When the Narcissist Realises Life Sucks Without You

[@susanlina1070]

All I know is life sucks with a narcissist I could care less if they miss me or not!

[@drayanicole]

Period ‼️

[@dawnhandelman308]

Can’t wait to I feel like you!!!!

[@fairyspunfibers9098]

@SUSAN LINA Same! Mine tried to hoover me after he had betrayed me, left me, divorced me, tried to stick me with all his debts that he accrued with his mistress (!!!), etc.... Judge didn't allow that sh*t, thank God! He BEGGED me to take him back.... I laughed in his face and told him a few home truths about himself and how very UNworthy he was to have had me to begin with. MAN, that felt good! At the time (40 yrs ago), I had never even heard of Narcs, but now I know exactly what he was (yes, he's dead).

[@louisemagill8295]

* couldn't care less. If you could care less, then you care a bit.

[@irielion3748]

And I couldn't care less.

[@elliesimpson1313]

Excellent. Best payback was at our daughter's wedding 15 years ago. He was there with his 3rd wife.. As I was happily dancing with our new son in law, someone heard myex narc say, "Looks like I may have made a mistake." Yeah, 19 abusive years of mistakes. It was wonderful not caring anymore.

[@melissahoffman9433]

I’m so happy for you and your peace ❤️💪🏼❤️😊

[@elliesimpson1313]

@@melissahoffman9433 Thank you! I so appreciate you saying that!

[@tarottimewithandie]

❤️❤️❤️❤️💫💫💫🌈🌈💃💃💃💃. Love it.

[@MsPrecious61]

Bravo for you! This is a very rare experience. Enjoy it.

[@In-house444]

It’s like one of those “you think” reply moments. Lol

[@ballerina5876]

His life sucked before meeting me,sucked while he was with me and sucks now that I ve gone.His life never changes due to external events.

[@JumpWatsonYT]

Yeap that sums em all up!! This one i had was always talking about suicide and he claimed when i broke it off that our relationship was stoppin him from it. I figured out that he unconsciously creates reasons for suicide. He purposely went out and did everything i told him would make me leave him.

[@QueenBree_27]

Period 💯

[@MissNyPeachJerseyAppleBottom]

Exactly I noticed this

[@selmamilisic8000]

😱 they dont even know they have NPD. also they are dangerous when u realize who they are... my was poor and afraid of gold diggers,as the Mrs A. left him after she found out he lied ( he had kids, told her not his), also Mrs B. left him as she scares for her, and realize who is he. They always have 10 supplies at least

[@Yathome00]

They are the “affable assholes” 😂😂 TRUTH! The ex narc never showed outward rage, he was always “happy go lucky” until the mask slipped. With me he was very careful how he communicated

[@gibbssaunders]

Why would I even care if their life sucks without me? It’s my life again 👊🏽 They’re not in my orbit & nor is it any of my business. Thanks for putting this information out there HG.

[@nancyk7954]

Ever notice a narcissists talks, and talks, and talks, and never says anything? Maybe narcissists simply enjoy the sound of their own voice.

[@francoisgouws7288]

Endless monologues on randomised subjects that catches their attention in the moment! Exhausting and has to be seen to believe!

[@Femininelovevibes]

Word salad

[@sticky9129]

Give an example? I get very anxious around people and tend to ramble my otherhalf says I don't but I feel I do.lol.

[@creativeme6563]

See it all the time when a politician speaks lol.

[@COSMICCFREQUENCY144]

they hate any form of silence thats for sure

[@WhiteBirdMustFly1]

Life goes on without Me. It does, did and always will. The Narcissist finds another target, but that replacement will never be the same as with You.

[@adriennegallotta2890]

Agree

[@explorer0213]

They won't bother fuel is fuel.

[@irenewatson]

@@explorer0213 I tend to agree with you.We are appliances to be used and it was an affront to his dignity to have had his wife taken by a man in the SAS while he was busy hunting other prey.

[@behramk9875]

It never will be

[@quazirumana]

Yes it’s happen with me twice

[@photosusa]

Living with a narcissist is so emotionally draining, there is no peace, you are constantly on eggshells and are bulied. The best thing to do is to leave them with their mental issues and fake highly important persona behind. There is no point to try to make it work, it will not. My ex did everything possible to burn that bridge for good. After 8.5 years of narcissistic abuse I regained my freedom and will not give it back to just anyone.

