WHEN NARCISSISTS PANIC

#narcissist #narcissisticabuse Narcissists panic when the fantasy world they've worked so hard to create starts crumbling. In this video, we'll explore what exactly causes them to panic and sure signs that a narcissist is panicking.
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[@jackgoodings]

You know .. the crazy gaslighting thing was .. being told I had control issues .. because I didn't like being controlled. Like .. I was supposed to be ok with being controlled

[@hindwidad2723]

The only way to win with a narcissist is to not play their game. Indifference is the best revenge on a narcissist. It shows them that they dont matter as much as they think they did

[@dme2442]

My covert narc husband actually called 911 and tried to have me arrested. He knew how much my reputation meant to me and that I dealt with police regularly in my profession. He chose the thing that he thought would hurt me the most and lied and put on an amazing display for the police. Then he came back a couple of weeks later and wanted ME to apologize.

[@nopereradicator]

They love, absolutely LOVE using the law against people. They’ll hold anything you value against you. The law just happened to be a double jeopardy for you. My heart goes out to you. I’ve been in your shoes. Hugs 🤗.

[@DaRyteJuan]

Well, calling the police under false pretenses is usually a crime.

[@thisisanaussiegal3590]

my ex did the same to me,... why? because I kicked him out for abusing me. He called 000 to get them to put me on a psych hold. When the cops turned up, they weren't fooled. The idiot ended up being sectioned and his gun license and gun removed by the cops. He, of course tried to get me back and stalked me - and blamed me for HIM calling 000. So I exposed my ex on social media - with facts and evidence, not emotion. I've never regretted it as it may just help the next victim as I was one in a long line of victims. The narc changed his name on his fb account and ran and cried. I was lucky enough to move (as well as changed all my numbers and SM accounts) before I did it as he was very dangerous and was stalking me badly. Luckily when he contacted all my friends after I left him, they all blocked him and told him to F-off... my mates knew me too well to be manipulated.

[@mirjana24]

Your warnings have been heeded. It is shocking the lengths that people will go to deny and lie, even with plain, incontrovertible evidence that goes against what they claim, and the ruthlessness they will display in destroying someone else's reputation, hopes, and future while trying to make themselves out to be the angel. If you want people to admire you for being a saint, then just love others, be kind, value, encourage, and thank others, take responsibility, say sorry, clean up messes... But as you said, you cannot reason with a person who is willing to be this unfair and play this dirty.

[@AZDC99]

Because only SOULESS LOSERS like those believe hard-core in their lame little religion of ZERO-SUM GAMES. ("If someone else loses, I 'WIN!' TEE HEE HEE HEE!!")

[@davidcoppotelli3957]

7.5 Months No Contact Pretty Sure it didn't take long for her to over come any panic. Her New Supply must have been waiting quietly in the Back ground. Until I Walked Away from her, So they could both go running to each others arm's. I hope someday she approaches me again. So I can Walk Away from her Again because that Door is Closed. My Closure is my Total Silence.

[@DaRyteJuan]

Well, hopefully you find actual fulfillment somewhere, somehow.

[@irielion3748]

Your silence speaks volumes to the narc.

[@chxwv]

My elder brother always accused me of making mistakes that had nothing to do with me . After having been raised in that toxic environment I guess it was no wonder that I missed all the red flags that my ex showed , and destroyed rest of my life!

[@collie8]

house of cards of one of my NPD friends broke apart when she was 40. Money gone, divorce etc. She had a break down and end up hospitalized in psych ward for 2 weeks and then been taking some pills. One year later she acts again like a princess of the Earth, dictates other people what to do etc. She has no looks anymore, no money, no expertise, yet she continues. Nothing can change these people. That fragile inflated ego is the only personality they have available and will ever have.

[@Dansyoung]

My narc went into full panic mode when I pulled her parents aside…. Told them her actions and asked if she had a mental health condition - suddenly she went full panic mode. How dare you tell people of my toxic actions 🧐🤔🙄🤨

[@selfesteem3447]

Lol

[@davidcoppotelli3957]

Yes they are very well known for giving us the Word Salad.

[@Unmasked2144]

disgusting tasteless word salad.

[@AZDC99]

Best one sentence summary of their word salad EVER. Agreed!

[@catherinewacker141]

Girl....I am trippin the fuck out right now!!!! I have listened to this video at least five times now, and that's just in the last two hours!!! TRIPPING!!! God is peeling me back like an onion! I am in awe how He is reaching Me through YOU! Pretty Ahhhhmazing 💜

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

I’m so glad that I could be of help on your journey! ❤️

[@yuppy-gr4qj]

Welcome aboard. U are on your journey to learning. It's going to hurt alot. But out of the pain. Sunshine comes. Go back to God. He will be there for u

[@irielion3748]

God? Please woman see a doctor.

[@tbunnyshy1]

It’s getting really ugly and scary.

[@AZDC99]

5:00 "What HAPPENS when the narcissist PANICS? THEY WANT TO REGAIN CONTROL!" Amen. But am so shocked I almost can't forgive myself for taking the bait with a male friend. Then when he could not HELP BUT TO SHOW what a transparent FLYING MONKEY they were (with plausible deniability...I ran for life!)

[@mynewlife1911]

Making sense out of nonsense, perfectly said.

