WHEN IT COMES CRASHING DOWN FOR THE NARCISSIST

[@lorabor8967]

Don't pine for them, they're not worth your love.

[@janellegonzalez9863]

I will be 30 days free on the 5th of March, it has been hard, but it is the best decision I have made in 35 years, 4 children (grown) and 4 grandchildren. I am blessed to be turning 56 and finally know myself and my freedom from the Narcissist. Blessings to everyone in this community. You are not alone. Thank you Andrew. 😊❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙌🙏

[@kathrynallmon3658]

I want all to know the Holy Spirit will help us.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌🙏

[@mimap275]

Amen

[@kimmydean3536]

Amen

[@pamilaknapp203]

Amen

[@pamilaknapp203]

Amen

[@flowerpower4944]

P.s.they hate being alone with themselves and their thoughts ,,, Me i love my own company ,❤❤❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😊

[@irismartinez5753]

For sure. My ex can't stand being alone. He just wants someone to be there to cater to him. He will miss me dearly for sure.

[@BarefootWandrer]

​@@irismartinez5753so happy for you. 👏 know your worth!

[@claytonwaters343]

I love my own company ♡❤🧡💛

[@ItsMe-ke6qw]

Yes the Narcs I met were all like that ..they get bored when they don’t have a slave around to tend to their entitlements

[@JFish-df2ep]

I am glad I am not walking on eggshells, being gaslighted, insulted, bullied, and laughed at anymore.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌💯

[@cathyferran7291]

me too, I used to think I was paranoid and then my brain said no, this is messed up and when I stood up to him boy did his rage come and then I was done

[@jayjo77144]

Laughed at was always hard to handle It’s so insulting

[@JFish-df2ep]

@@jayjo77144 Glad you are past that nonsense, you deserve far better

[@JFish-df2ep]

@@jayjo77144 you are not laughed at anymore. You have the last laugh because you left the bastard.

[@blinkypushbuttons]

I'm not interested in peeking, blocked them before they even left. I know they'll never find anyone like me again, and my condolences go out to anyone who has the misfortune of getting involved with them.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙏💜

[@lizwilliamson8332]

“The narcissist is trapped in a tiny little pea brain” 😂 I love that and it’s so true but it’s ironic given that every narcissist thinks they’re super intelligent.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌💯🤭

[@Humble4656]

Actually they are very smart. But they miss the bigger picture because of their many limitations and psychological hinderances.

[@deborahkurek2988]

@lizwilliamson8332 in their own mind, they think they are perfect...so wrong. Mom used to say to me, don't let pride get in the way!

[@cc1k435]

Narcissists likely live with hell in their heads most of the time. Paranoia and jealousy, 24/7. And when they smack down supply to make themselves feel better, the feeling never lasts long. They just suck at being people, and I don't know how they can burn so many relationships right down to the ground and never learn a damn thing. 🤔

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@martinepatino1617]

They are vampires. Without you - or WHOEVER…they are NOTHING.

[@almosthome5971]

I can feel his anger hundreds of miles away. So glad he's there and I'm here. No trauma bond here. Just thankfulness that he's not in my world anymore. 😊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😌

[@gratefultobehere]

🙏❤️

[@cc1k435]

Ain't that the truth! I swear the trauma bond involves some kind of ESP on their end. 😮

[@emilywilson7308]

God bless and protect you, Almost!❤

[@animallover4955]

Narc is thousands klm away from me, not seen in 15 years until recently. He came to my town.

[@Julz99907]

You totally nailed it! The Narcissist is an emotionally stunted child and he was looking for a Mother.

[@floragriffin6053]

‘He prepares a table in the midst of my enemies’

[@JesuisLord]

Amen

[@denisemiles1456]

Hallelujah!!

[@bobbysingh2163]

❤❤❤❤❤❤. Psalm 93. Amen and Amen. Glory to God Almighty and Jesus Christ in the highest degree

[@kimmydean3536]

Amen

[@pamilaknapp203]

Yes!! I try to read this psalm every day, so calming on a challenging day

[@debrastadnyk1351]

Narcisstic ppl live in a fantasy world. You are so right

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌

[@dr.a2160]

The whole praise, devalue, and discard is exactly what Jesus experienced. The crucifixtion being the discard. Yet on that third day, he rose again. We can too! The narcissist’s ultimate victory is to have you dead after years of decline into the abyss. But they always end up falling into the traps they have set for others- it’s so ridiculous when you think how dumb these maggots truly are

[@kimmydean3536]

spot on my friend

[@pamilaknapp203]

Yes, absolutely!

[@darrellgosnell9971]

After a divorce from the narcissist, I started enjoying things I had forgotten. My self awareness is returning!!! Thank you for your channel, it is an awakening to reality for me!

