what they don't tell you about friendship in your 20s | in my 20s diaries

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Making & maintaining friendships in your 20s is hard! BUT really fun & epic. Here's some advice & things I didn't know a few years ago. I hope it blesses you!

[@ryan]

this video is so well done and pretty

[@Beeboi.]

Hi

[@abdelilahlakhloufi2112]

You too 👁️👄👁️

[@oliviaeade517]

@@abdelilahlakhloufi2112 um excuse you he's married to Haley 😐

[@TheGingerCatFilms]

I love how he supports his wife like he’s just a random fan on the internet

[@Cenkisabi-69]

bud, u got an awesome wife

[@reesedubose9107]

Haley I’m so proud that you are sharing your relationship with God on your channel💗💗 I love this series I can’t wait to see you grow even more! Happy Easter weekend love 💐

[@justttphoebe]

i'm actually in my 22 this year, and i've only started making an actual bond with my friends. i don't have many friends yet, but the friend I currently have makes me feel more better. i like when someone makes this type of videos bc it's very relatable, helpful for realizations and self improvements. love u haley!

[@indianastokes2430]

i've been watching you for about 5 years now, and this video is my most favourite ever!

[@nataliehager9864]

absolutely LOVING this series. favorite episode so far!!

[@matthewturner7888]

I am 28 now and looking back at my early 20s and late teens, I wish I would have been more assertive in keeping friends close, because after I left college and joined the Air Force, a lot of friends that I previously had, went away and I rarley keep up with them on facebook.

[@gracechesebro5220]

I love this and I love you.

[@kimberlyhanson6152]

I'm getting married this summer and moving to Southern California. I'm 21 too, and I'm honestly super nervous about starting new and making friends.

[@hannahbarnhart1611]

This reminds me of the glow up diaries 🙏

[@emilybuchmann1391]

Where is the pink sweatsuit from?? It's super cute 😍

[@gabbychavez6145]

Where did you get your pink sweatsuit

[@yo.chelse]

making friends is so daunting especially for introverts (like me rip), but when everything clicks, it’s very rewarding 🤍 p.s. loving this series! we need moreee

[@ryan]

why am I built like a trapezoid lmao

[@ryan]

I love this video so much pooter

[@ninadgoldsmith]

hi ryan

[@addierevak9411]

This series is literally more entertaining than a lot of Netflix series! I relate to this series so much and Haley does it in such a fun way!❤️

[@jessica8318]

i know there are so many comments about it already but i’m loving this series - i’m so glad we have a platform in this day and age to go to and remind ourselves everyone is slowly trying to figure things out in this crazy world and you really have to appreciate what’s right in front of you. ty haley

[@dreaplascencia]

Having a solid diverse Christian community friendships has definitely been of one of my prayers, loved watching this! 🤍

[@sarzlaw10]

Amen, and diverse definitely! In age, ethnicity, walks of life, disabilities and socioeconomically - it would be wonderful to reflect God's kingdom in your community like that 🤍

[@teabubbles4ever]

🥺

[@teabubbles4ever]

hmu? haha. slim chance we are in the same area but I can drop an email! 🤍🦋

[@nataliesoutlet]

Hayley! 🌈 I love the thumbnail!! it's soooo pretty. I've always loved your use of colors in thumbnails. BEAUTIFUL. Can't wait to watch this later ✨

[@chickennuggets4114]

Agreed. 😌😌

[@KAyLA_K]

I thought I would let you know, it’s so nice how you comment on so many channels!! Love seeing the positivity 😊❤️

[@Skylarr70]

You guys should do a mash up !!!! Two of my favorite KZbins!!!

[@taliw7736]

True! Love your videos so much Natalie

[@nikaylal]

I’m 20 and currently praying for deep Christian friendships ! It seems so unattainable lol but I know it’ll happen one dayyy.

[@warmclouds7289]

same here girly

[@teabubbles4ever]

hi! :) we prob don’t live near each other, but I can drop an email and we can link if you’d like!! 🤍

[@emilypaigeraper4931]

Same I have been struggling so much

[@EricaCarsonn]

Being in my 20's (25) I'm definitely finding it difficult to make friends. I've never been one to have a big friend group but it's been a lot harder to keep people around after graduating high school. At this point in my life, like you said, everyone is at different stages of their lives. Some are in school still, some are getting married, moving, so with that it's hard to find time for each other. I hope I get to have my moment like you did where I find a core group of friends who really bring out the best in me and will give me the same feelings that your friend group does. Thank you for another amazing video in this series!

[@franziska3525]

the "notice how you feel after you hanged out with friends and if you feel drained or energetic" hit deep. i was currently stuck in a friendship that made me feel drained constantly! and it's so sad to know that you could use this energy on other friends who give you so much more back! thanks for the reminder that i did nothing wrong:)

[@rodsitamara]

im in highschool right now, year 11, and lowkey all this talk about friendship after graduation made me super anxious before. in australia, its not really a common thing to move far away for university but still change is super scary but this video really made me less anxious about the future :)

[@Ready13]

Same and I am guessing you just graduated year 12 this year because me too (not to bring back that anxiety..)

