What Weird Thing Would You Make Socially Acceptable? | AskReddit

[@danh4698]

Physical affection being as okay in platonic relationships as in romantic relationships - and not being seen as "ooh you have a crush". I love holding my friends' hands, giving forehead kisses, and napping with friends. Also, the converse should be socially acceptable, wherein people who don't like physical affection shouldn't be expected to hug or whatever just bc it's a social norm.

[@DragonriderEpona]

Omg yes! Let me hug my guy friends as long and often as I want without everyone assuming we're dating or other friends assuming that one of us had a crush on the other one.

[@danh4698]

​@@DragonriderEpona Ikr?? Let me just hug all my friends who want to be hugged, simply because we like hugs - there doesn't have to be more reason to it than that!

[@janebaker966]

Yes good point. Over the last decades simple affection has been "sexualized" and a lot of 18/19th century books where people were always hugging and embracing and kissing each other,sharing beds etc get seen in a worse light than they were meant.

[@whyareyousubscribedlmao52]

Well I do that already but I see where you’re coming from

[@Irish_Enderman]

If one of my friends (or anyone) did any of those to me, even if it was socially acceptable, I would hate it Probably just a social anxiety thing but I need my personal space

[@feyreeverdeen321]

This entire video is just Evan realising that he's not socially acceptable😂

[@cherrybooboo6946]

Same here lol

[@szendeti]

well, same, and I don't want to be, either, if that's the norm

[@Varksterable]

Maybe not being socially acceptable should be socially acceptable. One rule to rule them all.

[@sarahverstraete1965]

another one (i have a lot to say) NORMALISE NOT COMING OUT TO PEOPLE!!!! you don't have to and if you want to just introduce your partner when you're ready, do it! you don't owe anyone anything and it's your life

[@carolinarodrigues2975]

I would normalize not gendering everything, from articles of clothing, to colours, to hobbies.

[@rebekahl840]

Yes! I would too. It would make my life so much easier

[@chrisjohnson7929]

I bet you typed that comment on a "women's keyboard". (Which would be inexplicably coloured pink and cost more than the men's version because that is what they do...)

[@KattReen]

@@chrisjohnson7929 Haha! Yeah, like the "women's pen" BIC tried pulling a few years back ;P It's really silly

[@kientrungmai5598]

I'm having german classes and this comment appears

[@KatieRoseHere]

Honestly. I've always found that weird

[@JustAnotherPerson4U]

It should be socially acceptable not to hug and kiss family members all the time in greeting. I don't love them any less, I just don't like hugs not intiated by me and hate forced hugging/kissing. For context in the kissing aspect, I'm half-spanish. So visiting my spanish family means many prickly cheek kisses from male family relatives and big smackers from the females... I've never found this comfortable.

[@szendeti]

YES

[@janani1826]

I have never kissed a family member and hugs are for pretty rare occasions- normally someone needs to be crying lol

[@danh4698]

yes this! as a kid i managed to get my grampy to shake my hand rather than kiss me goodbye, but granny never would let me go without a hug and kiss.

[@MayHugger]

Perks of having Autism. I have a medical permit to say I am legally allowed to freak out if someone touches me, and thus am not expected to do so to others.

[@Diana-cq4mu]

The part about smoking breaks is so true! I work at a catering where we often work many hours at a time, and at the beginning I noticed how the people who smoke would take a break every now and then to step outside and have a cigarette, while the rest of us just kept working. Since then I started also taking "smoking breaks" just to go outside, get some fresh air and quiet, and it really does help getting through the rest of the work hours.

[@harriotcampion6161]

Being socially acceptable to take sick days because of mental health... so many times I've been viewed as just lazy on the days where I have low to zero functioning and can't get out of bed

[@rtsharlotte]

If you call in sick at work its not your responsibility to find cover in the UK. Its the manager on duty that does this. Its like swapping shifts most bars/restaurants you can't do it without the permission of a manager. I've been in the industry for over twenty years and have never come across find my own cover if I was sick.

[@lolz4211]

randomly picking up a new way of dressing or doing makeup for a day. at least in my experience, people tend to get weird looks (especially in a school or work setting) if they try a new look for a day and that kinda sucks. this definitely prevented me from developing the style i have today, and made my middle and high school experience vastly more uncomfortable. love your videos!

[@PhiaSN]

Being silent in company is actually socially acceptable in Finland and it's great! I (a German) was once taking a walk in a forest with two Finnish friends and there was a pause in the conversation, so my mind started racing to find a new topic to talk about - until I realised I don't need to, because with them it's totally fine to walk in silence for a bit, and it was total bliss.

[@PurpleCastles]

Social Breaks. What I mean is not having to feel obligated to always talk to one or more people because they've come to you to talk. I have symptoms of Asperger's and, even though I don't mind conversing with people often, I sometimes just get socially exhausted and would just like to not have to feel obligated to talk to people in order to prevent being forever unforgiven for not feeling interested in conversing with them once or twice (or maybe even more).

[@katestewart100]

One of my favourite things to do (pre-covid, obvs) is walking into a pub on my own and getting a pint and some food. Mostly ok in pubs for some reason - though less so for women, I have had a few "are you ok?"s and my first thought is "I WAS...until you interrupted my blessed solitude"

[@cheshirecat5416]

Let's make it socially acceptable to cancel plans with friends simply because you don't feel like it (my social battery runs out very fast). I don't want to hurt anyone so I mostly find excuses that are more acceptable (e.g. work, important appointments,...). But that's basically lying and I hate it!

[@cheshirecat5416]

Except for my closest friends of course! They know me very well and I can be totally honest, but with everyone else... it's difficult.

[@dawnrussell5259]

My friend and I quite often have car rides with no talking at all. You are not being rude all it's a sign of a good friendship.

[@hikariyouk]

One of the main benefits from working from home, besides not having to commute for five hours a day, is that I can go off for a nap around 3pm.

