What we argue about | Japanese/American marriage

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So we've been in an international marriage for 5.5 years, together for 7, are living in Japan, and speak to each other in both Japanese and English (although Jun's English is WAY BETTER than my Japanese). There are a lot of things we've adjusted to when it comes to cultural differences, but there are some things we just haven't. And some of these things we maybe still argue about. Okay some of these things we definitely still argue about.
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[@TheDansonT]

I'm sure you two can agree that Tidus and Yuna's famous "laughing" scene in Final Fantasy 10 is equally cringe-worthy in both English and Japanese.

[@quixoticsonnet]

Oh god, that laughing scene. Japanese Tidus sounds like a seagull being sat on.

[@ninochka4410]

quixotic sonnet A SEAGULL HAHA.

[@TheDansonT]

That is the PERFECT analogy, but now I'll never be able to un-think that image! hahaha

[@RachelandJun]

+quixotic sonnet I just watched it and now I'm crying at your comparison oh god kzbin.info/www/bejne/eJKnoJapj9CKgZI

[@odizzido]

FF10 voice acting in english was just terrible. I like the game, but geez. I didn't have as much of a problem with the japanese version but there were a ton of words I didn't know so I cannot judge as well.

[@imforrealsoamazinglikeitscrazy]

"can you use more....emotion?" "I'm SoRrY."

[@SynthwaveJade]

Lmao

[@louiedisasters7503]

moe

[@user-et4uc1iu8w]

moe

[@louiedisasters7503]

@@user-et4uc1iu8w moe

[@gamesincharacter5106]

ThePotatoUnicorn lol I’m just like jun i say everything calmly while my mom is really well not calm. I think jun teaches everyone a good lesson always be calm never mad or frustrated

[@evelina3207]

Happy-Jun: •-• Sad-Jun: •-• Angry-Jun: •-• Neutral-Jun: •-• Sorry-jun: •-•

[@pokedex1152]

When WWIII happens Jun: •-•

[@shermanator00]

@@kallistaanne eeeeeeeeeeee

[@imtotallyrandom681]

Frisk : - _-

[@shalice7784]

He has a bigger eyes when he’s scared

[@miscyal2810]

no one : jun : •-•

[@yujiehu6825]

“What’s wrong with you”, when I learn this phrase in school, the textbook says it means “checking if someone is ok, and this is to show your concern about the person”. Well, when I said this to my American friend one day years later, I received a mean face......can’t forget.

[@AK-jt7kh]

Haha. Aww that is cute but sad 😭😜

[@adde9506]

"What's wrong with you?" implies that the person is crazy. The question "Why would you do that?" is usually also implied. Hmmm... Think of it as adding "with you" implies that the other person is not like you, you can't understand them and are demanding an explanation. When you ask "what's wrong?" the person is like you and you have a general understanding of the problem, but need specifics to help or sympathize.

[@oscarmendez1477]

@@adde9506 That was very well explained , thanks!

[@Kuriousspirit]

You can say it to british people, we know what you mean 😊✌🏼

[@brattrox2939]

Even my fiance who speaks only English messed this up once. It's technically right, but connotation is just where it goes wrong. If you say it with the right emotion, Americans might understand that you don't mean it as an insult but that's pretty difficult.

[@MrHarshaagousta]

as an asian guy i can confirm : when we are being cute to our partner, we dramatized the word like "i am sorryyyy :( :(" but when we are really sorry for what we did, we put serious face and say "i am sorry" with strong dedication like we are ready to whatever punishment you will befall us.

[@prudence8808]

More like americans are way to emotional right? I feel like serious calm apologies are more sincere because it shows you were able to rationally think about your actions and truly acknowledged your mistake

[@elliewuzzup7689]

@@prudence8808 Haha. Just cultural differences as what is perceived as sincere. 😌 I can see how Americans would seem too emotional and how Japanese may be seen as emotionless, it's all about cultural perception. The best we can do is work to understand the feeling behind the apology so we can communicate better between cultures which is what I think Rachel and Jun do very well! ❤️

[@dancingbymoonlt]

@@prudence8808 As an American we are too emotional in comparison lol 😂 but while I can tell Jun is sincere now if I was angry I could misinterpret it as him being passive aggressive. The tone he is using isn’t the tone we use to sincerely apologize, it’s more done when you don’t mean it (like when your mom forces you to apologize when you’re a kid). A sincere tone for English (in America any way) has more inflection and as Rachel requests a bit more emotion. Monotone is considered to be rude, judgmental, or condescending here. It’s the tone teenagers use the most when they want to irritate their parents.

