in tears.

[@Soda_Kat]

Don’t let go of these kinds of healthy people in life it will make life worth living I wish I had it

[@phonixnightshade3919]

Same similar ways except it's with my boyfriends family they are extremely toxic and I feel better leaving when I'm with my own family they're positive aura makes me feel better but when I go back home to his family it doesn't get better I think the worst thing is that my boyfriend wants me to stay quiet about the life style but after watching this I know for certain I feel better knowing that this is wrong his family always made it seem like I was always in the wrong that they were right and I wasn't and with this virus going on its even harder to get away from these people now I stand my ground and defend myself more often now even with his mom she is really terrible

[@etam8099]

I thought my familiy was normal until i saw a real nornal one...

[@endirareeknauth760]

When the toxicity is so much that all the children in the family are depressed and one even commited suicide from it. Damn...

[@mehp_]

Are you okay? Do you need help? A household like that is not one to live inwhatsoever, I hope you get the help you need and I hope your doing better now

[@faith978]

Its like you're describing my life

[@hsmacaraig]

call the police, get help or do anything, that’s so messed up.

[@endirareeknauth760]

@@hsmacaraig ha no i live with my mom now so hehehe its worse but I'll be fine

[@graceallison7155]

Endira Reeknauth Oh, you do really need to reach out, it’s not okay. 💕 You’re better than this 🥰

[@Ap0logyg1rl]

im literally in tears. I can't wait to start my own family and cut the abuser cycle in my family. My kids will get the love and life i always wanted

[@didi7074]

*Everything is accurate* *My family:* YOU are the problem, YOU are the weird one, YOU are the one making mistakes and bad decisions, YOU

[@didi7074]

@keeran uwu I pretend to disappear from their lives and I know they will ask why I became a ghost 🙄 Always playing the victims card

[@didi7074]

@keeran uwu "Oh, but we are your family, you can't abandom family, what if your friends and boyfriend leave you? You only can count with us" I already heard this things and I didn't even left my parents house yet!

[@ohohnenyeoo2654]

Didi me too.

[@j.t1200]

Exactly

[@woooooooooooooooooooooooo]

Yea, they blame me for everything.

[@Robin-lp6lx]

"Theres no perfectly peaceful family" My friends family: hold my tea

[@AngelZoe-xc5xm]

They probably fight when you aren’t around. My friends family seems perfect, but she always tells me how much her dads a jerk.

[@500days.]

AngelZoe2008 It was a joke-

[@nameless9261]

Please stay strong. One day we will have the chance to stay away from their toxic behavior

[@rajideva6745]

😭

[@Psych2go]

Now I'm curious! What's your friend's family like?

[@discombobulatingrodents]

"You feel misunderstood and discarded" That hit close to home for me, yikes. I can't tell you how many times I've tried to ask my parents for help regarding my mental health. Their only response would be disregarding it and telling me I'm being overdramatic or calling me a psycho and saying we don't have "crazy" people in our family. Then they get mad at me for hiding shit from them and confiding in my close circle of friends instead smh

[@squidwordz]

Aesterath my mom tells me i’m too young to be depressed

[@LlMlNAL]

My mom yells at me abt how she had it worse at my age and that I'm just feeling sorry for myself.

[@squidwordz]

Cosplay Cat Criminal my mom does that too.

[@Alexis-xp1gb]

I understand that. My parents tell me that nothing can be wrong with me because I'm young:/

[@ambergalvano9224]

Wow, this is 💯💯💯

[@skatingdonefurther3063]

My heart goes out to everyone in these situations I’ve suffered and still do with all of these things to where I just go out far where they can’t find me. Where I can feel free. Where I can truly be me.