[@SustainableSierra]

I second the “stop and check.” 97% of the time it’s awkward and I just want to run away. Also why is lying about getting together for coffee later a thing. Can’t we just end with a “nice seeing you.” I’d also love to normalise the “Irish exit” or just leaving because you want to. Why do I need to make up an excuse like “I have to get up early tomorrow” when I just want to leave an event to go watch Nextflix. Also I live in Japan and napping at work will get you fired unless it’s on your lunch break. A friend of mine got in trouble for napping at his desk.

[@carry7712]

If I have people over and it's late (after 10) and I'm tired, I just go to bed. Thank them for coming and tell them to enjoy themselves until they feel like leaving or crash on the couch. Offer to hang out the next day if they decide to sleep over.

[@coasttocoast2011]

I work in local government in customer service and as soon as customer puts in a complaint about me, my supervisor has a ‘chat’ to me even if the complaint is unsubstantiated I too like idea of a social break. My commute is only 5 minutes a day but I work 9 hours a day (including my lunch which I have at work)

[@AdamT87]

Fun Fact: In the UK, there is no specific law against _simple_ public nudity. It's the legal basis for mothers nursing their babies and nude beaches! There _are_ laws such as the Public Order Act 1986 which can be applied to nude people, for example streakers at sporting events or couples "fornicating". To some degree, it's up to the police officers at the scene to judge if the nudity is appropriate in context.

[@bethany8157]

my sister got a job in the same place as me a year later than me - we both started work at 16, and they gave us different wages. when we brought this up we got told we shouldn't be discussing our wages???

[@charliedwards2783]

Hey so happy for another video

[@bojxit52]

Not sure about work naps honestly. Since working from home almost everything has become socially acceptable, but man once I take a couch nap I feel like just hitting the snooze button after 30mins... 1hr... 3hrs.....

[@MrsScorpionette]

Solution to smoking breaks being unfair (not in the restaurant, but in an office job or elsewhere where posts don't need to be manned by all staff) : coming out with the smokers and just standing there. You get a lot of social interactions, you get fresh air and best of all, you stand up. Somebody says it's unfair? Take it up with HR, if smokers can do it i can do it. Problem solved 😅

[@misssomerset]

us smokers know it's unfair that we get breaks and non-smokers don't. Where I work now anyone can go for a quick break if they feel the need but my current workplace is the best I've had for caring about employees

[@miaclarke6859]

9:43 with that question I think that women would be more sexualised at first and groped and cat called at first but after a while (like 5 years ish) it would be normal and women wouldn't be sexualised as much. That would only work if it was common and we stuck to it specifically for the outcome of being less sexualised

[@beth_beesley]

Saying no to people without having to make up an excuse as to why you can’t do/ go somewhere

[@calliopeblue2303]

Hi am I first? Yesh yesh I am

[@nicklpantis]

Yup

[@calliopeblue2303]

Tehehehheh

[@goosedoctor5836]

Not having to say "Bless you" or "Gesundheit" when someone sneezes. Not having to say anything at all. Someone just sneezed.That's it. Get over it, jeez.

[@sarahhardy8649]

We need to swap friends. I always say bless you, but no one ever blesses me.

[@lilygirl5099]

I used to go out with my coworkers on smoke breaks and we would go to an area where no one inside the store could see us, and my coworker would smoke and I would just stand there and chat with them. I've literally never smoked in my life. I vaped for a bit, but not while I was working there.

[@TatAlbring]

Evan has the confidence to break social norms, my polite Britishness will not let me break.

[@Liggliluff]

(9:35) It isn't fully acceptable for men to be shirtless either in some places.

[@xXDemkaBelikovXx]

When I first started as a teacher, I use to feel extremely guilty if I had to take a day off, like for being sick or otherwise. Heck, I didn't even take time off right after my Gramma died bc I was that anxious (I took off closer to her funeral though). Now I try to maybe take one day a month just for me.

[@amalie7218]

Complaining. Sometimes complaining can help us get it out of our system and also endure it longer.

[@ksmith3892]

Just thought i'd pop by to say i've been really enjoying your content lately :) Keep up the good work!

[@LudvigIndestrucable]

Genuinely unaware that running was looked down on? Been doing it for 4 decades, literally never occured to me that this wasn't a normal thing.

[@kavertia6261]

“The customer is king” Yeah, and bad kings should be dethroned. Thing is though that it is often frowned upon from the employer’s side when a (lower) employee puts a customer in their place. So instead we usually resort to calling a manager to hande the situation. So I don’t know to what degree the base wage is involved in that case.

[@TheMadSpam]

I've been doing lunch time naps for about 10 years :-)

[@itsVilu]

2:44 Welcome to Finland

[@cai3886]

Being able to reject alcohol without people assuming there's something wrong with you, or you're pregnant. Maybe I just don't like the taste, maybe I'm uncomfortable being tipsy, maybe we don't need to get drunk every time we hang out to have fun??

[@rockhoundbmw]

I wish it was socially acceptable to not want to drink at a party. I can still have fun without getting buzzed or drunk. This was more of a problem when I was in my 20s. But at least my friends could count on me to be a designated driver.

[@therealcthulhu9813]

I got away with saying I was only in it for the money when I worked at Pizza Hut a driver. I was made a driver/manager and ended up being one of the highest paid non salary people there.

[@Kulsum-12]

Watching cartoons and kids' movies well into adulthood should be socially acceptable. I mean, cartoons are hilarious and often have truly intellectual jokes + kids' movies are the most inspiring thing in the world... It shouldn't make you feel insecure in your "grown-up pants" to watch them!

[@emilyc.404]

It should be socially acceptable to change your mind, or admit you're wrong. A lot of people I see who do this are often attacked or called hypocrites. God, the lengths I've gone.