[@beachy9920]

Left a 33 yr marriage in June. I didn’t realize the fear n anxiety that I had until I left. I had suppressed it down for all of these yrs. Get out now with the mental health and strength you have bc it will only get worse as they age. Heal yourself and ignore them so hard that they question their own existence ❤

[@hongtruong4576]

Any bad day is better than the good day with the narc. They always figure out the way to make us miserable and belittle us because every thing is our fault. Best of wishes 🙏❤

[@stephaniemarshall6788]

Amen. 😢❤

[@jennyskoblikoff173]

Im happy for you. It was 22 years for me. Ive realized now that ive been on my own for 7 months, i had more fear if his ugly temper than i had thought. Be well.

[@beachy9920]

@@jennyskoblikoff173 thanks Jenny ❤️… so glad you’re out now too. It’s a whole new beautiful FREE world out here 🤩 stay well, safe and happy …

[@gracie3174]

👏👏👏👏👏

[@valster6254]

Took me a long time to realize what supply really meant. Fog.

[@lmm1586]

I’ve been studying narcissism for 5 years now after leaving my husband of 28 years. After I left , I was feeling freedom and peace for about a year until the trauma bonding phase (among the other phases you must go through to eventually come out the other side) hence a nervous breakdown occurred. I wanted to die. I didn’t know who I was. I’d forgotten myself. My message to all is don’t give up. It’s like peeling an onion. One layer at a time. It’s painful yes but God gives us the strength. Just ask Him! Jesus heals! “ Come to me all ye who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you strength “ -Jesus

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯🙏😌

[@lmm1586]

Correction: 😀 The scripture is “ I will give you rest” not “strength” however Jesus gives us strength too 😀!

[@stephaniemarshall6788]

Rest is strength, and God knows there is no rest for these demons. Praying folks delivered

[@kimberleyi9907]

I feel like I'm going to die.. I pray this gets better.

[@lmm1586]

@@kimberleyi9907 it will . Hang in there friend

[@deborahkurek2988]

I have to chuckle as a narcissist does not like when you speak in riddles. They think they are so important to themselves!!!

[@TonyTruthRx]

Perfect timing Andrew because that’s exactly what’s happening to her.

[@angelalewis4213]

My x is suffering also

[@jayneweaver8695]

SO true Andrew. BOTH narcs I dated that were extremely attractive and successful w/we were together are BOTH aged beyond years, both substance abusing to the point of reeking of marijuana on one and alcohol on the other. BOTH have been kicked out of "friends" groups and one completely out of business, his OWN fault and the other scraping along... he's now "65 y.o. lead singer in a band" WOW. You won't believe it in the thick of it but later on, their behavior, words, action come back to them 10-fold and it is jaw dropping to see.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😌🙏

[@amazingjane2703]

They include future faking, word salad, and intermittent reinforcement too.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😌

[@tinaintexas]

I think this is the hardest thing I have ever done. I’m just tired of all of it. I want to move on and be happy

[@stoneymorris5366]

You should!

[@Donnahodgins]

I hear ya 💖

[@19luvdabluzzz61]

I am with you Tina, moving on ...❤

[@SenSakura-dj6bq]

And you will move on and be happy. Remember, don't take it personal, there is nothing wrong with you, it is how these characters operate with everyone, including their family and children.

[@ScorpioWawaMom]

​@@SenSakura-dj6bqit's awful coparenting, well, them refusing to coparent 😢

[@hannastrack4310]

I have no mercy for a narcissus. They will know right away why they have come to that pay day in the sky its called judgement while Im moving onward with laughing

[@ShunCarter]

Me to 👌

[@19luvdabluzzz61]

❤ This is pure TRUTH! Just like when they were a child; throwing a tantrum... ABSOLUTELY EXACTLY HOW THEY ACT! Ty Andrew for shedding more and more light for us every day! ❤ we all appreciate you... Friends, we will get through this...Blessings

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯🙏☀️

[@Donnahodgins]

Andrew's wisdom has brought me a long way. Helps you understand, and wisdom to make better choices. 💖

[@19luvdabluzzz61]

@@Donnahodgins What a blessing he is for us...AMEN!

[@janicehill5605]

Throwing tantrums is absolutely correct 😂

[@freebird968-wg4ye]

Yes. 👏 Dealing with a toddler/kindergarten child in that state is challenging enough. When it’s a nearly 6 feet tall man weighing 250 pounds it’s another ballgame! Congratulations to everyone who dealt with these episodes and survived ! ❤

[@ez8546]

Oooooh, the double head tilt. This one's gonna be good!

[@cathleenburton-noble418]

When he tilts his head, it's time for listening ears and thinking caps.