[@jinjerbearturtle2296]

I'd rather be always ignored than often be getting yelled at

[@dudewholikesfood6769]

Facts

[@BigBooMama666]

When people say that they yell at us coz they want to teach us,no bro they yell at us coz they’re fucking retarded

[@lilithrealm]

I have both treatments

[@pumpkingolem9122]

death note was good untill episode 20

[@zeighartsanimations3602]

Same

[@NostalgiaMan]

I grew up with this and still have it every second I see them. I even had a family member laugh in my face at me explaining my sadness's and problems. I hate my family now and wish I could have left years ago.

[@sophi1321]

feel you man... i just hate my whole family other than my brother, sister and my cousins.

[@BigGamingBossMan]

Hope you’re doing okay. We’ll get away from them someday

[@sadhanarai5997]

My bro is very cruel he threatens my mom that he will will commit suicide for every small thing he could not get from her what should i do My mom is very scared and she keeps giving him everything he demand even she is not able

[@sophi1321]

@@sadhanarai5997 uhh idk that's pretty spoiled

[@alanmawson2187]

Do you wish to die before them or idk whatever leave & never see them again

[@nicolemosholder5547]

I’ve grown up with a toxic family, it doesn’t get easier has you grow up.

[@nahiedlaila9601]

No exactly it gets even worse!:( i am getting more depressed everyday and crying constantly out of despair and misery. I feel cursed and punished. Why always me why do people hate me so much! I am losing hope in people they r all the same no empathy these days its a cruel world and it only seems to get worse

[@yasimm4778]

Say it louder.

[@drixroku2747]

Bro my family always wants something in return for helping me which is fine and all but they want profit out of everything I do so they can use me... They guilt trip me all the time... So yeah it doesn't get any better until you free yourself.

[@mariarubtsova7711]

@@drixroku2747 I can relate. My parents always say "we will do anything for you, just ask" and when I ask (even something small) the answer is always NO. Then they expect something huge "in return". I'm tired of this.

[@haseenabadshah5381]

as*

[@mawwa1878]

My parents completely messed me up, no contact for officially a year. Technically I broke no contact for 10mins because my parrot that’s been with me passed away and I called for baby pictures of him but other than that it’s been a really rough ride. First 3 months I was energetic happy and enthusiastic. But then I realized how messed up I really am, i let a lot of people use me as comedic relief and allowed it to happen and had a large past of getting bullied by kids and adults. Therapist said I have cptsd, I was forced to mask my adhd my whole life until now and finally got on medication. I’m really against medication but thankfully it’s reduced alot of symptoms. It’s just I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t wanna interact with people anymore and it sucks because I know there’s nice people out there but being in a toxic work environment is definitely not helping with process. I wish for anyone that’s suffering the best of healing. My biggest mistake was telling myself I’m healed. I’m far from it.

[@SV-bf3kw]

"when you are young they assume you know nothing" -T.S.

[@alexsmith2188]

Hey lol

[@TY-so4cg]

They say u no nothing abt life but you really know what it is...

[@lesleyvivien2876]

My parents assumed that my brother and I were born knowing everything, so they didn't have to teach us a thing. They just had to be on hand to tell us every time we did something wrong.

[@SV-bf3kw]

virtual hugs everyone xx let's just make sure that our future kids won't end up with toxic parents :')

[@heheheenzzz2150]

Exactly😔

[@lunarclipsev7920]

"tell us what's wrong" Also them: "It's that damn phone, your sopposed to be studying! Don't let me catch you on cartoon"

[@NacsSketcher]

Dang, they didn't know that phones actually helped us cope with anxiety.

[@miserableprodigy]

internet friends > parents

[@outakusan8892]

Like seriously

[@outakusan8892]

By “ cartoons” do u mean anime “

[@akilla2724]

My family never ask that overall

[@melocalvin5851]

When my family says "You can always count on us when having a hard time" I never talk to them because when I do they tell me I'm overreacting so My solution: The Internet The Internet is my psychologist

[@lanieeperkins783]

YES!!! mom: "your depressed and have anxiety because your on your computer all day" no, its because im around you all day! i watch yt vids on how to deal with my parents and how to make money and move out!