[@Lizzy_Garfield]

This is what I’m struggling with currently. But I also don’t put myself out there I’m naturally an introvert and struggle on first impressions because I overthink. I’m a stay at home wife but I’m thankful for my church community where I have solid friendships that are consistent!!

[@kaylaenglish6414]

this one spoke to me. i am 20, turning 21 and am having an extremely difficult time with friendships in my 20s. this is so helpful in realizing that i need to put myself out there! thank you so much!

[@briannachance]

I felt thissss

[@nutellanathalie]

Jesus really does get to us in the most miraculous ways. I’ve been feeling like I’ve been in a slump these past few months lately and this series was HEAVEN-SENT!!! Really inspired me to start taking my devotionals seriously, going out of my way to make time for friends, and just changing my love in general. You are a blessing Hailey.

[@alliemurray2812]

I love this. I'm a christian too and it has been very hard to find a good community of friends who I can do life with! I'm still in that part of life, but I know that it'll happen sometime and I have to trust God to bring the right people into my life! This episode was awesome Haley, thank you.

[@melamoo._]

yesterday was my freshmen orientation and it's so true when u get asked "how do you make friends" you literally dont know like it just happens. all i did was pray and hope i can make some friends and it just happens and tbh im grateful for that like it takes so much mental strength to introduce urself to someone but at the same time it kinda feels effortless because that friendship just happens in an instant

[@orsibernath]

I could just listen to you talk about anything for hours! WE NEED A PODCAST

[@KaceWorner]

She use to have one with Lilly Anne and it was so good but sadly they stoped it

[@raspclaire2313]

Wow, this series was an answer to prayer. I'm currently taking a gap semester and am back home from college where I don't have but one close friend nearby. It's hard to put myself out there knowing that I'll be back on campus with my friends in the fall, but this video has encouraged me to put myself out there. Praying everyone who reads this finds uplifting community

[@carissaruth8399]

As someone who is only a few months older than you, it is so refreshing to see someone so close to my age that I can actually relate to on so many levels. I am also recently married, and also a Christian. As someone who is pretty introverted, making new strong friendships is a struggle for me. I’m so inspired by, and loving this new series of yours :)

[@mary.1984]

Honestly, making friends is harder when you're older ( even when in college or at a job ! ) it's not as easy as when you were a kid though. ( I still know my best friend from when I was 13, I'm 37 now. )

[@Mae-fp5br]

literally almost cried because i feel like im trying to mentally prepare myself for what adulting has to offer. i'm about to graduate in about a month and i've been so overwhelmed with who i should keep in my life and who i know i have to let go of. thank you for this video haley :,)

[@annemiduck2548]

I dont know if this advice will help you but i can Tell you you will be surprised what people will stay in your life after graduation. Just take your time and try to accept that there will naturally be people you cannot stay in touch with and there are sooooo many more peoole to come into your life. So many great people you dont know yet. Wish you all the best for your future!

[@cassandrawintemute8646]

I've been really struggling with friendships lately (my best friends moved to a different country in January), and this was really encouraging. Thank you Haley!

[@joisarodas]

Wow, this was so encouraging to watch. I've also prayed for Christian community and it's awesome to see how God answered your prayer. Gotta keep waiting! ❤

[@cassidyvoss415]

i’m in a season of being single & trying to figure out how to be alone/do more stuff and this series has been so so encouraging and fun!! i look forward to it every week!

[@ashleyharrison7130]

loving the "in my 20s" series. everytime you post, u make my day, your so inspiring and positive. your smile warms my heart:) i can watch u all day

[@phoebelock6528]

loving this series so much. Feels so comforting to feel like I'm working on myself with someone else if that makes sense?? Thank you

[@kashhaliwell]

really gonna try praying for friends that have the same interests of me in my local area because i have online friends in different countries but it’s still kinda lonely not having much friends locally. thanks haley!!💕💕

[@mj-monkey]

this episode was so goooood. if you are reading this and feel alone, just remember to put yourself out there, even if it’s scary. tons of people feel the exact same way you do and who will love you and care about you!! you are never truly alone! thanks for all the encouragement, haley💕💕

[@MsAblivia]

This series is literally incredible. thank you so much for sharing all of this it truly means a lot.