[@chereeB-hummingbird]

Amen 🙏🏾 ✨️

[@jessrnny]

I should write an article titled “what happens when you realize the narcissist sucks the life out of you.” Respectfully.

[@tahira.k13]

I originally misread the title as this, so that would be interesting haha

[@DropinNukes]

Mine sucked the life out of me, and not in the good way lol so I sucked the life out of her, say I’m immature but I was trapped. We lived together and I literally had nowhere else to go, dragged it out as long as I could now I’m living in a house with just one other person, about to get my license, (which she didn’t have either) it’s just strange dealing with a person like this. When I tell someone I love them I mean it. I don’t just say that to people, then again if you’re not a piece of shit it’s pretty easy for me to love a person. The fact that someone can look you in the eyes and say they love you but they don’t really mean it has got to be one of the shittiest things I’ve had the experience of going through. I think that’s one of my biggest flaws honestly, is that I give people the benefit of the doubt all the time and they always prove me right for having those feelings in the first place.

[@monicanapier9087]

No one can suck the life out of you without your consent. I played the narc back on his game!!! Then I ghost him after he became abusive! I made it my mission to stop any harm control he tried to do to me!

[@nanaznaturalz5436]

This is the stage I’m in

[@highpriestess9749]

💯💯💯💯

[@jessicamarks5577]

The bottom line is they are miserable , they wrestle in there spirit and as they get older they age poorly because they are not right inside and it begins to show on the outside . Once you realize there nothing more then a mind fuk you begin to realize how pathetic they are . All they are is a lesson n life once u realize that the attraction is gone . I left mine and have rejected him countless times since . One word comes to mind just listening to this / pathetic .

[@seanj11421]

Their new supply will have to eventually live up to the things you’ve done. They won’t tell you or anyone, but you’ve set the bar extremely high. They felt they could easily replace you with their good looks (probably false teeth and tons of makeup and their bodies), but when what you used to do and their new supply isn’t, reality sinks in.

[@kelligray1848]

I’m hoping that he stays focused on my replacement so he leaves me alone.

[@emmaharper860]

Absolutely 💯

[@AkitaLover1013]

What I noticed is a narcissist always has to one up everything you tell them. I saw this on the news etc and it was a horrible accident. They laugh then tell a more gruesome story!

[@dub1951]

The point is they will get on with there life regardless and we will get on with ours but one thing for sure we have a chance of finding true love and happiness they don't, take comfort in knowing that 😊

[@GordyDeedee]

Yes !! That explains it !! He ‘gets on the train heading straight for Sucksville’ Too funny HG 🙏😉 I do appreciate you breaking down the categories of narcissists Thank You ❤🇨🇦

[@jamainedingle4639]

The narc always comes back cause they destroy every relationship they have. Good supply is hard to come by

[@kikataye6293]

They don’t realize life sucks without us, we were all new supply at one time until they found replacements. It’s a continuous cycle 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Mishy555]

So freakin true!

[@MissNyPeachJerseyAppleBottom]

They be getting they added kicked tho.. I witness a few of them.and they still try to blame you or find some one to blame

[@thecountesswithpowers]

I believe this subject right here is key to recovery...you must remember that your life is great without them!... the longer you stay away, the clearer it is that emotional thinking really messes you up. stay away, and who gives a shit if their life sucks...it will either with you or without you. Get on with your life and don't look back!!💯💣👏(I know, cuz I've gone through it!)

[@JennyTolios]

Well done for getting out. 👏 I wish you all the best going forward...💖

[@ruthanneseven]

😸 Awesome!🙌 I'm still stuck BUT: he's 500 miles away, has an intimate primary source, and she is high-maintenance.😁 We haven't been intimate in years. He uses me to look good to others and show what a great guy he is. Were the assistance I get coming from a normal person, that would be amazing. He has determined that I'm his property. One thing I find very curious; when I go into a playful silly persona, child like, he acts like he's so happy and gets right into it! I wonder if he responds positively to this because it brings us into a time before his narcissistic personality was formed.

[@derrickdukes2191]

🕊Datz Real🕊↗️↗️↗️🌐🌍🌐🦍

[@ann-marieriese8038]

Miserable baskets, they are. 😝

[@lynncrf]

@@ruthanneseven IME the only good thing about narcs is that their childishness creates moments like this. Hence why they are great fun to have as acquaintances. Totally different with IPPSs though.

