What women DON'T GET about the men they love

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[@antonia6059]

When I worked as a teacher I realized very quickly that boys and girls are motivated very differently. The boys needed a challenge to rise to. The best way to turn around a misbehaving boy is to give him a meaningful task. And then appreciate his efforts. The girls on the other hand want to be praised and admired. Most of them behave already, so little prizes and kind words are enough to keep them feeling great. The girls naturally police each other and are more cooperation oriented. It’s tricky running both strategies in the same classroom. but if you can pull it off it’s wonderful.

[@bubblymakamae3839]

Thank you, going into student teaching this is so helpful 🙏🏾

[@cathyandresiak]

Yes, this I can believe, being a school teacher and seeing it first hand everyday !! Nice words mean alot to girls and a job well done and feeling proud of it makes boys feel needed.

[@melissapiontek3886]

thank you for sharing 🤍

[@user-jp9fq8dp4v]

Hmm seems like we should separate the boys and the girls in the learning environment so it can be more focused

[@marikaliljeroos1135]

Jee,image that you are in a marrige crises and go to him for advise and he tells you this😅

[@cat441]

my gosh this made me cry like a baby because I realized how I make my husband feel like a nothing when in fact he is my everything.... thank you for helping me to understand and now I will go tell him how much I need him ... wow.

[@valeriasanchezpch]

Tell him 💗 there is no such thing as too much praise for our husband 🔆

[@BearAndBunny0605]

I'm going through the same thing too. I just hope I'm not too late to maybe not erase the damage, but at least repair the damage I've caused my husband. He's the best thing that ever happened to me. ❤

[@cat441]

@@BearAndBunny0605 never too late 💖

[@simosc2]

Me too. I dont deserve the good husband God has loaned me.

[@BearAndBunny0605]

@@cat441 thank you. ☺️

[@katharina...]

When a human being is treated as if they were nothing by someone important to them, particularly in childhood, they will feel as though they are nothing. Talk to women who had been neglected in childhood and really listen to them. This experience is not unique to men, we all share it.

[@AnnaPark-01]

there’s always gonna be exceptions to the rules !

[@pinparasol]

Indeed, the experience is common to men and women. Yet when a woman is being treated as though she is nothing, she fundamentally doesn't understand why. She is puzzled, says the Rabbi. When a man is treated this way, he unconsciously understands why. That's the difference between them. But in both cases, neglect and disdain cause immense hurt and grief.

[@Thekingsdota]

This is deeper than just mere depression .it’s an inherent feeling

[@MariaElena51185]

@@pinparasolI wish he had given examples. It’s true that women react to being treated as nothing with depression. I would think it feels like being taken for granted..

[@dian277]

we really do. for a very long time I actually believed all the radical criticism i got from people, it made me feel like i was worthless and less than nothing, but then i learned that that's not true, because by logical objective measures, i'm not. If i, a woman, can feel what men feel, then i'm sure men can learn to appreciate themselves using objective measures just like I did.

[@tradingcory1966]

As an adult living man (non-religious), this 'monologue' moved me to many tears. For so many years I struggled to understand 'why' I felt like an empty void inside. Hearing the words structured this way has allowed me to release a lot of that 'yuck'. My inner light just got a bit brighter 🙏 Thank you so very much for posting this.

[@dancingram79]

You matter, you are special and you are loved. You are so much more than nothing... You are a man, remember your crown! 👑

[@Cal_me_lady1]

Hmm

[@dian277]

it helps a lot with self esteem when one finds purpose and bring value to the society. maybe have a goal, go help some people, volunteer, and make someone laugh. there're so many things you can do. true fulfillment doesn't come from money, material, or social status

[@Tamar-sz8ox]

God - Wisdom is for everyone God bless ❤

[@DrJonWeimer]

You don't need to be religious to be moved by wisdom.

[@MartialistKS]

My dad treated me like I was nothing and now as an adult I can't shake the emotional belief that it's true, even though I can rationally offer counterarguments to that deeply seated feeling.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Sounds like you have some work to do. He was (is) just a shitty person. No shortage of them. Let it go and do something great in life. He did 1 good thing and that's giving you life. Don't waste it.

[@bryansans2564]

110%. My biggest fear is rejection. Not being needed or useful. Ask me what i want i mostly have no idea. However, I have an absolute amazing wife who treats me as an equal and vice versa. You can have the happiest relationship and still have this feeling is where i am getting at.

[@databae2428]

You are very lucky to have a wife who ignores your many shortcomings. Hopefully you are appreciative and treating her like the queen she is

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Bryan, don't bank on her continuing like that. You need to develop your own identity and value apart from simply needing to feel useful for HER. YOU are worthy of having outside hobbies, developing a male friend circle, hitting the gym for YOU, and having expectations of her. You sound like your wife is a celebrity or something and you're an unworthy fan. That's a huge biological turnoff to women eventually because they need to feel that their man is a catch and a leader. They must respect you (by seeing you as a catch) to really love you deeply. It's non negotiable, and divorce courts are full of guys who forgot this.

