What’s The Fastest You’ve Turned From Caring To Hating Someone?

[@HeyItsBonnieBee]

Here's my personal add-on to this one: my 'best friend' suddenly ghosted me when I went through some pretty serious mental health issues. I was in hospital for a couple of weeks, getting treated for said issues, and she didn't visit once. When I messaged her once I got out, she replied 2 weeks later with a sort of break-up text, saying she felt overwhelmed on how to reply, and she thought we should no longer be friends as I no longer helped her 'grow in positive ways'. Thanks, bestie. - At least I learned who my real friends are throughout this experience. :)

[@harmonymoxham1719]

I hope you are doing better now❤

[@HeyItsBonnieBee]

Much better, thanks you!@@harmonymoxham1719

[@XodiaqKey]

The one of his fake friends lying to him about the party, I have a very similar experience. I invited a group of friends out to a restaurant. They said they would all talk and decide whether they were going to go to the restaurant or just stay at home. About 30 minutes later I didn't get a response but I was starving so I decided to go to the restaurant alone. Guess who was there... all of them. Already in the restaurant but not responding to my messages, despite all of them having their phone in their hand. I just turned around and go home. It was a rough night alone buy it showed me who they really were.

[@sugarcaffeine4blood]

Oh I got one for this video... It was back in my early 20's; when I wasn't as confident in myself and I was trying to make friends when I met this girl. I met her after leaving a convention and she was slumped over in a subway chair. I helped her out and we became friends. Well friends for me but a toy for her to copy off of to 'seem more interesting'. I wanted so much to be her friends but then it turns out she didn't like me very much. Everything from inviting friends group from the a mutual group except me (I tried to be understanding, not everything had to have me in it), trying to parasite herself off my then bf(holding his hands in front of me, hugging him, found them gazing at each other. It turns out she did this to other friend's partners), copying me from my weird little phrases to (then) ignorant sayings to my hobbies like knitting to dyeing her hair red like mine. I started to snap out of it when I invited her to my family's house for lunch, she said a lot of terrible things about stuff regarding my culture. How my incense smelled 'weird' and freaked out at seeing a whole dead chicken to saying "I'm not that Asian (she's white)" when I made a pot of English tea for us to have and wanting to drink out of a rice bowl because it's 'more authentic that way." I banned her from my house and started distancing myself around her. I finally cut her out of my life when she told a dude she was interested in, "oh I don't listen to what sheee says, I just let her talk herself out." Misgendering me on purpose and dissing me to impress a guy who didn't end up liking her. Years later she says a bunch of stuff that makes her look better, 'oh I let a boy get between us' and 'oh when I kicked him out of my life, my life became drama free.' which are both lies... she loves making up drama with her as the victim as she pulls stuff like that. Now I hate that girl and it becomes my unskippable cut scene...

[@thedarkdragon1437]

16:10 whoever thinks he wasn't let go for that comment...shall we say.... "greg has been let go" is the corporate speech for "we don't tolerate shit like this." Beurocracy just takes time, especially if you have to get lawyers and cops involved, which i'm sure the manager did. it's the only reason it took so long and nobody else commented on it either.

[@thedesensitizedsympathizer5307]

Is it bad that I didn't feel discusted from that comment? I didn't feel good about it ether, but I just felt neutral about it.

[@Flamsterette]

Thanks for the upload during my September 2023 birthday month!

[@JackieDaytona01]

Story 18 is my life!!!! That exact same thing happened to me only difference was I was 27 and we were married.

[@yemu8045]

This one girl in my class has always been very popular and rather good looking. I have decent social skills with people in my friend group and semi-decent skills with people I haven't talked to. If you tell any of the people that know me to describe me there are two words that most of the people would say. Respectful and nice. I haven't done anything to that girl except being nice to her. I've helped her with her with some work and haven't said anything bad about or to her. A few days ago there was a conference. We're all in groups of 6 in 4 tables. I got there kinda late and the only seat remaining was in front of said girl. l go to the seat and I hear her whistper to her friends "here comes this idiot". I was devastated. I already have low autoesteem and this ruined the rest of my day. Since that I've tried to brush it off and pretend like she doesn't exist like everbody else does to me but I can't help but to wonder. Why are people so judgemental to me when I haven't said a word to them? Everywhere I go I get weird looks. I'm not the type of person to apear on r/niceguys but I can't help to notice that it's always the girls. I don't have any female friends (saying female because I respect them not the other way around). I'm friends or atleast have a decent relationship with all of the males in my class but there's basically only one girl in my class who I've had a conversation with in the last 3 months. I apologize for my rambing and english isn't my first language (+I'm only 13) so my english is... questionable at that.

[@jeoshy1873]

Tbh girls and boys at that age are filled with hormones. If you already know how to talk to guys, then you can talk with girls. I advise to talk with the quieter, shyer girls. They are the nicest at that age

[@Polopony20.]

15:17 wow this story is almost exactly my parents. Except my dad refuses to divorce her.

[@VoiceOvaGuy]

Was talking to a chick for about 6 months, we flirted often and got along really well. When it came to me asking her out though, she always cancelled or gave some excuse. Turns out she was in an abusive relationship with a guy that gave me psychopath vibes, something was just wrong with this guy. Even after he beat her and left bruises on her neck down she ran back to him. That's the short version anyways, I was really into her and that hurt me a lot. Went from being head over heals to wanting absolutely nothing to do with her almost in the blink of an eye. Some people are just destined for a miserable life at the hands of their poor decisions.

