What Triggers You Is a Gift

[@eros8385]

I just wanted to comment incase the woman who volunteered reads these comments. I can see that you are a very giving person and are mindful of the wellbeing of those around you. I’m not too familiar with this speaker but there were a lot of moments where she was patient when he didn’t quite understand and helped him along when his jokes didn’t quite land. She was the perfect volunteer in being open and honest. It’s a beautiful and undervalued trait to have (being mindful and caring of others) but I can see why it can bring on troubling feelings for her and I hope she can find the liberation she is looking for. I just hope she knows that her “ people pleasing” doesn’t come off as entirely selfish or from a place of insecurity. Maybe it can come from a place of “ I care, I care about you “ . it’s refreshing to see or be around someone that cares.

[@savannah7714]

I think the same

[@dagmarvoltnerova8993]

to avoid confrontation u put yourself in a constant confrontation, omg, so true

[@irshikha]

Could you please explain? I get it, but would need clarity.

[@dagmarvoltnerova8993]

@@irshikha just watch the video, its a quote from the talk

[@irshikha]

@@dagmarvoltnerova8993 that's right. When I heard that, I couldn't understand much. However, you agreed to it. So, I thought you may have certain example or clarity on this.

[@dagmarvoltnerova8993]

@@irshikha ok, this is how i interpret it: as a trauma-aware person i see myself constantly walking on eggshells, meaning, i m always on the lookout, the reality i perceive is that i m always one look away, one moment away, one remark away from a conflict. Which means i am constantly tensed, monitoring, preventing, managing a potential confrontation. As a result of this story/perceived realty I m not relaxed, never really, never deeply conflict-free.

[@irshikha]

@@dagmarvoltnerova8993 oh! That's so true. You've explained beautifully. I can relate it to the analogy of "DON'T imagine a _pink_ elephant". Voila! That's the first thing you'll imagine. Instead, we must replace it with what we want instead. For eg. "Imagine a _yellow_ elephant".

[@TrustInTheUniverse]

"Im not safe" Is also in the body. Trauma is as physical as it is mental.

[@wearelove8025]

Yes, 100%

[@soydansogukcesme470]

not just mental.. it is literly in the body-cells and trying getting it out is difficult.

[@irshikha]

Yeah... Certain breathing exercises and somatic therapy will help here. However, understanding the concept through our conscious (logical) mind does help as a first step.

[@lindaugelow]

This was my thinking too. It’s become patterned into the neurophysiology. In fact, may not be in the conscious mind at all, but rather the body takes over. Still this is valuable, but not enough for everyone to clear on the just the mental level.

[@slamurai8080]

We have so much safety we have the privilege of creating feelings of being unsafe in our heads. People are dying in war zones and we have the nerve to say we feel unsafe because someone said this or said that or their energy is big…I pray we can get over ourselves sooner than later

[@SisterSunnyFreeSpirit]

As a human family, those of us who are strong enough, can practice deep listening and creating safe spaces with compassionate mindful kindfulness. This will radiate.

[@GBD81]

Your family understands this and lives this way, or just you? I am the only one who seems to understand this. What am I not seeing?

[@SisterSunnyFreeSpirit]

​@@GBD81 I am one of two, and it's radiating to some.

[@soulsparkadventures]

Everyone is capable of this at some stage

[@CH-Wisdom]

No safe spaces. Don't teach nonsense. Life is a challenge so put on your slippers and stop trying to carpet the world.

[@SisterSunnyFreeSpirit]

The Guesthouse This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond. ~Rumi

[@pasilikagaitau-craig9485]

🔥🔥

[@rhitaakhardid5792]

I love this! Thank you!

[@ajcraft-hello]

Love this. Not always easy to do. #goals

[@alexissmith8158]

thank you!🥰

[@cmargo10]

I liked this and here’s why: Many of us are practicing spirituality and trying to be more “Aware” or “Present”. We read eckhart Tolle, meditate, watch videos etc. Then we do our lives and instantly fall back asleep. This video takes what on the surface appears to be this mundane yoga session which is so much a nothing burger and we are shown HOW to use awareness and presence to discover what is really happening and it’s very deep and important and not a nothing burger.