[@Beautiful_Serenity_00]

This is sorta ironic but, I wish others didn't react weirdly when someone of a certain faith or belief is an open-minded person, as in they're fine with others having a different opinion. I'm a monotheist and practicing. Wish I didn't have people always challenging my views. I don't always open my mouth to refute others. I don't want people to argue about every word I say. I'm fine with others being different than me. Can't we all just peacefully coexist without always calling out others or having to talk as if we're walking on the edge of a cliff?

[@heatherblowsbigones]

I felt the productive one in my soul. I also, because of my upbringing, feel guilty for sleeping outside of “bed time” (10pm-7am). I wish we could focus on the amount and quality of sleep as opposed to the time in which we sleep.

[@catherinelindsay7437]

My parents fell asleep after a dinner party they were hosting. Their guests tidied up, washed the dishes and snuck out before they woke up. Best friends ever!

[@konzertina9685]

THAT IS SO NICE

[@migsteele]

Need some friends like that

[@TKDDLJ09]

@@konzertina9685 especially because cleaning up afterwards is the worst thing about having people over!

[@gregorarmstrong2478]

Need some friends like that.

[@imid3440]

cute! 🥺

[@rettasrandomuniverse7005]

Therapy should be socially acceptable. You do not need to be "broken" to take care of yourself

[@michaelc7723]

Since most marriages end in divorce and most intimate relationships are brief, the vast majority of adults need classes/counseling in creating and maintaining a satisfying intimate relationship.

[@ayellowpapercrown6750]

Yess!! Imo, even if you don’t have any particular mental health issues, therapy should be like a GP visit, if you’ve not been feeling too well, get a single appointment to talk about it or something! If I could afford it/if therapy was made accessible I’d totally do that.

[@tessgonzalez285]

i’ve heard people taking couples/marriage counseling before getting married and i think that’s a great idea. shows how the other partner thinks and communicates rather waiting until a crisis happens and no one understands each other.

[@SanskarWagley]

it needs to be standard as part of any health insurance plan

[@kidu9443]

We all should know the different benefits we could get from psychoanalysis, therapy and counseling. And not be ashamed to have them when we have a problem, or ideally BEFORE we have a problem.

[@charlieharmer7907]

I've stopped caring about this personally, but I'd make it socially more acceptable to have realised you're going in the wrong direction and just turn around and go back the other way lmao

[@amiscellaneoushuman3516]

I think with that one it's a matter of confidence. If you project an appearance of knowing were you're going than its less embarrassing.

[@jonomoth2581]

It's also mostly in your head, you might feel a bit stupid but honestly no one is gonna really care if you just turn around and keep on walking

[@blan123.]

Hahahaha I have to kinda slowly stop walking pretend like I'm confused or lost, and start walking in the other direction... Even if it's because I just realized I forgot something or whatever

[@jonomoth2581]

@@blan123. lol me too

[@h-Qalziel]

I do this all of the time! I’m walking somewhere and start thinking about something else and wander off randomly. When I realise what’s happened I just casually turn around and walk back, usually in a busy corridor. Some people look at you strangely, but I find it funny.

[@lizzmurray5846]

Not having an opinion on a subject. I would rather someone say they genuinely don't know enough about a subject to have an opinion on it than go into an extensive conversation/argument because we need to seem smart/informed.

[@Liggliluff]

I have no option on your comment

[@neicocci]

I usually answer "I don't have enough information on this subject" if I... don't have enough information on a subject. Or just want to stay out of a specific subject or simply do not have an opinion one way or another.

[@polyglotsjourney]

I believe you're smart to admit such a thing. Not knowing something, doesn't mean that you are less smarter than others, but it can be a good indicator of exactly opposite. I would give you an advice to remember: "Smart people are the ones that spend most of their time contemplating."

[@kamiliasmith4419]

@Jenni Kaeder Yessss! Me saying "I'm fine" is a completely normal answer for me, but everyone has to question it EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

[@paxperbellum1661]

"I don't know." It's a wonderful sentence. People should use it more.

[@_leanna_4943]

Being able to tell your parents they are wrong or misinformed at any age without it being seen as disrespectful

[@georgiawardle618]

Yes!!! The amount of times I used to get told "yeah of courseeeee cuz u know better than us"

[@Lee-bv7tj]

I'm afraid that's an individual thing, some parents are cool with that

[@lifewithkoko8057]

Yes, if I even have kids, I want them to educate me on the new stuff and call me out if I’m wrong when I’m older. I want to learn and be educated. But my parents are the opposite, they get angry and offended instead of treating it like a new learning experience.

[@awsomboy123]

I wish my parents was like that. I am tired of being told that they know better than me because they have lived longer. Like no mom a tomato is not a suspension bridge.

[@caitlinshields4828]

YAAAAAAAAAAASSSS

[@doddleoddle]

Yis our silent hangs are the best

[@blubbie7736]

Oh hi doodie

[@niamh9500]

It should be socially acceptable to not want to go somewhere or do something with someone.. saying no shouldn't be frowned upon so much

[@rtsharlotte]

You should come to Yorkshire we're not afraid of saying things as we see them.

[@RedCloudfield]

yeah i find it weird how whenever you don't want to hang out there must be a REASON for it, a justification, is so stupid, sometimes i just don't have the energy or don't want go out just because i don't feel like it

[@MrsUzumaki]

I usually reply "I just don't have the energy" and idk if I have really understanding friends but they completely get it. I guess it depends on the type of friends you have.

[@rtsharlotte]

@@MrsUzumaki I have to admit I find it strange that people simply can't say "no, I'm simply not interested"

[@Nrandom2215]

I relate to this so much, I always feel like I need a reason. And if I don’t have one, I feel like I just don’t want to respond to them (if it’s a text), but if I don’t respond I also feel like I need a reason lol. It’s a fun cycle

[@IkBenHetLekkerNiet]

Playing like you did when you were a kid should become socially acceptable. And turning around if you've walked the wrong way.

[@jyunus07]

This I agree with

[@thatcellistfromfinland4402]

Yes! There's a lot of snow now and i really want to go sledding! Also it's at the perfect consistency to build stuff.