[@sirrparker3775]

Life sucks every day for a Narc

[@MsPrecious61]

agreed

[@Scorpio-fd5iq]

Truly

[@Mishy555]

Yup…sure does

[@Jack-cm9oo]

No it doesn’t 😂

[@SanjayKumar-xz8rc]

It does you can clearly see if you were there

[@ProSto7343]

It all seems so sweet until you realize that life would be much better without them.

[@genxx2724]

They are always on the lookout and cultivating replacements instead of investing in the relationship they have. They are sick.

[@mandynewman8234]

They were miserable any way. Nothing to do with me. I’m happier without them. That’s my win.

[@Atarah-t9v]

My narc only missed the good lifestyle I provided him. He could have cared less about me.🤣🤣

[@catherinepositano8544]

😂 YES,the walking cash register 😂...they get very nasty when that cash register shuts shop!

[@mnelson2008]

There's no there, there. They don't care about you. At all.

[@banderson6470]

Life sucks with or without a source. Narcissists live in constant survival mode. Who can be happy or have peace loving like that? It’s a joke to me that a narcissist actually believes they ever win or are two steps ahead of their sources. That couldn’t be further from the truth. They are so scared and constantly protecting their false self image. That’s why many of them are paranoid.

[@jessicasimonet923]

@Billie Cedillos You are exactly right on every word. Sounds like we've had a very similar experience.

[@ainvencivel]

This is so true. My mother is a narcissist (mid-raged narcissist, the eternal victim) and she treated my father like garbage: hit him, yelled at him non-stop, humiliated him, lied about him, stole him, tried to get him fired, put people against him and then kicked him out, since she knew she would get HIS house and a fat child support. She believed he would stick around or something and when he left her life because he couldn't stand her anymore (she was literally like the devil at home) she had a mental break down, couldn't sleep, spent entire days crying. That really confused me in the past and I couldn't understand why she was apparently suffering so much. Any person who hadn't whitnessed how she treated my father would genuinelly believe she loved him and wanted to be with him. This video helped me to understand this. Small observation: my life doesn't suck without my ex. I was able to put my life back together. 4 years of no contact.

[@lorrainestuart2154]

Baby Breath, ignore Alexanders Easts comments, as from what you described, your mother WAS a narcisist! Aleanders.. narcs are very good at putting on the crocodile tears! Baby breath, sounds like your dad endured so much and that must have been painful to witness! How is he now? I hope he and you are ok. ❤️

[@donel77642]

I think a lot of people falsely sympathize with women who sabotage their homes as "victims". Thanks for sharing the truth of what happened in your family.

[@ainvencivel]

@@lorrainestuart2154 Thank you for your kind words, Lorraine. I am fine, thank you. I had to stay with my mother but ultimately fled from home at 14 and went looking for my father. I didn't know him but knew his name and where he worked. Surprise surprise: he didn't even looked surprised that I was looking for him and when I told him that if he didn't take me in I was willing to start living on the streets because I literally couldn't endure her abuse any longer. He was very happy to take me in and was an excellent father. She told me the worst things about him during the 14 years I lived with her: none of it was true. My father was the most caring, loving and nurturing person I have ever met in my entire life, with strong moral values. He cared and did this best to help everyone, even people he didn't know. He prepared me for life, was always on my side, helped me with my homework everyday (yes, really everyday), cooked our meals and split chores with me. He also spoiled me with nice things very often because my mother never got me anything. It was the first time I started wearing brand new clothes instead of the gross, stinky and worn out hand-me-downs my mother got me, he got me as many CDs, VCRs, makeup, etc as I wanted. He told me once he felt sorry for me, since my mother had isolated me from everyone and I had massive panic attacks when anyone talked to me. As soon as my mother found out I was living with him she poisoned the entire neighborhood where we were living telling everyone he was sexually molesting me and that I stayed because I enjoyed it. He had so much love inside him, was so calm, cool and collected. I try to be like him everyday. He passed 3 years ago, peacefully and happy because I had made the most out of my life so far and had a good job and overall good life. I do think he is in a better place. I have no contact with both my mother and my ex, who turned out to be just like her. They don't even know where I live. Sorry for the long reply. Take care and thank you for checking on us both, Lorraine

[@ainvencivel]

@@donel77642 My thoughts exactly. Most people automatically see women as victims, especially when they put on a show, which is something narcissists love to do.