[@bryansans2564]

@@GUITARTIME2024 it’s been 13 years of the same beauty. I’ve got friends too, just sharing my experiences that wonderful marriages are still out there 🙂

[@krissyhall2838]

That void we feel needs to be filled in our relationship with God.

[@Esico6]

You sound like a beta. You need to be in charge.

[@BlueBlue23]

As a woman, I have been depressed and in very dark places. However, I never felt like nothing. And yes, my reaction to rejection is more like 'how come' as he says. I am not even vain, not at all. I just kind of know that if I have emotions or even problems, it is because I am definitely SOMETHING ❤ God is great

[@avidr3ader635]

Feminism destroyed their own kind.

[@KVW110]

It took me a long time to figure this out, the male ego. But there is one point I would disagree on-it wasn't solely the feminism movement that made some of us independent. My ex husband made me feel like I had to do things on my own to prove my worth. For 10 years, that's what I've been doing. 3 years of marriage set me up for years of failure at relationships.

[@ThePinkPantha21]

Likely because his mom did everything. My husband praised his mother for everything she struggled with. I now understand that if a man's mother didn't set the bar, the man struggles to understand how to treat a woman.

[@dancingram79]

Im a wonan, I work in osychistry. My experience with victims of all sorts of abuse, men and women do experience feelings of nothingness. They become comolitely crushed, thats why many stay. Im very much a woman and Ive very much have felt like nothing, so much so that I felt like a minus, burdening the world and spendt a long time in very dark places.

[@katarina2438]

Agree, same. We are all daughters of men, built 50% by male genes, as men are built 50% by female genes; we have very much a way to understand each other. It is useful to look at it as masculine or feminine, not necessarily male and female; i know males who have been emotionally abused by their mother who have very much the deep fear of being enmeshed by a woman as he describes is a female thing. Perhaps it is more appliccable to men in his culture, where the roles are divided very clearly, yet top suicide rate in the west is of males, and this is worth noting. Yet i know a female who committed suicide when the feeling of being nothing became too real. It is deeply human. Men bear most heavy responsibility, therefore it is most prevalent by them, I believe

[@carmenfreeman693]

Brilliant conversation. Thank you. ....we women will always need our men. ❤️ 🙏 ❤️

[@databae2428]

Men will always need women. Without women, they will continue to be nothing

[@linjubar]

Men rate women’s looks on a scale of 1-10. How’s that for feeling judged, and like nothing. It works both ways.

[@john1247thedog]

Not all men do that. Of coarse , your an odd ball if you are not of the heard. I never cared about that, And it don't matter if it don't matter to you. I have a great life.

[@BQ900]

So glad I ran across this information. We’ve been married 5 years and I don’t want my husband to lose the swagger confidence that I find so attractive. Doesn’t Torah say the woman is to help to provide a calm loving home for the man?!

[@jenniferklopman2557]

But our Creator lives inside of us ❤ No one is nothing and never could be

[@Ninibaby1]

It’s deeper than that. We’re still flawed because of sin… we still have to rise above low vibrational frequencies.

[@juliciahernandez3566]

Thank you. If we are God's Children Then Our opinion of what we are is Wrong. We are to Renew our Thinking according to what God's says we are.

[@fairuzfaatin6870]

I suffered a lot in childhood and i definitely felt at "zero" through most of it. My experiences in school and at home - the neglect, alienation, humiliation (the humiliation was entirely from adult women aka school teachers) left me feeling completely worthless, completely. I did not relate to other girls at all. When it comes to feelings ...It wasnt the women around me who spoke honestly and sincerely about their feelings - oh they talked A LOT, but it was all glib, insincere talk. I learned to understand, not be ashamed of, and talk about my emotions from an unlikely place. It was the year 2000 (i was 10) when i discovered rock music (the bands i resonated with were all male bands) and it was men screaming about their emotions and i felt soooo validated for the first time in my life. Mind you, at the time i didnt have the analytical abilities to note and make something out of this fact , i honestly didnt really consciously note "oh hey all these bands im listening to are male", i just thought of them as awesome HUMANS who were validating my emotions and i felt empowered. What im saying is two-fold -- its incorrect to think as society thinks that women are more emotional...some of the greatest love songs and poetry were written by men; and to the Rabbi's point that women dont feel like zero, i can assure you some of us have felt that way.

[@HollywoodStalksMe]

💯

[@monikap8777]

Thank you for writing it all so that I don't have to because I had the same experience.

[@lovelace8702]

Yes absolutely I can very well relate to this.

[@OnyxianFire]

Woow, I had goosebumps. Your experience is so close to mine. ❤

[@fairuzfaatin6870]

@@OnyxianFire 💞😊

[@annabellabowes6852]

This has been such an interesting analysis and I can honestly admit that I probably discouraged so many men/boys when I expressed how childish and/or immature they were when they couldn't handle "constructive" criticism. I also find it extremely tiring to "baby" big old men... but now I understand better why they behave that way. I will be more sensitive to my choice of words and expressions going forward. Thanks for sharing.