[@Pure-Pisces]

I've heard that story.....but was keys

[@carmenlux1775]

This is such a powerful segment. I also had to work on feeling safe in my adult life. What helped me when triggered was putting my hands on my heart, closing my eyes and telling myself several times "you are safe, it's ok" as if I am telling this to my scared inner child. Even now, at 42 sometimes the tears come, sorrowful tears that I and then any child in this world had to ever feel scared of their own parents/caretakers. It's good to let that sorrow go.

[@monicaramirez51015]

Wow thank you for sharing!!! I AM in Trauma Therapy 😮and yes I need to put my hand on my heart 💜 and reassure my inner child 👧🏻 she is safe!!! We are safe!!!! 😊

[@lynneberry6495]

Me to a 'T'.. I'm crying. Need to listen again. 🙏💖💫 Thank You Peter Crone and that lovely girl 🤗

[@trishf2184]

Me too. Never knew what had happened to me to make me "this" way

[@joyj3286]

I love her voice. Thank you for sharing. What a great message Thank you

[@timwannell6477]

She seems a lovely caring friend. Good on her! Good person!

[@krystelkookbacca3125]

Thank you to the lady for her bravery… it mirrors my fears too

[@KelleyAnnStanczyk]

Wow this is powerful. I often feel that way. “I am not safe”. And I literally hide. Thank you. But now, I am not, not safe.

[@Tsey13]

Made me so happy to watch this. Calm&relaxed. Just an old fashion conversation without music & a intens podcaster disrupting every thought…. Thank U❤.

[@marlaadamson1633]

Holy crap! I'm so sorry to hear feeling unsafe is such a "normal" thing. Be strong folks

[@cameliaturda6472]

💜

[@TrTriTrippin]

Welcome to the society collective choices led us too, nobody is a saint here, came to experience heaven for the hell of it

[@sohara....]

I feel very unsafe at moment. When younger, I wasn't in touch with that fear: and being tough was a survival mechanism.

[@SundanceKit]

Omg, Peter, this is brilliant! 🙏🌱🌸🙏💞

[@SueEllenSmith-ju4ot]

Threatning is real for me as a child, dad said take to juvenile home, give away. Husband threw family away. Recovering. Have faith in God

[@madeleinvanessa]

Came across your video, don't know how but it showed up. I am grateful for that since this is something I'm dealing with on daily basis. Just seeing that I am not alone with these behaviors and feelings make me feel less alone. I am going to approach instead of avoiding and pushing away. Thank you Peter and brave girl talking about this!

[@Skavop]

Same here. Great timing for this video, and it was a helpful framing for the issue. Hope you work through it and come out happy and strong. You got this!

[@rongike]

I assume the algorithm fed me it because I've watched a lot of podcasts with him. lots of good stuff in those.

[@SisterSunnyFreeSpirit]

The universal algorithm!💛

[@madeleinvanessa]

@@SisterSunnyFreeSpiritAgree!✨

[@madeleinvanessa]

@@SkavopThank you for your kind words! Have a nice day ☀️

[@Wise4HarvestTime]

This is really good!!!

[@rundilina]

Thank you… so many helpful insights for me at this time. ⚡️

[@chrisbalog]

So Good! Thank you Peter!

[@kaylaryder8371]

thank you dear heart for sharing the roomate work

[@ajcraft-hello]

Thanks

[@eeugeniaa]

Profound and such an opprtunity🙏❤️

[@mtnpfi]

Sometimes, when Peter is explaining something so transparently, my mind goes blank. Not because it is too complex, it is more as if my mind goes: nope, don't want you to get this. I listened to parts of this 5 times and it happened again and again. As if it shuts itself off. Which is kind of scary, because it shows me how I obviously "direct" the input I receive, in whatever form. Does anyone know this experience too maybe? Edit: thank you for your comments. The message of this conversation is slowly sinking in on so many levels. Another reason, why this may be hard is, that I have to realise how much life I have lived in this "false" reality (I know, there is no ONE reality as such, in this scenario rather). I have to face and learn to forgive myself for not having been able to see and feel more clearly for such along time - for having mislead my life in a major way. Picking up the pieces. Very thankful for this conversation between Peter and the woman in the audience. And the kind community here too.