[@IkBenHetLekkerNiet]

@@thatcellistfromfinland4402 Oww Jealous!

[@tessgonzalez285]

hide and seek is so much more fun as a adult since you’re grown now

[@demoniack81]

"And turning around if you've walked the wrong way." ...what? Where is this _not_ socially acceptable? Are you supposed to keep walking in the wrong direction forever?

[@damienknapman2308]

"The customer is always right" was a phrase that came out of clothing/fashion to mean "if they want to wear purple and green, don't disagree with them". It was never originally meant to be an idea that the customers were incapable of faults. Unfortunately, the arseholes heard the phrase and re-interpreted it in a different way.

[@janani1826]

That's acc really interesting!

[@DeathProductions200]

I worked at a restaurant. We had to correct customers a lot. They always said "my food shouldn't be late" as if the employees aren't capable of making any mistakes. Literally the reason their food was late. Was either coming in WAY TO early (take out or catering) or we make a mistake and it has to be remade. The employees know what is best for the food, and if they offer it to you as a compensation its edible, just not something they don't want to send for looks purposes.

[@MaikaRose]

we have a different saying in Germany. Here, the customer is King. Doesn't mean he's always right, but that he should be treated with the utmost respect. Doesn't mean you have to swallow all their shit though.

[@touche5616]

Wearing purple and green just means they are a comic book super villain.

[@mermaidismyname]

@@touche5616 or celebrating Mardi gras

[@alycats94]

Ok what my grandma does when she’s shopping and sees someone she knows, she’ll say “Hello, how are you?” And hears their response, but the trick is, she doesn’t stop moving. If you stop, then that’s when you’ll have the awkward conversations, but if you keep moving, neither one of you can keep talking to each other.

[@valle1973]

I just smile at them, say an enthusiastic hello and walk away. Works every time and most people won't think you're rude if you smile enough...

[@saraviegas2141]

I've been doing the same, but I pretend I gotta go somewhere all the time

[@kikiwylde]

That is a social norm where I live. I love it

[@AL-cg4vb]

If you ever work in retail or grocery it becomes second nature lol

[@megwyn1611]

Hi Smile and nod Wave Don't stop unless you want to. Even some of my closest friends we've down a walk past hi.

[@amyschoeppich]

I wish it was socially acceptable to be single. I find that once you hit a certain age, people constantly ask you about your relationship status and the older you get, the worse it becomes.

[@meganrock9350]

As a female not shaving legs/armpits and then wearing a skirt or vest top in public.

[@ERIF2003]

As a trans girl I completely agree with this!

[@kidu9443]

I SOOO support this

[@sallyjonesie3886]

Oh my gosh, YES. Couldn't agree more.

[@eleanorpowles8423]

I agree so much. My friends talk about when they last shaved their legs I and just sit there with jens and a jumper on in the boiling sun thinking "There is something wrong with me for not wanting to shave my legs".

[@roisinhackett4320]

Yes. I think women should have the choice to shave/not shave, wear make up / not wear make and heels as well.

[@caitlinpeskett3844]

WOMEN NOT SHAVING. THERES NO POINT TO US SHAVING WHY ARE WE EXPECTED TO. its natural and literally changes nothing.

[@apollinedecaesteker1614]

I just stopped doing it like 2 or 3 years ago and it's been the best decision I made about my body And I get very little remarks actually ! In the beginning you could tell I wasn't super comfortable so people would stare or even say sth but now that I'm very confident about it (I don't even think about it, it's just my new normal) most people don't feel entitled enough to criticize my choice

[@silvershadow1271]

also the warm of the hair is nice

[@CybernerdShua]

I mean, that is just something that if we ignore it, it could pretty easily go away.

[@elvieann4949]

I had to keep seeing doctors because I was having so many skin issues from shaving. One of them said, "Just stop doing it." It was like I was free from something that had caused so much pain my whole life. Now, if someone comments on it, I just tell them it's doctor's orders.

[@KattReen]

Word. Normalize hair. I think it can have some utility to shave tho, since body hair can cause chafing depending on what kind of clothes you like wearing, how you're built, and where the hair is/how much there is of it if that makes sense. Shaved armpits also feels nicer imo. But aesthetic wise it's kind of boring that we're just shaving it all off since there's so much we could be doing with it. Imo a well trimmed bush looks really good, and a lot of ladies look pretty good with hairy pits. I feel like if people were more used to seeing it, it wouldn't really be a problem. It's not like people have been shaving since the dawn of time, these are trends and norms that come, go and evolve over time.

[@sistersir3512]

Not having been in a relationship when you reach your mid-twenties (being a choice or not). I am going to be 27 this year, never been in a relationship (even kissed anyone), and it’s not a choice from my part (never found someone who liked me for some reason even if I believe I am a « decent » woman). and I’m not even open about it with my friends or parents because I’m afraid they would think something is wrong with me, and even less with men I meet as I think that might scare them... The internet made me realise I’m not the only one, but for some reason society makes us think everyone is in the game since they were teenagers...

[@ayellowpapercrown6750]

Thanks for sharing! I basically have the same story. I don’t know why, it’s just never happened, but it’s not like I care or anything, I’m just made to care because the people around me seem to care a lot about these sorts of things so I feel like I should too.

[@heidiovalles2179]

Literally same. I recently turned 27, this gets harder to talk about the older I get.

[@SanskarWagley]

same, I'm 30 and have never dated or had any sexual experiences with another person

[@mfaith3129]

Watch Daniel sloss on Netflix He has two specials there the first one called dark and the second called jigsaw Jigsaw would definitely help you if you feel down as he described it as a love letter to single people I would say watch them in order but it doesn’t really matter as each show is one of its own and they don’t link other than him saying he did the previous one

[@miaclarke6859]

Broo that makes me feel so better about the fact I'm 16 and not had a bf or Kissed anyone

[@petrustylus4756]

Talking to yourself so you can order your thoughts when you're stressed... My head is so chaotic sometimes that I just need to say things out loud to understand myself

[@AdamT87]

Saying things out loud is actually good for you. The parts of your brain that deal with internal thoughts and received speech are separate, so by talking out loud you essentially transfer a though from one part of the brain to another, where it can be processed in a different way. The brain basically treats all voices you hear equally, including your own voice. What _is_ weird though, is talking like someone else is there and expecting a reply.