[@awomen1072]

Mine spun his head with fake emotions peering at me to see if I would react.therapy has helped me mentally block his moods.😅😮

[@Hatbox948]

I always felt my ex narc used me like a mom. In some instances he even wanted me to do things the way she used to. ☹️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💡💡😉

[@jp-rs6ns]

Hang in there everyone. You can do this. Take everything to God in prayer. There are people here who have reached the pinnacle of indifference. You can too ☀️☀️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏😌☀️🙌

[@BeTheLight624]

👍🏻Amen

[@jp-rs6ns]

@@BeTheLight624 👍

[@denisedunn8976]

Evening Andrew from UK. It's reassuring to know the the narcissist life isn't a bed of roses after discarding the best thing that ever happened to him. These selfish individuals definitely do not deserve the love and devotion of the empath. We are of much greater value than they'll ever know. Their greatest loss and inability to feel real love.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯🙏😌🙌🇬🇧

[@johncbr650re]

They're self destruct give it some time and see how miserable they become

[@selinaogorman8380]

Exactly a narcissist will think that they abused and abandoned someone and think there now in the best life nope there is no rainbows no happiness there chasing something there never going to get they are stuck and won’t last long they will crumble and fall they think getting a new supply will make it all better sadly it not.

[@Donnahodgins]

He triangled me the whole marriage. He would flirt with just about anyone. He would leave me feeling 2 inches tall. I am sure he does that to her. He can't help himself. I am pretty sure he will end up alone. Perhaps I will too. But for different reasons.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉😉

[@SpringRiverHollar]

I'm really struggling tonight , my ex got married yesterday to his new supply . ....I don't know what I'm feeling but I'm feeling something ......maybe i just need to send her a " Thank You " card ....lol .

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯😌🙏🙌

[@gratefultobehere]

🙏 May you be wrapped in peace and joy

[@marieeakin8534]

Sweetheart you are beautiful inside & out. You were spared a lifetime of misery...thank God! You are the winner. Continued blessings 🎀😘

[@BeTheLight624]

she just did you a giant favor hopefully she will keep him occupied for a while, and you will get time to recover and evolve into the best you…wishing you happiness beyond your expectations Look forward, don’t look back

[@jhavajoe3792]

Your sense of humor-✔ ... You're 99.7% healed.

[@irismartinez5753]

Yes, parasites leaches that is what they are ❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌💯

[@Heal..Restore..Moveforward]

Yes, I experienced such a narcissist.

[@Star_therian-89]

I noticed that on social media even through blocking it wasn’t water tight especially if a part of any groups… they can get in and will get in somehow… For me it has been amazing since I completely deleted my account… it keeps the narc out and it also has helped me with time management and also better mental health

[@rochellet1333]

Amen!

[@DianaIbarra-y1e]

I'm considering going off-the-air, also, pretty much for the same reasons...CONGRATS!!!

[@elifnaml6969]

Thank you so much!! Your postings are keeping me sane. God bless you too

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome..🙏💯😉

[@MsQGirl]

Hello Andrew. I’ve been watching your vids for quite a few months now. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I’ve survived two narcissistic marriages. First was malignant, second was grandiose. I didn’t know what I was dealing with until well into the latter. I’m finally getting to a place where I’m learning that my “no” has value. I am truly living my best life and I’m still learning things about myself and my self worth. Anyways…just wanted to say Thank You!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏💯😌

[@catlady715]

I also survived two narcissistic marriages...the first one a grandiose , second a covert. Ugh..I've dealt with all the narc tactics between the two of them. Also like you I am still learning and living my best life NARCISSIST FREE. Here's to moving forward and better days ahead. ☮

[@freebird968-wg4ye]

2 of these relationships and survived? Admiration and respect to you. 🏅🏅

[@freebird968-wg4ye]

@@catlady715 Admiration and respect to you also. Your inner strength pulled you through. 🏅🏅

[@amandasmith9398]

❤😊❤

[@AmyHoffman-ws6lp]

Your videos have been so helpful with me removing a narcissist out of my life. Thank you so very much ❤️ Everything makes sense and I’m at peace with blocking them and not allowing them back in

[@jrontherocks99]

Day 2 no contact just gotvworse...

[@marieeakin8534]

Hang tough sweetie.....the ride can be ruff. Proud of your major step. Reach out to the community as you heal. It takes time. Blessings 🎀😘

[@AsToldByUfa]

Delete the number completely. If I dont have the number, then no matter how hard the urge hits I cant cause I dont have her number. Didnt memorize it either Would rather be fighting in my silence than send a hello and they now don’t respond 🤧😂

[@mtc-j9i]

The way you describe the lovebomb and the hook, and the way their personality changes overnight once hooked….the narcissist reminds me of a spider. They’ve caught you in their web, they get close and sing you lullabies so you fall asleep, and they busily coil their thread around you until you are trapped. Then they stop singing, sink their fangs in, and start extracting all the goods.

[@dalemorris7014]

I was ghosted by a close family member, lied about, and blocked on social media twice by this person and I've been very good to them. The lies that were spread caused a big rift in my family and I'm still reeling from it and finding it hard to heal. Not sure if this is narcissism, there is also a lack of impulse control, anger, etc. etc. ??? Not only am I still in shock that this happened, but really at a loss because it affected otherwise good relationships in the family. We are a divided family as a result. Your videos help so much, Andrew! Thank you

[@KimGoryl-qm8xq]

Someone is jealous of you

[@dalemorris7014]

I don't know, but I'm sure on their Sh-- List!@@KimGoryl-qm8xq

[@chriscole5990]

Yep! Andrew spot on! A narcissist wants to appear like a up to date software computer 🖥️ but in reality their just an old commodore computer with the floppy disk 💾 stuck in the past 1982 is long past! Upgrade yourself!!! 🙌🏾 Grow up narcissist!!