[@DrkstrX]

Afraid to learn a new perspective

[@thewiserlife]

gosh that sounds so challenging. You really want to understand and 'get it' and it doesn't appear to be sinking in. That experience shows huge self awareness and wisdom in what is happening rather than turning it around on yourself. When you see it as a part of yourself and not you. I experience this too on my biggest 'blocks'. Thank you for sharing your insight into what is happening.

[@sharayahsunshine11]

Perhaps sit with that part of yourself and ask the question why out of curiosity. Not to get rid of it but to understand. It may be something you picked up through the education system when information is fed too quickly into children and not allowed to be digested properly.

[@within__]

You might ask yourself what would happen if you allowed it to sink in. To me it sounds like it’s possible that there is a part that might be too scared to hear/see this clearly, so it shuts down as protection. It can be really scary for our little parts to hear certain truths, because they feel so unsafe and then we would see how unsafe we were. Maybe this resonates.

[@kpf2014]

Is it possible it could be a trauma response like dissociation or cognitive dissonance? Just a thought.

[@keithiebaby100]

Bold and honest exchange. I really appreciate your honest engagement . You have a bright future. Your saviour is waiting for you when you continue to ask such honest questions. I wish I had your courage everyday.

[@RNancyP]

Thank you Peter On point

[@AnthonyWasiukiewicz]

Great to revisit this morning. Thanks as always.

[@Lkadrfcgurco]

Thank you, we can’t thank a teacher enough in 1000 life times. You are both my teachers and I’m blessed

[@maxokazaki]

"Where does the 'I'm not safe' exist then?" "The mind." (19:12) I totally agree that its in the mind but isn't it also in the body? We're learning so much about the nervous system and how the body also stores these events/stories/emotions and how realizing at a logical level what happened and what we want our new empowering stories to be isn't always enough - we also need to work with the body to release that stored trauma. Wondering if Peter has any exercises or thoughts on that? Or, is when he talks about sound/vibration/energy dipping into that?

[@maxokazaki]

absolutely loved this demonstration though - powerful. thank you!

[@fabiolakoperberg7769]

I was thinking the same thing about the CNS and how the body stores stories/trauma. I would love know what he thinks about somatic therapy.

[@NobodyIsPerfectChooseDignity]

Yes there's a book called The body keeps the score that explains exactly this

[@breathoflight173]

What a wonderful surprise to come across this video❤

[@juliet-m31]

The calmer I try to be the more I feel I have a knee-jerk reaction to....a lot. Family, partner, kids, friends politics. Being honest helps so much!! I'm scared & fearful about things I have no control over. Stop it! 😅😊😊

[@Adrianerosemusic]

I really needed to hear this today 😭 ❤

[@ess70028]

“We’re all fucked, don’t worry about it” RESONATED and tickled me at the same time 😂

[@cspirit3737]

She is amazing! Nice work 💕

[@heathere9240]

❤ So grateful you came into my feed! Subscribed 🙏

[@slamurai8080]

thankyou Peter I love you man!

[@craigclifford5235]

Absolute legend.

[@pasilikagaitau-craig9485]

Thank you for this lesson 🙏

[@jclenhardt1172]

Standing up and clapping - so, so good, the information you uncover and present - thank you!! I look forward to listening to more of these in the future. Thank you, Peter, for your wisdom and insights. :)

[@cameliaturda6472]

💜 ... just cry ... , so much beauty ...

[@llbailey9946]

OMG #TruthBombs one after another! Liked, Subscribed & Shared!!!

[@godshownphoenix9014]

Big Deep Convos like this Is so Useful. Thank you Peter.

[@msclaudita]

thank you PC and to the beautiful person who was willing to share.

[@sophiapace]

This was so relevant and perfect timing, I really resonated with her share. The practice at the end, opening to I'm not not safe' how can this be maintained and opened in future events? If a trigger like this comes up again, would it be repeating that? Just trying to understand what the ongoing practice/tenchique is?