[@rebekahl840]

Or ya know just takking out loud in genral

[@tessgonzalez285]

also staying home from work/school for mental health purposes, genuinely. if i can’t perform under physical sickness i can’t perform if i feel like complete shit that day

[@janani1826]

I was acc planning/hoping to do an assembly at my school about it be ok to be absent for stuff and the main focus was mental well-being days. Ofc if you have mental health problems you will probably need more than other people but I think it should be acceptable for everyone when the stress gets too much, taking s break can help so much

[@julialumina1615]

Yess

[@ale0la107]

Agreed. It sucks having to explain myself each time and see the judgement explode out of every pore of your opposite... Sometimes, it is just too hard to explain my whole being and, also, none of your business, thank you very much.

[@MissesLykaa]

I wish it was socially acceptable to wear whatever you wanted, and by that I mean everything, from big ball gowns to medieval outfits to Victorian style gowns and suits of armour

[@danh4698]

YES. THIS. Especially cloaks because cloaks are awesome.

[@James_taylor810]

Leggings/yoga pants for men!!

[@FrejaHirst]

@@danh4698 agreed!

[@seemysight]

@@danh4698 here people wear ponchos normally and in the wet winter. If you are wearing a cape I think half of the poncho people would look at you ant think “damm next level” and go o with their lives normally. So at least in south of Brazil you can wear a cape and not one would care

[@whoopsie-daisy]

@@danh4698 yesysysyysy i want to where a cloak

[@fionagilbert2247]

It should be socially acceptable to answer honestly when asked ‘how are you?’ We always respond with ‘good thanks’ because that is what the other person expects to hear but often it is not how we actually feel in that moment!

[@randomness051]

you can answer honestly if you want to, but people don't because if they aren't your close friend, people generally don't really care

[@lucie4185]

I am terrible for being brutally honest if people ask me how I am. I never got the "good thanks" business.

[@Monica-qi8tb]

this is actually what I was taught at school, that this is what you answer in English. And only if you're close with the person, you can elaborate on the answer

[@DragonriderEpona]

And the weird thing is when you are German and give an honest answer, because you asked, and everyone looks weird at you 🙈🙈 And then remember a phrase from your English text books years ago where one protagonist literally complained about an honest answer and telling them of having no manners ^^'

[@emmynoether9540]

Yep, come to Germany. We don't use 'how are you' as a phrase, we ask it when we want to know the answer.

[@abbycoomber]

i wish it was socially acceptable to eat alone in a restaurant, yeah i may be lonely but that isn't the reason i'm alone here sandra

[@xzonia1]

It's harder for women than men because the waitstaff assume you won't tip well and not wait on you or that you're waiting for someone to show up (I've literally left places before because they never came over to take my order when they saw I was alone and I couldn't stay any longer). Now (or pre-pandemic) I tell the person who seats me at new restaurants I visit that I am eating alone and will tip well for good service, so please don't keep me waiting. Places I've been to before know the drill and don't wait because they know I'll leave if they keep me waiting more than 10-15 minutes.

[@xzonia1]

@@nat3007 I didn't say you weren't female. I was replying to the OP (who I assume is female).

[@ayellowpapercrown6750]

I do it all the time haha! The waiter may look at you weird for 5 seconds but after that, literally not a single soul cares. Everyone’s too busy thinking about their own selves and the people they are with :) I loved going to restaurants alone back when restaurants were still a thing. I just don’t like chatting while I eat!

[@andrewbolt2012]

Or go to a cinema alone

[@jeremystanger1711]

@@xzonia1 'murica

[@noahmiller6573]

The whole calling people out when they're assholes in the service industry really hit hard man. I'm part Chinese and I've had so many customers either joke about COVID and how I probably have it or have people seriously say they don't feel comfortable with me serving them.

[@lucie4185]

Oh thats awful, people can be so ignorant and hurtful.

[@sarahverstraete1965]

can we normalise blowing our nose? it's not too big of a deal but stop staring when i do it, i have to and i'm not bothering you also during covid I WILL TURN AWAY FROM YOU but i still have to do it, I'm sorry man

[@ayellowpapercrown6750]

Useless anecdote no one asked for but when we were in school, my best friend used to ask me to cough (I have a loud ass cough) when she was about to sneeze so no one would hear her blowing her nose😂 we even had a signal and shit. Looking back tohat was so fucking weird.

[@damystery123]

Honestly, I prefer hearing someone blow their nose once or twice over three hours of sniffling.

[@elaineb7065]

@@damystery123 THIS!!! The sound of somebody snorting on a bus is the worst. Mate, grab a tissue & blow your nose fhs!!!

[@MayHugger]

or picking your nose to dislodge something (I don't know the technical term for boogers etc lol)

[@abbycoomber]

i would like to make going to the corner shop in my pyjamas acceptable, I don't wanna get changed just to get milk

[@mikeneale9790]

Move to Kirkby, everyone does it there. Or Skelmersdale. Or Wigan. Or anywhere in the North really. :)

[@henryginn7490]

I have a friend who goes out to the shops in his pyjamas. Of course he is a pure mathematician, you can't beat that level of chaotic energy

[@alastairk0159]

i used to go in my slippers. but honestly id kill to for that to be socially acceptable

[@mikeneale9790]

@@nat3007 Delivery still a thing locally, but hardly anyone uses it now. Almost every corner shop sells milk, eggs & bread, and probably cheaper than the old milkman with float. Indeed, most of the floats seem to rely on delivering direct to local shops rather than homes.