[@LeavesAbove]

I’m not to emotional, fight me

[@Zaicumber_UMBER]

a lot of people say I have no emotion and just have it when im really sad/happy over something

[@krowkovtuber]

basically americans being extra and japanese being chill for 8 minutes straight

[@spacewolfcub]

To be fair, as a cashier or other service jobs I've always enforced fairness when someone tries to walk all over other clients like that. It's not extra to refuse to accept rules being broken, otherwise why bother lining up at all and not just mob the counter? These social rules exist for a reason, to avoid drama not make more.

[@liyanns8998]

Americans are generally extra,that's normal for them but not for a Japanese or maybe some other parts of the world too

[@IsraelCountryCube]

I find it hot or cute? That Jun is cool and Rachel is funny and I also thought she was Asian....at first and then I thought is that red head real?! I was like nah I can see black hair but then Jun mentioned that she’s American AND SHES A REAL RED HEAD!! BOI THAT IS PROBALY THE MOST HOTTEST COMBO EVER! I NEVER IMAGINED THE DAY WOULD COME! A JAPANESE BOI AND ONE HOT REDHEAD their both hot *no homo jun it’s just fair to say that cause your wife isn’t the only hot one.....if you know what I mean* 😏😏😏😏 by that I meant jun is so frigging Ho- -Israel country cube has left the chat-

[@markhaus]

As a Swede in America, I don’t think any description covers the difference better than “extra”

[@user-ix4nq9yz8k]

Israel Country Cube boi chill

[@LittleFugueFlute]

I don't read Jun's apologies as emotionless, I read them as full of terror

[@itzreaps]

@@thomasnguyen9947 dude,, no. first of all, its polite to give emotionless apologies in japan, tHEY LITERALLY SAID THAT IN THE VIDEO- second, im pretty sure youre the only one who does that

[@midhubbs3395]

hahahhaa!! that's the expression

[@tenkaiandtransformerfangir7814]

I read his actions he does with his emotions more than his words

[@normahmansoor2888]

it has the same energy as *I'm sorry you felt that*

[@lillypharaoh5945]

Cause what's there to be sorry about 😂😂

[@esthykechan]

Rachel: rants in English Jun: switches to Japanese and does the same thing 😂

[@ditsyghost8609]

“You are being passive aggressive with me?” “I don’t know what that word means” LMFAOOOOOOOOOOO

[@rrysrats]

"..." ">:(..." "gomen nasai ._."

[@Anna-bb6rz]

Rachel: ARE YOU BEING PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE WITH ME?!?!?! Jun: o_o

[@maryudomah4387]

Jun: *HELP ME*

[@genocidesniping5181]

Jun: gomenasai™

[@xaladlovesgames2986]

Jun: *poker face*

[@aaronmontgomery2055]

I get it though, when my wife speaks in her native dialect I can't understand her when she gets mad at my

[@floridaturtleark4914]

Jun: put your brain in 🍚

[@taerium3019]

what jun says: *gomenasai :|* what he really means: *don’t kill me*

[@LJXrot]

Fax 😂😂🤞🏻🍵

[@gamesincharacter5106]

taerium gomen nasai is I’m sorry in Japanese

[@gamesincharacter5106]

taerium or put on English subtitles ^^

[@taerium3019]

L {real life detective} nah i know, i’m currently living in japan so i kinda know a bit of nihonggo :))

[@user-by5bs3ek6b]

Totally.😅（by japanese）

[@tylerblack3962]

Jun’s soft spoken and almost deadpan chaos is hilarious “So maybe it’s the cat food i use as a secret spice”

[@jacinthlilly3148]

*"Every cultural difference"* Rachel: You do this for what though Jun: Why not Rachel: But why Jun: Why not

[@jasmin-ij9oe]

are you being passive aggressive with me?!? >:V jun: 👁👄👁

[@XCBXII]

👁👄👁

[@simpleman8236]

And gomennasai

[@beverage7335]

👁👄👁 ごめなさい。

[@SAGIRAHH]

🇯🇵🇱🇷

[@hb6789]

LovinqLucky lmfao 👁👄👁

[@queenie24]

He sounded like Ice Bear when he apologized.

[@yunhoho]

neomu areumda areumda what if jun is secretly ice bear 😳 HAHAH

[@jen22608]

@@yunhoho broo 😳😳😳

[@NorNor-dr5hb]

OMG XD

[@ellaprukop764]

YESSS!!

[@gingerbreadbrat9285]

Yesss

[@traiamadelyn7309]

Oh my gosh, they're so cute

[@williamwren4677]

I’m dying from the cuteness 😭

[@lalicoca1844]

I was about to write the saaaame words 😂

[@faithangel1254]

Haha ageed

[@abhinav1690]

WOMEN

[@sanich0811]

Women moment

[@gothictrashqueen9109]

Rachel: “Are you being passive aggressive with me?” Jun: “I’m not sure what that means.” Rachel’s Mind: *commencing count down sequence* Jun: *i m s o r r y*

[@mariasasanami7603]

this is so cute she’s like “are you passively being aggressive to me” “idk what that means” *intense stare* “i’m sorry”

[@pangestusandyaetnikosiagian]

Haha nice call back

[@narakarrarr6191]

Tha was hilarious 😂

[@mariem24601]

That was A+ skit writing right there.