[@kima9512]

Amazing! I wish you ran in person groups like this in Connecticut!! 💜💜

[@alexlavi3699]

The exercise done at the end is based on Shelly Lefkoe method and Byron Katie

[@almondtree2011]

There have been many, many people throughout history, regardless of culture and tradition, that explored the concept of deep questioning and self-inquiry. We, as humans, need constant reminder and re-telling of those concepts, for new generations, for the current reality, for finding examples that we can relate to in our own lives here and now. I’m familiar with The Work of Byron Katie (but not so much the other person so I’ll look into it). If you’re interested in deeper self-enquiry you may also look into work and teachings of Socrates and Ramana Maharshi, among others 🌷

[@yannhijazi]

That was beautiful 🙏❤

[@irenecamino2361]

❤porwerful 😮Thanks you

[@gabbsdy8741]

Brillant this helped me a lot

[@Divchyk]

Woman's example and reasoning feels constructed It would make more sense if she would say that she was anxious about her friend not working out hard enough at the yoga class she recommended to that friend because she was afraid of her friend would be disappointed in that class and therefore disappointed in her. So it goes to her own self-esteem and seeking external validation.

[@ess70028]

Yeah I received it as constructed too, including the inbetween responses she gave to Peter. In that she felt she ‘had to’ give the example given in the WAY she did, maybe based on her existing beliefs. Very interesting to watch unfold in ‘real time.’ Humans are so complex.

[@okgiology]

Why would you invite someone you’re already anxious around to something you know could leave them disappointed? I also think it was all about external validation and she didn’t want to take it there because of how she’d be seen

[@pennyrobertson6118]

Thanks 😊💜🙏

[@김린아Lina]

I'd love to have a lifelong friendship with someone like her. She's an amazing and wholesome human.

[@Itstimetobeme]

So looking forward to this!💝

[@kwameamichel]

Wow! That was amazing

[@PaigeSquared]

When i go out into public places, for example grocery shopping, there is a fear of myself/my child dealing with a kidnapping or physical attacks, but there is also the fear of judgements/shame, being yelled at or bullied, sexual advances/harassment, and of being forced to experience something against my will. Not only the life or death scenarios, but also the painful ones. Peter's comment regarding who raised their hands surprised me, a little bit. Im not surprised, but i have never heard of that before. Is this fear of other people, or of being in public spaces, not a thing that many men experience? Or perhaps they were less willing to admit (in front of other men) that they walk around with anxiety?

[@grahamtrave1709]

I am not sure that not feeling safe is a thought which are represented as words. I have lived all of my life with a deep feeling of unsafety. Traumatic happenings lodge in the body as a cellular memory ..u cannot heal these wounds through mind and logic, for me only. I would suggest she also changes her living arrangements.I don't mean she cant still be friends but no amount of thought can calm a dysregulated nervous system. That's my take on this for what it is worth.

[@jannetgarciaball7523]

This is so powerful ❤

[@waykee3]

Yeah. Most people are not just not willing to deal with the issues they have as the false ego tries to cloud them by not wanting to think that they are wrong. and so, as much as people would want to help them, they project what they are onto what they think others are, where in fact others are just trying to tell them that that is the exact issue. The fear of the death of the ego being built on fluff is why people contribute to perpetuate situations like these, not knowing that the “fall” would be greater the longer one tries to avoid and be ignorant. Ignorance is never bliss. It’s perceived bliss. Humbling oneself to know that one is truly shitty and weak is the only way to help oneself. and getting triggered by others when people let you know such stuff by claiming that others are egotistical and thinking that they are intelligent is actually more to these people detriment. Not knowing that it’s because they are weak truly that they would feel this way and trying to fight back is only going to cover the wound/ “issue” that needs fixing. Such as people choosing to listen to people in power as being “correct” and not listening to someone who actually is correct but is a nobody, our “lower-rank” then them. and so, people don’t realise that they are actually more susceptible to manipulation by people who truly don’t want the best for them but play into their ego weakness to “please them” accordingly to what they feel is true. Where they think that people that are helping them are the actual manipulative ones. This is the kind of “manipulation” of most people. They “gaslight” themselves in actuality, thinking that others are “gaslighting” them. They think people that speak the truth are the real enemies and the ones that boost their false egos are the “friends”. and so, as much as truly good people want to help them, they can’t due to their own “defence mechanisms” and unwillingness to “humble” their ego. Their own free will kill them more than others try to kill them, all due to their lack of true wisdom. That is why, people should understand that what triggers you in where something needs to be addressed and worked on, where you truly are weak. Pain is not the enemy but a sign to let you know what needs to be dealt with. If you try to avoid it, it’s like having a wound and avoiding it and letting it fester just because it’s uncomfortable.

