What You MISUNDERSTAND About RELATIONSHIPS | Robert Greene & Lewis Howes

[@21copyCat]

listening to robert green talk is like therapy

[@rsn9394]

if you've noticed. robert greene is one of the nicest interviewees. and one of the smartest. he asks interviewers outright about an experience of theirs. even though it's hes the interviewee. he also goes to note subtle things the interviewer does and compliments them. theres a lot to learn just from the way he conducts himself.

[@GreatnessClips]

Thank you for watching! 🧡

[@33Jenesis]

I almost died in a hotel pool at 10. I took swimming lessons 3 times in the ensuring decades without success. I always wanted to conquer fear of drowning but had no good access to a pool for decades. In the mean time I watched a lot of swim lessons on vhs (effortless swimming) and later on KZbin. When I moved to my retirement home in 2021 I finally had convenient pool access (no one uses it). I started to teach myself how to swim since July 2022. I’d go almost everyday. It was really hard and frustrating but I never thought to give up. Now I can swim front crawl and breaststroke well while building endurance. I have a good deal of respect for water, will never not be careful in it. In the mean time I am making friends with water everyday. I don’t ever tell myself never. It all depends on if I want to do it or not. Once I have decided, I would know everything about it to ensure safety and success. I have done this quite a few times in my life. Doesn’t matter how small, every try is building confidence.

[@h3941]

I don't know I'm a huge empath and I always listen to others and remember what they tell me because I listen so intently but it has never gotten me anywhere in love. People often take advantage of me being more interested in what they other is saying

[@tingsomskjer5975]

I believe you. I lack the ability to listen or have interest in other peoples lives. Neither do I want a women who need that kind of attention.

[@h3941]

@@tingsomskjer5975 tbf I don't think a woman would want your attention

[@tingsomskjer5975]

@@h3941 women comes in different types

[@shrgai8821]

Meet new people... Larger the group population better the chance... And try to find something more appealing than attractiveness.... Or if you are doing this, then go tell them how attractive they are... Doing completely unexpected things will bring spice in your life

[@muradm7748]

Maybe you are not what you think you are. Or maybe you have other flaws which keep you back.

[@kpurdy1932]

I’m on my 3rd Robert Greene book.. he is a wonderful writer, that combines stories in history to psychology and human nature. Very smart man that makes lesson practical for everyday life.

[@sagaragarwal369]

No he doesn't he told in a interview that they are his real life experiences and since he cannot use the person real name he instead gives them a role for example the cruel boss may be a cruel king from the 15th century 😂

[@lardycake]

Just started down this rabbit hole...

[@latarrotraylor7329]

Clearly you have not read his books

[@FlatStella1]

already a smart man , high five.guys are such a bad quality, internationally...

[@44gg37]

@@sagaragarwal369 the experience is real in both cases

[@obuchovaoffice]

It's hard when you have empathy because you take on other people's stuff

[@rachelsaez3718]

It’s really fun going into their mind as they undress you without realizing it well that’s the good but totally understand

[@ericyoumans2670]

The 48 Laws of Power is my favorite book. I read it many times in 2016 thru 2018. I spent a few years absorbing all the messages and laws, and now I am using them and finding success. It’s crazy how powerful that book is if you treat it like the dense material it is and really study it for years

[@iamshadowbanned699]

What is the most useful rule there for you in your experience?

[@mohei5029]

Every time a citizen bowed down to greet the emperor or shouted a word of praise about his great deeds, Marcus Aurelius instructed the servant to whisper a few words in his ear. These were the words: “You're just a man. You're just a man.”

[@Darin_H]

The one skill young people need to learn is the skill to learn new skills. The skill of learning new skills and developing with the times is the master skill to success.

[@dacat8171]

Naaah! The most important skill is to say 'NO': >>No, I am not doing this any longer.>No, I am not going to finish that course, because it's not what I expected it to be and therefore not wasting more energy.>No, I am not staying where I currently am. I will leave.

[@Darin_H]

@@dacat8171 Why did you start that course to begin with? No one held a gun to your head. This only means that your life's purpose and goals are vague and not clearly defined. Keep trying..

[@dacat8171]

@@Darin_H That is B/S. Take a look at my comment's last paragraph i.e. the comment you are referring to.

[@alexlimion2624]

I enjoyed Robert’s books 15yrs ago and it is so great to finally see the author share his wisdom

[@AmparoDelRioDesign]

I love how he communicates. Genius. Honest. Thank you for all you teach us Robert Green.

[@paengsterable]

Pain is a very powerful motivating factor.