[@miglesakalauskaite9060]

She is just an extrovert who found its introvert

[@haruhisuzumiya6650]

That's a a shoujo romance trope

[@AniWho268]

+migl3 31673 Nah, Rachel is actually an introvert. If you look a bit closer during their early videos you can tell. Plus, Rachel revealed in a previous video that she is an introvert.

[@AniWho268]

@@Endorphinn_ Are you replying to the original comment above?

[@Endorphinn_]

@@AniWho268 Yes. I don't know why the nickname isn't there. I thought it was automatic like for yours at the beginning of this comment. I surely made a mistake somewhere.

[@AniWho268]

@@Endorphinn_ Oh ok cool. Just making sure.

[@Reismiilch]

"What´s wrong with you?" damn languages can be cruel

[@nins7457]

I know right...and unforgiving too. 😅

[@SongOfChaos1]

It reminds me of some languages that have multiple words for "why". If I recall correctly, both Russian and Japanese do this. "Why are you crying?" gets dicey if you use the wrong method, as one implies information about the situation while the other implies intent. So, "Why are you crying?" as in 'what happened to make you cry?' versus, 'for what purpose are you crying?', the latter being somewhat... accusational. When you ask "What's wrong 'with you'?" it sounds accusational, depending on the context, intonation, affect, etc. At it's core, "What's wrong?" can only reference the situational wrongness, while 'with you' can mean all kinds of things, mostly negative because it puts the attention to 'you' as the subject of the question, rather than (or in tandem with) the problem, and then it just gets all ugly from there. If 'with' had separate words for 'in your space' and 'in you personally', it'd probably be less a thing. (One of the benefits of complex case systems.)

[@lightylight7590]

@@SongOfChaos1 in Russian we have two words that are constantly messed up by the learners: "pochemu" which means "why", and "zachem" which means "for what purpose?" And we also have "dorogoy" which means "dear" and "expensive" at the same time😁. That's why we can say "dear car" instead of "expensive car".

[@barbarradevlin9111]

I always come back to this video because it really does show a American Japanese language learner the way Japanese people do emote. The way Jun says I’m sorry is so full of respect, and that’s how they show their sincerity. English is such a nuance language and honestly you could consider it to be quite tonal. We kind of express emotions over the top. We heavily rely on body language as well to express our feelings. In Japanese you rely on your words, because each word has a deep and strong meaning and is dependent on situation.

[@schmoyoho]

the struggle for non-confrontational people is real

[@JohnDoe-wx2oo]

The real problem is when "non-confrontational people" chastise others for not being a doormat. I'm not going to eat an entrée I didn't order just because you would :)

[@becauseican5821]

schmoyoho what the hell is schmoyoho doing here?

[@schmoyoho]

John Doe true--i don't think either should chastise the other type, they're both livin their lives

[@becauseican5821]

schmoyoho who are you replying to?

[@betylaguerrera]

yes!

[@CazTails]

Jun: Gomenasai Translation: please don't kill me

[@juanwyatt]

Epic translation 😂

[@kristinabaker4433]

🤣

[@arinanamjin2622]

No problem

[@giangngo6826]

I thought it was I’m sorry. I guess captions suck.

[@Brextol]

Mythical Miko It was a joke lol.

[@smolkidd]

jun: dont worry about it just let him cut in line rachel: why? jun: (rmbrs the yakuza)

[@joaovicenteribeiro1468]

In Brasil, most specifically in Rio, no One would argue with a Guy who’s cut in line. Not because we’re not trying to make a scene, but because we don’t wanna get stabbed or shot.

[@fandarzelig]

I think in the US women tend to be more vocal about things like line cutting because if you're a man you're expected to "back things up". I always just assume if someone cuts they're just looking for a confrontation.

[@renanterezan9922]

Não só no Rio, parça. Barato tá loco em todo lugar.

[@chuuyanakaharas]

...oh god..

[@priyotomo203]

OMG

[@waffleisnice]

Uhhhhhh 😳

[@Classic_Berry]

"Are you being passive aggressive with me?" "I don't know what that word means." *Intense stare* "Gomenasai." I just lost it at this part. So funny!

[@jinjjaninja]

Tiffany Grant gonenasai means **please don’t kill me**

[@DropsOfJupit3r]

😂😂 Yus, I lost it at this point.

[@bisexualbean2529]

ごめなさい

[@asuna932]

I don't know what that means either. Someone could explain to me? I'm a brazilian.

