When redirection fails over and over 🥹

[@tyardovdabulldht2340]

Can we all agree how much We Love Grandpa Ed and Appreciate Dan ✌🏿

[@claireklawikowska2332]

Definitely 100%

[@methatlovescats3602]

✌️

[@user-vx3lw2hj8v]

Yes we can

[@michellemann6362]

Yes 😊

[@isking1715]

Absolutely. Danielle and Mark too. ❤❤❤❤

[@blueeyedlady8973]

Good idea not to tell him each time that Bill has passed. That’s got to be a shock, always, and he grieves every time. Great redirect, Dan.

[@Pondapple]

That's exactly right - grieving anew each time he is reminded. Happened to us too. I decided not to remind him that his brother had died several years previously (and he thought, "Wasn't that nice of him to visit." I was so grateful that he had the nicest memories of his family. When you correct a dementia patient, they will not remember the corrected information.

[@DavidHBurkart]

Well... Uncle Bill is indeed with some of his family

[@karenharris1250]

Always be honest

[@blueeyedlady8973]

@@karenharris1250 Google how to deal with dementia and death of a loved one. It’s not as easy as just “being honest”, honey.

[@karenvaleri5607]

​@@DavidHBurkartAmen!

[@mcomuonobunde-omuono1132]

His car keys, his car, his Bank balance & his brother Bill. These are the things he cannot get out of the loop. But Dan's patience is equal to Ed's persistence. Love & Respect!

[@claudehermineakette9222]

And Marc😅

[@alukaagatha7297]

His wallet too

[@metalmarc777]

And his wife

[@marshacharlebois2840]

For my brother it’s out brother and our parents But he thinks he sees them

[@LadyLatina7022]

And his money.

[@gwenb7356]

Dan, thank you for sharing your experience with your father, Ed. When my father was alive he also asked the whereabouts of family, for his keys and wallet, and enjoyed eating and sharing his wisdom. It was a privilege to learn from him, even with his dementia.

[@tammylouasksdearsubswtf7955]

❤❤ everytime he says 1932 I smile ear to ear... bless his sweet soul & those of you that love and care for him,I'm sending big cyber hugs and prayers for you,, Thank you for sharing him & your journey with us...

[@lisalister8002]

He never forgets that date!

[@aebglenda27]

Hahahhahah me too😂

[@kwerk2011]

Everytime Ed says "I'm 91?" I automatically say "Born 1932" in Ed's voice. Got to even admit to a little disappointment whenever he just smiles and nods in response instead of saying it with me!

[@lilianflynn1876]

​@@lisalister80021932!

[@AttiCarius12]

It is my prayer that every aging soul that suffers from this horrible disease called life, can only find a family as patient and kind as y'alls. It is sooooo comforting to witness elders being cared for like they should be. Thanks Dan and Danielle and family for being such good examples for the rest of us!

[@roselynho7038]

Totally agreed.Amen!🙏🕯️🌹

[@carleinefleurinord426]

@@roselynho7038oh yes that touch me deeply

[@user-xl3gw9oc9i]

This was a sad day. Looked like he was confused, poor dad.

[@vovac8915]

Life is not a disease. This is nonsense. It implicates that people should be killed in order to be cured. You're not thinking things through.

[@bluemamba5317]

@@user-xl3gw9oc9i It's every day

[@lisagraham1537]

The smile on his face when he was talking about his dog got me 🥹 Grandpa Ed you are an absolute blessing ❤ To all the family who take care of Ed bless you all such a loving caring family ❤

[@glassslippergourmet]

Same

[@mariagraziarosi3079]

I absolutely love this man...

[@ElsaInCa]

You have developed so much patience, Dan. You guys can teach a care giver’s class by now.

[@charityogunbo3790]

Totally agree and supported. Put all of these together, and it will be a fabulous video for teaching.