[@GreatnessClips]

Absolutely!

[@stacielivinthedream8510]

I Love Robert Greene! I learn so much from him!

[@dogberry3660]

Same same 💖

[@mevslife3080]

knowing that I'm going to be in pain isn't helping my anxiety it's funny how the fear of pain is even more painful then the pain itself for me and I would rather be in pain as long as I would need to be afraid of the pain

[@Chrismontt]

fear is a catalyst

[@Dronevotionals]

This guy is a genius!

[@tammy6452]

Found the difference in Lewis Howe's reference to keep doing it until your fears become skills at 17:01, exactly what I needed to hear today.

[@alcoholic2412]

It's a character asset called HUMILITY. That's what he's talking about. Great video.

[@GreatnessClips]

Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

[@livinggood6876]

Love listening to this guy he is so inspiring and very sincere.

[@GreatnessClips]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@angelinasamson6996]

I’m extremely perceptive and intuitive and wow it’s saved me so much pain ❤️ I’m an intuitive empath We have to emotionally detach and place yourself into there emotions

[@rachelsaez3718]

My husband have been telling me about his childhood for the past 26 years I’m still waiting for part two.

[@staceykersting705]

\Sounds like every guy I've gone out with...talk forever n it never goes anywhere or means anything...just more details of their needed car repairs or work traumas...always the victims of their own crappy thinking.

[@DaGleese]

@@staceykersting705 ALL the men are to blame?

[@staceykersting705]

@@DaGleese First, find out what hyperbole is. Second, reread...I said The men I (EYE) have gone out with. The few exceptions had been car salesmen...LOL! Just my experience in las.t 10-20 yrs. Prior to that, seems as if ppl (both genders) had better skills at 2 way conversations.

[@andreamachacova4352]

Pretty simple, amazing how many people are just only interested in themselves and wander why their life and relationships suffer

[@tbcstuff3634]

I am off the charts with this ability, in school I could pick out which questions where going to be on the test just by observing how teachers would present information in class. Meanwhile, I am still unemployed 20 years later after graduating college in Aerospace Engineering because I have never had to opportunity to have a single job interview so my ability never get to be used.

[@billihawk368]

Maybe you just have logical intelligence. Learn way more seduction. And get a job.

[@tbcstuff3634]

@@billihawk368 I did seduce a woman who is married to doctor in new york who owns his owns practice while being unemployed in my parent's basement, simply because she said, I am the smartest man she has ever talked to and I understood her in a way no else could, well along with my muscular ripped body. However, it possible to do that for employment unless I am allowed to be in the same room and talk to employers. You can't seduce anyone with being able to interact with them.

[@assistanttothetravelingsec8301]

what have you been doing for the last 20 years?

[@tbcstuff3634]

@@assistanttothetravelingsec8301 Watching the kids, I outclassed all throughout academia live great lives because of the opportunities they got despite being screw ups in every way, what about you?

[@assistanttothetravelingsec8301]

@@tbcstuff3634 something doesn't add up about your story. There are plenty of companies that would hire an aerospace engineer out of college. Unless maybe you refused to move from your hometown? I'm a software engineer and I had to move away to find work after college

[@drmatthewhorkey]

This was the best 22 minutes I’ve spent in a while…

[@enahsheen2597]

Robert is my favorite author. A once in a lifetime writer who reconciles art and reality.

[@Suzy2QPA]

Thanks Robert your so inspiring and insightful 😊

[@Goldenheart2911]

I agree with this 💯. Absolutely love Robert Greene's insight. It resonates with me so much. When you're present in the moment you can learn so much about a person without them even saying a word. Facial expressions and body language say so much about what someone is feeling on a broad emotional spectrum. It's intriguing. In the times when you do communicate with someone else it's so important to ask open ended questions, the 5 W's and then listen and wait for a response before you say something else you can learn so much. 💛 Such a great video.

[@GreatnessClips]

Thank you for being here 🧡

[@elinek5470]

The song Young years from London Grammar reminded me that I am/was indeed wasting my young years. That song pops up in my head every now and then 😅

[@madhuri2032]

How do you not get overwhelmed by others emotions? It usually effects me when I'm conscious of how others are feeling especially if it's a negative emotion. It drains me out and I end up avoiding crowds most of the time

[@xjt5998]

Study avoiding personality disorder, and how not to be an emotional sponge, might help.

[@elinek5470]

Maybe meditation? Staying grounded. You can feel and show compassion, but try to leave the emotion with the other person and dont let it take you over. No one is helped by that. In the worst case the other person is toxic and thinks "Oh thats nice now this nice person takes over my emotion and i dont have to deal with it anymore - Let's hang out more often"..