[@artofmybody2882]

I understood this a long time ago. The reason why men call woman emotional is because they project their own emotions on woman and they absolutely love when woman cry. But woman are actually less emotional than men that's why we hate when men cry. Men are worthless besides for their financial support.. and it's so satisfying to know that we can now tell them the truth

[@simosc2]

Thank you, Rabbi. I have sobbed through most of this teaching. I had no idea what I have been doing to my husband and All men in my life except my Daddy. I adored him even knowing his imperfections.

[@annc560]

My husband agrees with all of this. I'm never knew any of it. Now I do, and will adjust accordingly.

[@karinsvanback7497]

Me too❤

[@Jackie_Change]

That was awsome! You really gave me a huge piece of advice, as I am a single mother of a son, hows father disappeared. And I never had a father myself. The only way I see men as fathers, is like from the outside, through a window. Admiring it, but not really able to get it. You are great, thank you 🥰

[@comparecards5688]

I hope you find the right man that always will be there for you

[@jawadaboucha8266]

I've listened to so many of Rabbi Manis Friedman's teachings and this is by far one of his most beautiful and insightful of lectures!

[@slove654]

Actually I needed a man, I dont believe in feminism, but unfortunately my husband left me in a position where I have to find something to do in order to support my self at least.. Hello from Lebanon, I am a muslim. He also took away the kids from me, I see them but it’s not the life I wanted. 💔

[@adelhmonteiro2849]

❤I am so sorry my sister. I am in different situation but not great either. I am Muslim. Second marriage. First was to a Christian Portuguese non practicing. Now to a Egyptian Muslim.... Girl ..... Men are men in any part of the world. 😒😒😒😒 Just tired

[@adelhmonteiro2849]

❤❤

[@kathleengainor8532]

Sorry. Sounds like he is greedy for money, used you to create him little trophies,and doesn't know how to love. (You are the queen, not a product and he FAILED not you. He had a responsibility to PROVIDE FOR HIS QUEEN (YOU). You should have been able to ❤depend on his provision, but pushing you for MORE is not his role.

[@kimberlygreen4386]

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING YOUR WISDOM ♥️♥️♥️

[@livafridrihsone6683]

As a man you're a social construct, but on a deeper level you're divine being, as is women.everything and nothing at the same time, fulness of creation . May you be graced to live this experience and knowledge in this lifetime 🙏

[@kathleengainor8532]

I love correction because it helps me grow. There is a difference between correction and ctiticism.

[@Seroskill36]

Jezzz this made so much sense to me. As a 30 year old guy this really makes sense.

[@michelleprovince985]

I understand bc I often feel like I'm nothing and I'm a woman

[@amjPeace]

Hi Michelle, I know what you mean about feeling like nothing, but try to remember that although you may feel like nothing in your own or someone else's eyes, you are DEFINITELY a pretty big deal in the eyes of God! Keeping this in mind has saved my sanity over the many years that I've been married to someone who felt like nothing and wanted nothing more than to drag me down into zeroville with him.

[@sarahamaral2931]

Rabbi, you are so right. Our minds and egos are so powerful in self-preservation. Ironically, God tells us that we are dust. So, what’s the problem with being nothing, we are.

[@karinsvanback7497]

I agree we are nothing!! But we have the Holy Spirit in us who is Everything! Everything positive at least... He is omnipresent, omniscient, almighty, but not everything in this world. In Heaven He is everything because there are no negative things there. And G-d's kingdom is already here!!!!

[@wittymystic7361]

If you feel as though you are nothing, remember that you were created in G-d's image, and use that awareness to fuel your self-esteem. Looking for other people in the world to make you feel like something will usually end in disaster.

[@esterriesparabe]

Witty mistic...nicely said. Nice quote 👌!

[@anastasiyam3502]

Here is the compliment for Rabbi. You're very wise and kind man. You enlighten our life with your wisdom. It's been years that me and my husband listen your talks, and I feel like we've became better people. Thank you very much for that, and may God bless you and your family!

[@Ursaminor31]

When a man steps up and recognizes his innate worth to this realm in love and balanced energy he will open his arms to many in suppport. When we are strong, nurtured and supported we give Our ALL. It is how we are made. The challenge is to find this balance within ones self and not seek the validation, permission or praise for accomplishment. The differences in wiring are true and real, yet we must overcome this and find it within ourselves. Blessings to ALL.

[@erinsymone1645]

I knew we couldn't make to the end of a video about men without bringing up feminism. But after all - I think that's the dirty truth that explains why feminism is so hated by men (and some women as well). It reveals the truth of men's deepest fears -that women don't really need them, and a lot of that "need" was manufactured by social oppression in order for men to avoid dealing with this primal fear. And a lot of other women are also in the business of protecting men from this fear, which is part of the reason why so many women also reject feminism. They prioritize protecting the feelings of the men in their lives over the rights of women and girls globally. I'm not trying to be mean to men by saying any of this - but I do believe that it's true. Nothing else but the most primal of all fears could explain the vitriol that gets directed at feminism.