[@lorisheheen2198]

Grandpa Ed went way back to 10 year's old looking for his Collie. But....the smile on his face talking about his dog brought him to a happy place in his memory. Dan you handled that very well. Thinking back when my Dad did the same...I used to get flustered. I always tell you Grandpa Ed's a wonderful man. Well today I'd like to say that to you as well. God Bless.🙏❤

[@lindamo4707]

I love how you can eventually lead your Dad to a good place.He knows he’s safe and loved with you and your family. What a fantastic family Ed has!

[@fzahid]

Dan's little sigh in the beginning says it all , you don't want him to go through the trauma again and again. The smile on his face when remembering his dog though 😊 so so sweet ❤

[@cookiemon4614]

Yes that smile! He was beaming 😊

[@Kodu212]

Dan's sigh is because Dan is exausted from answering that many times a day

[@outfromtheshadows]

I can’t begin to imagine how emotionally challenging it is to cope with the day to day issues and watching someone you love dearly slowly losing touch. It must feel absolutely exhausting and so very, very sad. It is a blessing that Ed has such love surrounding him at this vulnerable time in his life. ❤

[@adriennelogan9081]

Yes…Prolonged and persistent grief and loss in real time while also providing care

[@jeanwilkinson989]

Very very sad!!

[@youtubehandle-]

Thanks Dan, you're every Father's hope for a son. ❤

[@BB-nz5sk]

Amen!!

[@petunia9436]

Amen to that!!! Ed is in the safety of his family!!!! At least he doesn’t wake up to strange people in nursing homes but he is surrounded by his loving family everyday!! How precious! One day in Heaven - in his right mind- he will thank you for that sacrifice and that you never gave up on him because of the disease!❤ blessings!

[@davealemu9967]

True

[@janetstonerook4552]

He seems to be confused more deeply now. It makes more sense for Dan just to soothe and divert his attention rather than revisiting his old loses.

[@LittleFrenchHen]

I love how his face lit up when he recalled his childhood dog, the collie. Ed's face beamed with smiles!

[@marycreaney173]

It saddens me to hear Ed looking for his brother Bill. Dan does his best to divert the conversation but Ed keeps coming back asking about Bill. I think these two brothers must have been very close and Ed clearly misses Bill. Blessing to you all from, Belfast ❤

[@clairestephens4916]

My Daddy had Alzheimer's and thank goodness he didn't have any loved ones that had passed away that he continually asked about. It was also really easy to redirect my Daddy, just ask him about something from his childhood. He could go on & on talking vivid memories of something that happened in 1947 but had no clue what happened yesterday. My Daddy was born in 1936. 😊

[@321MjC]

@@clairestephens4916 💝💝

[@hts1443]

I understand Dan completely. Sometimes it's easier just to go along instead of trying to explain the facts. Love Grampa Ed and the whole family ❤

[@carolynsears1710]

I love how he smiles talking about his dog!

[@Pelesfyre]

I feel like im listening to "who's on first" when Ed and Dan are having a conversation sometimes 😂 Gotta love this family! ❤

[@jcgurl3773]

Dan, God bless you. I caregive for my 80 year father, redirection can be so exhausting and requires patience. Good job staying patient!!! ❤

[@debi234]

Everyone has an opinion lol it’s hard enough to take care of someone with dementia without all of the well intentioned suggestions. We should all just be supportive of Danielle, Dan and the family. They have managed to take such great care of their father/grandfather at home so he can have the best end of life experience possible. It warms my heart to see such devotion and compassion from each of you in your own way. Danielle, there are no words that can convey how much I love you for your humanity, not just to grandpa, but to all of us out here watching! Much love and respect, have a wonderful day! ❤❤

[@leesashriber5097]

I cannot imagine how hard this is for your family. You have so much love, compassion and kindness. Grandpa Ed is so blessed to have you all. ❤️🙏❤️

[@BeautyMeetsDIY]

He is so amazing! Even though his memory is off, somehow he remembers to compliment others, stay positive and see the good in everybody. Your mind can go but a good heart condition is imbedded in you for life.

