what to do when moving to a new city alone

[@Akanchwua]

Fucking HELL I needed this video. I moved to a completely new city on my own almost 3 months ago and I'm having a complete crisis and it feels like everything is falling apart......so glad I found this. Everything you said is true, the fun has worn off, reality is setting in. Have minimal money and feel like.....wtaf am I doing. Thank you thank you thank you

[@rachelann8275]

are you doing better now?

[@Akanchwua]

@@rachelann8275 omg thank you for asking

[@itsHoodStar]

@@Akanchwuahey, i hope you are not struggling anymore… i saw ur comment and was wondering how you’re doing now….? I am planning to VISIT arkansas and enjoy the state for a month but i am scared that i may fall in live with the state that i might just stay. I need to know how to survive alone in another state and this video definitely helped. Im from cali btw 😊

[@Akanchwua]

@@itsHoodStar hey!! Mannnn so many ups and downs - definitely a learning process and it's full of challenges but so so much growth

[@makaylafriend]

I’m moving somewhere new in about a month and it’s to start my dream career. I just had a small cry session because I have social anxiety and really struggle with making new friendships that aren’t just surface level (cause I’m scared of actually being vulnerable with people). I want to have real friends but it’s so hard for me to just be real with others. This video made me feel a little better. Thank you!

[@didyszone5348]

Can we be friends? Am facing the same issue

[@notequalto5179]

Healthy relationships typically take some time to build. So it's totally okay if you don't have a deep friendship or romantic relationship until much later after you've moved.

[@MaureenBlanco]

how long?

[@notequalto5179]

@@MaureenBlanco there's not really a definite amount of time. Deeper friendships take a few months to build I've found. Of course, it can depend on a lot of things. But it certainly won't happen overnight.

[@joshuaherring1711]

As a person that restarted/moved 4 times so far, these are great tips!

[@ramune_flowers]

I‘m in the 4th month abroad now and I’m struggling so hard. Thanks for the calming video.

[@leticiaissa3449]

I remember a few months ago commenting on one of your videos how I felt like i wasn't enjoying studying abroad as much as I thought I would. 2 months later, I can definitley say that I don't feel that way anymore as I did. I'm leaving in a month or so to go back to my homecountry, and although I will be coming back after the summer, a part of me is sad that I am leaving even if it's for 4 months. Funny how just a few months can change your perspective on living abroad.

[@jenessam.hernandez4331]

I just moved to a new place alone and learning so much about so many things! I kind of missed the ball on this one in my 20s and now finally doing it in my 30s. This new place is so beautiful and excited for what the future holds. ✨

[@tr1ckster726]

Hey I am in my 30s too. I quit my job and was going to move last October, and then I just... Stayed. It has been eating away at me for the last year. It's like I said I was going to do something, and then I didn't do it! I know I HAVE to do it though.

[@jenessam.hernandez4331]

I recommend doing it! Of course, ensure you have a job and finances in order but it’s so rewarding. I have really been loving it and going to move to another new city in December. It’s okay to be alone and you learn so much about yourself. I totally understand how you must feel. Why don’t you try booking an Air BnB in the area you are interested in for 2-3 months to get a feel for it. That way you can get a better understanding of what it’s like for you. I wish you all the luck!

[@MultiMarlene12]

I moved 3 hours away from my hometown for school and the first 3 months were so hard and I would say school distracted me from feeling homesick. Now its been 3 years and I’m done with school so I started feeling homesick again but I am just now getting more comfortable living here, making friends , going to church, going to therapy 😊 its hard but doable!!!

[@lanaemile6223]

I'm in the 4th month living abroad and studying for medical school. It has been pretty hard, but now I'm determined to do something about my sadness. I truly want to enjoy this process, 'cause I know I'll miss these days somehow. Thanks for your video, it really inspired me and changed my perspective about the way I'm living. (Sorry for the english and Hi from Brazil❤)

[@allichouinard7788]

Ugh I needed this. I just moved to Vancouver from the island and it’s been sooo lonely. I miss home.

[@bubblegumplop9511]

I was having an existential crisis a while back since i'm moving away from home for med school and I could not be more terrified, but watching this video really helped calm me down. I can't thank you enough for this

[@jeweledthrone2850]

Good luck sugar!!