[@teddybear8443]

@@asuna932 if you have subtitles on you can see it says I'm sorry lol

[@banterisk]

“Are you being passive-aggressive with me?” *I dUnNo wHaT tHaT wOrD mEanS*

[@heheboi8108]

(with VERY EMOTIONAL voice)

[@donatcsonka1371]

(-Rachel's look: "Jun! I'll kick your ass!!")

[@devonoknabo2582]

I DUno WHat THat MEanS

[@wephoy]

Me to :p

[@feliscaaurelea4915]

Banterisk ee

[@deovolente5867]

"They suppose to wear masks. He coughed in my face". Wow still relevant and scary.

[@Panmico]

Rachel: Americans don’t wear leopard print shirts !!! Me wearing a leopard print shirt: 🤨🧐😦

[@Nami-bu2qf]

American *men lmao well not straight anyway which is the majority of men

[@magk2524]

@@Nami-bu2qf this might surprise you but um wearing a leopard print shirt doesn't make you gay.. or means you're gay.. honestly most people don't wear leopard prints.. it's just women and not men in general,but if a man wears one it doesn't mean he is gay

[@jbertucci]

You have to be a super badass, universe-saving tier FF hero to wear that. And emo hair.

[@downey2294]

@@magk2524 yea it just means he really likes men.

[@magk2524]

@@downey2294 because obviously leopard=gay

[@JJ-ml7pq]

“Are you being passive-aggressive with me??” “I don’t know what that word means.” Somehow I found this very amusing.

[@gleaming8103]

no only you ^^

[@SarahAbramova]

Same

[@perishih9687]

i replayed it

[@cleong5585]

I do too. Hehe

[@baskervilleBerz]

That I'm sorry at the last. Lmao...

[@firassk]

Who finds it satisfying when he talks in Japanese?

[@ft.myself2894]

meeeeee

[@QueenBee-sf6zd]

It’s very calming to me,

[@kanvianas]

Firass Kiki yesss

[@rommelvlog9709]

Mee

[@Mike_tsu]

meeee

[@matthewtheobald1231]

She just seems very excentric and extroverted and he is shy and quiet. Even if they were the same culture they probably wouldn't understand each other haha

[@supereggtartersauce6464]

Opposites attract

[@melonachii]

@@supereggtartersauce6464 yep

[@feignreigh]

yup i was just thinking these are alot of thing my introverted bf does and were bother americans

[@feignreigh]

both*

[@franceskacostamagna1036]

Very true. I’m American and I’m very much like Jun with the customer service or cutting in line thing. I get so embarrassed when people I’m with confront people over what I consider small. I’ve never ever sent food back or called someone out for cutting in line.

[@thisismyname2255]

As a half japanese person his sorry in the beginning sounds very sincere to me😂

[@milys8902]

🤣😂😂OMG how!!!!?

[@Speed001]

1:08 that's a sincere "I'm sorry", as is 1:30

[@rubyrock7302]

I’m Indian and thought that seemed genuine as well. I can see his sincerity through the blank face haha 😂

[@AbsentWithoutLeaving]

I feel like the quiet unemotional verbal apology is sincere, but the flat out unblinking stare right into your eyes is aggressive, so if someone apologized to me like that, I'd be wondering what the heck was going on. EDIT: I just went back and watched it again, and on second viewing, I think the stare is more of a "deer caught in the headlights" look, so it sort of carries the emotion of the American "I'm SOOOO sorry!!" without actually using the words. 😂

[@pcmcpse7572]

Being an asian, i also agree that jun’s apologise sounds sincere 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@lovemekitten]

abcd1234 Sameeee

[@yuchongliu7788]

Same lol

[@Ghost_with_Bow]

I didn't think it was insincere, but I would expect more emotion. I find that quite interesting how it can sound different depending on what culture one grew up with.

[@lingro2366]

I’m black and I don’t show emotion lol

[@beef2897]

Yeah! It’s weird how some people take emotion differently! I thought it was pretty sincere! In my opinion, he sounded serious like “I’m sorry” rather than “IM sO SORRYY!!”

[@mochi1i794]

I like how they’re arguing quietly about talking to the line cutter, and their friend is just standing there like: ‘This is fine, everything is fine’ like a rpg npc

[@kesayo]

My wife is Japanese, and we always communicate in Japanese because that’s how we started our relationship. But it’s frustrating for me because I feel like I’m at a disadvantage in arguments. Sometimes I have really good points I want to make, but I can’t adequately explain them. But on the plus side, it forces me to think before speaking instead of blurting out emotional retorts, so our arguments rarely get out of control.

[@charlotteshanagher4816]

Smart man. "I'm sorry " is always the correct response.

[@lillylazer429]

I love how chill Jun is

[@TheCastle357]

That's a sign of weakness

[@thatsveryverysweetofyou9023]

You can also say, “Forgive me.” If you want to be extra.