[@lauraswann5543]

I understand there is no point re-traumatizing your Dad telling him every time he asks, that his brother Bill passed.💖 Dan, thank God your Dad has you, Danielle and Mark.💖

[@teresajeffries3934]

But lying to him and making him believe his loved one is alive is cruel. My mil constantly asks about her parents who's been dead 40 years. Her dr said do not lie to them. Tell them the truth and we do, so many times. It's better than letting her believe they are alive and just won't come see her.

[@PastorIhaza]

​@teresajeffries3934 That's what you were told to do🤔. How did your family respond, with grief each time or peace?

[@WithLoveAshley]

What works for one may not work for all. I believe they said they did used to tell him he passed away. There’s food and bad about both options.

[@nadinewolfe405]

Your voice and tone has softened, not that your voice was sharp, but it’s just different. ❤ soft.

[@KathleenMDaly-jc6hy]

Great job Dan!!!

[@NenengTarigan]

Dan sounds full with love and attention when talking to his dad. Maybe 1 out of a million sons doing that to their parents. His parents must had raised their children in a most loving environment in the past. ❤

[@cloudstrife206]

Dan you do such an amazing job looking after your father. If I was to ever find myself in your situation, I would hope to be half as compassionate and patient as you.

[@rev.karenandersonhardaway]

I lost my Dad in 2018, so these videos bring me comfort. Thank you for sharing. #Born1932

[@OluOgbobine]

Thanks guys, constantly engaging, and having discussions with Grandpa is so therapeutic and joyful.

[@cynthiafox2541]

I am hoping Andrew appreciates these times with his grandpa!

[@darciereed9595]

😢❤😊 Dan...you are such a blessing to your Dad.

[@JazMa5504]

Sending virtual Hugs to Grandpa. You can see how much he Loved his Collie. Thank You Dan, Danielle and rest of your family for your Love and Patience towards Grandpa. God Bless you ALL

[@karenmartin4221]

His face just lit up when they talked about Acey!🥲

[@krystylbrookshire7836]

I just love the relationship you two have. I too am a caregiver and it can take its toll on you but it’s an Honor to care for our parents 💜

[@dsalnorcal1434]

Solidarity bump 🤜

[@EGT-kf2hu]

I can't stop watching Ed. I think he's a brilliant man. He's really wise. I love his attitude towards life

[@collette2990]

You are doing wonderfully Dan. I’ve been through 3. My grandma and her 2 sisters. Growing up in Hawaii, we (cousins, aunties, uncles, siblings) we’re always at each others houses daily. I’m seeing Ed here taking a pretty big decline now. Not recognizing any family member more and more. It’s individual of course. But, the stages are pretty on cue. Panic, fear, paranoia and lashing out is very common. Hearing sounds that are not there (which doesn’t include his tinnitus). It’s all part of it. You guys keep your chin up. I know heartbreaking but, so proud of you Dan and your family for bringing awareness to the world. Thank you for sharing the journey, we all love and support you Dan. ❤

[@user-mc9zv3yn1u]

Nothing warms my heart more than when dan sit gpa right beside him an visits w him..comforts an just spends time w him. Dan is adorable for his patience. !! Awesome dan!

[@furrysfriend5150]

Now whenever i am stressed with my work, i check for Grandpa's updates. It's become almost my routine to check up with Grandpa; what's going on and how he is going ❤ etc .. love you Grandma. Thanks Dan!

[@GeeBee..]

Ditto ❤

[@lcritter]

I really like how you are handling things Dan. So kind and gentle.

[@onelove1968]

Dan, I would imagine that you've probably seen this picture already ... yesterday I watched the film 'The Father' featuring Anthony Hopkins. Hopkins plays 80 year old Anthony, who's grip on reality is unravelling. What is deeply striking about The Father is that, without obvious first-person camera tricks it puts us inside Anthony's head. We see and don't see what he sees and doesn't see. This special film warmly embraces real life, through loving reflection upon the vibrant human condition; heart-breaking and uncompromisingly poignant - a movie that nestles in the truth of our own lives. I highly recommend watching this film. It's a work of genius that is almost operatic from humor, to drama, to pain, to horror and finally to tears.