[@alistairvetta5708]

I didn't make to the end of the video, too relatable

[@daringterra4046]

I was ten and my older sister started using people, I mean more than she already did just to get her way. The sound of her voice makes me physically sick now.

[@msanniefinds]

When my husband of 15 years (and father to our two boys) came up to me while I was putting the dishes away (while our oldest son who was 10 years old at the time was in the next room and could hear everything) and said, "I want to f**k other women." When I didn't respond because I thought it was a joke, so I waited for the punchline. Then he got mad and raised his voice yelling, "I WANT TO F**K OTHER WOMAN!" That's when I realized it wasn't a joke. When I started to get upset and cry, he looked shocked. Then he said, "I thought you'd be happy about this." When I suggested marriage counseling thinking he was going through some midlife crisis, he got irritated again and told me how he wasn't going to change his mind about what he wanted. I realized quickly the extent of his lies (he had been cheating on me for a while but wanted to have an 'open marriage' so he wouldn't feel so guilty), and that he had been lying to me and everyone in his life (even his own mom) as long as I've known him. I was too blind to see because I truly believed that the man I married wouldn't lie to the people he loved. But once his lies began to crumble the extent of them became clear. I hated him for so long but now, I feel absolutely nothing for that man.

[@Flamsterette]

I feel nothing for you. Paragraphs are a good idea here.

[@sapphirewingthefurrycritic985]

When I realized that my mom didn't even bother to get to know my likes and dislikes.

[@KageAkame]

Recently: my mother. These past few years, she has made the stupidest decisions that have me baffled. On top of that, I got a bad habit of getting overly emotional when I start sucking at video games. Rather than ignoring me and letting me sweat it out, she calls my phone, telling me to shut up, adding to my current issue. She also has destroyed some of my old systems. I told after I moved in that she puts her hands on my current systems, I'd call the cop cause I'm not putting up with that anymore.

[@dutchvanderbilt9969]

I was helping my uncle pack up his stuff as he was moving and he got to talking about how honest Fox News was and sounding like a rabid dog all the while. And I said something to the effect of "Well if Fox News told you to blow your brains out would you do it?" And my aunt who was also helping said "Don't you disrespect him! Your father failed to raise you!" Now believe you me when I say I genuinely entertained the idea of murder in that moment. I just stared at her not able to find anything to say and I'm ashamed to admit that when no one was around I cried. My uncle later tried to gas light me and saying that my aunt had done nothing wrong and I wanted to punch him so bad you have no idea. At this point I'm just waiting for her to die so I can dance a merry jig on her grave. And if she out lives my father I hope that she doesn't come around because I will chase her off.

[@Vanilla_Neko]

To be fair to the first story I probably would have done the same thing if somebody initially just straight up denied showing up to something that important to me and then without even letting me know out of the blue decided they would just show up at fucking midnight Honestly I'd be pretty pissed with them too If you change your mind you could at least give me the courtesy of a phone call to say hey we changed our mind and we're on our way Like yeah if my family straight up said hey we're not coming and then I was like fuck it I guess I'll spend one more night with a guy I like and then suddenly my family's banging on the door like JK we need a place to sleep idk to me it seems like a valid reason to be at least a bit upset And pretty much all the issues in this situation could have been avoided by just giving her a quick call / text that says hey we changed our minds we're actually going to try to rush down there tonight

[@nishidkhode8604]

They told her and she said she would let them stay at her place

[@QueArres]

I'm not sure if it's caring to hating, but more having someone I adored knocked so far off their pedestal that I've had to go low contact with them. The short version is that it involved who my dad voted for in the 2016 election. The longer version: I was having growing concerns about the Republican candidate, particularly in regards to how he treated women. I noticed that my dad was posting a lot of right wing stuff singing his candidate's praises; my dad has been a lifelong, card carrying Republican, so it wasn't that much of a surprise. But the more and more extreme his rhetoric got... it really made me uncomfortable that my dad was so openly supporting him. So, I sent him a private message, asking him to please tell me that the only reason he was voting for him was because he was the Republican nominee. It would have been easy enough for him to just say that was it, or that he didn't like the Democrat candidate, but no. Instead, he went off on an absolute rant about how I was being disrespectful, about how if I voted for anyone else, I was disparaging veterans (mind you, I hadn't mentioned anything about veterans, but I had said I was worried about women's rights). I told him that if that was how he felt, then I wasn't going to speak to him, and promptly blocked him. It was a real shock, because up until that moment, I thought my dad and I were more or less on the same page with the important things. His words made it clear that party affiliation was far more important than his own daughter's wellbeing. We're on speaking terms again, but I only call him about once a month, if that.

[@minedash3330]

My narsistic "friend". Always loud, abnoxious, think he is the main character in my and my homies story, caring only about himself, headbutting in every single conv me and my buddy trying to have. To be honest, I don't really care about that. What I care is how in the face of earth he always targetting my or my friend head.. like chill dude, no one gonna hurt you if you don't hurt them first

[@Placker8102]

You never know with some of these stories. Like maybe op is a shitty person and some other person is telling their story about how they got a terrible person out of their lives.

[@fidget18s48]

When sol campbell left Spurs for arsenal. Rapid admiration to loathing right there.