[@mariageaney2362]

😂😂😂😂that's a great analogy.

[@chriscole5990]

😂🙌🏾

[@mariageaney2362]

@@chriscole5990 the narc I fled from was a " new romantic " back in 1982....and still thinks he is...at the age of 56!! Still wears make up and pours in the mirror!!!🤯😳🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@tracigodlef8103]

We went on trips n he took me to concerts cruises back to back. He was still with the same attitude nothing changed Now that I think about it he didn't care who it 🎉😢was with he just didn't want to be alone going to these places😢😢

[@tootienottoofruitie1726]

They do love this world and hang on for ever.

[@reginaldmines4569]

2yrs after watching your videos I'm completely healed....Thank you for educating me and giving me the strength to survive and move forward in life! 💯🎯🙏

[@lynettefarley537]

So grateful for leaving after 4 decades of the monster’s abuse. The monster is now 75 years old but thinks he still has game. His toupee is crooked because I am not there to tell him it is misplaced, he walks sideways from back issues, he had a bone marrow transplant 4 years ago (I nursed him through it all saving his life twice) and this cancer is bound to reappear, he is disgusting driving around in his viper and corvette that he can’t even exit from because the cars are so low to the ground, it is an awful sight to behold and I am here for it. Don’t know if he has snared some unsuspecting victim yet (and I don’t care) but I do know I am a difficult act to follow as my codependency was top notch and I was his perfect mother. Good luck replacing this source of supply. Thank you Andrew. I live all you do for the victims of this horrific abuse. ❤

[@marybarton5651]

I love your description of your pathetic aging narcissist. It made me laugh, although it is a pitiful and sad thing that happens to the narcissists in the end.I sometimes wonder if they aren't possessed souls? It makes me shudder.

[@hongtruong4576]

The narcissist thinks he’s better than the rest of us lowly peasants. I forgave my narc for me. Anger and resentment is like drinking poison and hope the other person will die. I had to go though what I went though to get where I’m going🙏Thank You Andrew🙏 Namaste!

[@lynettefarley537]

@@marybarton5651 thank you. The monster was broken, for whatever reason (I tried for decades to fix him) and he could not be fixed. Once I realized that (therapists, AA sponsor, children, strangers even - tried to warn me) I had the courage to leave. It was two torturous years until one day I woke up and did not love him anymore. I was close to the mountaintop of indifference. I would never ever allow myself to be treated like that again. So grateful ❤️

[@lynettefarley537]

@@hongtruong4576 I am so proud of you because I know what you have been through. Peace and Light and Love to You! ❤️

[@maijaharrison9367]

Your story is pitiful and hilarious...crooked toupee, trying to get out of his low rider, ...i too am finally sickened with the same type, not as long as you have dealt with ...mine is old, growing long hair to shoulders, the longer the hair gets the shorter he looks, grey chest hairs all tangled up with chains, back problems, rocking back and fro trying to get out of car....desparate for admiration from girls....pitiful....he kisses every mirror he passes...be relieved he is someone elses mess

[@ronaldculley]

Everytime she walks into the room, the temperature drops 20 degrees.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🥶🥶

[@lt827]

Sometimes the pictures of the narcissist ain’t so great once they leave. Mine ex remarried, had another child, abandoned his new family and took off to another continent. Seven years later he was deported!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💡💡😉😉

[@HAHA1266.]

Great video. 10 months out winding my way along the healing path. At times I feel selfish for doing the things I love. Drawing, reading, writing, creating. Then I spend 2 days processing deeper layers of pain, crying and letting go. It gets easier, but not in the ways you would imagine. Two years of sobriety coming up. To say I am grateful to be alive would be an understatement.

[@jhavajoe3792]

Your stated things you love to do are the most underrated self-healing activities in the world. Your sobriety? A personal sun coming out from behind the clouds!👍

[@HAHA1266.]

@@jhavajoe3792 thank you. Support is gold 🥇

[@donnahalsted7718]

@@jhavajoe3792 Yes,surely, you are SO right Havajoe! Heather, you will heal beautifully. Tears well shed! Time on YOU we'll spent! Blessings!

[@lisamariegriffin2012]

I'm struggling during this divorce and drinking waaaaay too much. I'm still functional but I need to get where you are!! Bravo!!

[@jennifernewton4637]

I’ve noticed this has happened with several narcs lately. 😞😞I can’t say I feel sorry for them… once I move on, I move on… ESPECIALLY if I’ve ALREADY given multiple chances. Learn the lesson… if they show signs of being a narcissist, cut ties with them ASAP. Great video as always, Andrew! Hope you’re enjoying your day! ☀️🍁🍂🍃🌹😉😌 My friends, I hope you all are enjoying your day too! Love y’all ❤️🩷❤️🩷

[@gratefultobehere]

❤❤️❤️ hey there Jennifer. I hope you’re having a good day !