[@lynncrf]

@@ainvencivel Well done to you on escaping. Very inspirational. Your Dad sounds like an amazing man too.

[@Caro_arch5801]

It’s when they say things like, who’s going to look after me, honestly believing they are complimenting you, you know it’s time to keep moving on!

[@melissahoffman9433]

Oh yes! The covert narc I got to know wanted me to stick around taking care of him til he died. I asked him once “ and then what? “ he couldn’t answer that, he’d never thought about me at all, no consideration. It was always all about him. It blew my mind but I didn’t let it break my heart. I took my nursing and cooking skills and was ready to be homeless then stay. That was a huge valuable lesson and the beginning of my deep dive into NPD. I’m better now, stronger, more aware and rarely even think about him.

[@cyberninjasworld]

Ex said the same when I was distracted "I thought you wold take care of me and maybe I will be the one taking care of you" all dissapointed lol

[@alexbaird2670]

This was what my covert narc MIL said when my husband and I re-located overseas. "Who's going to look after me now?".

[@lorrainestuart2154]

@@melissahoffman9433 well done! ❤️

[@msdemeanour]

They always need somebody to wipe their arse properly. They are so useless 🙄

[@tamaragaines562]

I was the primary the girlfriend so to speak! Me and my narc ex started off friends with benefits so to speak! We've been cool for two years and in those two years I saw things that we're off about him but his temper tantrums is what really threw me off! Ignoring all the red flags we decided to be in a relationship! I should've listened when he told me okay we relationship now I'm a totally different person! I was like what do you mean? Then he told me he was working on himself cause he could get real jealous! I didn't know what he was at the time so I was thinking well shouldn't be too much different it ain't like we haven't been together! I told him but you can't still be the player that you was either! He was all I want is you! As soon as we got in relationship everything changed! He became somebody else real quick! I was thinking we should've just kept it the way it was! I didn't know he was a narcissist! I didn't know wants we got the title everything was gone be different! He was treating me like his property! Got mad if I went out with my friends or family! We went from sex all the time to barely! He basically immediately started to devalue me once we got in a relationship! As if we weren't just perfectly fine the two years when we're just hanging out! I didn't understand it because in a normal relationship when you start off as friends things won't just switch like that when you become involved with each other! I knew something was wrong then! Been narc free for 4 months now! I discarded him!

[@MarshaAnderson-i1j]

My ex called me to let me know the replacement wife was leaving him. I said, “oh” and he started fumbling with his words. Never heard from him again.

[@joannetier3044]

After 18 years facilitating a great life for my ex Narc, he can look but he will never find another me 😊

[@goldilocks3593]

… they move on to the next victim. Quickly. We are all interchangeable. They truly do not care at all, as long as there is an alternate toaster available.

[@OneWhoKnowz]

Right done toasters just work better than other s

[@kelligray1848]

He’s moved on already and we aren’t even done with divorce negotiations yet but that’s perfectly fine with me. As long as he’s not looking my way, I’m more than happy.

[@doriangrey9702]

I enjoy being the dysfunctional toaster. 😁

[@nellythenarcissist]

I did everything for the narcissist apart from wipe their ass! EVERYTHING. Including paying all the bills, taking care of the health, the narcissists kid and being the emotional brick. I know life sucks without me which is why they phoned me to tell me the were going to commit suicide. Desperate attempts to gain fuel back.

[@nickbargas7352]

Can you imagine if the narc starts to develop dementia and trying to keep all the shelves of supply in order. All that work just to feel significant from others. It's so much nicer to know your true self.

[@Em-im1yz]

I laughed when he cried fake tears at that.

[@orlachristine4938]

In my experience , they don't miss you ..unless , another victim has " let them down" in their opinion. Never loved you ...as we now know ..

[@lisaconn3432]

Narcissist don't love they value! Find where u are worth more to them and they will miss what u did for them not so much you as a person but what u did for them!