[@languageliterature9413]

Interesting view, but I don't agree. Feminism is actually a huge problem and it's quite evil. The thing is, most feminists actually do need men, they are the loudest saying a man has to have xyz or be xyz in order to be with them. Those are needs. The issue with feminists is that they believe that they are the same as men, when they're not. Even with all the I don't need a man energy, if there's a physically challenging act like heavy lifting or the sight of danger, the feminist will still expect her father, brother or uncle to lift, repair or protect her. The feminists want to be equal with men, but are upset when men beat them at sports lol. It's crazy! All in all women need men. We always have, and being feminist doesn't change that.

[@ifinditfunnyhow...1493]

I agree. You said this wonderfully ❤

[@marcus8786]

Without the work of men society would fall apart

[@balapalaida1437]

Imagine being this delusional

[@MariaElena51185]

@@marcus8786 yes, men build the infrastructure and feminists (mostly younger) use it without appreciation and then when their house is on fire, who do they call? Just one example, there are many more.

[@ll2708]

This is such a funny but truthful way to understand how men think, it’s a nice way to fill in the gap of what it’s like for you guys

[@sofiayudelzon4830]

Thank you! I'm happy to hear your lessons. It is amaizing how your words effects my life.

[@lovelace8702]

Men need to realize these things and be conscious of changing that mindset. Its really not healthy. It destroys relationships, all their relationships except with other men perhaps. So it ends up coming out as small minded and selfish. Also Running women down for handling our emotions differently like they dont have any. But they are there. They have them. And hiding them away in a box is not healthy

[@akai.christo]

Thank you Rabbi Friedman!! ✡️🙏♥️🔥 Wish you and everybody here a wonderful Wednesday!! 💪🙂👍

[@anyazayamusic]

All of the above applies to women just as much. Women are also very sensitive to criticism. Let’s normalise not treating men like children. Women are just as much sensitive.

[@tru_hart]

as women, we really struggle with just acknowledging how men feel without centering ourselves. “what about me” syndrome. when men do it, we acknowledge that it’s selfish but take zero issue doing it to them. we gotta do better

[@skichyyy]

who treats men like children?...from a younger age we are held to stricter standards that you women, even in school i've seen countless situations of guys receiving stricter discipline for a mistake a girl was forgiven for, who tf treats men like children?

[@MT77749]

​@@tru_hart💯

[@colinc5531]

I believe women are WAY MORE SENSITIVE to criticism !....

[@jacouriwhite9252]

​@@tru_hartThank you!

[@Feathers_and_rivers]

Thank you for this reminder that sometimes I need to zip it. I learn so much from your wisdom. Appreciate u sharing.

[@csf7773]

Rabbi, that is genius. Thank God for Him gifting you to see all of these foundational differences. Thank you for living a holy life so that He can impart that into your inner being. And thank you for taking the time to explain it and put it onto KZbin.

[@russmyersandjazztopia7699]

Once again, genius shiur from Rabbi Friedman. Thanks

[@jeffreyrwilliams9345]

Thank you

[@tiffanysanchez9184]

I have to say I’m that I’m not Jewish I am Roman Catholic but I really enjoy and take to heart all that is said in these talks, I love hearing your wisdom and you have taught me so much. 💕 Thank You for sharing your wisdom.

[@italishgirl5601]

So much wisdom🙏

[@abigail11585]

How true rabbi ! My mother RIP had that very bad habit ! I think it was her own self esteem to say very sad !

[@11Angel33]

But we do need them. We all know deep down that we can not exist without them. we NEED them - and being made to feel ‘needy’ and pathetic and less than ‘nothing’ for that, an imposition, a burden, etc., especially by the man you need the most, is the fastest way to destroy a woman. this is the deepest knowing that every woman has that men can not understand. This is why feminism was born. Not because we don’t need men, but because we do - and that has become increasingly painful and dangerous, for us.

[@veravujovic4685]

The essence of the truth ♡ Thank you.

[@lorigraham2496]

I do thank and compliment my husband as often as possible. But he gets very focused on his own projects and I am left to do most things like replacing light bulbs myself. If it seems I don't "need" him, it's out of being left on my own to get things done. Still, good insight into the male perpective.

[@janetwebb1507]

APPRECIATION..GOES A LONG WAY for a Man/ MEN

[@myrabonatz2601]

😅 love this, thanks for sharing

[@cathyandresiak]

Feminism started to give women rights, right to vote, right to own property, a right to have the key to the mailbox, a right to speak at their own Dr's appointment and not have their husband speak for them, a right to have equal pay for equal work. And this is just the start of why equal rights were fought for. Women still need men and are always going to need them rather they realize it or not. Just because women have the rights they should have had all along does not mean they do not need men. I do understand what he is saying, men need to feel needed and appreciated and not put down.