[@robertcowles1997]

Shit dude, my family always compounded the problems I was facing. They have been on a strict information diet for years. They don't know who my friends are, who I am dating, where I work. I give zero information, because why should I? They are only interested insofar as they can meddle.

[@ukewithme6792]

Same mate

[@Xyzjro]

Edit: forgot to say, they have been Emotionally and physically Abusing me. To the point where I asked them for a pet, without them even realising that Charlie /The galah Cockatoo/ is helping me to cope with stress anxiety depression and more. I like SCHOOL MORE then my own home, my imagination is Basically my own family, harsh to say, but true. Wish someone could help me. Its sad knowing that I trust my teachers and friends more then my own parents and siblings. I've been thinking of running away, or ending my life, but I can't, I wish I could, but I can't. When im with my family i can bearly be Happy Smiling Exited Talking to them I have a billion more but can't remember them..

[@arifaziz3744]

I feel that-

[@charlottenowbloom]

My heart goes to those who're in toxicity of any Kind. God is faithful.

[@quinnzoee]

Did you mean " 7 signs of my family"? Ok just finished the video and I'm about to cry.

[@leahuwu9950]

Bro- :( same

[@chubchub1307]

@@leahuwu9950 I'm crying in a bathroom right now :)

[@leahuwu9950]

@@chubchub1307 ains QwQ I know this is very difficult but things have to get better someday, I still have hope

[@achild7235]

Same but if my mom here’s she’ll yell

[@drep8840]

same bruh .... + my father stole my insurance money (my mother died and i lost an eye) so he was buying BMW with my money ... but even when my mom was alive (and had a tumor ) he cheated on her and stole her money to buy a motorbike ( it lasted 12 days and broke it...) then when my mother died and i had a accident and lost an eye it took 2 fucking day for him to bring me to an hospital .... ( now i dont see him and im okay with that )

[@erica7001]

I felt like the villain for thinking they're toxic, I don't think I could ever recover from this

[@dhexv5947]

Yeah that's what I feel too... It's like I love them but I hate them. I'm angry at them but my mind always says that I shouldn't be... That even if I was been hurt, It's like I don't have the right to say my feelings So tough

[@israe1663]

@@dhexv5947 thats how i feel too!

[@dhexv5947]

@@israe1663 yeah it's really hard to live in this kind of situation, but we must be strong!💓...now I just ignore all of the bad things they throw towards me, it's hard but I forgive them and just let it be. Cuz I don't want to ruin my life. So, I'm just doing what I love and things that makes me happy, I'm looking for the passion and inspiration, and thats what makes me wanted to live every moment that I have, because I think doing this is the best choice and also for the future to be much brighter. I hope you too

[@israe1663]

@@dhexv5947 aww thank you, have a good life

[@desireeocampo9698]

Agreed

[@catalina4033]

My parents literally ruined my life, I have struggled with depression, anxiety, eating disorders, etc. And they don't realize that is their fault, I have told them, but they say that I'm ungrateful with them because they stopped to do their life because of me. I just want to finish college and run away from them, they have hurt me so much 😞

[@guineapigz6421]

Be greatful for them, one day you will understand

[@catalina4033]

@@guineapigz6421 lol that's so toxic. No one is obligated to love their family, families can be abusive

[@guineapigz6421]

Parents would not have kids just to abuse them

[@catalina4033]

@@guineapigz6421 Not every person is meant to be a parent. I am a teacher now and If you knew how many kids are neglected by their parents u would be surprised

[@goldenbird514]

Same but now I'm starting to learn how to deal with them. Bc I truly lost a lot bc of them.