[@trendeducationngo6568]

When I realized the devaluation was beginning, I ditched the narcissist in my life before he found a new primary fuel source, but not after a good financial bleeding first. Then 8 months later he emailed to say that he was married and his wife was honeymoon pregnant with twins. It was a glorious moment of total victory. This was the fate of a tool who insisted that he would 'never marry to pay for another man's daughter or accept the burden of children.' Well, he did, and in the end, had to continue working beyond retirement age to support his 3 burdens. While I, on the other hand, successfully moved on, opening an Ltd and 2 NGOs that benefit the community. Most importantly - I have not been taken in by another 'defective humanoid type' pretending to be a genuine whole person, which is exactly what narcissists are - empty, defective humans who think they are smarter and better than the rest. What goes down, comes round, sometimes in twos!

[@zozyb1]

The unaware ones are cursed.

[@lorrainestuart2154]

@@zozyb1 they are all cursed.. unaware or not!

[@lorrainestuart2154]

Trend Educate.. so glad you saw the light sooner rather than later and love your term "defective humanoid type" Turns out you were smarter and better as you got out! Sounds like you achieved good stuff afterwards too..

[@MissNyPeachJerseyAppleBottom]

Its like a mental problem this can happen because of their past

[@Yathome00]

Good job. Similar situation with my ex narc! He stated that he didn’t want kids as he already had a daughter he wouldn’t acknowledge (asshole) from a previous relationship. I told him I wasn’t the marrying kind and did not want kids so we were fine in that respect. When I dumped him he already was working on obtaining a new supply source, a girl 20 years younger. When he told me about her I wished him well and reminded him that “she’s young and will want kids” and that’s exactly what happened. He’s 56 and the child is only 5 😂😂😂

[@bethwilton8075]

H.G.Tudor does something more important than providing the opportunity that it might suck for the narcissist: It doesn't suck for us. THAT is what really matters. Having said that I would also like to express my gratitude to you H.G..Thank you for the important insight you share.👍

[@jmj5388]

Their stories are amusing the first 10 times you hear them, but beyond that…not so much. They love to argue, too.

[@vicarofrevelwood]

Suffering? She's not even thinking about me. But you know what, I don't think about her that much either.

[@nicolejenkins2609]

The ex was doing a fine job ruining his own life, his grandiosity caused him to overplay his hand with real estate dealings, burn the wrong people, and play chicken with state police. Completely unaware of his own self-destruction. I finally was able to get rid of him, he clung to me like the golden goose he wanted one more egg, even if he killed me to get it. He's in a homeless shelter in VT, but no worries, he's the king of the homeless shelter. The homeless shelter has given him a fuel matrix that is basically self-feeding.

[@focusedonfuture3255]

The only winning move is Nottoway play.

[@JennyTolios]

Ivana....is that you? 😉😉😉

[@mariasartzis-pellicier1723]

NICOLE-- Your post made my day! This is THE ULTIMATE KARMA.

[@nicolejenkins2609]

@@mariasartzis-pellicier1723 You can still watch him being stomped down by VT troopers on KZbin. He put it on his channel as a pity play. His driver was playing apologist for him, but yeah... since I lost my career, my house, my self-worth, most of my friends, and almost my daughter... once I got rid of him, I got all of that back. Took 2 years.

[@zipnails]

Where is his KZbin channel ?

[@avril4421]

Exactly reflects my own experience. How naive of me. Discarded without any notice. I’m over it now thank goodness and I’ve not been hoovered , not for the want of him trying from time to time, following his own three times failure to replace me. He was rejected by those 3 women who are wiser than I. Thanks for all the guidance you have given.

[@kiddytube3915]

The best way to put a narcissist in their place is to glow up. Move on and live your best and happy life without the narcissist. Show them that they don’t matter one bit.

[@Lbf5677]

How do I 'glow up'

[@kellyfoster4763]

He will “go to town, and get on the train straight into Sucksville.” Sometimes you make me laugh so much HG, with the way you put things. 😂

[@888meenbeeby]

These are three examples of my past experiences with narcissists. Ex-husband has attempted hovering over the last 35 years. He pulls my autistic brother off the shelf and manipulates to his heart’s content. An ex-boyfriend couldn’t wait for me to leave the relationship, I was uncontrollable for him. No hover action. Then there was the ex-boyfriend, (an on again off again doe-see-doe) that I arbitrarily bumped into and it was like we met for the very first time. He had erased our torrid history completely away. I found that quite interesting, and no never spoke to him again. Three very different experiences for me. I am paying very close attention to your teachings and am very appreciative

[@theartzscientist8012]

I hear from his ex that all my narc did was talk about how we met and more. His guilt he has to live with! I left him. Narcs are nasty! Stay away from them…..