[@AZDC99]

Great video and I'm glad that you're smarter than me on this (even though I'm finally escaping the madness TOO!) Lots of so-called Narc Repellent "coaches" like to VICTIM BLAME a bit too much with that whole suggestion of "YOU DIDN'T PERHAPS HAVE BOUNDARIES" nonsense, when IN REALITY, you were BAIT AND SWITCHED UPON. I'll take you over any mental "doctor."

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

This subject can be tricky. Having poor boundaries doesn’t cause abuse. An abuser’s choice to abuse causes abuse. That being said, it’s important to know that there are skills we can learn to better protect ourselves from people who are abusive.

[@larrain14]

She is speaking TRUTH!!! going through it now.. lashed out in a panic and I knew right then I’ve been deceived the entire 4 mo relationship…in the cycle of the silence/ghost abuse

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

8:46 this can turn to physical violence very quickly. Nothing is off the table. Be careful

[@thepickles8833]

Spot on!

[@bradmcewen]

I've always thought pretty much everything I saw was the expectation to have all the rewards of a reciprocal community and doing everything not to earn it. Yea no kidding right ? The only effort i saw was when the minimal effort that would be perceived positive publicly to boost a business. Here's another narc give away...if they belong to dozens of high brow clubs or societal high archey, it's all for show, all for supply, all for trolling for the next piece in the triangulation with no real contribution to any of the narc clubs. Some of these creatures are perpetually single by definition but are placated by the circling flying cucks just ready and willing to be used. Count me out lol.

[@AZDC99]

5:00--BINGO to you (and us listeners for validation), once again, for saying that "The narcissist will do anything to regain controL." YEP, I'VE EXPERIENCED BOTH VERSIONS. Either the "I'll do anything your way" or the "YOU MUST do it MY WAY" type of response

[@wmhhealth2018]

Both of my ex female narcs have extreme abandonment issues and I witnessed full blown panic when they thought I was leaving them

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

It’s either real or perceived abandonment. It is a trait of bpd

[@wmhhealth2018]

@@Clevelandsteamer324 and after learning about cluster B disorders my first female narcissist from 2018-2021 has many Borderline traits comorbid with narcissistic traits.

[@BigRebel0802]

My narc “adult “ daughter with 3 school age children kept warning me about boundaries that she never specified . But trying to not call her during day about when grandparents day at elementary school of my granddaughter, I called the school office to find out day and time, thinking my daughter would appreciate me not calling her. Nope. She eviscerated me in a scathing text that SHE would control all information about her daughter. She’s a vile, disrespectful, mean , angry, spirited, jealous and sad excuse for a mother and daughter. She withholds important details of conflicts to make me the perpetrator. It’s truly evil.

[@DaRyteJuan]

I love the sarcastic tone. Just cracks me up so much. 😂 12:10 Wow. The part about everything being a competition. And how narcissists live in a world where everybody can’t ALL be winners. If they’re “not winning” then they’re “losing.”

[@chxwv]

Or they will engineer reverse discard

[@flyingsaucer1268]

so, you're not a professional, huh ? You sure looks like a professional to me ;-)

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

Haha. Thank you. 😊

[@selfesteem3447]

agreed 🤍

[@dontaewatts2010]

I believe my narc family member done something back home n have gone out the way to regain her scapegoat(me) back. Obviously someone or something disturbed her to come far n settle wherever I am.. It can't be as simple as move and recreate drama towards a victim. Most ppl start out refreshed when they relocate.... this narc is out for destruction...u picked up where she left off.... Someone or many ppl have figures her out or do away with her.. She popped up in town hurt n ready for comfort..

[@AnnaMishel]

Another brilliant analysis. Thank you.

[@longriderxx]

Thanks again

[@thomasnorman7151]

Are you sure you are not a professional your information is very detailedit would seem you would need an education to understand this intricate confusing data I would not wish to be a narcissist they should panic if what you say is true about them how do they keep from not panicing I was involved with a narcissist wants when I picked up on her disorder I felt awful about her circumstances and it did not help that I perceived her as the most attractive woman I've ever seen also she was put together very well and had a wonderful speaking tone she had a lot going for her except for a disorder that has no cure she was in her seventies when I met her better-looking than any Miss America anyway thank you for your KZbin channel you explain this disorder like no other person good for you

[@davidcoppotelli3957]

Hope you had a Happy Thanksgiving. Nice to see You.

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

Happy Thanksgiving to you as well! Thank you!

[@davidcoppotelli3957]

@@LookingBehindtheMirror Your Very Welcome. You look Great behind those glasses. Just saying with Respect. Nice.

[@Angell_Lee]

Great content, thank you so much! xo

[@jetaboveclouds]

How's this for an answer to all the unmet promises>>>>I meant it when I said it. so disgusting and I fell for it, all those stupid promises. then you just feel used, and are made to feel you are demanding, and of course, he is the victim.

[@lynjames4306]

This is Wide Spread I'm afraid, And are everywhere Sad but true just looking at the way people are alone and able to use others in this way, Yes my 12 year's old girlfriend has never been able to to settle 50 year's on and is even worse 😂 Life is a Bitch especially if you ever meet or get involved with one, you definitely will have a lasting effect for the rest of your life 👹

[@thomasnorman7151]

May you earn enough commissions from betterhelp to purchase a 1957 Chevrolet nomad restore to original condition dusk Pearl color ..

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

Hahaha. Maybe someday in the distant future. Thank you.