[@jennifernewton4637]

@@gratefultobehereHeyyy! I’m doing GREAT today, how is YOUR day going? ❤❤❤

[@gratefultobehere]

@@jennifernewton4637 ❤️❤️❤️I’m So glad you’re doing great! I’m also surprised at how good I’m doing today too. Grateful.

[@freebird968-wg4ye]

Good for you. Powerful and good advice. ❤🙏

[@panagiotiskarelas5063]

All i hope for people is to be free of these toxic energies from now on, to not care about what others say about them and to shine their light back to themselves and to the world . The answer is inside us , to who we are.

[@gratefultobehere]

What do we need? Education. Time to just be and work on ourselves. What does a narc need? Can’t answer that as it shifts constantly, they aren’t satisfied ever. No housing or vehicles or vacation or whatever will satisfy their relentless need to ride off in the sunset. Find it interesting these were the chosen words as the ex narc used that very phrase on social media to describe what they planned to do just before discarding me because I said no to their poor treatment of me. I chose me. It meant having to rebuild. But it’s a better foundation apart from narcs. Thank you Andrew ❤🙏💪

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯😌🙏🙌

[@jhavajoe3792]

Choosing 'You" sounds like a solid personal victory!👍🙌

[@sanjmalik6282]

Andrew your so right, the ex a malignant narc was such a cruel mean man. I left him after years of abuse and torture and his words to me were you were never good enough. He completely destroyed our children, they have missed opportunities of going to university as they were trauma bonded and he left us with huge debts while he was living a great life with his new wife and new baby. Five years later he comes back future faking the children again playing victim that he was betrayed by every one and now he says he in a marriage with someone he doesn't want to be with and he doesn't spend any time with the child. She is not what he thought she would be. I am writing this for all those going through a difficult situation, Andrew is absolutely correct when he says the narc has not found anything better but in actual fact worse and it kills them. The narc's favourite motto now I've lost my family, I lost everything that was good in my life. Pure sweet justice.

[@PatBlack-sj7tg]

We thought we were in an exclusive relationship with them when the reality was we were just part of their harem garage to be used and abused when it was our turn..now their getting older their garage is getting emptier…they will end up alone.

[@roslyncerro1263]

Happy healing Andrew and tribe. Don't tolerate crap behavior. Freedom rocks, and better late than never.❣️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯😌

[@amazingjane2703]

Have you noticed that narcs burp, fart and make odd sounds awake or asleep? Yeah...

[@dontbeadogsbody3564]

Yes!! It’s like everything they do is an assault on one’s polite, considerate sensibilities. They just impose their disgusting everything onto you.

[@lizh6420]

I laughed and chocked on my drink when Andrew said "They're pining, and I know there are pine needles behind me." DW I'mOK🤣

[@SharkE747]

I think that my ex has been using a fake account to try to trick me and to keep tabs on me. 😂😂

[@flowerpower4944]

Yes I have ones snooping around ,,but I'm not responding wasting my time or energy,,,wishing you well,stay safe 👉🙏❤️

[@ShunCarter]

Facts 😂

[@Princess-mp8ep]

I feel so dumb 🤦🏽‍♀️ before my narc mom died I told her that I forgave her. I realize learning from you that they don't care if we forgive them or not. Since I was also her caretaker she hurt me til the day she passed. Healing from trauma bond is hell so far the first 6 mo. So far.

[@nolaparker9574]

I went and visited mine every day she was in a facility to pass away. I brought her a newspaper to read and something sweet she liked. For that, she told me I was fat.

[@Princess-mp8ep]

@@nolaparker9574 I'm so sorry she did that. I'm sending you a big hug. I think it will take some time to heal from that trauma -bond. I have good and bad days still. I'll keep you in my prayers plz keep me in yours. Thank you. We are both worth the healing. 💚🙏🏾😘

[@deb2319]

Hugs for you🎉

[@hongtruong4576]

I forgive people for me. Keeping focus on me, myself and I. Inner peace is priceless 😇

[@emilywilson7308]

Princess, it was good for YOU that you forgave her. You are smarter than you realize!☀️

[@lisamariegriffin2012]

Your face at the beginning!! "Ah-ha" moment

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🤔🤔🤭

[@Midvanwham]

well i never cared for my ex friend... she forced me to be in a friendship with her and one day i said you know becca, this isn't working. while the smear campaign sucked i am so glad to be out of that friendship

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😌

[@michaelthomas8410]

You knocked that one out of the park. Thank you so much my brother.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯😌🙏

[@JH-td4mn]

Being turned into a Mother figure by the Narcissist is creepy and disturbing. Who wants to be that for a grown man you're in a romantic relationship with? I never met his mother but he always spoke about her in a negative way. He admitted to lying to her, controlling her with money and leaving her when he was 15 (that may not have been true, who knows, but says a lot). I will never forget him recounting one of his "woe is me" tales about his childhood, him criticizing her for not buying an expensive toy he wanted (even though she was a single mother of 5 at the time with little money). He said "What a BITCH!!" and did a horrid laugh. It really shook me up. He was a complete misogynist.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing..🙏😌🙌

[@cc1k435]

They seem to either want to be mothered or to be a parent to you, but never an equal partner. 🙄

[@JH-td4mn]

@@cc1k435 💯. It's because they live their childhood through their relationships. Professor Sam Vaknin talks about their need to individuate from their mother figure over and over again when they devalue and discard people. But it doesn't work.