[@jakelennon6057]

What a beautiful soul :) Thankyou for taking the time to articulate so well a difficult time in people's lives and giving people understanding, support and action plans, bravo :)

[@luckyfriend82]

You are so comforting and relatable basically thank you for existing :-)

[@Harmonywithin808]

You are so so brave and thank you for being so honest, I have moved far away and it is so bizarre. Everyone of course talks about the amazing parts, but it's so shocking how people fade away, phone relationships are hard, etc

[@ngoquynhbopj]

Love when you deal with the frighten of studying abroad and being alone in such a direct and honest way. I also gonna study abroad this Aug and your videos make me less frightened about going to a new country with tons of new things and stresses. ❤❤❤

[@oliviaremak7071]

This has been so reassuring for me! I’m doing a major cross country move totally by myself to a new city for school where I know NO ONE and I’ve been so anxious about it.

[@cariwalker7549]

I’m 32 and have always lived with my mom and so has my brother. Right now I’m living with my mom, my brother, his wife and 2 kids, and my sister-in-law’s niece. It’s hard. It’s really hard. And I hate my job and there isn’t anything to do in my town because it’s going downhill. So I’m planning on trying to get a new job in a city about an hour and a half away and getting my own place. The reason I am choosing this specific city is because I do have family there. I have aunts and uncles and cousins there that used to live in my hometown but moved years ago and who I only saw on thanksgiving and Christmas until they got married and had kids and then there was wedding and baby showers and birthdays. But still, I don’t have much of a relationship with them as I wish I did. But I wanted to move somewhere new away from my current stress where I don’t know anyone except for a handful of family members. Currently in the process of looking for a job now! Wish me luck! 😁👍🏻 hoping to get closer to my family while living there and make at least 1 close friend and maybe date. I know it’s gonna be so scary but I’m also excited at the same time. So many pros and cons of me staying in my hometown but moving out and getting a new job or getting completely out of my comfort zone and trying new things

[@CallMeSummers]

Earned a sub! Needed this advice, got offered a job in the East Coast. Gonna be alone in a new city, keep it up!

[@MukulKansal-c9k]

I'm 63 and planning on moving to a new city next year. More excited than apprehensive. I believe loneliness, within limits, can help you discover yourself and your possibilities.

[@hannahpeeples6737]

I'm studying abroad at the University of Edinburgh this fall and was just worried about loneliness and these concepts yesterday! Thank you!

[@charleycross7976]

Me too! :)

[@charlotte7801]

me too!

[@BenTheBot]

Thank you for this video. Moving to an entirely different state in a couple days, and I’m very excited but also kind of nervous to be in a place where I have no connections. It’s gonna be all about making new friends, lol

[@dumpsta-divrr365]

Good luck ben!!

[@BenTheBot]

@@dumpsta-divrr365 Thank you!! I’ve been in Atlanta for 6 days now and it’s been great so far!

[@playdate8827]

@@BenTheBotmade new friends?

[@kyleekroh2181]

Update?

[@Insert_Smiley29]

Thanks for the video! I’ve struggled with isolation most of my teen years and I didn’t do great in school, but now I’m looking into LA film school which is all the way in California (I’m a Wisconsin girly)- but I’m really pushing for this because it’s something I really really wanna do but it’s just so intimidating! ❤

[@heartfillialucy2041]

Watching your videos really makes me feel like it is not just me who feels this way. It is a big move and for a couple of days I have been in constant emotion rollercoaster of feeling excited but also crisis 😂😂

[@Lonebadger567]

Thanks for sharing. Thinking about moving to Nashville to pursue a music career. The thought of it is scary and exciting at the same time. But I feel burnt out in my hometown and I need to go after my passion and purpose.