[@midi6615]

Women need men in the society in terms of manual labor and infrastructure. That's what you guys are built for. But when it comes to surviving and getting her basic needs met, wants and desires, men are no longer needed

[@cathyandresiak]

@@midi6615 I think men are needed for companionship and some men make a women feel more safe and that someone has their back if needed. But to say men are only needed for their manual labor is pretty rough!

[@herelookinatu]

I never wanted to get married or have kids. I have watched a few of his videos about men and they have solidify my decision not too. Dealing with guys seems to be worse than dealing with kids. Guys require WAY too much energy. Now I see why married women always look so drained and old. Its like the guys suck the life out of them.

[@Remember_Eden]

How many guys have you actually dealth with?

[@imeldacabornay2149]

Good and bad men exist, you just have to look for the good ones but if you don't want to get married it's alright for as long as you won't label all men as bad, we, women are also difficult to deal with and there are good and bad women too. Anyway, I'm not married but I respect women who are married especially if they are a good wife and mom but it's really sad because there are many divorced people these days so your decision to be single is understandable.

[@mjbb8797]

Tru

[@billrussell569]

Bravo! Such wonderful wisdom.

[@andiestwo5]

My wife said the funniest thing the other day. I was showing her one of Rabbi Friedman's videos and she rolled her eyes and said "oh great and he talks about how bad women are " 😂😂😂 I said I don't remember the Rabbi ever saying anything bad about women. I explained to her about one video where you spoke about Eve and from what I took from it that Eve was the one that remembered why they were here and what they were meant to do. "Not a quote of the Rabbi "

[@tonyabroughton2531]

I enjoy your Insight 💯 Thank you

[@susannebass1883]

Awesome 👏

[@avidr3ader635]

Soul deep and scintillating. Psychology + spiritualality ... good for your mind, spirit, and soul.

[@mightyhieti5200]

Ungodly. We are made in the image of All Mighty God, formed by his will from the dust he created. The Image of God, is that not awesome? Ladies you were made as a help mate to man and without you we miss out on one of God's most wonderful, caring and loving creations ever. A mother's love is never forgotten.

[@MyriamRichardsdotter]

Men prefer machines- obedient machines, internet pornography, or women they can rent by the hour. Nothing we women will do will stop these facts. Men in tech want to displace women completely, and they are succeeding- transhumanism is being forced on us. Women will vanish first.

[@eva1780]

I so enjoyed your wisdom with a light humor...Thank you

[@abigail11585]

U are right rabbi !

[@תומרוברכהמריםליניאדו]

Very interesting, However i am a woman and felt like nothing in my life. Not because close to one's to me have made me feel like that. But because of philosophical thoughts on life at a young age, and bullying that girls do... But good is the creator and he did not create anything for nothing... So that is why i am something.

[@kerryfoster1]

I recently lost my partner to cancer. I cared for her for months before she went to hospital. Did everything I could before she died. I feel so devalued since her passing. Men without a task really do feel devalued. The burning light within me has been extinguished.

[@fillyhart4222]

Lost my love to cancer too. Your partner was blessed & lucky to have you. That's your value. Be kind to yourself & allow yourself to grieve. Then move forward slowly - one day, one step at time. It's not easy but you can do it. You are not alone. God bless.

[@MeetMeOnTheMoon]

What a great video. Truly life changing. Thank you so much.

[@holyohnobutwait7260]

@1:25 : best response healthy and acknowledging those laughing in the audience. I will listen to the end an subscribe to all of your videos. You seem to hit accurate so far (@3:05) and they laugh at that too. Quite sad. I pray those laughing get the power of God upon them and that they are never the same 🙏🏽🌺

[@abigail11585]

Thank you rabbi !

[@Dream-bebe]

😊❤ amazing teaching and insight. Thank you!!

[@Gloriakerry]

this might have been the best thing i have heard

[@Tamar-sz8ox]

Excellent commentary 📚

[@shelbyartist9152]

This was amazing 😮

[@christinamitrovich7554]

I made eggs more than you know. I produce them fast and you can help me get more eggs from the barn so we can enjoy them togetger. You are useful and special.

[@gacem.hassina]

Wisdome

[@tricieb.5921]

I wonder maybe this is why many men are serial killers, users and abusers, sex addicts, drug addicts etc; When you feel like you're nothing, it's like being in a bottomless pit, nothing but low vibrational energy and that's when darkness starts to seep in, and people like this tend to do things to fill that void. Anyone that's going through this, I wish you nothing but healing.

[@butlerka2606]

Wow this is so good!!!!! 🔥🔥🔥

[@chadpace36912]

This is everything

[@mariabeckwith3336]

I love him!❤ Great insight!

[@davidroscoe3815]

This is true, men's greatest fear is becoming irrelevant to their wife and children. One of the greatest drivers of divorce is when the man looses his career status. Loose your job and loose your wife.

[@Mr._Anderpson]

I don't lose sleep over the possibility of being nothing. That's more than enough material for God to worth with.

[@mteresa7655]

That is redemption to know you are valued and loved. Blessed are the men that know God’s love.

[@MrsJMW]

Thank you.