[@Confessions089]

Life doesn't suck without me. If he (an ex) ever told me that, I would never believe it for one second. As far as I'm concerned, he has a very happy life. So for me I will have a happy life as well. I'm not worried about an ex at all. I could really careless about any past relationship, and I'm continuing to move forward.

[@ianskman775]

I'm Very impressed with your mission to understand your own thinking,If one understands his own mind and yet still chooses to act in the same way regardless of alternative paths then you have ascended beyond your own limits.I do have feeling that if you could flick a switch and be an empath for a day after 24 hrs you would revert to narcissism by choice using your own free will.Congratulations Mr Tudor.

[@sarahnanna5138]

Your voice is probably the voice in the minds of ALL narcissists: Elegant, velvety, superior. You must be a narc solely based upon the sound of your own voice. How can you escape?

[@deborahyarborough1348]

The narcissist I broke it off with Acted so sad... it was a game and to get sympathy from his family. It was pathetic

[@JumpWatsonYT]

Omg that is exactly what the narc i brought up with did. He tried to look so pitiful for his entire family and i told him please stop tryin to get pity like ur a victim.

[@hide_and_go_sikh]

The Hoover is just an opportunity for me to remind you that life does suck without me. I'm glad you found someone who can finally make you happy and you're living the life that you always deserved to have. Because life with me just wasn't good enough for you. And so I have taken all of that away. You are the one in control now.

[@noeleen5250]

I was with a man for 5 years over 20 years ago. It was emotionally draining. It is only the recent examination of HW and AH that I am beginning to realise that he was exactly what you describe. Every time I tried to take a step back he love bombed me, but when he had me, he could be cruel. 20 odd years later I am still trying to come to terms with how much he dragged me down. It took a stay in a psychiatric hospital and years in therapy to rebuild myself. My father died before Covid and as I was going through the Memorium book, his signiture jumped out at me. He had been there, but I had not seen him.

[@fairyspunfibers9098]

@Noeleen Oooh, girl! THAT is not a good thing that he is still keeping tabs on you! BEWARE! His signature on your father's Memorium page was a nasty, covert attempt to let you know: "I'm still watching you." Yikes! 😱

[@SilentMasquerade]

While listening to my Tudor, I bought the book Fuel online. See..I listen well so I can break the chains and get/ stay out of the narc-hell. Thank you.

[@theblackbrazillian76]

And he makes everybody's life suck without him! Never knew what really missing someone meant but certainly knows how painful it feels!😮

[@Megz129]

HG really hates these shriveled balled midrangers😂😂😂

[@taracayir7093]

We've been divorced for 16 years and he's still trying to get me back. I was such a victim, but never again

[@alexvrettos5565]

This is spot on you hit the nail on the head everything you have described in this is what I have experienced. You are the most thorough informative teacher.

[@kidrosskidrossproductions2906]

Hg can you do a video about female Covert Narcissists

[@JENNerationX]

Nutmeg’s life 🤪 will suck when Harry escapes.

[@MargaretM-vd7bb]

This was a very good Video. So many lessons in it. Thankyou HG.❤️🌻

[@xRaverxBabyx]

Former IPPS, I escaped, middle mid-range type A. This is my new favourite video. 🙂

[@candycanes7581]

Glad you escaped. I did too 🤗… I had a middle mid range type A -a couple of times. The love bombing was over the top and the first red flag 🚩… angels with the dirty face. In my experience, they can hold the facade about 90 days on average and for me they were the hardest to detect.

[@cowboynohorse]

I've escaped! I'm Freeeeeeee!

[@elirien4264]

"The narc realizes life sucks without you"....I'm sorry, but all my empathy gone. Suck it up.

[@patriciahughes4213]

The most frightening yet fascinating part of this video is the reaction of the Greater and the Ultra. The rest are basically predictable.

[@cm9317]

12:15 the way you matter-of-factly said that made me laugh. I've also thought that myself though 🤔

[@KvonD9836]

Narcs life sucks anyway with or without us.🤣 Who cares btw how they feel.

[@Vixinaful]

Nearly shat my pants with laughter when he said "He gets on the train straight to suckville" I just identified the narcissist as a middle middle range type B. That's him on the SPOT! I must admit I thought HG was a scam with all this middle upper, mega multi but okay, he nailed him to a tee. You're ahlright, Hg..You're ahlright.