[@averyintelligence]

Get some boundaries. Stop emotionally investing your energy into them. You chose where your energy flows

[@madhuri2032]

​@@averyintelligence yeah need to consciously try not to do that

[@angelitaputz9946]

❤ This subject is interesting and l sure want to know more about it.

[@lucyluz1651]

This was Awesome, the irony is that I just added his books 📚 to my home collection ❤️

[@Pepe-hj4zt]

Great interviewer, great interview 👍

[@GreatnessClips]

Appreciate you! 🙏

[@irenashiloh8808]

This was extremely helpful. Thank you so much. Both Robert and Lewis truly shine in this interview.

[@GreatnessClips]

You're welcome, thank you for being here 🧡

[@mcm6563]

this is so good having a good company with you guys listening life lesson, advice for our future self tkank you.

[@GreatnessClips]

You're welcome, thank you for being here 🧡

[@Epicurean999]

Never clicked so fast. And He looks so well and healthy. More Power to You Sir 🙏♥️🙏

[@patriciagriffin1505]

Too many are narcissistic individuals and they don’t want to listen to you.. they think you are obliged to listen absolutely love to hear themselves talk never asking much of anything as they think they’re always the main attraction

[@amirhosseinnaeejnezhad8948]

Thank you lewis. Your videos and especially your channel are absolutely amazing 👍👍

[@muhammadihtisham2832]

Lots of love for Robert Greene.

[@David53D]

Lewis Howes has such nice, neat hair and his skin is fantastic for his late 30's.

[@GreatnessClips]

Thank you! 🧡

[@MarilynFinland]

I could listen to Robert Greene for days on end. In fact I do. 😂

[@DSmith-ix1xf]

His opening statement is a double edge sword. You spend your life living in other people's minds to get what you want, then at the end you have loads, but you don't know your own mind or self anymore. 😨

[@geminiflamez]

Natural seducer and empath... life has been nothing but pain and set backs but noooow.... i am learning how my mind works and working through my issues and most importantly loving myself... self love is the key to happiness ❤

[@milanrivera2348]

This was very good to listen to

[@GreatnessClips]

Thank you so much! Your comment made my day 😊

[@michaelhanford8139]

'The most interesting person in the room is the most interested [in the other ppl].' - cant remember who

[@mbiwechijioke4204]

Take that first step and the doors will open for you. Great!

[@JL-re1rx]

Thanks majorly for sharing!!

[@logosproclamation453]

Excellent and very helpful for folks!

[@msmachiavella]

To be curious. This is who I am and I love to explore the stories of people that say so much that delights and informs

[@curlymixednezz]

This was great to watch... it resonated with me deeply.. I've added several of your books to my wishlist 💕

[@Himanshu_Upadhyay_]

Great interview...👍👏

[@davidguthrie3739]

The empath is the counterpart and favorite target of the narcissist. Each personality is borne of childhood trauma but the empath and narcissist develop in completely different ways as a coping response. Empathy is important but it takes much more than empathy to be a good and attractive partner.

[@patriciam.p.7727]

Super challenging for ADHD people, if they let us BLAH one sec it becomes magically half hour of hyperactive speaking.

[@madbosh4577]

Bob! You are a great inspiration to be better! Thank you!

[@GreatnessClips]

🧡

[@erinhappy-go-lucky5040]

Thank you, Lewis 🥰😎🥳!!!

[@ianwylie9064]

interviewing interesting people during a lunch break by a heart surgeon

[@Buster-im5so]

Shift my focus on other's point of view, their perspective. Can hardly wait to practice this concept.

[@GreatnessClips]

🙌

[@mayj257]

Glad you corrected it to be, ' other people are 'AS' interesting as yourself' , because people who are tooo emathetic loose themselves and can turn into a doormat

[@htttppppp]

That's kindness and altruism, but we have to be aware that other people may not see that as strength but weakness. So we should not be surprised if they start trampling on us. It means they are unhealthy, sick, toxic , unstable.

[@KA-ub4rc]

Yes and we need to stay far away from unstable people

[@QuantExp]

Amazing man!

[@GreatnessClips]

💯

[@IamAnson777]

What if the other person is a disgusting pervert who is a psycho on the second meeting? I'm NOT kidding either..... There are a lot of inappropriate people out there that we shouldn't even interact with in the first place

[@ezaelle]

When u focus on them instead of self it helps u notice such character asap a u can avoid them of end the relationship earlier on

[@latarrotraylor7329]

Did you watch the video? He talks about this at 5:50

[@angelitaputz9946]

I know now that I have few fears except for falling from deep heights

[@jamesdashper1316]

interviewer proved his point when he clearly didn't listen to anything he just said 4:46

[@user-vd6vr7eo7z]

I like this man

[@rohanlagah]

Robert greene is obsessed with "The Mask 🎭"

[@billihawk368]

-Mirror people on their stories, body lenguage, ideas. -Research person.