[@masaklevel0117]

I was raised in a toxic family. I was not important in my family but everyone expect me to do the chores. I was happy at school but when it was time to go home the feeling of unhappy suffocated me. I was so jealous of my friends because their family seems so happy and they love each other. Meanwhile at my home I always being shamed and guilt tripped. Shame on me because I did not do the chores. Shame on me because I am not smart like everybody else. If my siblings finish eating and they pile their dirty dishes on the sink it was my fault because I did not work hard enough to keep the house clean. If I take a rest and my father came home from work I am a lazy bum who is just a burden to the family. Actually I am amazed how I am still alive and strong nowadays. I thank God because He keep me safe until today. This little unworthy filthy burdensome slave of my family is still alive and having a pretty good life. Amen.

[@calisthaloovi3079]

I'm lonely, but i don't need anyone, i just need myself

[@rosiesarered7433]

“Do you wanna be lonely in life?!” me: says nothing because I know it’s going to turn into a lecture Them: thinking I don’t want to be alone “That’s what I thought.” My mind: “being lonely is great. I can’t wait to live in an apartment alone.”

[@leagregorio8876]

I just need to find myself first I do not know who I am

[@mydoggycallmebitch4424]

@@leagregorio8876 yes! If ur alone Doesn't mean that ur unhappy or lonely.

[@katakana1268]

Yessss I can relate to you !

[@TyeArtisik]

Same

[@raine2353]

I can't believe I have to live with these people as "parents". I'm counting the days until I turn 18. I'm gonna be waiting at the door with my bags packed at 11:59 pm ready to go.

[@andioop4287]

Good luck girly I will pray for you and hopefully you will be able to support yourself afterwards🙂❤️

[@worldwidewebdot]

Wish you the best! I thought of the same thing ... but have no job yet^^"

[@jszn1]

@@worldwidewebdot ughh same

[@hidpqnc]

No joke I'll come with you. I'm turning 18 soon too and I already got a bag prepared. Nothing much besides food tbh but I don't want these clothes bought by _them_

[@alessiacerracchio5941]

Guys I know that well.. I was for 26 years with my toxic family.. Now i have a job, i can soon live in my new apartment.. Just be strong enough untill then. 💪🏿❤️

[@deathnote4199]

my family is causing me too much depression that my behavior worsen. i always feel good whenever I'm outside hanging out with friends seeing beautiful scenery, but when I'm with my introvert family it was like prison. i dont want to wake up from a beautiful dream, morning til night same rude faces, same lifeless house, same boring routine. "i feel forced being arround them" exact words

[@g2h_farhan]

How the fuck I wake up from a dream to a nightmare

[@KM-up2tr]

Same feeling

[@befzwf1458]

They don’t even let me outside without them consider yourself lucky

[@yugen_l]

@@befzwf1458 Same then they start blaming me for being antisocial and not interacting with ppl

[@befzwf1458]

@@yugen_l i live the same thing then they insult me for not being social with them and people what make it worse is that people in my age do lots of things while the only thing I can do is study but we must believe that we can get ourselves out of it some day

[@Godsgirl4life]

I felt every bit of this.. I feel as if it got worse after my mom passed away. I was only 15 when she left and it turned into control. Now if I don't agree with them on certain things im automatically in the wrong. I love my family but at the same time, when it comes to dealing with them at times, I am overwhelmed. If I don't see things the way they do, again, I am the problem and less of a christian. at the same time i often feel alone because no on understands. I was talking to one person in my family yesterday and I said I physically and mentally don't have the energy to deal with these unchanging situations (about another family member) and her response: "Well the difference between you and I is I care about others and you don't!" that got to me. In this world, its so lonely.

[@deonambrose]

The reason why we don’t tell our parents anything, is because they will tell it to the entire family.

[@marqueritewijaya4652]

That's so damn true

[@6xmaaaa]

Exactly that’s why I don’t tell anything to my parents anymore.

[@intan8718]

Truee i cannot keeping a secrect at all, and then i dont hv someone to share ;( i feel lonely and useless

[@animeedit3707]

Criticism or blaming onto yourself is the reason for me.

[@Grandmaster_Vic]

Ooffff I can relate to this