[@pansexualdickhaver6878]

As a born and raised nashvillian, we welcome you,friend. We have a ton of out of towners moving here so should be pretty easy to find people to become cool with that relate to your experience. And there’s obv plenty of places to perform your music lol if you have any questions on the city,feel free to ask

[@facelesssinger2134]

I live in Nashville, it's mostly connects that'll get you far. There is wayyy to many homeless here and it's depressing

[@ravely9784]

I'm moving across the country next week for a new job and i'm scared. I had an experience moving abroad before but that has been a while and it was only for one year. thanks for making this video

[@embracetheweird-cats]

Seriously needed to hear this. Thank you for posting

[@udays6170]

I scrolled down to look at the comments, which is when I realised that this video was posted a couple of hours ago! I'm moving to the US soon, really excited :)

[@rebeccasrandomness3045]

These are some great tips and I love that you are so openly sharing from your experiences

[@Unique247official]

This exactly what I been needing to do excited it’s coming close, to get away from the toxicity in my hometown

[@Kolia_1959]

I'm a Colombian exchange student in Indonesia for 1 year, I'm in my 6th month, and I'm feeling like shit with myself. I watched full two of your videos and, I don't know why, but they make me feel less worse. Thanks, maybe I'll watch the others. :)

[@sergiocommonplace]

Que TAL va Todo?

[@seeco1017]

Needed this, moving to Portland Oregon tomorrow and I am anxiousss

[@unocard98]

How’d it go? :)

[@milesowens3273]

I'm also wondering

[@dawnsreflection]

Thank you for this video ❤

[@AnlStarDestroyer]

I’m actually moving to DC next month and I’m terrified. I’m scared of losing my current friends and not making new ones there and so many other things

[@洛基-m2f]

Moved to the US. Really appreciate this as I am in the questioning week. 😢

[@bp3108]

Hello, Move abroad for a short time. I am from Ecuador, South America. The fact that I move to Japan was a total cultural change. Want to remind everyone how strong and brave we are to move far from home. It is okay to feel all this emotions and you are no alone. I can tell you that it is hard, but as a phrase I like to repeat rain it is not permanent and sun will always comes up. Best advice if you feel any emotion start to learn to feel the emotion and let it go. Do not keep the emotions in you because some of them will get together and one day explode. Also there are always good people that will help you and show you that kindness still exist and that will help you through your journey.

[@horseconfused]

I am Ecuadorian too, and i also happen to be moving to Japan I am so close to my family and already have mental issues so I’m scared for my future self when i move, im going to Osaka institute of Fashion for 4 years and possibly permanently afterwards… Me da mucho miedo porque yo me conozco y yo sé que definitivamente me voy a deprimir pero tengo que estar preparada para eso porque, bueno mi sueño desde chiquita era mudarme a Japón, no sé cual es tu caso amigo pero, a pesar de todo esto, yo sé que lo lograre, y en cambio, tú también lo lograrás. Abrazos

[@rapolastreinys2250]

I’m moving from Lithuania to US Indiana. I’m 19. Wish me luck

[@ChristusLiberumPDX]

Thank you, sweetie. A friend also shared the 3 month thing from her experience! 43 YO and about to make the first move…pray for me, y’all? ❤

[@laily_s]

Watching this from France where i am currently studying abroad! Thanks for the tips :) I agree that the first week can be the hardest, I remember being very homesick but once school started and I made some friends I felt much better.

[@shatakshipandey8014]

I am moving 3 days away from my hometown to another state. It's an entirely different culture . And I am only 17. I am moving out alone for college.

[@Foxuniverso]

Lately ive bwen feeling a bit down by things in my life and i consider at times moving to a small town. My fam is not up for it, and i dont even have a plan lol. But when i actually think about it i feel relaxed but when i visualize my life there and how it'll be with new friends and stuff, idk why, but i feel pretty anxious. Id miss where i live now pretty badly tbh...

[@photoniccannon2117]

Your personality is A+, made my day 😂

[@Lalalexylou]

Loveee this video :)

[@Talidataluda]

Thank you for making this!! 🥹

[@viiyaxyz]

I'm about to move to Malaysia for University all on my own so I've just been mentally preparing myself for whatever I will face. And get as many tips n advice so thank you sm for this video it helped :)

[@riviereroviere]

it's so true that if you have your basic needs like sleep and nutrition covered, you're so much better equipped to exist in an entirely new place

[@emiliapaul1916]

I moved to a new city for the first time in my life and ofc the first time is the biggest because I moved abroad. I moved to live with my long distance boyfriend (and to go to uni) so I had a built-in best friend who already lived here for a year and took care of all the stressful things (he even found me a job). I’ve been here for 1,5 month and he went back to our home country to visit family and I stayed here. Alone. Without any friends. I feel so alone but the thought that I am going to meet people once the academic year starts makes me hopeful in all of the moments when I go insane for a second and think that it’s going to be like this for the rest of my life.