[@ayellowpapercrown6750]

@@henryginn7490 i love pure mathematicians they’re just on another level!!

[@IAmAnniSpring]

I want it to be acceptable to whip out a book when you’re around others without having to talk about the book. I wanna read, not tell you what it’s about when I’m forced to be in your presence 😂

[@lania2246]

When people as mw what im reading I just hold up the cover.

[@LaRocheSews]

Oh my god yes please--I hate talking to people when I want to be reading

[@katethegreat4918]

Yes, or just being able to do that when the conversation is deeply uninteresting. If people are talking about football and I don’t care jack squat, I should be free to pick up my book and read until people want to be interesting again.

[@august1837]

Yes, let me enjoy my book in piece, which is remarkably more interesting than being in your presence

[@orangejuice385]

9:15 Bras are designed to be comfortable. If yours is uncomfortable, get a different size. Let's not turn bra's (a piece of clothing made for support) into a fake symbol of oppression as they did with corsets.

[@dodominoe4461]

I feel like Evan is the only KZbinr who does reddit stuff and actually adds to it instead of just pumping out low quality content that's basically just stolen.

[@evan]

THANK

[@dodominoe4461]

@@evan Keep on making the great content!

[@davidcorbin9742]

You are still very American.

[@JoeBleasdaleReal]

There are offices in France where they’re trialling mid-day “sièstes” where you can go into a room with soft things for 30 minutes or so and rest / have a power nap, and it’s received really positive feedback. Given France also has a 4-day week in most industries, we have to applaud them on many welfare fronts, but I feel like a “nap space” would be a good start.

[@sistersir3512]

I’m french and don’t know if this is socially accepted yet. In my office there is a « nap room », but unless it is lunch time, or times like Ramadan when people are exhausted, no one goes there during working hours because it is still frowned upon 😕 We had a training with someone saying we should be confident to have power naps at our desks and even though I’m convinced of the effects, wouldn’t try it yet 🤣

[@apollinedecaesteker1614]

Just like he said, "faire la sieste" isn't *actually* socially acceptable yet. It would kinda feel like kindergarten again ? But mostly dude we DO NOT have a 4 day work week, anywhere. Idk where you heard that from but it's far from the truth (although I wish it was true cause it just makes more sense on so many levels...) In fact, although the legal work week cannot exceed 35h (except for jobs that get exampted from that, which there are a lot of), many if not most people work longer hours than that. Of course legally if you make your employees stay longer than their contract states you should be paying them more, but a lot of companies find some way to avoid that I mean yes we have a "droit du travail" / work laws that are pretty extensive, but sadly so. many. companies. and bosses violate the law on a regular basis

[@pippylunalove]

At Manchester uni (UK) they were testing out these meditation/nap chairs that were part egg chair part chaise longs so you could lay out but felt a little cocooned. The chairs would play relaxing music for up to 20 minutes. Very few people knew about them so I would book 2 20 minute slots and would go have a great nap. More places should have these nap chairs cause they were so nice

[@thomaslargent4700]

Hello everybody and welcome back to Evan trying to not get cancelled by a European country!

[@emdivine]

@@nat3007 It's possible to be impeached twice so yeah sure why not.

[@thomaslargent4700]

@@nat3007 I feel like it’s possible 😂

[@pnewch9814]

maybe like letting people know you think they're attractive as a compliment, without any romantic or sexual intent. that'd be kinda nice for everyone i'm not gonna lie

[@MsArdvarrk]

I'd make it socially acceptable to just, step outside during a class. Just quietly walk for a bit or get some fresh air and a break, it would make learning so much easier sometimes.

[@longliveplanetawesome3223]

I remember this teacher I had in middle school (I had the same teacher for all three years) who got really tired when students interrupted class to ask to use the restroom. So, a few months into 6th grade, he told us that we didn't have to ask to use the restroom. As long as we saw the bathroom pass on the hanger, we could get up whenever we wanted to and leave the class to use the restroom. I abused this power for all three years of middle school. I always sat near the door, which made leaving in the middle of class a lot less awkward. Whenever I was bored, on the verge of falling asleep, or just needed a change of scenery, I'd grab the pass and head to the bathroom. I'm pretty sure my teacher realized what I was doing, especially since I made it obvious by leaving for the restroom between 5 and 10 times a day, but he never said anything about it. I got most of my work done, kept my 4.0 GPA for all three years, and actually learned what was being taught. Did it really matter that I consistently left class at random points of the day for no real reason except that I felt like it?

[@chocoholicc6130]

I was the only kid in my Alevel German class which made lessons pretty intense so whenever we had a 2hr lesson together my teacher would give me a 10 minute break halfway through. It was amazing definitely improved my mood and concentration and made learning German so much more enjoyable.

[@laurenprentice3031]

Being straightforward about things in emails and conversations irl should be socially acceptable. The whole bsing for 90% of the email and conversations just confuses me

[@janani1826]

The email thing is interesting, the majority of emails I send is only a sentence or two always very to a point. Maybe it's just me

[@laurenprentice3031]

@@janani1826 that's what I used to do, but I got told off from my teacher for not being polite enough so now I basically ask my dad to write my emails for me so they're acceptable

[@ayellowpapercrown6750]

YESSS i hate when people I haven’t talked to in YEARS message me with that "hi how have you been?" Like we both know you don’t care why don’t you just ask for what you want? Now I just answer "hi, I’ve been well thanks! Do you need anything?" And 100%, yes they will need something. Usually need me to join an MLM.

[@mouseluva]

Yes!!! I've been told off by so many people for being "abrupt". What even is abrupt??????!?!?!?!! What does it mean?!?!?!?! This is a conversation where one person needs something from the other, why are we beating around the bush????? What bush beating am I even supposed to do that is appropriate to pad this out?!

[@KiraFriede]

I just write one small talk sentence (that's usually something like "I hope you are well") and just continue with what I want to write. And write something like "Best wishes" at the end.

