What To Say To Stop Challenging Dementia Behaviors (w/ Cheatsheet)

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@Loki-and-Thor 5 ай бұрын

I was volunteering in an elderly care home and one of the ladies was distraught that her mum was late coming to pick her up. I told her that her mum would be on the way and probably just held up on a bus. I suggested that we went to the reception desk, told the receptionist that she was with me and that when her mum arrived to come and get us. That made her happy, she gave me a hug and we went to make a cup of tea. One of the caregivers said that I was being cruel by not telling the lady the truth. I’m glad I didn’t listen to the caregiver as it would have been so much more distressing for the lady.

@joanbenjamin6345 5 ай бұрын

At nursing school, we were told to 'reorient to reality'. I knew then, why? To make the person miserable?

@bandbmars7034 5 ай бұрын

Use this as a reference reminder every day while taking care of my 93 yo Mother.

@lyneary2825 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for these videos. My family member is starting to have some real difficulty now and I'm struggling to help. These are such a great resource.

@meandshe1518 3 ай бұрын

My mom is a tough cookie. She comes up with an answer to anything, even the impossible.

@wandabaquedano2451 5 ай бұрын

Appreciate every one of these videos! Thank you so much.

@PotooBurd 5 ай бұрын

This is so informative! Great job, fantastic reporting!🌻🌼🐝 Keep it up 🙌

@jamilgotcher365 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for all your great tips.

@d.sintic7731 3 ай бұрын

LOVE IT!! keep them coming!! Please!

@kellymae2421 5 ай бұрын

Such helpful tips. Only had a short while to use some of them. Thanks 👍

@Braillechickenwhisperer 5 ай бұрын

I really like these videos!!

@user-kq1nk2zu1q 3 ай бұрын

You are very good! I spent a lot of time crying when dad had dementia. But sometimes I got a laugh too. One time I came to my parents condo and found clear tape on all of the window locks. I asked him why it was there and he said, “to keep out the burglars.” 😂 I just left it there for him.

@abcdestuvw4234 5 ай бұрын

Always helpful, thank you

@1GoodWoman 5 ай бұрын

Nice. Compassionate and realistic.

@rhondabarlow860 2 ай бұрын

Sound advice. Thank you.

@Tootsie806 3 ай бұрын

You have no idea how much you have helped.

@brigid1698 5 ай бұрын

Hello! I care for my grandmother, and could use some advice. I care for my grandmother, and with her memory issues she repeatedly asks the same 5 questions. Ive tried providing schedules and such to where she is, but she never looks and always asks. What are some ways i can get the information to stick? She wants to be independent and im trying to support that.

@missanniewise 5 ай бұрын

I take care of my elderly mother and she has some memory issues as well. I've found that asking her what time something is supposed to happen (30 minutes to an hour ahead of time) can help. It did take a few times of asking her and then having to remind her before she was able to recall on her own. I think it engages a different part of her brain. I don't know if that will help you, but I hope that you are able to figure something out.

@floofzykitty5072 4 ай бұрын

Why is it that so many nurses attest to being taught to "reorient" dementia patients to reality, clearly causing them great stress and harm?

@joanbenjamin6345 2 ай бұрын

I never bought the teaching to 'reorient' and all these experiences prove that it is best to keep one comfortable, and safe, inside whatever scenario presents. Kudos to this caregiver/teacher!

@teresajeffries3934 5 ай бұрын

Lieing to them is wrong. They need to know the truth, chances are they'll forget in a few minutes, but if they ask for and want dead people, telling them they will be there, they are busy, etc, they will just keep on wanting them. Tell them the people are dead. They may still ask again the next day, but they arent all excited that their dead loved ones are coming to get them. Thats cruel itself.

@b.m.t.h.3961 5 ай бұрын

Why do they need to know the truth? If you tell them a family member has died, they will get upset, maybe cry, get distraught etc then forget what you've told them and start asking again for that person! Then you've got to keep telling them throughout the day that their loved one is dead and each time it's miserable for them??!

@teresajeffries3934 5 ай бұрын

@b.m.t.h.3961 on the same vein, you lie and tell them a family member is too busy to come, is doing something else, will come when they can, and they sit for days waiting for them to come. They need to know the truth. In our case, we tried the lies and it made it harder. She would pack her bags because they were coming to take her home, sit on the porch fir hours, wetting her pants because she wouldn't leave, waiting for them to come see her. That was cruel. We finally told her the truth, she will say, oh...OK, then go on. You lie to them if you wish, we wont.

@missanniewise 5 ай бұрын

They can't hold onto "new" information, so it doesn't matter how many times you tell them that their loved one has passed, they will not remember. Every time you tell them will be like the first time. They are going to keep wanting that person, no matter what you do. They loved that person, they miss that person, and as far as they are concerned, they just interacted with that person recently, because their past feels like their present. So they are going to keep asking for that person, over and over again. Tell me, which is more cruel, letting them believe a lie so they can live in a happy memory or repeatedly traumatizing them with a truth they cannot hold onto in their present?

@teresajeffries3934 5 ай бұрын

@missanniewise we tried the kues. It mad her mad. She would scream and yell that we were keeping them from her, sometimes getting violent. We started telling her the truth. She would go, oh, ok, and it would be over. Yes she never remembered, but she didn't get angry, scream or yell. It's not traumatizing to tell them the truth. I tell you what, you do what YOU think is right for your person, and we'll do what is right for ours. We don't need your affirmation. 🤬🤬🤬

@missanniewise 5 ай бұрын

@@teresajeffries3934 If the person is lying to relieve and/or prevent agitation, then it isn't a cruelty and people who are having to resort to this kind of methodology shouldn't be accused of being cruel. Personally, I am able to tell my mother the truth and get a positive response. I just feel for those who have to figure out how to help a person that responds negatively.