[@meganowens5836]

this series, but this episode in general was literally stunning haley omgggg. i’m so happy that you’re finding a christian community, it’s something i continue to pray for, and now that i’m moving i’ll have the opportunity! so proud of you girl, love you🤍

[@jettwashed]

going through friendship changes is SO hard, especially when growing up 💔

[@fatima-qn2le]

I CANT HALEY AND RYAN HOLDING HANDS IS LITERALLY EVERYTHING

[@azaguma297]

I literally love this series 😭🤍 especially this episode, it is on repeat !! If God blessed you with such amazing friends I know He will for me because He is faithful 😌🎉🙌🏾💗

[@rachelapostolico1694]

This has to be my favorite video you've ever made. It was emotional and raw and relatable. Not to mention the beautiful shots and editing and music. Loved it

[@fatima-qn2le]

brb gonna send this video to all tiktok commenters who say ‘did they divorce?’

[@bellasayo4948]

This is honestly one of the most encouraging series on youtube.

[@emellyhernandez3286]

I too am praying for some Godly friends, or even one or two really great friend. THANK YOU for this video, its so hard to find friendships in your 20's. They are so important and i believe God places everyone in your life and the most perfect times. I am loving this series haley!

[@PaigeHigginsVlogs]

Soooo who wants to be friends?? 🙋🏼‍♀️

[@luvvreni]

I love Bella! I've been watching your videos since you were a freshman in high school (throwback to the tippy days) and I remember seeing Bella in your videos. I'm glad you guys are still friends!

[@jordantapp6857]

It is so nice to see Haley so genuinely happy and so herself

[@annaslifeco]

Another idea would be "My relationship with God in my 20s" 💙💙✝️

[@angelamaxine]

i truly love this series! it’s so inspiring and comforting. It just feels like a warm hug honestly 🤍

[@urltima]

No, because Saige had it RIGHT. As someone with BPD, it can feel SO personal and like abandonment when people don't reach out for a while, but it's just simply not true - 99.9% they love you no matter where they are, who they're with, etc. Their love for you doesn't just disappear randomly when they aren't with you, and that's something I've had to really truly grasp. I'm STILL learning to accept that. Their love doesn't disappear along with their physical presence. Just like if you love art, but it doesn't mean you hate it every second you're NOT actively being artistic. Simply untrue and silly. You don't stop existing to other people, and you don't stop being loved just because you aren't physically present with someone.

[@edwardleecaliforniausa]

Good morning I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter and these are sooo entertaining and every week I always catching up on your channel and you are sweetheart

[@TheLizardKingReal]

Haley this is an awesome series! I hope you are enjoying your early 20s :)

[@Hello-nt7tq]

lol that’s where the iced coffee hour podcast used to be filmed with the book poster!

[@jennifercox4167]

ohmygoodness i’m not sure you’ll read this haley… but if you do i just wanted to say that i have a very similar situation with my friendships. last year i was in need of some close friends who loved Jesus, because i didn’t really have many at the time. i started praying for a good friend group and that summer i decided to work at a summer camp. i happened to meet some of the most wonderful, Godly friends there and now i never feel alone in the friendship department. lol. God is literally so awesome like that. He knew i needed friends and he provided them for me! so cool. but anywho, unfortunately those friends are also long distance which… kind of sucks. but it’s ok. rip. anywho i just really related to everything you said about friendship and i really enjoy your videos. have a good dayyy! :)

[@LivLaughsandloves]

Haley, I've been only watching this channel for a few days and I can already tell that I will be watching it for years!! thanks so much for making the internet a happier place 😊

[@lauraturek2968]

i actually love this video so so so much

[@Jenayameier]

Love this perspective Hayley! I’ve been praying for a Christian community as well! It’s been so cool to see a little peek of your journey in this 🌼☺️ thanks for sharing xx

[@faith19]

omg i love this vid

[@kenzielynn4549]

I started praying for good community and close friends about a year ago and shortly after I met my best friend. I’m now working on building a community and this series is so encouraging to me 💗🥲

[@user-mh1ym4nz7i]

same! o my gosh! God is so good ! literally am making plans to take prom pics without a prom with my friends

[@kenzielynn4549]

@@user-mh1ym4nz7i that’s so fun!!

[@user-mh1ym4nz7i]

@@kenzielynn4549 yeah !!

[@rmo1295]

One of the most important things in the age of 20's and all ages is the religion The truth,true way is ISLAM

[@user-mh1ym4nz7i]

@@rmo1295 Jesus is the way

[@mar9560]

I’m also 21, watching this series really inspired me to be more conscious of how I want to spend my 20s ❤️

[@AmyNatalie1]

I just found you through this series and I love it. I can relate so much and it helps 😊🫶🏼

[@LaurynAmini]

I love how this series, that feels so weird for me to say because it’s your life 😂😂, makes me love myself and those that surround me!! I don’t know if that makes a lot of sense but I’m here for it

[@oliviaelyce2035]

I love how you’re editing this series! It’s the perfect mix of like tv and vlog! Also, ik you’re getting a lot of stuff for your kitchen to help you in cooking more, I highly recommend getting a meat thermometer! I am so worried about eating undercooked meat, the thermometer puts my mind at ease. They usually come with a guide to know what meats need to be what temperatures.