[@isking1715]

The smile when Ed was talking about his Collie, he was picturing the dog in his head. Beautiful.❤

[@mariagraziarosi3079]

Amazing human being...

[@pauldutram2668]

I love this man, sorry to see him slipping away. God bless you for treating him with so much dignity.

[@dominic8218]

You did excellent Dan. Brought back memories of me and my own Dad 💚

[@NancyCronk]

His love for his brother is so deep.

[@UKGBManny]

Awwww the little sigh from Dan speaks volumes you can tell questions about Bill upset Dan also. My grandad had dementia towards the end of his life i wish i knew what i know now thanks to Dan. 💙💙

[@ecvfamilytube]

I’m really glad you make these videos. We are about to start down this process of care with my elderly grandma and I am learning very fast this isn’t easy. You and your family are so compassionate and kind and doing such a good job giving your dad a nice life.

[@joyful_tanya]

Patience is key. If you get impatient, take a break and come back. I think you are beautiful person going to care for your elderly family member. ❤

[@ericawebb96]

Grandpa Ed has the most patient care loving family. It’s amazing to hear him ask for family and his pet dog, he may forget a lot of things but his heart remembers everything!!❤❤

[@321MjC]

He may forget a lot of things, but his heart remembers them all. 😭😭😭 So beautiful, && SO TRUE💝

[@gayamaruyama7129]

I really enjoyed listening to your conversation … everybody gets old … hopefully I will be blessed with kids like you -Dan and Mark and also a daughter in law like Danielle! “ I feel normal That’s why I wonder where Bill is “ … - Grandpa Looking for a pet dog he had when he was 8 years old - amazing!

[@rosajohnson5212]

I love how Doc repeatedly speaks prosperity, success and positive things into every family member. You're doing great, Dan.

[@catherinesecord3399]

I can so relate to my experience with my dad. He kept forgetting he owned his house for over 40 years, thinking he was in a hotel, wanting to check out . The shock everytime we told him he owned this house was similar to how your dad is shocked to hear he is 91. He would forget me or my brother from time to time. The constant questions repeated over and over can be exhausting at times. you both show so much patience with your father. I was always known as a very patient person but i admit i lost my cool from time to time. Its not an easy situation but you both are doiing such a great job, you're both such an inspiration for anyone on this journey. Take Care!! xoxoxo

[@lallavillamil2221]

Grandpa Ed felt normal, and he is really a great man at 91yrs old God bless all Salinger family ❤

[@gulshanyusufzai9230]

I like how you kept on bringing it back to him instead of giving him sad news again and again. Grandpa is so sweet and strong. He is lucky to have you, Dan.

[@michaelmishaw]

Thank you for sharing your life with your Dad with us. For those of us going through the same thing with a parent, it makes us feel not so alone.

[@LuvTadnDixie]

It's probably very tiring having to answer the same questions, specifically the one about Bill. It probably causes a bit of anxiety for Dan . . . having to think quickly and decide in that moment if he should lie to him (which you have to do a lot of times with Dementia patients, comes with the territory) or do you tell the truth. It's hard and it's exhausting. One of the saddest moments was Dan witnessing his father going outside calling for his brother Bill. That moment got to me too. Keep up the good work, Dan. You're doing amazing! It's hard, I know. God bless you and your Dad.

[@frann.8879]

Hi Dan….your display of patience during this interaction/redirection is amazing!…Incredible how he remembers the collie, but not what happened to Bill…..I went through a similar situation with my grandmother-she also had dementia….it’s not an easy road. I commend all of your efforts-you and your family are doing a super job!😁😁❤️❤️

[@aymenazzedine8885]

He really misses his brother 💔

[@dsalnorcal1434]

Yes almost every day 🥹

[@jamiejohnson3886]

My thoughts & prayers are with your family.....& I hope you know how very much inspiration & insight your videos show to others whose families will face the untold struggles of Alzheimer's, FTLD & Dementia. It is extremely difficult to handle any cognitive disorder but as you are an example of the thousands of families who are choosing to keep their loved ones in their homes. Thank you for giving families a glimpse of what their futures may be. RIP Ramona Hodges, Alzheimer's passed in 2017 & Allen Hodges, Dementia passed in 2019. 💔

[@beverlyhigh620]

Evenings are always hard, Dr. Ed does ok. You and Danielle handle these times with humor, dignity and kindness.