[@freebird968-wg4ye]

@@cc1k435 Yes! I couldn’t understand it. There was this underlying feeling that he was treated me like a little girl. But he also wanted a mother figure? A therapist told me about Transactional Analysis (Eric Berne). We can all be in one of 3 ego states. Parent / Adult / Child. This is continually changing as to what’s going on around us. We aim to be in Adult mode interacting with other adults with mutual respect. Parent mode can be ‘Controlling’ or ‘Nurturing’. Child mode has 3 divisions, ‘Free child’ (enjoying activities, free, not a care in the world) Rebellious child (all rage comes from rebellious child (!)) Adapted child (not free, has to adapt to the situation to get through, dims their light). In a diagram of 3 vertical circles (this is you , top is parent, next is adult, bottom is child. The circles are divided and labelled with the substates). Parallel is another 3 circles labelled. This is another person. We aim to be interacting as adults where we think “I’m ok and you’re ok”. From both parties therefore an arrow would go back and forward horizontally between the two ‘adult’ circles. When one party tries to control the other they’ve gone out of adult and into controlling parent. The arrow (of power/energy) now goes from their parent to your adult. (They’re in a superior position ) Eventually you may go into adapted child (shut down) or even rebellious child yourself (reactive abuse? Or maybe passive aggressive?).The arrow now is from their top right to your bottom left. By their behaviour they’ve pushed you to react and move ego states and not operate in true adult mode. When they are raging that’s all from Rebellious child mode. This has helped understand the ‘nice/nasty’ confusion (there were thoughtful actions throughout the relationship - on the surface nurturing parent mode). It’s also pinpointed my ‘adapted child’ programming from childhood which is my responsibility to process and heal. Sorry this is long but it might be of interest to folks. 🙂🌸❤

[@freebird968-wg4ye]

@@JH-td4mn Interesting stuff. Helps to get your head round the dynamics (with difficulty in the post narc fog! But it’s becoming clearer.). It would be easy to have compassion for someone who is so troubled. But that ship has sailed. Vaknin says that if you show ‘feeling sorry’ for the Narc they look down on you and just see you as weak. They’re basically laughing at you. Blessings on the healing journey. ❤

[@delfinorowe]

First hoover. Shut it down 👎 love the knowledge. Thank you!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯💪😌

[@marieeakin8534]

Good job!!! 👍 👍 👍 Yes, be very PROUD of yourself!!!! Blessings for a better life 🎀😘

[@rob_see]

“they were not honest, they were not genuine.” yeah, there was no authenticity. it was all fake. love bombing, jealousy induction, emotional manipulation, if/then conditionals when i confronted her (if you stay angry we wont get to the fun stuff), future faking, emotional invalidation, digging comments against me, calling me “crazy” when i responded to her silent treatments by pursuing harder. it was so confusing for me, once the fog lifted (after two months of interacting with her) i began asking people online if i was abused and manipulated, and they confirmed with me that indeed, she was manipulating me. it hurts bad, but shes blocked now. i unblocked her three times when i got weak, but im getting stronger every day. praise God. i asked God for help in this, because i was at my wit’s end. God gave me the wisdom to block her, and guided me to the right people to educate me and help me stay strong in this situation.

[@metonicycle6294]

No contact only way to go...stay strong! I'm in the same boat, left 8/21.

[@rob_see]

@@metonicycle6294 we got this!

[@terencenelson1950]

Today people are just horrible you be better off living by yourself The evil rotten manipulous and just plain no good you can't trust nobody you can't believe a word that come out someone's mouth because they are all liars 😮😮😮

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙏😌

[@karenlaos5849]

Thank you Andrew. No amount of money that they say they want to give to you is worth having to see and listen to their abuse them one more time!

[@marieeakin8534]

Heck yeah!!! 👍👍👍👍👍 🎀😘

[@hongtruong4576]

Nothing is free 🤪

[@teralynda]

Exactly what I’m experiencing. Heavenly Father told me the path to free myself. No money is enough to stay in their lives.

[@hongtruong4576]

Every time their lips move: They are lying!

[@realtallgirl]

I called it a "DRESSED UP TRASH CAN". 😊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌🙌

[@marieeakin8534]

We have an opportunity to get off the hamster wheel.... they have a lifetime sentence to it...& maybe more! Empathy & encouraging strength to those who are healing. God Bless 🎀😘

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏😌🙌

[@BeTheLight624]

👍🏻 the eternal hamster wheel of pain located in The Twilight Zone…I cannot tell you how happy I am to be off of that…what an incredible waste of time and energy…no thanks!