[@valerie5325]

You do know , HG, is highly respected expert in this field??? And other experts and professionals in the psychology field consult with him???

[@dum.vivimus.vivamus]

Goodness, HG, thank you 🙏🌷

[@markgreen5200]

I played the Narc, gathered all the money she owed me first, then told her i lost my phone for five day, that drove her crazy leading to her discarding me. I then ran for my life, they think they are clever to to much. Just plan the cycle and make it work in your favour.

[@joanbraten71]

Ahhhh memories of being ensnared by a narcissist............. memories that I keep in order to recognize the next one coming along.

[@tracyross5831]

RIGHT ON!!!! Once Bitten....TWICE SHY........ I'm VERY EXPERIENCED, in picking THESE LowLifes........ AND, I'm FREE!!!!! 👍👍👍❤️

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

I feel like I was at one point, a vulnerable narcissist like my mother, and then I had an epiphany at about 32. So @hg tudor, I find it hard to reconcile the self-awareness to acknowledge one's own narcissism with still being a narcissist. Is a self aware narcissist still a narcissist??? I realised my problems were because I cared more about *appearing* happy than *being* happy. so I read up and cringed realising I had made resentful remarks and attempted to manipulate others. Now I try to be less basic. I want to be a better example of a human being. And I am. So am I still a narcissist? I realised I was resentful, prone to victim narratives, defensive, sensitive. I'm 53 now, still trying to have difficult conversations even when they're uncomfortable, to grow, heal, support my children, have relationships based on real connection. Obviously my mother hates this version of me. I'm a narc in her eyes. She has told me I'm detached from reality, unhappy, cold-hearted, aggressive et cetera.

[@trevorgough2286]

I'd say you are not a narcissist, unless you're an ultra.

[@MsPrecious61]

The bottom line is 'who cares what the N thinks" Life is better without them!!!

[@emmaharper860]

Yes!!!🙏🙏

[@heathersoper6923]

My Psychogeniic tremor is very visible, I now shake all the time, all over my body except my head.

[@ashaleewai8735]

That was incredibly useful, thanks again.

[@OneWhoKnowz]

So life only sucks without you if you weren’t discarded! Did I hear that correctly?

[@cm9317]

Yes, I think that's what he said. It's only if you leave them that they might feel that way

[@Almandarina2]

Yes it sucks without me because I paid for everything. He hasn't got another person to do that for him so now he knows how it feels being poor. And I could care less about his problems now. I know this because his family told me because they wanted me to take him back. Not in a million years.

[@Bo00si33]

Ipps. Escaped. Pressed charges. He's going to prison. Stalking and threats for the past two years. Bout to see him at trial next month. Tips? Wat could he be thinking?

[@ladytempress3824]

Good thing you escaped. I think Mr Tudor made a video about how to handle a Narc in court. Hopefully that will help you.

[@tracyross5831]

He'd be thinking 🤔🤔, SHIT!!!!!🤣🤣👍

[@BennettsShed]

Give them enough rope and they will gang themselves. Respond don’t react.

[@mandymartin2875]

Great really enjoy your channel xx🇬🇧🇬🇧

[@joannemcevoy4232]

All good points to consider. I had different roles depending on the narcissist and whether it was romantic or friendship. I never considered the idea that life would suck without me as I figured that when it was over with the narcissist then they went on their way and that was it. I was no longer relevant. I don't miss any of those narcissists. I will reread 'Fuel' and continue reading 'No Contact'.

[@donnaholton1981]

Getting rid of the primary source I don’t care what any one thinks they do miss you. Ass a matter of fact they hate you because you no longer need them to survive that really burns their!!!!!

[@AndriaBieberDesigns]

Love you HG!

[@achirichello1208]

Good sh*t. Blanket answers screw everyone.

[@jackieo4980]

How was an appliance in my exes life. First I was the oven , then I got downgraded to being the toaster , then I just ended up being the egg timer .