[@waykee3]

I’m sure he knows more than what he is saying here but he has to limit his “knowledge” to the specific situation that he is in as much as he wants to say certain stuff. The lady might not be able to understand even if he says certain stuff and so he has to “dumb/ tone” down the content to her level at the expense of what he really wants to say to help better. That is always the issues. We are limited to be truly understood for what we truly want to convey by the darkness of others. It’s just like Buddha or Jesus (I’m using the concept of the Ascended Masters as all-knowing) probably could have worded the “truths” better. But they can’t exactly do so as they were limited to the understanding of their disciples. and so, the “truths” that was passed down were limited to the wisdom of the people receiving the knowledge from them and might not be the exact “truth”. That is why people often can’t understand, misinterpret due to their level of wisdom and knowledge is confused. People that truly probably are wiser would not get the full picture from others that don’t have the same level of wisdom as they share with their specific level of understanding. and the lesser, wiser people often would get angry with their own ego (as their wisdom is also lesser to begin with) as wiser people try to tell them that the truth is likely not that. and so, all in all, wiser people need to figure out stuff on their own ultimately.

[@frederickawalker]

such a good video, helped me get to an emotional clearing too :)

[@Mayan.Embodiment]

Great introduction for me to your work.

[@oliviacasillas6180]

She wanted approval from her roommate and focusing on her during the workout...was to ensure that she was going to agree with her after the class and that is her Gold Star moment if the roommate approves. Definitely Mommy issues and some control because you dont honor yourself...just be authentic! Do love his approach!💜

[@robertfoster8820]

Hello Peter and friends, a beautiful conversation, thank you. The screenshot quote which you read, will you make it available. :) Cheers

[@kristina4395]

My gosh im triggered by how annoying it is for her to be so "I know what you will say".. 10 times... being sooooo presumptuous... She is such a control junkie 😅

[@Leethal18]

Fantastic!!

[@aliciabodington3272]

Insightful and helpful but what is the process to do this by yourself, if you can;t afford therapy or help right now? how do. you unpack the wisdom to arrive to new clarity?

[@bellamareelane9314]

Brilliant ❤❤

[@gwtomkins]

Plenty of men who keep women safe in this world😊

[@danielleo6855]

I feel like this could be taken deeper in practices for nervous system healing... Many if us have pre-verbal wounds and those can't be accessed by reasoning. You can reason your way out of mind body problem.

[@Soulfulplanet1]

People have good body languge there.

[@malcompavel6]

The Work

[@eliottrodriguez7425]

This dudes type of accent delights me, I think he said he's from England ....love it, truly dig the accent. I thinking thru all my issues emotional psychological biological etc I have fallen in love with therapy. It has untangled a lot of inner knots I didn't even know where there, etc,etc blah ,blah blah....biologically the ovaries grand finally and it's accompanying hormonal Imbalances have been shaking up my world for the last 18 years. So a lot has changed, or much continues to be revealed as the process goes....all this to say, I stopped to listen to this guy talking in front of a group of people, cause I'm exhausted of listening to my own thoughts of rumination which triple their loudness when I'm not busy. On my day off of work, when I'm bored...this guys brings up rummi's the guest house, and I think , of great he discovered a new land, I've had that taped on my refrigerator for years! And then I think.....God! Any asshole can be a therapist. Like the things he's saying are so obvious and duh! I can't believe he's getting paid for this shit. On the other hand a whole day of fucking rumination, the postmenopausal hormones not yet settled and still mood swinging ....and my search on tips on how to stop ruminating, landed me in this video and for all I know, on a good day, I might find him fascinating. I guess I just needed to vent and puke some venom to release some fucking pent up stock frustrated energy. Thank you for letting me share. To the dude, if you know jack shit i hope you know the preceding words are not personal. Deleted this comment if you wish , after all it's your channel. I got to write some pent up nonsense out. So, I'm goodish. Namaste

[@NicholasPalance]

Is that Rory McIlroy in the crowd?! If so, I like him even more.