[@healingpalmsca]

Amen!!

[@lolxd9396]

Andrew, I am over this trauma bond. I really do not care if this narcissistic player finds another supply to spend the rest of his toxic life with. He is a free loader and very arrogant. Thank you Andrew. 🙏♥♥♥🌹🌹🌹😎

[@mariageaney2362]

It is a reassuring comfort to know they are not really living their best life. Its all smoke and mirrors. They are never satisfied so how could they ever have a best life!!!❤❤❤❤

[@AdelaAlmeda]

Yes the holy spirt gave me decernment n lots of wisdom

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌💜🙏⛰️✨

[@marybarton5651]

I am definitely wiser and leaving the past in the past as lessons learned. Letting go of the angst to have peace of mind and a clear conscience and taking care of myself 🙏 😊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌💯🙏

[@emilywilson7308]

Yeaaaa!!!!🎉

[@rhodatuckey7119]

So true, Andrew...my husband found the next one, much younger than me and she has to support him with a Bed and Breakfast Business...I feel sorry for her...she should have checked him out before getting herself tied up with him...right, Andrew the photos are lies...the captions are lies...their lives are complete lies...I am so lucky to have been delivered out of a very BAD SITUATION...praise The Lord...

[@lindagodwin3680]

The narcissist tried really hard to get me back into that trap. He tried alot of manipulation tactics. When he really hit the bottom and realized I wasn't going to go back into his snares of abuse. He became very ill with prostate cancer and kidney failure 😢. He found a new source of supply and she became the caregiver, servant and mommy. She fell for it. Then she started doing less and less for him. He requested that she come to my home and ask me to go visit him. The narcissist fell asleep in death in his own home by himself. Yes, it did come crashing down for him.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌🙏

[@missbearlockholmes]

Wow. 😮

[@mimap275]

Where do they get these new supplies from

[@lindagodwin3680]

@mimap275 he got his new supply from a Mexican restaurant we used to go to. I knew her. She was a waitress/ Matrade. She didn't hold a candle to me. It was all about what he could get from her.

[@lucindaroth5570]

Thank you Andrew. I've listened to maybe 50 or more specialists in this field and you have made more sense and truthfullness than any other.. You made so much more clear and obvious.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙌🙏

[@AngelaZsiga]

That is so 💯 true. I was in a past relationship with someone whom iinsults everyone one minute and then puts on this fake posiitivity. He actually does live in a basement suite. He is a grandiose narcissists.😇🙏❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😌

[@marykarle3997]

All I have to do to stop myself from pining for him is remember those black eyes with a very angry stare when I slammed the door….its something I’ll never forget…truly demonic!

[@Itsmeandthatsok2]

Don’t let them fool you. That’s a mask too. I told mine, while looking right back at him same way, but using my fingers to hold my eyes open wider. I’m not scared of you. He didn’t know what to say or do. He’s a coward!

[@lindastarks2917]

I love these messages! The narc had us convinced that they were better than us, but it was all a lie! Each and every one of you has amazing qualities that NO ONE can ever take from you! You WILL get your beautiful bright light back and be happy again. Love yourself and you'll see.❤

[@tinaclever2286]

Hey the ageing narcissist is a nightmare... .

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌

[@Healinglove]

Why are they?

[@Violet-jp7cd]

When when when 🍿🍿🍿🍿🍿🎉🥤

[@jazstar4622]

Twin flame 🔥 theory ties people into a Narcissistic relationship, I was once told this !it's Very manipulative For the wrong person !, I'm already a identical twin 🤪 Don't need a triplet!!

[@deb2319]

😂

[@leilagomulka5690]

So true. “Perception is not reality. “

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😌

[@ladydragonrider421]

They also go deeper into addictions and become completely devoid of reality

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌

[@bybyhello]

Bottom line they don't introspect and they never hold themselves accountable. Makes a deep and meaningful and reciprocal relationship impossible. Great video Andrew!

[@AndeThompson-ex6sv]

I agree!

[@lios583]

I have PEACE OF MIND! Can you want more in life? The Narc completely misses this human form of existence. All the best for you Andrew! ❤🙏

[@derellsplace]

The Terminator (Narcissists) is out there It can't be reasoned with,it cant be bargained with, it does not feel pity or remorse or fear and it absolutely will not stop ever until you are dead.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌

[@Amber-b3g]

Andrew you are a force to be reckoned with for conveying truth and empowerment. So much gratitude 🙏🌺

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you..😌💜🙏

[@flowerpower4944]

Absolutely true Andrew,,they keep up the facade all the time that's their false REALITY,,the only time they take off the Mask 🎭 is when they Sleep,,,,,T.Y. ANDREW 💡❤❤

[@kelleymcclain7380]

And on that note, anyone else notice that EVERYTHING with the narcissist was or is forced? Forced conversation, humor, intimacy, responsibility, kindness etc. Imagine a life that flows, with someone! What a phenomenal, beautiful thing that would be!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😌😉

[@JLswatchthis]

Ughh i slipped. Climbing back out now.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙏💪

[@emilywilson7308]

Ooooooo!!!