[@ruthanneseven]

I'm in "cat rescue mode", down from Intimate partner, primary source. 😂😸

[@PRETTYGIRLSWAGG918]

hilarious

[@jimmiem9752]

I do Understand 🙏

[@MaryAnderson-xs5wd]

I laughed when you said you went from an oven to an egg timer. I believe you have healed. Stay Blessed

[@lauriejordan2716]

Question, after 13 years of back and forth and EVERYTHING in between, I finally left and cut him off completely. Although he is blocked, he leaves hundreds of messages, sends flowers, sends letters, has people spying on me, etc. When will this end? About 6 years ago, he left me (and pretended I ended things) for a couple weeks. He had a new girl waiting and started dating her the very next day. He didn’t do any of this. However, since I ended things when he didn’t have any one waiting, this time. He is going insane. I just want to be left alone. Any idea how long it takes before he finally accepts I’m never going to talk to him again?

[@xo2quilt]

I am so glad my daughter's narcissist ex is gone. He was given to "heated fury" that he expressed with pushing with her, hitting with his next victim, shooting with the victim after that...he didn't have an opportunity to get beyond the "golden period" with the final woman. He is gone forever, thank God.

[@healthcoachtammytaylor7609]

Hi HG! We’ve known each other for awhile now and I’m excited you’re on KZbin now too. You helped me years ago. Not sure if you remember me, I know you have tons of followers. My question is, when others use the term Covert N which category does that fall into with yours? Thanks! Have an amazing day

[@jansmith6586]

The few times I have spoken with late husband of thirty years I had to listen to a litany of health problems! Riveting, not.

[@sharnelgezwint3990]

My dad is a narc.. My mother passed away recently. He cries non stop over my mother but he still refuses to come visit his own children. He kept my mother away from us when she was alive and he treated her like crap even on her sick bed. He acted sicker than her. Well now he cries non stop over her. She did everything for him. He didn't even take her out or anything. All they did was stay at home for years and she had to do everything while he slept day in and day out. She worked herself to death.. She also was very rude with us so she also a narc. It was hard to watch her be like this In her last days. My dad didn't even make her anything to eat. She had to do it herself.

[@terrinbakker7901]

HG spot on right! Obviously you know that but it's so very helpful... in my toolkit for dealing with my mid range pathetic narc

[@tendele1]

Love it. That's Karma...

[@majajovik1495]

Why after 4 months no contact,he stalking me,begging me and tell me i put a spell on him??despite the fact he triangulated me.Sick creatures..

[@karennichelson2525]

Wow People = Appliance...SMH

[@PerrySkyePhoenix]

His life sucks in general, because he has bad luck (according to him) He got lucky when he met me though (unbeknownst to him) Edit: I was an IPSS/DLS, and of the shelf variety, of course. The last time that I was placed on the shelf, he "fell deeply in love" with "a girl"... and then she ghosted him. He confessed all of this to me, as I was trying to escape. He told me that he didn't care if I stayed or left. He was feeling "lost"... and he just "wanted that back." "That" not her. It sucks to be him. I told him karma's a bitch.

[@monikakaushal5742]

You and me both are on the same boat sis

[@HANZELVANDERLAAY]

4 narcs in a row for me...always confusion...now I know what to look for...at least....if you look in the mirror alot and say wtf ..is happening...ur probably...with a narc

[@PerrySkyePhoenix]

@@HANZELVANDERLAAY I've been gaslighted since birth.

[@jimmiem9752]

😅

[@karenmurphy6003]

It sucks when they have lost control of your mind and behaviour towards them

[@fubao588]

To them, to have something is better than nothing since they live on that

[@angelrescue100]

Life goes on, but the narcissist is never truly happy. They live a life out of extreme fear so always have to control, lie, and manipulate. They cannot ever have real love and affection because they don't stop violating everyone around them. which is what they really deeply are wanting. They created this super ego early in life for protection and validation. The only way to be healed and normalize is create an ego in their life that destroys their super ego. It can be done with time and hard work - or they can die early and lonely from all the stress they put on themselves.

[@agent_exodus]

Brilliant analysis

[@nowiknow7550]

Heated fury....lol Very insightful. Thank you

[@jackieo4980]

My ex can’t even get anybody else for more than a week.

[@jeanettecook1088]

The only thing I have to say to the narc who realizes life ain't so easy without me, is : Hahaha Hahaha Hahaha!!!!!🤣🤣 👏👏👏🤣 BYE!!!

[@kateofbuckingham]

Only the moment for which I have been waiting!

[@kateofbuckingham]

And it cost him everything. Not just me. But actually one of the most valuable things in the world.