[@valonzhubi4321]

TheCastle357 lmao kids tryna act "manly" but behind screen they're weak

[@user-lu6ug6hf5f]

@@valonzhubi4321 I agree

[@Bambuskus505]

And THIS is why I'm single. Cuz I can't talk to people even in my own language

[@elenemelashvili3284]

Hello, Same, Byeeee,

[@whattheheckamidoinghere4305]

Or you're afraid that you Mom may rob you in your sleep?

[@gays4beomgyu]

Yo sameeeee i cant speak fluent tagalog without thinking if its wrong or right ghdhdjvyjdjdj

[@MadPixxy]

Seen 109 likes and got irritated so enjoy 110 likes. 😂✌

[@clairebear7869]

YES SAME!

[@CallMeDean97]

"Are you being passive-aggressive with me?" "I don't know what that word means." Aaaand *that's* where I lost it.

[@mystii7717]

THEN THE EMOTIONLESS “I’m sorry” AFTER ALSUSU

[@scarrios5742]

Rachel: Say something Jun: *thinks Rachel: Say something Jun: *thinks

[@sadirahharris9604]

6:12 "are you being passive aggressive with me?" "....I don't know what that word means" 😂

[@onwun4292]

I don't know what that means neither, anyone explain "passive aggressive" to me plz ?

[@blackbunnie1389]

нυrrιcane 500th like

[@ricod3871]

gomen nasai...

[@oneopinion1986]

Actually laughed out loud at the cat food secret spice scene. The use of "what's wrong with you" was so clever and cute.

[@1zin1]

Omg same..

[@You.Tube.Sucks.]

Same. Can't believe I found KZbinrs who are actually funny.

[@thegentlemanpirate6844]

Jun: "I'm sorry." Rachel: (X) Doubt

[@icetiger-4760]

These two are the perfect wholesome sitcom couple!~ Ahhh!~ they make me happy seeing how they are so different but strive to be better and understand each other!~ Love lvl 1000

[@m.b3839]

Rachel: Hey have you seen my- Jun: **downing Rachel's food** Rachel: - snacks... Jun: **windows shutdown sound**

[@karthikaregunathaperumal8711]

Workman concept!

[@mitchellbarton7915]

Gomenasai °¬°

[@redtiny802]

Read that as "Drowning Rachel's food"

[@kaitlinpontius8767]

Jun.exe has stopped

[@AbroadinJapan]

WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU?! (I especially liked Jun's scary potato chip surprised face at the start)

[@Sophie-cw3fb]

Abroad in Japan Hey Chris!

[@arsenymun2028]

you wanted to say crisp

[@lunacruz8237]

noloco

[@TheNoobShow57]

Never had 2 words mean the difference between smack in the face and a hug.

[@SamRock3888]

Heya Chris!

[@shortcut101]

Wait "what's wrong with you?" and "what's wrong" has different mean and use in different situations?? Ok I learned something new today lol

[@kisatorimuru6627]

One implies a fundamental issue. When you say "with you" it ties the issue with you as opposed to just the current situation.

[@KitsuneFyora]

As an american, I know the difference is that "what's wrong with you" means that you're the problem, and "what's wrong" means something isn't right and the person can help you. Knowing that Jun is from another culture though means he is probably being sincere with his question. Us Americans are a bit too cutthroat at times 😅

[@Godongo]

"What's wrong with you?" Is like "What's your issue?" Problem = you Kind of like if a player doesn't work. It has an issue. "What's wrong?" Is like "What is the issue?" Problem = ??? It's not connected with you

[@white_cheshire]

Thanks for the video, it's adorable. Hope you two will be able to understand each other better

[@megitsune_]

"I'm sorry..." *Jun's poker face* Princeless! XD

[@anothersheep9748]

what does princeless mean?

[@dankayur2910]

It means he has a princess instead.

[@dankayur2910]

In this usage, yes. More generally, it just means so good you could never put a price on it.

[@cin9663]

Jun: 👁👄👁 Rachel: ... Jun: I am sorry 👁👄👁 Rachel: ...👁➖👁 Jun: 👁👄👁 I am so sorry

[@milkchocobearbar]

Rachel*

[@phuphu1867]

LMAOOO😂😭💀

[@generaldefenseyt6517]

@@milkchocobearbar r/whooooooosh

[@generaldefenseyt6517]

@@milkchocobearbar r/whooooooosh

[@milkchocobearbar]

@@generaldefenseyt6517 you dont know how to use a r/whoooosh do you?

[@TheGamer-nj9if]

Juns chill level is godly

[@meadowlarkb.427]

Kudos to you both. Showing patience towards another is caring!

[@cherriegetison6093]

I honestly read Jun's "Gomenasai" as "Please don't hurt me."