[@juliewilson3237]

I go through a flood of emotions watching Grandpa. Sad , happy and slightly exhausted on your behalf 😮. You are doing the right thing to try to redirect the difficult conversations but your Dad has a stubborn streak lol 😆 . Keep up the hard work, your doing a great job 😊!!

[@koolintimidator]

He sure remembers 1932!!

[@dbrice71]

My mom in the late stages of dementia could recall her childhood like nobody's business.

[@earledaniels4539]

Eds smile was priceless when he was talking about the dog he had as a boy

[@TeresaO82]

I laughed when he was looking for his dog from when he was 8years old and you said "Dad you're 91" so funny. I love working with dementia patients for this very reason, natural humor.

[@ellie1595]

It seems to be getting harder and harder for him and you are more patient. I know it's tough but you are doing an incredible job. Thank you for loving your Dad thru this tough time in his life. You will never regret it and will be forever blessed for it. Take care of yourself d your heart. God bless you.

[@DiannasHomestead]

Aww...That smile that came on Ed's face when you mentioned his dog AC brought a tear of happiness to me to see how happy Ed was when he remembered his dog. 😊❤🥰

[@siobhanshavonne7733]

I work with Alzheimer's/Dementia patients daily and I have these same conversations on loop it seems everyday. Redirection doesn't always work, but you do your best with love&patience along with some creative thinking. 😊❤👩‍⚕️

[@theall-arounddoktorachanne9703]

I love how Doc Ed laughs every time he remembers a fond memory. Thanks Dan, Danielle, and Andrew for making his life worth the while.

[@drsusanjstone]

"I don't know what the hell I'm doing!" And Dan .. so patient and kind ...

[@KandKForLyfe]

This entire family makes my day 💙 I’ve watched Grandpa’s reels so much that I know words lmao

[@MugabiRita-qt9ir]

Dan you are good at your job. I hope we all learn from you such a compassionate, patient person you are. You keep answering the same questions every day.

[@judd442009]

Loss of a family member is a life-long sentence to grief. Grandpa will deeply miss his brother the rest of his life.

[@Lwaite999]

That was so beautiful when dan asked his dad "do you know who i am?" And your father replied "you're my son!" 🥹💗 So beautiful

[@sincerelytee3029]

Dan: “I’m 55” Grandpa: “so” 🤣🤣 so casually gotta love him bless his heart!

[@stefaniemarieS]

I love it when grandpa smiles❤ He was so happy when Dan mentioned AC.

[@terryboyd9369]

I want to thank you for showing the difficult times as well as the good times. Awareness of the full spectrum of this disease is very important.

[@rajkagolub8667]

Thanks for sharing this family experience of taking care for the loved parent. You all do a mighty good job.

[@susanpera2131]

Ed is such a sweet man! And you are so patient with him!

[@mavishislop8358]

I love how he can be saucy sometimes.A blessed family journeying with those of us who deal with these issues ❤❤❤

[@blvcccrevm]

02:17 - The Doc Got Me In Stitches 😂😭

[@heatherofthemountains]

This was a tough one. Because you see the many stages of his life right before you're eyes. Pulls at the heart.

[@susanking9379]

Dan you are amazing with your Dad, God bless you and Ed. He bought tears to my eyes with this video.