[@sunnybiswas1362]

I just wish if I could've liked this video 1 thousand times....😌

[@KelW1111]

I’m embarrassed! 🙈 I didn’t even think.

[@MabeL22222]

I love you, Robert Greene and Lewis Howes! Thank you both for sharing your greatness. I can't wait until," Towards the Sublime" comes out...2023/2024!!! 🥰💖

[@GreatnessClips]

You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

[@mrjeff9169]

Truth

[@DorMeles]

This flies in the face of most dating knowledge...

[@joanfrink9443]

💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾 AN EMPATHETIC 👂🏾👂🏾👂🏾👂🏾👂🏾

[@kimdavis7812]

No thank you on talking about my childhood ....

[@ohdear2275]

That's my initial response, too. However, even the worst childhood may have had some happy moments. Or bittersweet moments, maybe. Search your memory for those.

[@genajohns3011]

You did work here

[@genajohns3011]

Need understand that

[@mowz0_o]

unfortunatly i only have this superpower when im romantically interested in someone

[@farhaan4658]

Fr

[@genajohns3011]

But don't selfish and change life 😉😉😉

[@luck3yp0rk93]

My biggest fear is death. Don’t think giving that a shot is a good idea 😂😂

[@bridamc3493]

The question is "where." .. Is the love..

[@sarahpruitt6854]

EMPATHY

[@alquimistika8213]

The first part really clicked on me

[@MicroCenter-s8e]

people need gentle training and teamwork.

[@samoriab5999]

Is everything about 20 to 30 year olds????

[@AccordingToMyBrain]

I want to know how to get in Lewis' head 😘

[@NBnNC]

… or on his head 🤭 👀….. 🤣

[@genajohns3011]

Ok understand 😄 what he saids but don't çall tàke thing personal from family

[@ileanahope466]

Whats the difference with these techniques and being exploitative and manipulatative as narcissists and con artists do? Be yourself…. Too much work… I know people that naurally have charisma because they love themselves and are curious and love others😇

[@amirgholami6928]

perdect bravoo

[@Black_wasabi]

מדקה 6

[@crissieroserose]

what if they had a very fuced up child hood , full of abuse and neglect ??

[@hudsonm2010]

Probably a narcissist

[@lemostjoyousrenegade]

They probably won't share much...not the facts.

[@alwayshappy1746]

Spend enough time with a narcissist and you will have a very good grasp of their thoughts, sadly.

[@bsg806]

empathy is gaeh

[@hasanbasha7681]

❤️

[@stephanieawuah]

‼️‼️‼️💯

[@GreatnessClips]

🙌

[@genajohns3011]

See I am security and do homework at home

[@TomTremayne]

What is it about Americans that means they do all this stuff, get such a kick out of it yet, if you do it in the UK it gets you nowhere!!!?

[@HOODIEDATHERO]

im only interested in people trynna get rich . ive had 30 years of seemingly useless convo . in the suburbs theres gotta be better financial convo

[@fishstickbio594]

What every male misunderstands is : every person has human rights …..getting married it not a license for the male to trample on the female individual and human RIGHTS . Everyone is born FREE and EQUEL !

[@David53D]

Or the woman to trample all over the man.

[@TancWiht]

Every male? How so? Maybe every male in your surrounding...

[@catpaladin1]

What about the female who tramples on every male ? How about people realize we walked around with a picture in our heads of what marriage looks like and talking about that picture before getting married and finding out the limits of what we each bring into the marriage so we have a clue of the work that a good marriage actually is. Good marriages rarely just happen.

[@D8099.]

Robert Greene might be my spirit animal. So I’ve bought the books. Physically and on audible and have not started them. I’m actually very tuned into Robert speaking with video it crosses the adhd barrier more for me. I can naturally do all of this and movies are my best friends. One problem how do I stop myself from being or becoming a dark empath? I’m going to take a stab in the dark at that question and say: by just choosing not to be an asshole. 😂. I think an empath is just that there are no sub levels of bad or good unless you allow those to form but also if you choose to clip parts of those branches off. I’d give anything for anyone of you to plead pitch in on this. Usually this is just a dark hole for my thoughts to be thrown into.