[@j.j.s.7083]

Same

[@claudiachin5860]

Cherrie Getison TRUE

[@sleepy1697]

There was a sad puppy-like look there, with hints of, "I'm cute right?" and "Don't stomp me". It finishes with a big, "Those eyes hurt my soul"

[@moomoodeadcow]

This is what men actually mean when they say: "I'm sorry." We're not sorry. We don't even know why we're sorry. We just don't want to be killed or neutered. That's bad. Please don't do that.

[@explosivefruits]

Cherrie Getison lmaoooooo

[@terdexeusaur5067]

6:04 best part Rachel:ARE YOU BEING PASSIVE-AGGRESIVE WITH ME?! Jun:I dont know what that word means *o_o* Rachel: >:( Jun: :| *im sorry*

[@joannemarieaso5971]

I like your jollibee profile hehehe

[@terdexeusaur5067]

Thx

[@riolenztimbol6286]

Ey! Filipino boi

[@riolenztimbol6286]

I am filipino too :)

[@luisfelipecorrea4219]

And he ended up apologizing hahaha best married guy face ever hahahaha

[@HelloChampionWin]

"Omg he coughed on me why wasn't he wearing a mask so gross!" Watching in 2021, COVID-19... so ahead of her time.

[@RedWolfRun]

It makes me so happy to see married couples that work so well together. Keep loving each other guys!

[@TheOneMastodon]

"American hair *cannot* do that, that is Japanese hair" LMAO

[@Lsaldana92]

TheOneMastodon I said the same thing XD

[@nermket4849]

European hair can't do that lol

[@Lsaldana92]

Native American hair cannot do that

[@kingjeffy]

Dominican hair can't do that

[@dassahscott2659]

black people hair can not do that

[@meiii37]

“ARE YOU BEING PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE TO ME?” “.... I don’t know what that means...” “...” **angry glare** “Gomenasai.” I’m laughing so hard-

[@grapppilixiousilse7979]

Meihua MZ same

[@szaboagnes7448]

AHAHA SAME 😂😂

[@TinyCloud90]

best part so far 😂 they are funny

[@ingakovalska1072]

Me too😂😂😂

[@katiehoffman6022]

I laughed much harder than in was supposed to🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@dean8147]

i seriously remember the days around 2010 , watching Rach & Jun make videos about Japan. The fact the channel is so large is incredible. I thought 200k subs was a lot when i first knew of the channel lol. You guys have done so well and im proud of you!

[@Achinime013]

4:53 Ignis is a real name of latin origin meaning "fiery". Same with the names of noctis w/c is latin for "night" and luna w/c is latin for "moon"... 😁 Sorry. I like name meanings a lot. 😆

[@Nezumi99]

"Look at his hair,look.at his emo hair...that's japanese hair" lmao

[@Vixen_Rose6404]

Especially Sasuke

[@lugami]

No thats anime hair

[@CarpetHater]

He has the same hairstyle that 80% of anime characters have. (I thought we were talking about Jun)

[@ezka_T]

“Are you being passive-aggressive with me?” “I don’t know what that word means. ... GOMENASAI."

[@levy7096]

Really I like that sound ahhaha

[@jonhillman871]

the performances in the the little skits were amazing. you guys are good actors.

[@irofpap9303]

Loteraly this is the best video ever. I have lost count of how many tomes i have watched it.

[@riishuro]

Jun: *speaks japanese* Rachel: arE YOU BEING PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE WITH ME??!1!?

[@RachelandJun]

Pls enjoy our dumb skits video We had a lot of fun fighting for you

[@vovowo9252]

Rachel & Jun Thank You!

[@thebyun]

I enjoy it ssoooooo muuuchhhh

[@vovowo9252]

Rachel & Jun this made my day!

[@kleoonyoutube]

xD this is absolutely fantastic

[@PrometheusV2]

AAAAAAaaaaaa yes thank you for fighting for us! XD

[@Kitty294_]

This was intriguing and wholesome

[@personofpowera.b.c990]

Love seeing the ups and downs. Also your skits were so cute 🥰

[@wendyyg9135]

My boyfriend is Japanese and I’m Mexican American, and we encounter so many similar problems lol. We speak 3 languages, I don’t think anyone can understand us sometimes

[@nobodyxiii4611]

Suena triste y divertido ;-;

[@weiaisee]

Hope everyone

[@bobross7744]

If that's your real name it's a perfect example of your American and Mexican

[@meybae39]

Thats just soooo cool haha

[@jadebayoba7073]

Bueno el hecho de que te comuniques casi perfectamente con un Japones ya es un chingo de avance sabes :^

[@Lokiiotta]

The way he said “I’m sorry, I’ll get better.” in the moment...Sounded pretty sincere to me.