[@silvanaa7201]

Dad never forget his born year 1932 😇😊😊

[@Alex-xz8wz]

I love that your Dad had a Collie growing up and then done the same tradition with you. He just had the most innocent look on his face when he remembered his first dog ❤❤❤

[@jsgreys11]

Dan, you and Danielle, are both so patient with Grandpa. I stayed with my friend’s mom about 2 years ago. Just for an evening , and she was 90. She asked the same questions over and over. She was such a sweet southern lady. She was living with her daughter & son-in-law. People that have family to care for them when they can’t take care of themselves are really blessed. 😍🥰😘

[@rajinirazak3703]

Love your patients with your dad... love how Danielle handle everything .... best wishes to your family 💐

[@shur7318]

Nicely done Dan pointing out to pops what’s in the moment( room with cats ) and acknowledging pops childhood pet nice redirection to a happy place

[@shazzle_health]

He is definitely declining 😢❤🙏 God bless you Dan , Danielle and Mark , you are doing an amazing job ❤️🙏

[@merrylynnallison6922]

I am learning so much about family LOVE from watching these two.... The Love of a father and his son...

[@user-mr8rt6yo7k]

Dan you are wonderful with your Dad. I am so glad grandpa has you Danielle and Mark! God bless you all! ❤️🙏

[@martinharris7197]

I've been thru this with my mom. Your doing a great job. Redirecting, comforting words and understanding the situation are solution that work most of the time. These videos will help other families work with their loved ones. God bless

[@desertsunset8025]

I love him so much. This is so precious and makes my day to see him smile every time he looks at the cats and dog . 🐕

[@latashayoung7299]

Pops loves his brother Bill you can definitely tell they was close and had lots of fun times together

[@marymahar8446]

Maybe ask about things he and his brother did together. And his dog too. Special childhood memories. ❤

[@CoffeeCrazy]

I love how he looks at his grandson and says hes not worried. Such positive outlook.

[@evageronimo5078]

Dad is very lucky to have a loving and caring family who looks after him during his old age most especially he has memory problem. Thanks Dan for not telling dad that uncle Bill has passed. You saved him from heartache. God bless you all.

[@linda288]

I remember when my dad built an addition to our house for my grandpa who had dementia. He would always say his family was coming to see him everyday and we were his family. Brings back a lot of memories. My parents passed away in their 80s and neither suffered from dementia. God bless your dad and family including cats and dogs.

[@1208MD]

It's so hard! My grandmother had dementia, and lived in a nursing home. The nurses told us it was best not visit too often because everytime we left, it took her days to get back to feeling her new "normal". She knew she was supposed to know us, and it frustrated her and set her back, after all the work they did to keep her happy and comfortable. It was so hard! It's amazing you are able to financially and emotionally care for you dad. You will never have those regrets so many of us have. ❤😢❤😢❤

[@paulabrown6840]

You are really wonderful with your dad Dan! Bless your whole family! 🥰

[@cynthiaparris7549]

Oh BLESS you Dan, some day's are good and some days are not. My poor mom would ask stuff over n over and want to go home. It sure takes a lot of patience and strong nerves. You and Danielle sure handle it very well. Love Mr Ed. Praying for you all. 🙏 🙏

[@rosaedge9547]

God bless your family for being that patient, my husband start with dementia and is not fun! Is hurt for everyone to have patience like you! Thank you for having this video to help us! Your wife is a wonderful woman to support you and your dad! Big hugs and good vibes to keep forward. 🤗

[@momtomany]

I’m embarking upon working with the elderly and I appreciate the insight into working with individuals coping with dementia. It’s a lot of trial and error. I have had some triumphs and failures. I’m working hard to show respect to each unique client that I encounter. Thank you for modeling stellar effort.

[@Kaukaveman]

You're a good man. Patient and kind

[@onwardsandupwards7397]

Dan, thank you for sharing real life with us. I appreciate your kindness to your father and also your ability to learn and keep learning in helping your dad navigate memory loss.

[@michaelrodrigues8360]

You're all so special. His smile once AC is mentioned is so amazing and heartwarming. All the feels. Much love and respect to you all.

[@elizabethwright3776]

Reminds me so much of conversations with my Dad. He will be gone 9 years Nov 25th ..he passed two days after my 50th birthday...seems like yesterday... my inspiration to work more deeply with those with dementia. bless you all xoxo