[@JLswatchthis]

@@emilywilson7308 Frick eh? Im halfway out but im getting pulled, but thanks to this community i am much stronger, my guard is galvanized and held high...heres to hoping!

[@emilywilson7308]

Good luck, Dirtbag!😊

[@JulieRohloff]

Oh wow, the thing about the smart phone is absolutely TRUE! (according to someone I know who just got out of a narcissistic relationship)

[@BrevardBeachsideLive]

My covert neglectful narcissist ex has done so much damage to our family his daughter is ghosting him. Good! He's getting exactly what he deserves 👿

[@gina1280]

Sometimes I ruminate and wonder how happy the narc is with the female that he cheated on me with and then I remember I would rather be me than anyone else, even if I am healing and rebuilding...I would rather be me at the end of the day and I am a survivor and still capable of love and compassion. It is hard to be proud of myself for just being alive but looking back at everything, I am so very proud I am still breathing and growing. Thank you to Andrew and the crew in the comments sticking together. I wouldn't be this far along with out this channel and I know that might sound silly but everyone on this channel has been apart of my support system. Thank you

[@Ariela-ApostolicA238]

Wow, just wow!! This makes sense, in more ways than one. One thing i noticed is he stopped being physically intimate with me when I told him I was pregnant. In hindsight, he must have realized that would mean less narcissistic supply from me, since my energy would then be shared with someone else, (his own daughter. I think the thought of losing ANY of my attention was a "no-no" for him. I have learned so much from amazing people like yourself! Its also how i came to the realization he's a covert narcissist, because i Googled all the things he does on a daily basis towards me, and my children, which includes his own daughter! She is now 6 yrs old, and we have a restraining order, (domestic violence) against him for me and my children, including our 6 yr old, plus we're in the middle of getting divorced. We can't get out fast enough, for obvious reasons. God bless you and thanks again my friend! ❤ 🙏 😊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏😌❤️

[@josephgonzalez4380]

There’s always been bullies. They thrive on the attention of making someone feel fear. Defining narcissism seems like a more accurate, clinical way to describe this behavior, and how to cope with it.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌🙏

[@stoneymorris5366]

Big thanks to you for anthor great pep talk friend! You embolden my spirit whenever I listen to your truthful dose of reason to pick me up after going several rounds in the ring with the narc. I will survive and thrive!

[@karendewaele2745]

Bless you Andrew🙏💚🌺

[@char33]

Your last words…..the narcissist is stuck in a cycle…you are not…right on point. That’s why I say the narcissist can never truly be happy….they’re the real loser bc being happy is everything!! Thank you for these great videos!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙌🙏

[@leviwhite3553]

Your love dulled my senses, stunted my growth, fogged my intellectual mind. Your care taught me that you can't accept truths even the ones that scream inside your head. Like a bullet weaving and destroying a path of damage through your brain. Irreversible damage that can never be forgotten. I will find hope in the damage.

[@carlosgiron1246]

Great video Andrew. Well I'm not sure if my ex narcissist is doing well or not because I totally blocked him and I never look at his social media. I don't accept calls or messages from him, or anything from unknown numbers. He did try to contact me but I ignored him. I'm working on myself and doing better than ever. I have moved on I know he expected me to actually die or fail but I'm just getting stronger and smarter. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for your kind words. Stay strong everyone.

[@marieeakin8534]

So happy that you REALLY got the message & growing as you are. It takes great strength & courage to heal. Good for you! 👍👍👍 🎀😘

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 💯🙏😌

[@emilywilson7308]

Go, Carlos!!!🎉

[@AnaM.F]

Stay Strong!

[@susandesjardins4441]

Oh boy Oh boy you have described so many of blips. Of examples of this ASS I went as far as Evicting him. You are So Smart ai will Come by More and More Thank you.

[@maryannspicher]

Delete them, their friends, and any groups you may have joined together. They know you’re watching, so they put on the show. Don’t watch. Block their emails. High filters, friends only-step up all settings. Sometimes the most dangerous time with one of these types is after it’s over. Protect yourself! And if you think the ex is happy with their new supply, just remember how much you suffered. When you were graced with one good day, one good love bombing, weren’t you all smiles too? Of course! It was a relief to be treated decent for once. If they know you’re watching, they plan this stuff out. Love bomb the new supply so they’re smiling and glowing in the pics. Plan a trip somewhere you wanted to go to really piss you off. They are master manipulators, make no mistake. Don’t torture yourself, don’t bother. Then you’re still allowing them to abuse you by proxy-YOU.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌💯🙌

[@gratefultobehere]

So good 💪❤️🙏

[@teralynda]

Delete all social media if it doesn’t make an income. Once it’s gone, you really won’t miss it. All I have is Ytube for church videos and this.