[@yadiiLucille]

Yeah! it sounded so cute and thoughtful of him

[@mzizHatake]

I love how honest this video is. Most couples act like they are perfect and never fight. But these guys are so honest!

[@MSinclairStevens]

I'm an American woman with a British husband and he's EXACTLY like Jun. I think it's a guy thing...especially guys from small, island nations. Non-confrontational. Doesn't want to make a fuss. Especially in public situations.

[@zzzzzzzzzz098]

"He just cut in line" "Uh huh, yeah?" *Studies bottle*

[@dietowo]

Eddie Roy *studying intensifies*

[@DinosaurNick]

"Are you being passive-aggressive with me?" "...I don't know what that means." *Death stare* *Proceeds to apologize in Japanese.* I'm dead XD

[@ThePerksdeLeSarcasmeSiorai]

Passive-aggressive behavior is described as having hostility against someone but rather than confronting the person, you avoid openly expressing your negative feelings. And as a result, you keep doing subtle things that might annoy the other party greatly. For example: avoiding a person, giving sarcastic comments, pouting, backhanded compliments, insulting a person while smiling, refusal to do something without a solid reason, refusal to acknowledge any problems, etc.

[@crystalheart9]

That was really interesting! You two are such an adorable couple🥰

[@m.p.6039]

I never forgot this video, thanks for making it. I hope you guys are doing well, best of luck.

[@kamikze6622]

less facial expression and tone = less yelling *or reversed*

[@ecahbromo6295]

kamikze i know that feeling.

[@trinityvp]

kamikze armyyy

[@mixedmaws2767]

My parents tho

[@vivie5187]

kamikze relate

[@soberbri]

that pfp tho 😂

[@nikinak8042]

OMGGGGGGGGG, 6:05 had me rolling!!! Rachel: "Are you being passive-agressive with me?" *glare* Jun: "...I don't know what that word means..." Rachel: *intense glaring* Jun: "gomen nasai"

[@sooyan5476]

I know XD I couldn't stop laughing at that point

[@freedomsky1090]

Niki Nak *laughing*

[@ayeshahoque399]

Niki Nak i was deadddd

[@emilysiemens4559]

I knew it had to come xD

[@5up3rp3rs0n]

To be honest tho, what is passive aggressive in Japanese? Or in any other language? Translation is hard :(

[@songyi221]

I watched this me and my boyfriend are both Japanese but I’m Japanese Canadian and was raised by a western family and I thought we had major issues tell I watched this cause you guys fight about all the same stuff so I now understand for couple like us this is normal I got a good laugh out of this and some comfort thank you both 😂

[@oscarmendez1477]

Body language, diction and intonation will change from culture to culture but I think in most cases most men across the world when it comes to apologizing to girls they try to be sincere but appear as cold, not genuine and lazy about it.

[@nickieb2636]

His sorry in Japanese seemed like he was ready to sacrifice his life for your forgiveness!!

[@theone8329]

NickieB lol for real tho

[@dankayur2910]

I don't get it. It's practically toneless yet so ridiculously polite and sincere.

[@emilgoubasarian9822]

NickieB This comment made me crack the fuck up LOL

[@Jay.T4NA]

what? Really?? It sounded sooooo deadpan and just... toneless XDXD Wow

[@ruedelta]

Dan Kayur It's all about choosing the right type of apology. Even if it's toneless in delivery, the fact that he's giving a very long and involved apology makes it very polite. Delivering it in an effective context is where you get sincerity from; in front of a crowd at the incident doesn't show sincerity, but privately with no one else watching is much more sincere. If we judged apologies by delivery, it would mean that we'd have no leniency against kids or people who are learning the customs we grew up with. It'd be too inflexible, though some people do it anyways because they're more judgmental.

[@shalaulaw]

Jun: I don't know what that word means... Rachel: *death stare* Jun: *monotone* I'm sorry. This part made me laugh so much because he brought back the (seemingly not) genuine I'm sorry xD

[@danseb6415]

Laura my favorite part too lmao

[@Chew1964]

At least he recognizes the Death Stare.

[@KuroiHato69]

I fell out laughing at that as well! (^O^)

[@snoopyslu]

Laura yes this cracked me up too!

[@FancyHatching]

I laughed so hard I accidentally pushed over the folded laundry pile OTL

[@roisenguyen9350]

I love the way she moves her hands when she speaks and he just calmly and intentionally listens to her. What a lovely couple!

[@jessirose]

you guys are great, being able to stay together and work it out. amazing.

[@pumpkinmomma155]

They're a really good looking couple

[@elr1cbros]

They are definitely some beautiful humans

[@hisoka4595]

Right? I'm jealous of both of them 😳

[@corsaircaruso471]

Yes, indeed.

[@miqamarflor]

Yeah, while I'm here being single.