[@RealTalk-mq2ug]

I desperately want to die. I'm in hell with no escape. 44 years of suffering with only intermittent fleeting windows of relief. I beg to die. HE REPLACED ME. HE SHATTERED MY HEART. I loved him. He raped my soul: brutally viciously violently maliciously. Every night: nightmares. Every day: panic attacks. Every morning I wake up in despair, desperately praying to die. I can no longer bear the pain. I could die from the pain of missing my best friend. He betrayed and abandoned me, discarded me like garbage. I'm so fucking traumatized and terrorized and terrified. God, as I walk through this hell and heartache and grief, I pray you guide me and direct me and hold me and love me and heal me... AFFIRMATIVE PRAYER: I'm in love. In love with a special person, in love with myself, in love with life, in love with God, in love with all that I AM, in love with all that is. I love life. I've spent my whole life in a suicidal hell, and that's all permanently shifting NOW. I pray I stay on this trajectory of MILLIONS of miracles, forever!

[@StephanieCampbellJ]

From Adam's Ashen rib. Indian Prana is when Andy spits out fire for a full day. I dodged the motion and projectile.

[@livafridrihsone6683]

That is why both men and women should strive to get away from their ego based, society - conditioned roles. Both genders are divine beings on a deeper level, both come from ultimate source. The one who read this, may you realize and feel that you are fulness of creation,no matter woman or man❤

[@Gaphalor]

This is only viable for women, men need to become or they won't reproduce. It's easy for a women to say such things when she doesnt even know this existential pressure... For women simply "being" is usually enough, that's why women always teach these "you are good how you are" messages. Problem is when young men listen and start to think this applies to them aswell, they will have big troubles in life for sure.

[@Tetradepodmelontea]

Most people , like, may be, 99%, find comfort in their roles. Very few find limitations of gender roles unsatisfactory and try to change system. On social level, its quite difficult for society to develop without men who fight and serve in military and mothers of big families. Society collapses when there is not enough people anymore to take this roles willingly and with high culture.

[@mother104]

Terrific !

[@V.Hansen.]

This is giving me a bit of panic. If a man can’t take any criticism, how is anyone supposed to have a relationship with one? I honestly have no idea what to do. Pretend they can do no wrong? That actually sounds like exactly what they wish.

[@V.Hansen.]

@@miltain yeah. You’re not wrong I personally thrive on some constructive criticism, but not a lot of people do.

[@breakingthemasks]

The Rabbi is talking about an underlying structure... That's the key. Structure your relationship such that your man knows, deeply and surely, that yiy respect him. That yiu value him. That you acknowledge that his role in your life makes yourblife far better than being alone. Do this as the underpinning structure of your relationship. Then, yiu will have the freedom to ask for changes in the particular manner in which your man, your rock, your comfort... Supports you. And as yiu asknfor modifications of the particulars of his always present love and support... Keep in mind that your opinion of him is hugely important to him. Son don't throw criticism at him when you are upset. Dont snear and belittle. Wait. Hold your peace until you are calm, And until you remember that this is your rock, your special man, your love... And share with him thrbways that his behavior affects you. If you man loves you, you have become a part of his body and mind. Harming you, even if unintentional, will harm himself. So be vulnerable enough to show the pain his actions cause. He will change, because he understands the hurt he does to you. Or... He no longer loves you. And you are no longer part of his own body and mind. A sad options which may call for thoughts of separation. But this is how you approach men. With respect, not in anger. Not demanding, but sharing the outcome of his decisions. Good luck sister.

[@jonv2911]

Apart from the wisdom and kindness, you are the far best comedian out there ❤🙏🏻☺️.. Thank you Rabbi 🙏🏻 for making my day so much better.

[@rebeccamarkee2791]

Yes I agree with everything the Rabbi says, but the man must realize he was created first and first is always first. And therefore although a woman may be an improvement, man is the original.

[@stellastarbrightk7563]

My grandmother told me you will never be beautiful so you better be interesting. Words to live by

[@batshevaklein9373]

Also people who has had serious child abouse except being a 0.

[@ayja4102]

We still need men.. you are not ever nothing ❤

[@Cynthia-sm5uj]

Men love to give each other put downs as play.

[@sarahyip2825]

Great point. For them to do that they are attached to their sense of who they are. Wobbly at times but who isn't? Important thing is growing in competence, camaraderie and self knowledge (Jordan Peterson would advocate these) be it in sports, carpentry or any group effort. Now this male bonding may be where women feel "unwelcomed" or clueless but hey we all learn from each other. Lifelong learning is there for a reason. And Respect too.

[@kabbalisticteddy]

*Listen what I say because I said it many times, and it is good. Create Rabbi Friedman, ambiguous. Cut & paste. Paint new color. All that he says can have double meaning. Until the last minute of the talk, when he nails the nail properly. Graham Priest semantic trees...*

[@marthacohen4837]

I have been watching your talks on KZbin for a while. I disagree with much of what you say, but there are gems of Jewish wisdom. As a retired psychologist, I have to say that I vehemently disagree with you. I have taken courses at Chabad, and benefited from them, and I usually listen to your talks when I see them pop up on my KZbin feed.