[@emmacollett8941]

Your friend Saige is gorgeous and spitting facts. If you know you're busy and your friend is busy then its totally justified to not talk for a few weeks or even months. If they are a true genuine friendship then its a mutual understanding that y'all still love each other but can't hang at the moment :) Also love this series!

[@_christconsciousness_]

Omg coffee, oversized shirts, “let’s hang out on the beach guys!!”, “wanna grab a smoothie?”

[@lomie17]

love this haley, thank u for your vulnerability. friendships outside of structured organizations (school/sports) can be hard but so worth it!!!!!

[@Christine.Baraka]

That thumbnail is just😍😍😍 I never clicked so fast

[@Kaylan0713]

I turn 22 in a few months and i never went to college….so my friends are the ones form high school. I havent made a single friend in my adult life😅

[@AninaM.B]

This episode was so inspiring. I absolutely love this series. I like that u interviewed some of your friends abt friendships, it was a nice addition to the vlog. Keep up the good work Haley

[@melaniaabdelmasieh6915]

I don't have many friendships as im still 15 and still have my whole future ahead of me to make more, but watching this made me realise how many beautiful friendships I have with people at the moment and made me think about each person individually. I really love you haley as you make me a better person. thank you really!!!! 🤍🤍

[@griseldakins4104]

Have been praying for this till this day I know god will make it happen ♥️

[@KAyLA_K]

Ryan - Met Dr.Phil🤣

[@My_Treehouse]

This was such a great video! I loved the clips that introduced everybody! It gives me alot of hope that in time the lord will bless me with a christian community💖

[@indiamae3599]

Hey Haley, I'm also 21 and married and a Christian, and this video made me think more about praying for the kind of friends i want in my life and the kind of friend i want to be. thank you, Making friends out of high school is hard and maintaining relationships is hard, i really appreciated that line from your friend "just because you don't have contact with your friends for a while, doesn't mean they don't value you" I needed to hear that. Thank you!

[@fefe1362]

These videos are getting me through the last few weeks of school!💖

[@fatima-qn2le]

besties for the absolute resties 🤞🤞 new phrase i’m gonna use thanks haley

[@hillarylorenzo2871]

You’ve been killing these videos lately! I appreciate your honesty and insight to your prayers. It makes me feel more connected to you. :)

[@chitraaggarwal6477]

Love your videos 🥰🥰😍😍❤❤❤❤❤

[@fatima-qn2le]

completely unrelated but you have the best voice like it’s so calming

[@ambermeyet4980]

❤ Disney*s beauty and the beast the. Teapot*s tale

[@dfernandez3482]

Sucks that your cousin Mai already moved to NYC long before yall went on this trip. Maybe yall can go to NYC next to visit her? 🤔 1:33 I'm too fat to sit like that in the car 😂☹ 12:15 "ReEbYuKiNg" is the word of the day 📖💪🧠

[@Rana.11]

جمانه شكراً عالتوصية

[@daiaphilemon8308]

I love this series

[@MJ-ch5do]

Wait is that game not called spike ball😱

[@janetf4732]

to be honest, this episode did make me cry because after gruaduating highschool and going to college and not knowing anyone makes me feel so lonely and ive been wanting to have such a fun friendgroup for so long. But i guess ill just keep praying for it and wait for Gods timing :)

[@brykay]

FRANKIE: EXPERIMENTAL FASHION HAHAHAHAAAHHA

[@johnchujor7358]

Is that gram Stephan’s la house?

[@mady3187]

Literally first semester in college in a new state I was like… 🧍🏻‍♀️had reliable friends my whole childhood and then suddenly had to force myself to be uncomfortable and ask ppl to hang out

[@mady3187]

And now I’ve made a safe friend group in college. You literally just have to put yourself out and be comfortable with rejection

[@carriewest8411]

yess pray for friendships and community! that is what the church actually isss!! community! whether it’s across the county or next door. pushing eachother towards Jesus! 🤍

[@BetteDavis19]

can I ask what happened to lilly?

[@brianachovancek8362]

Did she call spike ball, “pickle ball”?! Lmfaooo. Wish I had friends tho this was beautiful

[@btsgrande7809]

i rarely comment on videos but i just have to say this: i love these series. i think its also because i can really relate to it since im almost in my 20s 🙊

[@emmak5390]

hiiii whoevers reading this! just wanna pop in here and say you're so stunning, keep doing you!

[@makaylac]

ah ur so swweeettt wth

[@23sarahshelley]

I love your videos! I don’t have a lot of friends and I’m in high school! You really inspired me to get out there and make some! 😘

[@kvncrts]

love this vid!!

[@ambermeyet4980]

Bad 😞😔 🐈 puppy*s big 😞 day