[@deepbluebada]

i can hear the bisexuals coming hehe

[@ashenone2630]

I can see a meme of something bad happening and a zoomed in clip of Jun's face saying "I'm sorry" 😂

[@ireneflamel9899]

DJMxmstr12 this needs to be a meme

[@CHloE748]

I've never wanted something to be a meme more than this

[@ghoulishartist]

I will probably end up doing that, and send it to one...Or all of my friends..

[@raya733]

Master Chief!

[@ThePeytonLeigh]

“Are you being passive aggressive with me?” “I don’t know what that word means....... Gomen-nasai," Busted a gut laughing. Way to take it full circle.

[@hyperplaguerat]

Jun's ごめんなさい is so funny! He says it with such a straight face and tone I can't tell if it's serious.

[@nynaevealmeara7335]

I think it's pretty hilarious when you look at the differences. Americans can feel uneasy when a lack of emotion is involved but the Japanese seem like they see that as well mannered.

[@GoldLove21]

What i really want to see. A Japanese and Italian couple. Imagine that argument.😄

[@annettebonteri3234]

Or a japanese man and a mexican woman...yikes 💀💀💀

[@orangesoda2424]

@@annettebonteri3234 😂

[@kairi5792]

@@annettebonteri3234 Oof, I'm like a mix of Mexican and White and I'm over here wanting a Japanese soulmate. Let's see how that goes in the future lol

[@savvx2738]

Cheopsticks Trash you can’t pick the race of a soulmate

[@tifamilla]

Jun : *eats snack* Rachel : *comes in* *Stares intensely* i m s o r r y

[@lubnaalrifaie5639]

WE WANT PART 2!!!

[@heidihol]

I get you so much, Rachel! 😅 I'm American married to a Czech and we have these same communication breakdowns. I guess it makes things interesting! 😁

[@wedsa95]

That's a great "what's wrong" and "what is wrong with you" comparison.

[@tenettagriffin5644]

'm American. I took it to mean ok honey tell me more about how you are feeling. Elaborate further so that maybe I can help you.

[@tracys169]

This is so funny because I'm not a native English speaker so like Jun, I thought that's the correct way to say it (I even thought it's more polite/formal). Believe me, back then the English courses I took, didn't teach the subtle differences of those types of phrases. I learned that saying that would only make your partner even angrier LOL even though I really wanted to know what happened to him, if something bad happened :D

[@S-Kara]

@@tracys169 what's wrong with you is okay for any politeness. the biggest problem would be the tone, and since many people are using the phrase "what's wrong with you" to address someone of being annoying or stupid. now read it loud when it's capitalized... "what's wrong with YOU?" "WHAT'S wrong with you?" "what's WRONG with you?" "what's wrong WITH you?" if you know which one is the polite one, then you're good to go

[@MissEileenL]

its only been 17sec into the video and im already dying at Jun's: "Im sorry🤖" 😂😂

[@MissEileenL]

I love you guys💕

[@anandaditha4671]

Eileen Lopes same 😂😂😂

[@anv5509]

You guys are adorable! you ought to have your own sitcom

[@melissadupre1422]

Omg Jun's last deadpan "I'm sorry" made me spit out my drink I laughed so hard 😂 I love these videos

[@jackandamy]

Me(Korean)and my wife ( American) . We do have same issues!!! Haha I love your video! Thank you!

[@shadowmod3]

as a Chinese i used to date a Canadian and an American. they would always say that i am expressionless when i am at the verge of giving up a limb. i gave up wondering why do they need to be so dramatic. somedays i wonder if i just exercise my freedom of speech and let everything out in utter disregard without any due consideration of the others around me would i fit in better. LOL

[@iantumulak6723]

@@shadowmod3 .... lol! I love your comment.

[@muptezelkomedyen4316]

@@Five_tailed_fox Because show must go on.

[@alyssarose3880]

You have a beautiful family! God bless

[@johnbaker517]

I am Canadian and my girlfriend is Korean. Idioms and expressions confuse, anger, or upset her, even if I am trying to be sincere. The "what's wrong with you" is the tip of my iceberg.

[@edenduffley6871]

I watched this video years ago and came back to watch it a second time. It’s still funny! 😂

[@user-fi4pr]

1:35 "I don't knoooow" 😂😂😂Has to be my favourite part of the clip! See, Jun, that's showing some emotion 😂😂😂

[@leaf7392]

Rachel:* “Oh my gosh why do ppl not cover their mouths when they cough”* well uh... that aged well....I’ll just leave it at that....

[@BrunaKelsch]

Ikr? Corona vibes

[@danielleking262]

Yeah! She mentioned the masks, and I was like "wait a min, when was this video??". Nope, not 2020.... yeesh

[@vercadvorek]

I searched for this comment :D

[@pluviophile1988]

Whoa!!!

[@Errupt]

@@danielleking262 people already wore masks in Asia