[@BoulderBlockBrick]

What do you disagree with? I am Jewish , and psychology student. I would not attempt to reason psychological facts into Moral authority, but moral authority to reason on psychological facts. That is because science is- (how does it function?)and not a (why does it function?).

[@frances.ca.1191]

in the Beginning of the audiovisual Lesson, the ''Conception of Human'' was mentioned but, and it is exhausting to having and repeat this constantly, in ''Genesis'' Chapter 1 Verses 26-27 explains how the original human Being was made Male and Female simultaneaously, the neurophysiological System, Intellect, Rationality, and the cardiovascular System, Affectivity, Emotivity, and ''G.d the Absolute'', ''Elhim'' biblical , that is ''Elh'' in middle eastern Language and the Suffix ''-im'' for the ''dual Form'' equal to the ''Neuter'' in Latin, that is ''-um'', and indicates the Presence of both ''masculine and feminine Qualities simultaneously'' or none of them, and this indicates that the ''Name'' is a ''Whole'', is provided with ''Balance, Integrity'', made the Human as a perfect Representative of ''G.d the Absolute'' Itself, provided with masculine Qualities or Intellect of the Head, Brain, and with feminine Qualities or Affectivity of the Chest, Heart, as well as making the ''Human'' as a Couple, one generatively a ''Man, Male'' and the other generatively a ''Woman, Female'', that has to do with one's Womb, Gonads, while thereafter the ''minor Deity'' so named '4grammton'' forged a ''Fétiche'' as it is named in ''Kirikou et la Sorcière'' an Animation Movie by ''revolutionary, to restart and evolve'' Author Michel Ocelot, made of ''Ground and to which an 'Entity' was insufflated, cfr. these Entities as exposed in 'the Book of Medium' by 'Spiritualist', 'revolutionary', 'Allan Kardec', of some 160 Years ago'', and eventually in ''Genesis'' 6 it is clearly stated that ''the Infants of G.d the Absolute'', mix with the ''Infants of the Ground'', and they obviously generated a ''new Kind of human Being'', very material and very spiritual at the same Time, the one who is ''called to'' restore the World, repair the World, rescue the World, save the World, cfr. ''Salvation'' as ''Salve'' in Latin, ''Shlom'' in Ëbr, ''Slamah' in Ärb. ''Shlom'' to You and ''Strenght, Truth, also 'Vir' in Latin, 'Zkr' biblical, masculine, alchemically united to Good, also 'Gratia', 'Nqvh', feminine to generate Beauty'' to All.

[@yukisanderson6907]

So funny, but true!

[@joed7331]

Hmmm... Maybe that reminder serves to keep them humble and dependent on God and not self🙏

[@jorgeandrescoppiano]

If only you would not have ended it with "you really don't need us", hahaha. God created man and woman. In order to be a mother, a woman needs a man. To have a functional family, as God designed it, we need a father, a mother, and at least one child. Fantastic video, so much order and sense. Thank you very much. I ask God to bless you, protect you, and always guide you.

[@GodIsLove1John416]

This doesn't apply to everyone. I'm a female who's been told I'm nothing my entire life. I've been reduced to a zero before I ever made it to 1, muchless 10

[@MT77749]

Thank you. Im thinking is this man serious? Has ever spoken to women before?!

[@bodeansmith8173]

But Rabbi look who CREATED man💖wow

[@claudiapost-schultzke7216]

The masculine and the feminin balance the life

[@worshipwhilewewait]

Wow - WISDOM Ladies. Been saying for yrs - 'Ladies, You say You don't need a Man. And THATS why You don't have one.' One of the first things God did was realize Man needed Someone to talk to, to Live with and share Life, and to multiply with ON HIS LEVEL. Women were created from a part of Man. She's His MISSING part. Think about that...GREAT GREAT TALK - THANK YOU RABBI FRIEDMAN!!!!

[@LouLouLion]

You just described how men needed women, not the other way around. Did you not notice that you proved your own self wrong? You started off saying we need men and went on to describe how men need women. No, Women do not 'need" anyone. Society was manufactured to make us need them, but once we weren't oppressed in that way, things changed. It hasn't done me any good to need a man or not need him, in the end I always had to rely on myself. So the best thing a woman can do is not need a man from the start. She may want one, but it's not healthy to need anyone.