[@sanrevelle219]

Interesting how I came across this video, because I’m fresh out of the military, back in cosmetology school and plan on moving from Georgia to Texas, I have family there but I’ve never met any of them so I’m technically going to move there along

[@jpg.]

I appreciate this video. I am about to graduate from university and move to a new city all by myself. I am excited about the opportunity but am certainly anxious about how I will meet new people. I worked this past summer in a different city all by myself, however I wasn’t too worried about it as I was coming back to school where my girlfriend, friends and family were. Now I don’t have the comfort of knowing that it is temporary, so I am worried. Hopefully I can use some of these suggestions and can make it through haha.

[@joanna3083]

Hi I'm just in the 3 months crisis and wow thanks I just feel I really needed normalization of unknown cause I have similar striving for perfect figured out life. Haha I was lookinng for super specific adivices but having fun, sleep and good sadwinth may help

[@EggOfficalReal]

if you can get a close friend to move in with you it makes life so much easier

[@Trooperos90]

Awesome vid and personality;) u are so unique.

[@lokitori2542]

I ❤love you already when I hear you said “50% of the problems can be solved with a good night sleep and a sandwich 🥪 “ 😂

[@TheApothecary_]

You are not alone !

[@mirandasara104]

It's one of those days. I just moved across the country

[@Octaviacliosisley]

Sleep!!!! It helps us adjust! ❤

[@SungHatonnMSD]

Thank you 💙🙏🏽

[@RickyPetersen]

That beans egg bread combo is crazy lol

[@coznow]

I'm moving to a new city for grad school this fall and I'm so scared I'm not going to make any friends :( I don't know a single person there

[@beabadoobeepo]

I feel the same way 😢

[@MAGAMeg2025]

Great video! “Or maybe your normal, and that’s fine.” 🤣

[@nataliemores]

i thought there was a bug on your wall ....but it was on my computer screen

[@AvniSharma-k8n]

likew eeeeeeeeeeee sisterr thnak you sooo muchh for making ths vdooooooo

[@ChristusLiberumPDX]

1:46 Did you and my mom talk??

[@LittlePilangton]

WELL I'M ABOUT TO MOVE TO EUROPE WITH A SCHOLARSHIP ! i might be tiny scared because i have to get ready 😭

[@JjGee-m8r]

We’re alike in so many ways

[@elainegozum6360]

hi, I'm thinking about transferring in another county, but like how, like how do I survive? for example, I don't have that much money, and I want to apply for a job.

[@elainegozum6360]

I'm 17, turning 18 next yr and I'm trynna run away lmao

[@jiemanoshyoung5415]

I think humen really need to social,but not staying in alone.

[@wendyortiz736]

Thanks

[@ShadrekMulauzi]

I'm looking forward c🎉

[@walou3917]

i wanna move but dont have a car, should i get one in my current state or wait till i get to where im moving and get it in that state? (plan on leasing)

[@GirlMaketheMove]

Get it in the state you're moving to because you will have to pay for your plates and registration twice if you get it in your current state. Also, when are you moving?

[@Akanchwua]

P.s please come to Bristol so we can hang out :))))))

[@AryendraMakesMusic]

you are literally me

[@akshathag8526]

Cheryl crow

[@Axel1Axel2Axel]

all ive taken from this is that you really like sandwhiches

[@shichi6309]

Literally need this kind of video🥹 I'm moving out of our city to work and it's my first time to be far away from my family... I'm kinda scared but excited at the same time.

[@Korre84]

Charleston?! No no no. You "visit" Charleston. You LIVE in Columbia or Greenville and you VISIT Charleston from time to time.

[@ShadrekMulauzi]

🎉❤

[@melisatel]

♡♡♡

[@TheChoice2121]

Someone likes sandwiches

[@haggle196]

go to the church and socialize brev

[@roxanemae196]

She loves sandwiches