When Can I Sever My Relationship? | Isha Khatira | Imam Nadim Bashir

[@abesha9928]

I asked Allah to make our relationship with our parents and sibling strong

[@Totajee79]

This lecture should be listened to everyone. Allhumdulilah. Such pearls of wisdom. Allahumdulilah for out faith. Such jahileeya in our south Asian culture, so many issues I have experienced first hand. Such a shame. 😢

[@abdulmajid8888]

Mash'Allah may Allah SWT reward you for covering this sensitive topic. I would request you go even deeper & cover sexual, emotional & physical abuse from close family members & their children. No doubt dunia is fitna. May Allah SWT help us all to be correct in HIS eyes. Ameen.

[@turgutkhan6897]

It May look like You're not Getting Anywhere Right Now but Remember that Allahﷻ can Change your Circumstances within a Split Second. When Allahﷻ wills, He can make the Impossible, be Possible. So Trust in Him and Stay Strong... And Allahﷻ Tests you Only Because He Loves you. Never Forget That. Alhumdulillah Ala Kulli Hal Stop stressing when others give up on you, walk out on you and turn their backs on you. It’s not the end of the world. The Almighty will see to it that you weather the storms in life, if you bear beautiful patience and trust Him. Don’t hesitate.

[@aisham1057]

SubhanAllah! It's so hard sometimes, no matter how hard we try to mend our family relationships/situations. Ya الله give us the strength and ability to mend our family situations with the knowledge that we have from the Quran and Sunnah and protect us from the whispers of Shaytan at all times. Shaytan thrives on breaking up families and causing chaos and confusion. We need YOU الله now more than ever. Please help us! امين 💙🙏🧡

[@famidab]

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[@adamaaliyu1309]

Ameen

[@Aarta]

جزاكم الله خيرا Sheikh It’s such a complicated situation/problem. I gather that whatever decision we make we have to be very clear on that with our intentions (state of the heart) I think the fear of Allah is also what prevents us from just fulfilling our own wishes because sometimes we just have to make it work regardless. I pray Allah give us hidayat to make the right decision, and I hope In the end when it matters that Allah will be pleased with us

[@QuranWorldYT]

Allah ❤

[@khanofcaledonia6413]

My step mother never allowed me to come to her house. When my father passed away, she even didn't accept my condolences by not even bothering to answer my phone. So, there's no point in talking to her and her children. They also don't want to distribute my father's estate, perhaps that's the reason they don't want to talk to me.

[@thairinkhudr4259]

This is all relevant to me thank you so much for sharing this

[@Glicher295]

Masha'Allah, very relevant talk. What about in the case where we have non-Muslim family? Are we supposed to avoid all invitations like weddings, birthdays, mixed gatherings where music or alcohol may be present? How do we maintain ties with non-Muslim family?

[@mdqamaruddin7717]

Assalamu alaikum wa Rahmatullah WA barakatuh Aap Urdu me bhi bayan kare Jazaak Allahu Khairan kaseera fiddunya wal aakhirah

[@parasol1521]

Respectfully I disagree with his advices. They're enabling towards abusers and blaming the victim. Family members don't suddenly start being toxic or abusive, this is who they are. It's a lifelong pattern which is very unlikely to end. Victims speak up when they're being mistreated but it makes not a difference when you're fighting alone for yourself against the entire family and relative system. If you have been mistreated and abused for a long time, you won't have self respect to begin with to stand up for yourself and even then when you do, you'll be shut down. Family members enable abusers so victims can't win even when they stand up for themselves. Unfortunately, maintaining the pseudo peace is far more important than maintaining justice. No one willingly wants to cut off ties with family members unless they have reached their limit and tried other options. If you know a family member is toxic - in his example the siblings - then you shouldn't visit them and reduce the relationship to the bare minimum. Why should one willingly expose themselves to which they know is harmful to them? For outsiders it's easy to preach about maintaining ties and aside from physical and sexual abusive victims aren't taken serious. Abusive is abusive regardless what type. Would he be giving the same advice if someone came forth and said they're being sexually abused by a family member, in this case a sibling? Unlikely. So why do we still preach this narrative when it comes to other types of abusive such as emotional? When in fact, it is proven it does more life lasting damage. If keeping ties requires for truth to not be spoken, abusers being enabled and for members not being able to be authentic (that which goes hand in hand with Islam, not transgender as said in the video) then it's not a family but blood ties only which function under oppression and tyranny.

[@MaryamaNYC]

Youve spoken on a perspective that light needs to be shed on. Unfortunately there has been no response to this. Toxic /abusive people are who they are and they have absolutely no remorse and some of the most vicious people I’ve ever come across. They only get worse over the years. Before you ask of course we pray for them, for us, and do our best to stay on deen . There’s just no reasoning with these individuals. The honest truth that I don’t want to say is that saying HAVE SABR , BE GRATEFUL is a bit infuriating when you’ve been enduring for 15yrs plus and it only leads to confusion and questioning of your entire belief system. Nonetheless we’re all tested in different ways and sometimes the only thing you can do is make duah for others and that is enough.

[@parasol1521]

@@MaryamaNYC I agree, make dua and keep your distance. Relationship are a two way street build on mutual respect otherwise it's a transaction and exploitative.

[@ezak2009]

To me, the sheikh advise is of the highest level that a person are actually capable of achieving if that person has finally come to the point of total awareness/understanding that everything he/she does is for the sake of Allah. Having said that, surely in today's situtation the above is very difficult to achieve. But of course, being the knowledgeable Syeikh and being the person who has the amanah to deliver what he has learned pertaining to Allah's and the Rasul's reminders, so that's just it. Many times, we have already heard that, how can we say that we are the people of eeman when we have yet being tested? The more difficult the test, the higher the "marks" we will get if we go through it with patience and eventually redha. I don't deny the feelings of those who endure decades of heartbreaks to the extent of feeling worthless. We are normal human being after all, but never give up in Allah, always keep on moving as long as we live - start with a sincere Bismillahirrahmanirrahim, and continue, ayatul kursi, the simple 3 Quls and never stop reciting dhikr. These are our arsenals to persevere. After having niat for the sake of Allah and putting in the effort, then always redha of whatever the outcome. For Allah is the most seeing, and each goodness that we do - no matter what the outcome - are blessed and InshaAllah we will be rewarded handsomely in the hereafter.

[@MaryamaNYC]

@@ezak2009 جزاك الله خير

[@taheraomar9210]

Can you pls talk about the ummah getting along with each other next.Jzk

[@teenacharm]

What if 1) A relative has S-Assaulted or M*lested you as a child? and 2) A relative tries to cheat you or destroy your business EVERY chance they get? And they have already many times before? 3) A married relative constantly seduces another relative? SubhanAllah. Gives me shame and grief that I even have to ask about these scenarios but what can we do?

[@faizanbabul5374]

Too many go-forth and okay! Nice khutba nonetheless.