[@trishf2184]

She just explained why I have put up with decades worth of verbal.abuse from my freaking spouse....thanks DAD

[@realtalk8609]

she is so beautyful, i think i kind of fell in love with her. too bad that there is no way to meet her, but if you read this know there is someone who fell in love with you without expectation, you are really beautyful

[@cameliaturda6472]

Love

[@cheriesmith9640]

Freedom✨💗✨

[@teamginger6359]

❤❤❤

[@tolgaalmaoglu7454]

Yes finally pedro Pietro 🎉

[@je8z6x]

Trigger happy 😂

[@rachelmagill1536]

Can anyone explain what he means at the end about being in a world that's not safe and she says she feels liberated? Thanks

[@harisdiz.5817]

You are more than welcome. However, don't forget you are a guest here...

[@Youtubewonderer]

✨🙏🏻✨

[@annacross6370]

The negative mental chatter such as low self worth takes its toll on the body creating illness and dis- ease

[@Gypsymumma90]

What about feeling inadequate 😢

[@kellycarsonbrown8990]

❤

[@CyndiGarguilo]

The problem with this whole teaching is that it is too self focused/self absorbed/selfish.. the more you focus inward, the more you will be stuck in your head. The cure is to love, forgive and know that you are forgiven. This is what will take you outside of your SELF. If you just read your Bible, you will be blessed by the best teacher, the Son of God.

[@Gypsymumma90]

What if someone ease dropping and bud in the conversation when I wasn't talking to them and make me feel inadequate

[@janinestanley2638]

She is not safe though. Thats the thing. She is not safe from herself. If she is dehydrated and wont speak up for herself she is literally not safe. Cant trust herself to look after herself. So there is an element of unsafety until she can trust herself 💗 i agree with the others speaking about somatics. Im not sure such a deep belief can be neutralised through the mind when it lives in the body ✨️

[@HouseOfHighbrations]

THIS

[@rongike]

you can also get a kid 3 days a week if you marry someone with children 🤣

[@henrik564]

❤😊

[@waykee3]

I’m sure he knows more than what he is saying here but he has to limit his “knowledge” to the specific situation that he is in as much as he wants to say certain stuff. The lady might not be able to understand even if he says certain stuff and so he has to “dumb/ tone” down the content to her level at the expense of what he really wants to say to help better. That is always the issues. We are limited to be truly understood for what we truly want to convey by the darkness of others. It’s just like Buddha or Jesus (I’m using the concept of the Ascended Masters as all-knowing) probably could have worded the “truths” better. But they can’t exactly do so as they were limited to the understanding of their disciples. and so, the “truths” that was passed down were limited to the wisdom of the people receiving the knowledge from them and might not be the exact “truth”. That is why people often can’t understand, misinterpret due to their level of wisdom and knowledge is confused. People that truly probably are wiser would not get the full picture from others that don’t have the same level of wisdom as they share with their specific level of understanding. and the lesser, wiser people often would get angry with their own ego (as their wisdom is also lesser to begin with) as wiser people try to tell them that the truth is likely not that. and so, all in all, wiser people need to figure out stuff on their own ultimately.

[@themeowparlour]

Children...

[@rvrgrrl]

When she said, "It's okay to be scared...it's okay," it reminded me of the song "It's Okay" by nightbirde: kzbin.info/www/bejne/m5mkkGZ3nLlrfqc

[@rv-roadtx]

Why has it become the norm to use "like" in every other word. I get triggered when adults constantly use it.

[@awakenthedrummer6452]

Bez got smart

[@rhythmofheaven1489]

Thought it was Tom Brady

[@blisswkc3344]

💯☘️🙌♾☮️❤️💖♥️🙏😇🌈🍀🙇🏽‍♀️

[@E-plunksna]

I don't know what english you speak, but I don't understand what you talk about. Is it my english? Though I usually understand others speaking english easily

[@danielkrawczyk3341]

Well I hope you turned on the captions to read what he was saying and get the message he was trying to impart

[@librapainter7174]

Was he flirting with her ?