[@justanothergoy5900]

@@LouLouLioni hope you tell that to the mechanic when your car breaks down, to your plumber, your electrician to the man who picks up your garbage etc

[@observeroflife0000]

You can't undo a creative condition. You are right, you can't. However, God did not create them with fear. He created them both in Love. They felt no fear until they ate of the tree... That awakened knowledge/awareness without Wisdom/understanding. Knowledge without understanding is what causes fear in anyone's heart Male or Female. You "know" something is in the dark woods you are walking next to. You "know" it is following along side you. But there is no understanding because you don't "know" what "it" is. Your mind is screaming, "Bear! Mountain Lion!GAAAAH!!!" Then you get to a steet light and out comes a stray dog. 🤷‍♀️ And immediately you understand from previously gained Wisdom that this dog is seeking your help, not to make a meal out of you. The whole time you can't "see" the whole picture your imagination is attempting to fill in the blanks... Fear is very real, and triggers certain physical responses such as an adrenaline rush to flee if necessary. It's not just our emotions that are affected by the fealing of fear, its our whole body system... Which is wired with physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects that all need to be in balance to work properly. To function as we were created to function. I understand that you believe the fear of annihilation is exclusive to men, but it's not. I have experienced things in my life that I can no longer even put into words, and spent a good majority of my early years living in a constant state of fear. The emotions are driven by feelings. So if someone feels afraid, their emotional reaction will be triggered based from the bank of either Wisdom or hurt. It truly feels to me like each one of us have a well of both inside of us. And we can draw from either one with any circumstance we face. If we draw from our hurt, our emotional and physical reaction will be a reaction of hurt. But if we draw from our Wisdom, it will direct a response of understanding. Leading to what you said... The thing that you hate, don't do to others. It hurts my fealings when people talk over me, as in literally won't even let me finish a sentence. And this has been a consistent circumstance in my life for years now. So if I draw from my well of hurt, as I have done in the past, I am going to be angry, frustrated, and eventually just cut them off completely. That's not healthy for anyone. But if I draw from the well of Wisdom I have learned through my experiences I will instead feel compassion towards the one talking over me because we all want to be heard. I will not talk over them. I will let them be heard, and hope that someday they will at least feel heard by me. As a matter of fact I pretty much stopped talking almost completely several years ago and no one even noticed. I am pretty sure despite the internet, or perhaps even because of the internet... 🤔 That the majority of people do not feel heard. I want to be heard too. But no one can hear anything when everyone's talking... Because you can't talk and listen at the same time. These are emotional issues that we are dealing with. Not spiritual. The spiritual and physical are just out of balance because the emotions are out of balance. Therefore there is "dysfunction" that will not go away until the emotions are brought back into balance with the physical and spiritual. 🤷‍♀️

[@-ronenstern4319]

It is so sad and true. Never heard it before, just felt it.

[@AugustoCuervo-hx9pr]

We, as men, have great aspirations. So, it is difficult for us to accept naive women. We always look for a great woman, and that means a healthy, wise, and communicative woman.

[@Karlien68]

We as women have great aspirations too. So we look and need a man that transcends his oversensitive and egocentric ego. Communicates about his feelings and opinions. And sees and is appreciative of his partner. Who doesn't need a mama or servant.

[@panagiotaishere]

Have you thought that society puts the barrier so high for women and that is why women have the need to reach ‘ 10’? Things that women do are diminished and taken for granted like caring for other ie a child, elders etc which is hard work. The workload that we as women carry according to the society’s expectation crashes my heart. Feminism has saved women. Men if you feel like you are a 0 go to therapy to look inside and find what is the cause so you can fix it and we became a better place for the generations to come.

[@mnicolebarbic2284]

Yes, we can do many things ourselves....why? because it takes a century to get men to do something, I keep hearing "I will" "I'll do it tomorrow "....etc. Us women had no choice but to step up and get things done.

[@e.l.norton]

I can't cite one experiential example of a woman "getting it done" because a man won't. Not one. I know what women THINK of themselves with regards to this, but reality is something different. Men do everything. We earn the money to put the roof over everyone's head, the food in their mouths, the clothes on their backs, the cars, the trips, the tuitions, medical bills, and on and on and on. If we're putting something off it's because it isn't important and damn it, we're tired and need to be left the hell alone.

[@midragga]

​@@e.l.nortondoing all the important jobs that keep society running. Don't believe them when their hubris demands that they insist on not needing men.

[@midi6615]

​@@e.l.nortonstop deceiving yourself 😂. Men don't do everything. A lot of household have men who barely do much It women who do everything. Women work and contribute to the finances, clean the whole damn house, do all the laundry, take of all the children and we both know how messy and difficult children can be. So women have to work both in and out of the household yet men act like we should praise them for doing the bare minimum or for doing what they are supposed to do 😂 No wonder the divorce rate is high. Imagine being tied to dead weight

[@e.l.norton]

@@midi6615 You have that backwards, pumpkin. Women CHOOSE to work outside of the home because they're unwilling to make lifestyle compromises. They need their sill, superficial, material shit so they can show off to the other hens. They CHOOSE to work to the detriment of their families. And, it's THEY who think they deserve some special recognition for doing what men have done forever with ZERO recognition. And, in addition to carrying the full weight and responsibilities of a family, they had to deal with their wives. Where's the trophy for that? Once upon a time women WERE capable and competent. Today's crop are a pretty laughable bunch. What they think of themselves versus what they are? Light years apart. Silly, selfish, narcissistic, perpetually adolescent, entitled, non-dimensional memes of a female. They're as much a prize as a piece of broken glass in a box of Crackerjack.