[@joshuaayres8932]

Having a slightly different opinion but there is no argument about it

[@janani1826]

Voicing your point without being accused of 'starting an argument'

[@porcelainface7809]

It causes the argument in the first place half the time

[@DarkSentinel52]

exactly you have no idea have many times i was "just saying" and people wanted to start argument with me

[@chloelucas7417]

wearing comfortable clothes or putting in minimal effort when leaving the house, you don’t need to put in 100% just to pop to tesco

[@eline6731]

Wearing the same clothes multiple days in a row when they're still clean. I have always done this, but I still feel like some people judge others for it.

[@iddbobthedestroyer3830]

👋 hello. I’d like it to be socially acceptable to be just starting out in a fandom. You gotta know the name of the side character’s sister’s girlfriend’s dog’s brother’s neighbour to be allowed to say you like something. PLEASE 👍.

[@faderax3862]

I wish taking time between high school and college to figure out what you want to do was more acceptable. One of my friends has been having a lot of anxiety over this and it be nice if she could just take some time off to figure out what she wants.

[@lol2Dlol]

Tell her to just do it if she wants to. It's her life, everyone else can go to hell.

[@faderax3862]

@@lol2Dlol I agree she should but she gets a LOT of pressure from her family. But thank you for your input!

[@Lunautau101]

I really wish this was more acceptable because you’re 18!! A lot of 18 yos have no idea what they want and it’s so much pressure to figure out the rest of your working life when you’re still a teen. I wish there was some kind of tradition where for a few years, you get to explore and see where you want your career to be, or even if you want a career.

[@thegreatsalad]

Don't think I've ever met anyone that regretted taking a gap year after school. Even if all you're doing that year is working in a shop it's still good to have time to think about things.

[@august1837]

I agree with this. I have a year left in high school, and I’m seriously considering taking a gap year. My mind really needs a break from studying, and I need some time to figure myself out, before thinking about what I want to do. I’m also disabled, and it would be helpful to have a longer transition period between high school and college to reduce the anxiety that will come with the change

[@lucie4185]

For all those Brits who had snow today: It should be socially acceptable to run around with your mouth open trying to eat the snowflakes as an adult.

[@Varksterable]

You mean it isn't?!? Ooops..

[@OliviaHarrison731]

I spent a good thirty minutes doing this last week

[@gaildahlas]

I totally did that yesterday morning and have no regrets. Some local toddlers saw me and joined in, no questions asked :)

[@susanna7004]

Being able to change your mind without people questioning you.

[@rogerrabbit4373]

Socially acceptable to not have you whole life figured out by 25.

[@isabellproschak1633]

Or even by 31!

[@rogerrabbit4373]

@@isabellproschak1633 Exactly! Everyone's idea of success is different and achieved in different ways so putting it on a time scale is just dumb.

[@amyyeomanss]

Normalise telling the customer WHY they are not ‘always right’ Also, it should be socially acceptable to turn down opportunities if you don’t have the money to do it. I shouldn’t be any less of a friend because I don’t want to spend £15 on a Nando’s just to catch up.

[@_leanna_4943]

Wearing my bonnet or night scarf out in public without it being seen as ghetto or lazy. Like I'm just trying to keep my hair protected and style together.

[@jiggyprawn]

Maybe it's less of a thing where I am, but I wear my night scarves out and no one seems to care. Just do it with no worries! I do!

[@_leanna_4943]

@@jiggyprawn I do it. I just get some weird looks tho. I mostly wish I could go to work with it and not look too unprofessional.

[@jiggyprawn]

@@_leanna_4943 I don't think it looks unprofessional unless it's a really old and tatty thing on your head or you're not wearing it in way that sells it. Maybe you just need to do it more and keep the scarves varied so people just get used to it. That's the issue with most of these things - people are just not used to certain things and so it's weird to them or they remain unacceptable. We have to MAKE them accept it! 😄

[@michaelc7723]

being widowed, cherishing most of your memories of your wife, being uninterested in risking again, given the current norms and values.

[@susanna7004]

1. Devoting more time to personal development/hobbies rather than work. In the summer of 2020 I was supposed to be doing my a levels. Obviously covid happened so I had loads of free time - I managed to re-do the entire garden (and plant some tomatoes), start leaning the piano (with the book you recommended thanks Evan) and really improve my fitness. It was incredibly fulfilling and I wish I had even a fraction of that time normally. 2. Openly talking about periods. It would make life much less awkward.

[@TaggerungJuska]

I wish not feeling attracted to someone was seen as a perfectly valid reason to not want to go out with them. (I dont mean physical attraction either, although also valid) It doesn't mean you think they're a bad person, just that theres no chemistry and you have no desire to spend time with them or get to know them better.

[@juststephandme2875]

Me and my friend sit on skype together for hours and there are times where we don’t talk but it’s ok, it’s nice to have each other’s presents while we’re doing our own things

[@marymiller752]

Carrying/having stuffed animals/comfort objects in public after the age of like 10. Sometimes you just need a bit of comfort.

[@neicocci]

I took my Hello Kitty pillow to a hospital once, age 21. I was going to stay there for 20+ days and I knew it was going to be scary. Everyone thought it was weird (the pillow is huge, the size of four regular pillows) and I was asked a bunch of questions but in the end, they thought it was really sweet a family friend had handmade me my own Hello Kitty pillow.

[@elaineb7065]

My plushie sharky & I agree with you. We made a day out of my first jab & she wore a nurse cap. Emotional support plushies FTW

[@amandastapleton4395]

I get disability allowances (autism, PTSD etc) and I would get rid of the fact that we have to keep our bank balances below a certain amount, if we go over then the our payments that we rely on are stopped

[@tillytomjones]

I feel the productive thing so hard. I took a gap year and I cannot express to you how much I legit love being able to do absolutely nothing all the time. For. A. Year. And yet I still feel that pressure that I’m wasting time and being a shlub

[@janani1826]

I feel like there is a lot of pressure to do something in your gap year. For example when you ask to defer most universities will ask for your plans. 😒

[@tillytomjones]

@@janani1826 right!!! Like, I have no plans, I’m just not ready and I don’t wanna do online school, suck it.

[@gracemarie2941]

Tillytom Jones yeah I'm currently having my gap year but I still feel so shit all the time. My family are stuck between, it's a good thing to sort out what you're doing before rushing in to things and lazy bitch does fuck all all day, so my internal voice sounds a lot like my parents'.

[@shelbym.6862]

I'm in the exact same position.

[@rhillsgamer4121]

I wish that being trans was more socially expected. Here in the US, it is so hit or miss that I live in fear of being myself

[@andrew4363]

We’ll get there, hang in there. 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️ Hope you’re ok 💙💖🤍💖💙

[@nicokelly6453]

Yep! Absolutely. Also the things surrounding that, like it being more socially accepted to change your name if you don't like it, to try out different pronouns or gender presentations, etc. I use they/them both privately and publicly and it's absolutely hit or miss.

[@laurencefraser]

@@nicokelly6453 the pronoun matter is mostly counterproductive to the cause of general acceptance and serves only to provide an excuse for malicious arseholes on both sides of the issue and to induce paranoia in the vulnerable while undermining clarity of communication. Whoever was responsible for setting That particular bit of stupidity in motion needs repeated slapping with a large fish for their foolishness. Not least because humans are not, in fact, mindreaders. That said, transgender people aren't the only ones with non-standard neurolgy that is fundamental to the self but which also makes life difficult. As someone who has to live with one of the Other conditions of that nature, I am entirely supportive of transgender people (well, people in general, really) not being mistreated, and receiving whatever assistance and support is needed to allow them to function in society with the highest quality of life possible. I happen to be of the opinion that a number of the things the associated movement pushes for (and, depressingly, the ones that they seem to be having the most visible success with) are actively detrimental to that cause. The pronouns being the most obvious. (For comparison, feminism's equally ignorance and ideology based attempts at forcing change on the English language, which at least had the merit of not being actively harmful or making communication more difficult: Replacing -man, meaning "person" with the word person in compounds caused no issues at all. The only people who might have cause for complaint were poets and lyricists (it alters the meter). On the matter of profession titles though... In the past, those commonly marked sex. Apparently, because in some professions the male and female forms were treated as different jobs, often with the women being considered inferior or subordinate, this had to be done away with. The thing is, this was billed as getting rid of the idea that only people of a certain sex could do a certain job. The problem? Almost every job where that opinion was common was one where having people of the opposite sex from expected actually doing that job was, for one reason or another, so recent that they didn't have male and female forms of the job title because there was never need for it! Adding the female form to jobs that didn't have it already would have done more for the stated goal than removing it from the ones where it existed! (And there were plenty of jobs with male and female forms where general feminist thought becoming common removed the inequality without need to change the language). Funnily enough, this change did not stick in most professions, and the assumption that a person in a given job where the title did not indicate a given sex would be of a particular sex disappeared by itself simply as a side effect of people of the opposite sex becoming more common in the role. Where it hasn't, it's because the assumption is still overwhelmingly likely to be correct.) As for names, there's a well known riddle regarding who actually uses them. Changing your name needlessly is socially unnacceptable primarily because it's a massive pain in the arse for everyone else, and provides little or no benefit. (Noticeably, the situations where it provides significant benefit for purposes other than evading the consequences of your own malicious actions, and/or carrying out more such, Are generally considered socially acceptable for fairly obvious reasons.)

[@Kinggu]

I would make it socially acceptable to be able at speak back to people who are being Karen’s

[@tessgonzalez285]

bro you downloaded an app to make it look like you’re smoking? i’m crying lmao

[@evan]

It was an OG app. You’d tilt the phone and it would show a cigarette or a cigar

[@abbystafford7549]

I'd want hugging friends (completely regardless of gender) to be normalised.

[@carlkeane2549]

Regarding skipping, I'm sure many people will recommend the relevant Michael McIntyre stand-up set about the efficiency of skipping.

[@jiggyprawn]

I used to skip with my daughter just so I had a legit excuse as we travelled home from school, and when my son is old enough, despite me having hit my 40s by then, I'm still gonna do it. :D

[@janani1826]

Something that should be socially acceptable: Taking a day off work if your period is really bad. It should be exactly the same as being ill since it feels like it/worse for a lot of people And not.feeling indebted to your parents 'They worked so hard so I have to go to university' and stuff like that

[@DeathProductions200]

THIS. I dont have periods, (im a trans woman) but like. Respect anyone who is having a period and treat them with respect. If they need to take off, let them take off. The main argument against this would be "if a person doesn't have periods then they don't have to take off which is unfair" which is stupid, cause I have a disability within my joints. I may have to take a day off cause of pain. If it isnt socially acceptable then potentially I could get fired if I get more than (X) amount of days off without PTO which is ridiculous. It should be acceptable cause anyone who experiences bad enough pain, shouldn't be forced to work, it will impact performance, and possibly safety

[@danh4698]

ABSOLUTELY. I'm terrified of getting awful cramps at work and just having to carry on like everything's fine. I'm always so relieved when I start on a weekend or holiday.

[@MeAMoose]

I guess the better question is with or without pay.

[@janani1826]

@@MeAMoose it should be with if you get sick pay really But either is fine as long as it is acceptable at workplaces

[@MeAMoose]

@@janani1826 I'm not sure to be honest. I'm a type 1 diabetic, but I personally wouldn't say that sick pay is valid if say I was feeling under the weather from Irregular Blood sugar levels, etc.

[@BellatrixisaStar]

The skipping thing genuinely made me smile, I love skipping too, it feels nice, it's a sweet little thing that lightens my mood, why can't it be socially acceptable?

[@sallyjonesie3886]

Same! 😄

[@andrew4363]

The silence around close friends reminds me of a Dodie line “Silence was comfy, without having to try”